Well, as the title says, I relapsed yesterday or 24 hours ago. After relapse, feeling a bit down but not as intense as I used to have. Like, for 7 years I have relapsed like 2000,3000 times so another one fail is not a big deal. So I just wait another 24 hours, writing this post and starting from day 1 (I hate the idea of starting from day 0 :)

I just joined this group because I wish I could stop masterbating in secret to porn. I (33m) started to like porn at an early age and have went hard literally everyday since. I started with the free dvds in magazines and dial up. My grandma probably wonders to this day where all her printer ink went Haha. In my teens though I noticed when I got into a rerelationship I always forgot all about porn and when it ended (usully 2 to 12 months) I'd have to actually work my way into porn being enough again. Until my 1st actual long term relationship. We were fine for quite awhile. She is what I look for except for her couple imperfections, having imo an ugly vagina and her stomach has battle scars and had to lose flab from 3 children. 1 being mine later. That's where I think porn may have ruined me? Sure I'm allowed to like a short labia but jeez now I'm in trouble. I started watching it randomly now 3 years into us. She wonders why I don't put out more like i used to. Accusing me of cheating etc. she is very sensitive and considers the smallest look at another woman cheating. My morals are you can look and even masterbate but you just don't touch. If only we were on the same page I could talk to her Instead of you guys. What can I do to save it? Summery is: My porn addiction and imagination to previous flings sprung up after 3 years over me wanting to see my favorite looking vagina. Can I save it? Why tf am I doing this is? I love my wife. Idk if she'll understand though because she very much considerers it cheating and maybe leave me if I even mention it. (It's kinda bs because I have to hear about how hot Johnny dep and random celebs are when we watch movies) idk I'm just venting I'm going to talk to her soon because I respect her. Just wanted your opinion. Thank you. New to posting on reddit Probably too many words. Give me advice on that too haha. Thanks.

Yo, it's Don’t Diddle December,

Drop the vape, let your flame ember.

The road ahead? Yeah, it’s rough to remember,

But week one’s the grind, don’t let it dismember.

Urges'll come, they gon’ claw and rise,

But your focus sharp, locked on the prize.

Flatlines creep, make you feel it’s gone,

But nah, doubt’s a thief, you pressin’ on.

No pics, no triggers, keep steady your track,

Each day a win, no need lookin' back.

If you stumble, that ain’t the end,

The goal remains, rise up, defend.

Wet dream? Yo, that ain’t the test,

Keep eyes forward, forget the rest.

Your future self? Man, they’ll give thanks,

For the December grind, the shattered ranks.

And when 2025 dawns clear and sound,

You'll stand tall, unshaken, profound.

These 90 days ain't just some fight,

They spark the blaze, they birth your light.

Need to manage dopamine levels - I can't lol anyway staying strong on nofap

I have been addicted to porn since the age of 13, and addicted to masturbation since 7. Now I am 30 years old, and only god knows my feelings. Is there a chance for me to stop, to really stop. To just end this misery. And if I stop, will I notice a difference and my brain will function normally again? Or am I kinda late for such a thing?

but apparently ppl use it as “piss me off” or “put me on” and not what we usually think it means here lol. i would see it being said so casually and i was like “wait do they mean… ?” idk just something i noticed and no one in the tiktok comments is mentioning nofap. thoughts?

So I am getting married to my girlfriend in next 6 months I have been fapping since 15 years of age and now I feel I have mild ED because of it I have healthy lifestyle I workout and eat healthy I still have low testosterone count.

I want to get rid of masturbation habit completely in recent months I have been able to maintain small streams weekly or 15 days max .... But I relapsed back again .... I want to do my first discipline December 30 days streak I am on my 4th day please help me.

I’ve never really done anything like this but I don’t know what to do. My last girlfriend broke up with me because I couldn’t finish. I don’t have a problem getting and staying hard and I feel it all. And I do fine on my own. But anytime I get with a girl I just can’t finish. And it’s holding me back from wanting to get with a girl because my last girlfriend broke with me and felt embarrassed that she couldn’t. (By the way in a very active guy who eats healthy vitamins works out) I do have light depression but idk if that affects it. Can anyone help me?

I don’t really need to count the days anymore but I think it’s fun to keep track like this every day. In my heart I know that I’m giving up on my future if I relapse so it just isn’t an option.

If I can’t control myself now I’m not deserving of the kind of traditional Christian woman I want. I know that’s being very harsh on myself, but to me it helps to have the view that if I relapse, I can’t get what I want. And that keeps me going and that keeps me pure.

I stopped watching porn on 20.10.2024 and noticed two weeks later that it is November now, remembered the old sarcastic trend called No Nut November.
I thought "the timing is perfect, it is a sign from the universe".
I have a girlfriend, me stopping to watch porn improved my sex life drastically.
I get a lot more hornier from her, she is the only naked woman my eyes can see, she became the perfect woman for me.
I started fantasizing about our sex instead of thinking about porn when I'm horny.
I can last longer in sex because I don't cum as fast as I can to porn.
I don't have the urges to watch porn anymore, I don't find it exciting, it doesn't even come up in my mind anymore, I've rewired my brain.

My flatline has started I feel soo calm I got the same feeling when I was on my depression pills last month ,only difference was that was a void and empty feeling

The past two days has sadly been really hard for me to maintain my streak, i kept looking at porn and downloading apps but ko matter how much dopamine i got i never relapsed. I dont know why i persisted yesterday but today while i was looking at it the image of me grabbing my dick and stroking it made me not want to even be struggling with this, it blocked me from doing something stupid and im glad it happened. I will discipline myself more and make sure that this will happen less and even less intense than today.

By far, these are the hardest days of NoFap I have completed.

This was my longest streak i have been addicted pmo almost 13yrs yesterday afternoon i peak a little bit porn and I stop myself i got out home and when I come back home in midnight i had the worst urges so i just masturbated without porn. I don't feel a shamed like before and I'm gonna start another streak today.

If I relapse I just wanna share here, because I am not going to give up trying, that if porn ever tries to convince you that it doesn't matter whether you use it or not, that your life is worthless anyways so why not have a little pleasure in your life, that you deserve comfort. Remember that it is biggest bullshiet. Same with loneliness and anxiety. It's going to disappear once you leave addiction for a couple of days and the world is going to change in your eyes so much. You gonna see everything in brighter colours, people are going to like you more, you are going to like you more, you are going to be more confident and articulate. Don't give up please, for your future self that is waiting for you to join him on top, for your past self that has been struggling extremely waiting for the better moment and especially for your mother because she loves you no matter what.

2 weeks ✅

Anyone able to provide advice?

Feeling very happy :)

I have a theory.

I think gyno and ED is related to fapping before maturity which makes your testicles exhausted (like eating too much sugar making the pancreas exhauseted and causes diabetics) not fully functional and reduced testesterone.

Fapping after being fully mature should not cause this problem.

What do you think?

Failed

Don’t . Have stockpiles of porn

Don’t. Have multiple accounts and replaces when having a relationship

Don’t . Be indented to your subscribers, especially if you have onlyfans, it only gets worse.

Don’t. Be a partner who has all this and doesn’t say anything.

Don’t . Let it get to your head.

Don’t. Lie.

Don’t. Make yourself justified, this hurts everyone’s.

Don’t. Look up alternative options and think it’s less, it’s the same.

Don’t. Fuck up your time on this fuckin earth screwing around with your mental state of mind and live in the moment. If port has a hold on you and it impedes yours judgement , then better be ready for issues.

Don’t. Let it rule your life, don’t get caught up in the guise of making money off of it, or trying to hide it. It will do more harm than good.

I feel like shittt and so impatience to get the benefits that I never get the benefits because I never stop, I smoked weed everyday pretty much for few years and alot of tines pmo while high. I feel like people can sense it and it brings me tf down. I can't even socialize normally.

Morning woods are back. Walking up bricked every morning again which I had lost before no fap. Morning urges are the worst. Feel free to chat if you are in the same boat and have advice

Tell me is this going to be a constant process? I will need to stay on guard all the time like I am on guard rn? All my life? Or is it gonna end. When will I let myself just be and not be censoring thoughts? Is it going to be come harder before it becomes easy? and what did y'all get from this process that makes this worth it? why don't i let myself go have the dopamine it wants?

I've noticed that ever sense I've been doing no fap for about a month now (relapsed a few times) I've been feeling more lonely than ever since I've been trying my best to stop doing PMO. I think I've been using porn as a coping mechanism to suppress my loneliness/emotions. I've been having an incredibly difficult time dealing with my loneliness that sometimes I'm feeling so desperate that I'd be willing to be a cuck just to have someone but I can't tell if I got that fetish from porn addiction or just a fetish or I'm really lonely but deep down I'd never want that because it's not with my dignity and self respect even though I'm still a loser trying my hardest to change my life. Do I accept my loneliness, embrace it or fight it? I genuinely don't know wtf to do anymore because this shit is eating me up so much it's becoming unbearable that all I can think of in my mind is "suicide". Any tips/advice is welcome, I just want help please.

Watched some porn today for 5 mins, could not control myself, but did not mastarbate.Again trying to control the urges the best I can.

No Fap Day 8 No Porn ❌😮‍💨

I got an erection but I didn't ejaculate. Does it count as relapse

Day 9

what i do?

Eight days clean!

Hi guys I've been having a good run recently

I had a 10 day streak and a brief relapse and now on day 3.

Usually when I have a long streak, it's like my mind wants to relapse so much to make up for all the lost time. This time I didn't and I've been feeling so down lately. I feel like relapsing, but I know I can't start that.

I'm not depressed, but I kind of feel depressed and sad. I've been feeling very very down, but there's nothing to feel down about right now. Also I've been feeling very irritatae as well. I'm sure it's the addiction, what have you guys done to feel better?