I have for the last two years tried countless time try to lose sone weight. Just the same amount of time I have tried to learn coding. Again , I have tried to learn a languages way too many times. However, till now I’m at the beginning stage of all of those.

Tbh I used to be very productive but for the past two years I have been very sloppy, undisciplined, no routines and no good habits. Now I feel like a loser because ai cannot bring myself to do what I want.

I do suffer from depression and a part of me not the same bc of it. Still, I should be able to progress somewhat in something at least.

Idk I feel so lost. How do I begin? How do I not give up? Tbh I don’t really give up bc why would try again and again but the thing I never continued. Also I spend most of my time on my mobile and watching programs on laptop. It’s an addiction at this point and if you guys have any advice how to stop then please let me know.

Friengle is a social goal tracking website, specifically designed for people who find it difficult to stay consistent with goals set.

What makes it special is the enhanced goal tracking capabilities, coupled with social support from a community and a social feed consisting of friends. Imagine Instagram, but instead of sharing images/videos, you would share a goal attachment.

you can search for the website on google just type friengle

Give me tasks and challenges and quest and if you want even possible reward for achieving it, we can mak a good quest and journey to help me and everyone so we can use it

Let's assume we all are level 1 right now

Physical strength: 1

Intelligence: 1 (can improve it by watching documentary, read a book, write etc)

Stamina: 1 ( go for a run, swim anything)

Speed: 1

Stress: 10(Represents your stress levels. High stress requires relaxation techniques and stress management, and our goal will be to keep it low)

Fat:15 (not sure about this one)

Creativity: 1 ( need to maintain creativity by doing something creative that can be drawing, dancing, singing, anything, gold is to some level of maintain creativity each day, it Indicates your ability to think outside the box and come up with innovative ideas. Engaging in creative activities can boost this state)

Motivation: 1 (Reflects your drive to achieve goals. High motivation means you're inspired and driven, while low motivation suggests a need for goal-setting or inspiration.)

Focus: 1 (Represents your ability to concentrate on tasks. High focus means you're sharp and attentive, while low focus suggests distractions or fatigue.)

We can also do • Skill Trees: Create a skill tree for personal development, where mastering one state unlocks benefits in another. • Experience Points (XP): Earn XP by achieving goals, and use them to "level up" your overall character. • Achievements and Rewards: Set milestones and rewards for reaching them. This could be a personal treat, a new experience, or a break. • Level Up: Set goals that allow you to "level up" in each state. For example, increasing endurance by running longer distances or improving focus by practicing meditation. • Quests: Treat tasks and goals as quests, with rewards for completion. This can make mundane activities more engaging

Let's try to create something that will help us achieve our goals btw I am aware that there are many apps for gamifying our life but I couldn't stick with them for some reason and just thought if we do it together as group on internet maybe it will help

Now it's free and we are just testing it. Please let me know if you like or dislike our app Breskul.com

26F it is so hard to stay motivated and work towards my goals. I have planned on countless occasions to wake up early and exercise before the kids even wake up. But I always end up hitting snooze and waking up as they do. It's hard to run around with my kids without getting out of breath. Every outing feels like it takes everything out of me, even just taking the kids across the street to the park. I want to be able to play with them, run around with them without being out of breath just by walking. How do I start? I've tried starting small, tried forming new habits and ditching bad ones, tried going all out, tried eating better more cooking at home. I always end up back to where I was after like a week of doing good. I give up if I take one wrong step. Like "oops I ate a piece of chocolate, guess this didn't work out" "oops missed a day of exercise, guess I'm done" what do I do? How do I truly start and hold myself accountable?

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Hi, Im 26, I have been destroying my body since I started working 2 years ago. Ive tried changing my routine, I try to wake up at 530, go to the gym at 6 and be exhausted by 11am. I dont really like lifting so I tried cardio. I was already burnt out from work 6 months prior. So I pushed and pushed, then I stopped. I was so overwhelmed with work. I cant continue. I stopped working out. I did continue badmintom. I FREAKING LOVE badminton. But only play once a week. I wanted to jog, I love running too but I cant muster the motivation or strength anymore. I don't know where it all went. I work on my feet 9 hrs a day at the end of the day my leg just ache and Im physically and mentally exhausted.

Now for my diet, lets just say, my favourite line is, alright after this meal no more. My diet starts now. After 1 year plus of doing that. I have reached 110kg, 183cm in height. It has destroyed my self image. Im trying to control it but to no success. I have no self control. Its sickening. I tried to stop carbs but couldnt. I tried to remove things slowly and adjust slowly but couldnt make it consistent.

Im so tired and sick of my body. I dont know what to do. People call me fat, people make fun of me. I'm trying to change but I have no more motivation. Stress only make it worse. I dont know what to do now. I really want to change and have my fit body again. I dont know how. Please help me. All I want is to be consistent and mindfull of the workouts and food. I was so fit. College football(soccer) striker. Ran 5k in 28 mins. Now I cant even do 1 km without vomiting. What the hell happened. I need to get back into shape my life depends on it.

I am 17M and I take online classes and mostly study at home,, I do go out for roaming sometimes just to stay active,, but I sit and work...and i have noticed throughout the last two years my productivity has been less than 5 hours...as I think I really get frustrated while sitting and working all the time...and joining a library and all is good but it's too tiring for me and I don't have all the things with me outside...so I prefer to work at home...

But should I invest in a sit stand desk now? I already have a normal desk which has plenty space but I can't change its height so I only have to sit and work with that...will buying it improve my productivity ? ;/

Also I don't have a group of friends studying with me as I think it might be distracting sometimes in my case so yeah I study alone most of the time

Before you start your journey, you need to know the destination.

If you don’t know where you want to reach you may either keep moving aimlessly or get lost altogether.

Similarly, before you make a plan to achieve something in life, you need to set short-term or long-term goals.

Without a clear picture of where you want to see yourself, all your efforts will fail.

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“Long-term success won’t happen if you don’t set yourself up for it early on. The biggest mistake you can make is only planning for the short-term and expecting things to work out in the long run.”

In this article, we’ll discuss the importance of having goals.

Importance of Having Short-Term and Long-Term Goals

Long-term goals represent your future aspirations, while short-term goals are crucial steps in achieving them.

Achieving long-term goals requires dedication and planning over years. Short-term goals break down the journey, serving as milestones and keeping you focused. Without them, you risk losing sight of your ultimate objectives.

By setting short-term goals, you create a roadmap to success, mitigating setbacks like failure and maintaining confidence.

Tips to create short-term goals

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• Identify long-term goals – Break them down into smaller, achievable steps.
• Set SMART goals – Make them Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-based.
• Keep track of progress – Use methods like journaling, accountability partners, and visualization to stay on track.

Tips to create long-term goals

• Envision where you want to be in 10 years, aligning goals with values.
• Start from the end goal and work backward to create actionable steps.
• Break long-term goals into smaller, achievable steps.
• Set monthly short-term goals, adjusting as priorities evolve.

If you are eager to unlock more actionable strategies and insights to seamlessly create your long term & short term goal dive deeper into the full blog on Justly.

I was just thinking about how every single day gives us a chance to really make someone's day. You know, whether it's a simple text to a friend saying, "Hey, just thinking of you," or grabbing a coffee for your coworker unexpectedly. It's these little moments that really count, you know? And it's not just about being nice for the sake of it. It's about showing people that they matter, that they're valued and appreciated.

I mean, think about it: when was the last time someone did something small for you that made you feel super appreciated? It's a pretty awesome feeling, right? So why not spread that joy around? It doesn't have to be anything grandiose. Just those small gestures that show you care. Trust me, it goes a long way. And who knows, maybe you'll start a chain reaction of kindness that brightens up everyone's day. So, what's something small you've done recently to show someone you care? Let's spread some positivity!

Hey strangers, you don’t know me and me neither. Early 20’s Male in Canada as Immigrant from past a couple of years.

Feeling like I am made for something better(like Dragon Warrior) but can’t figure out. Stuck with my insecurities and overthinking.

Give me tasks and challenge me to become more than average dude.

Warrior from soul, looking for more… Walking on the road, feeling alone… Path is clear, but eyes are lost… Help me search them, heart is getting cold..

I had this incredible experience the other day that I just had to share. I was grabbing my usual morning coffee when I noticed this elderly lady struggling to carry her groceries to her car. Without even thinking, I offered to help her out. The smile that lit up her face was priceless, man. We ended up chatting for a bit, and I could tell she really appreciated the company. It got me thinking about how a small act of kindness can really make someone's day, you know? So, here's my challenge to all of you: let's spread some love and positivity by doing something kind for someone else today. Whether it's holding the door open, buying a stranger's coffee, or simply offering a listening ear, let's make a difference in someone's life. Trust me, the feeling you get from touching someone's soul with your kindness is beyond words. Let's make the world a better place, one act of kindness at a time! Who's with me?

I’ve been feeling pretty down lately, and I just wanted to remind everyone out there that it's totally cool not to be okay sometimes. Life can throw some seriously tough stuff our way, and it's okay to feel overwhelmed by it all. I used to beat myself up for not being constantly happy or having it all together, but I’ve realized that’s just not realistic. We all have our ups and downs, and that’s what makes us human, right?

If you’re going through a rough patch, just know that you’re not alone. Reach out to friends, family, or even a professional if you need some extra support. And don’t forget to cut yourself some slack – self-care is key! Whether it’s binge-watching your favorite show, going for a long walk, or treating yourself to some comfort food, do whatever helps you feel a little better. Remember, it's okay not to be okay sometimes, but things will get better. Hang in there, you got this!

I've learned a thing or two about putting yourself out there, whether it's sharing your art, your opinions, or even just your personality. Here's the deal: the internet's a wild place, and for every person who loves what you're about, there's gonna be someone who's not vibing with it. It's like a law of the universe or something. But here's the kicker: don't let the hate get you down. Seriously. Focus on the love instead. You'll get people who appreciate your authenticity, your passion, your style. And yeah, you'll get trolls too, but they're just background noise, trust me. Keep doing you, keep spreading positivity, and watch how the love starts outweighing the hate. It's like a balance thing, you know? So, to anyone feeling discouraged by the negativity out there, just remember: haters gonna hate, but lovers gonna love even harder.

I'm a 21 year old male, 5'11, 137 LBS, am a NEET, have no money, am severely lonely and depressed, don't have a driver's license, and have severe PIED. According to the members of this sub, I have no chance of dating anyone for a very long time, and need to just give up.

So, how can I just stop caring about dating for the next decade or two?

23 year-old male. Law Student. About To Graduate. All my 5 years (That's how long our course is, where I'm from) I have wasted not working on my problems and not handling with situations nicely. I could have turned shit around but I made things worse for myself. I could have focused on my academics better, I could've worked on myself, my physique, my personality. The way I handle people, and just overall really; not being a cry-baby and shit, ykwim? I could've spent time into things that genuinely bring me joy. Instead I focused on chasing clout and focusing on all the wrong shit. I knew that I had the time right then to turn shit around but instead I knowingly misused my time. And now I am here. I feel completely alone, lost, depressed. Oh man.

I had sex with the girl raw on Saturday I’m clean but idk I didn’t take a shower 3 days after then I did but now my throat is sore and cloaked and my cum was blood and red in my cum I’m scared I have std or uti hope this is false alarm never having raw sex again

I am learning how to swim and there is a lot of sun exposure on the way to pool, in the pool and on the way back. I stopped using tret and other actives. I got tanned and my skin tone became darker by 2 levels 🫠 any tips and suggestions

Yeah, title says it all. On a phone call to my grandpa, I overheard her saying that I am not amounting to anything. I have been working so hard on school, getting myself together, making money, and what not. This just feels like a blow. I honestly want to keep it pushing and not care, but it genuinely hurts to hear her say that about me. I have been on this self-discipline kick for a while as I recently came out of a very negative time, where I wasn't taking care of myself and my responsibilities. I have since taken the time to get back into shape physically and mentally. I am not looking for sympathy, but advice. How should I go on with this? How can I not care what she thinks when it does actually affect me? Thanks.

I’m an adult, so I don’t have my parents around to punish me when I do something wrong anymore. So I have been punishing myself. I stop eating, I stop playing video games, I deny myself breaks, I even recently started scratching and whipping myself. But I still make idiotic mistakes and I still do stupid things.

I don’t understand. I’m trying to train my brain to be better, but I feel like I’ve made no progress at all. What am I doing wrong?

i was incredible last year. working out six days a week before work, didn't miss a day. counting calories. doing well at work. studying languages. running once or twice a week. and loving all of it.

then, my light at the end of the tunnel was extinguished, and i've been miserable since. barely lift. eating my feelings. gained almost ten kilograms in the past few months. work performance is slipping.

will to live is very low.

how can i at least get some semblance of structure back? i do nothing. even wasting time is just scrolling or watching the same youtube videos. cannot even be bothered with tv or video games. just scraping through one day at a time. what can i do to at least control my eating? while i have no drive to even exist, how do i tell myself to get back to some semblance of routine? each gym session, if i go, ​​afterwards i drive off ​in tears and then eat those feelings while not liking it.

I really struggled with low energy growing up and when I was back in school.

However, whenever I worked, I did not experience much fatigue on my feet all day long. Same with office jobs and even when I was working in demolition in a construction company.

Now I am learning new job skills and training.

Although I am gradually increasing my workload I still have days studying where some of the fatigue pops back up

Do you deal with this lack of energy somehow? How do you arrange your life to have more energy? Or have you just gotten used to it?

Short form content is the worst thing we could consume… and I consume way to much….

I’ve been finding myself consuming short form content in order to find the answer to my solutions and I find myself becoming more and more confused.
As a content creator, short form content is great…. This is because you could get your message across to your potential customer in a world where attention spans are dwindling. But for us consumers, there’s literally nothing beneficial about it.

Why Short Form Content Is Bad

• Reduces our attention span….
• lacks depth..
• is addictive.
• doesn’t allow you to learn deeply
• encourages passive consumption.
• erodes complex thinking
• Social media platforms prioritize user engagement, often leading to an algorithmically-curated echo chamber where only similar viewpoints are reinforced, reducing exposure to diverse perspectives.
• The brief exposure to information does not allow for the mental repetitions or deeper cognitive engagement needed for long-term memory retention.

Lastly, it increases stress and anxiety due to information overload.

Not only that, but short form content also controls the way we consume other information & perform other tasks.. If we go to read books, we may find ourself skimming the pages instead of really diving deep into the information.

If we go to work out, we may find ourselves doing the most minimal work necessary instead of what will benefit us most.

“how we do anything is how we do everything” is a quote I love… And because content consumption is a vast majority of peoples daily habits, how we consume content is likely how we’ll do other things.

Short form content may give us “data”or “facts, but it doesn’t give us deep knowledge….
In order to excel and get ahead of everyone else we must be able to choose the hard path. In this scenario, it’s watching the hour long YouTube video that will give us life changing knowledge instead of binging an hours worth of Instagram reels…. That includes me as well.

How I’m Going To Avoid Short Form Content

I’m going to set intentions before I open YouTube…. What do I need to learn that day that’s going to help me make more money, improve relationships, or help with my health and well being?

I’m going to curate the content I want to watch ahead of time- this way when I get that hour of free time before bed, i’m able to watch the list of content I curated instead of risking the exposure of seeing YouTube shorts on my feed.

Lastly, i’m going to read more. I always start reading and get into periods of time where I stop completely. I always feel my best when i’m reading on a regular basis so i’m going to make sure I read more often. Reading doesn’t have short form content calling your name mid book, so this is the safest way to avoid it.

Get dopamine out of doing hard things rather than watching short form content.

The only times i’d say short form content is good is if the content creator….

Motivates you - makes you get back to the big things by motivating you.
Gives you recommendations for books.

That’s it.

Here’s my Favorite Discipline Resources
Jons Growth Journal
Chris Willx Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@ChrisWillx
Matt Graham: https://www.youtube.com/@notmattgraham
Mel Robbins: https://www.youtube.com/@melrobbins

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Looking for advice on how to stop this.

I (F/5'5"/138lbs) always get FOMO when I see my partner (M/6:4"/220lbs) eat anything.

It doesn't matter if I have just finished a meal, as Soon as I see him eat something (babybel cheese, cereal, chips+salsa, salad, instant noodles, etc) I ALWAYS want some. It could be a bite or "just a few" . Therefor, I'm consuming more calories during the day when I'm trying to portion size/control.

I know he's bigger than me so he can afford to eat more, but it just makes me have FOMO with food.

Does anyone else feel this way and how can I stop?

So I am a 28yr old (F) who is about 350lbs I think. I can only bring myself to check the scale every few months, so I'm guessing up a little bit. I don't feel comfortable enough around people to have a dating life which i think I would genuinely like to have.

I have been flip-flop dieting since I was ten (bad decision on my part) and now am too big to be able to just accept myself as is. I also cannot get myself to believe that anyone would like me romantically as is.

health-wise, I don't get sick often but I have no endurance, and am now usually tired. I would like to fix this. I think I have a good plan already for fixing this, but how can I get myself to do it and keep doing it every day? and I guess are there any resources for people who just need to be checked in on?

Hello everyone, I'm a 26-year-old guy facing my final exam in engineering (undergraduate level). I find myself stuck in an endless loop that I can't seem to break free from. For the past two exams, I've been completely paralyzed, and I feel like I've wasted the last three years of my life. I'm seeing a psychologist and taking antidepressants, but my university career situation isn't improving at all. Currently, I need to study for the last exam I have left, but I've already missed the last four sessions without being able to face the oral exam because I can't bring myself to study anymore. I spend entire days procrastinating, and by the end of the day, I even find myself lying to my girlfriend about how much I've studied because I'm ashamed of myself and feel misunderstood. Lately, I've started doing some freelance work hoping to break out of this cycle, but I still feel stuck. I hate this situation because it's draining my social life, enthusiasm for everything, and even my parents are exhausted by it. I managed to pass the second-to-last exam by studying at the university, but living an hour away and struggling with concentration issues, I stopped going. Do you have any advice? I've never been an outstanding student; I've always crammed everything at the last minute, but I never had any problems before. I graduated well, and I managed to pass all the other exams as well.