I'm in my senior year of high school, and I have never been on a date or been asked out before. I've tried asking guys out myself a couple of times before, but all of them said no.

High school has been a hard time for me, especially in the social aspect. Over the pandemic (which happened around 8th grade for me), my social skills degraded due to being homeschooled for a year and I ended up losing all of my friends (I don't blame them though, I had issues). Ever since then, I never recovered. All throughout high school, I was a weird loner. I developed pretty bad social anxiety (but I was a shy girl to begin with too), and just completely forgot how to act in social situations. I'm also diagnosed with autism, so that could also play a role. On top of that, I go to a small school, so everyone knows me as one of the weird kids.

Due to this, I do not have any of the experience and social skills that people my age have, which will definitely make it difficult to successfully date, let alone make friends in the first place.

I really want to be able to successfully date in college, since one of my greatest desires in life is to find love.

I’m (f20) in my first relationship ever. My boyfriend (m21) and I have been dating for 8m and the 4 m mark it was revealed to me that he had genital herpes and chose to stay and got it 2 weeks after he told me. Since I got it, he will barely have sex with me, but blames it on his stress levels (which may be true). He’s has been so depressed these past months from playing his sport and I’m putting in all the effort. I give him everything I can, and I don’t feel it reciprocated. He keeps telling me it’s just a hard time for him because of his college sport and he will be better. My family isn’t great and his family has gone above and beyond for me. He has showed me these last 4 months that he has extreme mental health issues, but he won’t try anything I suggest to help him with his mental health. All he does is smoke weed all day everyday. I drive 3 hrs every single weekend to be with him and he’s usually just depressed the whole time. His family has even told me they don’t know how I do it, but he was a completely different person when we started dating. I don’t want to leave him if this is just a hard time in his life and he really is just struggling, but it’s starting to affect me. I don’t want to lose his family. Even if I wanted to leave, how could I? I’m 20 years old and this first boy I’ve dated/slept with gave me genital herpes. My confidence is completely ruined from this. No one will see me for me anymore, anyone I’m with will only see me for my condition. I cannot overstate how much I’ve done for him and how under appreciated I feel. He has good days sometimes where I see the person that I started dating, but idk how to feel. I’m so confused and I really do love him and don’t want to leave, but idk how to help or what to do. I’ve tried conversations with him and it helps for a bit, but never sticks. Help please.

I work at a university in the marketing department. I’m primarily behind the scenes and don’t teach students. I sometimes interact with students on any marketing projects, but that’s it.

I’m a 29 year old female and there’s this male student who is around 19 and 20 years old. I know he has a huge crush on me because he always stares at me if I’m ever in the hallway and tries to make eye contact with me. I act like I don’t notice because I wonder if it’s wrong.

I’m not gonna lie, he’s attractive, but would it be wrong to have sexual relations with him? Plus I’m like 10 years older. Is that weird?

I (30F) have been dating this guy (26M) since October. We met on a dating app. This is my first time meeting someone on a dating app. We actually found out we have mutual friends/know the same people. I have been in a couple of LTRs, my last lasting 4 years and I have been single the past 3 years. I just wanted to date myself and not be bother by anyone (literally no hook up, no talking to anyone). He on the other hand has never had a girlfriend. He has had hookups but nothing serious. The last girl he talked to
lasted 2 months. Anyways, he lives 3 hours away. The year I moved to his hometown, he moved out of his hometown. My hometown is in the middle between where I live now/his hometown to where he lives currently. I plan to move back to my hometown in the new year, so we will then be 1.5-2 hours away from each other. He came to visit twice. The second time he stayed at my place for 11 days while visiting family and friends when I was at work. Now that he is back home, I feel the connection has shifted a bit. He’s a hard worker. Enjoys his job and enjoys the work. So getting back into his routine after being off, I get if he may not be trying to talk to me as often. I’m not looking for texting all day but want more genuine communication. So I’m back home visiting for thanksgiving and he had to work so his only day off was Thursday. He got home from work on Friday and texted me around 2p, I texted him back and updated him throughout my day about what I was doing and he didn’t respond until 4am the next day when he was at work. He said he was bedrotting and researching up PCs (he recently told me he wanted to get a gaming PC). I then told him “You know you could at least text me back or something” and all he said was “My bad” and that made me mad so I just said “Seriously?” And he never texted back. So I texted him 6 hours later “So do I not deserve a better apology?” Still nothing. I call him 2 hours later and he didn’t pick up. Am I getting ghosted? What do I do or what could this mean?

I (32F) broke up with my boyfriend (31M) yesterday and I worry I did so impulsively and prematurely.

For some background: we matched on a dating app 3 years ago but nothing ever came to be due to us living in different states. He reached out to me nearly 4 months ago and we began dating. He lives in DC and I live in Florida, but I plan on moving this summer.

The long distance isn’t ideal but that wasn’t the dealbreaker — his mom was.

I have known for a while that his mom (68) has a lifelong history of mental and physical illness. She has been living with him for years and he is her sole caretaker. It’s a very difficult situation.

I finally went up last weekend and met her (she lives with him) and felt extremely uncomfortable. I quickly realized how dependent she was on him and the true weight of the situation. I was unsettled by the way they interacted with each other. The final night I was there, he asked me to get out of bed to go say goodnight to his mom.

Fast forward to two days ago, I did research on mother-son enmeshment. I watched videos, read articles, searched for books online about it. I also posted on Reddit asking what to do. I totally freaked out. My brain just short circuited and I felt with absolute certainty that I needed to end it. The morning before I left DC he was crying and said things like, “it’s not fair to bring you into such a bad situation” and “I don’t think I can fully be there for the both of you.”

What was I to do?

So over the phone yesterday I ended it.

Several hours went by and I began thinking that it was an impulsive decision and that I wasn’t ready to give him up.

If you’ve read my post this far already, you might be thinking, what on earth am I talking about? Clearly the situation is terrible and you made the right choice ending it — he’s clearly not available for a romantic relationship right now. But hear me out — he checks every box. Every single one. Outside of the situation with his mom, he is everything, truly, everything I ever wanted in a partner. All of it.

I don’t think I will meet another man who could love me with the depth, passion, and understanding that he does. And I don’t think I could love another man the way I could love him.

I’m afraid I ended it prematurely.

At my request he agreed to start seeing a therapist. He has an appointment scheduled. He does want the situation with his mom to change. I feel like…we should have just had a conversation about the future. Talk about our goals and what we want. Maybe we could have made our relationship work while he worked on changing the situation with his mom.

I feel like I really jumped the gun. I didn’t give him or us a chance. I feel terrible. To breakup with him the day after I returned home too…I feel so heartless. But I was so spooked…I felt such an urgency to end it.

I texted him several hours after the breakup call saying I love him and wondering if we’re making the wrong choice but he never responded.

I don’t know what to do but I’m overwhelmed with remorse, guilt, and regret.

I recently went through a breakup, this is my second relationship. Both of my boyfriends have said they don’t love me. My first boyfriend told me he didn’t think he was capable of love and my second boyfriend told me he doesn’t love himself and therefore feels like he can’t love another person yet. Both did the whole “it’s not you it’s me” thing. This has just made feel like I won’t be able to find love, and has severely lowered my confidence. Is it possible that I’m the problem or am I just continuously picking the wrong people?

Has anyone hooked up with @princesskaymuah in Tx? Milf momma? Is she legit up to hookup? Her of says no meetup but she said in email 500 to hookup.

So I 32M have been on a few dates with a 23M. A bit young for me but hey we connected and our dates have been fun.

Now, 2 weeks back he let me know he was going to be working a long week (he does nights at a hospital) and then visiting family for 7 days over Thanksgiving. He let ke know he won't be available. That's all good.

So we've been texting over these 2 weeks. Maybe once a day just in brief passing, like a "Hey how was your day?" type of thing. I don't always initiate, I'd say it's 50/50.

We also talked on the phone for like 30 mins a few days ago while he was at the airport. It was a fun convo.

Last week he also messaged me that he definitely wants to see me again and that my texts feel reassuring to him that I'm still interested. Ok awesome that's good to know.

Here's my issue. His texts are reaaaaally low effort. He's definitely not fixing to strike up a real convo, it's more of a check-in.

Sometimes it's accompanied with a selfie. But overall there's not more than that.

So. This brings my to my questions.

• Is he just not a big texter? And his checkins are as good as it will get

• Is he losing interest and very slowly pulling away? (It's worth noting. I don't/won't chase, which is why I don't try and carry the text convos after I get a 1 word response)

• Am I being anxious and overthinking his every move and he's healthily treating our connection so far as very casual?

I've got 0 experience dating someone so much younger than me. And I'm 8 months off from an 8 year relationship so dating in general is new.

We've seeing each other for less than a month and when his mom passed away he popped the question. I panicked because it was so sudden. We got close very fast, but today he got the tragic news. He got mad at me when I didn't say yes right away. I really like him but I am also going through shit rn, (mood disorder, grief and addiction). On the second date I was very clear and said that as of right now, I am not ready for a relationship and that I wanted to take things very slowly. Anyways, he was pushing the question and I just recently sent him a text putting very very clear boundaries while still being empathic, told him that we both need to work on ourselves, and that I did not want to rush into anything, plus I am leaving the country soon and I will be away for like three months but that I was gonna be there as a friend at least because I really like him and want to be of support. He got very mad and started crying even harder. I feel like SHIT and feel soooo guilty but I think it was for the better... I rather establish clearer boundaries now than just say yes because I feel bad...

I think what I did was what had to be done, but I feel like shit, I'm crying and feel so so bad and like an asshole. Was I in the wrong? Or is it just a very unfortunate situation?

A girl I'm talking to just asked for my zodiac sign and birthday 🤣

I’ve been friends with this guy for about two months. We talked everyday in school, and I thought I sensed somewhat of a vibe. A few days ago he described in the future he wants to be with someone who is completely opposite to me (physically). So I thought damn, I must’ve read into this wrong. 2/3 days later, he finally asked me for my social media after most of our friends left the class. We have been snapping since, and he’ll ask me little questions and stuff like that. Overall I’m very confused. Am I reading too much into it?

Hey y'all, I'm (M22) planning to go ice skating soon with a girl (21) I'm interested in (we've been on like one other date alone and have been talking for about a month) and I've looked into ways to break the touch barrier and felt like starting with holding hands wouldn't be bad. I know that there is a cliche that because of how hard it can be to ice skate, dates can hold hands to help make it easier to stay up right. The thing is that I'm pretty sure that we are both decent skaters, so that wouldn't really make sense, but I thought I'd try to lean into it and be a bit funny. I'll skate around for a bit with her and she'll see that I'm a decent skater too, so I was thinking of then saying in a joking voice: "Oh no! I'm struggling to stay up right, I think I'll need to use your hand to make sure I don't fall, is that alright?"

Does this seem like it's not too forced and a bit romantic/funny or do you think there is a better way to do it?

Im 20 and never been in a relationship or even hold a girls hand. Im not looking for sex, just someone to love and love me back but where do i even look for that? Its partially because im ashamed of my beer belly (eventhough i workout consistantly and eat reasonably healthy) and my oddly bent penis but i guess im scared of letting someone get so close to me? I guess its like jumping into the abyss but im waiting for someone to pull me down if that makes sense? At this point im just getting shit off my chest for 2 people to read 5 years later i guess

Edit: ive tried tinder, bumble, hinge etc but rarely get matches and even they only last a few texts, they few girls just dont respond after like the 2nd or 3rd text from me. My time must come sooner or later right?

Basically I work in customer service at a store and my male coworker (who likes me) ALWAYS looks over at me after he sees any attractive girl(s) walks by without fail. It happens multiple times every day but the other day in particular a girl with an insane body who was wearing revealing clothes walked by and he looked for a second and looked over at me right after. Obviously I pretend not see every time. Why does he do this? It’s not like we’re dating I won’t get mad so is he trying to make me jealous?

So as the title says, I'm new to dating having been out of the game for 16 years. Both girls seem really nice I like them both, I've been chatting to both for a few days now. I know it's too soon to worry about such a thing but do I just go with it and see what the crack is with both girls?

Look.

Men are not okay with dating sites but funny enough: 75% of the dating site profiles identify as male.

When you want to identify as bi, no wonder a whole world opens up you. You just increased your dating pool by like 400%

If you have a high swipe to low like ratio less people will be able to view your profile. So if you spend your down time swiping right on EVERYONE. This also screws you over in the long run. And pushes your profile into the basement.

So stop blaming women please

i kept getting these dating videos on my youtube algorithm so i wanted to flex. idk if this will work for yall but if you play a game with them the score can reflect it. one day i was thinking about them and i usually get 8 deaths or kills. but one time it went to 9 an i knew i had to cut all emotional ties. still hit though

hey reddit, i'm 18f lesbian and have been out for almost 4 years now. in those 4 years, i've been desperately trying to find someone. not specifically relationship, but also just hookups. i can't quite grasp why, but majority of people i go for, despite my friends telling me "could do better" seem to be pretty disinterested in me, and the ones that are usually lose interest quickly or after the first date. i'm not bad looking, my body is desirable, and i like to think im an interesting person. this has led to a lot of self esteem and body dysmorphia issues, as i was raised to believe only skinny people are attractive. what do you guys think the reason could be? also,is it possible im looking in the wrong places (tiktok) and dating apps will help? any and all advice would be appreciated!!

F18: I feel lonely. Guys only want me for my body and only take interest in that. It doesn’t matter what I do or how I do it that’s all they want. I’m struggling with the fact that I was in a relationship previously but then I was left due to the fact that he didn’t have time and then he got into another relationship afterwards. Everyday since I think about how I don’t feel worthy enough to be in a relationship or that I deserve one and it’s the holiday season now so it feels even more lonely. All my friends have relationship and it’s hard to ever see them or hangout with them because they’re always with their significant other (it’s not a bad thing and I’m not saying I have resentment towards them for it) I’m just constantly thinking about how I wish I was able to experience that same thing. I go out and do things happily without thinking about it but the thought is always in the back of my mind. My depression has gotten worse but that’s not just due to what I’ve said it’s just caused me to dwell more on life negatively even when the positives outshine them. I’m not sure if this makes sense but I just needed to let it out.

(Maybe this isn’t the sub to post on but I wasn’t sure)

Hi! I hope everyone here is doing well and having a great day! I'm 5'5, 28 years old male from Asia and decided that it's time to get into a relationship so I downloaded Tinder and Bumble. I bought 6 months Tinder Gold coupon as it was on discount cause why not, and predominantly use passport mode because I wouldn't mind a long distance and also wanted try to date someone of different nationality/ethnicity. I do reset my location every Sunday/Monday just so that Tinder doesn't think I'm a bot. Unfortunately, it's been 4-5 months and the likes (let alone matches, cause I never once matched) received have been very low from both international and locally, which is starting to make me a little disheartened and I assume I'm doing something wrong or I'm simply unattractive. I also have to mention that I swipe left a lot, like really a lot (almost for every 1 right swipe I swiped 100 or more left, yes I'm picky!) so I'm not sure if that messes up the algorithm. I do realize my height isn't a very attractive trait but I think looks-wise I'm 6-6.5 or maybe I'm delusional and I'm way lower than that, and the reason I say this is because whenever I send a like or super like it's been crickets. As far as I'm concerned it's been somewhat of an unpleasant experience.

There is part of me questioning if I should continue online dating or just totally give up? Anyways if anyone is able to give me a brutal honest feedback about my profile or what I should do to increase my chances it would be greatly appreciated! However I'll not be posting my pictures/profile here so if anyone wants to help me out with my profile will have to DM me. Also is it a good idea to upgrade to Platinum tier as it has priority likes and can DM before matching? Or is it a scam? Many thanks for taking the time to read and hope you have an amazing day! 🤝🏼

Hey y’all, as you can tell by the title I’m super confused and not sure what to make of it. TLDR..I met this girl online and we’ve been talking for about a month, she lives a couple states over, not that big of a deal, we’ve FaceTimed and chatted everyday for what seems like hours on end. We’ve both told each other that we trust each other very much, we’ve told each other private things that we wouldn’t tell other people, she texts first at times, she holds the convo until pretty much 2am(her time) 3hr difference between us, we’ve played video games together, we’ve also sexted and whatnot, she’s also told me when she’s on her period, which obviously most girls usually don’t tell the dude that, unless there’s a lot of trust. She’s asked multiple times if I liked her to which I teased around and didn’t give a definitive answer, but yes I told her that I did. To which in turn I asked her, most the time she would always tease like I did lol but this time she switched it up on me and said “hmmmmmm….not yett :p” part of me wants to believe that she does but is hiding it. Other part of me is very confused…anyone have any potential insight? Any help would be appreciated.. also if you think I should say or do soemthign to get a clearer picture for future use that help would be appreciated.

29M here, never really asked for advice before but wouldn’t mind some now. Dated normal into my 20s, didn’t sleep around but did date a fair amount of women. I got engaged out of college to my long term girlfriend, after a year or so she broke it off and turns out was cheating. Ever since then it’s felt completely different.

For background, I’m a pretty attractive guy, have a house, job, plenty of fun hobbies I’m passionate about. My problem is I have too many choices. Whenever I get on a dating app I have literally 100’s of new matches a month. Mentally I can’t even take app relationships seriously because they feel so manufactured and forced. In real life half my friends are trying to hook me up with their single friends. It’s honestly too much.

To me it feels like most women I meet really are just trying to immediately settle down and have little to no interests / passions / genuine personality. Maybe it’s me or maybe it’s my view that’s changed but I feel like my ex fiancé set too high of a bar and now I’m having trouble finding someone I feel a true connection with and could see as my partner for life.

This is more of a vent than anything but if you can give me any advice I would appreciate it. I’ve been seeing this girl for 3 months, things went well at the start but for the last 2 weeks I feel like she’s been distant and hesitant. Last time we hung out was at her apartment about a week and a half ago, but it didn’t feel the same as the first time and felt more like hanging out with a friend than anything. Just to clarify we are both looking for a serious relationship, at least that’s what she said initially.

I feel like the connection I thought we had is dying. This is also the first girl I’ve ever talked to, we are both the same age (21). I reached out if she wanted to hang out last week a few days after I was her apartment and she didn’t respond. About 5 days ago I asked if everything was good between us and that we should catch up sometime and got no reply. I’ve explained this situation to my friend and he said she might have lost interest and he may be right but is there anything I can do to reconnect with her or is it pretty much over.

I felt like she trusted me since we spoke for 3 months and I spent the night at her apartment 2 times. I will admit she sends mixed signals, she wanted to cuddle at night, however we didn’t sex (which is fine, I would rather be in a committed relationship first), but the part that bothers me is that after 3 months she’s only comfortable with a kiss on the cheek and not the lips. Believe I’ve asked her I could but she doesn’t want to yet which confuses after everything that we’ve done.

I know there’s a solid chance she may have just lost interest but would it be worth giving her a call in the coming days, maybe even send a text explaining my concerns about mixed signals and maybe we can get together to discuss the intentions going forward? I know she might not even reply but would be worth at least trying? I know I shouldn’t be spending my energy on this person but she’s the only girl that I’ve ever been out with and she invited me to her apartment which made me feel a connection. I just wish we could go back and be where we were at a few weeks ago.

I’m also not talking to anyone else and feel like I did something wrong but not sure what. I’ve continued to stay on dating apps and have had no luck. I know I probably sound desperate and perhaps a little foolish but I really thought I had something with her and being apart makes me feel a bit disappointed and sad. Like I did I know I should probably just let it go and I know deserve someone that will put in the effort to see me but would it be at least worth the try to reach out one more time? I know I probably should say nothing but I just want to now for sure she’s not interested. If no reply, I can accept that it’s just not meant to be.

I also need to clarify that he’s a very white and shy girl. This is not the first time I sent a message with no reply and there’s been times in the past where we went nearly a week with no communication. I’m thinking I wait until Monday or Tuesday to reach out. I would appreciate someone’s perspective on this. I know I’m probably being a fool by even considering sending another message.

I (23 F) and my friends are from the Chicago suburbs wanting to meet good men. Dating apps are not working and the men in there are either weird, rude and cause trauma. We been focusing on hobbies, but it’s still difficult to meet people irl, especially that people don’t talk to each other, lack of third places and timing, since many places close early or is very far.

Is there any specific areas to meet good men? What days of the week is best to go out ?

I (23 F) and my friends are from the Chicago suburbs wanting to meet good men. Dating apps are not working and the men in there are either weird, rude and cause trauma. We been focusing on hobbies, but it’s still difficult to meet people irl, especially that people don’t talk to each other, lack of third places and timing, since many places close early or is very far.

Is there any specific areas to meet good men? What days of the week is best to go out ?

I have been told before by a lot of my male friends that I am very good at allowing girls to chase me. If I know a girl is highly sought after, I'm not going to play her games. I typically friendzone them immediately and just treat them with the same respect I treat everyone.

I'll be honest, yes, some of these girls I truly want to date But if I have to be honest, I don't know how. How long do you allow a girl to chase you before you chase them?

When do you introduce dating? I have zero clue, any tips and advice would be great.

I have been in a "situationship" with a guy for a month now. I knew that i liked him from very first date, we knew each other from high school and he said i was his ultimate crush back then. I told him i like him and resently he told me that he likes me back, that he wants me so much and if he was ready for a relationship it would be me and nobody else. We went on dates 4 times, we talk every day, we agreed on not seeing someone else other than each other, we had sex and it was amazing, he never lets me pay for what i drink or eat, he picks me up and drives me back home every time we meet up, classic relationship stuff. He says that even when he's with his close friends he thinks about me. But he says he doesn't want a relationship right now due to how relationships drains him and the other person mentally. He thinks he's gonna fuck it up like every other relationship that he has ever been in. Apparently he becomes this toxic person that gets jealous all the time, a type of bf that doesn't let you go meet your friends late at night, and beats up guys who try to hit on you etc... He said it himself. He said "it's better this way because then i won't fuck it up again, because i know myself and i sure will fuck it up." He also added that I'm the first person he's talking every day in spite of not being in a relationship. I talk to him about things that he could fix about his communication with me and he actually listens to me and making progress. I brought up the relationship topic to him and he said that eventually it will clear out, we can be in a relationship if his emotions become stronger for him to resist, if it doesn't work out, it won't, and i agreed. But i like him so much that i want to be officially his gf. Should i believe what he says? I'm afraid that he's just not that into me to commit. It will break my heart and i want to believe him. Should I wait for him? It's been only a month.

34 here just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat

Hey everyone!

I need some help understanding men's thought process on this online dating scene. Im 29F well off and considerably successful in most aspects of my life. However, I have social media except I am not too active on it other than for promoting my online business. SC....ooh snapchat 🤦🏻‍♀️ I hit it off with potential suiters on dating apps and then comes the dreaded question, "do you have/what's your sc?" The only reason I have sc is to take cute pictures of my dog and use some of the filters, once in a blue moon (literally no friends or anything on there 😂). So I either say, "No, I don't have sc," and the communication stops there. Or I say "I have sc but I'm not active on it," and I think men are suspicious of that 🙄😒 or they're finally like, "okay here's my number..." and we chat there and plan a date but I come to find out they unmatched me. I assume them finding my sc once they save my number and take is as I'm lying. This whole sc thing is driving me nuts. Why can't men just ask a girl for her number like it should be?? Ya'll I'm so disappointed with this sc and online dating. Help! Is there any hope??

P. S. This guy that unmatched me, we still left our phone messages as a planned date so we'll see 😒

So my dating life as a 26 year old male is very embarrassing. After high school I did the typical go to college but I commuted so didn’t socialize a ton and my dad got cancer so I had to take over most of the business activities and go to school until he got better-dating wasn’t even a thought. After that I got a job for a while and tried for a bit to no success and now started a business so my mind has just never went there long. Now I’ve started to try recently but once the topic that I’ve never had a serious relationship (or had sex) comes up I immediately get ghosted or things end the next day. Things will be going so well (4-5 dates) talking a lot, a lot in common. I dread the question when it comes up and it always does….then interest is lost. I will try and revive it but it’s like trying to zap a corpse back to life—it’s gone. I realize girls want a guy who is well versed and experienced/desired by others but even trying to talk through it doesn’t work. I’ve been told three times they have no interest in teaching an amateur in the last year. I’ve also gotten basically that they don’t want the responsibility of being the first and feel they are scared I’d get attached etc. Would the best way just be to lie about my past? I was just trying to be open about my lack of dating experience but it seems like that’s not a good idea. Idk, I know it’s pretty pathetic but I’m lost here. Do I just stay out of the dating pool? It was kind of comfortable on the outside of it lol.