I(20M) in grad school just had a really bad day for no reason. I had forgot to take my ocd meds yesterday so there was an anxiety attack and it might have happened otherwise too because I was stressing about some upcoming deadlines, I had a little breakdown, luckily my parents are very supported so I talked to them over phone and they helped me calm down.

It made me realize something. We are always so eager to improve ourselves we sometimes see small setbacks bigger than they are. Like people who dont struggle with normal things, have nothing drawing them back, also get setbacks. Sonetimes it is just a part of life.

We should learn to be a little easy on ourselves sometimes and nit beat ourself up about every missed oppirtunity. There will be people better than us, but its fine , we should remember that we are doing this for ourselves abd overworking or guilt tripping ourselves will do more harm than hood.

Sometimes we need to take some things slow. Amd I think you should too. Be kimd to yourself.

I hope you are the very bestfor everything in your future.

I (23M) am finding it hard to stay motivated to break free from bad habits like excessive phone use and porn addiction. I know it’s bad for me, but the temptation is always there. How do you guys stay motivated and focused on breaking these habits? Any tips or strategies would be really helpful.

The reason I seem to avoid doing the work is not only because I'm confused lazy and procrastinate but also there is fear anxiety involved and worse part of all is im avoiding the realization of my feelings. You know how you feel sometimes like you're life is messed up but you just keep suppressing that feeling because you want to avoid how it makes you feel. And you just keep doing this more and more, but deep down it just eats you up. You feel emotionally tensed mentally overwhelmed.

Like I wanted to go back to college because I just have not been taking classes 2 yrs now. So whenever I think about fixing this situation,I seem to suppress that feeling of doing it. I know I'm gonna feel bad and get all sorts of mixed emotions. And my thoughts will bring me down.

My partner and I found out that we are having a baby, unexpectedly, though a blessing!

I want to totally revamp my life as a whole, habits, and all.

I kindly ask for nuggets of advice…

On how I CAN become the best version of myself, and get my life in order for my partner, and kid!

Also welcoming any links to other posts here on Reddit, books, any other subreddits to look into to ask/look for advice, etc…

so basically im a 14 year old im in russia but dont know the language we moved here last year cuz my mom wanted to so we could live wifh our grandma i basically grew up with social media i have alot of online friends and i play with em everyday i have a long distance gf that really loves me and has no red flags for example doesnt text any other guys has only female friends, has a great future, cares about me and always cheers me up, doesnt do parties or any of the stuff and is honest about everything even when i doubt her she shows me proof ASAP without hesitation but shes REALLY busy and barely has time for herself she said she wouldnt be able to play games w me on her freetime because she doesnt want to play games in her freetime since shes so busy but rather would talk to me all my other online friends are also busy and it doesnt feel the same anymore we all used to play games all day but now we barely do im alone by myuself most of the time This got me thinking "what the fuck ami doing with my life?" im not trying to learn russian and im playing GAMES all day and texting my gf while i should be working on myself idk what im doing and i need advice as to what I should do because i want to improve and not be so lazy and always play games i want to do something w my life and i need advice.

side note i dont go to school because they wouldn't take me since i dont know russian however starting December i will be going to gym and possibly kickboxing please help me out thanks.

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Hi guys, I am currently watching angie bellemare's daily know your worth videos, but they end in a couple days! They have been a big part of keeping my morning routine consistent & having the motivation to get out of bed. Does anyone have suggestions on a YT series or podcast that is similar??

I really like taking the time every morning to reflect on goals & progress & take notes while being guided by angies information (that way it doesn't take too much brain power when I'm still groggy).

I’ve always dreamed of becoming an astrophysicist because I love space and rockets. But now, it feels impossible. My cousin, who also loves physics, often says I need to score above 90% in physics if I want to pursue astrophysics. She keeps reminding me that I’m good at math and even tells me to become a math lecturer instead, as if she doesn’t want me to follow this dream.

Her words make me nervous and insecure about my marks. I start overthinking, and instead of studying or working toward my goal, I waste around 10 hours a day on my phone. My parents don’t even ask me about my studies anymore, and that makes me feel like they’ve given up on me, even though I know they’re trying not to pressure me.

I want to change, but I don’t know where to start. How do I manage my time better, focus on my goals, and stop feeling so insecure? Any advice would mean a lot.

Whatever you’re trying to achieve - save the world, write a novel, or championing a particular cause – there are likely to be those who will be critical. Some people just have a critical disposition while others will take issue with the specifics of your endeavour. Criticism is unavoidable. However, how we choose to respond to criticism is entirely within our control.

These are effective strategies for managing the critics in your life:

Clarify your purpose. At the core of our being lies the quest for meaning. Making meaning for ourselves – and value for others – is fundamental to a life well lived. When our pursuits align with our deepest values and aspirations, we care far less about the criticisms of others. If they can easily throw you off your path, you might want to reflect on how important it really is to you. Reflect on the significance of your endeavors and on how they resonate with your core values. Are your actions and ambitions consistent with your values?

Understand the critic’s motivation. Dig deep into why critics criticise. Are they projecting themselves in to the situation – their aspirations, their skill set, their propensity for risk, their values? Are they genuinely trying to protect you from any potential down-sides? Are they trying to maintain the status quo – for you, them, or both? Are they masking their own lack of action?

Recognise that criticism is not balanced appraisal. We have evolved to notice negative issues more readily than positive ones. We are more likely to notice criticism than encouragement: people working against us over people supporting us. Understand that most people are indifferent to your journey, and criticism often stems from their own biases and limitations. So, get on with your life and enjoy it!

Accept that criticism is inevitable. Whether you become a billionaire, movie star, teacher, doctor, or sit on the couch all day, there is someone that will tell you that you’re doing the wrong thing. So, live your life building towards what you do want rather than away from what the critics don’t want.

Respond calmly. Rather than giving your critics the pleasure of an emotional response, respond with composure and kindness. Acknowledge any valid points raised and the leaps of faith you are making.

Use your critics as motivation. While some people are intimidated and deflated by the critics of the world, others are able to use the negative comments as a source of motivation. Re-frame negative feedback into fuel for progress. Remind yourself that while the critics are standing on the sidelines, you are on the pitch and playing the game.

Decide if they have something useful to say. Some criticism may carry valid points – explore these with your critic and ask what their solution would be – the response differentiates between useful and harmful dialogue. If the criticism isn’t useful, move on. Don’t you have more important things to do?

Take criticism as a compliment. Most people will leave you alone if you’re struggling or aren’t doing anything noteworthy. You only become a significant target of negative comments if you’re doing well. If you’re taking a lot of heat, you must be doing something correct!

Live authentically. Live your own life, by your own values. Craft your life to use your signature strengths to create meaning for you, value for others and legacy for the future in your chosen pursuit.

In the journey of personal growth, one obstacle that often holds us back is our own limiting beliefs. These beliefs, formed in our childhood, can persist into adulthood, and hinder our progress towards success and fulfilment. But there is the good news: by recognising and overcoming your limiting beliefs, you can unlock our true potential and live the life you aspire to.

Limiting Beliefs are one of the most common issues I work with for two reasons. We all have them and my approach is Solution Focused: at its very core, it supports clients in developing their sense of agency which is ideal for moving on from issues rooted in the past to achieve sustainable improvements in their quality of life.

So what are Limiting Beliefs?

We all form a set of beliefs in our childhoods: generally, they are formed rationally and serve us well at the time. However, time moves on and things change. As we become adults, our childhood beliefs serve us less well – and the resultant behaviours may become incongruent with the situation we are in.

This leads to the conclusion that one of the things it means to grow up, is to develop out of our childhood beliefs and adopt a new set of beliefs – and resultant behaviours - that will serve us more resourcefully as adults. This progression follows a broad pattern of developing from dependence as children to independence as young adults to interdependence as mature adults. Our overall set of beliefs are developing all the time. However, most of us will carry some of our childhood beliefs with us in to adulthood. Most will be innocuous, but some of them may impede our performance as high functioning adults. Many adults benefit from contemplating this list, recognising any that are impacting on their quality of life and working on growing out of them.

Common Limiting Beliefs

A general list of limiting beliefs has been well established:

• I need everyone I Know to approve of me • I must avoid being disliked from any source • To be a valuable person I must succeed in everything I do • It is not OK for me to make mistakes. If I do, I am bad. • People should strive to ensure I am happy. Always! • People who do not make me happy should be punished • Things must work out the way I want them to work out • My emotions are illnesses that I’m powerless to control • I can feel happy in life without contributing back in some way • Everyone needs to rely on someone stronger than themselves • Events in my past are the root of my attitude & behaviour today • My future outcomes will be the same as my past outcomes • I shouldn’t have to feel sadness, discomfort and pain • Someone, somewhere, should take responsibility for me

Beyond these, we can have our own specific limiting beliefs which are often versions of I’m not good enough / I’m not worthy / I’m not smart enough / I’m unattractive / change is bad / conflict is bad / the world is a scary place / people are mean ect.

Simply reflecting on the above may point the way to a resolution. Working with a Solution Focused approach is particularly well suited to personal development in this area as – by its very nature – it opens up the pathways between the parts we know and recognise as ‘us’ and the deeper levels of our wisdom: ideal when are going through lots of changes on our lives.

It is more effective to work on these with a skilled helper however working through the following questions will provide you with some insight:

• What is the evidence for this belief – and against it? • Am I basing this belief in facts or feelings? • Is this belief really black and white – or is it more interesting than that? • Could I be misrepresenting the evidence? • What assumptions am I making? • Might others have different interpretations of the issue? • If so, what might they be? • Am I looking at all the evidence or just what supports my thoughts? • Could my thoughts be an exaggeration of what is true? • The more you think about the evidence and differing perspectives, is this belief really the truth? • Am I having this thought out of habit, or do the facts support it? • Did someone pass this thought or belief on to me – if so, are they a reliable source? • Does this belief serve you well in life? • Does this belief help or restrict you in your life? • Have you paid a price from holding this belief – if so, what? • Would there be a price from continuing to hold this belief – is so, what? • What do you think about this belief now?

This, analytical, approach can be illuminating. This insight gained can then be used with a range of hypno-therapeutic processes to accelerate one’s personal development.

Please advise.

Heads really not good after a few losses and burn out

I always wanted to look good do good in terms of body and study even wanted to start my own startup before turning 20 but ADHD & what not never really let my brain took control of my body and mind i really wanna give this year and become the most discipline I have ever been in my life Any TIPS

Using willpower makes it less likely that I will do the thing that I am supposed to on a regular basis. Everything else in my life is automated (i use procedures, alarms, plans, systems etc) to eliminate the need for willpower but I just can’t get around it with studying. How can I make studying a more automated process?

I want nothing more than to grow, change, and evolve. But no matter how much I want it, I find myself stuck in the same patterns. I apply logic, reason with myself, replay the painful lessons of the past, make countless promises, and endure the misery of stagnation—yet nothing changes.

It's as if there's a part of me that sabotages every effort. This version of myself procrastinates, makes excuses, avoids responsibility, and keeps me from taking steps toward my goals. It fills my mind with dreams but refuses to take action, leaving me trapped in the same repetitive nightmare day after day.

How do I break free from this cycle and take control? How do I overcome this self-imposed resistance?

Hi , Im currently a student (6’1 and 89kg/ 196 lbs) . I live in a dorm and have a prepaid canteen . In our canteen we get around 100 gms of chicken 4 days a week , but other times its mainly rice based food. I pretty much don’t eat breakfast . I take creatine . I try to stay in a caloric deficit of around 2000 calories but it’s very hard to track cause i have no clue what ingredients my canteen uses .Im looking for advice on how to start getting in shape . Ive been going to the gym pretty consistently for the past 3-4 months but putting on less muscle and loosing less fat compared to my gym bro who started at the same time as me . I wanna actually start seeing some progress and feel good about my self . I live on a pretty tight budget (around $40 a month ) . I wanna start taking protein powder but if i do there are two problems : 1) My parents cant know cause they are pretty against it 2) If i spend around 25-30$ my budget is pretty much over for the month cause i have other expenditures like travel , outing , subscriptions. I have a lot of belly fat , side handles and an abnormally large butt ( i aint joking) and im starting to get very insecure . I just turned 19 and when i saw pictures of my self i felt disgusted . I also have a pretty bad face card . I want to change . Pls gimmie some advice on what to do from this point oneards

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I’m looking for advice on how to fix my life. I’ve always had a problem with authority and following rules, and it’s gotten me into trouble way too many times.

My most recent case was pretty bad. I was at a party at my friends house. He's a succesful guy, wealthy, disciplined, athlete, lawyer, drives a porsche. I've always envied him and wanted to be like him. I ended up having an drunken argument with him, punched him in the face and afterwards stole his car and drove like 10 km to the city. I pulled over at a parking lot where some security guards noticed me, they saw I was drunk and started chasing me,they caught me, I resisted and fought back as hard as I could until some bypassers helped them to restrain me.

I was custody for some months and now waiting to be sentenced. Getting charged with 2 assaults, theft, resisting arrest, DUI, traffic endangerment, public disturbance, verbal assault. I will probably face at least 5 years but could be more. Even when I was in court I was just laughing about it, thought I was tough and cool and I got into trouble in custody too.

But then I started to realise I can't continue this way. It's not first time I'm in trouble. I already got like 2 suspended sentences. Quite a few people have put it pretty straight that I deserve this sentence. Many of my friends avoid contact with me. This guy naturally wants the max prison time for me.

Part of me still feels like I enjoy pushing limits, even when I know it’s wrong. I just keep ending up doing crazy stuff like this.

I want to stop being like this, become a better person, get disciplined. I want to have a future. I'm sober now, trying to stay out of further trouble, but all I can do is sit and wait now and it feels frustrating. What can I do? How do I start becoming more disciplined? How do I prepare for prison and make the best of it?

Any advice or ideas would really help. Thanks for reading.

Introverts. Those of us who prefer calm situations and environments. We may enjoy socialising but we recharge by spending time on our own, we often enjoying getting lost in our own thoughts – just enjoying being inside our own heads for a while. We tend to lean toward smaller, close-knit social lives. But let’s clear up a misconception: introversion doesn’t mean we’re anti-social. It just means we are at our best in situations that aren’t overwhelming.

Anxiety. The emotion that warns us when something threatening seems to be just around the corner. In moments of true danger, it can be life-saving: the foresight that there is trouble ahead, and those vital few seconds to get ready for it saved many of our ancient ancestors (while their peers perished – unable to pass on their genes.) That’s one of the factors why we’re here today. But, when anxiety lingers beyond its intended purpose, it becomes not just tiring—it’s exhausting. If this sounds familiar, you’re definitely not alone.

Not all introverts experience anxiety, and you don’t have to be an introvert to struggle with it. But many introverts do. It’s a common combination, and knowing how to navigate it can make all the difference.

Signs You’re an Introvert with Anxiety—which ones do you relate to the most?

1. You Typically Overprepare

You think through worst-case scenarios in detail. It makes you feel more in control—but it can also be draining. Tip: When you find yourself imagining worst-case outcomes, think about a balanced "most likely scenario" scenario too. Give yourself permission to think about the ‘’best case scenario’’ – luck isn’t a good strategy, but take it when you get it! Thinking through these scenarios helps to bring your anxious thoughts back to a more realistic middle ground. This practice doesn’t stop your mind from thinking about risks but it does help add perspective.

2. You Tend to Overthink and Listen to Your Inner Critic

Introverts often have rich inner lives, which can mean their internal dialogue is active—sometimes too active. Anxiety amplifies this, often turning up the volume on self-critical thoughts. Tip: Develop a ritual for challenging anxious thoughts. When a negative thought comes up, ask yourself: "Is this thought 100% true?" Most often, it won’t be. Questioning and even writing down these thoughts can give you some distance from them, reducing their power. If this is an issue for, look up my article ‘From Limitations to Liberation’ – it takes a dive in to tackling limiting beliefs.

3. You Always Feel the Need to Be Busy

Anxiety often compels you to keep moving (it’s a high energy ‘state’ – one of the reasons it can be so tiring)—constantly doing something. But staying busy can sometimes just mean staying distracted, without actually being effective. Tip: Replace "busy" with "purposeful." Each day, set just one or two specific goals that really matter to you. A small amount of focused effort is often more satisfying (and less stressful) than a day spent rushing from one task to the next with no real direction. Ask yourself at least five times a day: ‘what is the most value adding thing (in the context of what your life is about) I could be doing right now?’

4. You Prefer Routines and Struggle When Things Go Off-Plan

Routines give a sense of control, but sometimes they turn into rigid safety nets – sometimes beyond them being value adding. When something unexpected happens, it can trigger deep unease. Tip: Practice gentle flexibility. Start small: maybe change the route you walk or try a new café. These small "novelty exercises" help build resilience for when larger, unexpected changes occur. The key is to show yourself that change, is often manageable. Remember that change is neither good or bad (change can also be for the better). Remember also that we have been ‘programmed’ by our evolution to perceive change as bad: once we transcend that ‘programming’ new avenues of opportunity open up for us.

5. You Hide Nervousness Behind a Mask

You’ve learned to mask nervousness well, but that doesn’t mean it’s not taking a toll internally. Tip: Identify trusted people who you can be honest with. Even if it’s just one close friend or a journal entry, letting out what you're feeling helps you process the anxiety instead of holding it all in. Vulnerability is powerful; it connects you to others and often takes the edge off anxiety.

6. You See More Danger Than Others in Everyday Situations

Anxiety primes your mind to be vigilant (and reduces your options – see my article ‘Live the life you choose – expand your Thought-Action Repertoire’), sometimes turning neutral situations into seemingly threatening ones. Tip: Try reframing the "threat." If you’re anxious before a social event, instead of focusing on what could go wrong, set a small, achievable goal for the event—like having a meaningful conversation with one person. Reframing your focus can help your mind move away from perceived threats and toward positive intentions.

7. Perfectionism and People-Pleasing

Perfectionism often stems from a need to feel worthy. Beliefs like “I need everyone to like me to be valuable” create intense anxiety around how you’re perceived. Tip: Shift from a focus on being liked to being authentic (are you living your life for you or for ‘them’?) Practice saying "no" in low-stakes situations. Remember, you’re not responsible for everyone else’s happiness: you are responsible for your well-being (not theirs!) The right people will appreciate your true self more than a perfected (according to who?) version of you.

8. Nerves Sometimes Turn You In to an Over-Talker

Normally, you speak only when you feel confident, but anxiety can shift you into overdrive, where you say too much to fill the silence. Tip: If you catch yourself over-talking, pause and take a deep breath. Silence can feel awkward, but it’s not a problem. Giving yourself permission to pause helps reduce the pressure to fill every moment with words.

9. Trouble Sleeping

Anxiety makes it hard for your mind to shut off at night, leading to trouble falling asleep, frequent waking, or early rising. Tip: Create a "wind-down" routine. Dedicate the last 30-60 minutes before bed to relaxing, tech-free activities. Reading something light, or writing down your thoughts can help signal your brain that it’s time to rest. Top tips (1) get as cold as you can (reductions in our core body temperatures are a cue to go to sleep) (2) forget the clock telling you it is ‘lights out’ time – read until your eyes close and your head nods.

Moving From Awareness to Action Being an introvert with anxiety can feel overwhelming at times, but it’s also something you can learn to manage with care and practice. Anxiety may not disappear overnight, but you can make shifts that help it lose its hold on your everyday life. You’re not alone. Many of us walk this path, learning how to balance the gifts and challenges of introversion and anxiety. Keep being gentle with yourself—there’s strength in softness.

Practical Strategies for Thriving as an Introvert

1. Create and Protect Your Recharge Time

For us introverts, alone time is essential for recharging. Make it non-negotiable. Whether it’s 30 minutes in the morning or a quiet evening ritual, schedule time just for yourself. Communicate this need with those around you—it’s a matter of maintaining your well-being, not just a preference.

2. Leverage Your Strengths in One-on-One or Small Group Interactions

We tend to excel in deeper, more intimate conversations. Rather than pushing yourself to thrive in large social gatherings, seek out or create opportunities for one-on-one or small group interactions. You could host a dinner with close friends, or meet up individually for coffee. Cultivate the type of social life that aligns with your strengths.

3. Prepare and Plan for Social Situations

One of the best tools for introverts is preparation. If you have a social event or a work meeting coming up, prepare conversation topics, questions, or think about what you hope to get from the interaction. This doesn’t mean scripting everything, but it does mean having some mental prompts to feel more comfortable and confident. You don’t even have to say much: a few thoughtful questions can go a long way.

4. Create a Space at Home that Grounds You

Set up a specific space in your home where you feel completely relaxed—this could be a reading nook, a meditation corner, or even just a comfy chair by a window. Use this space to do whatever helps you feel grounded, such as journaling, reading, or simply sitting in silence. Having a dedicated spot to return to helps to re-centre yourself, especially after having been with people.

5. Harness Your Listening Superpower

Introverts are often strong listeners, and this can be a powerful skill in both social and work settings. Make it a habit to ask thoughtful questions and really listen—this not only helps you navigate social settings more comfortably, but also makes people value your presence. Remember, quality over quantity is where you shine.

So, ask yourself: What is one thing from this article that resonates most with you? What small action can you take today to start navigating your life in a healthier way? And what are your own go to strategies?

I little about myself: Am 16M from the US. I love to workout, (I mainly play football/soccer, weightlifting, running, and kickboxing.), I like psychology and personality related stuff/ self discovery journaling/tests. I'm looking to get perfect scores on my upcoming exams and get more into reading and learning new skills wnv I have the chance!! (Aka if am not studying or working out, am basically free and simply like to sit watch yt and eat my meals tho it's getting boring and repetitive.) I'd like to meditate more and get myself into healthy reasonable and logical type of spirituality. I'd also love to participate in fitness events and challenge myself to break my physical and mental limits. Hmu!! I'd love to hear from you and get to know you better!! Looking forward to meeting you guys/ girls!

As the title says.

I'm an 18 years old high school student in the Philippines who struggle with focusing on my school works, I often get distracted by gadgets while studying. I'm also trying to do no fap. I've made a routine before but I'm also struggling to stick with it. I guess dicipline ain't that easy, but I'm pretty sure that it's worth it! There's this quote that I've read somewhere and it says "dicipline is bitter but it's fruit is sweet". If you feel that we're on the same boat, feel free to dm me and let's conquer ourselves together!

I consider myself quite disciplined as I am able to do stuff to the end, focus on my objectives at times and being more patient and slightly less emotional than the average. This at times, as every two or so weeks i "relapse" back to everything worse in my life: feeling more insecure, stress, avoid everything and not even willing to talk about my goals, not even mentioning piles of addictions.

Maybe its due to my expectations, i set myself huge goals that include me making more money through work, internet content, etc leaving my house or even family behind (although i don't like the latter idea at all) and working myself phisically, etc, to become who I truly want to be. Even hobbies like language learning and calisthenics that i truly love.

Yet, i cant seem to achieve anything? I sometimes lack discipline to hit PR at the gym, or spend 2 minutes during calisthenics. I set myself goals of "writing this for 5 minutes a day" which is perfectly doable, and yet, my highest streak of this was only 4 days! This as well as stress piling up behind my back, because of my religious family expectations or lackthereof, my own expectations, outside factors that don't allow me to have more time in the day... And it reaches a point where "out of nowhere" i start self sabotaging. I just ignore all my routines, goals, visions and even dreams, and return to my gaming addiction, use instagram for 2+ hours, adult content addiction, sometimes even hooking up with strangers for the need or connection or a relationship i know i am definetly not ready for now. (To the point i expose myself to people or dangerous situations)

Then i return to my senses, work on myself more, everything feels great, and then boom. Back at it again sometimes worser. Sometimes longer. I feel helpless. I often think that if i had a religion it would help me, it did not. It's been 2 years. I cant seem to find an end to this, and i feel pressed.

I noticed I tend to procrastinate when it come to my work and goals out of fear of failing at it. Which causes a lot of guilt and stress, but any tips to get over that fear?

Have you ever felt like life’s challenges are too overwhelming, leaving you unsure of how to move forward? I've helped many people navigate these exact feelings and come out stronger. Life can be an incredible journey, full of highs and lows. When facing tough times and insecurities, discovering, and nurturing our inner strength can help us navigate through almost anything. Here are some strategies to help you develop resilience and get back on top of things:

Reflect on Past Challenges

Consider difficult situations you have previously encountered:

• How did you manage to get through those situations? • What actions did you take? • Which of your strengths came into play? • What did you tell yourself at the time? Was it beneficial in hindsight? • If you were to face the same situation again, what would you do differently? • What advice would you give to someone else in a similar situation? • How can you apply the lessons learned to your current challenges?

Engage in Positive Self-Talk

We all have our own inner dialogues. What we tell ourselves, and how we do so, matters.

Building inner strength involves listening to ourselves and considering what this is telling us:

• How would you advise your best friend in this situation? Extend the same kindness to yourself. • Create effective affirmations. For guidance, consider my other posts on crafting affirmations. • Accept confusion as part of the learning process. It's natural to feel uncertain while working things out. Confusion just means you’re trying to figure something out. • Recall times when life was smoother. What factors contributed to those positive experiences?

Evaluate Your Thoughts

Gaining perspective on your thinking can provide clarity:

• What evidence supports or contradicts your thoughts? • Are there alternative explanations for the outcomes? • Are you considering all possible scenarios, not just the worst-case? • How useful are your conclusions? • What limiting beliefs might be influencing your thoughts?

Look to Role Models and Mentors

Think about the individuals you admire and respect:

• What would they do in your situation? • How would they handle it? • What skills and resources do they have that you also possess? • How can you develop the qualities they have that you don’t yet?

Celebrate Your Achievements

Reflect on your proudest moments and accomplishments:

• What are your most significant achievements? • Did you experience doubt during those times? How did you overcome it? • What personal skills and resources did you rely on? How can you apply them now?

Craft Your Affirmation

Complete this affirmation to solidify your learnings and plans:

"Now that I have realised/learned [what have you learned from reflecting on the above], I choose to [what have you chosen to do differently/do more of/start doing] because [the benefits you will gain by making these positive improvements in your life]."

I am really struggling getting myself to actually do the work I need to do. I don’t know what is holding me back, but what I do know is this: I work at home and this doesn’t always feel like the best idea. Sticking to a proper sleeping schedule is difficult (going to bed on time and getting up early) since there isn’t anywhere I have to be in the morning. I really want to make this work but I feel a little stuck. Am I just lazy? I know I could make way more of my days but somehow something isn’t working. I would love to hear how other entrepreneurs make it happen.

I almost feel like it's a no-brainer, but then again I only just realized how important this can be.

When you ritualize a behaviour, you practice discipline. The two are almost the same thing.

When you make your bed every time you get out of bed - ritual, discipline. When you go for a walk after lunch every day - ritual, discipline. Do the same exercise every time, etc.

A ritual is one less decision you have to make. It's less work. It's more bang for your buck.

This just occurred to me. I'm sure there is much more to it.

I am a 18 year old in a under developed country. Currently in 12 th grade. I am a bright student in class and can finish 2 years of syllabus in 3 months. The usual expectation out of me is to finish school, get into college and destroy my 4 years of life while I can pursue my passion in Cybersecurity sitting in home right now preparing for certs. But its not possible as my fuckinhg country wont allow me to get a job that pays good enough in the mean time. I sometimes feel. exhausted thinking why the hell i am learning to convert hexadecimal to binary or the blood flow inside the heart. My life feels useless.

Hi all I’m 22 years old and I have very clear and concise goals in my life ( I want to be a wrestler in the WWE). My discipline fucking sucks I can’t for the life of me stick to the gym or do anything challenging for that matter. My body shuts down and my mind immediately turns me away from learning new skills or getting into the grind mentality like I know I’m capable of.

Everyday I feel no closer to being the person I want to become and I feel I’m robbing myself of so many opportunities right now. I’m lazy, I procrastinate and I feel like shit when people call out my imperfections because I’m already critical of myself so just makes things worse.

No matter how clearly I write down goals or hear it. My body and mental just never wanna do the work !

I’m tired of this cycle and I want to achieve the life I know I’m capable of living!!!!

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I use Instagram for messaging and I can't force my friends to change apps. Everytime I check my messages I just go down the hole of reels. Is there a way to block everything except the messages on Instagram (all this on Chrome)