So, a friend of a very good friend of mine emailed me out of the blue to tell me she and her family were moving to NYC. They’re planning on applying next cycle after they’ve settled. Would I or my brother, he asked, be able to provide a reference. In principle,

Quick background: my brother and I went to two of the most competitive private schools in NYC for kindergarten before our parents changed our primary address to CT when i was 11ish. For a few reasons i’m still involved with my old school - fundraising, hosting some things here and there, taking occasional students to shadow me/intern at my company, and my brother is even more involved with his - head of an alumni board thing, etc., counsels on longterm goals, blah blah blah.i have zero trouble with this. Despite all this, it assumes i have more power than i do - different for my brother, of course. But it certainly can help when it gets down to the final spaces.

Ive even done it before, as has my brother. But always with kids I’ve known for years, either family friends whose kids ive known literally their entire lives, kids of tutored for extended periods who display sharp minds and seem ready and dedicated enough to do well,, or in other special circumstances when a child displays an extraordinary talent. In one case, I wrote a note for a girl who could flawlessly play stravinsky pieces of her violin and was quickly rising in girls chess rankings. Otherwise, I tend to refuse since it’s usually people i hardly know or don’t know.

The only reason this isn’t an immediate no is that I really do love my friend, who really loves this other person. I’ve met the family a couple of times in cali, but nothing memorable. I won’t have the opportunity to spend any significant amount of time with their kids before the next admissions cycle, and even though i’m sure they’re great kids, I‘m not sure i’m ok with laying my reputation on the line for strangers. I know the most appropriate thing would be to politiely refuse, but there’s that other pesky guilt-ridden part of me screaming i should do whatever i can to help. So, i’m a bit stuck.

what would you do, reddit?

Hey guys, as yall know its mad cold here. Like i know its getting better slowly, but its still very very cold. My owner never turns on the heat. I complained several times to him and to 311, and I swear to God, he knows whenever 311 is coming to check the complaint. Just recently, the heat was not turned on ever. However, an hour before 311 showed up (which we didn't know about, which made the heat on even more shocking), the owner turned on the heat. And he turned it on very powerfully (the inside temperature was well over 60). As soon as 311 left, the heat was shut off. This is the second time that this happened, where 311 showed up and the heat was miraculously turned on.

I don't know what to do anymore. There are no AC's installed, all windows are sealed shut, the furnaces are in tact. This cheap ass man just don't wanna turn on the heat.

Does anyone know how to go about this? I know its almost useless to even ask coz in YC, the land owners either turn on the heat at unbearable levels, or never turn them on. And i feel like at thispoint, 311 is about to give me a ticket for the amount of times I made a complaint.

My mom’s birthday is next week and she turns 60! I want to take her to a nice restaurant. I’m a grad student so I don’t have a huge budget but I’m looking for a nice reasonable restaurant in Manhattan for the 2 of us for dinner. It’ll be on the later side since I finish classes at 7:30 pm… any suggestions?

Hi! I'm 18m and was looking for a way to meet people, for some context I'm not in school and don't really have any friends irl, I just never really had the opportunity to meet new people. I like photography, but I don't mind just meeting random I guess haha. I just don't really know how to meet new people. Thanks for reading!

I just received my first speeding ticket going 72 on the belt pkwy, a 50 zone. I am a 20 year old driver. What are the repercussions and is there anything I can do to fight it? I know, there’s no excuse for speeding and I will learn to take my time.

Hey Folks,

I'm looking for a bar for about 30 friends for drinks on an upcoming Sunday in mid February. Looking for a venue that can handle that and where people can meet eacbother so the music cant be so so loud. Looking West Village and below but still in Manhattan. I plan on emailing the venue in advance. I dont want to sign some expensive rental package either.
Does anyone have a recommendation?

Thank you!

Does anyone know of any place that is selling Luigi Mangione related merch?

I had to use the men's room at the Ramble bathrooms in Central Park. There was no door to the toilet stalls. It didn't even look like the door had been ripped off recently. There were no holes for bolts or anything like that.

Does anybody know why that this decision was made or what the line of thinking was? Is it really just based on being the men's room in the ramble? What's the history behind this?

Hello NYC,

I'm thinking of getting a virtual mailbox. I've looked at a few companies but when I look up the addresses, some look sketchy. What company do you use. I'm not looking for anything fancy, just a basic mailbox to receive mail, whether it's them forwarding it to me or me going to picking it up.

Hello, I have some questions about this place. If anyone frequents it or works here, if you’re willing to DM me so I can ask a couple questions, that would be great. I worry I know someone who was scammed there and just want some answers. Thank you!

Ngl I'm always thinking they should be getting takeout instead taking up space for other customers

Is it worth moving to NYC from CA in the new administration? I'm worried things are going to get worse in NYC and very crazy with all the deportations and now the cops have quotas too.

Question

It’s that time again. My renewal is coming up in April. Do I take the 2yr @ 5.25%?

Part of me thinks since we’re coming up to an election year there might be some behind the door pressure to give a better rate. Therefore could pay off taking a one year for 2025-26 and hoping for a lower 2 year for 2026-2028.

Any thoughts?

We’re one of the best cities in the world. Maybe the best.

Are there any bars with live music but it's kind of like an open mic so anyone can go up? I don't want to sing but I'm wondering if it exists because I'd definitely go. I love listening to people sing lol.

Just a question, I just visited nyc and saw how dirty and sometimes uncomfortable the nyc metro was. So I was just wondering, in order to generate more funds why don’t they have like a really nice cart at the end that you can access with a special card or something that costs a lot more monthly. You can over charge those people to use that metro(people would buy it for sure) and use that left over money to better the metro in general?

Maybe this is a dumb question but… I M32 want a new hairstyle. Does anyone know of a good barber I can go to for a proper consultation of my options, or will any regular barber suffice?

I’m in NYC mid-next week and would love to check out some music. What places would you recommend, like the Bowery Ballroom or really any club or venue, for me to check for groups/acts I might like?

And if so, how's it gone when your lover asked for a caress, and you patted them?

My work schedule has finally opened up and I work nearby Bell boulevard... I consider getting a second job at a restaurant as a server to make tips like 2x a week, anybody have any recommendations? Thanks in advance :)

Alright, I know this is going to be a dumb question, but I live in NJ & I just wanted to know if we’re also going to be affected by this as well.

Just an honest question. I am born in NYC. My father is an immigrant from Ecuador who got his papers in the 90s. My mother is born in NYC and is Puerto Rican.

A little backstory, I manage a law firm in Sheepshead Bay, Brooklyn, but I live in Bushwick so I see two sides of things.

My office is 95% republican employed with Armenians and Ukrainians who all support Trump. I am one of five Latinos who work in the office, two of which are big Trump supporters.

I’ve seen a lot of Central and South Americans being deported. I’ve seen ICE in neighborhoods where Latinos are prevalent, such as mine.

But I haven’t seen one officer where my office is where many Uzbeks and Russians live. Has anyone had a different experience than mine?

I want to stay neutral in all of this but I can’t help but think being illegal is only a problem if you’re brown.

I would love to read your thoughts 💭

Hey all, looking for some advice.

A while back, the gas in our building went out, and as part of the repairs, they had to move our stove and other kitchen appliances. In the process, the floors were significantly damaged—not just minor scratches, but pretty noticeable damage. Not the end of the world, but definitely something that should be fixed.

That was six months ago, and I’ve been trying to get my landlord to repair it ever since. She’s:

• Come over to look at it

• Had someone assess the damage and give a repair estimate

• Kept saying she’ll take care of it “next week” … for months

She has a pattern of delaying repairs, and honestly, we also got screwed over during the gas outage (long story), so this is part of a bigger issue.

At this point, I’m wondering: What are my options to get this fixed? Is there any compensation I could reasonably ask for?

Would love any advice—especially from folks who’ve dealt with similar landlord delays. Thanks!

I'm going to Europe in a few weeks and I'm worried people are going to be very publicly angry with me because Trump won the election. I'm hoping telling people I'm from New York City will alleviate things, but I really don't know.

I'm from New York City and hate Trump and hopefully telling people I'm from here will be enough for them to get the picture.

Does anyone know where I can purchase a some bags of Saudi Coffee near Tribeca?

Hi all, I’m looking for any leads on any downtown cool or non-traditional event spaces to host an intimate soirée for a milestone birthday think around 60 people. Everywhere I was looking at came back to me with 9k to 12k, which felt a bit exorbitant for 2-3 hours on a Monday night in March. I have an external vendor for drinks and catering figured out already, just looking for space. Appreciate any leads. TYIA!!

We’re looking to buy a home that meets this criteria (we have a bit of wiggle room with price), but haven’t had luck (we’ve mostly focused on Brooklyn).

Are there places outside of NYC where this dream could come true? Parts of Jersey?Queens? Roosevelt island? Westchester?

Open to townhouses or condos.

I feel like there are pockets we don’t know about but could be a nice fit - we’re looking to grow our family, and would love to be somewhere that feels like a neighborhood.

• by city I mean manhattan, lol. We have a habit of calling it that living in BK