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r/Purpose is the place where purpose related questions get life-changing answers!

r/Purpose is the place where purpose related questions get life-changing answers!

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REMEMBER -- YOUR PURPOSE IS PERMANENT NO ONE CAN CHANGE THAT

I WILL LEAVE YOU WITH THAT. BE PURPOSE DRIVEN.

WALK IN YOUR PURPOSE.

IT ALREADY IS. IT IS UNCHANGEABLE.

EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN PURPOSE. NO TWO PEOPLE OR PURPOSES ARE ALIKE.

JUST LIVE IT.

TAKE A STEP BACK IF YOU NEED TO AND REFLECT ON YOUR PURPOSE.

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2024/04/17
17:00 UTC

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Humans and their infants

Nature only wants us to reproduce. If the true purpose in life is to have babies, then it isn't also hapiness.

Being a parent always sounds so depressing, everyone always looks so burnt out and regretful.

"Yes sometimes I regret them, yes they have severely stressed me out, but I wouldn't swap them for the world!"

That's usually what every parent ends up saying at some point on some kind of online forum. Do you not think that the reason you wouldn't give them up for the world is because your parental instincts won't allow you? And that when you think past them, it reveals how much you wish you could go back in time?

I know that's what my mum secretly thinks. And I do not blame her or anyone for a second. Parenthood is made out to be all this and that, but all it is is stress and regret.

Humans have logic and free will compared to other animals that rely heavily on instinct. Why can't people make hapiness their life goal, whatever that looks like? Rather than keep having kids? Because I'm yet to meet a parent who seems genuinely happy.

3 Comments
2024/04/16
06:00 UTC

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How to live a purposeful life

I often receive this question: How do you find your life purpose? My answers have evolved significantly over the years.

In the past, I often associated my purpose with a future goal I wanted to achieve. At that time, I believed that discovering my purpose meant finding strategies and tools to accomplish my goals. However, my perspective changed when I stumbled upon a quote that said, “Living purposefully is about living mindfully and intentionally.” This realization made me understand that our purpose isn’t in the future; it’s in the here and now. When we live in the moment and make the best of each moment, things usually unfold in amazing ways.

So nowadays, when people ask me how to find their life purpose, my answer is simply to do what’s in front of you with all your heart and effort. When you become mindful in your day-to-day life, you automatically feel a deep sense of meaning and purpose.

Besides living mindfully, I believe living purposefully is also about living authentically. When we express a desire to find our life purpose, what we’re truly seeking is to discover our truest and most authentic selves. When we have crystal-clear clarity on who we are, what we value, what we’re good at, and what lights us up, we naturally move onto the path that’s most aligned with our purpose.

How do you find your authentic self? The best question you can ask yourself is, “What feels natural to me?” No judgments or people-pleasing, no second-guessing or self-criticism — just feelings of engagement and enjoyment. Whenever you feel natural and genuine, you are headed in the right direction.

A passage from a book I’ve been reading this week resonates with this: “Your ultimate goal in life should be to simply enjoy your existence, to pursue the things that make you happy, to discover your truest self, to honor who you are, and from that place of authenticity, create the most beautiful things. To develop an unwavering love for your life, and through that, plant seeds of inspiration in all the people you encounter.”

Written by Tracey Zhang, a purpose-driven writer, coach, and spiritual healer who helps individuals build a strong inner self through major life transitions.

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2024/04/08
18:34 UTC

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I just found my purpose helping others not fixing their life just making them feel better even for a second. Thats my life's purpose.

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2024/04/06
11:29 UTC

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What are you seeking in life?

About two years ago I was in a relationship that was going to end in marriage and children. Throughout the relationship I got terribly depressed, because I HATED the idea of becoming a suburban house wife, kids off to school, dog and house to look after whilst my partner pursues their career and I somehow maintain mine. It just felt like my life was going to be so small and meaningless. It felt empty. I felt empty.

The relationship fell apart in the worst possible way and I nearly died due to a suicide attempt. I learned a lot about myself and I moved back to the city I loved, where I had a career and friends and a support network. Since then I have made even more friends, progressed my career, gotten a dog, focused on my fitness and on mental health recovery, tried to save money. But again… it all feels hollow.

I know now that I don’t want to live the standard family life… But truth be told I don’t know what I want. I’m nearly 30, I moved countries alone when I was 18, I built homes and networks in 4 different cities. I finally found a city I think I can call my forever home and have been working to properly establish myself here. But it seems like all my goals are materialistic: more money to fund a nicer lifestyle, a better physique that keeps me attractive and healthy… but what else? I’m so bored. I have no intellectual or spiritual purpose to keep me going (I’m not religious). I feel like I’m starving for something that I can’t satisfy with what I have. I feel like I’m getting frantic trying to soothe the hunger and it’s making me miserable.

Does anyone else feel like this? Does anyone want to connect, or share tips, or tell me what their purpose is that does not centre around children or marriage, or money and body goals? What are you seeking in life?

3 Comments
2024/04/01
22:53 UTC

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???:"Why ? Or what is the purpose ? Are they same? Why is there a purpose? What is the purpose of asking the purpose of your life? I am ???"

Question(to reader):"People are like that, they often want to undertsand the purpose of their lives to just undertsand, do you know what i mean? I am ???"

??? : Writer(to reader):" I just raised this question. May be it's so simple. I don't know. So, I wish you could say hi to reader first"

Question( To itself): I am ???, I am you dude. There are more. It is simple.

Question sees the writer in the room. He thinks "I wanna decide doing things. I wanna decide everything, I wanna hopefully. I am you. I know that. Let's just try". So the writer decides he wants to continue creating this story. I wanna do this.

Question(To the readers): " I wanna tell you, I don't exist atleast in 3D world." Will writer talk to the question? "The writer is really tired" says Question to the reader.

Writer: "Yea, i still don't understand what and why even after he said something that I know, he is still not answering the question, but i just wrote something about "understand", the word!!!

"Im tired", Straight face is cool, but am I? I am tired tho. I need to learn a lot in writing. , also i wonder how fast can human beings read this when they're really advanced? Like I personally believe they'll be too advanced in the future? "???" My feeling right now. Will the writer find the ??? ".

??? thinks "I'm thinking, But I do not know why, I know I am the question. He is over thinking" Writer( looking at you ):"You know I really appreciate, The question just spoke to you reader. Should he just sleep he shouldn't sleep but just wait for some time they'll be gone, I can do some works, "I wanna do it", This is what I thought I really wanted to do it, everything I'm doing right now, writing this, believing I can write this, but i just wanna do it I'm just a normal human being, I know that, I also wanna wash dishes, I also like being energetic and all, He needs to sleep. Lol, it's a funny coversation between us, i decided to be the writer and I'm glad ur there to read this. I wanna make this into a story. Or article for a question. I don't know yet but the title's the writer's feelings. I accept that I might behave in some other ways with my friends but i don't know. I am the writer. I am not a narcissist tho. Yes, this story might be mine and I might support me most of the time bug i dont know why? I believe most of the humans are all like this? "

"So Mr. Writer? Why did create me? What am I to act? I talk funny. Am I you? I believe i want to be in this story. Okay."

Writer:"I'll wait for 23 minutes more before leaving to the kitchen. I don't know I am making this question" The writer gets a little steady and writes very sleepily, "It's my question" , In the notes.

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2024/03/29
05:55 UTC

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Your job does not have to be something you dread

There seems to be this notion that your "job" is destined to be something you dislike and it's best to just get one that pays well, so at least you won't have to worry about that.

But, if your job is the thinking your spending 6, 7, 8, 9+ hours on almost everyday, should it not be something you enjoy? Something that excites you? Something that makes you anxious and alert, not... Dreadful?

Your money is not your life Your time is your life So be very careful what you put your time towards

A quote that encapsulates this: "Nobody gets to enjoy a surgeons large salary except his kids, his wife, and his wife's boyfriend. Because he's too busy at work 10 - 12 hours/day to enjoy the fruits of his labor. So he'd best enjoy his labor."

Life is not "the weekends", life is not something to be beared or endured Life is everyday, every fleeting moment of every day, Life is something to be enjoyed and to be embraced in all of its brightness and it's darkness

Not only must we live a life that's worth living We should live a life that's worthwhile.

0 Comments
2024/03/27
03:59 UTC

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I feel like I'll never be succesful

For years now I have felt useless, as if what I do isn't enough and I always need to do more.

How do I find purpose? How do I finally feel content with my life?

4 Comments
2024/03/26
00:33 UTC

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All my effort was and is meaningless

My family has always put a huge emphasis on academic success. In 8th grade I started rapidly increasing the amount of work I've been putting into my schoolwork. When I look back, I see that my every assignment, especially ones that required some creativity, was an overachievement. My GPA allowed me to enroll into a number one university in my country. Relationship with my family didn't change much - I feel they don't really see all this struggle I've put in as my achievement truly. They still scolded me for miniscule mistakes and it didn't really sink in for them that it's a miracle I hadn't given up on school as my peers had.

I've always wanted to make movies. I wanted to be a director, specifically. There's a fan-made movie on YouTube by me that's an hour and 50 minutes long (remember the part about overachieving?). However, I chose cybersecurity as my bachelor's, because I was afraid I couldn't find work as a movie director (my family's beliefs). During my bachelor's years I continued to film stuff, 4 arthouse pieces a year. Upped my cinematography with every single one. I thought it could land me a movie-making job due to the sheer size of my portfolio. It didn't. The university and courses I've been attending also amounted to being one big and sick joke. I completed every single assignment on time, handed it in first, and haven't learnt shit. I know nothing about cybersec. My uni peers, who gave up on "academic" studying, actually learned some coding or cybersec skills and got themselves a job. Me, on the other hand, I kept putting in less and less effort, but somehow stayed on top of the class due to the lack of other students' involvement lol. My bachelor's graduation ceremony looked like a 2-year old birthday party. It was so awful, it led me to breaking a soap-dispencer in my uni's restroom like I was in a Breaking Bad parody. I enrolled to Master's. I continue to do assignments like I did in my school years, just out of habit, I guess.

My lovelife is absent. I tried to, when the time was right, it all landed the same. I'm fairly good-looking, I work out, I have an interesting hobby, and I definitely can be the center of attention at parties, 'cause I do love to tell huge funny stories on a wide audience. One girl I've been loving with all my heart (rejected, ofc) has once tried to kill herself by swallowing a bunch of pills in the middle of the night. I knew my best friend (who already had a girlfriend at that time) had an affair with her (he tried to keep it a secret, but I knew). Still, out of all the mutual friends we had, it was me who came to save her. I was only 20 years old...

Now, there's a literal war in my country. Every day a sky-diving-missile-of-death can end my life, if I'm unlucky. And, I feel like when I get my Master's, I will head straight to unemployment and my "good years" will be over.

I seem to do all the right stuff and still have that "drive" in me, but it all amounts to disappoinment. In the end, I'm just another Joe

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2024/03/13
10:30 UTC

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What is life without a purpose

A powerful force is guiding you toward something you need to do. This may come through as an inner fire for doing something that intrigues you. You can feel the pull, but you might not be able to identify exactly why you are so drawn to a certain goal. This may be a part of your purpose, and you should find that once you tap into that energy, you will begin to develop a knack for things - a "knowing" that will take you the rest of the way. Follow that feeling! When you find your purpose in life, things get easier and better. Without purpose it’s hard to live. It’s hard to get out of bed, sometimes you need a special someone or friend to encourage you. So be that friend, that knows how you feel, on the same wavelength and take a chance. Your mindset is very powerful, if you think hard enough, the universe shall guide you

4 Comments
2024/03/05
01:00 UTC

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Have you found your purpose?

If, so please share your story and purpose Though if not, I'm curious as to why? What's holding you back? And what do you think could help?

5 Comments
2024/03/04
22:00 UTC

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Purpose evolve

Can’t find purpose, pleasure or peace. Life has no meaning. What are we all doing? Can we all team up to change the world for the better and do something other then chase money, tail, fame… pointless. Can we evolve and do something productive already?

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2024/02/19
02:00 UTC

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I'm lost in life and don't know what to do

I turned 18 years old. And I feel completely lost in my life. I don't know what to do.

I want that one think that I can grind on and I'll love it and it will help me achieve my dreams but I don't know what that thing is. In a simple way, I lack purpose.

I see all these people that have their purpose in life and work hard every day, they grind and they're achieving their goals, and fucking love what they do. All the football players, basketball players, guys that do some martial arts, even some YouTubers. Personally I know a guy that makes music beats and he actually is making a good progress. They all just have something they love and they grind 24/7.

I don't have that thing. I don't have anything to work on and I feel so lost. I have that energy, I want to grind on something but simply don't know what it is. I don't have my dream sport that I wanna be a pro in, any dream job and stuff like that. I wanna be successful in life, I wanna make a very good money, I wanna do something great with my life, I'd say that I'm very ambitious but just dont have purpose.

And because of this my social life struggles I bit too. Don't get me wrong, I got friends, I'm not like some awkward dude but I think it lacks a bit. And the part of it is that I don't talk to girls too. I don't have that much confidence even that I'm trying to work on it. I see my friends getting into a relationships and enjoying their time with girls and I just don't have that. And I got huge fear of missing out on it. I wanna learn to approach girls and talk to them but simply I don't got balls hah. I'm pretty good looking, I take care of myself, I workout, I'd say I'm not awkward but still don't have enough confidence. I feel like if I'll date some girl she'll think that I'm a looser and I don't have any purpose and nothing going for myself.

I'm in highschool now. Problem is that in my school there's 99% guys. No girls at all. For these couple years I saw a few girls in school, I'm not kidding. And because of this I don't have any other option but get to know random people. My friends got girls in school, and in their classes so they talk to them. I don't wanna make excuses but maybe it's sounds like it (or maybe I'm actually making excuses LOL) but they can meet girls easily while I don't even see them cuz there aren't any in my school. Earlier in life I talked to girls and hang out with them and it wasn't a problem. But since I got in this school I feel like everything started getting a bit worse.

I'll be very grateful for all the answers and advice. And maybe someone is in similar position as me and this post can help some of you. Thanks for reading.

5 Comments
2024/02/13
16:30 UTC

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I’m 23 and I don’t know why am I here

My first post on Reddit. Tbh I have no idea how to use it, but I’m desperately seeking help and advice from someone who can see my story objectively. Three years ago I relocated to another country with different language. I haven’t had anybody apart from my family until I met my boyfriend. He’s pretty wealthy guy, so I don’t need to worry about whether I’ll starve to death and end up on a street. But then I’m absolutely lost, I don’t have any interests and hobbies, any desire to discover it either(Starting some courses and dropping it quickly without any achievements). I don’t have a job, passion and it’s also killing me, cause I’m dependent and I wish to change it. Pls any recommendations how to find myself, how to find that power and motivation to live, not to exist.

7 Comments
2024/02/07
19:41 UTC

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Searching For Purpose

Hey everyone, Reflecting on life lately, I've been grappling with a sense of dissatisfaction. Grateful for my journey so far, I don't mean to come off as unappreciative. At 35, blessed with a supportive wife, 3 wonderful kids, and a solid career, I can't help but wonder if there's more than the pursuit of promotions and money. Typical challenges aside, I find myself questioning my purpose and the deeper meaning of it all. Am I alone in feeling this way? Share your thoughts honestly in the comments.

3 Comments
2024/01/22
18:37 UTC

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How to find your own pourpose?

Pleaseeeee

2 Comments
2024/01/18
21:11 UTC

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Feeling like I have no home and chasing a feeling

Hey everyone, I feeling wanted to share some feeling for anyone to read and feel less alone, or maybe for someone to read and have any words of advice/ understanding.
I am from the US btw. I went to college away from my hometown. During college, my mom moved from my hometown to where some of my family is in another state. So when I would go "home" during breaks I would go to her new home. This place she moved is in the middle of nowhere. It is for retirees, very commercial and puts me is a deep depression when I am there for too long. I keep in contact closely with many of my friends from my hometown, but that isn't home anymore. It's really just me and my mom. So I have no family back where I grew up. All my friends are starting their careers, moving, getting married, and there are so many memories of my dad who passed away back there. So it's not home anymore.
In college I had a really good community of friends, but I still felt this deep boredom with life and un-dealt with grief. I know that's something I am going to keep going to therapy for, and it's going to follow me anywhere. I graduated about 7 months ago and decided to move abroad to teach english. I am now living in abroad. I am enjoying it, but I don't want to stay another year. I know I am chasing a feeling.
So here is the question. Besides continuing counselling, trying meditation, reaching to loved ones, getting involved in my community, exploring my hobbies, deleting social media, etc because I am trying those things all the time... what do I do?
My newest idea is moving to australia. But tbh I think thats just me chasing a feeling again. But honesly it feels like what the hell is there to lose anyways. I feel lonely everywhere. Should I? Or is it time to move back to the US? Should I go back to grad-school solely because it will give me a community?

0 Comments
2024/01/16
14:44 UTC

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How do i find people that have the same purpose

What i've found is that being in nature gives me a feeling of purpose, but it would be only complete if i did it with other people. The problem is i don't know anyone who would want to go often out into nature and just be there and do things. All of my friends like to just drink and party. When i do those things i just feel like without a soul.

8 Comments
2024/01/03
21:13 UTC

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Existance simply "is"

I feel as if I have woken up, my mind and consciousness is stronger than my body; everything makes sence and no sence at all.

It's like I've lived all my life before on autopilot, going day to day living without realizing my own and everyone else's true existence.

I am aware of my limited existence, and the limited existence of everything I know and understand. This makes everything seem so pointless, like no matter anything I achieve for myself, for the world, it amounts to nothing.

Yet that's the beauty of it, I have my shot at experiencing it all now and never more after this moment. Every half second I am conscious means more than anything ever could, no matter good or bad, just experiencing it is spectacular.

Realizing all this, it has lit a new flame that makes me want to experience more, fill my life with all the incredible sights, feel that powerlessness that makes you weak at the knees, feel the little tingles in your head when somthing special happens. I want to help people, have them feel in control of their existence, save nature and have as many people experience life as I have and will.

Plants, animals, humans. All alive and equally deserving of existance.

Yet the disparity of it all still eats at my soul; the temporary existance of it all and meaninglessness it comes with.

It fears me how I feel like this now, truely enlightened with a new view of the world, yet to go on and live out the rest of my life fears me. I have spent so much time already, and have a long yet finite amount left.

But in a few days time, I will stop seeing so clearly, I will have to go on. Keep living life with this new foresight, and not seeing it the same or as true as I can in this very moment.

I almost wish I had never started thinking about this, challenging existence, seeking meaning beyond religion.

Yet I feel as if I would rather see truth then to live in the dark. Understanding the human condition, it is impossible yet I still try.

9 Comments
2024/01/03
20:20 UTC

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Purpose on the Plant

I'm on a quest to meet new people and find out their purpose on the planet. I'm a retired teacher/new content creator, senior citizen navigating this technology and learning everyday. Glad I found this community

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2024/01/02
14:41 UTC

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Finding purpose in life

What is purpose of my life I am not here to just study. I feel like I am in a prison. If you have any ideas how can I make myself busy and make money to survive please let me know as I am having strange thoughts to end my life please let me know something I busy myself and make money for my survival.

3 Comments
2023/12/24
04:18 UTC

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Understanding my purpose?

I have done it all experimented with different experiences but what makes me lose track of time what makes me feel satisfied has changed over time again and again.

So what is my true purpose? What is the method I need to pursue to find it?

Off recently after becoming a mother I have started to live in a more passive & zen way and strongly feel like this is the way to move ahead to Enjoy life in bits & pieces .. then I start to feel guilty is there something that I’m really missing that everyone is trying to figure out.

6 Comments
2023/12/04
09:01 UTC

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Any advice for a job that has PURPOSE

I have done lots of capitalistic, people-pleasing jobs in restaurant work and shipping toys/souvenirs, and i want to do something to make a more purposeful difference. I'm trying to get a degree in sociology in california rn, and i'd be down to leave america to try to find something that feels more right. I'm a 20 year old pansexual woman with an aries sun and scorpio moon if that's anything to ya, lol. And i believe hugs are the most important part of life. Cloudgazing and cooking are up there, too. HOW might i make the world a better place AND get paid? Is it possible?!

Edit: i am getting my degree so i may have opportunities to teach english in japan, but i'd also be completely down to work all my life in a technical career (because i've seen the stats that we need more people in career-technical jobs. I'd like to be a painter but i'm also a scrawny bitch)

2 Comments
2023/11/13
18:58 UTC

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Why am I asking what my purpose is at such a young age

🤔

6 Comments
2023/11/09
04:13 UTC

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Can’t find purpose or motivation.

Hi everyone,

Always around this time of the year, my mental health starts to struggle. I don’t know if it is the arrival of the end of the year and the unconscious reasolutions or reflections on the year past, but I start to feel overwhelmed. I feel like for the past couple of years I have started not to be in touch with my feelings, in order to avoid the stress of this situation. I turned on the “whatever” mode. I understood that because O started to cry way less. I cry a lot when I allow my self to feel what it is that I am feeling. And despite not controlling it, it is something that makes me feel better afterwards. Not allowing my self to do this is, of course, problematic because in the end it only adds to this caldron of mess that will eventually spill.

I can’t seem to be able to get motivated or find purpose on whatever I do. I work because I need to and have a sense of responsibility, but it doesn’t excite me, motivate me or give me an any sense of purpose. I like learning new things, so I take courses or workshops, but then I have a hard time doing anything with them even though I like the stuff. I think I even have the skills to earn some money by doing these other things, but I just can’t find the motivation to do it. During working weeks I feel tired all the time. I just want to get home and do nothing, but then I get anxious because I spend many hours doing nothing when I could be something useful, more interesting then just lying in the couch watching TV (or reading, which is the only “hobbie” I think I am doing right).

How do you motivate yourself? How do you convince yourself to do your own things, develop your own projects and follow through? Sometimes I think that having a community/networking would help, but to be honest, as an expat, I don’t have that, so I decided to reach out.

It’s a long post. If you have reached the end, thank you and I am sorry if this sounds like a lucky gal with a first world problem.

I hope you all are doing well*

3 Comments
2023/11/05
07:18 UTC

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Do life’s purposes follow a hierarchy?

Hi everyone.

Today i want to ask you that whether we can choose our purpose or does the purpose choose us? Also, if we can choose our purpose, another question which arises is that should we choose as “noble” a purpose as possible?

For instance, i often think that a purpose like “becoming the best football player “ is more self centred in comparison to a purpose like “i want to help x number of people achieve y task”. And hence the latter is a purpose derived from a higher consciousness as compared to the former.

I want to hear your opinions on this. Thanks!

5 Comments
2023/10/30
13:59 UTC

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Our life become better, why our heart is still feel empty?

No matter how advanced or well-structured society becomes, it cannot fill the void within man's heart. Science, knowledge, freedom, and material comforts might offer temporary respite, but they are unable to address the deeper spiritual longing that exists in every human being. ☘️.•*¨*•.¸¸ღ💕¨*•.¸¸ღ💕 .•*¨*•.¸¸ ღ💕.•*¨*•.¸¸ღ💕.•*¨*•.¸¸☘️ God says ‘A world in man’s heart with no place for God is dark, empty without hope. … For without the guidance of God, no matter how much rulers and sociologists wrack their brains to preserve human civilization, it is to no avail. No one can fill the emptiness in man’s heart, for no one can be the life of man, and no social theory can free man from the emptiness with which he is afflicted. Science, knowledge, freedom, democracy, leisure, comfort, these are but a temporary respite. Even with these things, man will inevitably sin and bemoan the injustices of society. These things cannot restrain man’s craving and desire to explore. Because man was made by God and the senseless sacrifices and explorations of man can only lead to more distress. Man will exist in a constant state of fear, will not know how to face the future of mankind, or how to face the path that lies ahead. Man will even come to fear science and knowledge, and fear even more the feeling of emptiness within him. … Man, after all, is man. The position and life of God cannot be replaced by any man. Mankind does not just require a fair society in which everyone is well-fed and is equal and free, but the salvation of God and His provision of life to them. Only when man receives the salvation of God and His provision of life to them can the needs, yearning to explore, and spiritual emptiness of man be resolved.’ If you agree, plz type Amen

1 Comment
2023/10/19
01:19 UTC

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Finding My Purpose Through Experimentation

I woke up in my bed with a start. It was still dark out. Over the weekend I had been wrestling with countless thoughts, and all of the answers came to me while I was sleeping.

Laying there in the dark, it hit me right in the face. I used to be an exciting and excited person. Even though I was dissatisfied, striving for more, and actually clinically depressed, I had drive. Vitality. It dawned on me that my light is dimmed, and I’m the one holding the dimmer switch.

I’m living a life I don’t want to be living, and in doing that I am making myself, literally, physically sick. I have never felt as unwell as I did this weekend, as I do now; and yet, I’m doing all of the “best” things for my health and self-improvement. I’m also spending more money and time on my health than I ever have. It came to me that working a job that I hate, not doing something that lights me up, and a lack of meaningful contribution to others… is the main thing causing this physical, and mental, illness.

I have felt this lack of passion and being in a funk for so long and it might, literally, be killing me. I have so many of the things I wished for even just a few years ago: a job that pays me well, a nice house, a great boyfriend, a supportive family (well, I’ve always had that one), and the best dog in the world. Yet, I’m just as unhappy as I have ever been.

So, the moment has arrived to delve deep into discovering my purpose. The journey won’t be a walk in the park; instead, it will be piling more things onto my already-full plate. It probably won’t be something big like moving to Europe (still holding out for someday) but it’s a start. My plan is to take an experimental approach to this. Solving my problems with hypotheses, solutions, and experiments that I can learn from. If you’re a scientist, you’re likely familiar with this process.

Problem - This is the starting point. We identify a pain point that people are facing. We do a lot of research to thoroughly understand the problem.

If I apply this to myself, here’s the problem statement: I am currently experiencing dissatisfaction, listlessness, and a lack of direction in my life.

Hypothesis - Now we form a hypothesis about how to solve the problem. This is essentially the initial idea or concept for a solution.

I hypothesize that I need to try some new things to discover my purpose in life.

Solution - In this step, we move on to develop a solution. In my case, I’ll identify something that might help me discover my purpose.

The solution I need to solve my problem is to find purpose in my life.

Experiment & Learn - Here our sole focus is learning and creating value. Instead of launching a full-blown solution, we conduct many experiments to learn. We gather data and feedback on the experiments and use it to inform the full-blown solution. We also define the guardrails of the experiment.

Experiment one: Meditate for at least 5 minutes, every day, for 30 days, with the intention of slowing down and clearing out all the chatter in my head. Also known as the Monkey Mind. This can be with a guided meditation app or in silence.

Iterate - Based on the results of the experiment and the feedback we receive, we iterate on our solution. We make improvements, pivot if necessary, and continue to test until we find the best solution.

In my case, I highly doubt that meditating for 30 days is going to reveal my life’s purpose to me. So, I’ll take what I learn from the meditations and keep experimenting.

Would anyone be interested in following along with my experiments?

7 Comments
2023/10/02
18:09 UTC

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Finding WHY.

How to find your WHY?

HI. How can I find my WHY? Why I do what I do. What's the point? I'm not taking about career or finding career because I found what I want to do but I have no drive to do it. I mean, I do it but I'm not consistent.

I want to find something that will push me to go hard on what I do. I want to find something so when I wake up I'm already in the mood of doing my business.

I know some of you will say to find my passion to turn into business. Well, I like cycling, playing games, just normal stuff that make me relax. I don't think I can turn them into something where I can make money.

The great question is: imagine you have $100 000 000 in your bank account. What would you do?

Great question but I don't know personally.

Any ideas?

6 Comments
2023/09/28
12:41 UTC

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Lost purpose and motivation

Recently became ill, even though I am recovering I have started feeling everything is useless, I mean me working trying to make good life for 40yrs there is no meaning because tomorrow may be my final day. I feel like I should sit in a corner and wait for it. I feel people who get disease or die young are failures. I am finding some are enjoying life to fullest and doing as they wish but not getting judged by universe but some struggling with there life, I want to believe if I do good only good happen to me, but it's not true and it's making me sad and not want to do anything other than sulking. I am unable to laugh out with my full heart to a joke because tomorrow I may fall severely sick or may die also. Any ideas on how to overcome this thought

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2023/09/26
13:39 UTC

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