Hie guys. Am M29. There is a girl I admire a lot, I see her often at the gym but I have never spoken to her. I discovered that she works at the local swimming pool were I go on weekends. When I go to the swimming pool I will be taking a young teen with disabilitie(assisting them with swimming activities) .

This past weekend I approached her at the pool and I told her that I recognised her but wasn't sure from where, she smiled and introduced herself and told me that she recognises me when I come to the pools on weekends, she was very nice. In conclusion she said she will be seeing me around.

Now, what's the next move 😁😬.. HELP!

I've (24F) been with my boyfriend (23M) for over six years, and our relationship has always been a rollercoaster. We go through phases where everything feels perfect, like we're truly meant for each other. But then, out of nowhere, we spiral into months of toxicity—constant fighting, saying and doing things to each other that I wouldn't call "normal" for any couple.

When we're in a bad place, I get snappy and bitchy over small things, and he becomes less sweet, considerate, and nurturing—completely different from how he treats me when things are good. He easily gets riled up, and when I snap, he retaliates with something even more hurtful, leading to hours of fighting. During arguments, he shows no empathy and even mocks me when I cry, despite claiming he loves my sensitivity when we're good. We've proven we can communicate well when things are going smoothly, so I don’t understand why we keep falling back into this toxic pattern other than us both having unresolved trauma.

Our sex life has always been inconsistent, which is frustrating because we both have a high sex drive. When we’re fighting, my desire for him disappears, creating even more tension because his desire for me remains the same, and he doesn’t understand why I feel the way I do.

I truly believe that if two people are meant to be together they will find their way back and I hope more than anything that is true with us. There is no doubt in my mind that we love each other immensely, however, we both had fucked up childhoods and haven’t had the therapy we probably need to have a stable relationship. I suggested we take time apart to do this, find ourselves, get on our feet with a solid career, etc and see what happens from there. That being said, I do want to casually date other men in the meantime. It sucks not being able to have a healthy sexual relationship at any age, but especially in your 20s when it feels like I’m missing out on experiences I’ll never get back. I crave the peace and comfortability that comes from being with someone who hasn’t caused you trauma. 

I know my boyfriend is a good person, and I don’t want to hurt him. But I can’t keep living in this cycle of highs and lows. The thought of dating other people, even casually, feels liberating and like it might be the fresh start I need to figure out what I really want. I worry that by doing this, I’m betraying the love we have and am scared I might be making the wrong decision to take time apart in the first place. I also wonder if staying in this relationship is holding us both back from growing into the people we’re meant to be.

What do you think? 

This is something i personally have experienced a lot. No feeling of disrespect towards them, but I just find it odd when women do this. Also in many cases it wasn’t even a fling. It was just a normal conversation I used to have with them.

A little bg about me. I am a 27 y.o m from India. About my dating history I dated maybe 2/3 girls but never could go past that( I am very picky!). Also I am not thinking about any serious commitment as of now and my current ideology is that I won't ever marry.

Back in college I had a huge crush on a girl who was 1 year junior to me, but she was already committed to someone else. Eventually confessed my feeling to her on the last day of college and she took that pretty well. So the next few years tried moving on from the thoughts of her.

So, recently decided to let my picky behaviour take a back seat and started embracing whatever life offered me. And to my surprise I met someone who's very sweet and very simple, coming from humble origins. We talked(chatted) for 3 months and got close(haven't met yet! *I am a very shy and introverted person in real life)

But, I have also been in touch with the crush from mu college and we talk sometimes, not that frequently but once in 2-3 months kinda. But recently conversations with her turned really interesting and I liked every sec of it.

So I am really confused right now, should I talk to my crush a little bit more? Or should I just focus on the other girl? Because I know she is really into me, unlike my crush. That's what scares me actually, that she might get attached or have her heart broken.

Currently talking to a girl, been a few months now. I’ve known her a little longer than that. Whenever she fantasizes about our future together she never seems to mention going to work.

She’d say things like “miss you when you leave and be there waiting when you get back,” etc. She’s also not the biggest fan of kids so it’s not like she’s talking about being a SAHM.

Should I bring this up to her, subtly of course? It’s a nice fantasy but in this economy? No shot.

Hey Reddit, I’ve been seeing this girl, let’s call her Amy, for almost two months now. At first, she made it clear she wasn’t ready for a relationship because she had some unresolved issues with her ex, and she didn’t want me to get caught in the middle of it all. I respected that, but we kept talking and meeting up anyway.

We’ve hung out around 6 times. Nothing sexual, but we’ve kissed, been affectionate, and overall, just had a good time. Recently, though, things started to feel a little off. Her replies got slower, especially after a day out with her friend in Brighton (around the same time I found out her ex is now single). I started overthinking it, wondering if maybe she was losing interest or if the ex was back in the picture.

But here’s the thing—since last Thursday, she’s been more talkative and responsive again. We’ve been back to our usual playful banter, which is kind of our thing. For example, we keep jokingly threatening to fight one another, calling each other names playfully and acting like we’re gonna scrap, which always makes us laugh. The vibe feels good again.

So, here’s where I’m stuck: should I just keep things as they are, or should I still give her a bit of distance to let things develop naturally? I don’t want to come off as too eager, but I also don’t want to miss out on whatever this is. Anyone been in a similar situation where things were up and down? How do you know when to push forward and when to pull back?

Would really appreciate any advice or thoughts!

I (F24) and best friend - Kelly (fake name) (F24) have been messing around for a while now. I knew I was always a bit fruity, and that this would be my 'experimental phase'. It started in 2020 but it was just the occasional kiss, yk when your in the girls bathroom or at the club and you kiss a girl. yeah it was like that but then it got more frequent & would start happening sober. We had conversations about what was happening and said yeah we're experimenting, and it's been something we've kept between us for so long. okay so flash forward its 2024, we weren't hooking up for a while BUT then we did shrooms and acid and had the best sex of our respective lives, it was different (this was in feb), then it continued and we are still having sex.

So now (sep) Kelly has just told that she is feeling confused and doesn't know what to do as she's also been seeing someone, but keeps imagining doing me - we've had plenty of conversations about needing to stop this sexcapade because its getting into dangerous territory. We're best friends, basically like family minus the fact that we've been sleeping together - its just very messy and I think its making me more confused because I haven't liked or had interest in anyone for a long while and its nice having a friend with benefits

My issue is that I don't have romantic feelings for Kelly nor does she but we still want to continue doing what we're doing. Is that wrong? Should we still be doing this? Is there a reason we are? We always used to say because its so easy knowing what we like and being satisfied but now its morning sex and feeling relationshippy (again we have these conversations a lot - we are both pretty open and honest)

Maybe I just needed to vent or something or I'm confused?? I haven't had relationship in 4 years, and a few sexual partners (one night stands) over the years but nothing serious - and she's had 1 serious and a roster, now seeing a guy - and im all for her seeing this through with this dude because she does want it but then she says that she's confused and wants to keep doing stuff with me?

Thoughts ? Any help would be appreciated

So I (25M) recently went on a first date with this guy (29M) and we hit it off. We went and had coffee, then went shopping and he actually bought me a book while we were out. We texted consistently till last night.

He had asked me to make a couple designs on my Cricut for him and had agreed for me to take them to him yesterday at 5:30. I had to drop off a couple other decals before him and once I was finished I messaged him and said I was finished and was gonna head that way, could he send his address.

I sat in a parking lot for an hour waiting for him to respond, to which I never got a response. It’s now been 12 hours of no response and I’ve used vinyl I could’ve used for someone who really wanted it, plus I actually liked him and was enjoying our time getting to know one another. He’s been active on social media, but has avoided anything I’ve posted (i.e. stories).

What should I do?

Matched with this awesome girl on Tinder while we were both vacationing. We both live in the same country but a few hours apart.

We go on 2 length dates and things go fantastic. I kiss her on the first date then we go to a carnival on the second date and stay almost all night together. We hold hands, dance a lot, and kissed a bunch. Fast forward to the end of the night. Im driving her home and I told her I want something with her (I was leaving to go back home in 2 days. Limited time). I told her I really liked her and thought she was awesome. She opens up to me about her dating past and how much trauma she has had. She said she feels "empty with no feelings" and basically needs time to heal. She says she needs to figure things out in her head and needs time. She was vacationing in her homeland with her grandma to escape everything back home. She was complaining about her job/career too. We are both 29 years old. She had nothing but good things to say about me and that I did nothing wrong.

Im typing this in the airport as im heading home and im completely devastated. Ive never connected with anyone like her. I had the time of my life with her at that carnival. We had so much in common (cultural background, education, values, etc) I confessed my feelings for her. She seems like a genuinely good person behind all of her "stuff" going on. I feel like she is scared right now to get involved. Im not sure how to proceed. I confessed all my feelings and now do I just play the waiting game? Do I keep in touch with her? She is staying in her homeland for a few months to "process" things and im going to be far away from her for a bit here (she works remotely). I really want something with her

Thanks for reading guys. Appreciate it. Ill read the comments once I get off this 8 hour plane ride...

I'm a 23 years-old dude, I never had a romantic relationship before, as I suffered from severe social anxiety, trust issues, and self loathing for a very long time. Two years ago I decided to see a psychotherapist as I felt like I was about to get depressed, and since then I made a lot of progress. A month ago I was attending the therapeutic mountain hiking week that my therapist organizes every year, there a met her. She's 27, so a bit older but personally I couldn't care less as I've never felt this strongly about someone before, it took me some time and a couple of sleepless nights, skipped meals and at least 48 hours of stomach backflips to realize I had fallen for her. As we spent time together, I just couldn't figure her out: she was awkwordly uncomfortable around me since the very start, wich was odd as she was much more at ease with everyone else, even tho we made the 9 hours long trip in the same car, meaning she had to be more familiar with me than with the others; however she also seemed to enjoy my company, usually sitting in front of me while eating and just generally being close to me or at least aware of what I was doing, or where I was. Over time she started getting bolder, initially she would get very agitated every time we where very close, but later on she started making physical contact of her own initiative, a couple of times she even tryed to play footsie with me (maybe, it's hard to to be sure, but realistically speking you don't touch someone's leg under the table 3 times in a row in the same spot accidently, right?). The last night there we had a 3 hours long talk with only me, her and another guy wich was pretty much sleeping awake, she seemed to be interested in what I had to say and was participating actively in the convo, asking questions about my passions, family and other things. The next day during the trip back she was much more lively and relaxed, and when we parted ways she told me something along the lines of "see you soon" rather than "bye". Since then I texted her a couple of times as I had her number from the Whatsapp group, and things got even MORE confusing. She takes SEVERAL HOURS to reply, but at the same time she is by no means rude or dismissive, her messages are usually quite enthusiastic, polite and well stated, it's clear she puts a decent amount of effort behind them, but she also makes no efforts at all to keep the conversation going, so all our exchanges have been very brief. Furthermore, I can't see neither her status, nor if she reads my messages, as she had the read receits turned off every time I've texted her, and both times she turned them back on around 2 days after the last message was sent, I don't know if she does so as some kind of strategy, as a form of polite ghosting, or just out of habit, and to make everything even less clear, when I started following her on Instagram she pretty much immediatly followed back. Yesterday I texted her out (I'm very proud I was able to finally ask someone out on date!), but as usual she's taking forever to reply, and I can't even tell if she reed the massage or not. Now, I belive the general consensus is to wait around 3 days to give her time to think about it, but since she's both a very busy person, and has some unresolved issues about her last quite toxic relationship, wich was also her only, I don't know if I should give her more time, as she might just be a bit conflicted about the whole situation. I'm willing to wait for her to resolve her issues, wich she's working on already, I would even like to help if possible, considering that her just existing nearby gave me the strenght to annhilate most of my insecurities. However, I would also like to know if she's at least even just a bit interested, and since this whole thing is new to me, I would like to know how to procede in general too, as to be fair I have no clue what to in case she actually says yes, aside for the classic "just be yourself". There is really no overstating how much I like her, there has been no one in my life so far that I felt such strong chemestry with. Since I met her more or less 40 days ago I've become a much better and helthier person, I even lost almost 10kg (22 pounds) of weight, since I'm much more active and no longer stress eating, I belive she changed something inside me for good and becouse of that, even if I definitively don't NEED her, I WANT to be with her. Please, help me if you can.

I honestly have no idea what to do. Ive been dating this one guy, Jason, for 5 dates now. I initially thought I liked him. The thing is,my friend Anthony flew in and told me he was going to stay for 5 days. We ended up hanging out all 5 days and for the first 4 days we just chilled and hung out. He would drop a few hints that he liked me, but nothing very forward. On the last day, we kissed and cuddled and then he had to leave. I have never even really felt that kind of comfort from being with someone. At one point, he just held my hand and looked into my eyes for a good 30 minutes and i didnt want to move.

My problem is now, I realize I dont like Jason as much as Anthony. I still like him, but it isnt as intense....My worry is that I only really got pulled in by the excitement of Anthony and that I knew it couldnt turn into anything serious because I knew he had to leave. Jason has talked to me about how he thinks love is a constant thing and that it builds over time. I think Im also scared that Jason is looking for something serious and that dating him could actually lead to something more. How do I talk to Jason about this? I think it would be unfair of me to keep dating him without him knowing where Im at. I need advice......

Just broke up, and was curious about people who got back with their ex. And how you did it.

I know it's a bad idea but it's not the topic. I'm just curious about this.

What's your experience, and did you broke up again anyway ?

About a month ago, I (21F) met this guy (22M) online. We instantly hit it off, talking for hours every day on FaceTime about everything from family and friends to past relationships. He even sent me flowers a few times and said he enjoyed doing nice things for me, despite the distance. A red flag emerged when two weeks into talking, he shared that his past relationship was toxic. His ex had slept with a close friend and was emotionally damaging. Although he claimed he was over it, he was clearly still hurt. I was also honest about ending a relationship four months prior. Despite this, our connection grew, and the best part was that it wasn’t sexual, just a genuine connection .

We hadn’t met yet due to being in different states for college and we were also visiting family during break. At some point, I told him I had a date with someone else and was dating around, which upset him, so out of respect for us, I didn’t go. He told me he liked me and wanted to be committed to our relationship, so we agreed to be exclusive shortly after. He said long distance wasn’t an issue and helped him focus on school while having support from me.

One night, he got very drunk and called me repeatedly, expressing deep feelings and talking about a future together, including kids. He told me he told his mom about us, and really liked me. His friend even spoke on the phone, saying he had never seen him like this before. The next morning, he apologized for his drunken behavior but insisted his feelings were real. I was concerned because I had previously mentioned disliking lovebombing and when guys don’t uphold their intentions. I also don’t talk about kids or marriage with people as it’s not something that I’m sure about in my life since I’m so young. I still agreed I liked him a lot and that we should move past it.

A few days later, we had a tense conversation about the relationship. With school starting and no concrete plans to meet, I didn’t want him to prioritize us to the point where it would take away from his academics and life. This upset him, as I had poorly communicated my feelings and he took it as me backing away entirely. We decided to talk the next morning. He apologized, and I did too. He later texted to say he had booked a flight to visit me when I moved back to my college city. I was thrilled, and when he arrived, we had a great time exploring the city, dining out, and connecting deeply. The visit was comfortable and felt like we had known each other forever. Later that night we talked for 6 hours and eventually slept with each other, but there was nonstop talking and vibing from the night he got there until the morning when we both fell asleep.

After he left that weekend, we resumed our usual routine of calls and texts, planning to visit each other during breaks. A few days ago, he mentioned struggling mentally. I offered support, relating to his situation given my own experiences with depression. During a late-night call, he expressed doubts about being a good partner due to his past relationship and mental state and that he was scared of being hurt again.

The next night, he’s in a really good mood and asks me to be his girlfriend, which I accepted despite being upset and hesitant from the night before. He said he talked to his mom and friends about it and they didn’t want him to regret losing out on “this amazing girl that he really likes.” However, a few hours later, he called again, saying he realized he wasn’t ready for a relationship and wasn’t in the right mental state to be a good boyfriend. I ended the call quickly, feeling hurt and confused.

I texted him, asking why he made me feel secure only to pull back. He apologized for wasting my time and said he was dumb for putting me through that. I asked what this meant for us, and he said he wanted to be friends because he enjoys talking with me.

I don’t want to remain friends with someone I’ve been intimate with, but I also don’t want to lose him entirely because I still care about him. I need to protect my heart but also want to be there for him. The hardest thing is I don’t feel comfortable talking about my relationships with my friends, family, or therapist, so they’re often left in the dark and can’t offer much support when I go through stuff like this.

I 22m went out with a 18F two weeks ago. I thought the date went really well since it never was quiet we laughed a lot and stared into each others eyes a ton. Last week I asked her for a second date on Friday but she replied that she was tired so I said no problem rest well. She didn’t try to reschedule the date and just said good night. Next Saturday she went out swimming with a friend of hers and out clubbing with friends. I thought she was tired but I didn’t think too much of it. But for some reason I think I fked up? Because on snap she normally responds extremely happy and with whole scentences and whole face pictures and that Saturday night I was talking to her but she sent pics of her shoulder and neck and replied with 1 or 3 words maximum. I’m scared to ask her out again now because I’m afraid she isn’t into me and she’ll be like wow dude get the hint. It’s my first time dating and so is hers but I just want an honest answer as to which I should try for a second date. Should I just ask her or wait a few days or cut my losses and leave it be?

Hi everyone,

I recently ended a relationship (or situationship) with someone I was dating. Last night, we went out on a date, and I brought up some serious questions about where we were headed. He admitted he has commitment issues and although he liked me a lot, he can’t give me what I want right now. Despite that, we ended up kissing after I told him that I wanted to stay with him just for tonight, we both know that it is wrong, but we still kissed, went back to his place and making out a lot, no sex though.

Today, I’m feeling really sick to my stomach, anxious, and scared. I’m not sure what to do with all these emotions. I know breaking up was the right choice, but the aftermath is overwhelming.

How do you cope with these feelings after a breakup, especially when the situation was so emotionally charged?

I wanted to reach out to him to explain about what happened last night and end it for good, but I'm not sure if that is good thing, or how to approach this conversation.

Any advice or support would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

My older brother has always gotten the short end of the stick when it comes to his social life and dating. He and I grew up in a strict Asian household where academics was #1, and he was oftentimes beaten for not learning things quickly enough or not getting good grades. As a result, he hyperfocused on studying throughout his formative years and had 0 dating experience throughout middle school, high school, and even undergrad.

The summer before starting medical school, he decided that he wanted to get in shape in an effort to attract women. He lost a significant amount of weight through diet and exercise and achieved a pretty respectable physique. Even though he was getting a little attention from a few girls in his class, he was never able to actually find a girlfriend or start a relationship. Even worse, he overestimated his academic abilities when burdened by his sudden increase in social activity and ended up failing his first year of school, which he then had to retake.  

Throughout the year he had to remediate, he understandably became depressed and kinda let himself go. He quickly ballooned back up to his unhealthy weight and gave up on fitness. This continued through his second year of preclinicals, with his depression getting so bad that he had to take a leave of absence. 

Since we live together, and because he is unwilling to see a therapist for his depression, he oftentimes turns to me to vent his feelings and talk about his struggles. Throughout our conversations, it became apparent that the major cause for his depression was his loneliness and lack of having a girlfriend. He would tell me that he feels like a “failure” because he’s never had a girlfriend at the age of 26 and that he cannot even function as a student because he feels so alone and depressed. He is seeing a psychiatrist and is on antidepressants, which helped his mood in general, but they obviously didn’t address his core issue of loneliness and lack of a partner.

Fast forward to third year, the start of clinical year in medical school, he continued to be depressed and his loneliness was worsening. No matter how many times I advised him that, if he would only put the effort toward returning to a healthy weight and making sure his academics were taken care of this time around, that he would be more likely to have a girlfriend, he refused to make any concerted effort to change his lifestyle. I had also advised him to get on dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge, as my younger brother and I had both found our girlfriends through dating apps.

Despite his depression, he was able to successfully pass his first rotation with my assistance through reviewing topics with him. I had really thought that he was turning a new leaf and becoming more comfortable with being alone and dedicating himself to studying. However, I came back to our apartment after staying a few days with friends and found him talking on the phone with a girl. Initially, I was surprised/happy that he was talking to a girl, and he had told me that they’d been messaging each other on Bumble for a week and went out to eat while I was gone. 

A couple days later, on the way to dinner, I was asking more questions to get to know this new girlfriend of his. When he said the words, “I want to preface this with I am completely fine with this,” I already had a sinking feeling in my stomach. He then dropped the bomb that this girl he’s seeing has THREE KIDS of her own with an ex. Not only that, but a few days later, he tells me that she currently owes money to the government because her ex had committed tax fraud or something like that.

Part of me wants to empathize with him because I remember how it felt to be a desperate, lonely guy before I met my girlfriend. He just can’t see how many red flags and how stupid of a relationship it would be if he were to pursue this girl long-term because at the end of the day this is the only girl who has given him attention and who is making him “happy” for now.

Unsurprisingly, he is financing most of their dates. He paid for their buffet date, going out for trivia night at a bar, etc. We are lucky enough that our parents pay for our medical education, and he has just a little bit in savings that he is using to pay for their dates. 

Needless to say, this is stressing the hell out of me, partly because I care about the guy, and also because I live with him. Knowing his history, I am always worrying now about if his academics are going to fall off, what if he gets this girl pregnant, what if the baby daddy comes back to haunt them, issues with kids, etc., the plethora of issues that dating a single mom comes with. Especially when he is not financially stable at all and has no real-world skills. 

It has only been a couple of weeks, and I don’t know what to do. I’ve already had quite a few discussions with him about how he’s making a big mistake, the realities of dating a single mom, and how he is still young and has so many more possibilities if he just got healthier. I brought my little brother into our discussions as well. Of course, he doesn’t want us telling our parents because they’d obviously flip shit if they heard about his situation. 

The final thing that complicates his viewpoint is that he is a very religious/by the book Christian. He finds bible verses to justify his actions, and it’s hard to argue rationally with someone like him. He feels like he won’t ever find another girl who is attracted to him (obviously delusional) because he is so desperate. 

Is there anything I can even do aside from what I’ve already done? He is an adult and can make his own choices, sure, but at the end of the day I feel like he is really ruining his life and making a big mistake by trying to pursue this relationship. 

TLDR: My 26 y/o older brother is making a big mistake by dating a single mom because he feels like he won’t be able to have a relationship with any other girls down the line and is so desperate that he’s willing to overlook all the red flags and difficulties inherent to dating a single mother.

I am going to break up with my girlfriend today. She has a history of s/h and she’s suicidal. I am wondering if I should call the police before I do it, so she doesn’t hurt herself or worse. Thank you.

This guy, i met him on a birthday party of friend of mine and also his friend, common friends like that. Then he used a dump account to get my attention and he introduced himself and offer me a coffee with him and i said yes. After 4 days of talking, a girl confronted me that its her bf and that guy ditched/broke up with her( note: they are ldr and i have no idea that he has a gf because he told me that they are already broke up). The guy keep begging on our house after that and wants to pursue me.

What should i do?

This is like the third time I’ve typed this out so I’m just gonna cut to the chase. My boyfriend (28m) (now ex) and I (23f) broke up. He cheated on me almost a year ago. I went through his phone and he was talking to countless girls, like I couldn’t even count how many w both hands bro. My heart has forever changed since then. There’s no way to describe how much pain that caused me because there’s no way to describe how much I loved him and still do. Call me crazy but I stayed, after having blocked him and then going back, of course. We’ve been on and off our whole relationship due to stuff like this. I know it sounds like means for an end but trust me until you go through it, you just don’t understand. It’s who I was when I met him too, and who he was to me. We’ve both changed so much, but my love for him never will. I can’t explain it. I know he’s a broken person. So am I, but I fell in love with his heart. I fell in love with his pain. I fell in love with his strength and who he is. These days I know it’s a toxic mindset but really people have become so messed up. In a world full of toxic relationships, some people grow to believe that cheating is ok, and well if you get cheated on by one person you can expect the same from the next. It’s not always personal, sometimes it’s the temptation that takes over combined with the way someone feels about themselves. Idk I have a weird outlook on relationships, especially now. Since finding out, he’s apologized to me countless times, done everything and anything he can to fix it and immediately took accountability for having betrayed me. I believe in God, I forgive those who trespass me because I believe all those who are lost will be found in Jesus name. Just like I was. I forgave him because God forgave him. I forgave him because I know he is more than his mistakes. We all are. I forgave him, but I could not forget. Ever. I’m talking like my mind would be tortured every night for months because of what I saw. The freshly opened wound of broken trust, the sleepless nights, the paranoia, the absolute fear I felt of him one day deciding to really leave me for someone else if we were to ever have a future and a family together. We’d talked about it all, a family, kids, a home, growing old together. It hurt so much to not be comforted by that. As time went on, it felt like we had changed, both together and separately. He told me it would never happen again, to this day I don’t honestly know if it ever has. We’d been together for 3 years. Every day was like a new day, even if we had repeated conversations. He was loving, so loving. He cared for me, when I told him something he listened and really heard me, which is not something I’m used to. He knew me better than I knew myself. He understood my pain, even my trauma, and I felt I did his too. The one thing I can say confidently is we lacked in communication. Which was just as much my fault as it was his, if not even more. See my whole life I’ve held things in. My mom used to tell me it’s like I would go in to a cave, and she would have to come find me when I was young. I guess I’ve always been wired to be quiet and always felt like no one understands me or my feelings. He was able to reach inside and pull me out sometimes tho, even if I refused. Our lack of communication led to escalated arguments however, me feeling like he doesn’t understand, and like nothing he says is anything I can trust due to the circumstances between us. I know our trust has been broken, and I’m on my knees asking God to help me mend it because my boyfriend had tried everything. It’s just me now. Recently we broke up and this time it feels like this is it. I made a friend and she told me years ago he had messaged her and yes it was years ago but when I tell you I showed her a pic of him and she looked like she had seen a ghost, I understand she might’ve been afraid to admit there was anything to say about him at all, and it was so long ago, but it hit me in the chest again. I told him about it, because I had asked him if he knew her or ever talked to her before and he said no. I just felt lied to again. I’ve lost my f*cking mind officially and now I feel like I completely messed everything up because I was really doing good for a while, we were doing good, everything felt like I could finally breathe again and I believed in him. Then that one encounter happened and it brought back the stabbing feeling in my back and my heart. I don’t know what to do. I think of him every second of every day. It feels like it’s all my fault, and like my pain is so selfish because I’m just using it as a weapon now. I want to say I’m sorry but we’ve been down this road so many times, I feel like I’ve lost him forever. Why can’t I just let go of my anger? Why can’t I just move on with him and trust him because I know deep down I can? I guess I just don’t feel good enough still, and that’s what it’s always been. Maybe it’s better he hates me like I do. I don’t know but for the past week ever since he stopped communicating it feels like my heart has been ripped out, like I’ve lost part of my soul. I feel like Bella when Edward ran away and she lost her fucking mind. Except this is all my fault.

Hi guys, Just seeking for some advices cos I’m kind of struggling about the currently situation. Me 24F and he is 23M We knew each other for about 3 years, dated for a while but didn’t enter into a relationship. Recently we started to talk again and just want to see how thing goes. We kept talking about 2-3 months, first 2months were just random talking and this month is more like texting everyday but last weekend I message him in the morning but he just left me on read and disappear.

I’m the kind of person that always want a clear definition of things (so if he wants a break or just stop I do need a message from him)

But the thing is we still not in a relationship now I do like him and don’t really want to end up (not now) Can I just ask him why he’s ghosting/ left me on read?

I know the answer( he’s not into me that much ) but just struggling to ask that directly.

Will it be better to ask now or wait till he messages me?

Hey fellas, fellettes, 22m here. What to do about one night stand with 26f becoming attached? She texts incessantly and calls me “her love”. I’m starting to think she doesn’t get much. How do I let her down without destroying her? I’ve told her I’m not interested in a relationship but, the claws continue to cling to me.

I will not be giving ages and please no hate speech

Me and my boyfriend are in a very tough online/long-distance relationship. Going on 1 year now. We are about to meet but we both clearly don't love or want to be together. He admitted he's just using me now and I have fallen out of love due to him bringing up my past trauma as something "good" and wanting to relive it. I have tried to leave many times but he won't let me due to many "law" and "not wanting to be lonely" reasons. This guy is everything women will say they don't want in a husband or baby daddy if that gives you a better picture.

I told him I no longer wished to get married and I would never be having kids with him. He has given me the option to leave and meet a new boyfriend if I still allow him & I to meet (in public)

I have goals that I do not want him a part of. I have widened my love interest but still feel like I will never find a good guy. So I'm not sure if I should even waste my time.

Should I eventually leave this guy and look for someone respectful and loving? Or should I stay with him so he doesn't feel lonely?

I’ve been talking with a friend for a few weeks. I got a text from her today saying she really want to try a specific coffee shop. Is this a hint she might be interested in me? Not trying to overthink the text. Thanks

Ok so we met on a dating app and started hooking up pretty much the first time we saw each other. The sexual chemistry between us is insanely amazing and we both feel that way, it’s not a hit it and quit it case, he genuinely loves the way I look and what I do in bed etc. The first two times we basically just hooked up and then he left but after that he started staying over. I didn’t even ask him to, it just started. He’s been staying over until noon the next morning or even longer, the other day we spent the entire day together afterwards. He told me repeatedly that if I wasn’t funny and a vibe to be around he wouldn’t stay that long. He holds me and cuddles and kisses me which I know don’t indicate feelings but in the past guys that only wanted sex never did that the way he did.

I know he wants a relationship eventually but isn’t desperate for it right now, kinda the exact same way I feel about it. The problem is I’ve been thinking about him and I like him a bit more than I should. He never made a move to actually ask me if I wanna date him but it’s very possible that he just thinks I’m not interested cause I keep talking very negatively about relationships (it’s cause I’m very afraid cause my ex bf was abusive and toxic). There’s no reason why the guy I’m sleeping with would not be interested in a relationship specifically with me, he’s not a toxic guy at all and he’s sweet to me in a natural way.

I’m not sure if I should tell him tho. It’s very possible that he feels the same way and would be open to something more. I wouldn’t even be embarrassed if he says no, I think telling your genuine feelings is importantly but the problem is if he declines I can’t see him anymore after that, the power dynamic would be way off and I wouldn’t be able to enjoy myself anymore. And I really don’t wanna be forced to give up amazing sex like this but if I tell him I like him and he says he only wants sex then I just can’t do it anymore.

Would you guys risk it?

I (18M) had an argument with my girlfriend (18F) about homosexuality. She believes Christian ideas that homosexuality is a sin, although she does not push it onto other people and would still respect gay people and be friends with them, despite having this view. I said that in my opinion having those views are homophobic and it made her really upset. It’s really difficult for me to understand these views. It feels scary knowing that the person closest to me has such different and views that can cause harm to other people. I don’t know what to do because I really love her and don’t want to break up. I want to try to make it work, but our differences are hard and make me worried.

Can I dm someone screenshots of my Tinder and get some advice on what I need to change?

So I've (25f) recently been seeing my ex bf (28m) again after about 8 months apart, we agreed we would see each other non-exclusively to see where things go as we try to figure out the idea of getting back together.

We just agreed to be exclusive the other day, and I don't know why but I felt compelled to check his phone. There were quite a few girls in there (maybe 3 or 4) with flirty and complimentary messages / clearly people he was seeing or wanted to see especially when he's out, but it was technically all before we agreed on exclusivity (about a week ago), so I suppose it's fair? I guess in my mind I was stupidly hoping even while we were seeing each other non-exclusively he would just be focused on me? Is that a ridiculous thought? I admitted I did this and he was obviously upset but said none of those girls were anything serious or had emotional connections with and that he loved me and wanted to continue moving forward and reminded me that we only agreed recently to just see each other. He's a very good looking guy and gets lots of attention, and I just feel like I'll always be keeping some kind of eye out because I know when he's single he likes to see multiple people.

I feel like I've seen people (mostly men) before they start dating someone exclusively rush to hook-up with others before they sort of lose the freedom? But I haven't really felt like I wanted to do that...random thoughts here and there but I feel more committed to the future than he is?

Am I being irrational?

M(24) and my partner F(29) had been talking intimately for 7 months in the past. We had taken a 3 month break and have now been rekindling for about 2 months.

Backround information: My Partner is an Online Streamer, and is fairly popular with an audience of over 11K subscriptions. Her content is casual conversation, nothing explicit; all friendly and she's friends with a few of her Male Viewers off the stream as well. (Texting, phone calls, social medias)

Story: Tonight during a phone call, she was expressing her feelings to me, about one of her male friends and how appreciative she is that she feels she can be so close with him. She expressed examples of crying otp for hours with him, him helping her sort out emotional problems she was having, has financially helped her out handfuls of times(whether she's needed it or not), they often have phone calls (nothing intimate, just Friendly from what I truly believe) She continued to say things such as " friends name is so beautiful, his soul, heart, just beautiful" and she'd say "we love friends name don't we?" As she's playing with her 3mo nephew. The last thing I remember she said was that her "other guy friends hate friends name so much." And I asked if she puts this friend on a pedestal around them and she said "yes"..I expressed that's why her other male friends may not like him.. She said other things as well but nothing I'm able to clearly quote, but her expressing about him did go on for a little over 5 minutes tonight. It just sounded as if she was praising him.

My thoughts: I expressed to her, that I felt a little uncomfortable hearing about how much she loved, cared, and appreciated this other man (even though it was only as a friend). I said I was happy for her as well, that it's important to have a strong connection with friends, just felt uncomfortable about how strong her expression was I suppose.

In return she expressed, that she only meant it all as a friend. She then mentioned that she does tell all these other men in her stream that we are in a relationship. To end the conversation she mentioned I was being a little petty.

I guess I came here to see if anyone thinks my emotions are justified? Or if I was truly being petty? . Much appreciated in advance.

** TL;DR; ** Long Story Short, On the phone tonight, my partner(F) spent a bit talking about one specific male friend of hers and how much she "appreciates, loves, and cares for him" she talked about examples and stories they shared etc. Sounded like she was more than praising him. I said it made me uncomfortable hearing about it for as long as it was, and she called me petty. Are My emotions justified?

We known each other for 12 years and I value our friendship very much. She broke up with her ex last November and we started to see each other almost every day since then.

For the past 2-3 months I’ve started to fall in love with her. Issue is, we are very different people. She is an extroverted, emotionally mature, career oriented woman that knows exactly what she wants from her life. I am introvert with diagnosed alexithymia which makes processing and expressing emotions way harder for me. I don’t think I was ever in love before and I wasn’t in a serious relationship either. Our friendship is great, we tell each other things we don’t tell anyone else, she helped me become more extroverted and better at showing emotions, we talk every day and we have a lot of opinions and other things in common, she got me into tennis and I got her into football. I am afraid of ruining our friendship and losing her by confessing that I am in love with her. I’m not sure she is interested in me romantically either because of me being bad with emotions.

I would love to just keep her as a friend in my life forever however I have something inside me that just shouts tell her or I’ll regret it for the rest of my life. How should I proceed in this situation ?

my gf and i started long distance relationship 2 years ago and it has been always long distance, 2 months back after a trip.. I started feeling that she has created distance from me, she will not call much , she stopped video calling , if i will call she will talk for some time and go after sometime saying she is busy or watching movie or series, she will not spend much time with me , but she will spend time with her friends , she will go out with her friends, she will do office work, and she will spend time with family,

i asked her to give me daily 30 min but she confessed she does not feel like talking to me , if she will talk then it will be like forcing her , or like faking it , she does not reciprocate my feelings... sometimes says it makes her cringe or gives ickiness, she is honest with me t think, if her friends will call she will immediately be ready for any trip or weekend with them but for me i have to take appointment or she will never say yes or no easily , she will think first then she will decide, and

when i say i am not happy and i want to break up , she says she cant break up with me , she cant imagine herself with anyone else, she is fully dependent on me, sl i am the only person in her life, she already lost her dad but cant loose me, she keep crying for this,

she cant even take break she says, daily she keep saying i love you but doesn't like my lovey dovey things, she likes long distance she says, sometimes my love for her feels overwhelming for her,

she planned a trip with her girls group on my relationship anniversary, she forgot about the date and said yes to them, when i said i was waiting for this day to spend time with on video calls , give you flowers, gift she said sorry many times that she forgot and agreed for a trip, later she said she will try to cancel , i said go now as i will feel guilt,

she says does not know why she does not feel like talking to me and she wants to talk when she wants and also ask me to talk when i want,

... she starts crying when i talk about breakup.. she says she will never find better than me ..she keeps saying sorry for everything and feel guilty but will not do anything about it

i am compromising on my needs but dont know what to do , what is happening how to approach this