Ever thought about publishing your experience and showing people that hard work is the only way to attain results?

The opposite of what all the life coaches, gurus and experts dish out?

what made you want to keep trying?

We strive for order and all we get is strife.

Does life have to be like this?

Why is life so unfair?

Will I ever make it? What is it that we call a success anyway?

I am pondering over these thoughts sitting on my dining table and looking at the pressure cooker that is about to wishtle.

We expect so much from life and live under the pressure of our own expectations.

And in this illusion of expectations, we miss what life really has to offer.

Our quest to live a better life is a canon shot on your territory.

Invaded by external circumstances, you fight the battle with them on your own land.

Your mind is the battleground.

Read More - https://jett.me/insight/chasing-your-own-tale/

I am a 32-year-old male, single, and living with my parents. I have been battling self-criticism and low self-esteem for 13 years, and it has only worsened over time. All my friends are successful and married. I have 10 years of experience in IT, but I am underpaid. I experience anxiety frequently and have found it very challenging to concentrate on anything.

I start projects or initiatives but quit each one, spending entire days overthinking or watching random videos just to stay engaged for a while. My productivity has plummeted, and I am struggling to upskill. I have had suicidal thoughts since I was 22, though I have managed to push through repeatedly. However, the last six months have been extremely challenging. My anxiety has peaked, and each day feels like a struggle to get through. Nights bring some relief as they feel more peaceful.

I dislike living in Delhi and am desperate to settle abroad, but my overthinking has left me feeling paralyzed. I cannot seem to begin anything or follow through to completion. Moving abroad would require significant research and time investment, but considering my current mental state, I feel defeated even before trying.

How can I get out of this cycle? With this mindset, I am worried I may not be able to hold on to my job much longer. Everything around me seems gloomy and as if it is falling apart. Any help would be appreciated.

I don’t have hobbies, and in my search for one I have came to a conclusion, I need adrenaline, risk and knowing that I leave things better than they were when I arrive.

What can I do that mixes all of these? I’m lost, bored and with no motivation to do anything in life.

Have you ever felt like life’s challenges are too overwhelming, leaving you unsure of how to move forward? I've helped many people navigate these exact feelings and come out stronger. Life can be an incredible journey, full of highs and lows. When facing tough times and insecurities, discovering, and nurturing our inner strength can help us navigate through almost anything. Here are some strategies to help you develop resilience and get back on top of things:

Reflect on Past Challenges

Consider difficult situations you have previously encountered:

• How did you manage to get through those situations? • What actions did you take? • Which of your strengths came into play? • What did you tell yourself at the time? Was it beneficial in hindsight? • If you were to face the same situation again, what would you do differently? • What advice would you give to someone else in a similar situation? • How can you apply the lessons learned to your current challenges?

Engage in Positive Self-Talk

We all have our own inner dialogues. What we tell ourselves, and how we do so, matters.

Building inner strength involves listening to ourselves and considering what this is telling us:

• How would you advise your best friend in this situation? Extend the same kindness to yourself. • Create effective affirmations. For guidance, consider my other posts on crafting affirmations. • Accept confusion as part of the learning process. It's natural to feel uncertain while working things out. Confusion just means you’re trying to figure something out. • Recall times when life was smoother. What factors contributed to those positive experiences?

Evaluate Your Thoughts

Gaining perspective on your thinking can provide clarity:

• What evidence supports or contradicts your thoughts? • Are there alternative explanations for the outcomes? • Are you considering all possible scenarios, not just the worst-case? • How useful are your conclusions? • What limiting beliefs might be influencing your thoughts?

Look to Role Models and Mentors

Think about the individuals you admire and respect:

• What would they do in your situation? • How would they handle it? • What skills and resources do they have that you also possess? • How can you develop the qualities they have that you don’t yet?

Celebrate Your Achievements

Reflect on your proudest moments and accomplishments:

• What are your most significant achievements? • Did you experience doubt during those times? How did you overcome it? • What personal skills and resources did you rely on? How can you apply them now?

Craft Your Affirmation

Complete this affirmation to solidify your learnings and plans:

"Now that I have realised/learned [what have you learned from reflecting on the above], I choose to [what have you chosen to do differently/do more of/start doing] because [the benefits you will gain by making these positive improvements in your life]."

Does anyone remember a video where it a white stick figure kind of and these chiseled face just looks at him his dr in naming soda and the face looks at him drinks water, playing games he turn to the face and put it down starts reading books, smoking a cigarette on his break at Mcds see the face put it away starts to workout. At the end of the video he sitting in this fancy place the chiseled face give a small grin then disappears does anyone remember this video trying to find it but can’t would be a great help

When I was a kid in Brazil, my parents never had much money, so most of the toys I received were either second-hand or of lower quality, but always filled with a lot of love.

One day, when I was 12 years old and had just completed my first season in a theater play, where I earned my first paycheck, I went straight to a toy store after leaving the theater. With my first bit of money, I bought a top-quality toy for myself and a real Barbie for my sister, who was 9 at the time. That moment marked me deeply...

I always wanted to be a dad; I always dreamed of having a big family, one that fills the Sunday table.
So once, when I was 26 years old, I was dating a girl who had two nephews. I was doing well financially (thanks, Alice Urbim) and really wanted to test the waters of being a dad...

They were very poor... the cutest little kids, and I don't think they had ever been to the movies, McDonald's, or even a mall, if I’m not mistaken. We spoke with their parents to let them spend the weekend with us in the city.

We took them everywhere—movies, McDonald's, played on the computer; it was amazing... I decided right then and there that I wanted to be a dad, that I wanted this every day of my life...

At the end of the outing, I walked into one of those big department stores, went to the toy aisle, and said to the two of them, "You can choose any toy from this aisle. Any toy." And there was everything, of all prices...

I said, "You can choose whatever you want, but you have to promise me that one day, you’ll do the same for other kids like you." They promised. They picked out their toys; the boy took some LEGO cars that he loved, but I can't remember what the girl chose...

The relationship ended, life went on... But I always thought about them. Every time I entered a toy store... And I created the family I had always dreamed of, expanding it with the help of my wonderful wife, and my fifth daughter was born.
I have 5 little hearts full of love.

And last week, at 10 PM, while my amazing wife was breastfeeding our just newborn in the hospital bed, I received a DM on Instagram... from the boy. He remembers that day. He carried it with him throughout his life. A few days ago, he did the same...

He took his girlfriend’s nephew, and the boy chose the same LEGO cars... He took that day with him for life. Today, at 26 years old, he touched me more than I thought possible.Thank you so much, Jonathan. Now my heart is divided into 6; you are another part of me.
There are cycles that need to be broken. Others that can be created. Thank you for allowing this cycle to exist in the world.

This is the boy's DM to me. (sorry, is in Portuguese)

You’re so goddamn desperate for validation that you can’t even bring yourself to be honest on an anonymous platform like Reddit. Think about that for a second. Nobody here even knows who you are, yet you’re so wrapped up in the fear of judgment, of losing approval, that every thought you share is watered down, filtered through a desperate need to avoid even a single downvote. You’ve reached a point where people-pleasing has become automatic—an instinct so deeply ingrained that you can’t just say what you truly mean.

You’re clinging to whatever is popular, going with the flow to avoid making waves, even when deep down, it goes against everything you actually believe. And all for what? To fit in? To stay safe in a crowd of strangers who don’t even know you? For fuck’s sake, this is supposed to be where you can be real, where you can speak freely and share your truth without any of the usual filters. And yet, you’re betraying yourself here too.

So what the hell are you so scared of? A downvote or two? A negative reply? Are you really that afraid of a few people disagreeing with you? Who fucking cares? If you stand for something, if you believe in something, then what’s the point of hiding it, especially here? At least by speaking your truth, by saying something real, you’d finally be putting yourself out there instead of just adding to the noise.

And here’s the kicker: this whole rant, every word, isn’t even about anyone else. It’s a hard truth, but this is a pep talk from me… to me. This is a wake-up call to break out of this endless loop of seeking approval and finally start practicing honesty. To stop hiding behind what’s “safe” or “acceptable” just to avoid feeling judged. To let go of this need for validation and finally speak from the heart. Because if I don’t, then who am I even living for?

This is a message to my future self, and maybe to anyone else who needs to hear it too: cut the bullshit. Stop drowning in the safety of other people’s opinions. Start saying what you mean, standing behind it, even if it’s uncomfortable. Own your truth. Stand up for it. If I can’t do that here, in a place where no one knows me, then what hope do I have of doing it in the real world?

So that’s it. I’m done hiding, done watering myself down. Starting today, I’m choosing honesty over approval. Will I fall back into people-pleasing tomorrow? Maybe. Who knows. But today, I’m committing to try my damn best.

Life is full of pain and suffering. 

External circumstances and internal conflicts induce it.

Psychologically and Physically.

We see a lot in our lifetime: desperate times, dire situations and difficult conditions.

And yet we wake up and start a new day with new zest.

Facing the challenges that are served on our plates and fighting the battles in someone else's name.

We strive, we survive.

We never question the nature of the things we do. We only find answers that are seemingly unrelated to our lives.

We run from our life, and life runs behind us.

We look at everything shiny and life looks at us in dismay.

Unattended.

We have a fear of asking important questions about life because it questions the very existence and wakefulness of our being.

We don't want to get caught sleeping at work. We don't want to confront that we are sleepwalking through life.

Life passes by and we only know it has gone when met with death.

But this is not the way of a human. An alarm is needed to wake them up. A blast.

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Humans are curious beings. They are seekers.

Few creative minds and people who like to spend time in nature, listen to the call within and follow their hearts.

Others need a wake-up call.

It can be something traumatic incidence that puts a big question mark on the purpose of life itself.

But humans seek. That is the point of our evolution. 

We have come so far to seek more than just food water and shelter.

The energy that is spent in the accumulation of things, can also be used to seek something internally.

To gather the unwanted is a primal instinct lost its way.

The instinct to gather can be chanalised to seek the truth.

Deep down we want something. We think we want things.

But the things rarely satisfy our needs of a sense of belonging.

It's an insatiable urge to have everything big, bigger and the biggest.

But the reality is that it is a never-ending loop.

A cycle that never ends. Because every external thing comes with an expiry date.

What we looking for is ourselves. 

The seek of things is for the sake of mind, the seek of life is to seek for yourself.

Read more - https://jett.me/insight/never-give-up-the-search-for-yourself/

Whats the solution? What can i do about it? Im tired of repeating the same actions and nothing working, tired of posting on reddit or searching for knowledge on the internet about all these issues. I want to do something.

Its like I dictate my entire life to finding a "gf" or relationship, im 23 and 3 years in college with no gf or any girl ever interested in me and this makes me think that im boring or uninteresting or unimportant or invisible.

Im jealous of other guys who get looked at by others or get paid attention to

What do they have that i dont?

I know im desperate, perhaps trying to filla void or use people as a vehicle for self esteem and self worth.

So im not blaming the girls, why would they want a guy who just wants a relationship and doesnt care about who they are? The problem is because im so focused on their approval, validation, attention recognition of me that i never tried to get to know them even though i have no idea how. I dont know what "effort" is good enough for them to care, i never try to get to know them and they dont get to know me,

always trying to "keep them happy" "be funny" "be a clown for their entertainment" lowering my value to raise theirs. I think all of this is not genuine its just me trying to "get a goal"

Im just tired of all this, tired of knowing my problems and not knowing what to do about them. Or make changes or take actions.

Its like im always in flight or fight mode, where i let others reactions dictate my worth, always putting up a performance for others so they like me or think im good enough.

I dont know how to make friends or when i try its always one sided, always me chasing, always me "starting conversations" even though im not good at them but im trying to get better

I want to have friends where im not always chasing, not always starting conversations or trying to keep them "from leaving" and i think im so desperate because afraid of rejection or abandonment and loneliness

Im trying to be a better version of myself, i have quit porn for good, trying to get control of addictions like fapping, tv shows, food, internet, social media, approval addictions

Going to the gym and im trying to get better at soccer, i just want to be better, improve myself, im tired of being at the rock bottom

I’ve always struggled with two things: reading and exercise. I want to do both, but I’m lazy, I procrastinate, and if I try to read, I usually end up dozing off or zoning out. On top of that, I’d feel guilty for not fitting these things into my day, but actually making time was a different story.

Finally, I convinced myself to try an audiobook subscription, and it’s been a game-changer. Now I listen to books while walking or working out, which has made exercise a lot more enjoyable and less of a chore. Plus, I actually retain what I’m “reading” and stay awake, which is huge for me!

If you’re someone who’s short on motivation for either reading or working out, this combo has really helped me feel more productive and less stressed. Highly recommend giving it a shot!

Hi everyone,

I am a very curious person who loves to dabble in various things. Often, I juggle various hobbies, courses on things I am curious about or want to learn. Learning new things fills my bucket as does expressing creativity either through learning art or problem solving.

I'm employed and have been at the same place for 20+ years... but as far as I can remember, I've always lacked fulfilment. I'm 40 now....

I've dabbled throughout the years, but never achieved enough from a side business perspective to leave, or I've tried various endeavours but because of my curious nature, would shift to the next thing, appeasing the early dopamine hit that comes from something new. Rinse and repeat.

Lately, I've thought about my problem, if its considered one, and thought how can I get better at this? Better as in, understanding why I jump from thing to thing, and the urge to learn something new.

It can't be just me in this scenario?

What if I can learn as much as possible about what I experience today, find a solution sort of speak and if all goes well, spread what I learned to others in a similar situations? Maybe this is some sort of calling that I should go all in on? I don't know... but if I can help myself then maybe I can reciprocate that outwards...

What advice, or resources can you suggest to help someone with a busy mind?
Books, podcasts, videos... anything really.

If you have been in a similar situation what did you find helped?

SA

Quote of the day I enjoyed:

If you stop looking up—toward transcendence—you start looking around—toward envy.

I just feel like a complete mess and my mind doesn't feel like is in the right place. For so many months I've been avoiding facing the reality of life and I just seem to do repetitive things over and over again despite knowing is not going to get me anywhere. I've become so lazy unmotivated and seem that I even lost willpower to change. I seem to accept defeat and failure. I know I'm just unhappy right now and want to change my life for the better but is so many things I need to fix yet I'm already overwhelmed and seem to not take actions because feelings and emotions are in the way

Hi! People aren’t really reading much these days because of technology making it really hard for us to focus for even short periods of time. Add depression to the mix and you got the perfect combo for never reading again in your entire life. And also having to study can leave you pretty meh about wanting to read even more in your free time. That’s me pretty much.

I know people recommend to even do it for 10-15 minutes a day (don’t think I could do 30mins/day, that sounds just daunting, it’s hard for me to even physically pick up a book). What do you think? Does that little effort really matter? With only 10mins/day it’d take quite a while to finish a book, but still compared to not reading at all it’s a bit better I guess? But maybe you’d just abandon the book in the process since it just takes way too long? Could you even read one average book per month with only 10mins/day?

I’m also personally not a fan of stopping halfway through a chapter so that could be an issue as well. Maybe an easy book with shorter chapters could help, but how would I find one like that that interests me? I could definitely try to read some a-bit-rather-childish books because they’re easier, sometimes funnier and more light-hearted than books targeted at an older audience, I actually think I’d enjoy doing that, but fear of being criticized by my family.

How did you overcome this reading issue yourself? Any tips and advice? Thank you!