I'm a guy and I don't like to brag about these things and tbh I get laid like once or twice a year. I rarely share with friends, because people talk... Last year I told my friends that I slept with someone I met in a club during a solo trip and now they keep bringing it up whenever I mention I'm travelling solo again, even though I don't think of it.

I think society in any country is more forgiven towards men sleeping around for different reasons, but tbh I'm a guy and I worry about my reputation.

My partner and I have been dating for 5 months, 2 months of it being official. At the start of the relationship we were intimate regularly, and we spoke in depth about what we both wanted out of a relationship and we were very much on the same page. About a month ago, the sex started wearing off and I noticed he was becoming less affectionate. We spend nearly every day together, but we took it down to every second day to try and reignite the intimacy in our relationship. The change of pace definitely felt like it was working from my perspective, however last night he told me he isn’t attracted to me, and thinks he never was, and that’s why we aren’t having sex and he isn’t affectionate towards me. He said we felt more like friends than lovers.
I’m so confused because I don’t understand how and why he decided to be in a relationship with me if he didn’t find me attractive? Without sounding full of myself, I am not a bad looking girl and have never had this issue come up in the past. I’ve come here to get advice on whether I should end the relationship whilst it is still early or do try to move past this? It’s a pretty horrible thing for a partner to say, considering I haven’t changed one bit of my appearance since we met. Thank you in advance.

I (F26) was dating a guy (he was my friend for years prior) that went above and beyond for me and 5 months in (or less) in the relationship, he broke up without giving me a reason. Instead, he grabbed all my insecurities (the ones I have shared because I deeply trusted him) and throw them at my face when I insisted I him to explain to me WHY?

I let him go of course, I never called or text, I blocked him everywhere and he called me 4 months down the road because he wanted me back WHATTTT?????

So I've been seeing this girl for about a month now. We both have full time jobs and go to college but I've noticed a pattern. She seems to only respond to me in the morning when we first wake up. I know we're both super busy and it's finals week but Im just worried. We've been on 2 dates and they both went super well but outside the dates she seems uninterested.

A friend of mine (‘37F’) has started seeing someone (‘42M’) in February who she met that month. But she got with a friend of hers (‘27M’) - who isn’t the guy - and she’s liked this friend for a very long time. She came onto him was very full on and made out with her friend even though she was seeing someone else. She’s in denial about it saying “oh it’s just a kiss” and “oh it’s just flirting” (even though she was very very full on and told him her feelings which she didn’t do before, initiating things and touching him before they made out in front of her friends) but says she really likes her friend but she wants to see where things go with this new guy. And she had an argument with her friend for apparently showing her zero interest when she liked him even though she came onto him as soon as she started seeing someone which she never did before. And she had her friend - who she’s not seeing - on her WhatsApp profile pic with just them two for months. Now she’s not speaking to her friend saying she doesn’t want to resent him and he’s missed his shot but she still came onto him, got with him and told him she liked him etc. And then kissed the person she’s seeing in front of the guy she likes. Has my friend lost the plot? What’s happening with her? She wants kids but how long will this new thing last because it doesn’t seem healthy way to begin a relationship to make out with someone behind the person you’re seeing’s back and to make out with someone you like?

I just need some support here. I have had the worst week ever and have been knee-deep in work today. I matched with a really cute guy last night who was charming and funny and responsive. Today, he asked me if I wanted to go out to dinner this weekend. I told him I had had a tough week and he said he would like to take me to dinner. He suggested a neighborhood and type of restaurant. I normally wouldn’t do something this last-minute, but he seemed great and I definitely needed the distraction. After we set a time, I logged in to check his last message, and he unmatched!

Why do men do that? This was a 39-year-old guy. Why ask me out and then unmatch after we’ve made plans???

Long story short I lived with my ex for 4 years and I knew how to do everything from caring for his mental and physical health to chores, cooking, etc. We didn't last, he didn't reciprocate. Now we're both dating other people. This guy that I'm dating (also should I say the guy in dating or is it correct to say the guy that's dating me?) He is so leveled up, maturity, smart, got his sit together, basically teaching me how to manage my emotions and stuff. It's been 4 months he got me candles, gifts from his visit to Japan, let me sleep over his place, took me to see the lights in Brooklyn, took me to hike upstate, have many questions for me that nobody ever asked me before like what jewelry do I like and clothing.

I sit in silent because all of this is new to me idk how to react I'm sad and happy at the same time. It bothers me that I don't know what to do for him. What's crazier is that I knew for full 4 years how much I did for my ex, got him a ps5, chores, cooking, clam him down on a hard day, shop him silly stuff, wait an hour at his job to pick him up. And so much more and now idk what to do for this guy cause he is well maintained, independent idk if that's even the right word but he is affording everything and I know it's not about what I can buy him but I feel like idk what to do. I haven't got him anything for Christmas, his birthday. I feel like I somehow don't know how to love anymore. My mind is blank. Like what am I offering to this guy? Nothing?

I (26F) went on a date a couple of months ago, the guy (30M) was clearly going through it, he had just gotten fired and showed up to the date tipsy reeking of alcohol. we got a drink, the date went fine, great convo and all but at the end he literally just left me in the middle of downtown next to a bunch of homeless people, he said hes leaving and took off. then he unmatched me. my self esteem took the biggest hit, I get sad just thinking about it.

today, months later, he hit me up apologizing for being a dick and saying he was just going through it. he asked me out again. it’s very clear he wants sex, he’s complimenting my physical appearance constantly.

I feel like a clown for even entertaining the conversation, I already know it’s probably not gonna lead anywhere and he seems toxic. but I’m so lonely and really struggling with self esteem issues lately and he’s being so sweet. I had also just decided to stop dating around for the sake or my mental health, I wanna get my confidence up first. but I’m also very tempted out of loneliness.

HELP

TLDR: Dating overlap with a girl that I'm seeing and needing advice?

I M/24 been dating this girl M/25 for a month, and things have been going well. Recently, we talked about our dating history, and she mentioned that she had seen someone else between our second and third date. They went on four dates during that period and had sex multiple times.

Our second date was amazing – we went to a lovely restaurant, laughed a lot, and really connected. We even made plans to see each other again.

She was honest about it, but I can't help but feel a bit unsettled. It's like she might have been more interested in the other guy, and I was just a fallback option.

However, we never discussed exclusivity, so I understand that my reaction might be unfair. She still seems interested in pursuing a relationship with me, but I'm struggling to shake off these thoughts. Any advice?

I feel like crap and need some advice or guidance.

Few weeks ago, I went on a date with someone I really liked. We talked for months, the chemistry and connection were there, I finally felt myself “feeling” again after years of being emotionless.

Anyways, the first date was okay definitely nervous (for us both). Second date was right after and it was better. I genuinely felt the connection deepen.

Few days go by and it’s not really much effort from either side to communicate. Just sending like memes on insta and a TikTok here there.

So like a moron at 1am I couldn’t help myself but text him. It went so bad.

Pretty much I wanted him to clarify what’s going on here between us and well he dropped a bomb on me and I haven’t stopped thinking about it. He said “it’s hard to catch feelings for someone else when I’m still trying to get over my ex” my heart dropped. We’ve been talking for 4 months. I had no clue about the ex we never brought it (I’m not the biggest fan of talking about ex’s or past relationships so this caught me off guard) I told him I felt blindsided, I only talked to him, no roster, no lingering feelings for my ex. I told him I was only interested in him and wanted to gage his interest and perspective on us. And he just kept disappointing me throughout the whole text conversation. So I just said “i honestly regret addressing it. Please disregard everything I texted tonight. I’m clearly a moron. I wish you the best”

All he said was “dude stop that you’re not a moron for wanting clarification.”

I never responded back. It’s been literal days and all I can think about is him.

Week later… I went on a first date with someone else (friend set me up) the guy was great and very gentleman like. He paid for everything, held the door open for me and told me I was beautiful. The only issue is I’m not physically attracted to him.

Now I’m confused. Why am I thinking about the other guy when this new guy is better? Someone please help me. I’m crying as I’m typing this. This new guy is someone that is so sweet, polite and complete gentleman I’m just not physically attracted to him. And I don’t want to lead him on. I’m still thinking about the other guy. I’m hurt.

Is this normal for people that date regularly? Like I don’t know.

I told a friend of mine that I had feelings and now he ignore me. It's like I don't exist in his eyes anymore. No hi, no what's up, no response to texts, nothing. I'm already struggling with depression and body image issues so that's just extra salt in the wound. Some sources say that him ignoring me actually means that he likes me back, but is now nervous. To which I think is harmful hopeful bullshit. I never had to deal with unrequited feelings towards me so I'm not sure if this is the proper way of going about it.

So I (31F) have been feeling a bit down recently because I see so many people get into relationships and it just never seems to happen for me. I have my fair share of interest from guys, and have dated a few, but nothing serious has ever come from it. They just aren't really that interested, and generally don't try to get to know me at all. And the ones that I have had a deeper connection with, who do care for me, end up choosing someone else.

I would love to have someone to love, who loves me too and wants to spend time with me. Is it just a matter of waiting or is there something that I'm missing?

So my girlfriend has been very obviously extremely stressed lately. She has had a lot on her plate and I could tell, so I kind of let her be by herself (which she likes) when she's stressed. She was so stressed that she was throwing up every day. She called me a few days ago and explained that she's not in a point in her life where she can handle the responsibilities of a relationship. She says she still cares about me and my family. She made it very clear that it had nothing to do with me and everything to do with the situation and time of her life. She says we can still be friends and she will still uphold promises that she made but that I also shouldn't hope that maybe by being friends still we can get back together. I still care about her more than anything else in this world so it's really hard for me to go from lovers to friends. I want to be there and support her through this hard time but I'm not sure what to do. She has said she doesn't feel like she's giving me what I deserve out of a relationship right now and doesn't want to be holding me back from finding someone who can treat me better. But the thing is, I don't care what I deserve. All I want is her. I'm just very hurt right now and when I see her it's with a heavy heart even though I still care so much about her. Every night i dream about her. I just need advice on how to cope and what my next step forward should be.

I met someone who broke up with gf in september, but sends heart, hug and kiss smileys to her and she sends the same to him, he claims they have normal conversations only and they are on good terms. What do you think about it? I never send my ex anything like that or them to me, despite being on good terms too.

So there is this girl I work with... I know she is physically attracted to me (through her friends). I didn’t really talk to her until 2 months ago(We worked at the same place for 8 months but never talked before that). We learned to know about each other A LOT because we talked a lot. We even flirted a bit together. She always compliments my hair and how i dress, replied to some of my insta stories. We even got in trouble for talking instead of working. The more I learned about her the more I liked her. We drew some shit together because she like drawing. She never told me about being taken. Just when Im bout to ask her out I see her story with a man. Did I take too long? Did she recently started dating? If not why all of that happened? I feel betrayed.

The stats that say it’s unlikely to get married after 30 if you’re a woman—does anyone know what they are based on? Is it counting all women who wanted to be married but never did or also women who decided not to try? If I do everything I can—lose tons more weight, join tons of special interest groups, try to survive dating sites, hire a matchmaker—do you think I can be ok and beat the odds? I just want to know the context and if there’s hope

Oh also I’ll pretty much take anyone who treats me like a human. I don’t care about money or height or anything. Just have a job any job. Are my odds any better?

I met this guy, and he is great in every way. No complaints. He is from a logical standpoint, an excellent choice for me and he is really into me. But I don't want to sleep with him or even kiss him.

I understand attraction can develop, but I have never found its developed if i have no interest. I have been in relationships before for lengthy periods where I have no attraction, it didn't develop.

I also do have a high sex drive, I am just too picky and have been looking for years for someone im both attracted to and can be with. It is rare to find it.

Is it reasonable? Theoretically if we did marry, I would force myself to do favours for him here and there, but would hate every second of it and would get resentful if I had to do it all the time.

But I have multiple people telling me it develops with love over time, and someone even pointed out that it happens a lot in arranged marriages.

Should I force it and just be open with my feelings? Keep searching?

i think my recent breakup is going to ruin my trust issues for my future

i 20F just went through a very abrupt breakup with a guy 21M that i was so in love with. if you want to know more details i posted about it but i can’t attach it in this community.

i am really hurting right now and i don’t know where else to go. please be kind in the comments.

in sum we had absolutely no issues. we never had a single argument and we just got along so well and had such a great relationship. he even kept saying it was the happiest, healthiest, most stable relationship and was really upset during the break up. he broke up with me, absolutely no warning signs. i know i sound delusional but it’s true, i have searched up and down in hopes of being able to think that i could’ve seen something coming but everything was completely fine. no cheating, nobody else, no real issues. i was completely blindsided. he said that he thought of it a few days before so it wasn’t even like i could label him as a liar or being lead on.

this happened a few days ago so i know that i’m jumping the gun quite a bit and i sound corny and extreme for saying this. i just know that i will have immense trust issues in the future that someone could just wake up one day and not want me anymore for no reason other than that. i know it sounds extreme but that is essentially exactly what i experienced. and i guess the worst part of it is being stable and having literally nothing wrong will be my main trigger, not conflict or issues.

i guess i am here for a little validation and some advice for moving forward because i don’t want this to impact my future. i know that not everyone is like that and i know it doesn’t reflect me as a human being. i know that i am worthy of more. i feel like i am very much rooted in the reality of the situation and the reality is: i now have trauma that i don’t know how to work through. what should i do?

Women of reddit, what’s the best way to approach you at a bar without coming across as creepy, desperate, awkward, Etc… ?

Been dating someone for a few months.

We’ve never talked about what this is, I’m sure they’re hooking up with other people - i don’t get jealous easily and it doesn’t bother me. We’re also friends in a way. we‘re not together but we’re not just hooking up. We share an emotional bond too. We’ve hung out without having sex.

A friend asked how i feel about them. I used to be able to very confidently say I didn’t have feelings for them but i realised that the only reason i haven’t developed feelings before is because of how they will talk to me all the time one week and then barely at all the next.

Sometimes I wonder if they just don’t think of me that way - which would be okay too tho i would appreciate them telling me - if this is just their communication style or if they do this on purpose - get me hooked so i keep hoping for it to be like that again - or if they just get bored of me sometimes.

I like the dynamic we have and I actually worry that were they ever more consistent for longer than 2 weeks I‘d fall in love which would probably end what we have - they don’t seem like the commitment type.

But at the same time its also frustrating - not hurtful. But frustrating - because I would wish for more consistent behaviour. Either always only talk to me twice a week or all the time. Not one week like that and the other like this.

i dont know if i made a wrong choice to live with a single mom??? any insights..

I have been talking to this girl for a while. We both were going through some things, so we didn't meet. Now, she wants to meet over coffee. I suggested Barnes and Noble. Would you consider it a good idea?

I like to read and she's into reading as well

Dating my partner and she’s really attached to her friends. They kinda treat me like shit and just say “It’s because we have siblings and you’re an only child” (my partner too). For Halloween, her friends dressed up as red flags and kept trying to make a big deal out of it to people like they were prime Dave Chapelle. They thought they were so funny too. But there’s an issue here…

They then proceeded to call my friend (he’s white, they’re brown like me) “white boy” and “white man”. He took it as a joke the first few times but when he wanted to ask serious questions they would say “The bathroom’s over there white man.” “Dance white boy”. “Go there white boy”. He started looking at me questioningly since they were low key bullying him on first meet and I just cautioned him to ignore them. Not too far off from how they treated me.

These friends overstep their boundaries and are known for being third wheels in my partner’s and I relationship. They showed up unannounced to my apartment while I was with my partner on a date watching a game. She gets a notification on her phone, tells me “My friends are here” and they are at my front door in my 3rd story apartment. I let them in cuz I don’t wanna be an asshole. But when the game is over they’re discussing going out later with me present. I say “I’ll see if I can make it”. My partner tells me “It might be a friends only thing.” Bruh.

Some guy in the group got a new gf and one of the girls is literally taking pictures of herself in bed with them.

The red flag thing though is funny because these people saying I’m a red flag for saying “shut the f up” when a funny story comes up as a colloquiallism yet when they tell me to shut the fuck up with impunity - everyone in the group just laughs. Partner doesn’t recognize the double standard either and goes silent when I try to tell her they do the same shit to me.

Anyways - what’s the analysis here. Dip?

I ended a relationship with a guy because I knew we were not compatible however, he is the person I lost my virginity to and my first love…the first person I actually felt something with….a year later, everytime I think I’ve moved on, I haven’t. We still stay in contact but he has a girlfriend now, and I still can’t seem to get over what we used to have. I want to move on, but it’s difficult seeing him happy with someone else and it feels like I’m just getting the bad end of the stick, cause I’m having no luck in finding a new partner. It fails miserably everytime I meet someone new. Feels like I’m getting karma for ending the relationship with him.

I (20m) have been seeing this girl (20f) and we see eachother about once a week. Everything seems to be going well, we spent the night together a couple days ago and we were up until 4am just talking and enjoying eachothers company. However, where the confusion sets in is that she barely replies to me on text or social media. I’m left hanging for up to a day at a time. It just seems so contradictory, how can you be so interested in person but not even spare a minute to text back? I know people can be bad texters but personally when I’m super interested in someone I will text them back within an hour or so every time. What does this mean? She obviously likes me as we’ve discussed this in person, but I’m just confused because her failure to respond outside of those times contradicts that and it leaves me worrying a little bit. Anyone got any idea?

So, I recently met this guy through a mutual friend, and we hit it off at an event due to our shared interests. We've been chatting on Instagram DMs for almost a month since it's our only means of contact. He usually initiates the conversation, but his replies are painfully slow, often taking long hours. Despite attempts to end the conversation subtly, he keeps it going, albeit with short and slow responses. He mentioned to my friends that he might be interested, yet he hasn't made any moves beyond Instagram. I'm left wondering if he's genuinely interested or just too shy to ghost me. Any insights on what he might be feeling or wanting? Could this sibling be influencing him to maintain the conversation even when it's about to fizzle out? Additionally, considering his younger age, could his lack of experience in dating be a factor in his behavior?"

He moved all my stuff into his home a week prior to telling me he wasn’t ready for a relationship. I had to move everything out a week later. i live 3 hours away.

i have to work with him for the next 3 months.

I 23 f matched with this guy 24 m on hinge and we’ve been on 5 dates, and I believe he enjoys spending time with me as much as I do. The problem is he’s Canadian and is being sent back at the end of June and I don’t know what that means for us since I don’t know how he feels about me really as he’s more reserved and quiet. Is five dates too soon to ask how he feels and if he’d consider a long distance relationship since there’s a small possibility he might come back or should I just enjoy the time while I can.

so i’m (23m) currently in a situationship with a girl (22f)who really likes me. i’ve told her i don’t want a relationship atm since i just got out of a long term relationship and not ready to be in a new comitted relationship, she understood but was sad about it. we text basically everyday but meet maybe once every week or so since we both have work during the weekdays.

a few days ago i started talking to a girl (20f) who i matched with on hinged, which i just downloaded for fun since my friends like streaming swiping on discord and they told me to do it, i didnt really take it that seriously and never met anyone until that girl who i met today. she really interested me because we had a lot in common and i found her really attractive. she asked me out since it was a warm day and we were both free and i said fuck it and went.

it was perfect, it was awkward at first as always but as the day progressed we ended talking about every topic imaginable. we had so many similiarities and had similiar goals and mindsets and we had the same humor. we even accidentally matched outfit. i really felt a connection. i think she felt the same way, we ended up holding hands and we were out walking and talking for 8 hours, we also kept texting and making new plans for a picnic next week.

i don’t know what to tell to my situationship, she is very depressed atm and she has a lot of feelings for me but i need to tell her that we can’t continue what we’re doing if i’m gonna meet the other girl. should i tell her that i’m seeing someone else or just tell her i need to break things off. i’m scared that if she finds out shes gonna end up getting even more depressed and blame herself for it.

i really tried to get feelings for her, i reflected and thought about our relationship but i don’t think were compatible in that way.

thanks in advance for any advice!

Thoughts?