Personally, I would say that children who are 12 or younger are "little children." What do you think?

What genuinely makes someone a horrible person? Like not just actions, but more like wurstionsble ways of thinking. I’m honestly curious about what y’all have to say on this admittedly complicated matter, but just be as subjective or as objective as you can be.

I lost my car due to transmission failure back in August and then got fired from my job the day before Thanksgiving. I'm a little over 2 months unemployed now, and it's gotten to a point where I'm starting to feel too comfortable.

Im completely broke, and I can't leave the house cause I have no car. I dont live in a city so if I need to get anywhere I need a car. I've been applying nonstop to jobs since I got fired in November.

I applied to any possible job that I could get to with my local public transportation. I've had a few interviews, and so far, nothing.

I've sent so many applications on Indeed and Zip Recruiter, and hardly any of them have been viewed.

It's gotten to a point where I've even started to consider enlisting in to the military cause I'm literally so stuck in life right now. If I don't have a car, how could I make it to a decent job?

I've also applied to a lot of remote jobs and nothing.

But even i have a very VERY small chance at getting accepted into the military cause of my mental health history.

And yes, i did apply for unemployment, and I didn't qualify.

I don't know what to do. I'm so tired of sending job applications, and there aren't many jobs around here to apply to.

Im so lost.

My family set virtually no expectations to me but I just can't forgive myself for being mediocre. I realized I'm not a genius. I'm not earning millions, not getting into Ivies, not influential or popular, and not even having specializations. I hate my mind but sometimes I can't help with it. Any advices? I can't take it no more. I hate myself and I hate me hating myself which is paradoxical.

I've been doing that for basically 95%+ of my life, and I'm in my 30s now. It really does defeat the point of living in the first place, frankly. I'll also be the first to admit that life is completely wasted on those such as myself.

Additionally, I'm sure that the vast majority of people on this website would concur with the notion that certain people, like myself, who have no joy/hope/future/contentment in their lives, ought not to continue taking up space/resources on this planet for no reason, assuming of course they could speak plainly about it.

But reddit is reddit, insofar as pathetically sweeping everything under the proverbial carpet, so yeah. Futurama had the right idea about it, that's for sure. I'll assume that most of you will know what booth I'm referring to.

I am a 21 year old male, 6'4, wear glasses and have a good paying job for my age. I drive a nice car, no debt and I am not scared to help others. I don't feel like I am struggling in any part of my social life and have a lot of friends but I feel alone. I have no one to text good morning or good night. No one to ask how my day was and no one to vent to. I can't understand how I have been basically single my whole life. I try and make the effort to get to know and understand the other person but all I am seen as is a good friend. I am mostly being used like a bandage, I heal and help prevent further pain but when all is said and done I am thrown away. I don't understand what I am doing wrong. I don't know if I will ever be able to find someone that loves me back and someone to call my own. If you have any advice please tell me.

I am in a rough spot right now. To give some of the main things. I am a 26M, living at home currently. I graduated college a few years ago and for the last 5 years I was addicted to hustle culture and trying to get rich and was addicted to porn since like 12 off and on. I built a business under someone else and it made like $250K in 2.5 years but I only got 15-20% of revenue and while doing that I was trying to built other businesses and got myself in a shit ton of debt.

I left that business a couple months ago cuz my mental health was so fucked. I isolated myself super hard the last 5 years and only cared about getting rich. Currently I have $12K in cc debt, $25K student loans and $900ish of expenses each month. I am a good looking guy in great shape and have a great personality when I actually feel like myself. However I’ve never been in a relationship although I’ve had things here and there, and I’ve never really had that many friends. I know a big reason for this is because of the porn addiction because it affected me in alot of ways and also addiction to hustle culture and isolation and ocd. I have pretty bad ocd and trauma stuff I’d like to see a therapist for but I don’t have insurance right now and currently unemployed. My mental health is rough right now and I’d like to see a doctor for some things but once again I don’t have insurance or an income at the moment. I am working on getting a job but just wondering if anyone has advice or can relate. I am not one to give up, I am committed to getting through this and I know I will but it still is rough right now.

For many people, if you ask them "who are you", they'd probably respond with "I am (insert profession)". I would probably do the same.

That shouldn't be the case ideally. Our career is simply what we do, its a role we are playing. We do a lot more than our career, and our thoughts, ideas go a lot beyond our work. Our career is just an aspect of our life, yet it feels like its an identity. Part of it is probably because we spend a lot of our time at work, more than anything else . Part of it is because of our ego, which wants some identity for itself separate from others.

If we were to detach our identity from our career, we wouldn't be too affected by how we do in our career. For many people, career becomes a major source of stress, and even though their life is fairly good otherwise, due to career stress, they are not actually able to enjoy it

Mainspring

my jeep, i meaaaan, any terrain, any weather….. for an outdoor adventure junkie like me that prefers pristine environments, this is ⭐️

I (M25) saw a job offering for a delivery driver and I’m not sure but if I get accepted I will do my hard and so I can finally pay for things by myself.. im scared and anxious that It won’t be alot of help.. I just wanna do something and not be lazy.. but I don’t know if my parents will accept that I did that

Do you know anyone who leads a double life?

Right now in the present moment when you allow your breath to be appreciated, the way you want to feel is available to you now. We get caught up in the thinking mind wondering what's going to happen tomorrow or dwelling on the past or having our mind fixated on longing. Right now is where all the actions at. Feel the force!

Where is best to move to, to find a good job and somewhere to live that doesn’t cost £1000 or more a month, or £800 for a small room. I don’t want to live like this anymore, I’m aware I need to make change. Just trying to see if anyone can spread any hope? Thanks

I've been exploring my "whys". There are so many.

Would anyone like to share what gives their life meaning?

I'll start: appreciation and playing of music, taking care of my kitty, calling my friends and family to check in, talking to my "homeless homies" when I see them out on the street.

Happier
My argument in favor would be that gaining deeper self-awareness reduces disappointment and leads to more well-informed decisions. By understanding your strengths, knowledge, limitations, creativity, and available resources, you make choices that align more realistically with your capabilities. This prevents self-sabotage and minimizes the likelihood of setting unattainable goals. As a result, decision-making becomes more rational, avoiding unnecessary waste of time, money, and effort. You also gain greater decisiveness and engagement in life, prioritizing activities that hold personal significance. Furthermore, heightened self-awareness fosters a clearer understanding of your role within your environment, allowing you to navigate relationships, challenges, and opportunities more effectively.

Unhappier
My main argument against greater self-awareness leading to happiness is that it can result in a hyper-focused mindset, where every decision is an equation of input versus output. This pursuit of optimization can limit spontaneity and personal fulfillment, as choices are made based on efficiency rather than emotional or experiential value. Overanalyzing what is "right" or most beneficial might dismiss alternative paths leading to unexpected growth or joy. Additionally, excessive self-knowledge may strip life of its sense of wonder, leaving little room for curiosity, exploration, or the beauty of the unknown. Life would become more predictable, reducing it to a series of calculated moves rather than a dynamic, unfolding journey.

This time last year, I was getting over the loss of my children. My narcissistic father has taken them into custody and will not allow me to see them or talk to them. They are my life. Not only that, but I was also double raped Christmas Eve. I didn’t know what to do. I ended up moving with my best friend, but I couldn’t help because soon after that I had gotten really sick with Covid. I felt like my life was completely over. I didn’t tell anybody, but I was a high risk suicidal person. I had intense plans and intention of following through. The only thing that kept me alive the absolute only thing was the thought of my children.

Now a year later, I am so much more healthy. Well I suppose it depends on how you say it but mentally I am much more here and present. I love my life except for I want my children back. My nephew fiancé and I are working very diligently on working on our lives both physically and mentally to get the children back. I don’t know why I decided to share.

I’m 29F about to be 30 this year. I’ve been wanting the “happy life” dream since I was a kid. The home, the husband, children, family. However, I’ve had a significant amount of trauma in my past and childhood which have undoubtedly affected my relationships as an adult. My first real relationship I was in for 10 years. It ended badly. Second relationship I was in for 1 year. Now my latest relationship we’ve been in for almost 3 years. I always knew I had trauma I had to heal through and always made it a priority to grow and look deep down and improve my way of thinking and the way I handled things. I can honestly say I’ve come a long way because I’ve always placed importance on my mental health and never wanted to give up. My current partner 30M has mentioned he wanted kids and marriage from the start, and I always checked in here and there during our relationship to see if we were still on the same path. He always assured me he was. However, he suffers from a mental illness. He has not been clinically assessed, but he states it runs in his family. He advised I’ve helped him through so much, although I constantly advise him to seek therapy he never does. Fast forward to our current year together. He’s been telling me he’s planning on proposing the upcoming year, he took me ring browsing and memorized my size. He’s also saying he wants to try having a baby the upcoming year as well. All of this makes me incredibly happy knowing he’s (somehow) taking steps and wanting these things with me. This past month, I find out I’m pregnant. I was so happy as I wasn’t sure if this was a possibility for me. I’ve never had a pregnancy scare before. I thought my boyfriend would be happy or supportive but it ended up revealing different emotions. He says he’s not ready to be a dad and he’s been panicking every day saying he needs help and he can’t do this. He didn’t want to keep the baby. My family and friends are incredibly happy for me since they knew this is something I’ve always wanted, to become a mother. They are offering their support in any way they can. However, I’m torn. I want to go through this with a supportive partner and to go through parenthood together. The thought of having this baby alone makes me feel very sad. My partner and I are on the verge of breakup and likely are separating. I don’t want to be selfish so I’ve asked him to focus on himself and his mental health. But this tears my heart up. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to wait too long to have kids, as I want my kids to have as much time with me and their grandparents as they can. But I also want my kids to have a full, and happy family.

I’m working through a breakup I started working out and back to enjoying things I used to do. I’m currently struggling to get a job at having time to learn to drive. I’m hoping I’ll have a job next week (wish me luck). I’m going out driving as much as I can but also in the process of moving so it’s hard to find time at the moment. I’ve lost 10lbs since the start of this year, I’m really proud of this progress with myself I feel like I’m starting to be happy with who I am. Im currently trying to find some new hobbies to get into and learn more. Still working on my confidence and my social anxiety so I can make new friends.

I'm a 22 year old software developer, and my days are completely consumed by work as I navigate this fresh start in my career. Weekends are my only time to relax, but despite that, there's something I’ve been struggling with this deep longing to have someone to share my emotions and life with.

I’ve tried to find that connection, but I feel like I’ve utterly failed in love. My last relationship lasted seven months, but I was cheated on and left without closure. That was about six months ago, and while I’ve made progress in moving on, I’m still not completely over it. More than anything, I feel sorry for how I have always undervalued myself throwing myself at people just to fill the void of loneliness. I often placed myself so low that I would do anything just to have someone by my side.

Now, I’m in a constant battle with myself. Part of me still craves companionship, yet another part holds back, fearing the pain of another heartbreak. This internal conflict leaves me feeling drained, irritated, and even angry at times. More than anything, I don’t want to fail in love again. I don’t want to fail in marriage or in building a family.

Despite everything, I hold onto the hope of having a loving wife and a beautiful family in the future. And when that time comes, I want to carry forward everything I’ve learned so I can be a better partner, a better man, and create the life I truly deserve.

I don't know why, but putting this into a percentage in my brain today has really shifted things into perspective of how depressing our societal structure is for most people.

70%???? 70% of our days in the primes of our lives are spent being worker bees for the crumbs.

I’ve come to realize lately how genuinely insanely fast I can read compared to others. Would love to know how I can put what is arguably my biggest skill and advantage to use. In the age of AI I bet a lot of jobs that require that are eliminated but my little stubborn self hopes there are still jobs that leverage that.

-Nobody is going to save you -Life is unfair -Reality>>>>>Hope -The chances of a miracle happening and saving you are extremely low -It will not always get better -You're responsible for your own actions -You only have one life -Life is unpredictable

I can’t stand when my phone autocorrects to the wrong word, and I don’t notice until after I send a message. Small but so frustrating! Anyone else deal with that?

I've got sick in the first week of the month and the sickness prolonged through the month. I only had higher temperature sometimes before bed, felt tired and weak most of the time. I could not cancel work so I worked on paracetamols. What is killing me most is my workout progress. I am advanced pilates practitioner and am planning to do hyrox race this year. I've got 5 workouts in in whole month instead of 6 weekly. Now I am scared I will get sick again if I overdo it again, because I regularly get sick after weight training.

Your job is to eat that cherry.

I used to think the cherry was "pleasure". Now I think it's "meaning".

Whatever it is, it's YOUR cherry.

Eat up, buttercup.

Currently I am 35+ and when I started primary school this was the age of my parents.

Back then I always saw them fully mature adults who knows the best all the time and make great decisions. But since that I reached that age now I ask this:

"I dont think I know a shit and sometimes I really make stupid choices. Were they just like me while I was seeing them as the most mature people ever?"

People say they want the truth, but what they really want is confirmation of what they already believe. The moment your honesty challenges their comfort, you’re no longer seen as truthful—you’re seen as a problem. That’s why the world often rewards agreeable lies over inconvenient truths.

For those who don't know, I am referencing the video game, Terraria. In it, there's this boss (I forgot the name) that when beaten will trigger hardcore mode, which in actuality, is a bunch of extra content unlocked for the game as soon as this boss is defeated. Again, I forgot its name. It's been a long time.

Which real life milestone, once reached, will trigger life 2.0?