I (23M) have this friend (24F) that since very early in her life went through really hard situations with her mom beating her up, bullying, shyness and all that. My group of friends welcomed her recently with open arms and she seems to be fitting in quite well but the thing is that once in a while she tells me that she has these bad thoughts about just giving up and killing herself, recently she told me everything about her mom and i felt so bad for her because she is very sweet girl that writes poems and love Taylor Swift and i really want to help but i don't know what to do, i've already said that she's not alone, that we're all with her and all but when she's in a crisis nothing of what i say makes a difference in her mind. Does anyone have any advice for me on how to confort her?

I’m a lesbian and was dating someone with bipolar. It was amazing at first and then she unfortunately went through an episode and wanted to just be friends. She wanted to prioritize partying with her friends. It was shocking to see how her feelings towards me changed completely because she was the one who liked me and asked me out and all of a sudden she got cold. She said she wanted something serious with me and loved me from the bottom of her heart but lost interest because I forced her to answer if she likes me after I found out she’s still hooking up with others. We weren’t exclusive or anything but I thought she was only seeing me so I just needed reassurance.

She also got disappointed when I didn’t ask her to come back to my apartment for sex after our dates, just because she paid and drove to pick me up.

My only regret is I felt like she’s still not over her ex since she talks about her all the time and it might’ve been better if I took things slow. She told me she wanted things to unfold naturally and I forced it.

I declined the friendship because I thought she didn’t like me anymore. But she messaged me days later trying to convince me. She said she will move to Europe so she can’t date but I’ll have a place in Europe to stay at and we can be friends with benefits. I tried this friendship but also got hurt because she treated me in a very friendly way and it’s different than how she did before. Months later, I tried to meet her and she said she would be happy to but then told her I don’t want to see her anymore because I found out she was actually dating someone and wanted me as a friend or only to hookup.

Finally I made a big decision to leave to a new city so there’s nothing to lose if I just want to hookup and I don’t want to end things badly with her. I invited her over and she told me she’s getting married and not to message her again. What did I do wrong?

Hello, I am seriously wondering if I should transfer schools or not. I currently go to a really small university in which I am majoring in computer science. However, the quality of education is awful. It's been 1 year and I haven't learned anything. The professors there barely even know the subject themselves, so I have been trying to do a lot of self-teaching to compensate. The reason why I go to this school is because I got a full tuition scholarship. At the time when I got it around the end of high school, I was super happy. I come from a low-income household and I thought that this was a major blessing. However, as I started in school, It was a major disappointment, due to the poor quality of education. I should have done my research more and I am having a lot of regrets. I did well in high school, I was 6th overall in my class and had around a 4.3 GPA. I got so happy over this scholarship that I stupidly didn't do enough research on the school and compare my options more. I am having a lot of regrets and a lot of sleepless nights over this because I just can't help but compare myself to my friends who are pursuing their dream careers at their dream schools, I had potential but got blinded and threw it away (I know I shouldn't but I can't help it). Lately, it has been severely hurting my mental health as to whether I made a bad choice or not and I am finally breaking. The university I would be transferring to is UMKC, not a prestigious one but still much more sophisticated than the one I am attending now. I applied to UMKC to see how the financial situation would be, but I still desperately need advice. This has seriously been hurting my mental health and any good advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

Hi, so yesterday my favorite bag got stained with pen ink and ive tried all the tricks to get it out but theres still some stains. Any advice will be greatly appreciated since i love this bag. Its made of like, a beige fabric and i belive the pen is a gel/ballpoint pen.

Thank you so much in advance!

So I'm not sure how to deal with this situation. I always work in a pair my job requires it. Two people are out in a vehicle, in close proximity, visiting addresses. This can not be avlided and is a necessity of the job. A few months ago a colleague (Person A) which I was liable to work with in said proximity was angry that I had locked an office door and he had no keys to enter the office so he couldn't have his lunch in that specific location. This resulted in him swearing at me down the phone. I told him there and then 'do not swear at me' was upset myself and emailed our manager to tell him what just happened. Later in the day when I jad returned to the office there was 4 staff members present. Me, Person A and two other colleagues. A conversation ensued where Person A infront of the two other colleagues said 'Yes, I swore at you. I'll swear at you again'. Now my manager delt with this giving Person a a verbal warning over the phone (he said) and I said that I refuse to work in a vehicle with this person ever again, perhaps for obvious reasons. Person A showed no remorse and did not appologie saying that I've made a mountain out of a mole hill and he was justofied because I accidently locked him out of the office. Now my manager is trying ti make me work with Person A. What can I do? Is there a regulation body that I can go to to complain about my employer?

I (25f) dated a guy (26m) for a couple months before mutually agreeing to stay friends 10 months ago.

We get intimate every now and then and he does compliment me. He did make a comment once about how I’d look perfect if I lost about 5kg. I’d look like more his type but then said he likes my body anyways.

He knows I used to be chubbier growing up but I am slim and have been for the last 5 years or so. I still have my moments where I think otherwise. I have struggled with my weight and my relationship with food/the way I see myself. I have only just started eating healthy and losing weight without starving myself but it feels bittersweet. Like it’s not good enough. I always feel like I’m not slim enough.

I also used to self harm so the scars are still there. He’s the first I’ve done pretty much anything with and the first I opened up to about stuff I usually don’t tell people.

Should I bring this up to him and let him know it upset me? It does play in my mind when we do get intimate but I talk myself out of telling him since we’re not actually together and he’ll just say the comment had no ill intent.

Hi I just need some advice on where to start. In UK.

My husband lost his job last year. It took him a while to find a new job, but it didn’t last long because he was working 14 hours shifts in an extremely poorly run company so he quit. He hasn’t worked since November.

He has applied for carers allowance because I’ve been very unwell lately. He said he’s waiting for it to “be official” and he will start looking for a new job. It’s been months. And I feel like this whole “carers allowance” is just an excuse for him not to work right now. We have about £3000 in debt to energy bills, council tax and credit cards from when he was working.

We currently only make about £1200 a month with benefits and it’s not enough to live on, never mind to pay off debts. I have fibromyalgia, gallstones (a new thing that I’m 90% going to need surgery for soon) and autism (also a new diagnosis since receiving help for my PPD).

I do not have any qualifications because I had to leave uni during my first year because covid hit and I needed to get a job to help with the bills. And since then I’ve just been working minimum wage jobs because we needed to move from our first home (one roomed annex with mould, taps not working etc, it was unlivable). So between me not finishing university and my mobility issues, I’m aware that the only jobs that I can really get are minimum wage ones that require a lot of physical work (like cleaning, or waiting staff).

So yeah I know I’m not in a good situation right now. But I was just hoping that anyone had any advice? Any jobs that don’t require qualifications and aren’t physically demanding? Just any and all advice please?

Edit: I do not want to leave my husband. I do love him very much. He hasn’t always been like this. And theoretically, even if I wanted to. I have debt. I can’t afford a divorce, or to move out and get my own place. I am also disabled and he does care for me when I need.

First off I’m not on the lease (irrelevant but it worked out for everyone) and our lease is up in June or asap. Recently our family cattle/terrier pup stopped eating, got extremely lethargic, and just very unlike herself. Frustratingly it took a second vets opinion to find out that she is in stage 4 kidney failure. She is barely 5 years old. Based on her blood work the vet immediately asked if anyone was changing anti-freeze, pesticide, etc. -though he was adamant on anti-freeze. Based on her charts she is in perfect health, besides her kidneys (which are poisoned).

A friend of a friend lives in a neighboring apartment complex and their a dog is sick too with the same symptoms as our girl, we have no idea exactly what caused this but are currently doing everything we can do to bring her back to life. The vet we have been seeing has been in the field for over 20 years, I trust his experience. He said she can make it. She is young and the toxins can be flushed out. So we try our hardest. One day at a time.

It’s been a week of treatment and honestly I can’t safely say she’s doing better. It shatters me to see my baby degrade so fast. She can barely walk on her own, spending most of her days this last week in bed.

Finally to where I’m scared and honestly just need to avoid “Doretta” from here on out.

Little bit of context, she is a menace of a neighbor, and I question her as a pet parent. Our units are the same layout and only 560sqft. She has 2 cats and 3 big dogs in such a on some examples: Her two smaller dogs bit my partner, she broke/disappeared multiple plants to the point that we don’t have patio plants anymore, and woke us up at 5am by banging on the wall + yelling our pups name through our bedroom wall saying come her and I’ll save you (still haunted by that one, the walls are painfully thin too so it was LOUD and clear). — Two days ago I got home from work and ran into her while walking to my apartment. She passed behind me, and I just broke. I softly said “our dog is dying and it’s not fair” she said “excuse me”, so I repeated myself. She cuts me off and says “I don’t know nothing about that”, and I said “so what, we did everything right and might loose our girl but you get to keep your dogs and you don’t even take care of them.” She got red and sternly says “I take care of them” to which I argue, “okay then why do I hear them bark all day..everyday, sometimes even when you’re home” and she just fell quiet, so I walked away muttering “fucking bitch” under my breath far enough away that she couldn’t hear.

Fast forward to tonight, our apartments’ parking lot is full, I had to park far and walk past her door. Guess who was coming out for a midnight smoke, my lovely neighbor, Doretta. To which I have to walk past and instead of cowering like I’ve done in the past, I snapped. I shouldn’t have, but I said to her face what I’ve been feeling for almost a year: “ I fucking hate you bitch” to which she threatened to “tell the landlord” and now I’m worried I don’t want this to affect my family on the lease.

I realize I messed up and should’ve kept my feelings to myself. Going out of my way to avoid this person in the future.
Also have communicated to property management about her dogs attacking my partner to which they did nothing about. (we opened our front door and they barged in, she keeps them on 10ft+ leashes)

After telling our property manager that the vet told us our dog was poisoned she said we can get out of our lease whenever we want. I don’t want to think anyone would poison our dog on purpose, there’s also hardly a way since we live in an apartment and (sadly) when she’s outside we are with her monitoring her.

TLDR; confronted my neighbor twice, peaceful at first, second time calling her a B-word and expressing my feeling towards her. She says she’s going to report me to the landlord/property management and now I’m worried.

So the title basically says my question, I just have this feeling of giving up on the last couple of days before my salary, which isn't even half bad for the job im doing plus all inclusive (food, accomodation), its just im really low on cash and I am just doing the same thing everyday and its kinda getting to me.. Im 20 years old by the way and moved out of my home country for work in the Netherlands

What’s up guys,

Hopefully I get a response soon and could make a decision. I’m going to keep this anonymous and say my story of what’s going on and hopefully get some feedback.

So I got this job at a Construction Union job. Pays really well after 3-4 years in the business I get a raise of $44-56 an hour. I’ve never had a construction job before but I already started and I don’t feel any way about it. I like it actually, it’s a lot of physical labor but I see the potential in there. It’s also a risky field because of all the chemicals and fall risks but like I mentioned its great potential to make a living out of.

Now I have another offer on the table as a Train Operator test coming up and I can’t decide if I should go the other route. The Train Operator pays 40 an hour and the pay goes up after 5 years in the business.

Someone give me solid feedback and a conclusion so I can come close and decide.

Last year I got convicted for common assault as I got into a heated altercation with my roommate at our university house. She was threatening me for a month and I just got sick of it one day I tried to grab her phone. I got convicted in august and I accept my conviction and take accountability for my actions. However it has brought me a lot of shame. I don't want to be another black women statistic and I feel like I have let my family down. The conviction will be spent in august this year so it won't be on my basic dbs and it will be filtered from my enhanced in 10 years so I know its not the end of the world as I want to become a social worker and planning to do my masters in social work. I just need advice in getting rid of this shame as it is effecting my mental health.

My friend(20M) feels empty ever since the last girl he had feelings for gave him false hope and it did not end well. He also mentions often how he does not feel joy for more than a split second, not even from his achievements or doing something he generally enjoys. However, that seems to be a more permanent thing in his life.

I'm wondering if anyone has any idea how to get over the feeling of emptiness, or any advice I could give him, something I could do.

SKIP THIS TOP PART IF YOU WANT TO JUST GET TO THE QUESTION!!!!

I have worked in automotive before at Firestone and ever sense have never stopped thinking about that job and the people I worked with, I was DEPRESSED when I left that job because my dumbass hit a yellow pole backing a car out because I wasn’t all the way there working, at the time I was helping a fellow marine out and I was working hell hours security for him and their business at the time and doing work at Firestone full time and working out trying to do my fitness business shit. ANYWAYS!!! Not making a fucking sob story…

QUESTION: If I get my associates in automotive at my local community college could I transfer that to a bachelors down the road like in mechanical engineering or other forms of engineering?

So I did a patch test (used acetone/nail polish remover) and although the print has mostly come off its left a mark of the print on the shirt. How do I remove that too?

i need help figuring out if this is fake or just the type of person they are!!!

so i have this friend, we’ve been friends for what, 4 years? however, in the last 3 years we drifted a lot due to me abusing my medication and getting poisoned by food. i generally haven’t spoken to most people in about 3 years. but this one friend, we used to be each others closest friends especially because we went to the same school. however, since the day we became friends, i always knew that i couldn’t be emotional with this person. only because this person doesn’t show any emotional support. i don’t know if they just don’t know how to comfort somebody, or they are just genuinely a shit friend, but it isn’t only me who thinks this. all their other friends also know not to come to them for emotional support. it’s funny because they’ll start venting about their problems and try to get emotional support, but when i do they kinda just ignore it or like don’t want to speak of it at all unless it’s about them. it feels like they only care about themselves. i recently met 3 people, who all knew about me being poisoned, and it was quite obvious at how weird i was acting in the hangout. the other 2 constantly checked on me and asked me if im okay, while the friend im talking about just ignored the entire situation. they just kept talking about themself and their problems. anyways, i got poisoned for 2 years, almost died, and they knew how serious it was but either ignored it or made jokes about it. they also made jokes about me being in a funeral. is this friend just so bad at showing care or do they genuinely not care. like, you can come to them for advice like if you wanted to get ur shit together, but you can NEVER be emotional with them. ever. like they are the type of friend who’ll scold you for being stupid/ not getting ur shit together, but never show any type of mental support. i always felt stupid talking about my problems to them, because they either make me feel dumb or just not show any care unless it benefits them.

Hi everyone, I was meant to have brown lamination yesterday which was changed to a wax last minute. I didn’t really have time to think about saying no as I needed something doing ahead of my birthday weekend this weekend (!)

I mentioned to the therapist that I’d had some issues with sensitivity to waxing before and she said it must be due to the wax being too hot or poor technique. So I trusted the professional of course.

She actually waxed the same areas around my eyebrows 3/4 times over (I’m pretty sure you’re not meant to go over the same spot twice on the face?!) I’ve come out with huge tears under my eyebrows and soreness above too. I look hideous.

The tint that was done also looks awful and the wax hasn’t even helped the shape of my brows at all. I’d booked lamination for styling from a pro and have come out looking like a burnt penguin. Help!!

I also had lvls done and they’ve barely lifted - and issue I’ve never had before there or anywhere else and nothing is any different with this treatment as far as I’m aware.

It’s also going to ruin my birthday. This one was meant to be a biggie and I can’t even face leaving the house at the moment.

They offered no aftercare advice whatsoever and I went to the pharmacy who recommended savlon.

The pain is still awful and it’s been over 12 hours now 😭😭😭

They also charged me more than I expected and have only offered me a “free eyebrow threading next time” as compensation 😭😭😭

I’m terrified it will scar / cause pigmentation issues too.

What can I do to fix it? Should I be reporting them or claiming? I’m absolutely devastated. All I wanted was to look half decent for my birthday and now I look the worst I ever have 😭😭😭

PS: Sorry for the long post. I hope you still read it. Thanks.

My TSH levels are 4. Ideally it should be around 2 points, as per the doctor. I need to lose a bit of weight that's connected to my TSH and T3 T4 levels.

For that purpose, my mom has eliminated refined flour from my diet. But she does give me chapattis (Indian tortillas...sort of) made of whole wheat flour 3 days a week.

Today, my mom had a fever. Around 101 + her blood pressure was a bit high, i'm sure. So after I came from my weekly visit to the dermat, I told her I'd cook for all of us.

She told me she's already made three chapattis for my bro so I just gotta make the fermented dosa for myself (without oil, that's what she gives me.)

My brother said he didn't wanna eat and I accidentally ruined the dosa so I ate 2 of those chapattis, after asking him.

Then she came out, looking for the chapattis. I told her I'll cook fresh ones for her.

She said, "what happened to the ones I had made?"

I thought back on all the times I ate any chapatti that SHE HERSELF didn't give me. She'd be so mad and begin lecturing me about it, and send me messages about it and I get SUUPER anxious when she does that.

So; to avoid it I said, "I fed them to the dog." (It usually sits outside our house)

She began asking questions like,

"Why just 2? Why not all?"

"Give me the remaining one then." I told her that's very thick and a bit tight too, i'm already cooking fresh ones. It'll make you feel better.

She still remained on that topic of WHY DID YOU GIVE ONLY 2 CHAPATTIS TO THE DOG? Why not the third?

She repeated it for the 5th time and I lost it. Because every single time she'd say it, I'd feel so fucking bad that I have to fucking lie in the name of a dog if I eat a fucking chapatti for myself.

Believe me, it's not helping my physical health. It's just ruining my mental health as well.

I shouted at her. I told her to fucking calm down

"It's JUST a chapatti! You don't have to investigate it. I'll cook fresh ones for you! Can't you just let it GO for once?"

But no. She NEVER lets it go. NEVER. EVER. EVER. EVER. EVWR.

And I am fucking tired of this shit. I shouted and threw he rolling pin and said "whatever. I won't cook again then! You cook for yourself and N (my brother)"

And of course, because I shouted at her, now she's crying in her room, she's already ill so crying probably isn't helping and keeps repeating

"What did I even say to aarrant such a reaction??"

My life's in shambles already. And the only control I seem to have is about what I can and can't eat, when to bathe, when to go to sleep. And that's it.

And I feel like I can't even take THOSE decisions myself without her breathing down my neck about it.

Yesterday I just closed my eyes to rest a bit (while sitting) on the sofa around 5:30 pm. Zhe immediately sent me a message with a screenshot of a post that said, "avoid sleeping during the day. It leads to sluggish metabolism."

Idk if all that sounds too little/insignificant to get angry about but...when stacked day after day, it really fucks with my peace of mind, ngl.

I'm not even sure what...to do and i'm just...going crazy tbh. What should I do to better this situation with my mother?

So my sister has been depressed about her whole life, got on meds around 4 years ago about some time before her two suicide attempts.

This post isnt about me (19f) but I have ptsd from witnessing one of these suicide attempts and have been in therapy now for 2 years and recently got off my meds. I moved away from home 2 years ago at the age of 17 because of an unsafe environment. My sister has jumped between a few youth homes but lost het spot recently when she turned 17 because the government doesnt support the housing institution enough and the pool of kids in need is oversaturated. She is now back at home with my mom, mom is no longer an alcoholic but is really bad with high stress and positive reinforcement and is unable to have a truly productive interaction with my sister.

So ive been a mediator in situations like these for years because I'm the only one who knows how to approach my sister because she trust me. I've been protecting and helping her for years but I'm at a loss. There is nothing I can do.

Since she really doesnt want to be at home with mom they have been planning for her to move on her own like I did at 17. The issue is ive been an abult since I was 14 years old, she cant get up for school 3/5 days a week.

Her move in date is 1.5 and her rental lease has been signed, insurances paid and electricity contract signed. The issue is that she's been really struggling especially for a few weeks to even get up feom bed. She is required by law to study for about 3 years more. Deopping out is not an option. She is unable to get to shool even with help.

Ive been trying to use positive reinforcement and being honest with her but I cant get her to do anything. She has to reaction to what my mom says. They have several social workers and child protective services at hand but they cant do much either because my sister REFUSES to get help.

I got her to try therapy but she quit after a few months. She has healthcare contacts withing psychiatry, depression medications, but she doesnt believe in help. She also has these delusions which I believe stem from her usability to have any control over her life because she is stuck in her own head and doesnt want help; she believes she is smarter and understand how the world works way more than anyone else who lives or has lived. She sees others as inferior creatures that resemble vegetables on a neurological level.

There is nothing I can do, there is nothing I can do. But I cant let a 17 year old waste away either. What the fuck.

Anyway I proposed that they tell the landlord that she is unable ro care for herself and therefore cant move out and that the lease has to be undone. This could spark some anger in the landlord but the most that could happen is that my sister has to give up her lease insurance as a sanction for breaking the minimum 1 year lease agreement. Money is not an issue since our dad died 3 years ago and we get paid montly by an insurance company until we turn 20.

I dont want her to just rot away in bed, any ideas?

Tldr; sister 17f refuses to get any for of help and is unable to care for herself and is about to move away from home but me and my mother might do an executive decision to stop the move out. She is so stubborn and stuck in her own head that she is unable to function as a person. Any advice?

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 6 years, I recently found her journal and read through the first page (I know I shouldn’t read her journal but I was looking for notecards and caught a glimpse of it). Basically she talked about NYE going into 2022 and how she kissed multiple guys at a bar when I was back home with friends. She has never cheated on me so I wasn’t quite sure how to deal with this. I confronted her about this and she seemed honestly sorry and explained how she has changed. We have since moved in together and we talked through all of it but I was wondering how other people would think about it deal with this situation. I love her and I know she loves me but I feel like she is not mine anymore because other men have kissed her. She hasn’t kept contact with them or done anything else and we were going through a rough patch at the time but it still hurts to think about her doing that with other people while we were together.

So i know this gonna sound really childish but i was permanently banned from a game i put a lot of hours in just because i said something out of frustration in chat and now i feel really terrible knowing the fact i can never play the game ever again it’s been 4 days and i’ve been feeling really wierd since Will the feeling ever go away?

2days ago the guy I'm talking with had a bad day he won't tell me what happend he's very introvert and sensitive someone might have made fun of him in college. I been trying to make him tell me what happened but he won't, all he does is play game and just says he want to die when u try to talk with him. I have never seen him say things like this. He won't talk with me and I can't go to him cause he lives far and the only thing I can do i text and he won't respond either. What should I do to make him to talk with me? He use to talk with me and make me feel better when I used to feel like that, but I can't do anything for him I feel so bad.

I 19F in a state of sadness and literal depression, from a recent break up, and being alone with no family in a country ive lived for only two years, constantly thinking of how is it gonna be when i graduate where i wont get to see my friends everyday in school, i have exams in 5 days that i feel very unprepared for. for a week i thought i was fine and healed untill i tried to ask a guy that i used to hookup with if he wants to hookup for distraction and he said that hes done with that type of stuff and its like it erupted every thing in me again, i feel worthless and it hurts me that i have become so weak to let people especially men i choose to give a chance hurt me and make me question my worth. I feel like crying but i physically cannot, i dont talk to anyone except for my one friend because i am extremely embarrassed and dont like the idea of being perceived as weak and unworthy, and even him i feel like he is avoiding talking to me ( which he said he isnt because he knows thats what i think) but i cant help but think that since all ive been ranting about is my horrible love life and the bad decisions i keep making. I feel like everything is against me, i cant bring myself to pray for some reason i just feel guilty and hurt, has anyone felt like this and what made you get better?

I need help and/or advice. I lost my Accounting job 5 years ago and to make ends meet I started delivering for DoorDash. I went on many many interviews but never was able to land a new job. In this time my dad got sick and was in the hospital then hospice and I stopped looking for a job and enjoyed the freedom of the open schedule DoorDash provided so I could visit him whenever I wanted. At this point in my life I’m still doing DoorDash and kind of enjoy it and don’t want to go back to Accounting. Obviously, the money isn’t as good and I struggle financially at times. I’m divorced and have a son that I pay child support to. Sometimes I feel like I’m a failure and should try to do something my son would be proud of me for. Is it wrong that I want to keep doordashing and not look for a better job? These thoughts keep me up and crying many night a week. I’m not sure what I should do. Any advice?

So I've just been offered Store Manager position at a new store, which has been my dream job for a long time. I am scheduled to start mid-May. However, a holiday booked with Friends all the way back in October is coming up for June 3rd.

I feel really unsure about whether to cancel going. As i want to really sink my teeth into this new role, know the team and drive our sales for a successful launch month. But I can't do that if I'm only there for 2 weeks, and then off on holiday until the end of June.

I'm conflicted. Any suggestions on what to do?

Throwaway. Been with my gf now going on 5 years, just don't feel like things are equal anymore. Some background, we live in SF and rent is expensive here. We grew up here and we're trying our best to not move away from family, namely my gf's family. We've been living together now for about 2 years and our lease ends this November. I make a decent income having been recently promoted from a blue to white collar worker which has taken a long time and I find it incredibly taxing on me mentally. However, I feel as though I can manage my work / life balance well. While this new promotion has me earning well for my tenure, I still have large student loans looming over me. So much so that in order to survive here in SF I've elected to join the Air Force Reserves at the end of the year to help with my loans and to achieve some benefits.

Our current financial situation is this: 75% of bills / expensives are paid by me. I don't make a lot of money compared to others in my field, but we're maintaining a very modest apartment here in SF in a not so great neighborhood. 1 paycheck goes directly to our rent, while the other goes to my student loans/bills leaving me with a small excess for savings each month. My gf works a part-time minimum wage job while she attends school. She has never held a full-time position and has been in school now for longer than our relationship, going through a few different employers. We initially agreed that I'm ok with shouldering most of the financial burdens so long as she can help out in other ways such as cooking dinner on days she's off, laundry, cleaning (her idea not mine). Moving out was our collective idea, but I had reservations about our financial situation since she does not make nearly as much as me. She said once she gets her degree she would be making the same if not more than me, I said ok sounds like a deal. Her major is known for job security and I did not doubt her plans. As long as we can achieve some semblence of equal effort it's fine with me.

Fast forward to today. Our apartment is a mess, I'm full-time yet still find time to cook dinner for us, do laundry, maintain our apartment, take care of errands etc. I find myself doing most of the cleaning and coming home to a mess every night. Out of each month I would say my gf will do each chore once every 2 weeks. She is part-time work and part-time school. I understand that we are both busy, however I find myself spending my days off doing errands while she spends her days off on her phone or out with her friends.

I verbalized that I felt like the effort in our relationship has steadily declined in fairness, yet she snaps at me and says it's because she's busy and doesn't have time to do everything. I say ok, I understand I was part-time working and full-time in school so I completely get it. All I ask is that we sit down and talk about how we can split up chores more efficiently, since I feel like I'm drowning. This happened 2 weeks ago and nothing has changed after she said they would.

She complained to me recently that we don't go out anymore, to which I replied I can't afford it. I told her we can maybe spend some time at the park together, or have date nights at home. Her idea of going out is either bar-hopping or staying in and getting high binge watching random shows. It usually just ends with me taking out the trash mildly buzzed on a friday night while she's passed out on the sofa surrounded by fast food or deserts.

Her friends are town from Michigan so she told me for the next 3 nights she's going to be going out bar-hopping. I said I thought you didn't have any money either? To which she replied they're going to pre-game or get cheap drinks. She said she'll be home late everynight but she'll uber so I won't have to worry about her. I personally don't like going clubbing anymore, I'm too awkward to enjoy it. I drink occasionally but don't really like getting wasted. She is well aware of this. She keeps telling me to go out with them but I dislike her friends. The last time we all went out she was dancing a little too much with her gay guy friends, grinding on them, holding hands etc. I told her I didn't wanna see that stuff anymore but she said it's ok they're gay. I feel like a buzzkill since she used to go out clubbing a lot and I'm just not interested. No big deal, we have different interests. She has clubbing and I recently just got into surfing here in the bay. She tried it out a few times but dislikes it and I find myself going alone everytime, even on days we have off together. I've made my attempts at going out of my comfort zone and I just didn't have a good time. I know she's been feeling stressed from school so I said I'll just stay home go enjoy time with your friends.

Yet now that I'm going into the military to support us she keeps saying she's scared I'm going to cheat on her, or that I'll want to breakup when I get back since I'll find someone else. Neither of us feel like the other will cheat realististically, but I find her saying these things the closer I get to leaving. I don't understand since I've never given her a reason to cheat, I have no negative opinion of her constantly going out without me, I support her financially and mentally and only ask for some semblence of effort in return.

I've been hit on by women who are in my career field, who have my same interests and hobbies and have always turned them down and always told my gf about them. However recently, I find myself thinking of where I would be mentally and financially if I left my gf and found someone else. We do love eachother, however I feel like my back is getting sore from carrying this relationship. Am I bad person? Am I just overreacting? Please let me know if I'm in the wrong or what I can do, thank you.

Me (F19) and my boyfriend(M 18) we met when I was visiting with my family and we got along after exchanging social we decided to do long distance and we have a pretty good relationship and good communication we don’t fight or have arguments only remember having 1 or 2 arguments but we always solve it the same day. my problem is Im a pretty quiet girl and have a neutral tone ( I don’t have much reaction to things which people always assume I’m a cold person) unlike my boyfriend he expresses much and have reaction to anything. He says Im too nice and understanding, sometimes he intentionally say stuff that make me angry or piss me off just to get a reaction out of me he says it will help me with expressing ( Im more expressive when Im sad or angry )recently he confessed that it was hard for him in the start be he got used to it, but I feel like he wants me to be angry and make some drama with him, he even jokes about it sometimes like “ oh you’re too naive and nice “ and these days we haven’t talked much and hasn’t been giving me much attention since he’s busy studying and now I feel like he’s doing it for me to say something ( he alway used to make time for me even when he was busy even for a few minutes but now He’s too tired and exhausted) we’ve been together for 7 months now. what should I do?

(F21) here. Im in a relationship with my boyfriend for more than 1 year now and he is very sure that im gonna be his wife but I am still not sure about him being the one. Im giving myself time but at the same time it feels like maybe im just wasting time. Also its very weird that im not able to love him like I loved my ex. Im over my ex but that time the feelings were so deep and strong. However now, I just feel love for him just in some moments but not everytime. This disturbs me so much. Should i give us more time cause I really wanna make this work?

Just like the title says, we both waited a long time before we lost our V Cards and we’ve been dating for a year and a little over 3 months, and tonight we tried to have PIV sex for the first time, she is on the pill and I put on a condom. We tried in missionary but I couldn’t even fit the tip inside of her so we tried cowgirl to see if she might be able to control it more and we still couldn’t, my dick slipped out and kept almost getting crushed. What are some tips to help with her size and how can we make things more comfortable for her in general?

So this all happened around two years ago in my UK hometown, I’m returning for summer from university soon and since it’s the only pub in my area I’d like to be able to visit with my friends.

I had previously been employed at this pub for around 2 years, I enjoyed the majority of it but the big problem was the kitchen manager and the owner.

The kitchen manager was a hot headed asshole, everyone was always on edge around him. There ended up being an investigation from higher ups that I and many others were apart of, with claims of Screaming, shouting, stomping around, inappropriately touching female staff (this wasn’t SA, but it was enough to make them uncomfortable). Just not being a nice person. (This was not his only investigation)

The owner of said pub (who is also his fiancé) has never taken any of it seriously, ignored it and continued to play favourites with the staff who weren’t the victims of this man.

This all came to head about a week after I had left, they had apparently found evidence of me calling him a “predator” to another customer at the time of my employment. I was subsequently banned for life…

Not only did they lie about “having evidence” but she had also read everything I had said in the investigation about her fiancé, things that I said with the assurance that she wouldn’t find out.

There are some other things that i haven’t said (that would help my case more) or haven’t gone into too much detail for worry that this post is already too long. So my question is, is there any way I am able to get back in the pub? Should I just give up, is it too late now?

I just want a couple beers with my friends again.

Hi. I will try to say in a nutshell what happened and what the situation actually is like. And if you try to give me an advice thank you, I appreciate a lot and God bless you, but if not, please stay in your place.

For refference, I am 17 yo.

Last year my mom bought a course (which was not online, it was in my area) and she paid like 1200$. I know it is a lot, but that person said that he will hire me after going through that certain course. I also had 2 friends who worked there and I was really excited and took it as an opportunity. My mom couldn't say "no" when she saw me that happy.

So after that course finished, I went through an "internship" (I wasn't paid) to learn or whatever, this internship lasted an entire summer (last summer). And after that... nothing. That a**hole literally ghosted me. Those friends are not working for him anymore.

There are still like 4 - 5 people that are working for him. My mom literally sent him some messages, at first he said that he will return all the money (she told him she only wanted 600$, to be fair) but then he literally didn't answer anymore. His last answer was on December. She sent a message again, last week, but only seen.

She doesn't want to go to police, because then things will get too complicated (I heard he ghosted lots of people)... It's funny because the place where he works is literally across the street where my mom works.

What would you do if you were in my place? I am literally so desperate. My mom told me to calm down, but it's her money, she worked hard for them and I feel so depressed things turned out this way.