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How to beat boredom and feel fulfilled daily in life?

Hi there,

I (29M) have recently been feeling this dread of boredom for most of my days. I know it’s bad when I look forward to be going to bed lol.

I’m desperate to make my days more productive and fulfilling. This is my current day.

• I work Monday to Friday remotely. 8am-3pm. I generally finish all my work by 1pm tho.

• I lift weights for 1 hour every second day then every other day I’ll do a 3-5km run. I am currently on track to losing 15lbs, 1/3 of the way there.

• I journal, affirmations, manifest in the morning, then journal about my day before I sleep.

• I will read for about 45-1hr per day.

• On the weekends I usually hang out with friends but lately I haven’t as I’m extremely focused on my weight loss goals and know I could mess it up going out to eat/drink.

Other than above, that’s all I do. I usually fill in the rest of my day by doom scrolling or computer games. I know the effects to dopamine by doing these things and I think about it everyday how I need to stop my scrolling addiction. But then I have absolutely no idea what I will do. I want to completely cut of these negative habits.

I tried to learn coding, got bored 5mins in. I bought a tank model to build but lost interest when the package arrived. I don’t know why I lose complete interest in things when I don’t even really try it. The thought of doing these potential hobbies makes it feel like a chore. Perhaps my dopamine is so fried from TikTok scrolling that these potential hobbies don’t provide that quick dopamine hit?

I developed a business idea half a year ago that consumed a lot of my time but it didn’t work out due to not testing the product properly. Im actually happy with how things went as I learned so much and had a good time doing it. I’ve been trying to do this again but I have no idea what business I should pursue.

Sadly, my hobby throughout my 20s was drinking and going out with my friends. Now that I’m 29, I really don’t want to do this anymore but I haven’t found anything to fill that gap.

Anyways, has anyone been in a position where they feel intense boredom and desire for fulfillment/productivity in their life? I’m lost and desperate to feel productive and fulfilled in my life. I feel happiest when my days are fully filled and productive but my life is quite the opposite of that currently. Any advice or direction would be greatly appreciated.

I am trying my best to be better

Qualities like kindness, consideration, and empathy do not come naturally to me but I learned that by really focusing on loving others, I can express these qualities easily.

When I think about making the right decisions and living with integrity honesty and integrity I make the correct decisions and it feels good. I sleep better at night and I believe it even improves outcomes.

However, i started a high stress business and when I get overwhelmed, all of these qualities that I have been working to cultivate go out the window. When stressed, or mentally exhausted I cannot feel empathy for others. I get more aggressive in my decision making, I become more likely to cut off clients or workers if I am slighted. Dishonesty becomes the default. I become absent minded and start forgetting small things.

This affects how I act at home as well. I stop carrying as much of my weight with chores around the house. I start forgetting everything, starting tasks and not finishing them. I become irritable. It’s not fair to the people around me. I sometimes even have to avoid people I love because I fear I will be rude to them when they never did anything to deserve my bad mood.

I want so badly to be someone who is empathetic, loving, kind, and has integrity, but I feel like like my efforts to be good are a facade that is lifted once I tolerate enough stress, and my true nature of anger, deceit and impulse reveals itself.

Has anyone here learned to be good in spite of their circumstances?

I would love to hear your story.

There were so many days that I yelled at God, or the universe, usually when I was in my car, on the road, or driving in heavy rain. There were so many days I was so fucking fed up with being sick. I was either pushing myself way too hard through life and things; what my ego told me I had to do, and I forced myself to do things, whether it was just for a walk, to do my makeup and go have sex so I could make financial ends meet, or see a friend, well people or ’friends,’ that would make my self sabotage feel okay, so it was like validation for my toxic traits. On the other hand there were so many days that I wasted away, rotting in the corner of my bed, my belly the size of a basketball, my neck pounding full of toxins and heat and inflammation, sweat dripping down my body and internal dreadful doom which absolutely annihilated me in every way possible. There were so many days I yelled PLEASE TAKE ME OUT. TAKE ME THE FUCK OUT OF THIS LIFE. I REALLY REALLY DON'T WANT TO BE HERE.

I didn’t want to be conscious, I didn't want to be me, I didn’t want to have to deal with my failures, I didn’t want to deal with the same. Old. healing. Again and again and again and again. I just wanted to live. But I think I've realized that I wanted to live without learning from my mistakes, I wanted to live easily, without discipline, and just continue down a road that would eventually probably would have killed me. I didn’t want to live, because I hated myself and I didn’t want to actually do the work. I didn’t want to accept that I needed to accept even more truths and realities. I didn’t want to accept what set me apart from others, so that I could just live limitlessly with those who actually didn’t have limitations whether it be because of hidden truths, they were stuck in addiction, they were chasing things that I didn’t intend to chase with them, etc. The list goes on. I tried to distract myself by constantly accepting plans every week with the man I kept on telling myself that I had fallen for because he was all I had. And he truly was all I had, as I slowly began to turn to him first before anyone else and for more and more things. But I had to eventually stop lying to myself because as much as I adored his presence, as much as I appreciated him and as much as I just wanted to spend hours talking to him and could call him at any time and he would pick up, because I realized that he was my best friend and I saw him as my best friend, not a future husband, like in turn he saw me as the love of his life. I slowly over time began to have less and less energy for anything, as if my my body was just completely rejecting my ‘past life’ or a past lifestyle that the universe or God was calling me out of, in order to align with one that would

So much of what you see everywhere is filled with ideas and visuals and images of peoples lives that you A) have no place to judge or B) can't compare yourself too because you don't know what they sacrificed to have that. Hints of my upcoming ultimate bottom, arose and manifested through the slow burn of strep throat, colds, and swollen tonsils. Then almost every single morning it felt like a thousand bricks were weighing my body down, and even my mind as I couldn't really think about anything, I couldn't make rational decisions, I couldn't think for myself anymore and that was when I knew, okay I have got to surrender and let go. I would get up, make a morning beverage and take care of myself, and after a few steps fall back into bed and just try to stay as calm as I possibly could. It was calm and reassuring at the same time as being utterly devastating and disturbing because I was aware of how fragile, weak and frail I was and that was the truth. It next hit a point of a complete mind and body shut down and my body would react from almost literally anything. From a drop of alcohol, a kiss of a cigarette, a single blow of a row, to then noise, stimuli, movement, a crumb of food, a sip of anything hot, and basically just any beverage that wasn't either pure water, coffee or lemon and salt. After walking around, being up fro an hour or so and then 10 minutes down the road of driving I could already feel my weakness begin to crawl back all over my body, as my lymph nodes began to swell back up, the water retention in my ankles, the belly swelling, the brain fog and the exhaustion. The worst part about all of this was that I couldn’t escape it, I couldn’t escape my own body and that was exactly what it felt like I wanted to do, and no one should ever have to feel that way about their body, their own selves. So to add on to that, I couldn’t escape my body, but the second I tried to just quit, surrender and lay down or sleep, I couldn't because my mind would go wild, jumping from the wait i need this or that medicine first and the fears of not doing some sort of attempt of activity to get better or healing strategy, because I was afraid that if I did not, I would get worse, and progress and everything would hit me like a truck again so these moments sparked the hyper vigilant in me, the taking action to do yoga, breathe work, dry brushing exercises, body massages, make detoxifying foot baths, soaking my face in ice water, showering between hot and cold also showers that consisted of furious and wild scrubbing, the scrubbing of my whole body, the shaving every hair that existed on my body that wasn't my head, every hole and crevice to be cleaned, because I was filthy, sick and I needed to be or at least feel as clean as possible (realized later this was a mental illness) But I slowly, slowly started to regain at least a little bit of my power back, the first sign being experiencing clear thoughts, a clean and bright mind, one consisting of actual healthy and hopeful thoughts, I could formulate my thoughts and recall words again and well. I felt like I was going to be okay.

I wanted to share a little journey I’ve been on with mental health apps lately. I’ve tried quite a few of them, and while they’re not a complete replacement for therapy, I’ve found that they can be really helpful as part of a daily mental wellness routine. If you’re someone like me who needs a gentle reminder to check in with your thoughts, these apps can be a great way to get started.

Here are a few that I’ve tried and how they’ve worked for me:

1. Headspace: This one’s great if you’re into guided meditations and mindfulness. I found it super calming, especially for morning routines or winding down at night. The downside is it can feel a bit repetitive after a while if you don’t explore the different courses they offer.
2. Moodfit: If you love data and tracking your progress, this app might be for you. It has a lot of tools for mood tracking, gratitude exercises, and setting goals. It’s pretty straightforward, but sometimes it felt more like a checklist rather than a supportive space.
3. LePal: This one surprised me. It’s kind of a mix between a journaling app, therapy tool, and a virtual friend. What I like about it is the variety—there are quick, bite-sized coaching sessions that touch on topics like stress, relationships, and career challenges. Plus, there’s this cute feature where you get a “letter” from your spirit pet every week, which feels like a little hug from a friend. The app also has a fun personality insights feature and a way to connect with friends for shared check-ins, which has made it easier to stay accountable without feeling pressured.
4. Woebot: For anyone who likes chat-based support, Woebot can be pretty cool. It uses CBT techniques through a chatbot that feels conversational. It’s a good option if you want something more interactive, but it’s not for everyone—some people might find it a bit impersonal.

Overall, I’ve found it helpful to have a few different options depending on my mood. Some days I want the guided meditations from Headspace, and other times I prefer journaling or the friendly updates from LePal. It’s all about finding what works for you and mixing it up so it doesn’t feel like a chore.

Have any of you tried these or other apps that you’d recommend? I’d love to hear what’s worked (or hasn’t) for you. Remember, taking even a few minutes for your mental health can make a big difference. 💛

Sending you all good vibes!

I got broken up with a month ago and have been slowly trying to gain my confidence back. He was the first boy I was ever with and the only boy to ever call me beautiful. He treated me like garbage but that’s beside the point lmao. I never really felt beautiful before him but now Ive realized that my beauty is not conditional on whether a man tells me so or not. I dress better than him now anyway!! In conclusion, men kinda suck and I am beautiful, with or without a man.

Another good one for the record. Nothing too crazy for my day but I worked on different stuff while at home and tried to enjoy my day. I wanted to work out but decided not to push it since I could really feel the previous workout in my thighs. I felt really good about that and decided a rest day was better than pushing it. I talked to my sister and mom extensively today. My sister told me her first interview went extremely well and they really liked her. It turned into a two hour interview and they asked her to meet the team which seems like very high potential in my opinion. I talked to my mom about my plans and the holidays. It was a nice conversation that we both needed to have. I'm helping her with what my brother wants for Christmas. I know he needs a card binder for his Pokémon cards and I have a few other ideas for him. The water got used up again in the house so we need to be careful of that too. I then spent my night working on clearing up my phone so it is a bit faster. I did that while listening to a few things. I just need to have a faster phone since I wont be getting another anytime soon and try my best to take care of it. This is just another thing that needs to get done. It was a good night. Besides all that nonsense here is what I ate:

Breakfast:

1 cup chocolate milk - 140 calories (13 g protein)

1 slice of toast - 100 calories (3 g protein)

Lunch:

150 g of ground beef - ~325 calories (~39.2 g protein)

43 g of lettuce - 9 calories (.5 g protein)

Snack:

159 g of apple - 95 calories ( .4 g protein)

46 g of honey - ~140 calories

Dinner:

200 g of ground beef - ~435 calories (~52.2 g protein)

2 taco shells - 130 calories (2 g protein)

40 g of cheese - ~160 calories (~10 g protein)

30 g of lettuce - 6 calories (.4 g protein)

120 g of tomato - ~40 calories (~1 g protein)

Dessert:

1 ½ serving of Halloween candy - 145 calories

SBIST was the bir of soreness in my legs targeted around my thighs. Since I did a leg day yesterday and pushed it a bit further than before, I feel like the muscle was actually being built up. I took the day off from the gym for that reason as well in order to not push it even further. I want to partially feel that soreness knowing I am targeting those groups but not to then go further and risk hurting myself. Pumping further and harder feels great and getting this routine is amazing. It makes me want to work harder and the gym helps me escape the wanting for bad foods. All in all, yesterday's gym session helped two days straight.

Tomorrow I have a few plans. I plan to hit the gym and do some cardio. I need to go grocery shopping as well and hit the meat shop to get some ground chicken. If I see the person who I asked about the job, then maybe I will get my answer about that as well. I also have a cousin I may contact for a part time job until I can get something in my field. I don't mind doing anything really. People got to earn money somehow and I don't see the harm in gaining experience in random things. Also the holidays are the worst time of year to be lacking money. I'll figure it out. Thank you my conjurers of the arbitrary monetary values. You keep our economies running.

TLDR: I’m living at home until I graduate, but I am 31 and single and have no money, how do I stop the shame and self-blame?

I am a 31F still living with my parents. For my peace of mind I will not share my location, as I wish to keep some sense of anonymity. In other words, I am not asking for actual housing advice. But rather, how do I stop blaming myself for everything?

The reason I live at home still, is so that I can finish my university degree, and because housing in the big city is really expensive. It made logical sense to live with my parents, in order to focus on my studies and not having to stress about having a job or not. The education has taken way longer than expected though. First covid, along with a sense that I chose the wrong path, made me fall into a spiral of failure of sorts… Then when I finally felt more on track, I got together with my now ex-boyfriend. That made me feel like I was finally “growing up” as I thought I was going to live with him. I’ve since broken up with him, as I realised he was a pathological liar (among other things, he was also manipulative and emotionally abusive), and now I feel lower than I’ve ever felt.

I have worked part time here and there, but nothing long term or serious. And I have not been good at saving any money.

I have less than a year left if all goes according to plan (I still have some courses from previous semesters to finish off, along with my current courses), so I guess I just need to hold on. But I feel like, everyone else in my class is super young, like 24 at the most, and I can’t shake the feeling that I’m a failure. I still live at home, because I still haven’t graduated. How do I explain this to a potential boyfriend? Who would even date someone like me? Who would even hire me? Even when I finally graduate, it feels like I will never get a “real” job, because I feel like a slug. I don’t know how else to explain it. I’m sure this is all in my head, as I will soon have two degrees (I have studied before, but just never worked in that field). And I don’t know if employers care so much about how long it takes to graduate? I know I’m not the only one, as I do see other people from my class re-applying for classes… So I get the sense that I am just low right now, and that this is just anxiety… But at the same time, my anxiety tends to have some truth to it. I just want to know how to get out of this funky mindset. Sorry if this was a drag, I feel really low.

I don't want to play the victim, as I take full responsibility for the hole I'm currently in. But still, as I sit here on the eve of turning 30, I'm feeling regret and sadness over what I see as completely wasting my 20s. Over the past decade, I have struggled with procrastination, mental health challenges, toxic relationships, stagnation in low-wage jobs, and substance abuse issues. I am currently $30k in debt, have poor credit, still live at home, am 60 pounds overweight, have no social life, and am single.

However, I’ve recently started a new job that will finally allow me to live independently. I completed a software engineering bootcamp and am now applying for jobs in that field. My ultimate goal is to move away from my hometown and work as a freelance web developer. I want to forget the last decade and cope by having the mindset to "run it back" in my 30s and do things right this time. I want to travel, live the bachelor life for a while before settling down, and establish a solid financial foundation.

How hard will it realistically be to do these things? I just need some perspective and a reality check on my situation. I know that by this age, it's usually harder to change and people tend to become more set in their ways, but I'm starting to feel that fire again to make it happen.

Thank you in advance!

I am writing this because I have been feeling pretty bad for several years now, I am 25 years old and for some time now I have been feeling sad, my head asks me to go somewhere lonely and drink in solitude, 2 years ago I had a relationship with a girl for a short period of time.

We knew each other for years and reconnected somehow, from there started a relationship of a few months, she was unfaithful to me with her ex and that hurt me a lot, that made the relationship ended. I don't know if it was the fact that before we were a couple we were friends or that something like that had never happened to me before. But I feel that it has marked me forever.

To this day I still have problems with that event and I have developed a certain addiction to drinking when I am alone or not busy (It happens to me mostly at night). Added to this I recently lost my job and started studying engineering, but it is going very badly and I am not sure if I like it or if it is too difficult for me.

I don't know if it's normal but I feel totally lost in life, without hope in love and work, almost the only thing that makes me some illusion right now is going to the gym to distract me.

Any similar experience?

on a self love and healing journey and slowly figuring out why i was acting the way i was and what was causing it. i suspect i am in a toxic work and home environment, my family doesn’t talk to eachother even though we all live very close. it’s more like a take take take situation and everyone just takes from eachother rarely ever have true conversations where i can feel a real connection. it’s impossible to make my grandma stop fake laughing and it’s impossible to actually talk to her and have her be real. my coworkers are so cynical and drama filled a lot of the time i try to bring the vibes up but then i just end up ignored while my other coworkers complain about politics to eachother or something. i just want a loving environment where i feel like i am flourishing not an environment where i constantly feel sick and kind of lonely (at work and at home) just not sure what to do.

TLDR: Ok so i’m always in a negative mindset. I have a partner of five years in which we got engaged last year and I always feel like I’m not good enough. She’s extremely beautiful, fit, and hard-working. She never had a partner before me because she said something was telling her to be patient and when she found me, she said I’m everything she can even want. But I’m so fat, not making enough, and I’m always constantly worried she’s gonna leave me for someone better.

Long version: My partner is Australian (23F) and I’m American (25M). We’ve been together for almost five years and I proposed to her back in February after spending a month with her when we met for the first time. ( We were long distance ) I decided to move to Australia on my working holiday visa which expires in a year. But the problem is it’s very hard to find a job here in Australia (sunshine coast) and employers are hesitant to hire people on a holiday visa because we aren’t permanent residents. I’ve been searching for work for a while so she’s been taking care of everything and that hurts me a lot. I always daydream about becoming successful and giving her everything in the world because she deserves it.

I’ve always been overweight too. I lost 110 pounds but then put a lot back on when I moved here due to stress eating because I can’t find a job etc so I feel so ugly. she supports my weight loss journey and when I tell you, this girl loves me unconditionally… I feel like that’s an understatement. She’s put up with so much and she’s so excited for our future together and having kids together. I know for a fact, she loves me. but she’s so attractive and so good looking that I’m scared She’s gonna find a hard-working man one day and just leave me. I want to become that hard-working man, but being overweight has just always made me so depressed. The first time I lost the weight. I was so happy I was so outgoing she saw a brand new man but then when I put the weight back on, I became rude and irritable every second of the day but then two seconds later I instantly regret it and I immediately apologize for my actions. she hasn’t changed the way she sees me at all.

I so desperately want to become the fitter, happier, more positive man I was a few years ago but it’s so damn hard to stop stress eating and stop being so negative. In reality, I highly highly doubt she’ll ever leave me for someone else.. I met all her friends and family and they love me so much. Her dad who was our fear in me meeting likes me a lot. Her brother sees me as a brother, her childhood best friend consideres me her best friend and all her relatives are super super supportive and care about me and are excited for our wedding and our future together. we literally have the recipe for the perfect future together, but I can’t stop these negative thoughts and I can’t stop over eating so I could become the man I once was.

I’m so so so sorry for how long this was but I really need help. I so terribly want to stop these negative thoughts and stop the stress eating so I can lose this weight and go back to being the positive. Happy man I was.

I feel pretty lost in life. Low esteem, just got laid off from my high paying job. Terrible at people skills, balding. I live in an expensive rat race city so that doesn’t help. My cousin is 30 and he’s getting married next year. Followed by my high school friend who just brought a home with his fiancé. They’re getting married in April.

Im pretty lonely. I don’t know where to go from here. I know people expect you to have their lives together by 30 but I have no idea what’s going on.

I am 22M and I am stuck in a circle and I want to get out of it. I hate myself beacuse everyday i am doing something unproductive. The only thing that I am doing productive is gym and for the last couple of weeks i am losing motivation for the gym too. I am unconfident, i have low self-esteem, social anxiety and I am depresed. I just started going to college and I already messed up because i dont have motivation to study and I probably have ADHD. I want to get better, but every time i decide that I fall back in that circle and it seems like there is no way out. Wish someone could give me some advice on how to be more productive and to have more confidence

That's really the question! Interested in everyone's thoughts on how they define what the goal is...

I’ve reached a point where I can’t ignore how my addictions are impacting my life. What started as small habits—ways to escape stress or feel a quick sense of relief—have taken control in ways I never expected. My struggle with both gambling and porn addiction is affecting my relationships, self-esteem, finances, and motivation in other areas of life. I’ve tried to quit on my own, but I keep slipping back into old patterns, and I’m finding it harder and harder to pull myself out of this cycle. I want to reclaim my life and finally break free from these addictions, but I know it won’t be easy. I am 25, Male, turning 26 in few days and I don’t want to waste another year to try and change or go back to what is happening to me right now.

If anyone has been through a similar experience or has advice on how to start, I’d be grateful for any guidance or support.

I've found a root cause of my depression and sadness comes from the feeling that I will never get to experience the same love from my ex again. In my head it is like experiencing her love and desire again is all I need to make myself whole, even if I know logically that isn't true. It keeps me so infatuated with my ex. And I keep getting advice like "there will be other people who will stir those feelings in you". But honestly that isn't what bothers me. I guess I do have some excitment to meeting and starting something again, but it feels overshadowed by the feeling of I miss HER love and HER desire. And at times it just feels like what is the point to self-improvment and fixing myself if none of it leads me back to her.

I know the common advice is time heals all wounds and to focus on myself. But it feels like any improvment I do is just a distraction to fixing a problem in myself I'm not addressing. Anybody have some thoughts on my situation?

I hope this is okay to share, I'm just so proud of myself. Sometimes I feel like I go a long time without any real personal success.

I just took my Anatomy & Physiology midterm and got a 92%. As much as I wanted to do better...an A is an A and I can't believe I'm doing so well! This is the last prerequisite I need before I can apply to the mortuary program.

After everything came crashing down two years ago, I've been struggling to find my place in the world. Then two family members and three friends died unexpectedly this year, and I realized my mental and emotional fortitude made me well equipped to handle grief, and this is something I can actively give back to the world.

I've never felt so "on the right track" until now. I'm actually going to do it. I'm really going to pull this off. I'm going to get my mortician's license, become a grief counselor, and advocate for sustainable/alternative death care practices where I live. I'm going to help people get their affairs in order and hopefully help reduce the cost of dying. I'm so excited for my future, and that's saying something --because earlier this year, I wasn't even sure if I had one.

Anyway, thanks for reading.

I'm currently on a gap year and I started a fulltime job in august, it's recently been taking a massive toll on me emotionally 🥲 i work 10-6 5 days a week and other than the fact that i go to the gym a couple times a week and i see my boyfriend once a week (we're medium distance) i have nothing else to do.

It feels like i have very little time to myself and everything i do is repetitive, i can't see my friends because they're all busy with uni and work too so whenever i get time off i just end up bored and i feel kind of isolated.

In order to try and stop myself from going insane over the next year i figured i'd try and put together a list of hobbies i could pick up or activities i could do and try and get through them all until i find something that sticks with me! This'll be a massive push out of my comfort zone cus i'm not very fond of doing things by myself typically but i'd rather try than do nothing.

Has anybody got any recommendations for hobbies or anything they enjoy doing? Could be something like crocheting or even something way different like hiking etc etc. I'm open to literally anything lol there's not much i'm particularly into atm i feel kind of boring for it. For reference i'm 18 also. Thank you :)

I'm trying to improve my overall health, both physical and mental. However, I'm finding it challenging to balance this with my other interests. I've started focusing on a few key areas: reducing sugar intake, incorporating regular exercise, practicing meditation, and reading more. One significant hurdle I'm facing is waking up early. Despite setting alarms, I struggle to get up consistently. This leads to a domino effect, as missed mornings cause tasks to pile up and disrupt my entire routine. I'm seeking advice on how to improve my focus and establish a more consistent morning routine. Any tips or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

hi everyone

almost 10 years ago I worked at a childcare facility when I was 20-21 and essentially got overstimulated and lashed out on one of the kids for taking back to me. I yelled at them and told them to get on their cot for nap instead of finishing lunch. I was fired for this the next day in the middle of shift. My ex boss then put out a letter stating I was fired due to the safety of the children and then spread I was on the child maltreatment list which was not true at all. ever since I have felt so much guilt and anxiety and almost live in fear everyday of seeing parents that were in my class that I was fired from. I feel like an evil person/child abuser from all of this and it has eaten my mind alive.

any advice dealing with the anxiety/fear? does this make me a terrible person?

Hi! If you'd like, share what positive things happened in your life today. They can be small things. I listened to good music and had a few interesting discussions.

I (29F) and my partner (29M) are going to therapy after almost 2 years together. I won’t get into it too much, but long story short we have resentment towards each other for things that happened in the beginning of our relationship that weren’t necessarily in our control. He’s also very avoidant and I am not. The arguing is constant lately - we argue, resolve it or move on, then something else pops up. There’s no intimacy or affection right now. The election also definitely didn’t help as one of us had a lot more involvement in it and the other couldn’t have cared less. Some values are definitely in question here, but civil conversations where we could understand the other just are not happening with us alone. His anger and inability to listen is prohibiting me from having conversations, as well. He doesn’t want to talk and would rather just avoid. I want to work on our relationship and he has agreed to go to couples therapy but isn’t too happy about it.

Has anyone actually benefited from therapy for couples?

Hi everyone,
I wanted to get your take on whether it's suitable for members of the same family to see the same therapist, though in separate, individual sessions.

It’s a complex issue that requires caution. On one hand, having the same therapist might offer a unique understanding of family dynamics, which could support treatment. However, it also carries the risk of blurred boundaries and potential conflicts of interest.

In some cases, it might work well if managed carefully, with clear boundaries and open communication. But generally, it’s something that should be approached on a case-by-case basis, with careful consideration of each person’s therapeutic needs and the therapist’s ability to remain neutral.

I’d love to hear others’ experiences and thoughts on when this approach is appropriate or advisable!

Nobody truly understands the experiences that have shaped your life. I have grown tremendously, Spiritually I am in a good place. I am beginning to see and understand the challenges that almost broke my spirit and ruined me and made me this strong and resilient spirit. Things that would get under my skin I can now brush off my shoulder. I irritate some people simply by being my authentic self. That is ok I always have. I've understood this since childhood; even though I had many close friends and a big, loving family who always made me feel good about myself I have always felt isolated. I would feel out of place, despite feeling loved. I am so proud that I now do not feel any of the chaos and hatred I had in my heart. I love seeing people emerge out of the darkness of their souls. Once you experience the peace of Enlightenment, you'll want to continue to strengthen your spirit. You begin to realize that having a mind full of worries, doubts, and fears is an awful way to live. Looking back I can see now that I've come a long way baby! 😂 I want to help others who feel that darkness in their soul to let them see You can lift yourself out of the MUd. I am 50 years old, I have had an addictive personality all my life, and drugs, and drinking always being in a club or bar, would help me leave my chaotic mind of mine. even just for a moment, it was calm. I was promiscuous and was always in abusive relationships of some kind.

What I was searching for with the drugs was the love inside myself and the ability to see the bigger picture. This is bigger than all of us. It is beautiful to uplift and care about one another. So we can all feel loved and part of something grand.

On my 25th birthday, I asked myself whether I had accomplished my goals. I had no answer. Then I asked myself what are the goals I tried to accomplish. I didn't have an answer for that either. Then I realized that the spark, the fire, the hunger to achieve something in life had been put out after I joined my first job after completing my studies. Maybe my mind had made a decision for me like this is enough. This had not been my state of mind before joining this job. I had worked days and nights to get this job during my college days. Even during my high school days, I had studied hard with the goal of getting into a good college. But now I just waste my time and energy with no more goals. I have become very comfortable with myself, and it has also made my life very boring. In the past three years at my job, I have always doubted myself, and my confidence level has always been low. I don't even have a girlfriend. I'm surrounded by people who always make me nervous. Sometimes I wish I were dead so that I don't have to live this life. I have never felt work pressure in the past years, just social anxiety.

I always feel like a loser. My inner self doesn't accept me as a great person. I need to achieve something in my life to feel great again. Maybe that's what I've been missing in these past three years.

I constantly see myths and over-simplified ways of discussing self-improvement. It's easy to roll my eyes as someone in the psychology space, but It's also hard to gauge how problematic it actually is.

Do you feel like you're able to sort through posts that don't work for you and properly incorporate what does work? Is it better to have things de-bunked and de-simplified, or just to be surrounded by tips you can pick and choose from? Curious to hear your thoughts.

Hey guys, so I’ve been wondering—how do you guys actually make time for yourself? I’m not talking about reading books, doing skincare, or anything like that. I mean genuinely sitting down with your own thoughts, just letting them flow, and actually thinking things through deeply. Like, just sitting there, reflecting on life, and forming your own opinions. I'm curious, especially if you’re someone who’s working and managing your own expenses, with all the responsibilities and commitments that come with that. How do you carve out time to just be with yourself? How do you stay connected to yourself despite all the demands life throws at you? What does staying connected to yourself even mean to you? And how do you actually do it? And for those of you who have families and a 9-to-5 job (that sometimes spills over into your evenings), how do you manage to stay grounded and connected to your own inner world? If you're a student, juggling assignments, deadlines, and whatever else, how do you fit that in? Would love to hear your thoughts on this!

Whole my life i tried to live trying not to hurt someone, but in the end, I ended up hurting the person dearest to me. It was completely my fault, where I backed out of the relationship, because of some decisions. I didn't say these decisions very clearly to her.
I know I fucked up very bad. And she will never ever forgive me for that. How can I go about this. I am feeling very stupid for the things I did and decisions I made (the way i ended it).

I am old enough, 27, to understand such stupid things, but still ended up doing that.

Does anyone have any advice?

Hi! I am ready to emotionally mentally and spiritually reset after one of the hardest years of my life. I have some amazing things coming up but I feel like my nervous system is so shot I cannot be present or excited about them and still have fear.

How can I start to rebuild my confidence, nervous system and increase my window of tolerance for bad?

Hey, I'm North, I'm 16 and from Austria. Sorry in advance for odd terms I may use, I'm not native english.

For almost as far as I can remember other kids my age have always had a gripe against me. From Elementary to now, my third year of "High School", I've just been hated by others around me. Classmates don't interact with me much, and the few times they do it's to harass or ridicule me.

I've always just chalked it off to kids being kids or whatever. Recently it's gotten to me though and has affected my everyday life a lot. I worry so much about what others think of me, how they perceive me. And I just kept blaming myself, even when, at times, there was absolutely no reason for me to be consistently harassed everyday.

I've done a lot of self reflection, and I can see why this keeps reoccurring. I've got Anger Issues for one, and I've gone to counselling for it in the past and can proudly say I have myself mostly under control by now. Sadly sometimes, especially whenever others annoy me and ridicule me to provoke a reaction I can't help but give in

So I've decided, I'm gonna try and be better. I'm going to try to not let them get to me, so that this all can finally stop. It's done nothing but mess me up and make me doubt everything I do. It's affected my relationship and I need this to end.

So In short, I'm a teen trying to be happy, and be better :p

Also feel free to share your thoughts and stories and advice and anything here, I'll be reading through everything!