I remember I had a class with a girl two years ago, and while she was nice, she didn’t really care for me. We would talk every here and there, but nothing much besides a few convos and stuff about school work. I could probably count the number of times we talked on my hand. I followed her on Insta because I thought she was nice, but she never followed me back so I unadded her and left it at that.

Next year happens and I almost forget about her since I didn’t have any classes with her. Then this school year happened and I had another class with her, but for the first semester it was kinda just the same as it was two years ago where I didn’t really talk to her.

Then a few months ago, all of the sudden, I notice that she requested to follow me on Insta. I accepted her request, I requested to follow her again, and she accepted it this time. While we still didn’t really talk much after that, when we did, our convos shifted a lot less about schoolwork and more on other stuff. For example, I remember I saw her at prom and she asked me about if I was having fun and stuff like that. She also added me on Snapchat when we got put in a group chat for the Senior prank like a week ago.

Well today is her birthday, so I wished her a happy bday on snap and she replied saying “thank you sm 🙏💗💕"

Im just confused on where this shift came from. I don’t wanna say that she likes me because that’s kinda egotistical to think, but if she does, then why didn’t she express it earlier? I look almost exactly like I did two years ago (same hair, still have acne, same height, same teeth, etc), I just look slightly older but no glowup or anything like that so I don’t think she would have any reason to develop a crush on me out of the blue. We also didn’t really talk so its not like she likes my personality either.

If it’s not a crush, then why did she become more friendly?

First of all I wanna say by large cities I mean places like Toronto , Nyc and LA

Maybe you’ll get more in a large city but dates are completely pointless . Also quality of your dates is gonna be lower in a large city , girls are also gonna be far less attractive

Personally I get more matches in Regina and Victoria than I do in Toronto (far more attractive btw)

But the funny thing is I’ve met guys waaayyy more attractive than I am who struggle with dating in Toronto these guys would never struggle in small cities

I am in my first relationship since my husband passed. I wouldn’t even call it a relationship though it’s so confusing. Navigating through the grief and a new relationship is hard. This guy provides so much love, support, and is everything I need in a partner, and he’s great with my kids. My struggle right now is a huge lack of sexual attraction. I am not attracted to him in that way, and don’t have an interest in being intimate with him. I don’t have the feeling of wanting to with him all the time like I did with my late husband. Is this a reason to end the relationship with him?

My (F21) best friend (M21) and i have been in a lot of situations throughout our friendship that makes me question "are these normal things that close friends do? or is this more than that?"

but most recently, this happened.
I made a bet with him about something. i've become somewhat of a coffee addict within the past year, and he realized it before i did after seeing me everyday at uni. he would always nag at me to stop drinking so much coffee, and that it was bad for my overall health, anxiety, etc.
eventually he made a bet out of it, and i've been feeling a lot better health-wise, so thanks to him for that!

just yesterday though, he caught me breaking the bet with another coffee. we were joking around about it; he kept teasing me saying that he can't trust me, and making jokes like that about it. then he took it in a different direction, telling me that i can't lie to my partner about things and to be honest, or else they won't trust me. he kept going on about that. I told him teasingly (but still with some truth to it) that he wasn't my partner and that I could lie to him as much as I wanted. All he had to say was "oh, well it works with friendships too, but in relationships..." and kept going on about relationships.

I keep thinking about this. Any thoughts? we are just close friends, and this isn't the first time that his actions make me question if these are normal things for a friend to do. He also insists that he isn't interested in me, even though he has admitted that when we first met he was interested. Ah, it's all so confusing...

Going on a first date tomorrow with a girl I matched with on a dating app.

I figured out that she blocked me from viewing her instagram stories today.

Obviously I’m taking this as she’s going to post something she doesn’t want me seeing.

Is tomorrow even worth going through with or am I overthinking?

Is it worth it to wait until the right moment to make a hinge profile? The "right moment" for me is graduating college, getting a solid job, dressing better, getting more fit, and becoming the person I want to be.

I feel like I'm going to improve so much in the next year or two, so is it even worth it to make an online dating profile right now? I'd love to meet someone right now, but it's not really easy in person.

Am I just wasting time if I waited?

I’ll try and sum this up the best I can. Known this woman for a long time as friends. I’ve always had a crush on her. Recently we’ve been hanging out more often and it’s been going well. she has openly told me she could see the possibility of a relationship forming but wants to take it slow. It’s been 2 months of “slow”. The most physical touch has been some cuddling while watching a movie and sleeping in the same bed a couple times but no funny business. She rarely texts asking about my day. Never makes a move first. Not even a kiss yet. I just can’t catch her vibe. We hang out frequently and tend to have a blast, but more so as best friends which sucks because I definitely have feelings for her. Do I keep making an effort to be in a relationship with her or make the leap and except that it may be a case of a very good friendship? (And I’ve been open with my feelings towards her and her response is always “I just wanna take things slow there is no need to rush things”) TIA for any advice on my next moves.

Hello all, me and this girl met on tinder like a month ago, started dating as of 2 1/2 weeks ago and things have been going good, she had become more attached than I, and we recently starting hooking up more casually. I told her on 2 occasions that there COULD be something in the future, but that I don't care for exclusivity or anything and talked about us being purely casual. I still want to get to know her for at least a couple more months before I even consider a fully commitied relationship (Just learning from old mistakes) we talked about it, and she says we are on the same page, but I feel like shes quickly getting attached to me, and that we might not be on the same page fully, and Im not sure how to properly communicate that I want a situationship right now. Any Help?

I have been using clit toys for a while and never had an issue until now. I haven’t had sex regularly for some time and in the past 3 months started dating someone where we have sex 3 times a week, sometimes multiple times.

My clitoris has become so numb to the point it takes me forever to get off and I am feeling very little sensation. I’m really not sure what to do but this is very bothersome :( I’m 35

So there’s this girl I work with who I’ve always liked for a long time. After a few months of me working with her, I started to try and talk to her more and more and attempt to get to know her. I eventually built the courage to ask for her number and told her that I’d actually liked her, to which she said she didn’t date coworkers, but gave me her snap. (This happed over 6 months ago).

I respected her and have never asked her again on the subject. I know I can’t make everyone like. But what hurts me is that since then, we have barely ever talked at all. I feel like she just avoids me now. It sucks. I was still trying to be friends with her but every time I talk to her the conversation lasts no longer than a minute and she walks away.

So at that point I just stopped talking to her at all, and she has since never initiated any conversations with me, unless she is asking me for a work related favor like to help her grab something. I got so mad after a few months of this that I just removed her on snap, because we have never texted and basically stopped talking in person. I don’t know if she has even noticed or not, but she has never said anything to me about it.

For context she’s a really friendly girl and is generally extroverted and outgoing.

The only thing she does is say hi to me, and then never talk to me the rest of the shift . It just hurts my ego so much, seeing her literally talk to everyone else including my friends, but not me.

Like yes I get it, she is showing clear signs of disinterest, but I feel like it’s worse than that, she won’t even treat me like a friend at all and I didn’t even do anything. It’s like damn did me asking for her number bother her that much, am I that bad?

I’m hurt because I feel like I made myself vulnerable to this girl and now all she does is ignore me, and now I’m feeling not good enough. I’ve never had someone avoid me like that and it drives me crazy.

Obviously I want to move on but the more she acts like she doesn’t care about me the more it hurts my ego and makes me want her still.

i (20f) am going on dates with (almost24m), i really like him hes a really good guy hes definitely mildly shy. But he straight up never tells me you look pretty or any compliment. He doesn’t need to gas me up, but a little bit of telling me he thinks i look good sometimes would be nice. it just makes it feel like we are friends hanging out.

So my coworker her and I started around the same time a year ago and we don't usually end up working together but probably 2-4 times a month she will come in during one of my shifts or I go in during her shifts and yesterday she came in and ended up staying for a few minutes which she usually doesn't do and it's the 2nd time I have seen her in about two months due to vacation and she stayed for about 10 minutes and she mentioned she was single and her bf and her broke up about 3 months ago could this be a sign she likes me or am I overthinking it? We didn't talk about how my trip went since we had discussed that last time we talked. I was thinking trying to get her phone number next week during one of her shifts. (Not sure if it matters but we are both 17)

Three weeks ago, I attended a Laser Game gathering with friends where I met a girl. She was really nice, but we didn't get a chance to speak much. Afterwards, I reached out to her on Discord, and we talked a lot for the first two weeks. It seemed like she was genuinely interested in me. She's single and lives alone, but 400 kilometers away. We discovered many common interests, and she even asked for my Instagram and Snapchat. However, after two weeks, the intensity of our messages dropped to zero. Initially, she mentioned having a long day at the office, and I suggested we try playing the game "It Takes Two" to have some one-on-one time, as we had only played games in groups before. She also mentioned going for massages due to some leg problems. I offered to cancel the game if she had less time now, but she said time wouldn't be a problem and mentioned visiting her parents over the weekend. I'm a bit confused now. On one hand, we're still planning to play the game together and have a chance to speak alone, but on the other hand, she's not replying to my DMs. I haven't sent her more DMs after the first one, as I don't want to bother her during her weekend with her family. Could she have lost interest, or does she just want to enjoy her weekend? She still sends me a few Snaps and likes some of my Stories on IG, and I've seen her active a few times on Discord. What should I do, and what are the chances that she's interested in me?

I met this girl on the train the other day and we struck up a conversation and we talked all the way to her stop and we exchanged instagrams.

We talked for a while and then exchanged phone numbers. We ended up hanging out last week and ended up hanging out this week with her friends (who was a girl).

we spent almost the entire time together and we were talking nearly the entire time. She seemed pretty reciprocative in terms of wanting to do more things together but i dont want to read too much into it if she sees me just as a friend.

last week when we hung out, she kept saying stuff like "we should do this" "we should do that" etc.

if you were in my shoes how would you interpret this ? please ask more questions to me to clarify haha

im 25 shes 26

How is anyone else dealing with this

I never know finding love was this complicated

19M talking to 19F

ive been talking to this girl on hinge, we had a small chat on there saying how we're both interested in eachother and asked about eachothers days etc.

Then, I asked for her number. I got the number and asked when she is free so we can setup a date. We talk a bit about the meetup time and place and agreed to the date. Then, she asks me how im doing again etc. Shes seems interested asking about why I started the sport im in and my career choice.

The date isn't for 3 more days though, im just wondering how often I should text her before our date. I don't want her to think im not interested by not texting her, but I also don't want bland texts or make her uninterested by texting her.

Not sure if I should just wait for her texts, or just ask her how her day has been going. I like the check in like once a day, but we havent had a first date yet so I don't want to come off as needy.

I am currently seeing this guy and we’ve been on 6 dates. He has told me he wants a committed relationship. He had paid for the first 5 dates, and had given me a gift, which were all dinners and movies, all of which I politely thanked him. This week, he said he would like to lay low on spending much on succeeding dates this month as he is behind bills. He thinks he should let me know beforehand that he was 30k in debt, so I would know what I’m signing up for should things work out between us. He spends a lot on outdoorsy stuff, pot, and for his truck, thus the reason why he is in debt.

I paid for the 6th date. I felt really bad as I never thought about taking advantage of him. I was under the impression that he wanted to pay as a way of pursuing me. And ever since, his texts have been dry. He would ask me how my day was, and if I got home, but wouldn’t message the succeeding hours. I am not sure if he is afraid dating me would cost much more, or that he just lost interest, or found someone else.

I honestly wouldn’t mind chipping in for the next dates too, and told him we can always split the bill. But ever since that date, he hasn’t been texting well. We have dates planned every week. We are not official yet.

Not sure if I’m over analyzing things or maybe he just moved on?

TL;DR: After date 6 he had said he is in bad debt. Felt bad and now he’s been texting dry.

So I was texting and talking with a girl in my office. I had feelings for her and confessed it even after knowing that she has a long distance boyfriend. After three weeks she ghosted me on WhatsApp citing that she doesn't want to give me false hopes and blocked me. After some calls she unblocked me but strictly instructed not to text hereafter. I followed her on Instagram after this and she too followed back. With the same instruction of not to text or interact with her posts. Recently the calls seemed so formal and unwelcoming. She often cuts off the call citing work or something and doesn't call back. I couldn't stop calling her even though it is humiliating and bad. I used to post songs and such on Instagram stories, she used to like some of them. Why is she doing that? What conundrum have I gotten myself into? What can I read from this? How to get out of it?

I've been dating this guy going on three months, but have known him for about two years. When he was single he definitely was the type to follow a lot of models, go to parties and really be on the scene. He was a model and in the creative industry so likely met a lot of beautiful women.

He was in a six year relationship three years ago and then wanted to explore himself, which I completely understand after all of that commitment and it never bothered me before. So I get wanting to "sew his wild oats" and I've tried to be sex positive and not really judge. However, I'm realizing he definitely hit on a lot of women - some of which I know - nobody i'm close friends with (i couldn't do that)However living in Los Angeles in a somewhat smaller creative community, I keep stumbling across women in the same scene that he's liked their photos in the past and some while we were probably a month into dating. He's since stopped, but it makes me wonder "why was he liking some girls photo in a bikini the same weekend he told me he loved me".

I don't want to be insecure or judge him and since then we've discussed social media etc and he isn't actively liking anyones photos now and I understand we were 'dating' at that time, however, I'm finding myself as we get closer maybe judging or getting frustrated at the fact that I'm dating someone a lot of women can say "he liked my photos, he tried to get with me" and I don't know how that makes me feel. Maybe pings of embarrassment and not feeling as special.

For reference, he's tried to date me on a serious level for about two years. He's been very intentional and respectful with me and I feel incredibly compatible with him and he's been open to feedback and doing things that make me feel secure. I also mentioned how I'm not into a guy i'm dating liking sexual photos of women and he stopped - so he's open to feedback and incredibly attentive.

I dated one guy who dated women who were famous and a lot of models and it didn't bother me - maybe because he didn't have instagram. But most of my past exes i've dated seriously didn't have as vast of a sexual past and I feel like I want to avoid shaming someone and am looking for any advice on if this is an incompatibility or something I can handle. I know he's a man in his prime and attractive and we both are in a creative 'scene' where we meet a lot of people, but I kind of wish I was dating someone not a lot of people know and it wouldn't be a problem - but I don't want to self sabotage an otherwise good thing.

He wasn't a sex addict or anything crazy and probably flirted with more women than he actually slept with, but still I'm finding some unease come up and I want to get over it. Today I stopped following him on instagram, I don't think he'll notice, but mostly so I don't see if he's "liked" another girls photo in the past if I catch myself scrolling on someones page and thought that could help.

But I also don't want his feelings to be hurt by that and he posts me often on his close friends (so I know he really likes me), but as a temporary fix. I know everyone has a past and I'm a little upset at myself for even feeling this way.

M 33, Bi

She (32, Straight) & I matched on Tinder back in April, messaged for a couple weeks and then she surprised me with her number. The converstation then migrated over to texting.

After another week, we met up for a first date --- I even met her dog, she's cool. It seemed to have gone well 'cause we agreed to see each other again when our schedules lined up.

She even invited me to come over to her workplace where I enjoyed a couple bowls of the soup-of-the-day and a cider. We couldn't talk much, but I was glad.

Something that crossed my mind after hanging out there: her co-workers now knew who I am. And I speculated they may have given their input on me as I sat quietly, sipping on soup and cider while windowshopping on craigalist for rentals.

Another week of daily texting and she simply stops responding. I'm somewhat saddened, but remind myself this is normal for me (I don't feel very likable or attractive, but I like to remain optimistic) and that I shouldn't let it get me down.

I specualted this: one of her co-workers may have recognized me from Grindr and divulged to her about me being Bi and that made her lose interest. Silly, yes; but possible. If that's the case, I should have listed it on my profile so as to not appear deceptive and saved our time. If not, oh well. People lose interest all the time. We are, afterall, walking options.

Another thing: my friends who I showed her picture to all told me not to settle for her. That I could do better. That she didn't look 32, but instead was probably in her 40's. None have asked how our talking stage is going after the first date, but I bet they'd be glad to know she basically has initiated ghosting. I just know they'll talk shit. What are friends for, afterall?

I know she could simply be super busy, it just hurts a little. If anything, I hope nothing's bad happened.

TLDR: Have a crush on work colleague and not sure if I should initiate a discussion with her about it or keep it to myself?

Hi Everyone. About 2 months back, I (24,M) recommended A (23,F) to a position at my work place where she started her first day and we are in the same team. A bit of background, we have been friends for about 2 years (but more in a group/social setting) seeing each other once in every few months. As you can imagine, seeing each other almost everyday at work, travelling and staying together during a work trip and being the only 2 people of similar ages at work, our friendship and bonding developed a fair bit.

About 3 weeks back, A and her BF of 3 years broke up because A kissed a guy she knew for a few seconds while drunk (is this a red flag? lol. She admits its her fault and their relationship was crumbling as well with the guy being at fault too). She didn't have anyone to confind to she told me everything and we would spend a fair bit of time together after work and weekends with me listening and providing advice if needed and if not just hanging out and talking about different things. Some of these outings were like going to the beach and walking/talking, seeing sunsets, going to gardens and cafes.

During those hangouts, I was starting to notice that I was admiring her and maybe starting to develop feelings (studies show men tend to develop emotional attachments from going through stressful/struggling moments together, who would have thought? *facepalm*). On top of that, our interaction at work is such that work colleagues keep asking me if we are dating or thinking about it cause we look "cute" and "good" together. They insist she has a thing for me but is confused in maybe reciprocating to me. I think she's very nice and receptive with me. She initiates most of the convos and phonecalls between us.

The above got me to always thinking about her the last week or so and it's sort of eating me that we are not "together". It's that feeling you get when you know you can't date your crush (idk how else to explain). Instead of rotting in those feelings, I thought I should at least bring it up to her so that we both clearly know whats happening and no one leads anyone on. If she has some feelings and needs time, we could potentially look at dating later, if not, at least I can try and move on.

Anyways, 1 hour before planning to discuss with her (like a conversation, not confess), she found out her pet passed away and was heartbroken so no way we were gonna discuss obviously.

She has had a rough 3 weeks since the breakup so, I am not sure if I should discuss with her soon keeping her mindstate in my mind. But, at the same time the later I confess, I suspect the more feelings I will develop for her which will of course complicate things (and make it hard for me!). I also potentially think that it may not be a "crush" but it might just be me bonding with the only single girl I know in-person after 3-4 years (but I do like her presence and her as a person).

So what should I do:

1. Discuss with her in a couple of weeks time when things settle down?

2. Keep it to myself to avoid potentially ruining friendship and complicating work (I am not too worried about working together tbh)?

3. Keep it to myself but just slowly avoid the 1-on-1 hangouts so I can try and move on (seems counter-intuative if I don't follow 1 then?)

4. Anything else?

Thank you for reading. I apologies for the long write-up, emotions are so hard to control and think through sometimes FFS.

I (20F) have never had a boyfriend nor have I ever come close to having one. I have always been okay with this because I’ve always felt like my female friendships offered all the love I needed. Recently, so many of my friends have been getting into relationships and I feel so behind. I’ve been on the apps since the day I turned 18 and I have been on countless first dates (occasionally seconds but that’s it) that have never led anywhere. I feel like I’ve never truly liked a guy either which concerns me. I’m also very tall (5’10) which makes it that much harder since (as much as I want to) I am genuinely unable to be attracted to a man shorter than me. I’m starting to freak out as I’m now the last one of basically all of my friends to never have had any romantic experiences and I don’t know what to do. The apps don’t seem to be working and I work and go to school in a basically all female environment. It honestly hurts at the end of the day because I feel pretty unlovable. I’ve always been content on my own and appreciated being single but now that my friends are going on double dates and having couples nights without me, the pain is honestly kinda horrible. If you guys have any advice please lmk because crying myself to sleep these past few weeks has not been the vibe🩷

Just curious to know, since women outnumber men in college or university enrolments, and there tends to be more graduates that are women than men, would it be easier for male university students to find a date and get a girlfriend. Because from most of the articles I've read online about dating, it says that most women refuse to date men that are less educated than them, this also includes men working in trade jobs such as construction (where majority of those people are men). And since there are also men with college/university degrees that have a high level of education, would that mean they have an easier time finding a date than men working in trades where there's only a few women, and additionally having a much more easier time than women with college/university degrees since more women are in college than men which makes those women having fewer men to choose from?

I feel like this is so stupid to ask but as the days pass me by and i have not had a single girl text me or anything i feel very pathetic, i am 21 a virgin. i need advice how to pick up women, should i set up dates or try to be a friend, should i ask out 100 girls or wait for one that actually likes me, im very confused on what i should do. i approached 5 girls all flaked i dont know what i want or what to do

We met on Tinder and saw each other five times throughout last November and December. He mentioned early on that he's likely to leave the country at the end of the year and is looking for something temporary but exclusive. I was looking for something long term and I really liked him so I insisted that we don't have sex. He was okay with this and said that we can keep seeing each other until I make up my mind. With that being said, I did give him oral sex during the fifth and last time I saw him. After this, we were planning to see each other the following week but it never happened because he said that he got sick. Eventually, he texted me saying that he wants a step back as his work wasn't going as expected. We both wished each other well and I told him to text me if he ever feels like he's up for it again. I did, however, see him on tinder a less than a week later, with an updated profile.

Today, four months later, I randomly ran into him (we work close to each other) and he walked towards me and we walked together and had a very formal and platonic conversation. He mentioned that he's not sure anymore about leaving the country but it is still likely and that he's having some difficulties with his work (so maybe he wasn't totally lying). At the end, I said he it was nice seeing you and he quickly said "you too" and left right away. It's not that I was expecting a hug but I just felt like he hated me.

Overall, I've been feeling extremely sad about the whole interaction. I feel like I should've made up my mind earlier and dated him even for a while because I really like him because it seems like he got tired of waiting for sex. I've been thinking about texting him but I had deleted his number. I saw his profile on Hinge, but I just don't want risk looking desperate or a stalker. Is there even a point of initiating contact?

I’ve been sleeping with someone for the past 3 months. We went into this with the understanding it is casual and will not lead to a full fledged relationship. For the first two months, we saw each other about once a week and texted throughout the week. Over the past three weeks his texts have been less consistent and we’ve only seen each other once. The thing is he still pops up to check in here or there and we’ve both been traveling so I can’t tell if it’s fizzling or just life. I’m considering sending him the note below, but I’m hesitant because we are so casual, thoughts?

“I’ve so enjoyed hanging out with you. Something fun, consistent and low commitment was exactly what I needed.

I’ve been feeling anxious recently that you’re no longer interested seeing me consistently and too nice to say any thing directly. So if you have been trying to let things fizzle I’m wildly embarrassed I was so dense. I just need some clarity on how you are feeling. 🙈😳🤦🏻‍♀️”

My boyfriend and i went shopping today to get stuff for the week like usual. As we were shopping one of his old crushes saw him and came to say hi. My boyfriend has always been a very respectful person which i’ve always adored. They spoke for a few minutes, he introduced me to her, he asked her how her career is going and left it at that. As we began walking away she said “ I wish i could’ve reacted and done something differently”, he responded “what’s done is done, not worth thinking about”

On the way back home from the store i asked him about the end of that conversation. He told me that she liked him and apparently made it obvious but he didn’t read those signs, he liked her too, she caught on but he was the shy guy and never took a shot. He then went on to say that she began doing weird things to try and get him to approach her, she confessed to this.

I’m kind of disturbed by this interaction, it didn’t seem to deep but it left some uncomfortable feelings. We’ve been together for a little more than a year, i trust him, but again it left an unsettling feeling.

Is this a reasonable feeling? Or does this warrant a further talk with my bf?

He’s 30 and I’m turning 26 next month. He’s literally the hottest guy I’ve been with and he’s the only person who’s made me squirt in bed. He lives on the other side of the country and has a son in the state he moved to but he’s not with the mom. He said he’ll be visiting soon… should I see him again or leave it all in the past???

I (31m) have spent a lot of time trying to better myself as a person. I work hard at my job, I workout for mental and physical health, I eat right, I work on my children's books in hopes for a career someday. All this effort I've put into these things made me realize today; I need to put the same amount of effort into dating.

I've tried online dating and needless to say it's been dreadful and never seems to work. I don't drink, so going to the bars/clubs isn't worth my time. And my friends tell me that I'm too good for their friends, whatever that means.

What advice would you give me when trying to further my ability to find someone to marry? I'm not a hookup guy so any advice I appreciate, but I doubt would be put to use.

Much appreciated to anyone who answers!