I recently began talking to a girl that I have known a couple of months. We work for the same company (have the same job but in different locations) and met when we were placed on a shift together. We had a great time talking to each other and have since exchanged numbers and met 1 time for an informal diner. I’m looking for something more serious but unsure if I should ask her out since we could cross paths again at work. I already checked work rules and there’s nothing saying we can’t date, but I’m hesitant to ask. Whenever we do text (not overly frequently) it has a flirty feel and she tends to “❤️” my messages. Just looking for any feedback/advice

Hi so i’m 23F and i’ve never been in a relationship before. I find that these days, this is something that brings out a lot of negative feelings for me. I have took the time to appreciate my own company, i’m very independent, i take myself on solo dates and i’m pretty confident in myself. However, i find myself longing for a connection with someone and just wanting to be loved. It’s gotten to a point that whenever I’m interested in a guy i get my hopes way too up for no reason and whenever it doesn’t work, no matter if i genuinely liked the guy or not i have such a huge reaction because i keep thinking that maybe i’ve finally met my person when the guy didn’t even do anything more than flirting with me. I’m also starting to feel like i can’t listen to my friends telling me about their boyfriends without having negative feelings deep down as i find it hard to see my friends be on their 4th relationship while i’ve never even received flowers or been on a real date. Even hearing stuff like “you’re young you’ll meet the right person eventually”, "you’ll meet the right person when you stop looking for it" can rub me the wrong way. I want to have a better relationship with the concept of dating but i’m not sure what to do to feel better about not meeting anyone.

For reference I’m 16M and I really like this 16F. Ive seen this girl for probably 5 months basically everyday on public transit as I take it to school. I caught her looking at me multiple times so I knew she had some interest in me. I finally built up the courage to ask for her number. We talked for 3 days back and forth all day. We even FaceTimes on day 2. On day 4 she started to text dry and I have no idea why. I didn’t say anything that could have hinted on I messed up. Then she told me she wasn’t looking for a relationship right now as she wanted to focus on school, after being very flirty the last 3 days. I responded ok and we haven’t messaged in 2 days. I don’t know what to do to get her back. I want to take her on a date or do something to try and change her mind to give me a chance. We had a bunch in common from music tastes, sports we watch, and other activities. I honestly don’t know what to do. (Ps. Sorry if this is clunky it’s my first Reddit post)

Hi all, I few weeks ago I matched with this guy on tinder. We started talking and we figured out we are studying the same thing at the same university. One day, I was going home and I accidentally bumped into him on the bus. He said he will company me, since we live at the same direction...at the end we realized, we are neighbours. The connection started out pretty strong. Good messages, we had a lot of attraction but I told him I wouldn't want to have sex with him yet. I just moved to this new country and I am having health issues due to my autoimmune disease, sometimes it can cause problems during sex (I was misdiagnosed and treated bad at my home country as I found out just now). He seemed understanding and said he is willing to wait. However, since then his interest decreased a lot?

He still invites me to grab breakfast, or coffee, and sometimes asks if I am in the lab via text, but when I answer, he doesn't even reads the message. The next day same thing happens, asks if I am in the lab, I answer, and nothing. Also, I noticed when we talk in person about something (for example a trip to a place) he says: "we should go" but never follows through. During the weekend, I get either one text a day or no text which is ridiculous cause he is my neighbour. Also, it did happen that I didn't see his "are you in the lab" message, and he called me on video chat. I declined and asked why he called, and his answer was "just wanted to see you". YOU ARE MY NEIGHBOUR, just knock on my door.

It is kinda hard, cause when I meet him accidentally at uni, he seems interested. Keeps the conversation going (even on socials, cause sometimes I just get annoyed and not answering to him. And then he asks how I am doing...), however, it kinda feels like he is playing with me or something. So, is he gaslighting me, or just simply stupid? I think I need to hear the honest opinion about this.

I know he is a stoner btw. At least that is what he told me. Not sure if this information even adds anything to the context though.

Okay so im 22 and a Girl. i have been single for 1,5 years. I really want a ltr but its just Not happening. I do go out a lot, i dont like clubs but i go to bars, i volunteer at church, i have a million Hobbys like going to the gym or theatre.I regularly meet up with Friends. Im currently at university so i spent my time at the Library. I do make eye contact ( or try to most people are Not looking anywhere but their phone). I tried OLD but its just been a frustrating experience. Before you guys ask i am pretty ( first thing people comment about when They meet me), i am smart, i am athletic, i got my life together ( at least for a 22 year old), im caring and empathetic. The thing is i dont connect with anyone on the level that i need for a relationship. I just dont develop feelings. I feel Like i do need a friendship first, thats why OLD didnt really work for me. I really want a caring person that has a simular level of empathy and intelligence as me and i really need someone with similar values. So i guess i have two problems: i cant find a guy that fits my criteria and i rarely develop feelings for anyone. Please dont suggest dating someone i dont have feelings for, i just feel like that is horrible to that person. I wouldnt wanna date someone that has no feelings for me.
I am currently in University and i have a degree that is 95% girls so that isnt helping i guess haha. I dont like being single, its fine for a while but not for years. Im not into casual stuff, i feel like i would just get hurt.

so i guess any advice would be welcome especially on the not developing any feelings

I turned 40 recently and I know I should've tried to find someone in my 30s when I was more confident and less aged looking. But as a guy, it was still difficult to meet women and I didn't get enough opportunities. And the ones I did like didn't want another date or whatever so it never worked out.

Here I am at 40, more aged looking, uglier, more visible nasolabial wrinkles, and overall declined appearance with each passing year.

I even did some lasering for my face skin and try to improve my old acne scars but it seems that my acne scars became more pronounced and skin looks worse than before so I'm regretting it and my self esteem is at an all time low. I just don't have the same confidence anymore to go on dates. Only positive I can think of is that I still have full head of hair as of now but my facial look has declined.

I don't think I have it in me anymore and have been accepting that I'll be alone. Never thought I'd reach this point and was sure I would find someone. I do wish I had a partner and I'd care far less about my appearance but that isn't the case for me.

If you have any thoughts, advice or anything, please share them

I was in a longterm relationship that was pretty bad. I've tried to date again few times since I left it, but I find that I keep panicking and thinking they will be like my ex.

A piece of advice a few people have given me is to just go on dates just to prove to myself that there are good men out there, with the idea that this will help me get over the panic. I kind of struggle with this advice, because I kind of feel like it would be leading people on, if that makes sense.

Is this something that would be okay to do? Or would it be better to stay single until I genuinely feel like I could be in a relationship again?

My gf told me she wasn’t in the right place for a relationship and needed time to focus on herself. She said she didn’t want to lead me on or keep me waiting, so she ended things even though she admitted it felt good being with me. I respected her decision and told her I understood, but now I’m not sure what to do next. Should I completely move on, or is there a chance she might come back when she’s ready? Has anyone been in a similar situation?"

We were just getting into the relationship we have known each other for a long time (online) but we have been in a relationship for less than a week

It's not the first time that someone liked me and been in a relationship with me and left in the same way I don't but seems there's no hope for me

Hi. So for context I’ve been seeing this girl for about 1 month now. She’s a pretty cool girl and has a lot going for herself! She requested that we follow on instagram very quickly and ever since I’ve been somewhat annoyed. There’s never a day that she doesn’t have at least 5-10 stories up. She posts quotes, political statements, memes, selfies, videos, you name it and she will post it. One day she posted like 5 selfies back to back. She also uses a lot of annoying filters and I have nothing against it other than I just think we’re too old for that now and it’s not a true reflection of what she looks like. I feel like I know everything about her day to day life just from her social media stories and it’s really annoying me as I am somewhat of a private person. Is this normal to be annoyed with someone’s social media activity that you’re dating or am I tripping out a little bit?

How forthcoming or not is it best to be in early dating, as it relates to others ?

Communication during early dating of multiple women

I’m 50m and have recently met two women in the online dating world that I like and vice versa, 45f and 43f. Nobody has brought up ‘where do we stand’ yet, which I’m very ok with. Though I should say that if/when either do I’ll be completely honest with where I’m at at that time. It’s just early casual dating with texting and flirting between dates. My question is, how best do I handle “what are you doing tonight” asked casually in text, when I have a date? Saying I have a date seems like too much info to share, but saying anything else seems untruthful.

Has anyone has experience with this? Any ideas on a good way forward given the stage of dating I’m at?

Hey, so I have a question for all the ones who are more into long-distance dating than me. This August I was on vacation when I met this girl; we had our little thing just 1 night, but somehow she felt like more than a kiss-and-go. At this point I didn’t ask for her Instagram or number, but I reached out to her.

We started texting, and we ended up liking each other… BUT, before we go into this, I have many insecurities, and I know they don’t help at all. For example, just writing to her made me anxious and in fear. I didn’t want her to think of me as someone boring. (Even though I think that’s what I am).

At some point I started writing her less, while she would take her time but sometimes enter the chat while I was writing, so I could tell she was still interested. I have a cause that may be the downfall of the chat; that’s a promise that I made to her. I told her I was going to come to her city during the Christmas holidays; with all the things planned, in the end I didn’t meet her. From Christmas on, she started writing only on the weekends; instead, if I send her TikToks and reels, she currently still replies throughout the whole week.

Now I will for sure go to her city this Valentine's Day. All that I'm trying right now is to hope, hope that even if her interest in me flew away, me being in her town (unknown to me) could at least let me see her again, and no matter the outcome, I won’t hesitate to show how much I care about her. I hope this big mess of info can be of any use in helping me.

(Excuse my barbarian and grammatically horror English. 😖)

I attended an admissions event for prospective graduate students in a university. I had a nice conversation with an admissions officer. I asked if he could give me his email in case I had more questions about admissions. He gave me his email and also asked me to add his phone number. I texted him and he told me to let him know if I wanted to meet over coffee.

Would it be presumptuous of me to interpret this as a sign of interest? There was no obvious flirting otherwise. We’re both in our mid/late twenties, in case that matters.

Hey, I (20 F)was wondering if it would be appropriate to break up with my boyfriend (19 M) over text, since he's always too busy to meet in person or if I should just let it fizzle out.

Thank you

I rarely get any matches. The one a year I do get, I make it a point to ask them a question about their profile. Something like "Hey! I see in your profile that you like music. What's your favorite genre?" Apparently I've been told that is too boring of a response

Having a NORMAL CONVERSATION is too boring. GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE is boring

The WHOLE POINT OF THE FUCKING APP is BORING for the people on the app

I legitimately don't know what else to say or do. If this is not how I'm supposed to respond then how?

So basically I haven’t dated or been with anyone for about 2 years now (22f) and i have major trust issues from sa in a past relationship. But now I’m starting to get into the dating scene because I think the loneliness is bringing me down and I feel like it’s time to start looking (I’d like to have a genuine connection in my life long term), but honestly I don’t know how to proceed. I just don’t trust anything people say anymore, automatically I assume they’re not being completely honest, and then I start doubting myself. It’s sooo easy to lie that I can’t bring myself to trust. For example in that previous relationship, the guy would consistently tell me white lies, gaslight me, steal from me and deny it, and like I said there were many sa’s during that whole time. So just knowing how easy it is for someone to lie makes me wonder how many people can be lying to me at any given moment. Anyone have advice on how to overcome this? I don’t want to have trust issues forever but I’m afraid of getting hurt again. I think that’s why I’ve been out of the game so long. Please comment if you had or do experience this, how you overcame it or how you are working on improving. I really want to build a healthy relationship :) Anything even just support is welcome!!

I'm a guy who has a crush on this girl at work for a few months now. We have never formally introduced each other (don't ask me why), never used each other's name (although we know each other's name) when we talk, and we barely talked these few months. We sometime stare at each other so i assume she's interested as well? So i'm summoning the courage to talk to her. Can you give me advice as to what to say, because the tension between us has built up over the months and it's getting increasing difficult to say anything to her. I just want to break the ice with her nothing more. Thank you in advance!

How should I go about it? So Hello I 22M wants to start talking to this girl F21 over text but for some reason I struggle with how I should go about it. For context, this girl started following me and she lives kind of close to where I am. We are both students and I thought maybe use her stories to spark a conversation, but other dudes seem to spark conversations through ig stories comment saying lame stuff to get her attention so idk. I could start a dm from scratch and go from there too. I mean we don't really know each other but I guess if she is interested she would reciprocate. So what do you think would be the best approach of the two.

It was completely my fault and I feel awful for how I’ve hurt her, she hasn’t removed anything from her socials regarding us and I haven’t heard from her since I left, Do you guys have any general advice?

22M and 23F. Seeing this girl for 3 months, I haven’t dated in years and have only had casual experiences thus far. We recently became exclusive. I’m into her but we spent the last month far away because of the holidays, I got tested a few days before coming back and was fine. I hadn’t seen anyone up until then but on the last weekend I hooked up with someone. Me and this girl I’m seeing now had sex a couple of times, I just got another std test and waiting to hear back but I think I might’ve caught chlamydia or something from the hookup. It’s a mess and I’m cooked just needed to write it down.

I (31,M) met this woman (31,F) through chat, around october. She initiated the conversations and we got to exchaning long messages about ourselves and our lives, all the way up until january. Inbetween those messages, I asked her out.

We met up in the first week of january. Now, through our messaging I knew I kinda liked her already. But upon seeing her in real life, I was astonished by her beauty. Practically for the whole four hours we went out, I was pretty nervous and self-conscious. Apart from some awkward moments, the evening went okay, and we managed to end it on a positive note. She told me she enjoyed meeting me, and did seem okay to continue meeting up in the future.

The day after, she sent me a message about something she promised to text me. I replied with some stuff as well, but she didn't even read those messages. A week later, I send her a text saying I hope she's okay and asking her out again.

After two weeks of no response, she just sent me a message saying she has been sick the past weeks, and currently is sick. She enjoys the invitation but wants to keep it calm the upcoming period and prioritize her health. Followed up by asking me how I'm doing.

Now, she does have some big health issues, and I believe she is indeed struggling.

But, I'm just left wondering if she is actually politely rejecting me? Making me get the 'hint' to move on? And, honestly, the past two weeks just felt strange due to her sudden lack of contact/response - it made me doubt everything.

I've been thinking about wishing her well and telling her to contact me when she's better and wants to meet up. While another part of me doesn't even want to bother anymore after being 'ghosted' (for a lack of a better term) for such period, thinking this might become some kind of pattern in the future (in case we stay in touch).

Would be good to get some outsider input.

I ghosted a girl 6 months ago after she lied to me ab not talking to other guys. Her excuse being she couldn’t trust me and that i would mess her up if i decided to leave her/ stop talking to her and the action of talking to other guys would alleviate any sorta sadness. Now reflecting I believe her action was justified in a sense (her ex had cheated on her a couple years ago and she has had trust issues since). I feel as if though I should have communicated how I felt ab this, I never did. Which led me to apologise later ab this whole situation a few weeks later where she was rather cold, justifiably, my action had fed into what she was fearing most. After the conversation ended she removed me on all her social media’s she had probably gained the insight that I had moved on ( I deleted all the saved texts and pictures on our chat out of smite , I was fed up with everything and decided not to communicate ab how I felt ?). All I do is think ab her, I’m torn between moving on or texting her ab how I actually feel ab all this. She was perfect I felt as if we had a meaningful connection I’d love for things to eventually work out. Though I’d also accept if she doesn’t feel the same way. I’m really unsure about this entire situation I can’t think or focus anymore any helpful suggestions on what I should do?

So I (21F), recently matched with a guy on bumble....I talked with him for an hour or so and then he asked me a question. I replied to his messages at around 9pm ish day before yesterday and after that we didn't talk at all. Yesterday morning i checked the app a few times, and suddenly at around 1:30pm i found that he had deleted his profile.. cause bumble shows you that ig? So nvm, i was overthinking a lot and I decided to follow him on Instagram...now in the evening I followed him on insta, and texted him a lil' message saying that I was enjoying the Convo, i saw his acc was deleted that's why I approached out on insta... And neither did he accept my request, nor did he reply to me... I know it's just been a few hours and i shouldn't overthink and stuff. But yk? When i suddenly feel I can talk with this person it feels good and then if they suddenly dip it is weird. So I don't know...

Did i overdo it guys? Now I feel like shouldn't have approached him out.. y'all tell me was I too pushy?

Ps: his instagram handle was already provided on his bumble bio. I kept a note of it previously itself just didn't get a chance to ask whether he'd be comfortable enough to add me over there or not.

Hi there, I’m F21, I’ve recently been in another town working for the summer, in that time I’ve meet so many amazing people. One of the guys M20 I hang out with has brought to light that he likes me, and has asked me to lunch. The second I found this out I felt guards go up, i felt awkward (and not a cute awkward I could barely keep a sentence) yet prior to this we were getting along really well, good banter - pretty much the same people. Would anyone have any tips/inspiration for me, I think I do like him. However finding out he likes me has really terrified me. I spent hours last night thinking about it and even considered do I just not like guys? (I believe I do, and I want relationships, however men almost scare me) LOL okay thanks

*to add on : it almost feels like I went back into my shell. I can’t explain the feeling, trying to my best !!

So i’m 19f and i’ve recently been sort of getting to know my best friends brother also 19 on a deeper level (my bsf is okay with this). He was all in for me and i was the one holding back as i didn’t want to jeopardise a 16 year long friendship which is basically family at this point.

So to start, we had a “night” together a year and a half or so ago but nothing came of it as i started seeing someone else. Since then, we’ve been friends and nothing was weird when i was visiting my bsf.

They hosted a halloween party which i attended which is where everything started to begin. I was totally crossfaded and he took care of me that night and we stayed together (totally innocently). We’ve spoken every day since and feelings started to blossom for him quicker then for me.

Fast forward to about a month ago we was at his family members birthday party, we spent the whole night there together and it was very flirty. Once returning to his after the party (all of us very drunk) i sort of had a heart to heart with his dad and updated him on the situation and explained my side of it to him which i hadn’t informed my bsf brother on yet. Basically stating that im attracted to him and its going well but im not ready to 100% to commit to anything with him yet i need to take it slow to make sure i wont regret it. Which we all agreed was fair.

About a week after, we was together again and he said his dad told him what i said (i expected it) so he further said that’s okay with him and we’ll see. He proceeded to ask me out for valentines so i had time to think on it and said we can go out as friends or more depending on what i decided. I thought this was good and a step forward as im a slow burner anyways.

This is where it gets muggy in my opinion, about 2 weeks later so about 3 days ago we was speaking and he mentioned he was going out (he plays darts and was going to the pub) then he went to one of the others houses and they were drinking a lot and smoking (i was asleep at this point and didn’t find out till the next day). i’m totally fine with that anyway, i do the same without him.

When i responded to his messages at about 8am he was still awake from the night before and was just getting home. When meeting him later on alongside my bsf and his gf they told him how he was “netflix and chilling” with this other girl which i had no clue about btw. He later told me they slept together but didnt want his brother (my bsf) to know his business.

this is where it’s difficult bc he wasn’t remorseful or even regretted it and blatantly told me he could pursue things with her. totally fine if he sees a future with her but he was acting like we are just friends and he wasn’t asking me out like a week before that?

Basically feel mugged off bc i was going too slow for his liking or i wasn’t giving him enough or if we both took the situation differently? I haven’t spoken to him about this yet as i need to know where i stand and if im correct in feeling mugged off here. But seeing as his was pursuing me first and i was just coming round to actually giving him something back this happens. Really don’t know what to do from here.

P.s. I have no other friends so any advice will be greatly appreciated lmao

I (M18) have been texting this girl (F18) on Snapchat for about two months because I added a bunch of random people a couple months ago. We’ve been texting and sending snaps every day. I think she’s cute, and she seems to at least like talking to me, but I found out that she’s from Canada. I’m from the U.S. so it’s kinda far from where I am. Also, someone said to include her snap score, which is 150K and mines 15K, I’ve only been using snap for a few months so is 150K a lot? We’re best friends on snap, so I’m guessing I’m one of the main people she texts though. I like her, but idk what to do since she’s far.

A lot of people are afraid to leave their partners because they won’t find someone who’s more attractive

A lot of people are afraid to leave their partners because their afraid they won’t find someone richer

A lot of people are afraid to leave their partner because they won’t find someone that’s accomplished.

I am none of those,it scares me and saddens me to think how a potential future partner could leave and find better at any time

Hello~ I (22 F) went on a date/hang out with this guy (24 M) to the movies and then a burger joint. We talked in the car for 3 hours and honestly it was nice. He wrapped his hand on my shoulder and was really kind. He didn’t try to be too touchy and I’d say he was a gentleman. But I have a feeling he only is interested in my body.

We’ve been talking a little here and there (for 2 weeks) so communication is as normal as it can be for two people barely getting to know each other. I had messaged him asking if he wanted to meet again but I felt like it was too early to ask so I deleted the message. He messaged me later saying he thought I messaged and could’ve sworn I asked if he was free next week. I explained that I don’t usually unsend but I didn’t know if it was too early. He said he’s very upfront about his emotions and blunt so I should never beat around the bush. He said he is very attracted to me and was holding back at our first hang out and wanted to make out with me but didn’t know how I felt. (I just this man why would I make out with him??)

I told him I enjoyed spending time with him and wanted to get to know him more. And he said he enjoyed our time too. (I don’t want to read into it but wouldn’t he have said he wanted to get to know me more too if he felt that way?) But honestly I’m not sure if he wants to get to know me more or just hang to be physical. Do I even initiate another hang out? Or would he if he wanted to? I genuinely don’t know what to think. Why are there so many rules with dating omg. Any advice is very helpful. Thank you.

I've been seeing this girl for about 2-3 months, but over the past week neither of us has really engaged. No texts, no check-ins. I don’t feel strongly about continuing the relationship, and she must feel the same.

The last time we saw each other was last Wednesday, and before that we texted a lot. Now I’m in this weird situation where I feel like just letting it fade out might be the easiest option, but at the same time it feels odd to not acknowledge it at all.

Should I send a text to officially end things, or is it okay to just let it die out naturally?

Anyone out there have tips or tricks or mental exercises that might help someone open their mind to finding new people attractive? I am stuck on one person but am trying to actively date/move on... Past/recurring dates are with a few really high quality people with a lot to offer & a lot of genuine interest in me but I legit cannot find them attractive enough to think about them afterwards. Theyre all conventionally attractive and fit, etc.. but I'm super stuck on one person (of course the one person who doesn't care if I live or die alone).

I know I would normally be into any one of these "datees" but I can't get over the "one-man-show" mental blockade.

Hi guys. I was dating a guy for 2 years and it was pretty serious. Plans of marriage and everything. We broke up around December 2023. Our relationship was pretty toxic, so I'm glad it ended and I remember the decision was mutual and after, i just felt such a peace and such a weight lifted off of my shoulders. The reason why we ended was because he wanted to be married and i wasn't ready, so i just felt a lot of pressure. Mind you, we were 21 at the time lol. Anyways, in 2024 i had some serious life events happening and some family problems, so i resorted to texting him not because I missed him, but mostly because of comfort and it's what i know. I texted Him maybe 12 times in 2024 and he only responded 2 out of the 12 times. I was doing fine with the breakup, it actually didn't affect me much and not to sound like a b, but i didn't care lol. I recently found out in October that he is dating someone new, and this person looks nothing like me. I also reached out to him to get some closure and he told me he is confident that him and i will never be together ever again because he feels like God took it for a reason. Anyways, i feel like him basically rejecting me, not answering my texts in 2024 (he told me he never answered because he had no peace to), and being moved on / dating someone new has caused me to form an anxious attachment to him - constantly seeking his approval. This is so weird because i didn't feel this way the first few months of the breakup. I actually didn't feel this way at all. I was actually doing really, really well. It wasn't until i found out he was with someone else when all these thoughts and feelings started to form. I'm pretty mad at myself because I don't know why im going back to something that was bad for me, but him and i were very toxic and on-and-off and he honestly altered my brain chemistry lol. We havent talked more than a sentence in a year, and i think life is just hard right now so im going back to what's comfortbale. but any advice? how do i stop this anxious attachment and feelings of embarassment. i don't want to feel this way.