/r/pornfree
This community exists to help people of all ages overcome their addiction to porn.
This community exists to help people of all ages overcome their addiction to porn. The creation of /r/pornfree was inspired by a bunch of 'IamA Porn Addict AMA' posts. Here is a collection of those posts
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Tbh I find watching porn very interesting,the joy I get from watching porn I can't get from anything else(except a few shows that I finished already) nothing seem to give me the same satisfaction and I hate that. Whenever I decide to stop watching porn and start watching something else I get bored easily and go back to porn in a few days. How can I find joy in another activities?
I decided to cut pornography and masturbation after realizing they were becoming bad for my general well-being.
I cleared my entire browser history which had several artists I enjoyed watching, that made me feel very conflicted.
I also Uninstalled character AI and Sakura AI, since they were triggers aswell
Left several subreddit communities that posted softcore, since those are triggers too
I am blocking IG accounts that post softcore too.
I'm trying to make it impossible for me to go back.
Anyone know any other ways to reduce these triggers?
It s probably because of dopamine , i have a burning feeling too all over my head after relapse
My question is :
Do you relate ?
Porn has been in my life since I was a kid. I remember the first few things I seen and didn't know what to make of it but now ofcourse I know lol. I've had good experiences and bad experiences with porn, things I found out I like, learned, and type of women I like. There are also some negative things aswell such as, always jacking off, wasting my sexual energy, wasting time, addiction, taking me away from my purpose, erectile problems, sex life issues.
I have a very sexual mind and I guess you could say that porn put some shape in to it lol. I honestly love how sexual I am and the feeling of being sexual, seductive, being turned on and turning a woman on. Bringing out the inner freak of a woman and watching the natural sexual side of a women that most men are scared of lol Getting nasty together is a whole lot of fun.
I got alot on my mind and lot to share maybe lol
A short summary of my story. I have been watching porn regularly since I was a teenager, I am now 28 and I am watching much more hours than before, it has been pretty intense these days, typically 3-4 hours a day. I decided to quit and for good and this has been my experience.
Whenever I remain sober for a couple of days at most, I experience withdrawals like nausea. I have managed to fix this with regular exercise (usually running 2 miles, going to sauna 16-20 min and push-ups) whenever I exercise I don’t feel any withdrawal at all.
Well, yesterday I did all my homework. All the regular exercise I committed to follow. I was sober for 3 says and feeling great, I did not experience any withdrawal or anxiety for trying to watch porn again. Then all of the sudden at night I started watching for like 3 hours.
I am like “it should be easy to quit if I do not have any sort of anxiety or urge to watch it” but I still relapsed even when feeling great. That is the power of a such bad habit I have had for my entire life. I am so used to it than even without the urge I ended up watching it, like drinking water without being thirsty. However, this is far from over and I see a future not have to deal with this kind of shit again.
Good luck to you all
Earlier, I made this post about having issues with fantasizing.
I'm a week and 2 days into not watching porn or masturbating. And I'm struggling immensely with nighttime fantasies keeping me up.
I'm desperate for any help or advice.
I think fantasizing is normal and healthy. But this is ridiculous. The girls in my head are nothing but figments of my imagination. This, just like porn, makes me feel shame and embarrassment. It's making me hate myself all over again.
A genuine question. Has anybody ever noticed negatives from stopping fapping and stopping watching porn?
For me I've noticed I'm a lot more horny and it sparks more curiosity in sexuality with the same sex or finding new ways of pleasuring myself (if you know what I mean) even though I'm in a relationship
Anyone else have the same issues?
I just have to make it until Sunday and my whole collection and relapsing account is finally gone!
Are you struggling today with the urge to purge? You are not alone. For 35+ years I spanked the seed bank endlessly. After all my years toiling with the urges, I found a few tools that really helped me.
Design - First, understand that you are a beast of burden. Men are uniquely designed as load bearings, oxen, horses. By your very chemical makeup, you have more built in receptors to dull pain and take on stress. It’s who you are man.
Purpose - Are you struggling with porn binges and purges? Find your purpose. Pick a niche and get to work. Men with too much idle time will start to self sabotage. You have to do something with the testosterone you are dealt. Or it WILL destroy you.
Goals - Set realistic and timetable weekly goals. Not abstinence goals, I mean productive, life improving one’s. Like playing a guitar daily, or going for a walk twice a day. Break them down into small attainable goals that even a toddler can follow. And work your way up.
Here are three books I recommend if you want to truly embrace your new life as a porn free man.
After that. If you are still struggling with self mastery. I highly recommend the “self-mastery” program by the Shaolin Temple Europes legendary master Shi Hung Ye. You can find him ok facebook or the web.
You’ve got this guys. Remember, the power to change lay within you; not externally. Set your intentions, and pursue your mission. No excuses.
EDIT: I mean this is day 8 apparently, according to my tracker, I forgot.
Tomorrow I have a follow up from a job interview. So I know it's a bad idea to goon.
I have little self control once I start, I just think might as well go a few more times.
It's normal though, I haven't master baited (fishing) in 8 consecutive days, I may just do it without corn which is perfectly fine, so is with corn. But the problem with corn is that I have no self control and do too many consecutive sessions which messes my brain.
Remember people if the thing doesn't cause immediate harm, then it self-control is usually key.
I've no problem with corn in general.
Also I am logging day 8 which was yesterday, I forgot to post it
I always make one post during the day and the final log during the night, sometimes I forget the night log
Now that I'm done with my final exams of my final semester (college), I am stuck without any pre-occupation. The job is not to start until a few months from now
I have to find a part time job in the mean time
I really don't mean to try to demotivate anyone here but I have had this question in my head for months now. I could quit watching porn whenever I want. But there is a problem. What do I do after that? The only reason why I watch porn is because I can't have sex. If I stop watching it, I have no other way of being sexual.
This is why I keep going back. What else can I do? A lot of people simply the issue too much. As if by quitting porn women would suddenly jump on my lap out of nowhere. Of course I woud prefer to have sex but I can't. Some people really think a man who watches porn watches it because he loves it, when the majority does it because they can't have sex in real life. Like me.
I don't enjoy watching porn...but it has become a addiction. I am always sad while watching it.
I'm a mom with a decent life, good husband and 2yo daughter, but i have had this secret addiction all my life. I was molested when I was a kid and it tracked me to being hypersexual.
My husband has a much lower libido than i do, and well, porn is total habit for me. When I'm bored, or doing nothing, i turn to porn, you get it. I'm doing work from home and it's really difficult for me to not look any up.
I've tried quitting before, i've always relapsed. My life is good except this addiction.
I've recently deleted my twitter/x, got rid of stored porn, all of that. I just want to make it stick for once
Thank you to all the poeple who helped me and commented on my previous post. I have been in a binge for a week now and it is hard to stay optimistic. But i will not let the guilt and shame get the better of me. I have my life to live and people to love. Im starting over and hope to see you all suceed along the way as aswell!
Originally posted this over at nofap, but I think this is might be a better forum as I think they might have some more extreme. I think while porn does lead to masterbation, I don’t think it’s healthy to cut it out completely.
So basically, I feel that I’m getting addicted to porn and masterbating. To a point where if I’m home alone it will take up my whole evening just watching etc, and is leading to many negative impacts in my life, including the relationship with my wife. I feel I’m sneaking around her, thinking about it at all times and will masterbate a few times that day so don’t feel up to sex. So here I go. Going to just try and stop watching porn and if I do masterbate, will try it the old fashioned way, though will drastically cut down on it to only a couple of times a month.
So I guess wish me luck and let me know if any top tips and advice
To everyone that reads this, please do read this as a cautionary tale.
As far as I think back to, Porn has been a constant in my life. I don't remember the last time I fell asleep without looking at some kind of porn.
I am 25, Indian and work in a mid scale startup. Everything I could have wanted for myself, I have somehow landed upon. Stable Job, working in a company I like, great peers, good social life. I had a girlfriend for 4 years who loved me to death, and I (maybe) did love her a lot as well.
The reader might be thinking, "what's the catch here?" and you might be wrong if you're thinking "porn" ruined my life in some way. This is a cautionary tale about the consequences of letting your primal feelings go unchecked.
Here is how I've fucked up myself and the beautiful relationship I'd built out with my girlfriend.
Two things I think, the reader should note:
Whenever she asked for my time, I was too busy roleplaying and gooning myself on here. Whenever she asked for efforts, I was too busy thinking about the next fap.
This escalated to a point, where, this past month, I was away on an international trip (courtesy of my employer) and I actively sought out clubs and spaces where I had the most likelihood to cheat. The pathetic thing about this ordeal? I wimped like an absolute joke when a girl tried to make out with me, all I could think about , was my girlfriend.
This is what porn enables, It preys on you when you are at your weakest.
Every time I thought to myself, " I will quit this one day" , I fooled myself into thinking it was okay.
Well, here's the kicker: "It isn't surprising to see a big loss when you've failed yourself everyday for a long stretch of time".
When I returned, I knew this was it. I let her bring the distance up, I let her ask me if I wanted to continue. And, I denied. That was the most respect I could have provided to all the love, care and affection she has provided me with over the years.
To the reader, if you know you still have time, please wake up. I may have made the worst mistake of my life choosing to be this shell of a man, but you, You should choose better.
I couldn't stop thinking about a trigger I faced yesterday and went looking for it today. It was as though I was looking for porn and when you go looking for it it easily finds you. I'm slowly learning to let go. Letting go of triggers is important for me to be porn free the rest of my life.
Porn this, porn that — I honestly feel overwhelmed by the amount of times I see the words porn by opening reddit
I’m not complaining, everyone has valid questions, inspiration and it’s very helpful in the beginning but what I’m getting to is, we have all made a conscious decision to rid porn from our lives but it seems like every time we log on to reddit, we are bombarded with the reminder of it
Imagine breaking up with someone and every time you open social media, you see their name
Out of site, out of mind — I’ve decided it’s better off to leave this subreddit and only come back consciously when I need inspiration or would like to inspire
I’m day 45 pornfree (yayyy!!) after 14 years. I’m not craving porn and definitely craving real sexual experiences.
A few days ago I had an amazing sexual experience with my ex (our last time lol so we can’t do it again) and as someone with a REALLY high sex drive since I can’t masturbate (I’m doing nofap for 90 days minimum then reevaluating from there) I quite literally just cant stop daydreaming about it bc it was soo good. When I wake up, when I’m in the shower, when I have free time, before bed. Whenever I get a chance I’m basically daydreaming and replaying it in my head
Ik thinking about porn can work the same neuron pathways we are trying to heal but would constantly thinking abt a real sexual experience do the same? It doesn’t feel healthy either having daydreaming about it as frequently as I am either so how do I stop it??
I’m asking this not just for myself but on behalf of anyone else that needs it (especially because I saw one deleted comment of someone saying an app helped them but they never responded back). I want to know about any apps that helped any of you long-runners here? Please post them here for us all to see! Thank you!
I've been porn free for more than a year now, it has been difficult but I made it. I've continued to masturbate without the need of pornography.
Yesterday I suddenly watched porn and masturbated TWO TIMES in a day, I have fear of being addicted again, what should I do now? What happened?
Hello everyone. I was wondering if any of you stopped watching porn gradually and if it worked. I stopped smoking a year ago now, gradually reducing it, and I wonder if we could do the same with porn?
Hello everyone. I stopped porn for 2 weeks and I don't plan to stop even if it's hard at the moment. Last night I had a super strange moment. I woke up in the middle of the night cumming. I find that super weird. Has this ever happened to anyone here?
I’m 34 years old, in good health, and I work out regularly. I started watching porn when I was 15, and until about four years ago, I thought it didn’t affect my life at all. But everything changed after a tough relationship. I shut myself off and avoided meeting new people. In that isolation, I found comfort in excessive porn consumption.
Over the past four years, although I had some sexual experiences, I faced recurring problems: difficulty maintaining an erection and, sometimes, premature ejaculation. These problems got worse over time. At first, I didn’t pay much attention to them; I thought they might be due to my emotional state or the lack of connection in those relationships. A particularly negative experience with a woman who treated me poorly because of my sexual performance made my insecurity worse. This led me to rely even more on porn. I even started consuming webcam content, which probably made things worse.
During this time, I tried to quit porn several times but couldn’t stick with it. At one point, I managed to stay away for three months, and the results were surprising: my erections improved significantly. I remember feeling excitement and getting erections while flirting with women online—something I had lost. However, I relapsed, convincing myself that porn wasn’t really the cause of my problems.
Recently, I met an amazing woman who I adore for her personality and her unique perspective on sex. She has a very different approach to sex than what I’d experienced before; for her, penetration isn’t the main focus of sexual enjoyment. The first time we were together, I realized I could only maintain an erection with oral sex or by stimulating myself. That experience was a turning point. I decided to quit porn for good.
It’s been 30 days since I made that decision, and the results are clear. My porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED) has improved tremendously. Last night we slept together, and I was able to maintain three solid erections. While I think there’s still room for improvement, I’m confident that even in my current state, I could lead a full and satisfying sex life.
I’m sharing this experience to encourage anyone going through something similar to give quitting porn a shot. If you’re in a similar situation, I urge you to try quitting porn for a couple of months as an experiment. I think the results will surprise you and could change your life. As for me, I want to keep exploring how my sexuality improves and better understand how porn affects the mind and emotions. It’s worth trying.
This is a bit of a general vent and porn addiction is just a part of it. I feel really miserable rn i just feel like I need to express that somehow somewhere and I don't really wanna talk bout it with anyone I know right now. I wish i didn't have this addiction for a couple years now and had some actual passion but I really don't. I don't think I'm depressed because I don't always feel this way. I'm not sure if it's the porn or not thats why I have so little passion or desire to do things either. Most of my whole life all I've done is play video games in my free time. I don't know what I'm gonna do because I don't even desire to do anything more than video games, not that I even enjoy that half the time. Feeling a bit hopeless and stressed rn. I can't even imagine when I inevitably do overcome this addiction what the fuck I'd do with my life because I don't care about much and I don't do much. As much as my dopamine levels are prolly very fucked, it's not as if I had much going for me before that was the case.
Even video games that I have ig sometimes a passion for, as much as I've thought about and maybe could do well in designing or making a game, I really have no strong desire to do that. It's a lot easier and more enjoyable to come up with ideas in my head than to learn to code which I might not even enjoy if I tried it. I know I should learn and may try eventually, but I also tbh still feel a bit guilty about the idea of whatever career I choose involving games. Ik people can do it and it's nothing to be ashamed of but the idea of my life revolving around a screen even more with it being my entire career sounds like a waste of a life. Or maybe it's just what I think others view it as getting into my own head. Idfk. I'm tired.
Hey everyone,
I am curious to what helps you the most in those moments where it feels like an uncontrollable urge hits you and the desire to open a naughty website becomes so strong you almost do it unconciously.
Every single answer provided might be the one that helps me improve on this journey and take it to the next level so please share your experience no matter if you are on a big streak or still having slip ups.
Thank you everyone and have a great week 🙏🏼
I used to daydream a lot when I consumed porn regularly. I had gone without dreaming during sleep for maybe a year straight. I dropped porn 1 month ago and I noticed that I almost don't daydream anymore. I thought maybe because of this I would start getting dreams again. Happy to report I get dreams every other day now. Has this been an issue for anybody else?
Nofap seems unrealistic and I feel like it’s unnecessary. The problem is the porn not the fapping right? or am I mistaken?
Thanks to a very stressful week, I've been binging on porn every day. It's taking up so much time and would like to stop. I'm gonna go 3 days without MO and quit porn for good. I'll try my best to avoid the triggers and distract myself with other things.