Alright for some context, we’re both 26 and went to HS together. I’m also into a lot of nerdy stuff and I like to perform magic tricks. This is kind of important context.

We weren’t really friends in HS but we talked occasionally in this one class over our shared love of Billy Joel and Spider-Man.

She also asked me to dance with her during Homecoming.

I was actually going to ask her out but waited too long and she started dating this other guy and they dated into college. We stayed acquaintances through HS though but we didn’t really talk at all in college.

Within the last two years or so, we started talking more. She asked me for some input on a screenplay she’s writing about a magician. She also kind of inexplicably added me to her close friends story on instagram even though we were never really that close.

We also met up at a party with other high school friends and she basically immediately walked up to me.

Anyway, yesterday we were chatting a bit about random stuff and I posted this graphic saying that the top 5 most unattractive hobbies for men are video games, action figures, magic tricks, gambling, and trolling.

She liked my story and replied saying that the graphic is funny because she finds most of those hobbies attractive because she’s into nerds.

She told me she was a drunk yapper and I told her if I get drunk enough I’ll start rambling about LOTR lore.

She said “HAHAHAHA. thats so cool wtf. I love it.”

She also said it sounds fun to listen to me drunk yap, even if LOTR is the topic.

I jokingly said we could yap to each other next time she’s in town.

She said “PERF. We’ll need to go to a bar or something though because I need a drink to access that part of my brain”

Is she flirting or just being friendly?

Sometimes I feel like my dating standards are impossibly high just because one of them is that I want my partner to think I'm gorgeous.

I really feel like l'm asking a lot cause of it.

Sometimes I think I should just date whoever is willing to date me.

I (25F) have recently started seeing someone (27 M) and it’s been going really well. We have made our relationship exclusive and see each other once or twice a week. We both really seem to like each other.

The only thing is that he works and is in school, while I work remotely. This means that a lot of the time 4-5 hours will go by before he responds and I get so anxious during this time. I never let him know or double text because he’s not ignoring me, he really is just busy. Often times he will call me on his way home which I really appreciate too. I guess I have just been burned so many times in previous relationships that I can’t help but convince myself he’s ignoring me or over me. Does anyone have any advice? I try to keep busy, but a lot of the time my anxiety is so strong I can’t do anything but wait.

I’m really attracted to goth women but I don’t understand how to find them, I never run into them in the wild it’s like I only see them on places like tinder, what do I do? also I don’t really know how to attract one for the life of me

Hi,

I’ve (25m) been seeing a woman (25f) since October who makes me so happy however she is an international student from America here for uni. She said she wants to explore potential relationships she may have while experiencing the Liverpool night life. I feel like I love this girl and I feel she has strong feelings for me too however I don’t want to ruin things by asking her to go exclusively and her start resenting me cause she can’t fully enjoy her time here. We have done weekend away to Scotland and day trip to Chester for my birthday but I don’t want to lose her by asking to go exclusive

Ok, i've (27) been dating this girl (28) since the start of December, and recently asked her to become my GF this past weekend.

We had a bumpy start while dating, it took her just over a month to admit to me that her "flatmate" who she lives with, is actually her ex who she broke up with (was with for 3 years). I nearly walked, nearly, but something kept me around.

Now she's got a very different understanding of boundries than i'm used to. My ex and I (long distance mostly) were quite tight with ours, no getting too drunk around the opposite sex, FT every night to sleep, no 1-on-1 meets with the opposite sex, sending chats and pics of what you were up to and who you're with when you're out, keeping eachothers location shared on our phones. I'm aware this is all pretty excesive, but it worked. Having been cheated on a couple times in my life, this all helped me and my ex feel at ease.

Now with my current GF, she has plenty of guy friends, she's even confessed that she cheated once in her life when she was a teen. She see's alot of these types of things as overbearing and too much, and i can completely see her point... i'm trying to re-adapt to a normal, trusting relationship... but i'm really struggling, and she knows i am. We communicate great and she tries to reassure me constantly, but the feeling of "what if" in the back of my mind wont go away! My anxiety is through the roof when she's out or not replying and I can't stop imagining all sorts of scenarios where she's cheating.

When i'm together with her, i want to do everything to her, and besides her not being upfront about still living with her ex, she's never given me a reason not to trust her... is this something I need to deal with and process, or am I being an absolute idiot... I really like her man...

I (20M) have started going on dates with a girl I met on Bumble (19F). On the first date things were great, we clicked and held hands throughout the date, which I don’t do often, so it was special to me. Two things that threw me off were that she had a missing front tooth (she didn’t smile on her pictures) and she never mentioned it, not even in the date. We only got to talk about it because a child came up to us and asked what she had in her mouth, and kept insisting she had something, so when the kid left I asked her, “so… what did happen?” and she said she fell off a bycicle but didn’t really elaborate and seemed nervous about it. It’s important to note she has braces and said she would get a surgery next month. Also, when the date ended, she asked if we were “something”, so that she could “stop talking to other guys”, I assume she was asking me if we were going to be exclusive, I said sure, but I told her that she should just let it be and not force it, because I felt like her asking this was kind of fast. I’m not really a superficial person, but it did sort of annoy me she never mentioned anything about her tooth, and that she uses a lot of filters in her pictures. But I’m willing to let this slide because of our connection. Anyway, in our second date, everything was going great, and I asked her if we could kiss, she said it was “too fast”, but I felt the vibe that she still wanted to anyway. So I asked later when we were cuddling in a blanket I set up in the park and after a bit of hesitance she kissed me, and she told me afterward that she did want it all along. Anyway, we were leaving and I was dropping her off when she dropped 3 atomic bombs on me.

1: She said “what if we get matching tattoos” 2: Told me “what if we made a blood pact to stay together” (We had a funny conversation earlier on blood pacts with the devil) 3: She said “Would it be too intense for me to tell you I love you?”

I wanted to ignore these things but the more I thought about it the more it scared me. Keep in mind this is ONLY the second DATE. I even told my friends about this and all of them said that I should block her immediately.

Oh also, I posted a cute picture of our shadows on my close friends, and she got slightly mad that I didn’t post her on public because she said she was scared I was hiding her from someone or something. (She had this issue with an ex). The reason I didn’t post her on public (And I shouldn’t even have posted her on cf in the first place) is that I think that’s for when things get serious and official.

Still, dumbass me wants to give her the benefit of the doubt, and told her directly that these three things were too intense. She tried to excuse it by telling me the tattoo and pact were jokes, and that she perceives love differently, and that if she knows what she wants she won’t doubt on saying it. In the end she agreed that she would wait for me to post her on public until we were official, and she said she wasn’t actually mad. But also she tried to bring up that if she’s intense i’m intense too because we “kissed on the second date” which to me is completely normal and not something out of the ordinary.

We already had a date planned soon, and she says that she wants me to come eat at a restaurant with her parents, she said that even her parents wanted to. I feel like things are moving too fast, and that there are several signs here that are telling me to run away, but in a way I really do feel connected to her, and if she keeps going to the psychologist as she is right now, I’m thinking maybe these things could be fixed…? Maybe I’m a fool but that’s why I’m asking on here. What should I do?

First date coming up with a girl I met on hinge. We chatted a bit about her dog, should I bring a toy for him or is that weird?

So I (21M) just had to completely cut off this girl (20F) I was seeing for the past two months, and I feel like I’m losing my mind. I know I did the right thing, but the emotional whiplash is insane. Just need to get this all out.

We met in late November, and everything escalated pretty fast in the best way possible. We were spending a lot of time together—going on real dates, deep convos, insane physical chemistry, even little domestic things like showering together and spending the night regularly. She introduced me to her friends, her mom, and even held my arm in public. Romantic, couply things.

After about three weeks (so like early December--yes I know kind of fast but I'm a person that knows what they want and when you spend that much intimate time together it makes me really feel like we're going somewhere), I asked her to be exclusive. She said she wasn’t ready yet, that she wanted to be sure of who she was dating before locking anything in. I respected that, but it left me in this weird limbo where we were doing everything like a relationship, but without the security of one.

She went to school an hour and a half away and this was during her Thanksgiving and Christmas break. Her mom's place is in my city and is thus going to be there every time she's on break (and just whenever she wants to come down). But before she left she told me that she only had eyes for me and we saw each other pretty much every single day she was on break. I was her New Year’s kiss (we spent ALL of New Year's together including going on a cute sushi date), and she was texting me every day—never dry, always engaged. It genuinely felt like we were headed toward something real. She also told me she wasn't seeing anybody else and neither was I. We also shared pretty intimate details about our life and the way she handled my traumatic stories was unlike anyone I've ever met.

Then she went back to school (only an hour and a half away from me), and everything was fine. We made plans to see each other two weekends after she went back. I told her before she left that I was down to put in the effort and she said she was as well. We texted consistently and there was never a real lull.

Two weekends ago, she made the hour-and-a-half trip to my place, and honestly I knew I wanted her to be my girlfriend. I understood she was at school and there's a big party scene in college, but as a recent graduate even while I was in college if the connection was strong enough I would have had no problem dropping all that to be in a healthy, fulfilling relationship.

So, I asked her the Friday she got here. She was genuinely SHOCKED that I wanted her to be my girlfriend. Literally said "I did not expect that at all." Following that, it was 15 minutes of pondering and hesitation, trying to spit out the words when it all came down to her not being able to do it because of the distance. She also "just" got out of a 3-year relationship. 7 months ago. Come on. So I didnt even know what to do. We hooked up a bunch that night and she came over Saturday (I tried to act like it didnt bother me) and spent the night as well. But the morning after I woke up with her next to me on Sunday and I just felt devastated. I couldn't even process how someone could be that intimate and let me open up as much as I did without an iota of realization that I wanted something more.

That morning she asked me what color I wanted her nails to be. She then said something about the creatine on my nightstand and was like "You're such a man." To which I replied, "You're such a confusing girl." A few minutes after she said she should probably get going. I walked her to her car, gave her kisses goodbye, and have never reached out since. Neither has she.

Two days ago she posted on her Close Friends story (which I'm still on) a picture of her drinking with a song from an artist I put her on to. Seemingly trying to get some reaction out of me. I unfollowed her and removed her as a follower.

I'm not cut out for this situationship shit. I saw real potential here and it just is all so crazy to me how someone can't develop feelings when we act like a couple. I understand the distance but I told her multiple times I would make it work and she literally CAME DOWN TO SEE ME for a weekend already. That's why I was so sure about asking her because she was clearly trying to make it work too.

It just sucks because I know I wasn’t delusional—she was showing every sign of being serious about me. And yet, when it came down to it, she still chose to keep me as an option rather than commit. So yea. Let me know your guys' thoughts I just had to get this all out.

Ok, i've (27) been dating this girl (28) since the start of December, and recently asked her to become my GF this past weekend.

We had a bumpy start while dating, it took her just over a month to admit to me that her "flatmate" who she lives with, is actually her ex who she broke up with (was with for 3 years). I nearly walked there and then, nearly, but something kept me around, i really really like her.

Now she's got a very different understanding of boundries than i'm used to. My ex and I (long distance mostly) were quite tight with ours, no getting too drunk around the opposite sex, FT every night to sleep, no 1-on-1 meets with the opposite sex, sending chats and pics of what you were up to and who you're with when you're out, keeping eachothers location shared on our phones, etc. I'm aware this is all pretty excesive, but it worked. Having been cheated on a couple times in my life, this all helped me and my ex feel at ease and never have these types of anxieties throughout our relationship.

Now with my current GF, she has plenty of guy friends, she's even confessed that she cheated once in her life when she was a teen. She see's alot of these types of things as overbearing and too much, and i can completely see her point... i'm trying to re-adapt to a normal, trusting relationship... but i'm really struggling, and she knows i am. We communicate great and she tries to reassure me constantly, but the feeling of "what if" in the back of my mind wont go away! My anxiety is through the roof when she's out or not replying and I can't stop imagining all sorts of scenarios where she's cheating.

When i'm together with her, i want to do everything i can to make her happy, im genuinely falling for her. Besides her not being upfront about still living with her ex, she's never given me a reason not to trust her... is this something I need to deal with and process, or am I being an absolute idiot... fuck, i really like her man...

Hey, I’m 18yo (gay) and looking to find a guy I can date and settle down with. I’ve always wanted to find love and get married quick, I rlly want someone with like some good money. How do I find him, age hasn’t ever been a problem really as long as they aren’t like anything more than 10 years older than me

So me (M23) and my GF (F20) are going through a pretty rough patch. We've only been dating for 2 months and I keep fucking up, and she seems like she's given up. It's the plain single word responses, me trying to talk to her but nothing. She doesn't even message me first or call me first it's me doing everything. She's the first person I've genuinely loved in years and I want this to work. The main cause is her not trusting me since I didn't want to block a good friend of mine whom is also my ex. I did block her but she knows I have other friends, almost exclusively only Instagram/Snapchat friends whom I've also ghosted, that I've had things with in the past as well. I don't want to lose her, and she doesn't want to lose me (or at least I don't think she does) but we cannot keep going on like this, it'll kill us.

So anyway, there's the backstory with the main issue, now onto the actual question: I think a break in the relationship can be beneficial for the both of us. We're both going through a stressful part of our lives, her situation is more stressful though the only stress I'm facing is a once fullfilling job becoming unfulfilling (normal mundane work stuff think we all know it) and my driver's licence being suspended soon, I'm a car guy so it's a big deal for me. Her situation is much worse though, she's moving out, starting a new job plus she has 2 horses that's being taken to a new agistment place. I don't know how to initiate a break in the relationship though, don't know if it's right or how to go about it, what rules to set and how to figure out what and how to work on issues, yet alone starting the conversation. I'm scared if I say I want a break she'll take it that I want to see other people, which I don't want to or she'll straight up dump me. My licence suspension could serve as the timeframe for the break (likely 3 months) since without my licence it's tricky seeing her

Thanks in advance

How would you handle a new relationship if you just lost your job?

Hi everyone. I(30F) had been dating this guy (28M) for 2 months. He was amazing. We had a special connection and shared the same faith, values, humor. It was truly rare and we both knew it. However, he recently lost his job. The day he found out, he shut down and questioning if he should be in the relationship bc he knows he won’t be able to give everything he knows he could give since he will be stressed having to “build his life back up. We eventually we talked it out that night. He cried in front of me and I just allowed him to be sad and told him how worthy and incredible he was and how we will get through this. He mentioned how he feels like he was maybe just self-sabotaging earlier. He said he has never been able to be that vulnerable before and thanked me a million times for being there. He told me before he left that I was truly the calm in his storm and he was so thankful for me.

Then the next day, he ended things with me essentially saying he knows he can’t invest what I deserve in the relationship right now. I told him I’d rather be there for him and get 50% of him than not have him at all and that this is what relationships are all about. He was tearing up over the phone and said his heart is aching over this. He said he still wants to keep in touch and if in a month or something I am open to reconnecting then he wants that but thanked me for simply showing him there are girls like me out there and a connection like this was even possible. And honestly that just hurt me even more. I just don’t understand why he did what he did. I even asked if he thought going through this without would help him when we talked Sunday and he said “no it would make it so much harder”. So I just am so confused and really could use a man’s perspective right now and if he is thinking about me or will come back.

I have a few people who are interested in me, and me them. I am struggling to decide who to give my time to. I feel connected to all of them, and have a great deal of openness in conversation with all of them. Some are more physically my type than others and we share more similar interests, but I’m trying to not let that influence my decision.

How can you tell if a connection is meant to be platonic or more?

Me 18F and my boyfriend 18M have been dating for a year now at the start of our relationship he had been really sweet always interested in just talking to me he then started getting a little more distant not talking to me as much not answering calls his location turning off for hours, I trust in him that he’s not cheating or cheated but idk he seems disinterested in us anymore we just argue about little things and he says it’s my fault but we’re only ever arguing because I expressed how his actions and behavior were hurting me somehow he turns it back on me and says I’m manipulating him or guilt tripping him he even compared me to his ex who wasn’t an amazing person . I don’t know what to do at this point I don’t want to leave him but I don’t want to keep getting hurt P.s. he’s only sweet and caring when he’s over or getting some :( Should I just keep trying to make it work? Please someone give me advice

I’m 21M for context. One person (21F) I matched with on hinge and the other (19F) is a friend of mine. I’m going on a date with the girl from hinge tomorrow and with my friend in 2 weeks.

I know there’s nothing wrong with it because they’re both first dates so there’s obviously no commitment yet, but I tend to overthink and I dread the idea of potentially having to let one of them down, especially if I end up letting down my friend.

Would like to know how people navigate such situations in a healthy way.

So I asked a guy, who I think is really cute, if he would like to meet sometime and he agreed, which made me happy. Now, after we actually talked and went for a walk, I‘m super confused: He’s super nice, has the lifestyle, humour, aesthetic and personality I look for in a partner. I also like his plans for the future. Well, we looked each other often in the eyes and smiled BUT I still got the feeling that it wasn't on a partnership level, more like a friendship and honestly that was what I thought at the end and my intuition tells me he probably thinks the same. We are alike and share same interests so I don’t know why I’m not happy right now and think it won’t work out- He is what I always thought I like and I still like. Is it normal to only find out about basics and the daily life of each other at the first „meeting“? Is it normal to feel this kind of devastation? I can’t tell why I’m not content. Why am I not fully in love or thinking „Nah this is not it“ ? Is there a chance we will get closer? We didn’t plan a second meeting together but we kinda see each other daily and that’s kind of what he said „See you next week“ (I mean we saw each other before without knowing anything about the other one) For me this feels like „friendship-level“. So what am I supposed to do? Wait until I can think clear again? Find someone else who is similar but makes me feel different?

8 years together. A promise of family and marriage and in the end we fell apart anyway.

My (28F) partner (34M) reassured my worries almost daily. I was so worried he was putting off kids and I would ask him frequently if he was still interested in having them. He was always a bit ambivalent about them even from the start but assured me that when the time was right, we could start trying.

In the 8 years we’ve been together, he’s come up with every excuse in the book. Here are some of the excuses he told me.

1. We are too young, we’ll try in 2 years
2. We haven’t travelled enough, we’ll try when we come back
3. I have a really important exam coming up, I won’t be able to focus
4. Your health isn’t good enough to start carrying children yet (digestive issues that resolved after 8 months)
5. Our relationship has problems, we can’t bring children into this. Let’s go to counselling
6. Our sex life is not where it should be, we couldn’t live like this forever. Let’s fix this first
7. We need to get genetic testing done first, the comprehensive test
8. I need 3 months to think about this, I’m afraid of doing this right now. We can try in 3 months if I decide it’s the right thing to do

On their own, each excuse has some merit and are generally pretty reasonable. However, I realised they were just excuses and he actually had no intention of having kids with me.

When the day finally came and I took my contraceptive out (IUD), he said he couldn’t do it.

I jumped through every hoop. I gave him the benefit of the doubt. This is something that he knew was so important to me and my biological clock couldn’t wait for him any longer.

I packed up my bags and left.

I feel so hopeless as I need time to heal but in the back of my mind, I can’t stop thinking about how my clock is ticking and I need to start again with someone new so I could have children with them.

I hope someone learns from this experience. I wish I grew a backbone earlier so I wouldn’t feel so stressed about this now.

TLDR; my partners words didn’t match his actions. He promised children but never had any intention of having them.

Hello. I never thought I would ask the internet for advice about dating, but here we go. Well, I’m a 28-year-old male living in Eastern Europe. I got divorced in August 2023. My ex-wife asked for a divorce while I was on a long work trip in Asia. We tried to fix things, but eventually realized that she had lost her feelings for me. So, goodbye to 2 years of marriage and 8 years of relationship. The reasons? A lack of intimacy, and she always wished I had a better physique and more money than I did at the time (I was working in SMM back then).

Fast forward to June 2024. I’ve gained some experience in hookups and have worked on improving myself. Now, I have a better-paying job and work exclusively from home. Feeling lonely, I decided to try Tinder. One day, I matched with a cute girl who’s 25. We chatted for about three days and then went on a date. We discovered we have many common interests: a love for cats, old crime movies, video games, similar senses of humor, and food preferences. She also likes my physique, and we’re very compatible in bed. So much so that we couldn’t stay away from each other and started meeting every 3-5 days, sometimes even daily.

She told me that her cat was in poor health, and she was very worried about it. I understood her concerns and brought her some treats every time we met. The cat has cancer and diabetes.

This went on for about three months. In September, she suddenly said that we should break up. She explained that she felt bad and thought she would “break” me because she had never been loved or cared for as much as I loved and cared for her, and she felt she couldn’t reciprocate that level of love. We talked for two hours and eventually decided it was just an impulsive decision driven by fear.

In October, she moved in with me, and everything was amazing. But after about 30 days, she started feeling very down, possibly depressed. She said she felt guilty about not taking care of her cat and wanted to go back home. I accepted her decision. Two days later, she said she wanted to break up again. We talked for a while, and she admitted it was an impulsive reaction because her mother was pressuring her about “who would take care of the cat.” I suggested bringing the cat to my place, but since the cat is very old, she worried it would die sooner if moved.

So, she moved out in November, but we continued dating after work and on weekends. Things were going well. But 30 days later? Yep, she said she wanted to break up again. We talked, and she confessed that she loved me more than anyone else and that it was just her bad mood influencing her.

December came. On the 28th of December, she decided to break up again. I felt terrible and asked her to talk privately. She came over to pick up some of her things. While she was on her way, she told me to pack her bags. I did. She took everything, put it in boxes, and when I handed her the repaired GBA (Game Boy Advance), she burst into tears. She tried to kiss me multiple times, but I firmly said no. Then her mood shifted to aggressive, then she tried to be nice, and finally, she attempted to undress and initiate sex. I still said no.

She broke down into the saddest, loudest tears I’ve ever heard. My heart shattered, so we talked, I made her tea, and tried to comfort her. She fell asleep on my lap. In the morning, she apologized for her impulses and admitted that she might have some psychological issues. She mentioned that her previous psychologist couldn’t help her. She thinks she has anger issues and is an introvert with an extremely avoidant personality type.

I suggested she go to therapy and offered to accompany her. At first, she refused, but then she agreed. During that conversation, she also said that she sees me as a good man and wants me to be her husband. She even mentioned wanting a baby in two or three years.

Deep down, I understand her and feel for her. But after all the back-and-forth, the constant “I want to break up” moments, I’m starting to fear for my own well-being. I’m afraid that my feelings for her are being worn down by all this instability. I’ve heard “You should dump me, I’m a bad person” from her so many times. I’ve also started having trouble sleeping.

Today… guess what, dear readers? We were supposed to spend some time together. But during breakfast, I mentioned that I wanted to travel a little. She became furious, saying that she was letting me travel alone on my vacation because she wanted to save money for a wedding. I replied that saving for a wedding is a nice goal, but I needed some rest this year after not taking any vacations in 2024.

She told me that we have different ways of thinking and that she needed time to figure things out. An hour later, she said she wouldn’t come over and would just sleep.

And now, I don’t know what to do. When I think about marrying her, especially when she’s in a good mood, those days feel like miracles. We’re happy. But when I remember the bad days, her mood swings, her loud cries, and all the emotional turmoil… I feel empty. I don’t like this duality of emotions. It feels like an emotional roller coaster, maybe even emotional abuse. This doesn’t seem like a good foundation for a healthy marriage.

So, I need advice. What are my options? If it’s a breakup, how do I do it in the best way possible? If not, what can I do to improve the situation?

I am (32M) and only just recently lost my virginity by paying for it. I planned on paying for it ten times but after doing it once, I figured it wouldn’t be worth it. I now at least know what to do, but I also know it won’t erase my past.

I’ve been rejected 100s of times in the past, thrown out of bars and nightclubs for shooting my shot too many times, reported at work for flirting, and lost 2 lifelong female friends after I shot my shot with them. Most men I know don’t even have the balls to ask out more than one woman a year and, well I obviously do. But I also know the line between bravery and stupidity.

All in all, I’m wondering if it’s gonna be smarter to wait for a woman to make the first move even though it’s apparently quite rare.

I’m in Phoenix for a week and I saw this gorgeous woman and wanted to see if she wanted to go out with me tonight. I initiated conversation and immediately found out that she only speaks Spanish. And I only speak English. I had to use google translate to talk to her and I asked her out on a date and surprisingly she said yes. I honestly wasn’t expecting the yea but hey, I got it. Soooo what do I do? Where do I take her? Should I start learning Spanish right now? I need your help guys!!!!

I’ve been trying to use dating apps for a couple weeks now. And have no idea what works on what. I’m seeing themes on different ones, hinge, match, tinder, and I’m so confused. I don’t want hookups, does anyone know why that’s not hookup? Dating online is so hard haha

We know each other since almost a year now. When we met he was just out of a long relationship and i was moving to a different city as well. But we never stopped talking. We were constantly in touch and i thought it will stop one day. His life literally went upside down in the last year and he seems to be doing better now. On the other hand, a lot of things are going wrong for me professionally and personally and i have sort of built expectations for him, which just seems not fair. I am just really confused. Should i stop talking to him or continue whatever we have. I don’t really think he likes me, he is just very hot and cold (more cold) but i constantly ask as to why he hasn’t stopped talking. What should i even do

I (m,35) was just dumped 3 weeks ago by my gf after 2,5 years out of the blue. Inwas thinking about how im ever gonna date at my age again. I know this might Sound stupid but hear me out: Im quite shy with people i dont know, introvert and really "nerdy", i like things like Video games, pokemon cards, warhammer, anime. I also do other stuff like going to the gym, hanging out with friends etc.

The problem i see is, the most women my age wouldnt want someone with my interests or if, dont do any of them with me together. My last gf was really into almost everthing i did, and it was great.

Another thing, most woman in this age already have kids, which is a instant no from me. I dont want kids, and especially not kids from another dude. Been there, done that, never again.

I know about dating Apps, but thb i never got a relationship out of Apps, most of the time it was from mutual friends/accident. But my friend circle is not that big, and all people there are too young or already taken.

So how did you guys do dating as nerds in your 30s? Any advice, Tips or experiences?

Ok so there is this guy I’ve been talking to but haven’t met in person yet. He’s an attractive guy and I want to see him in person but he keeps sending me these god awful duck faced selfies like almost EVERY single time on Snapchat 😭 almost makes me not even want to meet up with him I swear. I can’t even comment and say he looks cute because he doesn’t! What should I say to him or should I just not say anything at all? He’s 24 male I’m 31 female.

So as the title suggests, I have had 2 serious relationships and both of them always loved or atleast respected me that is what I think. The last one I broke up with was because of long distance and he used to lie to me about the smallest of things and I can’t really stand lies so broke it off. After that I took my time and then when I was ready/better I started to look on dating apps, met a few guys and talked to them, went out with them but eventually every single one of them just made me feel like the only thing they like in me is my body, I mean I have a lot of body dysmorphia because I used to be very thin and then I gained a lot of weight and yk became one of the chubby/thick girl (as I have thyroid and obviously a lot of stress). I have major anxiety issues and I tend to isolate a lot, so it’s just whenever I need some sort of emotional support, men run away and I mean I can’t really communicate well because all the times I did, it results in a very weird conversation and I get it it’s too much bs for someone. But I really think I’m not just made to be lusted over. Idk what to do about it

I’ve (22F) been in a long distance situationship with this man (28M) for a year and a half (on and off though). I just completely removed him from my life a few months ago without any word and thought that was it. Then 2 months ago he came back and I told him how his communication bothered me and he apologised and promised to change and it did kind of get better.

We text everyday, not 24/7 but a few texts here and there throughout the day. Thing is he checks off every single box of mine and has everything I’ve ever wanted in a man except for the fact that he’s always traveling for work. I also never caught feelings for anyone this way. I really don’t know what to do now, I’m very attached to him and I’m scared to not have him in my life. Ive been thinking about just telling him how I feel and that because of that I don’t think we should keep talking but I genuinely just cannot send this text. Every time I think about doing it I just can’t and I don’t know what to do I’m stuck in this cycle.

If you’re kissing/making out with someone that has facial hair, specifically a mustache, does it get in your mouth? When you lock onto their top lip, it seems like the hair would get in your mouth.

I went on a date with a goth girl recently, and while it started a bit awkwardly (she seems to prefer taller guys and big cars; I'm neither tall nor do I drive a big car), the day ended up going really well. We spent 6-7 hours together, talking and getting along great.

At the end of the date, I was tired and needed to drive 3 hours back home. She had already mentioned she doesn't bring guys home on the first date, but she seemed genuinely upset when I decided to leave. I respected her rule and suggested we look forward to our next date instead.

We planned for the following weekend since she had to work the next one. Throughout the week, our conversations were good, and we discussed potential plans for our next outing. However, a few days before our scheduled date, her responses became less frequent and colder than usual (which, admittedly, is her style). Then, two days before we were supposed to meet, she texted saying she was "kinda sick" and didn't want to meet up.

I wished her well for a quick recovery, but she hasn't mentioned rescheduling.

So i guess im wondering..:

Was her sickness an excuse, or should I take it at face value?

What should my next steps be?

So me and my so of 7 year rcently went indoor skydiving and got into a conversation of if it would be a first date.

My point is that you get to see them under pressure and see how they react in a new environment.

Her point is SCARY, and alot of pressure for a first date.