I am turning 25 in a few months and I will be honest, I am not proud nor happy about it. I feel that I am far behind everyone else, that I don’t have any motivation to improve myself, I still live at home with my parents (I live in a housing crisis area and ridiculous prices), I can’t finish my high school education, I can’t get a job because of no education. Even though I look like I have my shit together, my shit is scattered everywhere and I am overwhelmed.

My biggest issue right now, besides the obvious education and career crisis, is that I can’t get out of bed until at least noon. I feel like a sack of shit and I know I am acting like one but I truly can’t get out of bed and it’s causing me to lose out on so many opportunities. I was just lying in bed and I heard my mom call my name. I just ignored it since I was so comfy in my bed and then I remembered that I was supposed to go out with her to go shopping and pick up some stuff. I actually really look forward to doing this with my mom since it’s always a really enjoyable time and we bond a lot. If I got out of bed when I woke up first, I would have been out of bed by 10am but no, I wanted to sleep more.

I would appreciate any sort of advice or even shared experiences. Thank you💛

hi! i'm on a road to weight loss and am having trouble being disciplined with my eating descision. i'm not starving myself, and i'm eating better than i ever have, but i'm trying to get rid of sugary sweets and high sugar+calorie deserts, but I can't seem to because of temptation! i need tips to stay disciplined!

I have a really bad habit of sucking in my lower lip unconsciously, and has left an impression of biting marks on my lip. Lip balms do not help. Any suggestions on how to stop? What can I put on my lips that tastes bad but won’t injure my lips. Should I get hypnotized?

for context, i'm a recent high school graduate (19) who'll be going to college this fall. outside of side gigs, i'm sitting at home the whole day -- i have all the time to draw, yet, i only spend 2-3 hours (split between 1-3 sessions) most days! and even so, my drawing/practice sessions feel unproductive. i feel bad about this. constantly feeling like my art isn't good enough, i need to improve, i should be drawing more. (won't have time in college, likely)

i've been doing drawing as a hobby for a while now, but only started taking it seriously beginning december 2023. and i've improved a lot since then (art in profile), although i still feel like i'm lacking many skills that other artists seem to have. for example, i find it difficult to draw anything consistently. i know i need to improve my construction and sketching characters, so i've made it a point for myself to draw at least one fullbody/a few torsos a day. sometimes, i feel like don't know what i'm doing when i'm sketching, and even though i use 3D forms, it feels like trial and error.

drawing is supposed to be fun, it's supposed to be a hobby, but i usually don't have any ideas (not very creative), so i end up drawing random characters and poses from imagination instead. and it's difficult to get myself to *study references*. i think it's a discipline issue and not being used to references. i'm not sure. sometimes it feels like i have to make the drawing sessions "fun" by not forcing anything so i can actually get to drawing.

as a result, i come out of these practice sessions feeling like "i haven't drawn enough" or "it wasn't productive". getting good at art is something that is really important to me, to the point that it's the only thing i do that isn't social media/youtube, basically forcing myself to draw (because what else would i be doing then?)

i'm looking for help on how to handle self-imposed stress, and how to make my drawing sessions more productive (so i have time to do other things like exercising and trying new hobbies). thank you so much!

A few weeks ago, I briefly was able to maintain good habits. And I can't tell you how good it felt.

It wasn't even anything big.

• eat breakfast while listening to a book
• meditate
• set an alarm for 3 hours
• work for 3 hours ; no stupid dopamine during that time

It's unbelievably basic. But it was miraculous to me. I got so much work done. I felt amazing.

But I let it slip through my fingers.

I don't really know what went wrong. At the time, I was listening to a book about meditation. And after I finished the book, I kept trying to meditate, but it didn't work as well. And... idk, my resolve to not scroll before working just fell apart. My sleep also got much worse.... I don't know.

But it can be done, and I'll do it again. It was so blissful; why would I not do it??

One thing that made it easier for me to get done what I want to or what I need to do, is the idea that you're not going to meaningfully become better at something in one day. It's not a sprint you can pull but instead a very slow march with thousands and thousands of steps, that eventually all add up. In some things it's possible to make those steps bigger than other things, if you particularly like it. When it feels hard to move forward it's best to try and make any step forward at all. This momentum carries. It's reasonable to sometimes ask yourself if it's that hard to walk on a path, whether that should be your path at all. I don't want to end on a melancholic note so I'll wish you good luck in whatever it is that you want to accomplish.

This single quote has made a massive impact in getting myself to not be a bitch and make dumb excuses anymore. I used to find anyway possible to avoid my responsibilities and goals, whether I was sick, had a bad day, didn’t feel “right”, or whatever other lousy reason I could find. It doesn’t matter if I’m tired, just fucking do it tired.

Stay hard

Edit:

A lot of people here seem to not like this advice. That’s fine, it worked for me and it might work for other people too. It’s being taken so literally that you guys are missing the point. Sometimes I feel tired and don’t feel like studying or going to the gym. I push through this feeling and it’s helped me tremendously. It’s made my brain more durable and made me less of a bitch, that’s it.

It's been six months since my girlfriend betrayed me, and since then, I’ve committed to changing every aspect of my life—my body, my routine, and my goals.

Right now, I have nothing but a house I’m grateful for. I’m working hard, getting into great shape, and learning new skills to secure a better job and income. But I still have a long way to go before I reach the life I want.

I know I’m not in a phase where I can provide a stable life for a partner, yet the need for one is still there. Not just for sex, but for emotional support—someone to stand by me through every step of this journey.

Finding a truly supportive woman is difficult, so my only option seems to be letting go of this need for now. But how? Any advice?

So basically, what happens to me is that whenever I go studying, I feel like "Yeah I'm studying 11 hrs a day today" but I study like 3 hours and then I don't feel like studying and then I feel like I'll study tomorrow because I can do it at that time, I have enough time, Blah Blah Blah and I waste the day away. Has anyone ever been in the same boat as me? What did you do to prevent this?

"You don't exist, just the task, the task exists." - Cuss Demato.

Today, more than half the people who made resolutions have already given up.

This is likely due to the victim mindset: "This is too hard for me," "I'm too tired today," or simply the "I don't want to today" mentality.

But what would happen if you didn't attach yourself to the perceived problems associated with a challenge?

You will attract more opportunities for optimism and discipline.

Don't make the mistake of giving more attention to your feelings about the work that needs to be done rather than the work itself.

Effort isn't thinking about you, so you shouldn't think about it.

The secret to becoming truly magnetic isn’t about trying to impress others or put on a façade—it’s about becoming more YOU. It’s about shedding the layers of fear, doubt, and the pressure to fit into someone else’s expectations. When you start living authentically, and embrace who you truly are, you begin to radiate a unique energy that draws people in.

Your true self, without the masks and pretenses, is incredibly powerful. It creates a magnetic presence that naturally attracts the right people, opportunities, and experiences into your life. This is the force of alignment—when you are in harmony with your own truth, you become an unstoppable force in the universe’s flow.

Stay present. Trust that everything is unfolding exactly as it should, and know that the universe has your back. As you align with your inner self, you'll find that everything you need is already on its way to you.

You are meant to shine.

I'm looking for a different way to wake up in the morning without feeling extremely groggy (i don't drink caffeine), cause my current method isn't the most viable.

I just want differing opinions to how people wake up in the morning. I have a friend who wakes up with a BLARING alarm (which i cannot do), and i have some others from my home town who wake up naturally through sunlight (won't work cause sunlight doesn't come up for a while in my area).

Any potential recommended methods of waking up, whether naturally, through alarms/vibrations etc. would be great, as long as it helps me feel somewhat refreshed.

For reference, i wake up usually between 5-5:30, I have family members, and if I don't wake up, i'll sleep until 7, which isn't ideal for my workflow.]

Thanks!

Our destiny is fixed, but we can slowly change the course of our life. We should look inside ourselves for improvement and change rather than blame God, circumstances, or anybody else for the bad things happening to us.

So friends, whether we believe in the spiritual aspect of Karma or the scientific point of Newton’s law, the key takeaway is to ensure that our actions don’t hurt anyone.

The first thing that can be done is to stop creating bad karma. In our modern world, where we are often driven by ambition, success, and the constant pursuit of results, the Gita offers a refreshing perspective. It teaches us that genuine success lies in performing our duties.

I’m so sick and tired of this habit of mine. It’s been a part of my life for years, and I’ve realized I’m literally ruining everything because of it. Whether it’s missing deadlines or procrastinating on important tasks, I know exactly what I’m doing wrong, but I just can’t seem to change.

I was supposed to apply for colleges, and I’m already late, yet I’m still procrastinating. My deadlines are barely a month away, but time just keeps slipping away from me. It feels like a never-ending cycle—I regret it, make plans, postpone things again, and then regret it all over.

I seriously lack motivation. I get a burst of motivation maybe once a month, but it never lasts. This last entire year I have just rotten on my bed, eaten junk food and watched Netflix. I gained so much weight as well and rarely socialised or stuff. This habit is ruining everything for me, and I just don’t know how to stop.

guys i think i cracked it.

i've personally been on and off with the discipline thing for half a year, i've had three cycles of making a routine and the routine crashing into nothing and i'm in a routine now. It's been going well for three months, and I realised, my routine always gets fucked up when my sleep gets fucked up.

I tried to follow all that advice of staying up, resetting a sleep schedule, eating in the morning when you wake up to change your circadian rhythm, but it's not sustainable considering how many times I end up staying up late at night.

so I made myself tired instead! if by 6pm i'm not ready to crash i hit the gym and memorise stuff until my body's like, man sleep feels so good at this point that it's even better than phone dopamine.

well i mean that's what's worked for me anyway.

might not work for you idk.

On weekends i don’t do nothing in the morning, but can i watch tv while that one hour block? While having breakfast.

Hi everyone, I’m gonna try to keep it short and sweet. Just looking for some words of encouragement. I’m in my second year of grad school, and doing my internship as a social worker/therapist. I love it, it’s challenging. But I am so drained. I have not worked out in forever, and my body is feeling it. I KNOW the answer is just to start back up again, just DO it. I know what I need to do, and the guilt I have for not doing it is probably the hardest part. I would just be so grateful for some positivity and words of encouragement 🥹 if you read this far, thank you 🫶🏻

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I don't know how can I start this. I can't imagined myself and what I felt. I am afraid of everything that's not existing, I don't know why I felt like I'm stuck in part of my life. Waking up drained and tired and accustomed to day dreamings and finding support is feel bad to me because that's looks weak to me. Lumaki akong sinasarili lang lahat ayokong maabala yung ibang tao, pero negats na parang kailangan kopang bumalik sa nakaraan para lang maheal ko yung sarili ko. I liked listening to people pero parang feeling ko pag ako naman di naman nakikinig at wala naman din ibang uunawa sa sarili ko kung hindi ako lang kaya hindi nako open sa mga feedback nila before kaya pag di kaya takas reyalidad muna lumaki kasi ako sa abusive family tinry ko naman na kalimutan yun pero napansin ko sarili ko na may pag babago medjo naging defensive nako at the same time at feeling ko lahat nang tao ay masama ang pakay sa akin kaya mas lagi nalang ako sa safe space ko tas dito ko narin iniintindi sarili ko dahil alam ko naman walang iintindi at mas mabuting manahimik nalang ako kesa dramahan yung iba pero wala e mentally unstable parin ako. Parang araw araw bagyo. Buhay pa naman ako e pero diko lang alam parang pinaglalamayan kona sarili ko. Hindi nato mabuti haha ginawa ko naman lahat e pero I'm still nothing jusko, gusto ko mag start again pero daming setbacks na bumabalik pinag dududahan ko rin sarili ko madalas pagod nako.

For those, who are not aware, Robin S Sharma

is a Writer and a Public Speaker,

Mostly known for his book "The monk who sold his Ferrari".

But He has also written a book on Stress mgmt and Spirituality by the name "Megaliving".

And has a training company by the name "Sharma Leadership International".

He is someone who is regularly being called to conduct training sessions for companies like Nike, Microsoft, IBM, FedEx, Oracle and so on.

And His Book "The leader who had no Title", even topped the best seller list Internationally.

And his book "The 5 am club " was the #1 Time mgmt book on Amazon as well.

And what he says is that: "Success is not measured by the size of your Title. But by the Richness of your Contribution"

I do want to work on my goals but I don't know why it has turned into a fear factor. I mean I want to go back to college yet I still feel resistant to seek advice. All I keep thinking in my head is what if I look stupid asking multiple questions to advisor or even career center. What if they ask me questions where I just end up feeling ashamed. Then I realize I have my own strength and weakness. But it's so easy to pin point the weakness yet I'm not able to recognize my strengths.

I've heard people say that the more of a good habit you do, for instance meditating, journaling, exercising, or working on a business, it eventually becomes "automatic and effortless" and you don't even need to think about doint it. I don't think this is true. While this has been the case for many bad habits like picking up my phone and switching to YouTube. I've been meditating and exercising consistently for about a year now and it still feels like I need to "consciously think about deciiding to do it". Does that make sense? Also, there was an entire year where I dedicated my entire focus to my studies but I never felt like I could handle the discomfort and push past the resistance of studying better than when I started. Basically what I'm saying is that I feel like the whole notion of "discomfort becoming a new normal" when you're uncomfortable for a long time never happens and it always feels abnormal. Why is this? Is discipline truly a skill that becomes easier with time?

I am failing most my classes because doing school work makes me so bored. Everyone is like “I’m so bored” “this is so boring” but they do it anyways, I don’t know how they can.

Even doing regular things make me bored. Most of the time to me Social media is boring. TV is boring. I don’t really feel anything listening to music. Taking a hot shower is boring. Eating junk food is one of the only things that stimulates me and even that gets boring sometimes.

It’s not like I’m depressed either (most of the time)

A ton of stuff happening in the news lately. It feels like every day there's another major event, another controversy, etc. And it can be so tempting to check in, just to see what people are saying. To be able to be in the loop during conversations with coworkers, family, whatever. But that one second turns into 20 minutes, then an hour, and before you know it, you’re deep into a rabbit hole of headlines, outrage, terribel mood, distraction.

The truth is, most of it provides literally nothing of real value to your life. Learning to be selectively ignorant—choosing not to engage with every single piece of news or online discourse—is one of the most effective ways to live your life. And it drops your screen time significantly. It’s not about being uninformed; it’s about recognizing that most of what we consume is noise, not signal.

If you make the conscious decision to disengage, you’ll waste less time online. And to make this mindset stick, set up extra defenses. Grayscale your phone. Clean up your home screen so there’s no easy access to distractions. Set up your phone so that there is friction to opening news sites or social media. For me, before I ever can unlock Apple News, I set my phone up so that I'm forced to chat with an AI for a minute before I can open it. The goal overall is to make yourself realize that whatever bullshit news headline you just heard about from your coworker, you honestly don't need to know about it right this moment.

If you commit to this, your screen time will drop. No doubt about that. And more importantly, your ability to focus on actual work—on progressing your own life—will increase. The world will continue on, no matter what today’s headline is. You don’t need to carry it all with you.

I'm just a few days apart from the most important exam I've had in the last few years. With this exam I'll either finish the last subject I've got, or I'll get kicked out from the university. I might be able to recover from getting kicked out, but it will delay my graduation by 1-2 years. (I live in the EU)

I'm the worst of the worst when it comes to deadlines and procrastination. Yes, I'm kind of f*d. However I still have a few days, and all the free time to learn, so my plans are just learning till I fall asleep on top of the desk with red eyes.

But I fear. How do I deal with failure? How do I look in the mirror knowing I could have spent more time and energy doing my duty, but I didn't?

I appreciate any advice, or if you share your experience.

EDIT:

*out of university

Hi i will be F18 this year and i am actually nowhere and no one, simply i don't have a life. I am ugly and i want to do plastic surgeries but even this is to hard for me to do bc of how lazy i am to even search. I can't do even basics things i know its gross but i can't even manage to shower regulary. I live in past, everything got worse and in this past years i am going to school and scroll all day on computer (like 11 hours.. i am really addicted) I can't get myself in hobby bc i am to tired from school ( i think maybe bc of stress? or loneliness?) I also have bad relationship with food (now is getting better) so i kinda ruined my metabolism and hormones. I try to change but i want to do everything and end up doing nothing in 3 days. I hate myself bc everyone moved on and i watch their lives on social media with them having glow up, new friends and i feel like loser. Also dont need to tell that in year i am ending school and i am lost like who am i? I am not interested in anything important which could help me in carrier. I am almost adult but like on 0 level in life. The only good thing is my parents that can support me. How can i change? What steps do i need to take to be normal and even a bit happy?

Often good things in life we keep postponing to later. And that which isn’t life supporting we engage in right away. What if we could turn this around. Life is short! We keep saying some day when I have time I will do this or that. It’s like saying I will do it tomorrow. Guess what? Tomorrow never comes. But it doesn’t die either and leaves one with a regret or a pinch of not having done what one wanted to do. What is your “some day, I will….” And what is one small step you can take today to make that possible? What if you had all you needed to make it happen, what would you do, where would you start? Think back to few years ago when you said some day, I will do x or y or z (this is about what you can do not about what can happen).