Life is full of pain and suffering. 

External circumstances and internal conflicts induce it.

Psychologically and Physically.

We see a lot in our lifetime: desperate times, dire situations and difficult conditions.

And yet we wake up and start a new day with new zest.

Facing the challenges that are served on our plates and fighting the battles in someone else's name.

We strive, we survive.

We never question the nature of the things we do. We only find answers that are seemingly unrelated to our lives.

We run from our life, and life runs behind us.

We look at everything shiny and life looks at us in dismay.

Unattended.

We have a fear of asking important questions about life because it questions the very existence and wakefulness of our being.

We don't want to get caught sleeping at work. We don't want to confront that we are sleepwalking through life.

Life passes by and we only know it has gone when met with death.

But this is not the way of a human. An alarm is needed to wake them up. A blast.

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Humans are curious beings. They are seekers.

Few creative minds and people who like to spend time in nature, listen to the call within and follow their hearts.

Others need a wake-up call.

It can be something traumatic incidence that puts a big question mark on the purpose of life itself.

But humans seek. That is the point of our evolution. 

We have come so far to seek more than just food water and shelter.

The energy that is spent in the accumulation of things, can also be used to seek something internally.

To gather the unwanted is a primal instinct lost its way.

The instinct to gather can be chanalised to seek the truth.

Deep down we want something. We think we want things.

But the things rarely satisfy our needs of a sense of belonging.

It's an insatiable urge to have everything big, bigger and the biggest.

But the reality is that it is a never-ending loop.

A cycle that never ends. Because every external thing comes with an expiry date.

What we looking for is ourselves. 

The seek of things is for the sake of mind, the seek of life is to seek for yourself.

Read more - https://jett.me/insight/never-give-up-the-search-for-yourself/

Whats the solution? What can i do about it? Im tired of repeating the same actions and nothing working, tired of posting on reddit or searching for knowledge on the internet about all these issues. I want to do something.

Its like I dictate my entire life to finding a "gf" or relationship, im 23 and 3 years in college with no gf or any girl ever interested in me and this makes me think that im boring or uninteresting or unimportant or invisible.

Im jealous of other guys who get looked at by others or get paid attention to

What do they have that i dont?

I know im desperate, perhaps trying to filla void or use people as a vehicle for self esteem and self worth.

So im not blaming the girls, why would they want a guy who just wants a relationship and doesnt care about who they are? The problem is because im so focused on their approval, validation, attention recognition of me that i never tried to get to know them even though i have no idea how. I dont know what "effort" is good enough for them to care, i never try to get to know them and they dont get to know me,

always trying to "keep them happy" "be funny" "be a clown for their entertainment" lowering my value to raise theirs. I think all of this is not genuine its just me trying to "get a goal"

Im just tired of all this, tired of knowing my problems and not knowing what to do about them. Or make changes or take actions.

Its like im always in flight or fight mode, where i let others reactions dictate my worth, always putting up a performance for others so they like me or think im good enough.

I dont know how to make friends or when i try its always one sided, always me chasing, always me "starting conversations" even though im not good at them but im trying to get better

I want to have friends where im not always chasing, not always starting conversations or trying to keep them "from leaving" and i think im so desperate because afraid of rejection or abandonment and loneliness

Im trying to be a better version of myself, i have quit porn for good, trying to get control of addictions like fapping, tv shows, food, internet, social media, approval addictions

Going to the gym and im trying to get better at soccer, i just want to be better, improve myself, im tired of being at the rock bottom

I’ve always struggled with two things: reading and exercise. I want to do both, but I’m lazy, I procrastinate, and if I try to read, I usually end up dozing off or zoning out. On top of that, I’d feel guilty for not fitting these things into my day, but actually making time was a different story.

Finally, I convinced myself to try an audiobook subscription, and it’s been a game-changer. Now I listen to books while walking or working out, which has made exercise a lot more enjoyable and less of a chore. Plus, I actually retain what I’m “reading” and stay awake, which is huge for me!

If you’re someone who’s short on motivation for either reading or working out, this combo has really helped me feel more productive and less stressed. Highly recommend giving it a shot!

The title says it all. For me, quitting social media and walking helped me a lot. How about you?

Hi everyone,

I am a very curious person who loves to dabble in various things. Often, I juggle various hobbies, courses on things I am curious about or want to learn. Learning new things fills my bucket as does expressing creativity either through learning art or problem solving.

I'm employed and have been at the same place for 20+ years... but as far as I can remember, I've always lacked fulfilment. I'm 40 now....

I've dabbled throughout the years, but never achieved enough from a side business perspective to leave, or I've tried various endeavours but because of my curious nature, would shift to the next thing, appeasing the early dopamine hit that comes from something new. Rinse and repeat.

Lately, I've thought about my problem, if its considered one, and thought how can I get better at this? Better as in, understanding why I jump from thing to thing, and the urge to learn something new.

It can't be just me in this scenario?

What if I can learn as much as possible about what I experience today, find a solution sort of speak and if all goes well, spread what I learned to others in a similar situations? Maybe this is some sort of calling that I should go all in on? I don't know... but if I can help myself then maybe I can reciprocate that outwards...

What advice, or resources can you suggest to help someone with a busy mind?
Books, podcasts, videos... anything really.

If you have been in a similar situation what did you find helped?

SA

Quote of the day I enjoyed:

If you stop looking up—toward transcendence—you start looking around—toward envy.

I just feel like a complete mess and my mind doesn't feel like is in the right place. For so many months I've been avoiding facing the reality of life and I just seem to do repetitive things over and over again despite knowing is not going to get me anywhere. I've become so lazy unmotivated and seem that I even lost willpower to change. I seem to accept defeat and failure. I know I'm just unhappy right now and want to change my life for the better but is so many things I need to fix yet I'm already overwhelmed and seem to not take actions because feelings and emotions are in the way

Hi! People aren’t really reading much these days because of technology making it really hard for us to focus for even short periods of time. Add depression to the mix and you got the perfect combo for never reading again in your entire life. And also having to study can leave you pretty meh about wanting to read even more in your free time. That’s me pretty much.

I know people recommend to even do it for 10-15 minutes a day (don’t think I could do 30mins/day, that sounds just daunting, it’s hard for me to even physically pick up a book). What do you think? Does that little effort really matter? With only 10mins/day it’d take quite a while to finish a book, but still compared to not reading at all it’s a bit better I guess? But maybe you’d just abandon the book in the process since it just takes way too long? Could you even read one average book per month with only 10mins/day?

I’m also personally not a fan of stopping halfway through a chapter so that could be an issue as well. Maybe an easy book with shorter chapters could help, but how would I find one like that that interests me? I could definitely try to read some a-bit-rather-childish books because they’re easier, sometimes funnier and more light-hearted than books targeted at an older audience, I actually think I’d enjoy doing that, but fear of being criticized by my family.

How did you overcome this reading issue yourself? Any tips and advice? Thank you!

Anybody else struggle with extreme motivation highs and lows? Like right now at almost 10pm at night I have alot of motivation. But all of yesterday I hated everything/had bo motivation to do anything that I wanted/needed to do.

Or does anyone have any tips for keeping a more middle ground constant motivation or line of it?

The moment you feel to recoil is when you hide your vulnerabilities from your loved one and the world.

As a writer, if you hesitate to put a pen down on paper, it is the moment you are afraid to share your innermost thoughts.

When a painter deepens his brush in the paint and lets it soak for hours, he judges himself.

The world doesn’t care. You do.

And when you stop thinking about, what the world will think, you start creating with utmost honesty.

It’s not the world that is judging you, it is you who is doing so.

The judgment that arises is a testament to how your image stands in front of the audience.

The imaginary image is the hindrance, restraining you from facing the audience.

You trap yourself in the trap of how many views you get on the internet, rather than staying true to your view.

Your worldview is what your audience is interested in.

They have their own and are looking for a different perspective.

Not to cement their beliefs about something, but to blossom them.

We want more people who are creative.

Read more - https://jett.me/insight/view-is-more-important-than-views/

We wake up and drag ourselves into the formality of occurrence called life.

Everybody is running after the conventional, established and already that is proven.

And nobody is interested in something that has the potential to be great.

It requires courage to recognise the greatness of a crystal not yet carved into a diamond.

It requires an investment of time to walk with the person with potential, through his journey towards his aim.

It needs self-reflection to recognise our very own greatness.

It needs an eye for the beauty which is unborn.

To recognise this greatness is also to recognise your greatness and share it with the world.

As we only see in the world what we are. The world is a mere reflection of ourselves.

But we live in a false notion that greatness is picture-perfect.

An image that is constantly bombarded on us about what it means to be great.

To have certain belongings, to have a standing in society and to have something that everybody wants and rarely needs.

Very few take time.

To pause for a while and inspect what is it that we are doing on this planet.

What do we have that can be shared with the world?

What is it that can be shared as much as the world needs and yet we are never out of it?

Read More - https://jett.me/insight/sharing-greatness-everyday/

I have and exam coming up in march next year. I have classes also going on so i have decided that the days i have class illystudy for 5 hours and the days without class I'll study for 14 hours. But I can't seem to get up in the morning. I'm getting really demotivated and needs to change and stick to my plan any tips?

I dont know if this is the right sub for this, but I need to shout to the void, and could use some motivational words.

I (23M) just signed my contract for the Army and ship to training at the beginning of January, to start a 5 year contract. I don't know exactly everything that's stressing me, as I'm not worried about my ability to complete training or deployment. Maybe I'm worried about being away from home for so long, maybe I'm worried about my family, I dont know. Whatever the case, the thing that definitely stresses me most is not being able to find love in the long run (I'm gay if it matters). But I know I must reside myself to the fact that I can't know or control the future or the unknown. I tell myself so long as I'm a good person that treats the world around me with love, and love myself, I'll find someone who loves me. I've been in a serious relationship once before and, while I wont get into details, it's next to impossibe for me to trust anyone new now. I got seriously betrayed and hurt. Even so, I will keep pushing forward. I have a quote I tell myself: "there's no such thing as fear, only cowardice". So long as I don't believe in fear, it won't control me, and I refuse to be a coward.

Again, I don't know if this is the right sub, but I had to get this all out, and could really use some kind words. Thank you for listening to me.

I don't even know if it's really considered for lazy or just lack of motivation and self belief. But I just feel that my brain is trying to find ways to make me feel bad and later take some action on it. So for example, you binge watching TV and you get this thought of worry like I gotta get in shape. Instead of watching TV, I'm supposed to go gym. But then you actually choose to just watch tutorial on fitness and that is the way our brain tricks us on feeling good. Like you don't put actual effort in actions because the mind wants to find a short easy path.

And this is something I'm struggling to overcome, like why am I simply not doing the things I know I should be doing. Yes I'm confused idk the proper steps to getting it done therefore I'm allowing myself to waste time yet deep down I just feel immense guilty shame and feeling of trap