My bf and I have been in a rut for the past couple of months. We had a huge argument last night because of me. I need advice on what to do. I’d rather talk to someone older and has been in a long relationship with their partner because I think I’m the problem and it’s the lack of experience

So, I have this offer now in a prestige sport which is volleyball but I'm now working as an Accountant and I don't know if I can be able to risk my job for my happiness, anyone can give me some advice?

For high school we go to an elementary school every Thursday and hang out with an assigned buddy. Before winter break my buddy was just an average hyper little boy who was a little troublesome but mostly manageable.

During Winter Break his dad passed away unexpectedly. I was heartbroken for him and his teacher told me he would tell me on his own time (he told me as soon as I got there). He was his normal self the first time but the second time I came to visit he had a breakdown when it was time for me to leave.

After he broke down his personality changed. He started acting out and not listening to me. He became overall rude and he would only listen if he got what he wanted. I had to physically block him and pick him up because he was so persistent.

Last time I was supposed to go I decided to stay back and help the teacher with someone and I asked my classmates to take him with them because that’s what always happens when someone doesn’t come to the elementary school. Honestly the main reason I stayed was because my buddy was stressing me out and causing problems. I felt terrible but I also wasn’t sure I could go without lashing out at him or just leaving him in his class.

When the other students got back from the elementary school some looked irritated and angry. I asked why and it was because of my buddy. They informed me he was tackling other students, punching and pulling the hair of my classmates, was completely uncontrollable, and overall a pain.

I wasn’t sure if it was because I wasn’t there and he got mad or if it’s just getting worse. I feel so terrible but I don’t know how to put up with it. He truly is an amazing kid and I know it’s so hard for him right now and I want to help him all I can but the more he acts out the harder it is. I don’t know how to support him or how to at least stop him from hurting other kids.

I’m sort of mad that my classmates let that happen and then continued to let my buddy play with them. He should’ve been sent back to class no matter the excuse. I do feel terrible and I know the only reason he’s lashing out is because of his father.

I plan to tell him he’ll be in big trouble if he hurts any kids again next time I see him but I don’t know if he’ll listen.

Any advice?

I'm just stressed and overwhelmed by everything lately.
All of my time goes on keeping up with my studies, and I have no life outside of this. I barely have time to hit my daily step goal which is only 4k currently.
I have so much more in life I want to do but I have zero energy or time left. I barely feel like I have enough time to keep on top of my papers.
Everything feels meaningless and not worthwhile anymore.

i won’t elaborate much as it’s extremely personal information, but my sister has shown all of the symptoms of being drugged. what the heck do i do

Hey, there! I’m currently in college and I’ve begun to notice a personality shift. For most of my life, I’ve been relatively quiet. However, now I’m in a setting where I actively talk to more and more people, which is honestly great for me! However, I’m beginning to notice my social awkwardness. For whatever reason, I simple cannot be the individual that I am when I’m by myself. Any tips?

Just to preface this, this is the first break up I’ve ever had. I had a fiancé at 16 and he was the first person I’d ever dated, but he got into a bad accident and died a month after proposing to me after we were together since we were 12. (I miss you Frankie!!!)

When I first met my ex, I wasn’t even looking to date. I told myself I wouldn’t date after my fiancé died, but things happened and I got with my ex anyway. We were together for almost 2 years before my ex decided they didn’t want to be with me anymore. It felt sort of sudden, but I wasn’t really the best boyfriend. I struggle with addiction and schizophrenia on top of many other things, so I don’t blame them for leaving me.

But I just don’t know what to do now. I text them hoping they’ll at least acknowledge me. I had a suicidal breakdown at them the other night, which I feel horribly fucking guilty about. They were one of the 3 people I had and now they’re gone. I don’t know what to do honestly. This is the first break up I’ve had and it was with someone who I saw actually going places with. I’m sort of miserable about it now. It’s constantly in the back of my mind. I’m sort of clinging to them even though it’s bad for both of us. What do I do now? How do I let them go when I still love them? How do I stop being so damn clingy?

I was dating a girl I met on Reddit, for about two months. Went to see her in her state and everything. Met the family. Met the mom. The whole deal I did it. I visited her for her birthday, and two days later she broke up with me over a misunderstanding. I gifted her a diamond necklace with a heart in it and crystal earrings. She is now posting pictures on Reddit continuing to wear that jewelry. Do women tend to wear jewelry after broken up? Or can it mean something more? For context I love her immensely, she left me over a misunderstanding and blocked me on everything. Today I texted her number didn’t know it was unblocked. She read my message. And then blocked me again. Couple hours later she posted a selfie on Reddit with the diamond necklace on and earrings on. I am just tryna see if there is any hope for me? Or is this just something normal like the jewelry means nothing more than jewelry to her. I really do love her. I miss her. I wish she would just talk to me once 😔

I (25M) went out to dinner w/ (25F) & then back to her place.. I think the night went awesome. But then again I’m not her so idk what exactly is in her mind, but I believe she had a great time as well 🤪. I texted her goodnight after I left her place at like 2am, but haven’t texted her since then (date was Friday night, now it’s Sunday night). I wanted to not be overly texty since before this girl, I met another girl & was texting a lot, & things seemed to give way pretty quick. This girl said she’s going away next week on a mini self-vaca, & was thinking about doing this:

Im prob going out with friends this week, so im thinking about hitting her up when im out & a little tipsy, & telling her i told my friends about her. She’s going with the flow with things, not really caring about whether she wants short or long term. I think that’d be a perfect time to get back to her place.

I wanna see her again because she’s hot af, but I wanna play it relaxed this time & not seem overly obsessed with her. I hate this waiting game, but it seems necessary to do. Any thoughts ?

I have found some things out about my sisters husband and reported it. Fast forward to today it seems like nothing is going to happen to him and he's a monster.

I feel like of he doesn't go to prison, I am going to go to the press about what type of person he really is. My sister won't leave him, and he's dangerous so I feel like taking it to the press will maybe get him to leave or be further investigated for his crimes. Including possible child sa.

Would that be dumb of me? Should I let it go and hope that everything plays out ?

Me and my girlfriend are both 35 and we live with our 13m son and our five year old dog who I will call Sassy. Today I was cleaning my 13m son's room (he has ADHD and is quite messy) and saw a stash of papers in his desk. Being nosey, I couldn't help but take a look. It was around a dozen hand drawn pornographic drawings depicting an anthropomorphic dog woman naked, in a bikini, as a stripper, posing, or with a cameltoe - it was unmistakenly depicting Sassy as she is a distinctive and rare breed AND her name was written on it. There also seemed to be "biological stains" (if you know what I mean) on some of them.

My son is a good kid, is bright, and has friends but has recently had what I call an "incel" phase, as he always complains about not having a girlfriend, and me and my GF's advice doesn't seem to help (we were both virgins until our 20s). I don't see him committing any unspeakable acts on Sassy, but I'm concerned where this is going as I know kids internet is extremely weird nowadays, even compared to my own time. If he's a furry, I'm fine with that, but I'm disturbed he'd have such fantasies about a family member. Me and my GF are debating whether to intervene and if so, how. Would love a third opinion.

Hi everyone. I find myself in need of guidance regarding a particularly troublesome client scenario. Allow me to elaborate: Since the onset of our professional relationship, this client has been consistently rude. Despite investing over 13 hours of dedicated training and support, her demands for additional assistance persist unabated.

During our training sessions, the client displays a notable lack of engagement, often expressing dissatisfaction with the product's performance without making a concerted effort to absorb the material provided. Despite my efforts to facilitate self-directed learning by supplying supplementary materials, they have shown no inclination to utilize these resources, citing a lack of time.

Compounding the issue is the client's disregard for my schedule and other professional obligations. When I am forced to prioritize other appointments, they react with hostility and disrespect, making it clear that their needs supersede any other commitments I may have.

This ongoing dynamic has taken a toll on my mental and physical well-being, leaving me feeling drained and frustrated. Despite my best efforts to maintain professionalism and accommodate the client's demands, it has become increasingly apparent that their behavior is unacceptable.

Any advice or insights would be greatly appreciated.

I’ve self-sabotaged every opportunity I’ve had of being in relationships, so I’ve been single all my life. I’m working on it in therapy but I’m far from being out of the woods, frankly I doubt I’ll ever overcome my fears (of abandonment, intimacy, commitment) but I’m trying to project myself anyway and I wonder what issues my lack of past experiences might cause when/if I eventually get a girlfriend.

I guess what I’m really asking is what are things that you learned through your past “failed” relationships that you got to use to improve your following relationships?

TL;DR: I’ve never been in a relationship and am looking for advice on things I must expect to struggle with in a first relation due to my lack of experience.

Hey I'm 17 year old female I have some things going on at home that I think is slightly affecting me and I could use someone to talk/vent to preferably someone older. Dm me

Okay so I (20F) am in college with this guy (21M) and his now ex-gf (21F). I was friends with this guy for a while, and we would flirt all the time, but nothing ever happened between us. He has a reputation for being a player and I never really saw myself pursuing anything more than that because of the way he generally acts around women/other people. At the beginning of this school year it was even more intense though, with him going as far as saying things like I was the “prettiest girl on campus” and “the only one he felt this way about” just generally talking about a connection between the two of us. I played along for a while, but never initiated anything and I maintained the level of flirtation that we had previously established. I eventually made the decision to tell him I didn’t want anything to continue because I wasn’t sure I wanted anything more with him and to say I’d like to just be friends. I went to go talk to him about it and he ended up saying something about this other girl that he had just started seeing. This was a bit of a relief for me if I’m honest, but it definitely rubbed me the wrong way as far as this other girl was concerned. Little did I know the trouble coming my way.

Anyway, I was interacting with him less and not flirting with him at all anymore. Because obviously I wouldn’t want to be doing that if he was seeing someone. I guess he took that to mean that I was mad at him though because a few weeks later at a party he pulled me outside in the dark to talk and asked to talk about the whole situation. I told him I was totally fine, if not a bit relieved, and he came back with “well I’m not really fine” and basically ended up telling me that he had really strong feelings for me and that this girl he was dating was “just something he was trying” and that it was “the feelings for this girl were the ones he was less sure of than those for me” and that he had to “avoid me because when he saw me he wanted me.” Obviously I’m floored, I basically tell him I didn’t care about how he felt, asked him what he wanted me to do with this information and told him I didn’t have any feelings for him.

I was really mad that he brought me back into a situation that I didn’t want to be a part of, and I considered him selfish for doing what he did. I ended up talking to a mutual friend about the situation, and this friend said that he had told her about his feelings for me before they started dating, so I knew she knew about me.

Over the next couple days, the news started getting around the program about what had happened, some from my side and some from his. It came to my attention that he had told his GF that I was “really upset that they were together” and that that was why he talked to me. Maybe that is what he thought, but he definitely didn’t tell her about the part where I said I was totally fine, then he started running his mouth.

I ended up texting the GF, since I didn’t know her very well, and said that I was really happy that they were together and that I was honestly upset that he brought me into a situation I had already stepped out of. I also told her if she wanted to hear everything he had said to me, I would tell her, but only if she asked. She thanked me for reaching out, but didn’t ask to hear what he said, so I didn’t tell her at the time.

Fast forward a couple months and I haven’t so much as even looked in this guy’s direction. We have a couple classes together, so he obviously noticed, but I’m not about to be interacting with him with any semblance of normalcy because 1. I have respect for people’s relationships and 2. What he did was weird and creepy. I didn’t want to be around him. He did end up cornering me in the student center one day and, after a few comments about my appearance, he did apologize and ask me to stop ignoring him. I agreed, but made it pretty clear that we were not going to be friends, and I did not tell him that what he did was okay. There was one more incident where he literally called me pretty in font of her, and I have continued to be cold with him since. He’s the kind of guy who is used to everything working out for him all the time, so I’m sure this threw him for a loop.

Cut to this semester. I’m seeing someone whom I absolutely adore, and who knows about this whole situation. I also have a class with the then-GF of the aforementioned dickhead. Turns out she’s super sweet, funny, smart, and talented in our field on top of being absolutely gorgeous (In other words, she’s too good for him). You would think she would be e one to break up with him, no? But you’d be wrong. He broke up with her last week because he “couldn’t be in a relationship” which is super funny because they had literally been in a relationship for five months at this point. She was a at a party I was also at this weekend and she said that they “still love each other, he’s just being a child” and on top of that she’s trying to keep the breakup pretty quiet. All of this tells me that she’s hoping they’ll get back together.

So I guess the question I have is: Should I try to tell her what he said to me again, in hopes that she recognizes that he sucks and can do much better? Or should I just stay out of it? Part of me is saying that if she wants to get back together with him, it’s her choice, I shouldn’t involve myself again, but another part of me really doesn’t want to see another amazing woman with a shitty boyfriend who clearly doesn’t treat her right.

Honestly I would tell her in a heartbeat if I wasn’t so afraid of:

1. Hurting her feelings and
2. Making her think I’m after him (or something along those lines)

The person I’m currently dating thinks it’s a good idea to tell her, and obviously the fact that I’m with them exclusively has to make some sort of difference, but I also don’t know the narrative the shitty BF has been feeding her. Any advice would be appreciated. Am I just overthinking this?

This post will probably come across as insensitive and uninformed but bear with me.

I'm a bisexual guy who's had a couple gay experiences in the past, but just swapping oral and JO. Today I agreed to meet with this femme who wanted to eat my ass and suck me off.

In between eating me out, they also started pushing their dick against my asshole, which I didn't notice at first, thinking it was just fingers. They asked to fuck me, to which I said no - so we ended up swapping oral, they swallowed me and also came while blowing me, and that's that.

I texted them after that I wished they asked about fucking me before meeting because it took me by surprise. Anyway, my main concern was the risk of HIV, obviously we didn't use protection. They did tell me they were negative for everything and on prep.

I truly believe that I'm blowing this completely out of proportion after looking up the stats for one-act bottoming transmission rates for an HIV-positive top (between 1-2%) and the rates for oral transmission (basically 0%). Add that on to the fact that they said they were negative and they didn't even go inside and I'm probably worried about nothing.

However I won't lie that I'm also very tempted to go to a clinic tomorrow and see a doctor about potentially taking PEP - just in case.

Given everything I've said, do you think pursuing PEP is worth it/a good idea?

(And before anyone says it, yes, this incident has taught me a lot about my own anxiety and risk tolerance - no random hookups for me for a while).

Hey I'm 17 year old female I have some things going on at home that I think is slightly affecting me and I could use someone to talk/vent to preferably someone older. Dm me

I currently live very close to my auntie which is the only family I got. However I have been going through financial problems, I got broke. I lost all my money.

My auntie has a mid autism spectrum and I know I'm the person she is most attached to.

A job opportunity came to me in a different state and I will earn more money than the majority of people make.

I'm thinking about accepting it, the thing is my auntie. She can completely take care of herself and there is people around here who can help her with stuff she might need.

I know she won't accept that, but I'm already grown man and I need money for achieving my goals faster. but I feel bad leaving her cause I know she will be in denial.

What do I do?

Okay so before anyone gets their panties in a wad, I understand that going out is a good way to meet a decent woman…. But everywhere you turn nowadays, they want to hoe around or they want to just party all the time… so where would y’all say the best places are to go, to find decent women. Where have y’all had the most luck? Lol

So I haven’t been to church in a long time. Given that it was Easter today I decided I wanted to give it a try again because I’ve been wanting to go back and I had nothing better to do this morning. For context, I go to school in a tiny southern town, so everyone knows everyone. I figured there would be people that went to my school and people that worked there too. I was already anxious about going by myself not knowing anyone, and the fact I had to walk because my car battery died. It was hot out and I was wearing a cardigan and jeans so I was sweating bad. I get there and my therapist is at the front greeting first timers. We saw each other and gave a quick smile but didn’t talk. Then, ANOTHER therapist I saw over the summer when my therapist was out was also there. He saw me but we didn’t chat either, just a quick “hey, how are you?” type of thing. I don’t know why all this made me so anxious. I left quickly after the service and went back home. I want to continue going, as I liked the service and I think it’s non-denominational (I am non denominational), plus it’s within walking distance. I know this is probably silly but I’m worried at our next session she’ll say it’s a conflict of interest and that I should find another church. Would it be inappropriate for me to go again? Am I making this all up in my head? Thanks.

My ex gf 21 F and me 21 M have recently stopped speaking. We were going out for three years but broke up after I cheated on her.(no need for slander Ik I fucked up). We began talking again nine months later and things were going well again. I was planning on asking her out again. We went out on a date and she told me she was in love with me. The next night she went out for work drinks. Three days later we went to a cafe and she told me she had slept with one of her male colleagues but added that he was very forceful and she felt like she couldn’t say no. In my head that sounded like she was SA,d. She was clearly upset and I comforted her about this. I left for university shortly after this and we’ve kept in contact and things were going well. However she told me three nights ago that she ended up kissing the same male colleague again. I honestly don’t really care about her having done this, however I now feel like she just lied to me originally about being SA’d. Ive expressed this to her and since blocked her. Was this the right thing to do or have I fucked up?

I got a offer for free college through my employer and I am scared of college but I decided to push myself and sign up anyways. I called my dad as I was proud of myself for finally going back to college and I've been looking into what careers I may be interested in lately and he scoffed and told me I was wasting my time with what I signed up for. Am I? I'm second guessing myself.

I need help as I can't decide what is best for this girl and myself. This girl and I have been talking for about 6 months now (online), and we admitted that we liked each other about 4 months ago. However, the problem is that my mental health is down the drain as I suffer from a mental problem, so I told her that I won't be able to get into a relationship in the near future. Now, she has got really, really attached to me, and we speak every single day for a decent amount of time; however, I feel as though I may be restricting her from potentially finding somebody else who will be better for her. The reason I have decided not to pursue a relationship with her is because I don't feel ready for one the way I am. Also, for some weird reason, I feel guilty for even considering it (maybe a mental health problem). Basically, I feel as though it would be better to cut contact, and as a result of an argument and a combination of my and her frustration and guilt, we cut contact for 2 days. So now I am confused about whether it would be better to let her go or keep her in my life. I would like to add that I have told her about my mental health problem and everything, and she said she would still like to stay with me and help me through it regardless, but I feel like she says that only because she just doesn't truly get it. I would also like to add that every time I try and let go of her, she gets extremely anxious and simply refuses to let me go; I know I may sound like an ass here, but my guilt gets the better of me as I don’t feel good for her due to my mental issues and my guilt can even create other sort of intrusive thoughts as a punishment for considering her (I know it’s weird).

Another thing I would like to mention is that I told her that I didn't want to chain her from potentially finding somebody else that would be good for her, so she said I wasn't chaining her, and she would be free to find somebody else even though I don’t think she would actually as she is far too attached to me. Now, this part may sound as though I don't actually want her; however, every time I say that about her finding somebody else, it hurts me as I say that out of guilt. I am sorry it is quite a weird situation, so I would like to ask your opinion on this and whether you think it will be better to separate from her or try to stay regardless of the guilt. Thank you for your suggestions and for taking the time to read this.

I'm 15(male) and when I express my opinion on sexual/romantic topics my friends always question me. When I told them I was uncomfortable with requests or suggestions to draw sexual topics they just asked why. And when I told them who I had a crush on they just judged me. It's crazy how judgmental they were today since today was the nicest I've been to them. I don't want to say anything about it especially considering their "if you don't like it just ignore it" ideology. Should I just stop sharing opinions with them?

Before I start, I just want to say, I trust my gf completely and wholeheartedly, and know she would never ever cheat on me, or play into another man, so respectfully keep those comments to yourself unless they'll be helpful :)

I (M22) have a gf (f21) who enjoys clubbing and going out a lot. She has a habit of drinking or doing this while heavily under the influence, and dressing revealingly. I know she enjoys dancing and going out with her girls, who I as well enjoy to be around. Earlier today she was telling me she's glad I'm not restricting of these things as she likes clubbing and to dress up to herself.

I go with her from time to time, but it's different as I am straightedge and refrain from drugs, and often don't have time because I have to be up at 4 am most days. It just in part scares me because when she's intoxicated she becomes very unaware of her surroundings, and while I don't expect her to ever step outside of our boundaries in our relationship, I'm afraid a man or woman might do something she's uncomfortable with. Especially when she's drunk and can't exactly defend herself.

However I'm afraid to address these concerns because I don't have a solution other than to tell her to stay clear of these clubs, and don't want to do that as she likes it, and I don't want to take away a thing she likes.

Ultimately I know she would give it up if she had to, I just don't want her to have to. Any other solutions or ideas you may have

Edit: we've been together since 17, and she's gone since she was 18. It's a bit more consistent now since she can legally drink, and that brings up my concerns more

Need advice on what jobs I can do from home. I 24M, need to be home to care for Fiancée and Child. Fiancée has a few mental health problems, and has a lot of anxiety attacks and mental breakdowns. Child is 2, almost 3 and is wayyyy too much for her mother to handle, but she does an excellent job caring for her. Despite the anxiety and mental breakdowns. We live in the rural southeast, and I only have experience with Delivery and Construction. I have plenty of beginner knowledge in a wide variety of things due to my adhd.

Any tips or advice? (Fiancée is unable to work, and just took a new job that made my take home pay go from $3000/month to $2000/month to be home more.) Only income with normal bills.

soo, my parents think that i have been going to school for nursing but i really am becoming a CNA. and i am very scared and nervous to tell them the truth since there is a lot of school pressure and judgement that i have experienced.

i did start going to school to become a RN but I fluncked out first semester and ive been up and down since. i have a passion to work in healthcare but i want to be a CNA first and work my way up and i just want to work in the medical field scene. ANY ADVICE on becoming a CNA, telling my parents, and just overall tips.

So I’m confused because of a guy. Last year he told my best friend that he thinks I’m cute several times but never tried to talk to me. After we had one conversation he sent me a girl to ask how do I find him and to ask me whether to sent me a message or not . I said no because I thought that should have done it if he wanted to not waiting for me or by sending another girl. And then my best friend started telling me that they talk and not in a friendly way, the thing is she was in a relationship and the guy talked to her like that when he was drunk or horny I think and she got along with him but even though he talked to her that way he told her that he finds me attractive and he want my snap. This summer he replied to some of my snaps complimenting my eyes or something like that. And this year he tried to talk to me on snap by bringing up our studies but I got bored and didn’t feel like responding so I left him on delivered. When we got back to uni I saw him and he said hi. I don’t know what got into my mind and after telling my other friends about him they told me to give him a chance so I said why not. So I sent him a message and we talked and he said that when he saw my message he said that this is weird because I left him on delivered for 3 weeks and I said that I didn’t mean to I just do that sometimes and then he asked me what are my plans for the weekend but I didn’t see the message right away I was in the shower when I responded he left me on delivered for a week or more and then I saw him and I had to say hi because one of my friends was greeting his friend so I had to do the same and he said are you shy? I didn’t respond because I didn’t understand the day after I went and asked what did he mean he said that he thought that I didn’t want to say hi to him. And then after some time, he sent a snap he was in a restaurant and after 3 hours I went there and I also sent a snap he replied and said that we were playing hide and seek and that if I had told him I’m going there we would have had dinner together I didn’t respond because I didn’t like the fact that he ghosted me for more than a week . And then after another week , I was going down the stairs with my friends,he was in front of me, he saw and hesitated but he said hi, I wanted to have a conversation with but he said hi quickly and he went. So I don’t know if he likes me or not this so messed up and sometimes even childish I don’t know what to do . Even though I want to give him a chance now he doesn’t really know interested

I have a friend that i’ll call A for the sake of this. me and A are both in the same LGBTQ youth group, i’ve know them for around 4 months now and i haven’t gotten much of a vibe that they had a thing for me until a week or 2 ago when they where very obviously flirting with me out of the blue, at first i thought it was a joke but i saw them this weekend during a good friday service that we both came to help with, again they where very flirty and we had plans for me to spend the night at their house after the service, they had already been very very flirty with me. we both got a ride to A’s house after the service by 2 of the volunteers and as a joke during the car ride i was saying some stupid shit and i leaned in a bit close to them and they cut me off by kissing me, in my youth group we aren’t supposed to get romantic with any of the other youth but i didn’t hate it? i was mostly silent the rest of the car ride but A grabbed my hand and held it the rest of the time. not sure how the volunteers didn’t see but i’m kinda glad they didn’t. i’m going to admit that i did make out with A a bit once we got to their house. it was my first time staying over at their house and they ended up falling asleep on me while watching a movie. i’m a bit confused if this means we’re dating or not?

Hello everyone! I want to work in the medical field when I’m older and in my state you can become a CNA (certified nursing assistant) at 16. Additionally, there is a hospital not to far from me which I could volunteer at but I would need to do it weekly for 6 months. Do you guys have any input on which is better to complete first?