Wanna do it so bad but won’t

As the title says, 4 weeks clean. Now to stop the constant thoughts and fantasies about sex; including my fascination with boobs.

It's all about the small gains and having a reason to stop. Good luck all

Well the title says it. I installed an AI image generator like a month ago because i was curious.

I started generating mosly harmless romantic pictures at first, but eventually started to generate more and more hardcore porn. Fast forward some weeks and im basically jerking off to the most vile and disgusting fetishes. For hours on end.

i tend to immediately start it up after work and start generating images while jerking off until i have to go to bed. Its like a trance. I dont finish because my brain always thinks "the next image generating in the queue is going to be even better, cant come yet"

I completely neglect everything else, even sleep. When i finish in the evening i am completely disgusted by myself.

I almost daily delete the generator from my pc but then the next day i install it again because i cant stop.

Did anybody here have similar experiences or got any idea how to escape this cycle?

I found information and some youtube channels about the harm of porn.

I got acquainted with how the dopamine system works, and the doctor in the video recommended doing physical exercises and some other things that raise dopamine.

I did workout, I started doing meditation, but I don't understand the meaning of it (if anyone knows, tell me)... Also, I saw a post of a guy who said that some places can trigger the process of relapse in us (a place where we always did it) so maybe I I will rearrange the furniture in the room, or if I can, I will start living in the other.

May the force be with you guys!

Im 15 and cant seem to stop jerking off anyone who was successful in stopping mind giving me some advice

Im so confused right now because i know that you cant hope for a different result by taking the same approach but when i try to replace my bad habits with healthier ones like exercise, reading and actually going to sleep early i end up going back to porn as my coping mechanism. The more i try to change the more feed into the cycle. Its clear that i need major change in my life but im struggling to stick to any one thing that can bring about that change. Can anyone give me an approach i can try, a change of perspective, anything man...im so tired of doing the same shit to end up back in the same position.

If you have a phone, coming across triggering content is almost unavoidable.

My question is:

Are you more likely to be affected by or act on those triggers when you’re at home compared to when you encounter them while you’re out?

yup defo urges, it's normal
I will log later tonight if I succeed

I need to go to sleep now.

Every night, i read "three body problem". Every night, i dont want to go to sleep, i feel so bored, i want to watch porn, feel the excitment, feel the refreshment, the relaxation, the release.

I want my release now. I feel it in my balls. Serious blue balls now, i want to jerk off with porn.

But what i need is sleep, i tell myself. I dont want to go down this spiral again.

I feel so bored now.

Thinking about doing that. I am in my late twenties but still live at home. I have a good relationship with my parents but I'm not sure how they'd react to this. (They are quite religious.) I don't think I will be able to quit on my own but I am not close enough to anyone else to talk to them about it.

Maybe that is actually the problem. I don't have a life/friends outside of work.

Was thinking of doing this because life is short and I do not want to spend it addicted to porn

My partner knows about my porn addiction and wants to help. I also want to get to a point where I no longer feel the urge to look at porn or masturbate, but I’m early in my journey of beating this addiction and the urges that come are really strong sometimes.

I was thinking that if I use videos of me and my partner having sex as a substitute for porn, this might help with my journey away from porn. My logic is that if I’m only looking at these videos, which have the person I’m actually having sex with and about to marry, It can help with the re-wiring process in my brain to not sexualize every women I see or have such an addiction to porn.

I know this isn’t a permanent solution. And my intentions aren’t to make a bunch of different videos and just continue fapping and watching them multiple times a day. I’m just wondering if this would work as an emergency solution for days when I “relapse”. I think this won’t make me feel as guilty, and might even help me crave my partner in a more intimate way and only crave her.

A few problems I see with this is that these videos could obviously be a trigger and lead to me looking up actual porn, or give me a reason to want to masturbate even though I’m trying to give up masturbating too. These videos could also potentially keep my brain “addicted” to sexual images and what not.

I’m just curious to know if anyone has tried this method. I don’t intend to use this as a way to feed my addiction, but only to help me along the way when times are hard.

About a month ago, I was at one of my lowest and most frustrated points when I first posted here. Since then I have worked on addressing the root causes of my addiction and it has made a world of difference. Self forgiveness and reframing my self perception has made redirecting urges so much easier, and I would advise anyone else who feels like they are just spinning their wheels to do the same. I really appreciate this community for being here, and I wish the best for everyone trying to change, don't lose hope for yourself.

Struggle with porn addiction

Hello everyone,

Im male 26 years old. Im suffering with Porn Addiction. I feel so lonely and i everything has no meaning any more. I reach a point right now where i feel so exhausted with this addiction i need help. I find it hard to stop..

I want to enjoy my life and be successful and this addiction is the worst enemy i faced in my life. Its blocking me from everything. Im crying right now writing this because i feel so emotional and i rarely cry but i just thinking about doing it make me feel sick.

My mental health is broken and i cannot prioritize stuff over porn, it takes my time and i sexualize everything.

I want to have a girlfriend, i want to enjoy my life, i want to be free from this addiction, i want to win, i want to fucking winnn, i want to control my mind, i want to Be successful, i want to be focused on my goals.

I feel so lonely.

From today i woke up thinking about how can i get this addiction away from my life.

Anyone can help me I’ll appreciate it so much.

15 consecutive days of No Porn. Just keeping myself busy all time, picking up extra hours at work and watching tv shows. Self talk helps and I keep telling myself that the porn is no longer a part of me and my life. The urges are there sometimes but I feel myself balancing out. Erections come more frequently and naturally and my mind feels clear without seeing images of Corn. Oldschool will power works, you can do it.

Most slip-ups happen over the weekend.

Guys have more time on their hands. 

They’re stressed from the week, they want to decompress, they’re bored, whatever it is…

But remember: it’s the wolf you feed that grows.

The urges won’t grow so big if you aren’t feeding them your attention.

Occupy your time and your mind with other, non-sexual things this weekend.

You don’t have to be busy every moment.

But make some plans. 

Listen to some music. 

Do some writing and reflecting.

It’s not too important what it is… as long as it isn’t feeding the urges.

If it involves looking at women or fantasizing, it’s certainly not going to help.

More than anything, porn is a mental and emotional problem.

Once you figure out how to manage what’s happening inside of you?

Everything becomes 100x easier.

Last night I typed a porn related search into google, up popped the results. I even clicked on one, covering up the screen to make sure I didn’t see anything, saw some accidental nudity but didn’t stop to gaze on it, it just passed me by. closed the phone and didn’t go through with it. I denied my impulse in the end and now, the next day, the impulse is gone. I don’t feel guilty. I don’t care what anyone says if they think I ended my streak. I denied the impulse and that’s more important to me. You can all do the same, choose wisely.

Hello, I finally decided to quit, so far so good apart from (can live with those)depression, insane anxiety.

My biggest problem is insomnia.... second day in row I've slept for about 4h30m.... My focus/concentration was really strong ( I do have very high T) but lack of sleep is killin it, its quite hard to focus on work when barely functioning.... I suppose it should get better? Or I should get some light sleep meds.

Hi guys, I made promise 2 days ago, and unfortunately I gave into my urges again. I feel bad because I got a lot of words of encouragement in my DMs, wishing me the best, and now I have to admit that I let you all down. I feel ashamed, but I won't let myself give up. I'll go 4 days without MO and quit porn for good. I'll make sure I reach my goal this time.

How's everyone doing this week? I've been feeling better. I've been working on a lot of side projects and taking long walks. Not bad.

Everything i did in lieu of porn.

Resisted the urge last night, logged my thoughts on reddit, went to sleep.

Woke up, took my son to class, went skating finally, a bit left knee pain so avoiding jumping, but otherwise good progress, i could do one foot spins w consistency and improved backspins, practised right forward bracket turns before twissles.

I need something to hold me accountable. Keep going, everyone.

At nearly 32 and after many relapses, I am once more making a real effort to cut porn out of my life. But lately, everytime I click on the little magnifying glass "Instagram Explore" icon, my page is FULL of OnlyFan's creators posting lewds and "suggestive" content.

Seriously, wtf gives? I have never followed any sex workers or e-girls on Instagram, and up until a couple of months ago, my Discover feed was tailored to my actual interests (post-punk, cooking videos, books, etc). Now it's just wall-to-wall asses and titties, and it's highly triggering.

I'm not usually one to buy in to conspiracy theories, but this feels like a psy-op or something to normalize this kind of shit and re-program my brain. I might have to delete the app entirely at this point; it's just so discouraging.

(Unrelated, but I've also got tons of carnivore diet creators amidst all the OF girls, I've NEVER done carnivore, I'm so confused hahaha)

Had a small slip up earlier and I seen a thong picture and I’m about to go to sleep into my 4th night all horny and faded, wish me luck hope I make it.

Fucked up last night and trying not to again

I am about to complete day nine in a few hours.
My problem is that I have no self control, if I watch corn I binge for too long causing me to feel worse than baseline

Another day, another success!

I’m 22, and I started watching porn and masturbating at 16 after a bad breakup. It became a coping mechanism for me back then. I didn’t see any harm in it—it was fun, and I’d sometimes watch it multiple times a day.

When I turned 20, I realized it was causing problems. I had low mood, no enjoyment in other things, anxiety, social anxiety, and even cognitive issues. That’s when I decided to quit.

It wasn’t easy, especially since I was in an engineering program with a lot of stress, and porn/masturbation was my go-to coping mechanism. At first, I couldn’t make it past 10 days without relapsing, and it made me feel awful.

Over the past two years, I’ve learned a lot about my triggers (like lack of sleep and alcohol) and started avoiding them. I’ve also adopted a healthier lifestyle. I went from being completely inactive to going to the gym 5 days a week, which has been amazing for my physical and mental health. Gaining physical strength also helped me overcome some insecurities, which has been a big part of my recovery.

I managed to go 100 days without porn or masturbation, but the first month was brutal. Then I relapsed, made it 20 days, relapsed again, and the pattern continued.

Here’s some context: I’ve never had a physical partner, and in my country, sex before marriage is a huge taboo. Most people don’t have sex before they’re married, so it’s not really an option for me anytime soon.

I’m starting to wonder if my relapses aren’t just about porn but also my body’s need to release sexual energy. I’ve put in a lot of effort, but the urges keep coming back. Yesterday and today, I had terrible urges, and I gave in. It was literally a one-minute session. I did watch porn during it, but honestly, it felt like my body just needed that release.

Is it really that bad to masturbate once in a while? I understand that too much of anything can be harmful, and I agree that porn has its dangers. But in my situation, where sex isn’t an option for now, isn’t it okay to do it occasionally?

I know that 1 relapse is not a total reset. But damn, I just want to be over with this shit. 2 years of trying !

I’m tired of reading mixed opinions online—some say masturbation is bad, others say it’s fine in moderation. I just want to hear your thoughts. Is it even possible to go a year without releasing?

I want I get rid of everything but why is it so hard to do that?! I don't even use it but I just can't delete it. I feel miserable I don't want to be this person sigh.

I had a day off today which was so nice. I caught up on some sleep and spent time with the family. My partner has been away for a week abroad and comes back on Sunday, so I'm super excited to be reunited with them.

Usually when I am away from my partner I would watch porn in the late evening, but I'm proud of myself for not having any urges / watching it.

The thing that I've found frustrating with myself is scrolling on my phone, or talking with friends on Discord until really late at night (e.g. it's 1am now). I am somebody who isn't usually comfortable just being around myself and always seeking a friend, or connection with somebody or always messaging somebody for company. I want to get better at being on my own and enjoying things like reading, or even indulging in a single player game which I barely do anymore.

Having 5 days away from porn though has definitely already had it's benefits. I'm feeling a lot of clarity. Usually, I fall into this pattern where once I have sex, the day or two afterwards is really hard not to slip back into watching porn, so I really need to watch out for that.

I think for the time being I need to go back to the 11pm bedtime that I used to enforce on myself from next week. I would switch off all of my tech at 11pm and it would be super healthy for me as I could journal, meditate and wind down for bed during that time. I haven't been as strict on myself regarding bedtime than I could have been.

Anyway, the journey feels like it's going well so far, I"m hopeful and excited.

and I always feel awful after