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How to escape college Backlogs while Working Full-Time?

So, Today Was my 3rd attempt of going to the same exam and then not being able to clear it, Hey I'm 24 M, who is trying to finish of all my backlogs from My engineering Degree, I have 6 Backlogs till now but want to finish the same by End of August 2025, I'm having one exam on 5th of December, and the next one on 1st of January 2025, the dates are far apart as of now, But the main problem is I work a 9-5 Job and living on my own right now, so wanted to save some money to go and write the exam, since the center is 8hours drive, what I mostly do is go on the previous day and stayback on a hostel, and then write the exam and return back to home. I tried a lot and even went for tuition, but with the work going i feel very tired by the end of the day and learning something new feels like really hard for me now.

So my question is How can i clear my backlogs and be diciplined so that i finish my goals as planned.

Thanks

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2024/12/01
16:18 UTC

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No water will boil in a stove with a flickering flame.

[M/26] have been struggling with consistency and discipline for the past 5-6 years, and it's been a difficult cycle to break. It usually goes something like this:

mindless scrolling > g*mble > lose money > watch p*rn > trying to stop > but then repeating the cycle.

At least I'm consistent with repeating these bad habits… which is not the consistency I want. This pretty much sums up my last 5 years and I want it to change, do I want it bad enough? My mind says yes, but my actions don’t always reflect that.

For those who have been in a similar situation and succeeded—how did you do it? I know what I’m doing wrong, but I just can’t seem to break free. I keep telling myself I need to change, but I keep falling back into this endless cycle.

Please, I really need help and advice.

2 Comments
2024/12/01
15:51 UTC

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How to debloat/cleanse body?

Lately i’ve been feeling so inflamed and puffy in the face. I feel sluggish even though i jog for an hour.

My diet isn’t the best but i’m not drinking soda or chips. I guess maybe the lack of vegetables in my diet and excess carbs/sugar are making me feel this way.

Can you give me tips on how to debloat and fix this inflammation?

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2024/12/01
15:36 UTC

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Quit Things As Fast As I Start Them

Hi, whenever I start something new that is interesting to me I have a lot of motivation at the beginning to do it, I'll do the hobby for weeks consistently and then out of no where it's like something in me stops caring and wants something new so I quit the thing I start to get good at and lose all my progress which is super frustrating and I can't tell you how many times I've done this to myself. Furthermore, this bad habit annoys me because I think to myself if only I just kept doing X then I would be able to do Y, Z and now whenever I want to start something new again I'm so aware of this pattern that I just tell myself what is the point, I'm just gonna stop doing it within a couple weeks or who knows less then that. So, if any of you guys have experience with this and overcome this bad habit, let me know what helped you. Thank you.

2 Comments
2024/12/01
15:20 UTC

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How to Handle Haters N Secret Critics 🔥

Have you ever felt like someone is always watching your every move—not to learn from you but to judge or mimic you? Maybe they try to tear you down or imitate your every step, all while pretending not to notice your success.

Here’s the truth: The ones who secretly watch and criticize are often the same people who lack the courage to walk their own path. Instead of wasting energy on their negativity, channel it into improving yourself. You’re not here to compete with them—you’re here to outgrow the old version of YOU.

💡 Actionable Advice:

  1. Don’t feed the negativity. Their opinions don’t define your worth.

  2. Focus on your journey. Remember why you started.

  3. Keep evolving. Growth confuses those who imitate but don’t innovate.

It’s not your job to fix their insecurities. Keep building, keep moving, and let your success speak louder than their attempts to hold you back. Your progress is proof that you’re doing something worth noticing!

@Ellev8Z

#motivation #motivationalcontent

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2024/12/01
13:43 UTC

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I clearly have some deeply rooted issues that I can only allow myself to address when I have been drinking

Title says it all. I’m exhausted with this self realization but it’s clear I need help and I don’t know what to do. I’ve been staying away from alcohol because I am unable to just have one or two drinks. When I am sober I have been productive and getting a lot done and am at my best but there are feelings that I know are deep inside me but I will never let them surface because it feels ridiculous and shameful and quite frankly I feel good and I’m doing so much benefit for myself why would I want to make myself feel sad by focusing on these feelings. Not only that but I’m quite literally unable to speak about them. But when I have some drinks and I’m alone these feelings which clearly need to be addressed surface and I want so desperately to deal with them and I reach out and I am able to be vulnerable and I know that “okay I need to see a therapist or something “ but the next day it’s back to the grind of being a better version of myself. Idk what to do. I’m scared these emotions will impact me negatively someday but I just can’t seem to acknowledge them without drinking and self reflecting on my own. Hopefully this makes sense. It’s the most brief way I can describe it

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2024/12/01
13:27 UTC

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Learn to Communicate properly

Whether it be, personal life or professional life,

Learning to Communicate,

without the use of any Profanity in between,

is one of the most valuable skill which you can possess..

And at the same time, it's also the hardest skill to master.

Becoz, for many, the usage of "Profanity" has become a sort of habit.

They don't know how to finish off a sentence without using it.

Even for very casual and general conversations,

People will be like:

Dude, what the F*** is that

OR

Dude, that is F**** awesome... and so on..

And the list is endless..

And finishing a sentence without using Profanity seems really really hard, for many.

So try turning things around for your own good.

Don't be that average person

Stay Above Average. Stay Exceptional.

Let that be in your writing, let that be in your speech, let that be in your presentation, or let that be in your body language

Learn to create that impact.

Touch people's heart.

And do that without the useage of any Profanity.

Becoz a Well built communication results in:

Better understanding. Better relationships. Improved vocabulary. And will help you both in your personal life and professional life

So dont ever underestimate your Communication skills.

It's one of the most valuable skill, which you can possess

And many people are just average in that

2 Comments
2024/12/01
13:05 UTC

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I'm not good for myself

Lately, I've been realizing how much I work against myself. I have habits that I know are unhealthy, decisions that I know lead to regret, and a way of thinking that traps me in this cycle.

I often avoid what I know I need to do—whether it's studying, taking care of my health, or even engaging with people who care about me. Instead, I lose myself in distractions: novels, games, movies, and browsing on my phone. I have masturbated myself to oblivion and turned my lungs to charcoal by smoking. It’s not even about enjoying these things; I just use them to fill the time and push away the nagging thoughts about everything I’m not doing.

Sometimes, it feels like I’m watching my life happen from the sidelines, detached from any real emotion or engagement. I procrastinate on responsibilities and isolate myself, not because I want to, but because it feels easier than facing the discomfort of trying and failing.

I want to change. I want to be better for myself, but the weight of all the missed opportunities and wasted time makes it hard to even start. Does anyone else feel this way? How do you break free from this?

I’m just so tired of being my own worst enemy.

2 Comments
2024/12/01
13:02 UTC

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Read my book: Stillness im Chaos - a book about ADHD and Stoicism

Link to the book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CW19YLDG

After being diagnosed with ADHD, I spent a lot of time just trying to understand it, and even longer learning how to live with it. A few years later, I stumbled across Stoicism—a philosophy that, at first glance, seemed like the complete opposite of my chaotic ADHD life. But the more I read about it and tried to apply its principles, the more I realized it offered something valuable. Until now the only book that covers both ADHD and stoicism is called Stillness in Chaos. It’s available on Amazon and if you have a kindle account it’s probably free. So if you have ADHD and you are interested in Stoicism, it might be worth checking out!

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2024/12/01
12:14 UTC

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I feel like all I do is fail, and I barely even started.

Hi, 18 year old Filipino here - using a throwaway account as I don't want anyone I know to see this but I'm really stumped.

I have a pretty big goal; I want to study in Australia for college. I have been wanting to since last year, and only now did my parents allow me to work.

Unfortunately, that requires a lot of money and my parents don't have that kind of money - even more so that the sole breadwinner of the family is retiring next year or in two years. So.. my steps were to save up for two-three years (three if I take a gap year after Senior High; I'm currently grade 11) through getting a part time job, and do art commissions on the side..

But right now, I am stuck at step 1; get a part time job.

I feel like I just keep failing again and again. Looking through, then getting a "No, we're not hiring" or "No, only full-time" or "No, only highschool graduates" - I haven't even gone through the whole job interview part.

I've been searching for jobs near me, that are onsite, because I wanted to also have it give me a bit of leeway in terms of going out as my parents wouldn't let me go out ever, not without one person and a driver.. But if I were to get a job, maybe I'd have some kind of breathing room. I wouldn't reallly care if I'm stuck in another place, as long as I get to walk.

It just feels like I'm going nowhere. I'm not doing too well with getting recognition in my art as well, Twitter just feels awful for that so, I might go for another site.. But.. Time just feels like it's really catching up. It's almost the next year soon, and I've gone nowhere.

It's just things out of my control again and again and again, to a point where I'm questioning if I can even do it.

I feel like it is possible. I'm just getting so demotivated but I really don't wanna give up.

All this is also to prove that I am capable of things. I'm very short and have a baby face, so people often baby me - which leads to me feeling belittled and as though I can't do anything by myself.

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2024/12/01
11:05 UTC

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I'M SCARED TO START!!

I'm 20 M and I'm confused and unproductive. I have big dreams but not the courage to chase them. About me :- Whenever I feel lost or unproductive I always sit and open my diary and write about my thoughts and prepare my time table for upcoming days so that I can be productive and stop wasting my time but the problem is I never stick to it... For eg.. I have to prepare for a exam which is in few weeks and I know I need to prepare for it but I always delay my preparation to next day and if I feel guilty about it I just open my dairy and create a new schedule for my exam to make me think that I'll start from tomorrow but next day I will not do anything and will think I'll start tomorrow.. And this is what is eating my mind PROCRASTINATION!!!

I always think of including good habits in my life like morning runs, reading books, yoga, meditation etc. But I never achieve them. I start and then in few days I quit...

I somehow think that I'm Scared to start, may be because I think whatever I do I'll never achieve my desired results so I never start and try to run away from things which I need to work on.. ✌️

I don't know have any of you felt that and can anyone tell me what should I do??

10 Comments
2024/12/01
10:38 UTC

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how to stop being depressed

I can’t do it anymore, I don’t have the time to be miserable. I’ve fallen into a deep depression over the past few months, i’m halfway through senior year and my grades are shit, my absences are high, i’ve been ignoring friends, i’ve gained weight, it’s awful. I want to get better but i don’t know how, i’m to sad to get out of bed, i’m so tired i just want to cry and shrivel up and disappear, i don’t know how to get my life back together.

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2024/12/01
09:23 UTC

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I'm procrastinating everything

M 32. I am constantly procrastinating on everything: my health, cleaning the house, my clients' projects at my side hustle, etc. The arm of my glasses recently broke and I haven't even booked an eye exam yet. The dirty dishes are piling up. I've been living alone for 3 months and I haven't swept or mopped a single room. I bought a course on how to reduce procrastination that cites books by Windy Dryden and James Clear. It didn't work, even though I wrote everything down and did all the exercises. Or rather, it worked for a few weeks and then I went back to being worse than before. I'm starting to think that my problem is more serious than I thought and that I should see a psychologist. The only thing I can do is cry myself to sleep without having done anything all day.

But when I'm at work in the office, I'm a productivity machine. My desktop is minimal: a fake plant, a post-it block, a pen and my computer. I write everything I have to do on post-it and then waste it after I did it. I read every email and archive them after the job is done. When someone calls me, I try to go as soon as possible in his office to fix his/her computer.

What can I do?

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2024/12/01
07:55 UTC

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How to be disciplined with weight loss and life in general?

I am 26m , trying to lose fat. I went to below 200 pounds but again went back to 208 pounds. I am 5'6". I have mostly sedentary lifestyle and want to get in a better place. I am thinking of 10 things that needs to be Implemented daily like meditation, gym , reading book, work related learning 2 hrs a day, light running in nature, drink 4+ l of water , streching, having 3 hours focus work, 8h rest, n0f@p. I am trying to figure out how to make sure I stay on track as well as improve overall standard.

As for diet sometimes feel frustrated since I know and use weight scale but sometimes just don't want to use it. Also I have no control on cooking as it's mainly done by outside help/ordering.

4 Comments
2024/12/01
07:11 UTC

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Things to do alone at night?

Im looking for suggestions on things I could do at night by myself preferably outside the house. My husband spends most evenings playing video games or watching shows online with friends and I usually spend this time scrolling on my phone or I’ll play video games by myself.

I was thinking I’d like to use the free time doing something more fulfilling. I have friends but they all live an hour away (I moved and haven’t made friends here yet.) What are somethings you like to do to get out the house in the evenings? I usually work out at home but I was thinking of joining a gym as one option but any other suggestions would be awesome.

4 Comments
2024/12/01
06:23 UTC

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I will do my best for my own sake

A few days ago I was at work and since the morning my boss was plastered at his desk looking over at us, and since the morning I was working at my best. But then the boss gets up from his desk and goes to a meeting, I breathe a sigh of relief and tell myself I can finally relax, I dont have to work my hardest anymore.

This thought was so ingrained in me I was doing it since childhood, I work my hardest for other peoples sake unless it is something I deeply care about.

This is a reminder for myself and everyone to become a person that respects himself enough to do his best for his own sake.

Thank you for reading and I would appreciate any advice or reading recommendation about this.

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2024/12/01
06:23 UTC

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Procrastinating Despite Knowing I Procrastinated

Im sure the title makes zero sense—and I have no idea how to put this in words. I’m a junior in high school who takes a creative writing course. My teacher assigned us with a class book project that I have yet to turn in.

It was due the week before last week’s WEDNESDAY. He told my class he’ll get the papers for the book this week (since it my school had a week out of school.)

But what did I do? I failed to turn it in, and now I’m even more scared to turn it in because I know I procrastinated. I’ll be returning to school Monday, but I’m anxious to even attend. Should I send an email explaining my procrastination? I’m not expecting him to say yes to not taking off points, either.

Ive been dealing with procrastinating for YEARS now, and I’m struggling to get rid of it. It’s only worsening with my mental health.

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2024/12/01
06:05 UTC

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What apps or tools do you personally use to keep on track?

That's my question. There are so many things going on right now I dunno what to choose. Like is there any good app to keep me off from social media and video games? (my work requires phone so I can't live it)

15 Comments
2024/12/01
05:57 UTC

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Sunday, December 1: A one-month jump start on “new year, new me.”

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2024/12/01
05:54 UTC

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My sleeping schedule is pretty messed up! Need guidance.

My day usually goes like this,
Morning 9 to 4pm college
4-8pm Sleep
8-9 Dinner
9-11pm Gym
11-4 Studies, and
4-8am Sleep
again wake up at 8am

As you can see, my sleep quantity is good but Quality is pretty bad, negatively affecting the day.

I cant go to sleep early as I had dosed off the previous afternoon and cant avoid sleep in afternoon as I have slept less at night. I dont know how to kill this cycle. Pls guide
Thank you in advance

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2024/12/01
05:50 UTC

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How do I get over constant state of worrying?

Hi All, I am 24 years old and I work in IT. How do I get over constant worrying. I feel anxious all the time. What if this happens. It is also hampering my focus in job. I honestly don't know what I am worried about , but it is having great impact in my life. I am also having low self esteem issues. I feel like I am living in some kind of burden. How do I live carefree and stop worrying? Please help me out.

21 Comments
2024/12/01
05:36 UTC

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Sometimes self-hate and guilt can do more harm than good. Even if you fail a little bit dont blame yourself

I(20M) in grad school just had a really bad day for no reason. I had forgot to take my ocd meds yesterday so there was an anxiety attack and it might have happened otherwise too because I was stressing about some upcoming deadlines, I had a little breakdown, luckily my parents are very supported so I talked to them over phone and they helped me calm down.

It made me realize something. We are always so eager to improve ourselves we sometimes see small setbacks bigger than they are. Like people who dont struggle with normal things, have nothing drawing them back, also get setbacks. Sonetimes it is just a part of life.

We should learn to be a little easy on ourselves sometimes and nit beat ourself up about every missed oppirtunity. There will be people better than us, but its fine , we should remember that we are doing this for ourselves abd overworking or guilt tripping ourselves will do more harm than hood.

Sometimes we need to take some things slow. Amd I think you should too. Be kimd to yourself.

I hope you are the very bestfor everything in your future.

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2024/12/01
04:06 UTC

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Do you avoid becoming disciplined because you want to avoid the realization of how messed up life is ?

The reason I seem to avoid doing the work is not only because I'm confused lazy and procrastinate but also there is fear anxiety involved and worse part of all is im avoiding the realization of my feelings. You know how you feel sometimes like you're life is messed up but you just keep suppressing that feeling because you want to avoid how it makes you feel. And you just keep doing this more and more, but deep down it just eats you up. You feel emotionally tensed mentally overwhelmed.

Like I wanted to go back to college because I just have not been taking classes 2 yrs now. So whenever I think about fixing this situation,I seem to suppress that feeling of doing it. I know I'm gonna feel bad and get all sorts of mixed emotions. And my thoughts will bring me down.

3 Comments
2024/12/01
02:02 UTC

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what do i do? help me

so basically im a 14 year old im in russia but dont know the language we moved here last year cuz my mom wanted to so we could live wifh our grandma i basically grew up with social media i have alot of online friends and i play with em everyday i have a long distance gf that really loves me and has no red flags for example doesnt text any other guys has only female friends, has a great future, cares about me and always cheers me up, doesnt do parties or any of the stuff and is honest about everything even when i doubt her she shows me proof ASAP without hesitation but shes REALLY busy and barely has time for herself she said she wouldnt be able to play games w me on her freetime because she doesnt want to play games in her freetime since shes so busy but rather would talk to me all my other online friends are also busy and it doesnt feel the same anymore we all used to play games all day but now we barely do im alone by myuself most of the time This got me thinking "what the fuck ami doing with my life?" im not trying to learn russian and im playing GAMES all day and texting my gf while i should be working on myself idk what im doing and i need advice as to what I should do because i want to improve and not be so lazy and always play games i want to do something w my life and i need advice.

side note i dont go to school because they wouldn't take me since i dont know russian however starting December i will be going to gym and possibly kickboxing please help me out thanks.

3 Comments
2024/11/30
23:22 UTC

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What is your area of expertise and how long did it take you to acquire it?

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2024/11/30
23:09 UTC

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Productivity/goal setting videos or podcast recs?

Hi guys, I am currently watching angie bellemare's daily know your worth videos, but they end in a couple days! They have been a big part of keeping my morning routine consistent & having the motivation to get out of bed. Does anyone have suggestions on a YT series or podcast that is similar??

I really like taking the time every morning to reflect on goals & progress & take notes while being guided by angies information (that way it doesn't take too much brain power when I'm still groggy).

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2024/11/30
22:46 UTC

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Overthinking, Overwhelmed, and Out of Focus.

I’ve always dreamed of becoming an astrophysicist because I love space and rockets. But now, it feels impossible. My cousin, who also loves physics, often says I need to score above 90% in physics if I want to pursue astrophysics. She keeps reminding me that I’m good at math and even tells me to become a math lecturer instead, as if she doesn’t want me to follow this dream.

Her words make me nervous and insecure about my marks. I start overthinking, and instead of studying or working toward my goal, I waste around 10 hours a day on my phone. My parents don’t even ask me about my studies anymore, and that makes me feel like they’ve given up on me, even though I know they’re trying not to pressure me.

I want to change, but I don’t know where to start. How do I manage my time better, focus on my goals, and stop feeling so insecure? Any advice would mean a lot.

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2024/11/30
22:38 UTC

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Re-framing Criticism: Your stepping-Stone To Success

Whatever you’re trying to achieve - save the world, write a novel, or championing a particular cause – there are likely to be those who will be critical. Some people just have a critical disposition while others will take issue with the specifics of your endeavour. Criticism is unavoidable. However, how we choose to respond to criticism is entirely within our control.

These are effective strategies for managing the critics in your life:

Clarify your purpose. At the core of our being lies the quest for meaning. Making meaning for ourselves – and value for others – is fundamental to a life well lived. When our pursuits align with our deepest values and aspirations, we care far less about the criticisms of others. If they can easily throw you off your path, you might want to reflect on how important it really is to you. Reflect on the significance of your endeavors and on how they resonate with your core values. Are your actions and ambitions consistent with your values?

Understand the critic’s motivation. Dig deep into why critics criticise. Are they projecting themselves in to the situation – their aspirations, their skill set, their propensity for risk, their values? Are they genuinely trying to protect you from any potential down-sides? Are they trying to maintain the status quo – for you, them, or both? Are they masking their own lack of action?

Recognise that criticism is not balanced appraisal. We have evolved to notice negative issues more readily than positive ones. We are more likely to notice criticism than encouragement: people working against us over people supporting us. Understand that most people are indifferent to your journey, and criticism often stems from their own biases and limitations. So, get on with your life and enjoy it!

Accept that criticism is inevitable. Whether you become a billionaire, movie star, teacher, doctor, or sit on the couch all day, there is someone that will tell you that you’re doing the wrong thing. So, live your life building towards what you do want rather than away from what the critics don’t want.

Respond calmly. Rather than giving your critics the pleasure of an emotional response, respond with composure and kindness. Acknowledge any valid points raised and the leaps of faith you are making.

Use your critics as motivation. While some people are intimidated and deflated by the critics of the world, others are able to use the negative comments as a source of motivation. Re-frame negative feedback into fuel for progress. Remind yourself that while the critics are standing on the sidelines, you are on the pitch and playing the game.

Decide if they have something useful to say. Some criticism may carry valid points – explore these with your critic and ask what their solution would be – the response differentiates between useful and harmful dialogue. If the criticism isn’t useful, move on. Don’t you have more important things to do?

Take criticism as a compliment. Most people will leave you alone if you’re struggling or aren’t doing anything noteworthy. You only become a significant target of negative comments if you’re doing well. If you’re taking a lot of heat, you must be doing something correct!

Live authentically. Live your own life, by your own values. Craft your life to use your signature strengths to create meaning for you, value for others and legacy for the future in your chosen pursuit.

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2024/11/30
20:52 UTC

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From Limitation to Liberation: Break Free from your Limiting Beliefs

In the journey of personal growth, one obstacle that often holds us back is our own limiting beliefs. These beliefs, formed in our childhood, can persist into adulthood, and hinder our progress towards success and fulfilment. But there is the good news: by recognising and overcoming your limiting beliefs, you can unlock our true potential and live the life you aspire to.

Limiting Beliefs are one of the most common issues I work with for two reasons. We all have them and my approach is Solution Focused: at its very core, it supports clients in developing their sense of agency which is ideal for moving on from issues rooted in the past to achieve sustainable improvements in their quality of life.

So what are Limiting Beliefs?

We all form a set of beliefs in our childhoods: generally, they are formed rationally and serve us well at the time. However, time moves on and things change. As we become adults, our childhood beliefs serve us less well – and the resultant behaviours may become incongruent with the situation we are in.

This leads to the conclusion that one of the things it means to grow up, is to develop out of our childhood beliefs and adopt a new set of beliefs – and resultant behaviours - that will serve us more resourcefully as adults. This progression follows a broad pattern of developing from dependence as children to independence as young adults to interdependence as mature adults. Our overall set of beliefs are developing all the time. However, most of us will carry some of our childhood beliefs with us in to adulthood. Most will be innocuous, but some of them may impede our performance as high functioning adults. Many adults benefit from contemplating this list, recognising any that are impacting on their quality of life and working on growing out of them.

Common Limiting Beliefs

A general list of limiting beliefs has been well established:

• I need everyone I Know to approve of me • I must avoid being disliked from any source • To be a valuable person I must succeed in everything I do • It is not OK for me to make mistakes. If I do, I am bad. • People should strive to ensure I am happy. Always! • People who do not make me happy should be punished • Things must work out the way I want them to work out • My emotions are illnesses that I’m powerless to control • I can feel happy in life without contributing back in some way • Everyone needs to rely on someone stronger than themselves • Events in my past are the root of my attitude & behaviour today • My future outcomes will be the same as my past outcomes • I shouldn’t have to feel sadness, discomfort and pain • Someone, somewhere, should take responsibility for me

Beyond these, we can have our own specific limiting beliefs which are often versions of I’m not good enough / I’m not worthy / I’m not smart enough / I’m unattractive / change is bad / conflict is bad / the world is a scary place / people are mean ect.

Simply reflecting on the above may point the way to a resolution. Working with a Solution Focused approach is particularly well suited to personal development in this area as – by its very nature – it opens up the pathways between the parts we know and recognise as ‘us’ and the deeper levels of our wisdom: ideal when are going through lots of changes on our lives.

It is more effective to work on these with a skilled helper however working through the following questions will provide you with some insight:

• What is the evidence for this belief – and against it? • Am I basing this belief in facts or feelings? • Is this belief really black and white – or is it more interesting than that? • Could I be misrepresenting the evidence? • What assumptions am I making? • Might others have different interpretations of the issue? • If so, what might they be? • Am I looking at all the evidence or just what supports my thoughts? • Could my thoughts be an exaggeration of what is true? • The more you think about the evidence and differing perspectives, is this belief really the truth? • Am I having this thought out of habit, or do the facts support it? • Did someone pass this thought or belief on to me – if so, are they a reliable source? • Does this belief serve you well in life? • Does this belief help or restrict you in your life? • Have you paid a price from holding this belief – if so, what? • Would there be a price from continuing to hold this belief – is so, what? • What do you think about this belief now?

This, analytical, approach can be illuminating. This insight gained can then be used with a range of hypno-therapeutic processes to accelerate one’s personal development.

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2024/11/30
20:26 UTC

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I need help with a reset while I’m abroad so I can hit the ground running next year

Please advise.

Heads really not good after a few losses and burn out

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2024/11/30
20:23 UTC

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