For context: I got two flat tires and had a mobile tire repair shop come out. The guy showed up in a Budget rental truck with his three kids who ran around. At one point he had his maybe 10 year old son unscrew the lug nuts and remove my tire. He had no water/spray bottle, pliers, or air pump on him. He patched the first tire (unsuccessfully I learned the next day), so I had to get it fixed by another company. He attempted to patch the hole in the second tire 3 times, which I suspect severely damaged the tire leading to its necessary replacement. (He used a kitchen knife on it?) When replacing it he severely damaged my rim. Because of this, they gave me a $100 discount but rim repair runs around ~$180 per wheel. I left a bad review (2 stars) and now they are calling saying the guy who performed the service was just a contracted employee and they are “addressing the issue” and if I delete delete the review I’ll get a refund.

So met this girl on hinge and it's going well we've been talking since Friday and I like her, and it's been a good back and forth on text, I sent a text and like it's been a day now when she would usually get back to me withing like an 8hr period, should I send another text or just wait until tomorrow, I last texted her at around 8pm Monday, what do you guys suggest, she may just be busy as she has finals this week but she usually texts back

A warning, I don't speak English very often and I don't write in this language either, so most of the things I will say will be through the translator.

I am a computer science student and last Monday, December 2, I had a programming exam. The idea itself was difficult, in this case, we had to use a database with SQL in Netbeans, Which, in my opinion, is the worst thing to write in Java, but this is more because of how complex and annoying it can be. However, I also quite like Java, so it's a love hate thing, in the test we are not allowed to use our personal computers nor access to the Internet, we must use the computers provided by the institution. Everything is fine there, but here is the problem. We can have notes, these notes can be anything that helps you make code.

The problem started when last Wednesday, I had to put on a glucose sensor to be able to keep track of my diet, this sensor is a lot of embarrassment because it rings and as a person with social anxiety, it is practically something embarrassing, but I have learned to live with it because it is my health. Now, with the notes, that class I had written down an exercise that my teacher did before the test. It should be noted that the process we were seeing was difficult, that even the teacher was surprised why the bar was so high, however, for my notes I copied the code directly to paper. This helps me know what goes in its place and what I should write, mostly because of the Java syntax. But when I say directly, it is directly, with notes that the teacher even made in the code.

What happened was the following, I told my teacher that if at any time I feel bad, I should go to the infirmary and send the project from home. So, I started the test just like the teacher asked us to, but about 20 minutes later, the teacher called a guy over to his desk because he was cheating (He put a pendrive in the device). Which left a somewhat bad feeling, if it weren't for the fact that later my sugar began to drop dangerously, so I had to excuse myself and leave the exam. I went through the infirmary and left, allowing me to deliver this work from home; That's when I made the mistake, my mind was in automatic mode due to my low blood sugar, so I was practically passing all the codes from my notebook, without any change in the variables until I realized that they were obviously failing. When I realized this, I started changing the names. My notes are written directly from the exercise, added to the fact that everything else in itself was tangled to the point that it made me dizzy. Cutting a little, I managed to do what was necessary and sent it, but not before sending a previous work of mine by mistake. When I sent the work, I was scared because I had written a part of the code exactly the same as my notes and when I say exactly the same, it is because the teacher's notes of the exercise were inside the "//" to make comments. I was on such a strange and strong autopilot, that I wrote down everything as it was written, when it shouldn't be that way (As an addition to this mix, I was emotionally and mentally unwell this day). With this happening, the least I want is for the teacher to think I cheated. He had told us that some of the functions were so difficult that we should simply copy them by hand, which I did and led me to this situation.

I have not received any news from my teacher and I will not do so this week until Friday, where we will have a second chance since several of our class did poorly. During this time, I really need advice from outsiders who viewed my situation with skepticism, because when I told my parents, it was a mess of emotions. Should I show you my notebook and show the code that I transferred from digital to paper? I sent him a message with the file that it wasn't, so I think that if I do that, he will understand my mistake, however; With the boy who cheated that day and I had to go home to complete it, it leaves me nervous, what can I do?

This is going to sound very harsh. I apologize in advance. I (17F), cannot STAND my best friend (18F). Even calling her “my best friend” makes me feel sick, because there is nothing great, or “the best” about our friendship. We’ve known each other for 7 years, been friends for 6, and for 4 of those years I have been irrevocably SICK of her. She has been condescending, unsupportive, rude, judgmental, and has said things that I will never forget that have deeply hurt me. Since freshman year, I have been wanting to cut her off after we graduate. I’m now a senior, and graduation CANNOT come soon enough. I have gotten to my limit with her. When I’m around her, I smile in her face, then slightly turn my head and roll my eyes so far back into my head that I see my cerebral cortex. It’s gotten to the point where I act happy in front of her face, but deep down I want nothing but to be as far away from her as I physically can be. I try to avoid texting her outside of school as much as possible, however she rarely takes the hint and continues to text me even if I don’t want to talk to her whatsoever. I’m so tired of pretending that I want to talk to her or that I enjoy being around her. This friendship has been incredibly draining, and borderline traumatic since the beginning. I feel genuine anxiety when I have to talk to her most days. And generally, when i’m around her, I feel uneasy, nervous, and uncomfortable. My body physically does not want to be around her, and I find myself subconsciously moving away from her, avoiding looking at her, and quickly jerking away whenever she touches me (i.e; to tap my shoulder). Please note that my love languages are physical touch and quality time. I enjoy hugging, linking arms with, and being in general closeness with my other friends. Just not her. We’re extremely incompatible, and no amount of arguments and reconciliations can fix that. I’ve come to terms with the fact that no matter what, we just aren’t meant to be friends, and that’s okay. I’m tired of forcing it. All this to say, it’s not possible to cut her off right at this moment (although I want to SO bad), because we have all the same classes together, we’re at the same school, and we’re in the same friend group. Therefore, cutting her off would not only cause a strain on my friend group by splitting us in half, but it would also be incredibly awkward and draining to be in all of the same classes as her and feel the palpable tension and unsaid words between us. Even if I do cut her off now, I’ll have to see her every single day. Another thing is that we’re known amongst our peers as the “best duo”, or “the ultimate best friends”. We have the type of friendship that, when one of us is absent, people come up to the one of us that is present to ask where the other is. The scrutiny from my classmates and the need to explain repeatedly why we’re not friends anymore would be incredibly distracting and very draining. Therefore, in order to have a peaceful senior year, I’ve told myself that once I graduate, I’ll cut things off with her respectfully, telling her that I feel as though we aren’t compatible and that we’re better off going back to being strangers. Then I’ll move on with my life. But oh, my LORD is it taking long. I can’t stand the smell of her perfume, the sound of her voice, I can barely look at her. She’s caused me so much pain in these past few years. Before we even became friends, she hated me and would spread rumors about me. Then, when we put that aside and became friends in the 6th grade, it’s been a plethora of fights, drama, secret animosity, secret competition, backbiting, and overall just an unhealthy, draining female friendship. And through it all I’ve been trying to stay kind, stay supportive, for my own good, because I don’t know how else to be. But my, I’m getting tired of being supportive. I’m getting tired of trying to be nice to her. I can’t look past all the things that she’s said to me in these past 6 years. I just can’t do it anymore. I’m tired of being a people pleaser and trying to uphold this “amazing supportive friend” facade. It’s gotten to the point where I’ve deleted every single picture I’ve had or taken with her from my phone, I’ve ripped up every single birthday card, letter, valentine she’s made me. Ripped up the shirt that she made me. And destroyed the candle she got me for my 14th birthday. I feel like I’m going crazy. I hate that I hate someone this much. And I hate that despite hating her so much, I love her so much, and that we’ve shared so many precious memories together. I’m having a hard time holding both of these strong feelings in my heart. On one side, it’s hate, resentment, jealousy, hurt. On the other, it’s love, appreciation, fondness, passion. I don’t know what to do. The degree in which I hate her has gotten so high and it makes me feel like a terrible person. I feel abnormal for carrying this much anger and resentment towards one person. All of this anger was once love, and it hurts. She knows all my secrets, and some of my core developmental years were spent entirely with her. I’ll keep updating as the school year goes. As of now, I’m graduating in a few months. Despite my love for her, I still believe that we are better off not being friends. I can’t find it in my heart to be happy for her, or to want to support her anymore. And she deserves better than that. She deserves to find happiness with a “best friend” who isn’t me, and vice versa. I just truly believe that we simply aren’t meant to be in each other’s lives anymore. I’ve outgrown the friendship and the want to be in it. And I’ve been holding onto so much resentment for so long that it feels irreparable at this point. I feel it’s time I said goodbye. Can someone tell me what they think? What I should do? Am I irrational? Is this justified? Please be honest. I’m so confused and I don’t know how to navigate this. Advice and positive reinforcement would be appreciated.

Tonight I had an argument with my brother about my vape usage and he called me disposable for being nicotine addicted and that he was better then me because he wasn’t addicted to anything and played sports and now I feel upset and a little worthless

For reference he is (16m) and I am (18f)

Am I really worthless because I am an addict of something regardless if that substance is minor?

I just feel bad and I accidentally told him I hate him at the end of our fight because what he said about me made me pretty upset

Now I’m 20. My last relationship ended when I was 18. Lasted 2 years so from 16-18. After that I feels like all guys see in me is a potential hookup or fwb and nothing serious. Everyone seems to think I can get any guy I want. And that’s kinda true not gonna lie. But it’s like I can get them but I can’t get them to stay? Why’s this? For instance, if I have sex with someone, they usually will come back for more sex. But that’s it. And maybe it has to do with me having sex too early on with them? But I try not to, and they, already at the beginning before sex, only see me as a “sexy” kinda girl… It’s like I have 0 personality, which I know is not true. I’m the type of girl to not initiate much, not text first, etc in the early stages. And maybe this has something to do with it? They feel like I’m not consistent enough Idk? But at the same time, shouldn’t the time we spend together be more worth than how often I text? If we’re not together?

Idk if it’s anything wrong with me. Because I am confident and I do think I appear as a confident girl. BUT, it’s always like this with guys that I think they only want one thing from me. And that makes my self esteem drop. I don’t think I’m the only woman/girl who feels like this. But it’s like, the older I get, the hotter I get and the more they only want one thing. That’s why I don’t sleep with guys at least the first time. That’s my rule kind of. And I’ve stuck to it. BUT THEN guess what they do. They still try to do something with me, my body. E.g. foreplay and all that that isn’t penetration because I’ve told them I don’t have sex the first time hanging out/first date. Maybe it’s because I sleep over at their place? But guys should still be able to keep their hands off of me, right? Idk if it’s an energy kind of thing or what it is. Because it’s not like I’m having a lack of personality. “The guys” seem to like my personality too but they’re more fixated on my body and appearance and getting me into bed. Sorry for the long post, I just needed to vent because I feel kinda hopeless right now heh😁And just want advice.

I have a friend when every she has boy problems that’s all she complains about/ talk thru the phone , irl , , and even text messages just about her hook ups and how this guy is so good but doesn’t want her . it’s sad to see her have no respect for her self and needs constant validation from men but i always have just been there for her but it’s gotten to the point where i know her whole sex life and what her and this dude have done and they broken up like 4 times and each time i have have my phone blow up with her crying and yearning for some dude and then they get back together i don’t know it stresses me out but i don’t wanna seem like a jerk

Ive been considering purchasing something that will generate residual income. The two choices ive come across RN are :

1. A multi-office building that i could rent to small business and live in one of the suites on the lower level

2. raw land. Owner finance. 49

Acres at 82,000.

Ive never done anything like this, so i wouldn’t even know where to start. But i have good credit.

I had a falling out with two of my friends (we are all aged 19-18) about something minor, literally a miss communication where one of my friends, D thought I was talking about them to one of our other friends when I wasn’t and the other friend admitted to lying about it. We didn’t talk for a week ish but for about a month things seemed alright, we were talking again and I began to think our friendship would return to normal. It didn’t, randomly after the month past literally out of no where D said that they didn’t think we were compatible to be friends anymore and they just don’t get the same feelings from me anymore, and said it was the same situation for one of our other friends, E.

E and I never really fell out, but E got quiet with me around the time D and I stopped talking, I didn’t think much of it cause even though we were all friends I always assumed E and D to be the closer ones out of us three. It made me upset but I had tried for a month to get things to work when it felt like minimal effort from E and D’s ends and I realised I can’t force them to like me so I let it end there.

Despite this, for the first few weeks despite it being awkward we still communicated when we had to, however as the months went on the pair began to get hostile with me, refusing to speak to me or acknowledge me, blocking me from their private accounts, not viewing my stories ect even though we had barely communicated in that time.

During this I became close with E’s brother and someone who I’ll name M, and whenever E saw me talking to their brother or M they would all of a sudden (after not speaking to me in anyway) tell me I’m too chatty or giggly and I need to shut up. Fair enough if we were being obnoxious but we weren’t?? Also why break this big no contact thing to try and belittle me every time I try to speak to my friends? E’s brother has said that the situation is too stupid to be a reason for him to stop talking to me because of his sibling’s problem. I genuinely cannot make out their behaviour at all and what it means, I really did care about them and it’s crazy to think about how they are acting lately.

Every year I bring up tax time to my s/o which she is a sahm,I work full time and pay literally everything and the only one who drives but every year she gets defensive when I bring it up, I've never been able to claim my kids(we have 3) and if I do claim them I have no idea where the funds are or how much we've gotten back or owed. What can I do to actually counter this cause it's extremely unfair I feel

Ok back story, I fell in love with a gay man that has never been with a woman. He’s married to a man btw. I know he feels the same way because how he acts after I confessed my feelings to him. He purposely lock eyes with me and always glancing at me. I was talking to another guy and here he comes locking eyes with me. He didn’t look away and kept smiling while walking into the bathroom. He then waited until I got out the bathroom to lock eyes with me and smile whiling walking into the bathroom (again) twice within 20 mins . He’s trying to keep me interested in him and today he checked me out on purpose. We locked eyes and I smiled but felt nothing. I see him gifting his friend who is very older like a mother figure and I want a gift from him. I don’t want to get checked out like so many other men do to me. I don’t know if I’m jealous or gift giving is one of my love languages. Today, I was trying to distance myself from him because I’m expecting something from someone who is taken. I get hard. What should I do ? He’s a coworker by the way.

We started hooking up in March. It turned into a weekly thing. Most Fridays and Saturdays I'd end up at his house. It was fun. One of the very first times I was with him he randomly said "I dont do social media" which made me suspicious because nothing really prompted that, he just said it. I felt like he had something to hide but I didn't question him. I shouldve though. I found his instagram, it was private so I couldn't find anything. The only thing I had was his snapchat. At the end of July I invited him to go on a float trip with me and my friends. The trip was Friday-Monday. He arrived late Friday night with his buddies, and in the morning they were acting really weird and left without saying anything. After that I pretty much ghosted him. But he started texting me in October again and wanted to have a threesome. He said "I've never had one and it's about time I change that." Bruh. How cringe.

Okay but the part that this whole post is for is I recently looked at his instagram and it was public. I found this girl that had tagged him in posts. Then I found his Facebook and the same girl was loving all his posts. I looked at her profile and it's his girlfriend. They've been dating since at least June of last year. I guess she is just finishing up college or something. I don't know.

I feel so sick about it. The fact that I was with him every weekend for like 2 months straight. Like I am so disgusted with myself and feel so bad for his girlfriend. And the fact that he's still trying to hookup/have a threesome. That poor girl. I'm also just so mad at him.

But basically, should I tell her? I know that sounds like a dumb question because if I were her I'd want to know if my bf was boning other chicks, but I feel so bad. It would be the right thing to do though right? Also how should I let her know? I've never had to do this before

This is mostly about going to the gym cuz(as a 20M) that’s my main focus in life right now (and since i’m new to reddit, this is the only place i can post) , and i’ve never gone to the gym, but anyone know how to shut those thoughts away? Every time i think of going to the gym i get overwhelmed just cuz i follow gym stuff on reddit and every time i see pictures of people having great progress/bodies, i get overwhelmed. Mostly because a lot of people who comment on the posts of people asking for help or tips, they have this whole list of things and of words that seem like they’re out of the harry potter books (wtf is hypertrophy? PR? Drop set? just soooo many words) and it makes me feel overwhelmed, but i have a feeling it’s just me self sabotaging and also being scared of failing. I kinda grew up with parents who didn’t like mistakes so now I hate making mistakes because i feel like i put so much effort into something just to end up with a mistake. and then there’s tracking calories (which btw i hate the thought of, sounds like im gonna end up with an eating disorder and i don’t wanna go through that again) and tracking how much you sleep and just tracking, tracking, tracking… it makes me feel not human, it makes me feel like i’m a video game with a stats bar. Anyone have any advice on how to manage this without feeling overwhelmed? Or should I just try to do it and deal with it? (PS I feel like if i go with the second option, i’m gonna end up unmotivated to go the gym so really hoping there’s a way to make it not so overwhelming to be fit and healthy) Thankssssssss

I’m the youngest in my family and have always had a complex relationship with my parents. When I was 3, my mom came home and found my siblings outside while I was inside the house in the bathroom with my dad. She told me that I told her he put something inside of my butt. So she took me to her friend who is also an obgyn to get checked out. She said everything looked ok so my mom forgave my dad but never trusted me or us alone ever again.

Throughout my childhood I was always seen as different & more rebellious than my siblings. I would often get into trouble, tell stories, and break the rules where as my other siblings were more likely to follow the rules. Between my rule breaking & my parents feelings toward me, I was always in trouble and it was hard to distinguish if I was in trouble bc of what I did wrong or bc they were still mad at what went down when I was 3. For example, I would throw my dinner away and my mom would find it then tell me I’m always a liar and I lie about everything including what happened to me. So it was always like yeah I shouldn’t have thrown the food away but that never seemed like why she was actually mad at me.

One time we were having a debate about the news or something. I proved her wrong. She responded by tellin me that I’m the only one in the family who is dumb, dark, and stupid. Then followed me into my room demanded I start cleaning and tried to beat me with a belt when I said no. We fist fought. I tried to check out but decided it’d be too painful.

My dad never really mentioned the situation to me. He was just meaner to me than my siblings. Like he would yell and hit me but never treated my brother or sister like that. My mom always mentioned that he treated me differently and sometime assumed it was because I was darker skinned and a girl but never really did anything about it. Outside of that, my dad was pretty chill. He took me places but I never really spent time with him and when I did I was often scared of him.

One day when I was in my early twenties my mom called my dad a pervert during a fight. So my sister asked her why she would call him that. My mom then explained what happened to me when I was a child. My siblings were genuinely shocked. They asked her why she didn’t leave and she said bc she’d be alone if he left. Then she asked my sister if she’d leave and was shocked when my sister said yes. She then told us that she once told my paternal grandmother about what I accused my dad of. My grandma told her that the same thing happened with my grandfather and aunt.

Eventually I moved out and relocated across the country. My mom continued to financially help me but not on the level that she helped my siblings. She gave me a credit card, helped me with my car payment, and sent money when she could. She did the same for my siblings except she also paid their rent while they were in grad school and bought them luxury cars in their 20’s.

I find myself constantly and uncontrollably upset with her, my dad, & siblings.She helped me in my twenties but refused to support me the way she supported my siblings. When I needed money for my masters, she said she couldn’t help. Then she bought a new million dollar home. I worked full time, took out loans, and got credit cards to get through grad school. Now I’m in debt and don’t feel like being around my family who is not. My siblings say they empathize with me & have even gone to therapy with me. They say they feel bad for the way I get treated but they do very little to help. My brother has become a millionaire & has offered to help my debt by sending me $200 a month. I know he’s tryin to be helpful but honestly it just makes me angrier that my parents could’ve helped me and chose not to. I’m jealous of my siblings for the support they received and angry that they can still love someone who has hurt me so much. I am angry at my mom for constantly bringing the story up & traumatizing me with it. I’m also angry at her for sl*tshaming me and not supporting me. I’m surprisingly the least angriest with my dad which doesn’t make sense but I guess I never really expected much from him.

I think I need to cut them off because I cannot seem to let this anger go and constantly bringing it up feel like I’m being a drag. What do yall think?

F(23) started talking to her ex (M27) again… worried that it was a stupid mistake to try to communicate again / see each other. Do you think people can change from a relationship that happened 4 years ago… worried I made a mistake reconnecting. (Previous relationship with him did not end well, seems like we so far have both grown tho and moved on from the past) Advice pls

hi! i know the title sounds really bad, but let me explain. i’m posting this from a burner because i’m not sure what to do.

i got with this girl around a month ago thinking that i was ready for a relationship after my last one that was over a year ago. everything was going smooth until i hit a really rough patch in my life and my mental health started declining in november. i have no motivation to do anything, and that includes being in a relationship.

i’ve always felt like i was made more to love platonically than romantically, like i would never marry anyone and i was okay with that. but i decided to give a relationship a try and now i feel stuck. i feel like a terrible person because i just cannot love properly. my mental health is a mess, i’m a mess and it’s just too much for me at the moment.

don’t get me wrong, she hasn’t done anything wrong. she’s been great. it’s just that “it’s not you, it’s me” cliche. she always talks about how happy i make her and she’s met all of my friends. i’m scared on what will happen if i do end up leaving her.

please help!! i do not wanna lead her on. but i don’t wanna break her heart. what do i do??

tl;dr: i’m in a relationship that i’m too much of a wreck to be in and i don’t know how to break it off.

Hi everyone!

A month ago I went on a seemingly great date with a guy. He said he had fun and was looking forward to it again. At first, we texted A LOT and he FaceTimed me often.

The texting suddenly dwindled down a few days after that, and when I called him out and said let’s hang out he got all defensive saying how busy he is and how pretty I am. That's nice, but unrelated. Now granted, he owns a very large company and it was Thanksgiving, so maybe he was busy. He is also still being constantly flirty. We also have a lot of mutual friends. But going on one date in 4 weeks obviously doesn’t scream interest. Also, my first post on here is about him for more context.

I was thinking about saying one of these things to him:

Hey! Perhaps this is a misunderstanding, but I’ve noticed you haven’t been responsive much, and I’m not going to continue to push further. You seem great and I’m still interested in hanging out if the timing is right. You don’t owe me an explanation, but I also don’t want either of us to act in a “ghosting” manner.

Or

What are you looking to get out of this? There seems to be a lot of elusiveness and evasiveness going on, which is not your fault. I understand that you are busy and not everything has to be a serious love affair or it can be but I don’t have the time or inclination to be pen pals, play games, or the like. I would like some clarification.

I know these may come off as needy, but I don’t necessarily care. I just want some clarity and don’t want to be strung along.

I could also FaceTime him like he did to me multiple times. I’m open to any suggestions, thank you!

I’m trying to figure how many straight women kiss a woman before

Hello, I hope everyone is having a less stressful holiday than I. If in the same boat I am sending my love and strength your way. I am currently writing in full of tears with trembling hands so please excuse any errors in this post and forgive me for the trauma dump I am about to let out (I'm sorry for the length). TRIGGER WARNING talks of DV will be in the post.

Okay family, I (25F) have had a best friend (26F) for around 15 years who I refer to as my sister. She unfortunately lives across the country, so I am unable to see her frequently, but we talk almost daily. There is quite the backstory to this, but I will try my best to summarize. Sister met her now boyfriend (32M) about 3 years ago and quickly things seemed off. She wasn't going out as much and I didn't hear from her hardly ever. Didn't think much of it because we've all been swooned by the first couple months in a relationship.

As time progressed, I started to notice some weird things such as isolation and control. She wasn't allowed to hang out with her old friend groups or talk to any of our guy friends. One night she called, and he had just choked her out while punching a pillow close to her face. I guess I should preface that I am a very strongly opinionated person who has been through DV, so I was very reactionary when I heard this. We made a game plan to get her out, but by morning she told me to drop it and begged me not to tell our families. She then ghosted me for a month. Fast forward 6 months into the relationship I got a call from her saying she was pregnant which caught me off guard, but I was ecstatic. I work in OB care, so we began talking every second of every day.

All the in-between from this moment to current day has been rocky. Sometimes I will get long rants how she wishes he would appreciate her and love her to then hearing nothing about the situation or that "we talked, and it went really well." I know that she will not leave unless she wants it, but I am becoming helpless, and I worry that he will seriously hurt her or their child one day.

The straw that broke the camel's back of my patience started early last week. She had reached out quite tearful and upset after having a hard week with some medical ailments. One of the first texts I received was, "so (BF) thinks I'm a bitch." to which I asked for more information as to what happened. She then began to tell me that he said, "if I had a backbone, I would've left you a long time ago", which infuriated me because he just had her pick out an engagement ring for her birthday not even 2 months prior. He then went on to say that majority of the time he does not want to get engaged but "there are some moments he wants it." This crushed me and this was honestly the first time I had seen her completely devasted by what he had said.

I have held back on being overly honest due to worries that she will ghost me again, but after these comments were made and she told me she has no self-confidence and is a shell of herself I lost it. We discussed that it is time for an ultimatum and if he truly does not want this, he needs to tell you now or it's done. She confessed that she finally realized things aren't going to work and he has been manipulating her over the years. Finally, my confident, brilliant, and amazing sister was starting to see the through the blinders.

Sorry, but that isn't the happy ending we were all hoping for...this was the buildup into today's breakdown. After this event happened, she had told me she would stay in the guest bedroom for a couple of days to show him she was serious. Thanksgiving happened and I hadn't heard from her in a while, so I tried reaching out. When I woke up this morning, I was sent a photo of the engagement ring on her finger...he proposed.

I am at a loss for words and spent most of my therapy session crying not knowing how to react or what to say. I don't want to push her away, but I also can't show her mixed signals of excitement...I do not want to lie. She knows how I have felt over the years but that all seems out the window now. I gave her the excited "WHAT OMG" texts which were followed by, "I know I didn't tell you, but we had a talk that went really well, and he didn't mean any of those things he said." To which I responded "well that is good. I want you to be happy and safe." Which has led to her being upset that I didn't give her a more excited response and is now ghosting me.

Overall, I am just so incredibly lost and don't know what to do. How do I continue to be supportive when I know how he makes her feel and how he truly treats her? Am I being too dramatic and should just drop it for the sake of whatever makes her happy? I'm beyond terrified that she is not going to talk to me anymore and this is the end of the friendship. I am so beyond helpless and do not know what to say or do anymore. SO, if you made it this far, I truly appreciate your time. Please do not hold back on the constructive criticism, I am open for anything right now. Anyways, I hope you have a happy holiday season filled with love and support. Thank you for this safe place to vent.

A little bit of context before I start. My[21f] boyfriend[22m] (I don’t know how else to address him right now) and I have been together for a while now and even have a child together. When we first met, we were both in a pretty low place in our lives and were abusing substances. We found comfort in each other and wanted each other to succeed and enjoy life. I ended up in the psych ward and received help and I’m now sober and clean and raising my son who’s 5 months old now.

My partner, has diagnosed paranoid schizophrenia and is on court ordered treatment for it. He also is an alcoholic and a drug abuser. He has absolutely no control when it comes to it and it’s got so bad that he traded his car for $500 worth of m3th. I know some couples are okay with p0rn but I personally don’t appreciate my significant other watching other women sexually because it genuinely makes me self conscious and insecure and I’ve told him that. He promises me he will stop and change but I’m still yet to see that change.

Not to mention, when I was around 6 months pregnant, he cheated on me and only told me when our son was around 2 months old. He claims it wasn’t a big deal because it was only head but it was the fact he messaged her, went to her house, drank with her and allowed that to proceed at all and then hide it from me for months.

He had claimed he had lined up therapy for himself, is now on medication to help control his addictions and is actively looking for work now that he’s getting his shit together but I’m just so sceptical. He has made so many hopeful promises to me that never happened so now I’m just losing hope.

I really did love this man and I really did want him to get better and do better, I thought now that our sons here, things would be different but it’s just not. Idk what to do

I'm F20, located in Toronto Canada, and just got hired for my first bartending job. I previously worked 2 years at a bubble tea chain so I guess the owners at my new restaurant thought that was good enough.

I'm pretty solid at customer service and once I'm in my flow state I work well under pressure. I was just hoping to get some advice to make sure I don't disappoint my hiring manager and boss. All of my experience comes from my previous bubble tea job and whatever I learned on my SmartServe certification.

Thank you!

I’m also thinking of filing very soon.

My mom is very distraught. I don’t know how to tell them because I’m basically the rock/glue of the family. I can’t show that my marriage has also unraveled.

WTF is happening?

I have been talking with this girl for a few weeks now. we had a date over the weekend and it went super well, 10 hours flew by with her and i didnt even realize until i had checked my phone after we said our goodbyes.

I'm just having one issue and i dont know if I'm being unreasonable or if my feelings are valid... she is so bad at texting. its like one moment shes all over me sending cute flirtatious texts and being really engaging with our conversation. and the next its like i dont even exist to her... i am a big texter especially with the distance and our schedules rarely lining up to be able to see each other.

I understand that she is a busy person and she has articulated that multiple times when i ask what's going on. But at this point it just seems like she wants an extreme amount of space or doesnt desire talking over the phone at all which is very hard for me.

There is just a severe one sided amount of communication. I let her know what's going on when and if I'm getting busy so i wont be able to text as much, and i receive none of that which makes it very hard to stay interested as someone who's super anxious and needs the communication and reassurance a lot of the time.

But there are moments that are so sweet where i could genuinely see it getting serious which are followed by hours of silence leaving me to spiral in my own thoughts when all i want to do is talk to her.

Its making me super sad because i really do want her to be my girlfriend. but between the amount we both work and how little communication I'm getting, I'm thinking about just letting it go.... Any input would be extremely valued, my dear friends of reddit.

My bf and 1 have been together for almost 5 years now. There was a point in our life where he cheated on me virtually; he was stalking multiple girls on tiktok and watching them dance seductively. You might call me dumb for this but I gave us a chance. Fast forward to now, I’ve forgiven him but my trust hasn’t been fully restored yet. Every now and then, before my period starts, I get this urge to check his phone which he confidently hands to me. I don’t see anything at all but I did notice his algorithm, it wasn’t of dancing girls but it was more on suggestive content. Example is a movie clip of a woman about to undress and so on. I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt since the account I checked was rarely used and I’m sure because I checked the logins.

I just checked his other IG account earlier which he turned as an inspirational account. I checked the explore page and it was full of videos of girls just doing everything you can imagine sexually. I checked the logins and it said that his last login was also the day he created the account. I also asked him about it and he said that he doesn’t open that account at all but I’m finding it hard to believe.

Do I entertain the thought that he might be possibly cheating on me again? How does the algorithm work really?

So i am 16 now and i am exactly 6ft. I think i didn’t even grow inch since i was like 14.5 so i am actually kinda scared. Will i still grow taller?? Any tips or advices on what to do?

(i currently don’t do any sports or workout, some of my friends don’t do anything too but are still outgrowing me. Also i sleep like 6-8h everyday.

I realize I'm going to sound somewhat selfish here but bear with me. Over the last four years our friend group has had about 30-35 weddings, it has been all consuming with travel budgets and schedules. Don't get me wrong, I love a wedding, but it's a little absurd and draining at this point.

Well, I finally got to planning a trip for myself and some golf buddies and we booked a non-refundable spot in Utah. A good friend of mine got engaged the same weekend we booked this trip, turns out they set the date for the same weekend.

What do I want to do? I want to go on this golf trip and stop going to weddings? What do I feel like is right? Probably going to this wedding. I want to live my life but I also don't want to let my friend down. Can I go on this golf trip with a clean conscience?

So, first off… this is gonna be long.

I’m gonna give some backstory…I 23F was dating a 21M. This past year for me has been super tough, and I’ve got through a ton of shit just in the past week alone. At the beginning of 2024 I had met a guy who would be my Ex-fiancée. I don’t wanna go into too much detail about him, but he was super abusive and manipulative. He caused me a lot of grief and anxiety about future relationships, even left me with severe ptsd because of the fact I lost everyone in my life and was homeless on the streets because of his manipulation.

I managed to escape and move back home with my mom, but nothing was the same when I came back. My mom didn’t trust me, I gained very few of my friends back and was kinda alone because of the mistake I made with letting this dude into my life. I started going on dating apps looking for hookups and attention. That’s when my met my Ex-boyfriend. We’ll call him Aaron.

He was the first guy to take me out on a real date and give a shit on what I said and how my mind worked. He paid attention and showed genuine interest in me. The date was nice and we did end up sleeping together, but it didn’t feel like a hookup. We would get together again when he’d buy a hotel for us to spend the weekend together. Of course, it was about sexual things… but he was so caring and sweet. He had explained to me that he was severely autistic and that he was just high functioning. However, the autism was sometimes a challenge for him to interact with people and read what they were feeling.

I was still healing from my ex-fiancé, and things weren’t going good at home, but being with Aaron made those feelings go away. It felt like he was the only one who gave a shit about me. Long story short, we started officially dating. Our time together was together and not really spent having sex. He kept telling me he wanted to know everything about me, how my brain worked and the way I think. I was hesitant, but eventually opened up. Things were good. We shared the same values, the same beliefs, and the same interests for the most part. We weren’t exactly the same, but we matched the energy well together.

I’d tell him about my family and how it was constantly problems to be at home, and he was understanding and compassionate. Eventually before thanksgiving, I got kicked out and was at risk of being on the streets again. Aaron picked me up immediately and took me back to his house. He introduced me to his family and I stayed there for a week while I tried to get my affairs in order. Luckily, a friend of mine said I could move in with her

While i was there, he’d been helping me with my resume and wanted to do a cover letter to go with it. Since I didn’t have a job, and I needed to get one fast now that I was no longer with my mom. For context, I’d had a job opportunity… but it didn’t meet my mom’s standards so she had said I couldn’t take it. And that if I did… she’d make it extremely difficult for me to get to and from work. She’d rather I’d get a job where I was closer to home, didn’t work many hours, and I needed to get one fast. But it had to be a good job. This was the reason I was kicked out… because despite the time of me being home and cooking and cleaning for my family while I job searched… they’d seen me as not trying enough. However, when opportunity arose, they didn’t like them and told me I couldn’t do it. They were also very verbally abusive and had basically shattered my self esteem. My mom wanted me to rely on her for the rest of my life. It was basically, “stay with me forever… or get the fuck out.” I was a punching back to my family. At the time I spent at Aaron’s house, I had gotten a friend to say I could stay with her for a while.

Anyway…We’d gotten the resume done and when I was already living with my friend… I visited him to finish the cover letter. We didn’t work much on it, but eventually just got to it at the end of the day. For reference, I have my own problems… and the bouncing between houses has made me extremely stressed tf out. Not to mention, my family has disowned me in the past week. So when I got to his house I was trying to be positive, but there was still some anxiety in the air. Aaron and I are very good at communicating, so I expressed these feelings to him when we did the cover letter. I leveled with him… basically saying that I didn’t feel I needed one right now. As I need just a retail or quick job to get some money.

He was super pressuring for this cover letter and didn’t understand why I was making it a big deal. I started getting flustered, telling him I’d do it. However, it’d be more so to not disappoint him than anything else. I’d probably not use it if I were simply applying at a Walmart or grocery store anyway. I’d mainly need a cover letter if I were applying to a business or office job.

He dropped the subject and we didn’t do it. While he drove me home, he wanted to speak with me. He told me that he didn’t think I was lazy, but rather he thought I had no ambition to pursue a higher status in my career. I agreed but I don’t think I explained myself correctly. I had meant to tell him that with everything going on, a career isn’t what I need at the moment. I need a stable income because I’m at risk of being homeless again. I have things to buy and I need to survive right now. Advancing my career or having one at all isn’t my main priority right now. Instead I told him that I was simply comfortable where I was at with jobs and I was gonna continue working retail and probably would for some time.

He didn’t really like that answer… he told me that he’s in a point in his life where he needs someone to be understanding of him wanting a career and that with the field he wants to work in… he may not be home all the time. He asked me if that was something I’d be okay with. I told him it was, but he didn’t believe me. He then proceeded to say he doesn’t think he can be there for me emotionally as it seems I need constant reassurance and if I don’t have ambition for myself, that’s not something he can constantly push me to do.

I kinda shut down at this point, as I knew he was breaking up with me. I was respectful, we both were. He just kinda told me that we’re obviously different… that he didn’t wanna hurt me by not being there for me like I need. He thought we should part ways now before things got too complicated. Keep in mind, during thanksgiving, he told me he loved me.

I’d dropped the convo at that point and the rest of the time back to my friend’s house, he was telling me I’m not broken, but it wasn’t gonna work out. I obviously blamed myself when I spoke to my friend and said that if I’d just done the cover letter or something… maybe it wouldn’t have happened. She reassured me that he didn’t understand what I was trying to say… and being in that high stress situation I wasn’t properly expressing myself and he took it wrong.

I did end up texting him later and explained myself better. What I’d actually meant and how I should’ve worded things better. He told me he understood and that he’d give me a response as soon as he had understood his feelings and what he was trying to convey. It’s been like 2 days. I did text him last night and he said he wasn’t ghosting me… just super busy with work and he’s got some family stuff going on. Which is valid and I understand. I told him I’m not pressuring a response right away, but that I’m gonna be here when he’s ready to talk about it a bit more.

I feel I may have fucked up?

I’m genuinely concerned I’m gonna lose him because I’m so traumatized and fucked up. What if I am too emotional and that’s not something he can’t handle? I really like him…love him even. And this isn’t like my last relationship. He’s a good guy.. But I’m crashing out and I feel bad. This whole situation and last year has made me feel like I’m just not lovable and there’s something wrong with me :( Anyway… what are y’all’s thoughts?