Got no chance to see any professional but just want to ask if any of you guys got strong habits and routines over the years that looks like autism, but is not?

My daily choices has boiled down to be very few regarding foods, music etc. I just pick whatever I believe will yield most joy, but in fact, since it's always the same stuff it seldom bring any joy at all. I just keep picking same stuff for sake of simplicity to not risk wasting the opportunity by making a "bad" choice, although I know there will be another similar opportunity soon after.

When watching videos and doing self-tests for autism I recognise this behaviour and get a fairly high score, but I still consider whether it's just bad habits that has grown stronger over the years because of external factors and little interception from other people.

The behaviour has a major impact on my physical and mental health and relationships, but seems impossible to break free from it despite it is harmful over time.

Anyone with personal experiences that can give any advice?

There are so many productivity tools out there. What tools do you use most and why do they fall short for you?

Does that mean i can't use my willpower and manipulate my mind in not watching porn? I do have the power to do that right?

Also, I've realized the more i have meditated, the more i feel detached from my mind and my body. So can i use my awareness to pick the right option or to frame it better, can i train myself to be so aware at a point to observe the mind's and body's desire and yet choose the right action?

I can literally sense all my desires, so why do i even need to motivate myself when i can use my awareness?

I don't know if i have any control or not. Help me out please.

Do i have the ability, even in the shittoest moments, to make choice?

This might come across as a stupid question but I've recently gotten into his content and I'm 17.

Hello everyone! I got rank of 5327 in INICET May 24 and managed to secure a rank of 535 in NEET PG 24 which took place in less than 3 months after INI.

I have been asked about my preparation by many people , so I think I should share my approach. I hope this seems relatable to and is helpful for future aspirants.

These are things that I followed that I feel made a difference:

1. Making a good schedule, along with a checklist for every subject

Checklist includes : a)Notes b)A short resource like BTR/DVT/ your own compilation of volatile topics ( I personally felt BTR is the best compilation , really helps when used along with Rapid revision/ main notes with selective topics as per PYQs and PYTs ; I don't think that BTR alone can be sufficient for the exam , BTR is more like the bare minimum/baseline that everyone should know. )

c)PYQs : NEET + FMGE + INI (atleast 5 years each ; FMGE 3 years enough) +/-UPSC CMS (it has some really good questions from final year subjects; can be used as practice in place of custom modules as well)

d)Any TnD if you've attended one ( DAMS / BTR TnD both are good)

e)Choti copy /20th notebook : Need not necessarily write everything down. If you use a tab it's easier to take screenshots and keep them at one place. f)GT mistakes copy/folder

This will help ensure a sense of clarity regarding when you can say that a particular subject has been completed on your end , because 'WHAT CAN BE MEASURED CAN BE ACHIEVED'

2. Note down everything that you study on a particular day date wise. This will help you keep a track on topics that you have already covered, and will also help in planning revision better. Also in case you don't do anything on a particular day , it will also give you a kick to do more work the next day.

3. Planning revision effectively :

The most important revision which I feel is ignored by most people (including me at the beginning of my preparation) is the revision of things you have covered the previous day , on the very next day , preferably in about 1 hour in the morning. You do not need to revise the entire stuff of the previous day. Revise things that you felt while reading that you did not understand properly or you feel is super volatile and would require multiple viewings.

Other than that , you should target atleast 2-3 revisions in total , with each one taking half the time of previous one

And one final rapid revision in the last 10 days

Other than all this , towards the end of your preparation (last 2-3 months) , give a GT every 7 days and review atleast all the wrong answers.

4)GT copy: Mistakes should be divided into 3 categories: a) Recall error : Volatile/ratta stuff , just note it down and review later. Not to worry about these ones too much. b) New/unheard topic : Try to find it in your notes. Just add a line or two about it.

c) Conceptual error : You knew the topic well , were familiar with the options and still got the answer wrong These errors are the one that require most of your time , because if you don't clear this concept, you're bound to get a question from this topic wrong in the final exam as well. So read the full explanation, read this topic up from your BTR/RR/Notes. If you still can't understand, go back to the videos in the same order and you can add this information directly in your notes as well

Before giving the next GT , make sure to review these mistakes once again.

d)Solving custom modules : try to solve custom modules daily of atleast 50 questions. If unable to do so solve PYQs or watch a Test and discussion and try to attempt the answer yourself before seeing the faculty's answer and explanation. Note down any new points you find .

e)Spaced repetition : revise things first on the next day in the morning Then after 5 days And then 15 days

Even if you're unable to do all this , atleast do not skip the next day revision, that is the most important one

You will anyways be encountering these subjects every 15-20 days once you reach 2nd revision so everything will get scanned by your eyes again and again.

5. Choti copy /20th notebook :

I found BTR quite useful for this particular purpose. It helped in revising such topics. I also made my own sheets of topics eg. A page for all IOCs , a page for all named surgeries , a page for all surgery numbers (5cm margins etc) , a page for all named signs etc. just keep a page and as and when you watch a video / read your notes , just keeping adding them to these pages. Also leave a small column on the left side of these pages so that you can turn this into a question answer format , so that it helps in active recall . Whatever you get wrong , highlight/mark it. Next time you revise these pages , start from the highlighted stuff.

6. Strategy for last 10 days :

This is the most important and underrated part of the preparation. A lot of people get frustrated by this time and just want to get done with the exam , but these days are very crucial to consolidate everything you've studied over the past year and also keep it in your recent memory.

This revision should be planned in the opposite direction, i.e.

Like our exam was on 11th August 24 , so start making this plan from 10th August and then go backwards till 1st August.

For 10th , don't keep too much on your plate because the penultimate day has a lot of things going on , from trying to sleep early to getting ready with all the logistics, travel etc.

Keep super volatile topics like Forensic IPC/BNS , Pharma Monoclonal antibodies , Micro culture media , Patho tumor markers , Ortho named fractures etc reserved for this day

As you go backwards, keep including highly volatile stuff , and also you should review your GT mistakes notebook (if you've made one) in the last 2-3 days. Try to revise 20th notebook/choti copy as well everyday so that all volatile stuff is not left pending for the last day.

Also , towards the end , focus more on subjects like micro , biochem , FMT because they will get you direct questions and have a higher yield , instead of spending too much time on medicine , surgery in these days.

7. Exam day :

Try to get a good night's sleep. Stop studying by 10 pm and go to bed . Even if you can't sleep just lie down , shut your eyes and please keep your mobile away.

The number of hours of sleep won't matter that much on the day of exam because your excitement and adrenaline rush will pull you through. During the exam your body doesn't really care whether it's too hot or the seats are uncomfortable. It's only after the exam ends that you start realising these things again😅😅

Keep a cool mind and attempt each question on its own merit, without thinking about the other questions/ blocks because every question carries the same weightage, no one is going to give you extra marks for getting a very tough question right. Keep noting the time , the timed blocks system has made this particular aspect even more important than the past year.

I personally think the timed blocks pattern is better , because you get lesser time to keep doubting your answer and keep changing it. And usually your first instinct gets the best answer.

I had kept a target of doing all 42 questions in 30-32 minutes so that I could get 10 minutes for reviewing per set. I personally feel keeping just 5 minutes for review is slightly less.

Try to keep not more than 8-9 questions for review ( and not more than 5 in AIIMS)

Wishing you all the very best!🎉🔥 Hope you find this helpful!

No matter what im doing im thinking of weed. Ive tried working out, running, gaming, fishing, i just cant get it out of my head. Im struggling bad to quit been trying to quit for year now longest break was like 1 day and i felt i nearly died.

I am 21 years old, and i just realized that despite 12 years of school, despite my parents' education, despite most days of my life having chores and some responsibility, im still so very lazy, to a point where i genuinely get mad if i have stuff to do, and i have been like this since i was a kid.

I don't want to go outside, i don't want to go to classes, i don't want to go to work, i don't want to clean my house, i don't want to do ANYTHING besides bum around my house.

I still do these things, obviously. But im always pissed when doing them, and only really feel fine when everything is done in a day and i can do whatever i want to do, usually composed of sitting on my ass infront of my pc.

Whenever in my life i've taken long periods of rest all that's happened is me wanting to prolong them, i never want to return to a routine, i never look forward to it, i adored the lockdown, it was one of the best periods of my life and as soon as it ended i wanted to go back.

This ends up in me taking shortcuts in life, and me always taking as many shortcuts as i could. I've gotten my comeuppance before but rarely and it doesn't change my attitude too terribly.

Why do i take shortcuts? To do as little as i can. And if i have to do a lot, i will probably be mad.

I see people in life seemingly so content and motivated and i never got that, not once in my life have i ever been motivated, and everytime i got more responsibilities, the less happy i was.

I don't know how some people manage to always be active and in the mood to do more, i even have friends who get uncomfortable and erratic if they have a clear schedule, yet im the opposite, the more i have shit to get done, the more pissed i usually am.

I at one point tried having an extremely disciplined schedule: Wake up early, work out every day, take a walk, make my bed when i woke up, etc. etc. The happiest time in most of my days was after i was done, and if i had even one skip day it took herculean amounts of willpower to go back to it instead of rotting in my room.

And most of the time im happy rotting in my room. But i want to stop doing that. I want to share a life with others, i want to go outside and get sunlight, i want to not think of most things that aren't playing 20 year old video games and talking to people on the other side of the atlantic online as headaches.

I really enjoy talking to my online friends, who are my best friends, but i don't think my personality makes it easy to have irl friendships as an adult, that require far more work than they did as teenagers.

And who wants to date someone who is stuck inside all day OR moody a majority of days that aren't weekends? It'd be hard on them.

Hey friends, I’m Ahmad. I just graduated from engineering school 2 months ago and I’m figuring life’s ways out.

Since high school, I've always considered myself an early riser, but waking up early makes me so drained throughout the day - I usually wake up around 6:30-7 am.

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It can feel like there’s no winning whether I have social media or go cold turkey. I felt really good when I recently didn’t have it for a couple months and was reading a lot instead. However, I just feel disconnected like I am now part of a Buddhist temple and it’s easier to see what’s going on in the community and get to know people through Facebook. About 5% of facebook is really things I want to see. I want to share big things as well. I was thinking maybe only check on my computer but it’s so hard to not redownload on my phone. I totally relapse from a couple weeks of under an hour screentime which felt amazing back to 4 hours a day. I go on Facebook for the 5% i wanna see and stay for the dopamine hits not to mention shorts taking over every single app. I’m wasting so much time and feel unfulfilled. BlockSite (unpaid version) is useless cause i just delete an app off the list and redownload in under 30 seconds when I wanna see something. Is there anything better even if I have to pay small fees (iPhone)? I have considered the dumb phone but I need google lens for work and just so much comes up in day to day life and people assume every one has a smart phone. Sorry for the rambling im having a moment of feeling fed up.

Hello everyone Im a 23M who has recently graduated from college and at the brink of losing my mind ,unemployed and kind of depressed. And life felt amazing at college and felt that i would be in a position where i can support my parents and now i feel very bad as they have shelled out a good chunk of their life savings on my education, I don’t know what to do i am just waiting for a miracle to happen. I have been trying and applying at all leads i get but still no luck, and i know i haven’t been trying hard enough, I just while away my time , its been 3 months. I just smoke and drink every day and cant seem to break this addiction and watch youtube videos and reels, I feel like a blob who is doing nothing and the mere existence is a waste, Ive tried talking with some friends but all are pieces of shit who wishes the worst for me or not interested in listening or just too busy with their lives, I really wish this would change and someone would suggest what to do where i can take it one step at a time.

Hi I cleared NEET PG ( a postgraduate entrance exams for a doctor) with a good rank And my best advice came not from a doctor , but my sister who's a lawyer

What I realised is that though the syllabus is different, The key to cracking competitive exams remains the same : Consistency, focusing on the important topics , frequent tests and spaced repetition.

This is something that I followed well which boosted my rank from 5000 to 500 in less than 3 months.

Revision is truly the most underrated aspect of any competitive exam. There's just too much content to complete that we sometimes end up feeling that we are losing time by revising. However revision doesn't waste your time , rather it saves it

Otherwise if you go through the same content after a few months it's like reading a new book altogether

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Whenever i try to find any hobby or anything that would improve myself i always lose interest and stop mid way before i actually make any progress. This is bad because it makes it harder for me to try something new again.

Hello everyone, I’m reaching out because I’m facing a challenge that’s impacting various aspects of my life. I find that while I can set ambitious plans and goals with great motivation, I struggle significantly with executing them. I often waste time and struggle with basic tasks like keeping my living space organized, working out each day (I have been wanting to get to a 23.5 BMI from current 27BMI since forever), managing my cupboard, keeping my house clean and presentable, starting to study for goals, working towards my personal goals for skill improvement. Being unable to make any progress in any of the fields I want to improve on, coupled with my self aware and constructively critical and honest attitude in life.. with each passing day, I feel is affecting my self-confidence and overall sense of self-worth.

Previously, I felt successful and confident in my abilities, but now I’m increasingly aware of my difficulties with daily management and it’s starting to affect how I see myself and interact socially. I’m unsure what’s causing this shift and how to address it effectively. This sounds like a problem in my system of how I lead my life. And I’ve read self help books, gotten all motivated but again all that I’ve learnt is turning out to be all talk, no action. Has anyone experienced something similar or have any advice on strategies to improve follow-through and regain a sense of balance and confidence?

I see so many people online and I realize maybe I cant make myself the Adonis I need to be but what about others? Online discourse Im sure is very similar to the vitriol in real life. So how can I fix these people and maybe be a hero for once? Is this evennpossible or do I just embrace nihilistic apocalyptic war based death inevitability?

People gleefully blaming bombed children for actions of others as deserving their death or dismemberments!

Its too much AND I CANT GET RID OF THESE EVILS!? How can we stop it!?

Victory never feels complete or satisfying until you get the villain to realize the errors of their ways. How can I ensure this and be the hero?

Is there any hope to destroy hatred and finally restore peace!?

I (20F) have ADHD + autism and am not in school because I can't afford it yet. I can't drive either because I live near public transport and haven't had the motivation to since I am very depressed and can't even afford a car. I can't pass the permit test even if my life depended on it. It doesn't help that I don't have a lot of time to myself since I help take care of my brother and have a long job commute.

There are barely any jobs near me and they barely pay anything, so if I didn't get paid full-time hours, I wouldn't be able to live with my dad because he charges so much for rent. $500 a month, he also doesn't cook either.. my question is how do I slowly work towards the life I want despite the circumstances? I used to study languages for fun but have no mental energy to learn new stuff. I have even forgotten a lot of stuff that I learned.

So I am a 21M I am doing an electrical apprenticeship which I am happy about, one day I want to run my own business. But this is something at around the age of 25, now I am happy with going to work to make money and learn.

I am confused in life as I am happy with going to work all day, going gym at least 1 hour a day, making my meals, then playing some video games before bed. It's a simple life but I have things from my past which make me want more and it confuses me.

Since I was a kid I dreamed of becoming a professional footballer, but obviously this is not going to happen realistically, so how do I accept this and move on. It is holding me back to progress in my career game development which I want to do on the side.

It makes me feel lost and then it feels like doing electrical is not enough.

I do have high standards but it drains me too much.

But here is the plan once I have let go of not becoming a footballer, also I do play football for fun as I love it. So I want to work hard on my job as I said I want to run my own business in future, I want to workout daily to keep fit, I want to cook my own meals to be healthy, I want to do game development as I enjoy it, I want to play video games in the evening if I have time just to chill.

Is this fine?

1. Reserve at least half an hour for alone time. That would clear your mind and make you move on more quickly.
2. Have digital decluttering every night after 10 pm.
3. Reward yourself for every tiny achievement you made every day.
4. Embrace your weakness unless you want to live with them.
5. The harder you train, the easier you live.
6. Exercise regularly to build discipline, resilience and self control.
7. Take time to give thanks everyday. Practice gratitude.
8. Take responsibility for your actions. Do your best to fulfill your duties.
9. Don't feel sorry for yourself.
10. Don't waste your entire life waiting for "the right time". Get started.
11. Be patient with yourself, and don't be discouraged if you occasionally slip back into feelings of self-pity.
12. Anyone can complain, few can have laser focus on their mission. Be a man of focus.
13. Let go of things you can't control.
14. Challenge yourself to learn something new every day.

To do hard things, fall in love with the hard part.

If you struggle with procrastination, you need to understand what's causing it and how to overcome it. Procrastination isn't a lack of discipline. You are 100% disciplined to your current behavior. Procrastination is a freeze response, caused by a fear signal.

Fear signal is released when the stress response system in your brain is activated. The stress response system is activated when one or both things happen:

1. When the subconscious mind recognizes a potential pain or danger that can happen as a result of performing the task.

2. When the subconscious mind sees the task as a waste of energy (outside of the comfort zone, not a habitual pattern).

Procrastination is a protection mechanism, and also an energy conservation mechanism. You shouldn't try to change the effect (procrastination), you should change what's causing it. The root of the problem. There are multiple causes to it, and therefore multiple solutions.

Motivation isn't the cause of the problem, it is an effect. This is how the brain tricks you into not wanting to perform the task. When the stress response system is activated, the motivation circuits in your brain significantly decrease.

This is one of the brain's way to stop you from performing the task. You cannot always have motivation, it's not something you can control directly like a button. You can affect it indirectly and learn how to be motivated more frequently and even act without it.

So:

• You are not lazy.
• Watching motivational videos will not fix the problem.
• Trying to change your behavior with will power isn't effective, since your subconscious controls about 95% of your behavior.
• Rewiring your subconscious mind is the answer.

It was this CO I was in love with we are childhood friends. He’s been in my life for 11 years. We tried to date as teens but we both weren’t mature enough . 3 years ago as adults we had our first kiss it’s like a kiss I never had before. We begun to mess around first I wasn’t looking for nothing like him but than overtime I begun to fall in love with him even more deeply he would do things for me he said he’s never done and I knew he did . I know he loved me cuz he told me and informed me I’m what he needed but what I didn’t understand is him constantly being around and posting other woman . I know we were together but still and it’s other things I could say he did. But mainly it’s like I know he wanted me but for some reason didn’t wanna accept or was literally playing with me. And had a lack of emotional intelligence. He threw me off telling me he needed to be shared with other woman. He treated me way different than he did any other lady. We had a genuine deep bonded friendship and I still love him. Despite everything we had something special and I know he loved me and we he was my best friend and Superman. Always there when i needed him and I was always there for him. But I did slowly move on and I met this guy who can express his heart to me and shows me he just wants me not me and other woman. So I’m exploring to see where this relationship goes. I really like this guy and he’s sweet and I’m watching for any red flags. This guy worked on some things I didn’t appreciate but he’s not the best at communicating. This new guy is me stepping out of my comfort zone, because I never been with a guy with a kid. But sometimes in the back of my head I just think did I choose right?

So I am a 16 year old boy and I did bad in my Summatives which is like an exam for a specific unit and before this week I had really struggled to get some discipline, nothing worked, not watching some 'motivational' videos, not the shouting nothing.

Really there is always this panic before exams, that I did not study before exams and the night before I sit down and write notes and try to study which really gets me nowhere, but it has never really affected me. I have really supportive parents who help me a lot with my motivation but they don't really understand the situation. The urge to do anything except studying. The feeling that I want to study but I am not able to, and the guilt I have after that. Then there was this one video I saw on Youtube, one guy who says that these motivational videos tell that there is a need of discipline but don't really explain how and why. After viewing this video I drew goals and tried to understand why I was doing this. Figured out a lot of stuff, it started with I need to do good in tenth and ended with I want to have a set life where my parents are proud of me (which they are not of now (dissapointed with my previous grades)). I then had this one day urge of studying, had a math exam so wrote some important formulas and then practiced a bit, one whole day before exam which never generally happens.

But now along with this came another problem, my parents say that there is some behavioural issues with me I don't listen to them when they say stuff. For example, to meditate a bit to help and I don't do it and instead I argue with them. This is something I have come to regret now. With all that they have put aside for me and me not doing anything with this privilege feels like shit to me. I have no idea what to do about that.

Now coming to the main problem, after I prepare for my exams today I go and give it, but what is the use when you study for a day before exams, I left 4 questions. Now I feel guilty and I have absolutely no motivation left in me. No purpose and feel that I will not be able to do anything. I am trying to convince myself but the same thoughts come in my mind, What if I fall into the same instant gratification trap again, how am I supposed to say to my parents the shit marks I got even after they hope that I do something good after I fucked up my ninth. I don't know how I will be able to do it. It is said that it normally takes 21 days to have a habit, I want to have it for studying but I just can't fucking focus and when I try things like today happen. I don't really know what to do now. Now I don't know how to get disciplined neither do I know if I'll make it next time nor do I have the guts to say the shit marks I would get to my parents.

For me, it's the fact that progress is not always straightfoward and there will be days that you feel like relapsing to old habits.

We all know we need to do hard things to get better, yet the very nature of these responsibilities makes executing them difficult and staying consistent seemingly impossible.

Whether it’s personal, professional, or even our hobbies the challenge of consistently doing hard things always weighs on us.

If we don’t have a strategy to get these things done then we won’t be able to progress our lives forward.

It’s a frustrating paradox—wanting to improve but being held back by the very efforts required to achieve that improvement.

Gritting Our Teeth

Our first instinct for tackling these difficult tasks is usually gritting our teeth and soldiering through the discomfort.

We accept that suffering is the only way to make progress.

While this mindset yields short-term results and makes us more resilient, it fails in the long run. Consistency becomes the issue.

The mental toll of constantly forcing ourselves to suffer makes it harder and harder to show up and do the work.

Inevitably our motivation will falter and we abandon our efforts toward becoming better. We’re left stagnant and lose confidence we can make meaningful progress.

Relying solely on gritting our teeth to consistently do hard things will only last as long as our finite and fleeting sense of motivation.

Playing to Win

Despite their difficulty, there are some things we consistently suffer through regardless of our motivation levels.

These are pursuits we want to win. Pursuits where we are competing against ourselves or others that have a clear target or goal.

When we want to win we have a reason to push ourselves and a reason to suffer.

It’s no longer suffering for suffering’s sake, but rather just a step in the process of improving.

When we desperately want to win we see difficulties as opportunities to triumph. We are naturally more consistent when we are driven by a desire to win rather than a sense of obligation.

To stay consistent with hard things that propel us forward, we should carefully choose how we approach the worthwhile pursuits in our lives.

If we choose pursuits we want to win then doing the difficult work to progress forward takes care of itself.

We’re much more likely to show up to the gym if we’re competing with others or chasing a new personal best than if we’re mindlessly exercising with no true objective.

To become a bit better each day we need to consistently do hard things and motivation is an unreliable long-term strategy to get these things done.

We’re better off choosing pursuits that we want to win and structuring our efforts to take advantage of our natural competitiveness and drive to make progress.

Instead of dreading the hard things, we begin to look forward to them, knowing that each hard thing we do is helping us become a bit better.

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The biggest reason for me to change anything is out of spite and anger.

I feel like I never got the respect I deserved, I know that people rejected me because they perceived me a certain way. I want to be in control of what they see. I want to shape their reality.

If they now think I won't get back on track, I hope they see me having massive success.

If they now consider me unattractive or bland, I hope they spend sleepness nights desiring to be with me.

If they now see me as someone exchangable, meaningless, I hope they will see my face everywhere they go.

I know these thoughts are driven by mad ego, but so be it. All my life I tried to be selfless, free of ego and arrogance. Only to feel it rumbling inside me, louder and more painful everyday.

I want to prove all those mfs wrong, everyone who ever doubted me. Especially myself.

And when they come and praise me and finally give me respect, I can tell them "Who are you? If you didn't believe in me back then, if you didn't see my strength, my beauty, my wisdom - who do you think you're to me now?"

I want to see them get pale when they see me, insecure about themselves how I felt insecure about myself because of them. The things they said or not, the things they did or not.

I'm sick and tired of being perceived a certain way and not being able to control it. I'm sick and tired of getting rejected by people who know nothing about me, about what I've been through.

I will remind them each and everyday of what I accomplished, each time a reminder of the loser they rejected and the winner they miss out on because of it.

Hi everyone! I'm an entrepreneur for a few months.

Living in a world where billions of dollars are spent on stealing your attention, I am well aware of my reduced focus muscle and ability to get distracted easily during work. That's why I picked this problem to solve and tried it as a startup idea. After working with current beta users, I've put together this version (https://productiv.digital/) and want to ask for valuable feedback by posting for more beta users.

So shortly, to train your focus muscle, my approach is to (1) eliminate the source of distraction and (2) let your brain know what's coming next (or else it will actively crave distraction). So far this app will:

• App blocker: block unwanted apps/sites, create personalized messages for yourself at the block wall, increasingly delaying time to unblock
• Plan your daily day effectively fast: this may sound cliche, but I still believe we need to plan our day to be focused (correct me if I'm wrong; I'm open to constructive discussion). Just write down what's in your mind (Like Todoist or TickTick), and schedule your day via one-click by smart scheduling button
• Check-in reminder to check messages and emails: So, focus mode is great, but the problem is that it amplifies FOMO in our minds. The app will remind you regularly to check during your focus flow
• (in progress) capture your day accurately, weekly analytics to learn how you spent your day

I'm looking for a new batch of beta users where you can give us feedback while using for free and receive a lifetime deal in return. This would help us a lot in building something that you want! If this is within your interest, just comment below, and I’ll DM you (don't submit the form on the website, as it only allows 50 submissions/month at max). Thanks, guys!

What something specific or a specific method you use to be successful and achieve your goals? It would be interesting to listen to different opinions. Can you describe the method or the way and do you feel good? Thanks

Im only 20 years old im turning 21 in November. I currently have a 3 year old and live with my mom. Things didn’t work out with my daughter’s dad so there’s the co parenting now. Life has obviously changed. I went through a lot of phases these last three years, it’s been a blur sometimes. Im currently on my 5th try of passing my real estate exam because my mom thinks I would do good and I do like it. I am also a starting artist. I really love music. It’s what I want to do ultimately. As far as my exam coming up. I just feel so limited and I don’t know why. Everything has been feeling so sad. I just can’t seem to get myself out this whole I have dug. I should be grateful because I’m with my mom I could be on the street. So I just don’t know what’s holding me back to just dive in a new career and new life. I hate to feel like something is missing, it makes me feel ungrateful because I know there are worse situations. I just…. Don’t know… I’m just tired of feeling stagnant in times. Some advice would help…. Maybe a REALITY CHECK… I just keep repeating old lazy habits.

I've never worked, never been disciplined. Never even went to bed early or did long term planification. I consider myself to be an extreme case of the modern man : everyday I wake up near 5pm, go to the gym, eat in front of a TV show, and browse internet for hours until I'm tired enough to sleep.

Occasionally I read or do stuff with my gf but frankly, I've accomplished fuck all in life despite having numerous goals : getting a PhD after my Master's, getting good at MMA and competing, getting stronger with killer cardio, stopping masturbation and pornography for good, and being wealthy enough to go somewhere nicer and start a family, to name a few.

But, this requires me to completely change the way I live, what I do. Meanwhile I am addicted to quick and lazy entertainment, I have intense trouble focusing to study, I even have troubles going out in the evening after I was almost attacked numerous times by various crackheads where I live (moving out isn't an option yet). And if I want this change, and I want it FAST (I want to actively start working everyday on all the goals I mentioned starting this week) because even though I'm only 23, I feel like time is running out. I refuse to waste another year at home doing nothing.

But... yeah. As I said I have many troubles. Sleeping on time, sleeping at all, being disciplined for the first time in my life, stopping wasting my time even when I'm having hard brain fog and struggling to focus... and implementing all these changes at once. Yet I feel like it's possible. I'm sure some men have done much more.

So now I need all the help I can get, please. I've already deleted all social media but now I just browse online forums and listen to music for hours. I plan on banning those places and replacing them with my old PS2 and some childhood games in case I want quality entertainment that I won't spend hours at (my main problem is internet and the endless content, not non-competitive video games).

Now I need advice, personal stories and anecdotes, tips, methods etc. Just know I will not start slow or "build good habits overtime" I need to start now because I'm already late with my studies and more. Has anyone done something similar and succeeded?

So I have the biggest problem about just getting sucked into any sort of media. I’ll have like a pretty productive first half of my day and then I’ll sit down to relax and watch some tv and then that’s it for the rest of my day I’m not productive at all. At first I thought it was my phone I would doomscroll alot when I went to relax and I’ve kinda fixed it but now it’s just replaced with tv. And it’s probably not as bad but literally today I worked out after school and planned to do some reading and studying and stuff but I was gonna do that at like 5pm and I wanted to chill after school and working out so I sat down to watch some tv and literally watched tv form 3-6 and my whole rest of my day was ruined. It’s like hypnotizing it’s weird. But i don’t know what else to do during my breaks when I’m just trying to chill and relax for an hour or 2. Yall have any tips?

had been trying to get back to the gym for the last two years, but I kept stopping after 2-3 days. Now, I've been consistent for a month, and the key is to keep pushing through the first two weeks. Once you do that, you'll build consistency.