So recently (about 4 months ago) I got blindsided when my partner broke up with me because they lost feelings, that kinda broke me but I have a lot experience with handling feelings myself, so I know that is out of their control and it was for the better than dragging it out. Also that was the first relationship which I really felt I was growing and could see a future in.

But with the background out of the picture and to the real question, I have like 5 friends whom I’m really close with and have known my whole life, but they are really the only friends I have, and life is happening now so I can’t just count on them being there for me all the time, and also I need to find joy in being alone, but I feel so lost and lonely, some days are of course better and I ain’t depressed but more lost, especially nights are hard, I used to be medicated to sleep but I stopped doing that because of heart problems so when I stopped I got used to laying with my partner but now that I’m alone I cuddle with a pillow and that’s just not a longtime solution.

Sorry maybe I got a bit side tracked in this post but I needed to lift my heart a bit, any advice on how to get better alone?

Digital nomad who is not great at making friends but don't want to be alone. I sign up for meetups and similar events to meet new people.

Almost every time I force myself to go and am one of the early arrivals since if I wait too long to go, I know I won't.

I tell myself - have 1 drink, say hello to a few people and you made an effort. By the time I finish my drink (~1 hour), I let myself stay if I want or go home. No shame, no guilt.

Often I go and make no new friends. Sometimes though I do meet a cool person who is also a nomad like me and we run into each other at these events and have exchanged numbers so we can hang out. And we actually hung out!

It's never ever easy and the anxiety often surfaces but now it's not as overwhelming as it once was.

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The unfortunate reality of life is that the moment you seek to be comfortable, everything will start to work against you. If you do not exercise your body, apply your mind to something you care about, spend some time every day looking inward with meditation and self reflection, be willing to break old habits, mind patterns and limitations, and keep an open mind to different perspectives - life will actually be very cruel to you. When you are not constantly stretched, all kinds of demons will start to show up in the mind. Have you ever seen what happens to the body after just 1 week in a hospital bed? What do you think happens to your brain if it is not challenged? 

“Unless you constantly strive to be better, you will become a stagnant pool. Stagnation will ultimately poison your life.” - Sadh-guru

I have IBS, crohns, chronic pain tension, reflux, anxiety

Today I was hanging out with a friend and I mentioned how tired and painful I was feeling. She mentioned maybe I should stop using the symptoms as excuse to be unable do something and just push through it.

Honestly it’s a bit offensive and kind of just made me think that the real world is not understanding and I don’t need to tell anyone how I actually feel. yet maybe she has a point that I need to push through but that sounds like that only applies to able-bodied people

Is anxiety or worry or symptoms a choice because some people say that our emotions or how we feel as a choice ?

It could be true sometimes, yet most of the time I think my reactions/ feeling isn’t really a choice if I feel bad and I force myself to be positive that’s not natural at all yet being positive require some effort like affirmations or changing your mindset - so I am confused on this.

Last year my tutor told me that I should’ve let my teammates know about my chronic health conditions so they can better understand accommodate me yeah I told her I never let people know because I thought they were going to think it was an excuse and I should just suck it up like everyone else

when I push through it sometimes I can achieve it in the end but after a long time and lots of procrastination and it’s just not efficient at all

And I realise that actually don’t let myself properly rest like when I think I’m taking a break by watching TV and stuff that doesn’t actually make me feel more rested and when I’m relaxing I feel guilty and keep on thinking of other productive things I should be doing or how I haven’t done enough to earn it .

2. Is it good to rest even though we didn’t learn it or relax or is that going to feed a cycle of laziness and complacency I just want to know based on people’s experiences that if they haven’t been productive and they relax reward themselves without the guilt and shame what’s the consequence of that do they go on like that forever or they go back to the proper routine and get over it and life goes on?

maybe I procrastinate with mental stimulation like electronics instead of actual rest like sleep or things that actually rest my body and mind because I feel like I’m not allowed to rest because I haven’t turned it or did enough work yet yet I’m in too much pain or tired or anxious and worried to do my work so the only thing left is the kill my time with electronics

The past couple weeks I’ve also been very stressed and been staying up late exhausted

I I am trying to figure out how to be more productive and manage time better but at the same time being realistic and having self love and compassion

I don’t know how this looks like and I’m feeling quite lost I tend to go and extremes because it’s just much more easier and clear-cut was being in the middle is just so grey confusing subjective that makes me feel unsure if I am doing enough or my best

To me being productive as being able to do the 20 things in my list every day that’s is a perfect ideal situation and doing my best means that I do all of them and achieve these things

Yet right now I can’t do them and my friend mention instead of feeling guilty I should just focus on the top five things and just do that well.

the thing is how long do I focus on that ? a few weeks a few months? I feel like progress might be slow and isn’t that a bad thing what if it takes too long I know it’s good not to give myself the pressure because it’s better for my mental health it could also be an excuse to not improve faster.

And perhaps end up not achieving as much as I want it like doing more things on my list.

obviously I would like to feel content just doing a few things because it’s more relaxing easier . But right now I’m looking for a job and unemployed and I don’t know if I should prioritise mental physical health and just relax or I should push myself to do like a 9 to 5 job routine where I’m productive for every single hour and actually do things like when you’re in high school where every hour for eight hours a day is learning or doing something

I thought that being productive has to be at least stressful and not relaxing maybe my standards are too high and hard

3. what does too hard mean though ? that’s also subjective . maybe I’m a perfectionist expect things to be perfect at the get go no things take time but there also needs to be a limit because how much time is too much time I don’t have forever to just let myself be at level one

Our brains are fascinating. Some days, they feel like our best friends. Some days, our worst enemy. When we have a day when we feel a lack of clarity and focus, this is known as “brain fog”.

There are 3 main reasons we experience brain fog.

1) Overstimulation: Tim Ferriss says we live in a world where “attention is currency”. If you watch an ad, someone gets paid. There are massive companies fighting for your attention every day. And they’re winning. Why is clickbait so powerful, for example? It is because of a phenomenon known as ‘supernormal stimuli’ The term was coined by Dutch biologist Niko Tinbergen. His research showed something mind-boggling. Our primitive brains follow stimuli. We do things that make us feel good. However, when he replaced certain triggers for animals with more enticing options... they followed.

An example: Songbird parents would choose to feed fake babies with louder cries and bigger mouths than their own offspring! All to appease the natural paternal instinct. The thing is... we humans also have these mechanisms. And we’re being exploited.

Companies gradually discover what makes our brains tick. They follow our likes, comments, views, etc... Then, they pump our feeds full of them. To the point where we wanted to relax for 10 minutes and now we’re 3 hours in watching funny dog videos. The slope is slippery.

To counter this...

• Practice meditation.

• Focus on improving your concentration.

• Reduce your social media usage.

• Turn off phone notifications.

Your brain will start feeling clearer after a few days.

2) Subconscious disturbances: Imagine you have 1 month to write a paper. After a week, you say “Ah I’ve still got 3 weeks”. So you procrastinate another week. That looming deadline and how you feel about it hasn’t disappeared. You’ve just delegated it to your subconscious. The more you delegate, the more your mind scatters. Your brain is using more processing power without you realizing it.

So, what to do?

• Don’t procrastinate.

• Write out a to-do list.

• Tick things off.

• Create micro steps to victory rather than 1 macro step.

3) Improve your general health: Make sure you go to sleep on time. Get 7-9 hours of sleep. Eat a healthy diet. However, one of the most important aspects of your health is exercise. Exercise isn’t just physical benefits. Its mental benefits are equally great.

In summary:

3 tips to destroy brain fog:

1. Reduce overstimulation
2. Eliminate subconscious distraction
3. Optimize exercise, sleep, and diet

Please help me get a little motivation. Im 19F . I graduated high school in 2022 went straight to community following. Planned on obtaining associates this year and transferring to a University in the fall. Met some bumps in the road switched my major 3 times and now I’ve just decided to drop out. I’ve always been a star student since I’ve been in school. My parents are a little hard on me getting through school because I’ve always had a head on my shoulders. But I’ve been in school since I was 3. IM BURNED OUT! I decided to drop out and try again in January. I plan on pursuing nursing. But here’s where the motivation falls. I just quit my job at Tj Maxx, dropped out of school for now, literally rotting in the house. I feel that my mom is disappointed in me because she was telling everyone that I was supposed to be graduating next month and im not. But honestly thats her problem because Im living this life, not her. I have so many big plans for myself career wise. The biggest thing for me right now is my confidence!

Since high school I’ve put on a bit of weight. I used to be fairly active in high school. I was a cheerleader, basketball player, and softball. But I’ve put on about 40 pounds since 2022 (crazy? ikr dont judge me). Im so uncomfortable and lacking confidence. Im a really pretty girl! Ive always been told to try a hand at modeling or anything that broadcasts my face. But ever since I’ve put on the weight I’ve shut myself off from the world. I dont hang out with friends anymore, when family events are at my house I hide in my room, I dont even post myself on social media anymore! I just feel trapped in my own body! I have dreams to be a nurse, social media influencer, and entrepreneur! But this weight has me so unmotivated and stuck inside my room! I recently went through a breakup and I really need to shit on my ex ! I sleep in late, barely doing my skincare, eating poorly! Im literally just dreaming about what I can be and instead of put a foot forward! I really dont wanna grow old and sit in a life of wasted potential. Please give me a little motivation.

I want to achive my dream body. I want to get a job where I'm not being pushed around. I want to show the world and I want to show myself just how unbreakable my will power is. Bring it the fuck on. No matter what anyone throws at me or what I have to go through I'll achive my goals no matter what in the end.

I've grown up at this job and admittedly have learned a lot. However, the last few years have been demoralising. Staying at a place for this long makes them take you for granted and I'm feeling the effects of this in the last year or so (maybe a bit late).

But I'm petrified of quitting and finding a new job. I have impostor syndrome and fear that once I get a new job, I won't be good enough for it.

At the same time, I need to make a move. How do I get over this crippling fear of change and will myself to start seriously hunting?

I feel completely defeated. I hate school, I hate having a job. I know it’s important to go to school and I also agree that I should be working, but I just can’t stand it. I don’t know why, I just can’t stand it. I don’t have anything I really enjoy doing that could bloom into a future career, so I’m just wondering what the fuck I’m gonna do. I feel like there’s nothing to look forward to. I don’t know why but doing anything other than playing a game just feels unbearable. I know this is bad and I’m probably just lazy or something, but what should I do. How do I make myself enjoy things I just cannot enjoy doing.

The only class in school I really enjoy is math, it’s the only class that I don’t lose my mind in. My grades aren’t bad, I have As most of the times and occasionally one will drop to a B because I just got tired of doing the work and just didn’t do some or slept through a class. I don’t feel motivated at all to work toward anything in life because I don’t really have anything I enjoy that I could make money out of. This is just making me wonder why I even try in school, I don’t even have a goal or dream job to work toward. I know I can do it if I just try, but I’m the type of person who will do everything in my power to achieve something I really like and have the worst attitude when it comes to something I don’t like. When I find something I like doing, I work on it 24/7 and only think about it, which leads to burnout often, which is why I quit a lot of hobbies (at least I think that’s why).

I don’t know what my adulthood will be like, but life right now feels pointless. I feel like I have no purpose. I feel like I don’t have freedom. I have no clue what to do at all. I have no role models. I don’t have a very close relationship with any family member. I don’t even know what has gone wrong in my life. I don’t know if the way I think is even normal. I don’t know if I’m just weird or anything. I am just desperately in need for any kind of guidance. I don’t think I can just keep going on living this kind of life. I don’t even know what I want.

The more I tend to ignore my problems the bigger it seems to be getting. Sometimes I catch myself venting to my own like I keep saying enough of watching YouTube videos and googling about your problems. If I just really want it that bad I would've figured out a way already to solve my problems and improve the situations. I keep saying enough of making excuses and going back and forth just take actions. Just do it and reach out. Stop with the b.s and judgement mindset. But after venting all this I end up still not taking actions this is causing unknown feeling like what am I supposed to do. Am I not believing in myself or am I just trying to avoid the situation.

Hate is a powerful motivator to act, when used constructively it can be the most positive 'negative' emotion for meaningful change in one's life. Harnessing it to one's advantage can be a source of near-limitless strength, and endow its possessor with boundless motive, though caution should be kept in mind to avoid its master from becoming its slave. Mindfulness of how one uses hate in why, how, and what one uses it to accomplish should be constantly reaffirmed, lest it consumes the user towards its negative downward mental spiral. The primary goals being; to produce drive for effective growth and ideal positive outcomes one seeks to achieve in order to overcome personal limitations. Hate can culminate in the conditions for a powerful transformation of the mind, being aware of what one wishes to produce from it is strangely universally overlooked or dismissed outright at the face value of it.

I wanted to share a bit about my journey and how it's led me to discover my passion and purpose in life. I've faced numerous challenges, including struggles with mental health, obesity, and navigating a broken system, but through it all, I've found a calling to create positive change.

After high school, I spent five years in and out of psychiatric wards before finally receiving a diagnosis of bipolar type 1. It took a long time to find the right medication and get the support I needed, but I persevered. In school, I faced academic challenges, almost flunking out my senior year and being placed in special education classes I had several learning disabilities and bullied in school. Despite this, I recently graduated with a Master of Public Administration (MPA) degree from one of Virginia's top universities, with almost a 4.0 GPA and several internships on Capitol Hill under my belt.

Recently, I've also lost 80 pounds I've decided to embrace my journey, loose skin, stretch marks, and cellulite included. As the current Ms. Virginia North America, I want to use my platform to showcase body types often overlooked in the media – those of us who have undergone massive weight loss with lose skin and are proud of our bodies, flaws and all. I'm passionate about working with major brands in modeling to help change beauty standards and promote body acceptance. Our lose skin we shouldn’t be ashamed of but celebrated.

But my ambitions don't stop there. I'm passionate about starting an organization to recruit and train people with disabilities to run for office, and eventually establishing a Political Action Committee (PAC) to amplify their voices in Congress. Representation matters, and I believe our concerns as individuals with disabilities should be at the forefront of policymaking.

Additionally, I'm launching a fundraiser to collect books, coloring books, puzzles, and other resources for emergency rooms and psychiatric wards. Boredom is a major issue for mental health and addiction patients, and having access to engaging activities can make a significant difference. It's a trigger for many, and providing these resources can help alleviate their suffering. Often especially in the ER they don’t have their phone, tv or even someone to talk to. I'm currently starting an initiative where people can donate items to give to the hospitals and psych wards and making a positive impact on the lives of those in need.

Lastly, having experienced fear and apprehension during encounters with law enforcement during mental health crises, I believe there's a need for better training and awareness. I propose that police officers who have undergone mental health training wear a different color vest to signify their expertise in handling such situations – it's a simple yet effective way to reassure patients like me. I know I will feel much safer around cops if I know they been properly trained. I have dealt with physical police brutality when I had a mental health crisis before so i’m just usually very afraid of cops during my mental health crisis but if there was a visual cue to alert me they have undergone proper training it make me feel way more comfortable and I know others would feel the same.

The reason I'm so passionate about these issues and have come up with these ideas is because I've experienced the broken system firsthand. I know what it's like to feel lost and alone, and I want to share my story to give others hope and inspire change.

I'm truly passionate about making a difference, but I'm not sure where to start. I've been unemployed since May and have been considering going back to school, but I also want to grow as a public figure and motivational speaker to share my message.

I'd love to hear your thoughts and suggestions on how I can make the biggest impact possible. Thanks for reading!

I tried several calendar softwares but none has the functionality that I am looking for.

Which is this:

When you move a task block down it pushes all other blocks downwards together with it.

So that you don't have to move each block individually everytime something takes a bit longer to do.

This especially with recurring habits that makes you click off the pop up everytime you try to move it. Which is so annoying.

I am shocked that so many softwares are lacking this intuitive feature since I am sure that a lot of people have this issue. Lmk if you know of any softwares that does this

If you struggle with procrastination, you need to understand what's causing it and how to overcome it. Procrastination isn't a lack of discipline. You are 100% disciplined to your current behavior. Procrastination is a freeze response, caused by a fear signal.

Fear signal is released when the stress response system in your brain is activated. The stress response system is activated when one or both things happen:

1. When the subconscious mind recognizes a potential pain or danger that can happen as a result of performing the task.

2. When the subconscious mind sees the task as a waste of energy (outside of the comfort zone, not a habitual pattern).

Procrastination is a protection mechanism, and also an energy conservation mechanism. You shouldn't try to change the effect (procrastination), you should change what's causing it. The root of the problem. There are multiple causes to it, and therefore multiple solutions.

Motivation isn't the cause of the problem, it is an effect. This is how the brain tricks you into not wanting to perform the task. When the stress response system is activated, the motivation circuits in your brain significantly decrease.

This is one of the brain's way to stop you from performing the task. You cannot always have motivation, it's not something you can control directly like a button. You can affect it indirectly and learn how to be motivated more frequently and even act without it.

So:

• You are not lazy.

• Watching motivational videos will not fix the problem.

• Trying to change your behavior with will power isn't effective, since your subconscious controls about 95% of your behavior.

• Rewiring your subconscious mind is the answer.

I'm currently stuck at a job which pays alright but the work is extremely boring. I feel like I'm barely even using my brain. Every "challenge" that the job has to offer has become monotonous.

I've had juniors join at my pay scale. This really broke my heart but after somedays I went back to being the usual self. I feel the only reason I'm at this place because it provides remote work - one of very few companies in my area.

I want to get out of this situation. I even tried preparing for interviews but would often get distracted by something on the phone or TV, anything at this point tbh. I used to be someone who was focused on their career and people would often reach out for advice and such. But now I've become a complacent blob of meat.

Please help, I want to motivate myself to get out of this situation. Be my old self. Get a better paying job, even if it means getting out of my comfort zone. Just something to make me get back on track. I feel so lost, without a goal or aspiration.

I’m not sure if the overthinking or fear that seems to prevent me from taking any sort of actions but the more I think, I seem to realize is I don’t really know how to tackle down my problems so I feel really stuck.

I don’t quite understand how to research or ask the right type of questions. Don’t know what kind of resources to use so I feel that because of lack clarity, I tend to start feeling frustrated overwhlemed then I give up. Sometimes I feel like ego seems to interfere because asking someone for advice makes me feel small as I tend to feel that fear of judgement. I can’t seem to find a way to restart reset my brain.

At 39 I never worked out or ate healthy, luckily I have a somewhat active life but 5'8 270 isn't exactly an ideal body. I've always enjoyed the more adventurous side of sex but felt something was lacking. That was until I met someone involved in the bdsm community, all the sudden it was like I was shown a world I knew existed but could never reach before. I found myself being dominant and created a list of what I believe it takes to be dominant in this manner. She broke things off with me but that barely mattered as for the first time in my life I saw a future for myself. The main point I now follow is "I must discipline myself before I can discipline another" I'm walking an hour almost every day, I went from barely doing 10 wall pushups to 50 and will soon transition to regular pushups. I'm eating substantially better and counting calories. It doesn't feel like torture to do this now that I have something to live for. My weight is slowly coming down but I'm not rushing it and I found someone new interested in the lifestyle!! But I can truly say, for the first time, I'm doing this for me.

I’ve been unemployed for a few years now, due to anxiety and depression that’s kept me paralyzed in almost all aspects of my life, from work to my relationships. The woman I thought I was going to spend my life with is gone because I can’t get my act together. It has completely destroyed me. I've never been so heartbroken in my life, I am just in so much pain. I can’t find work. I’m in therapy, which is helping to a degree, but I still feel utterly hopeless.

All of my friends are either married or in long-term relationships, with great careers, houses, pets, ect. I feel so behind in life. I feel so lost. I’m really struggling to find the motivation to turn my life around. I just feel like I’ve wasted so much time and have nothing to show for it. I’m worried I’m going to be alone forever.

After the breakup a few months ago, I spent my time trying to better myself, exercising, getting better sleep, going to therapy, all in an effort to “win” my girlfriend back. I met with her last night and she made it pretty clear that won’t be happening. I’m completely devastated. It’s been a huge blow to my confidence, and I feel like I’m back at square one.

I hate being this age and having absolutely nothing. No prospects. No money. No resume. No relationship. I feel like I've fucked my whole life up.

I guess I’m just looking for some words of encouragement, or wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation. I’ve never felt so defeated and lost in my entire life.

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Me (35f) Most of my life has been chasing a passion. I have failed and brought it back a few times now. 2 years ago disaster struck, and over the last 2 years I have watched my career go down the drain. Social media and the news ruins reputations fast and I am out of income as well as peoples trust on many levels. The real issue is, I didn't actually do majority of the things I'm accused of,but I have made just enough mistakes to justify some having doubts. I don't really want to go into further details as it's a very specific element. My question is...what The f do I do now? I feel like the ground has literally been ripped from under me. I was making 3-500 a day most days and even more on others. I need to find a new thing to "chase" but I have no idea what. I struggle with depression and suicidal feelings quite easily at this point. I had poured my entire Existence into the last 2 decades of making myself and my company amazing. In the last 3 months everything has drastically shifted and I am seriously burning wheels mentally. I'm in a committed, serious relationship, but where we were even, or Even I made more at some points, now I bring in next to nothing and cannot seem to find a place of "happy" anymore.

I feel and fear I have very little to live for now. Most say it's just "God's plan" and to just "chase something else"...but I realized lately I don't really have a "back up plan" of my life and it's terrifying.

I have some days I manage to get through ok, but mostly I feel I'm just fighting to actually survive the "rat race", instead of at all enjoying my life. In some ways I chose ultimate independence in moving away from a controlling family situation, in other ways,I miss what used to be and know it's now the past.

I am not where I want to be, nor where I thought I would end up. Anyone have any advice...financially i can't seek out therapy any more. I have been honest with those I'm close to about my feelings, but I can tell they are growing wearing of my fight too.

I had quite a savings which is blown in half because of recent events and don't owe any money on anything that isn't "typical living expenses". (Rent,car,gas, food) But I ran my own business for over 20 years.
I am so freaking lost and defeated. I keep finding scams of jobs or "if you're willing to work, their are jobs out there"...yet then I do an interview and the pay is crap or the place is about to go out of business and just decided not to disclose that information. I was self providing, scheduling, Apts, bookkeeping, logistics, ect...majority all on my own...but this world has become dangerously scary and hard to navigate to me. Majority of my experience is with animals, my people skills aren't the best, though I can Definitely adapt. I would rather a career with less people and more "work"...I operate more like a machine where give me a task and i'm on it...then "let me fake laugh at your stupid jokes you rich pos who can't understand what common respect of a human being is".

Anyone have any advice? I truly feel like the only things keeping me from finding a way to end my life asap is my relationship and my dogs who depend on me to feed them daily. But even if I wasn't here, I know they would end up taken care of because of the people I have in my life.

People keep saying just get an "easy" job...or "go back to school"...for what? What "easy" job? I have applied to so many places and day after day hear nothing in reply. It is harder and harder not to lose hope. I wouldn't want to break my guys heart. But I don't really give an f about my own. I just want to know what the heck "his plan"...would be, should be...is??? "His"meaning Gods...I do have strong faith.but I seriously feel like I am drowning continously...and if so..what am I missing? What can I not see? Why am I here? I spent so many years chasing a dream no one else thought I would make happen and I was able to, and then in mere months watching my entire reputation get burned to the ground based of a few people who are angry at me and the lies they told...or half truths. I've received death threats, I moved counties, didn't matter, it all came back as I'm totally innocent, but the reputation damage is done and I feel genuinely destroyed as a person.

I feel like a shell of who I used to be. I cannot find a way to be.. Ok. Advice? Please?

BTW the "self moderating" reddit shit is ab absolute pain in the ass. I have to change every single thing I post for some stupid [self moderating] bs. Why is it not easier to ask actual questions on this?

Does anyone else experience periods of high motivation followed by periods of pretty minimum motivation? This is a "habit" I have fallen into over the past 5 years that I have began to notice more and more, and I'm not super sure what the deal is. I will go two months or so where I'm operating at peak levels and getting things done, going to the gym, reading books, staying on top of information in my career field, etc. Then suddenly i just fall off a cliff. I wake up later than I would like to every day, I focus less on health, I'm not as motivated to keep up with things that bring me financial health (like keeping up with the market, investing), and this goes on for like a month before I catch my stride again and am doing well. It's gotten to where in times of high motivation I begin to think about the looming times of low motivation over the horizon. Does anyone have experience with this, and if so how do you combat it?

I am 28F. I just feel incompetent and stupid all the time. I am a bit slow in life in general, be it writing, eating, sports…everything… and have been “teased” a lot about it since childhood. As an adult, I stopped caring about that but now my mind has become very slow. It takes a long time for me to understand very easy things and even when I redo any work I get confused. I have started being very slow at my job too (it requires a lot of analysis and thinking) and my critical thinking skills are in the dumps already. I also don’t remember most of things and sometimes I feel I have memory blackouts. This feeling of incompetence is becoming very detrimental and even demotivating to achieve my goals, find a new job or even improve my lifestyle. I have also lost patience and I also lack focus. I wasn’t a regular weed user anyways and have stopped it completely since 6 months. But this incompetence problem started from college when I was 21 (didn’t start smoking up till 25) and has been increasing gradually. I can’t even articulate my thoughts in written or oral form properly anymore. Due to all this, any new task or change simply overwhelms me and I just give up. I am getting no external and internal validation for things which is further demotivating. I really need some solid advice. Please help.

This is the story of the man who never gave up on his dreams. Rowan Atkinson was born in a middle-class family and suffered terribly as a child because of his stuttering. He was also teased and bullied at school because of his looks. His bullies thought he looked like an alien. He was soon marked a strange kid and that made him very shy, withdrawn kid who didn’t have many friends. He decided to dive into science.

One of his teachers said, there was nothing outstanding about him. "I did not expect him to be a brilliant scientist, but he has proved everyone wrong".

Admitted to Oxford University during his days, he started falling in love with acting but couldn’t perform due to his speaking disorder.

He got his masters degree in electrical engineering before appearing in any movie or TV show. After getting his degree, he decided to pursue his dream and become an actor so he enrolled in a comedy group but again, his stammering got in the way.

A lot of TV shows rejected him, and he felt devastated but despite the many rejections. He never stopped believing in himself.

He had a great passion for making people laugh and knew that he was very good at it. He started focusing more and more on his original comedy sketches and soon realized that he could speak fluently whenever he played some character. He found a way to overcome his stuttering and his also used there is an inspiration for his acting.

While studying for his masters Rowan Atkinson co-created the strange, surreal, and now speaking character known as Mr. Bean.

He had success with other shows, Mr. Bean made him globally famous and despite all the obstacles he faced because of his looks and his speaking disorder, he proved that even without a heroic body or a Hollywood face, you can become one of the most loved and respected actors in the world.

The motivational success story of Rowan Atkinson. It is so inspiring because it teaches us that to be successful in life, the most important things are passion, hard work, and dedication. Never give up.

Moral of the story:

No one is born perfect. Don’t be afraid. People can accomplish amazing things every day in spite of their weaknesses and failures.

1. Discipline is not a punishment, it's a way to avoid punishment. We do it because we love ourselves, we value ourselves and what we do.

2. Self-discipline is giving everything you have... and knowing what to hold back.

3. Get better every day. Do the best you can. Do it over again. Then still improve, even if ever so slightly those retouches. It's a beautiful irony: You're never content with your progress and yet, you're always content because you're making progress.

4. Attack the dawn. When you have trouble waking up, when you find it hard, remind yourself of who you come from, remind yourself of the tradition, remind yourself of what is at stake.

5. Ruling over yourself. Greatness is not just what one does, but also what one refuses to do. It's how one bears the constraints of their world or their profession, it's what we're able to do within limitations - creatively, consciously, calmly.

6. Put up boundaries. Enforce them - gently but firmly. Treat everyone else's with as much respect as you'd want for your own. Be the adult in a world of emotional children.

7. Tolerant with others. We're on our own journey and, yes, it is a strict and difficult one. But we understand that others are on their own path, doing the best they can, making the most of what they have been given. It's not our place to judge. It's our place to cheer them on and accept them.

8. Silence is strength. The irony, of course, is that with power comes license to say whatever you want, whenever you want, to whomever you want. And yet, it is the discipline to not do these thing that creates the presence that powerful people enjoy.

9. It is through discipline that not only are all things possible.

I don't really know what I want or like so it's feeling confusing. I don't know my strengths or any hidden talent. But people say it's generally good to have a good paying job that will secure life in the long run. Computer science seems top major but it's competitive and I don't know nothing about it. I'm in college for radiology tech program. I'm not sure if I should continue pursuing it. Lot of people work remotely and desk jobs type like I see they have weekends off and generally seem happy. They also tend to have lot of opportunities to succeeded. I'm 27 already and I feel messed up with life. My resume lacks experience because all I have is fast food & retail store. Education is high school and community college currently. I don't have any certifications beside CPR. I currently have no idea what job to even apply for. I definitely don't wanna go back in dead end retail or fast food. I'm feeling so stuck right now and overthinking is driving me nuts

There's a common misconception that you need to be naturally good to be successful.

However, you just need to be the person who outlasts everyone. You need to be the person who puts in the work DAY IN and DAY OUT.

The simple key to success is making a habit of doing the things that nobody else wants to do. Quite frankly, in today's society with everyone distracted on social media. ITS NOT THAT HARD TO DO.

If you could focus for an HOUR today, you probably could focus longer than most people.

The people that put the work in day in and day out may seem better than you... but thats simply because of the fact that they have one thing over you---- REPITITION...

"Extraordinary results don't come to people who do extraordinary things. extraordinary results come to those who do ordinary things day in and day out"....

Here’s my Favorite Discipline Resources

Jons Growth Journal: https://jons-growth-journal.beehiiv.com/subscribe

Chris Willx Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@ChrisWillx

Matt Graham: https://www.youtube.com/@notmattgraham

Mel Robbins: https://www.youtube.com/@melrobbins

I'm new/Introduction

Hey all,

I would like to introduce myself: Im a 36yr man and unfortunately chronicly sick since the end of 2020. I have physical difficulties and chronic pain 24/7. Also I have some mental health diagnosis that are crippling. Before all this I was a fit and healthy dad. Ran my fair share of obstacle courses and my best was an 8-10mile Spartan race. I also had a homegym but I couldnt workput anymore due to my chronic pain, slipped disc and worn a worndown spine. From my neck all the way down to my tailbone I have not much discs left. Im not operatable bc the risk is to high. So yeah. Thats that. But my biggest issue is that I gained 30lbs and im at my heaviest at 93kg. I also have a very negative selfimage, ptsd from 13+yrs of being extremely bullied, borderline and chronic depression.

Last week I bought some dumbbells and a bench. I wrote my own workout schedule again and im hoping I get motivated enough to lose the weight and getting stronger again. I have to, for my wife n daughter, but surely for myself. I hope to find some support here.

I hope you are all healthy! Keep on going! With kind regards,

L.

TLDR: starting to workout again to get stronger bc im chronicly ill for the past 4 yrs. Trying to battle my demons and 24/7pain In hopes to get fit again.