My husband told me I’m hard to love.

I’m a 26 year old male I just welcomed my first child into the world this summer and that has been the highlight of my entire life . Shortly after my fiancé at the time had went into postpartum causing us to split and things haven’t been the same since . She’s been very rude to me, indifferent, spiteful ... I would say in November is when I started to lose weight and not really have an interest in eating food, I thought it could have been stress / depression but then I started having extreme back pains. I had a piece of tumor removed from my spine and the biopsy confirms it is cancerous.. do I tell my ex fiancé or do I let her find out in the end ? I got pushed away so much that even if I die I don’t want her trying to love me now out of pity but I also don’t want her to be blindsided by becoming a single mother . The angry side of me says to not tell her but the side of me that still loves her wants to cry in her arms.

I’m sorry if this is confusing or in the wrong group(?) Ive never used reddit before. Like i said in the title, my (18f) girlfriend (18f) keeps falling asleep on me during serious talks. This never used to be an issue before and we always came to a compromise, solution, or made up before going to bed. We’ve been getting into pretty heated arguments lately where usually one or both of us is crying. She keeps falling asleep on me after she gets out everything she wants to say about how she feels but when i express how i feel she’s already asleep and it’s really hurting my feelings because im still crying and left to calm myself down. Before, she would’ve comforted me and stayed up w me. We’ve had multiple talks about it and she keeps apologizing and saying she can’t control it but i feel like she can. I always stay up for her no matter how tired just so we can sleep together without being upset at one another. This time she promised she wouldn’t fall asleep on me anymore and she did just as i was expressing how i felt. I told her if she ever felt tired or like she was falling asleep to tell me so we can continue the conversation the next day but she hasn’t. I feel like she doesn’t care about me anymore. There’s plenty of other factors that insinuates she cares about me but I feel like this makes everything else not matter. Is it valid to feel upset like this over it? I feel like it’s okay to be upset about especially since we talked about it and she hasn’t communicated about feeling tired like we agreed on. It’s just really hurtful because Ive always stayed up for her and i feel like she is comfortable going to sleep knowing im hurting or upset. Has anyone else gone through this? I really don’t want to end things with her, i love her a lot but this has been really hurting me lately. Im honestly looking for reassurance she cares for me but i would like an honest opinion on everything. Any advice would be really helpful and please tell me if i am in the wrong for getting upset about it! If i am any advice on how to move forward or not feel like she doesn’t care would be great. We’ve been together for 2 and a half years and currently long distance so it’s been hard. We usually talk over text as we both have a hard time talking on the phone for clarification.

I 17(f) was mo**ed online for 2 months straight by my first cousin 28(M) and when i would not coperat he would threaten me by saying that he would come to my house ..i can't my parents..i was able to get out the tourture by attempting su*de and i recently came to know that he still stalks me and my friends and is obsessing over me i did threaten him by saying i would get a lawyer but i don't think it's effect is gonna last long and in few months his sister is getting married andi can't miss it..how can i prevent him from approaching me??

I would like some advice regarding the title, here’s some context.

I(25m) recently lost my job (last week) due to my own fault, attendance issues and being sick pushed me over the edge with it. My girlfriend(22f) said she’s okay with it and i don’t think that’s why she broke up with me(three year relationship) and i think it’s just awful timing all around.

I admit, i didn’t do my fair share of the household chores and whatnot within the relationship and it’s no fault but my own for us breaking up. There was no misconduct on either end, she simply had enough with me and i don’t fault her for it.

Our lease is up in march, and i’ve tried to reason and explain with her that we could transition to being roommates as we are both adults and can handle things maturely, but she (understandably) does not want to. She has the option of moving back in with her parents and taking all of her household stuff with her. I’m stressed because i do not have these options. In march, if we do not renew our lease, i will be left without living and hopefully I have a job by then, but it’s not great out there for applications. I’ve sent in dozens of applications and all types of places and haven’t heard back from anyone. Moving back in with my parents is not an option, not just because i don’t want to, but because there is not space for me or any of my belongings i’ve acquired since moving out several years ago. I’ve contacted close friends inquiring about renting a room from them, and nobody has anything available.

I’ve moved several towns away in order to be with her and several hours to be with her while she did her college education and the plan was to be together until the end of time, but somethings just don’t work out how you’d like them to i suppose.

I’m just lost, heartbroken, and confused all the time same time and was wondering if anyone had gone through anything similar? How feasible is it that I can get a decent job and show proof of income to an apartment with less than a two month notice? I’m not only concerned about the apartment part, but also the fact that my entire life has been thrown up into the air with a singular conversation. i’m just lost and need help, please.

Hello everyone, I am looking for insights into my situation, as I cannot get any closure together with my ex.

Me (36F) and him (36M) have been in a long distance relationship for 4 years. Both for me and him this was the best relationship we have had, we both felt that we had a wonderful open communication, our values matched, we had explored our sexuality that brought us closer together, we both shared the vision of being together in the future. We would see each other maybe a couple of months a year and spoke with each other on the phone very regularly. After he got his PhD in the States, we planned that he will move to the country I am in and look for jobs. We would get married so that we could both move back to the States. We planned on having a family.

He finally moves in in August and we are so excited to finally be together. We set the date for the wedding and he starts looking for jobs. We decide to go to Japan as our honeymoon trip, but because of logistical reasons it made sense for us to go before the wedding. We are both really excited for the trip.

We get to Japan and have a great time for the first 10 days. I was, however, very reliant on him in terms of navigation of cities. He lived in big cities all his life and I come from the country with no metro system. He just gets the logistical aspect of travelling and navigating Tokyo much easier than me. He tells me he would like to be more pro-active, but I was still struggling with it. Travelling so far away in a different culture made me anxious. 10 days later, we are back in Tokyo and I develop a horrible travel fatigue. I don't want to get out of bed as I find the outside world too stimulating, I cry lots and have very low self confidence and doom thoughts. This experience shook me and whilst still in bed, I start googling therapy I can sign up for when we get back home. He was wonderful and supportive during my breakdown.

We get back home and the next way he comes into the room to tell me there's a massive issue in our relationship, he is not happy in it and we will need to talk to see if there's any solution. I am in absolute shock as I thought everything is going really well. From that moment, he completely withdraws from me emotionally. He tells me he lost his trust in me as a partner in Japan. I am, in general, too reliant on him and make him my caretaker too much, I am not independant enough ( I moved countries twice and created my adult life in a different culture), I get overwhelmed at any new situations. I listen carefully and agree on some of his points, and decide I would start therapy to manage my anxious attachment. I tell him to give me time to work on myself as he has never raised any issues before at all and it's the first time I heard how unhappy he is. I was in absolute shock that he lost his trust in me so easily, but I decided to focus on being a supportive partner while he is taking his time what to do with our relationship. He spends time talking to his friends and family about our relationship and doesn't include me at all in this. A week later, we cancels our wedding because 'things are very shaky between us'. On the cancelled wedding weekend, he goes to see his friend and we agree that when he is back we will discuss if there's any solution to our relationship crisis. He gets back and tells me there is no solution. Even if I went to therapy and became the best version of myself, it wouldn't be enough for him. I am not ready for big life challenges with him. He spoke to a friend who is expecting a second child and it made him realise how much work having children is and that he doesn't want them with me. He shows 0 empathy and compassion to my feelings, in fact, he doesn't want to hear them and it annoys him that he needs to sits through my shock. I tell him that his decisions to me defies all logic how relationships should work, because when people want to be together and the foundation of the relationship is good, they work on things to fix it. He doesn't want to hear it and tells me I will slow him down. He was ready to move out straight away and after he left, I never heard from him.

After a week of terrible shock I have started to unravel things and realised he probably has very deep seated issues of unadressed avoidant attachment. I won't miss this relationship because I will always remember the cruel ways he left me. I am sure being long distance made us see in each other the best version of ourselves.

I realise that I experienced a very cruel form of betrayal. I got very scared of this person who can flip so easily and turn their emotions off in an instant. My questions to you lovely people are:

How do I go through this experience without it letting it affect my confidence? I do not want this to become my life and identity altering break up, nor I want to victimize myself. I also really don't want to develop trust issues in any future reletionships I will have.

Am I right in thinking that this break up wasn't really about me, rather about his maladaptive coping mechanism and his inability to understand and reflect on his feelings?

Thank you for your thoughts, truly.

We never meet before yesterday, I only know she is nonbinary and her name. I no much about that, but she seem very shy and quiet. I never live with another person before so I want to make sure she not uncomfortable. I always wanted the idea to be friend with my roommate, so any advice please? (Sorry for English still learning)

I’m 24, and I have just a bachelor's degree in commerce. I started CMA mostly because of family pressure, but over time, I started seeing it as a good path for me. I’m not a top student, but I know that if I focus, I can bounce back.

The past two years have been really hard. I lost my grandparents, two aunts, and an uncle. Then, three months before my CMA exams, my father passed away. That completely broke me. I tried to push through, but I failed both exams.

Now, I honestly don’t know what to do. Should I try CMA again or look for something else? Am I too late to succeed in life? Would love to hear from people who have been in similar situations

I’m currently studying Nihonggo right now for “job offer” in Japan we started last yr September all goes well until December 1st week, not until in the mid week na sa December lahat turns upside down. Lahat sinaad sa first contract was pay later when we get there na dun, but since no ROI daw sa past batches so they change the game that we have to pay atleast 15k for all the costs that the company comprises.

To add, our teacher also had the conflict sa company since the salary was not given on time. So ngayon, yung teacher namin kailangan tapusin niya lang yung month nato since our JLPT exam will be sa March pa. After daw ng day sa exam, resign na sya. What if we got passed? Sino nalang gagabay samin sa mga process?

Can someone give me advice if I still pursue it pa?

I 29F have noticed since 1 turned 25 l've been attracting submissive men either the same age as me or younger than me by three years maximum. I dont care for age when i date people as long as we vibe. My personal style is super feminine and girly to an extent since I look way younger than my age. I'm a little overweight so I thought maybe that plays a rule in it in a way since they all want to me be dominant and super attracted to my body "164cm-80kgs". I myself lean towards the submission side but I've been told I look super authoritive and my aura is "scary/serious due to the look in my eyes". I don't know how to handle that cause I'm not aware of how I look like to people but my demeanor is very cute, I think, but I'm not sure anymore. I'm starting to think the problem is within me and that l'm giving the wrong impression to people. How do I deal with that and act a little bit less sharp and scary? Thank you

I’m F(18) and my girlfriend is the same age as me, we’ve been together for almost a year now and recently she said she’d go to the city to get her retainers so i wanted to take this opportunity to go out and meet up with her.

The thing is that i have strict parents that doesn’t allow me to go out since they’re scared for my wellbeing and still thinks i don’t know enough yet. which is true but for my whole entire life i’ve never stepped out into the world on my own but my friends have. i kind of envied them a bit but i also want to go out and be independent on my own for even just a day. From my province to the city is about 2h or so, i already asked my mom and she flat out said no and said that many people are being trafficked and so on. I understand her concerns but i know i can’t be cuddled by her for my whole life and I’d soon go far away from her next year. The unfair thing was that my brother who was 16 at the time could move to the capital by himself while i can’t cuz I’m a girl.

My mom doesn’t know that i’m bi and i don’t plan on telling her any time soon so my only excuse is telling her i’ll be meeting my long time friend. Unfortunately, she doesn’t care, she doesn’t trust anyone even if it’s my friends. This happened even to my classmates. I really wanna go meet her and have some fun without my parents being there with me, should i just give up? i have no idea how to convince her.

I used to be so active in studies. Prior to COVID, I used to excel in my studies. I used to memorise and read out loud my notes perfectly without any errors. I used to be disciplined by reading books, and by not being on social media a month before exams. I used to do it so effortlessly. It wasn't a burden to me or anything.

But now, post COVID, there has been a drastic change in my lifestyle. My cognitive capabilities has declined. Now, I feel so lazy to even study for my exams which is in 2 days time. Yes, I've made notes and read them but I feel like the information just can't get through my head. I feel so stupid.

Also, I can't leave without social media now which is an extremely sad thing. I feel as if I've downgraded over the years. I feel like shit. Even with my hobbies, I can't seem to physically do it anymore. I love painting, sketching and practicing the piano. But now, I feel like a wasted human being.

I've Googled ways to help but I just can't physically change myself. I'm so sad.

I am 21 now , i am doin graduation pharma but i dont feel any single type of attrction towads it i just want to drop out & do other things like content creation, trading , fitness , but my parent are forcing me to that Boaring degree , whrn i go to collage i feels like a prison , suddnly i feels too much pressure .

other side i think i have somthing like depression iam not sure about it but i have sucidle thoughts sometimes like 3/4 time a month

give me some ideas , what should i do in this condition

I may seem judgemental but i am really confused and dont know what to do. We all know that the saying "everyone is beautiful" is just a fairytale so even though i feel guilty that i am judging someone based on their face but i can't help it. There is this person who likes me and i feel like he is genuine. I like his personality cz most people i know cant really keep going a conversation but with him i can talk all day. It is just that person's face is not my type at all like far far different. What do i do. Do i just ignore the fact but What if i regret it in the future and hurt the person. I need advice

i was falsely accused of sexual assault in 2022, in junior high school. it ruined me in so many ways at that time. i lsot my friends, reputation and most importantly my partner. for 6 month i tried arguing my case to the teachers, trying to get my accuser to be punished.

i recovered mostly from that but i still get the appearances of either my ex or my accuser and their friend group (who was involved in making the accusations worse) in my dreams every few weeks. i had a panic attack once when they appeared actually just recently.

just today i had a dream about one of my ex's friend accusing me of sexually harrassing my ex online. basically in the dream i jsut said something about marrying her (ex). but ex's friend is threathing me like its some sort of big sex crime.

it really felt real bcs in the middle of the SA allegations, one of my ex's friend also publicly accused me of not treating her right (we had an online relationship, no physical contact eventho we went to the same school. accusations was just about me insulting her on private chat). but like at that time we were like drty tlking and stuff, am i not allowed to insult her sometimes? also why tf are they reading out private chats??

anyways i just wanted to ask if this is normal or not. accusations happened at 2022 and im still getting dreams like this every 3 weeks or so. yeah i still cant move on from being falsely accused and losing my partner. how do i move on????????????

if u read the whole way through i cant thank you enough <#3333

meditation and writing aren’t available for me at this point in time.

My baby is 1 year old, and I’ve had a few episodes where I’ve screamed both with and at her. These moments make me feel horrible and terrified, but I find myself unable to control them.

She is constantly in my arms, sleeps with us, and is never left unattended. Despite my presence, her screaming is relentless. Is this normal? She also makes a constant, high, moaning-like sound that is incredibly frustrating.

At these moments, all of her basic needs are met—perhaps she just needs to sleep, which has been the most challenging part. I worry that my past screaming when she wakes up upset has made her deeply insecure. She does not sleep alone at all.

I truly want to be there for her, but I feel like I’m losing control. I don’t know what to do.

This is kind of long and convoluted, so please bear with me as I try to summarize.

I (27f) am pretty sensitive about my birthday. As a kid I didn’t have a lot of friends and pretty much every birthday ended in disaster - either nobody remembered, nobody showed up to my parties, or any party I planned would erupt with sort of crazy drama that ruined the whole day. The older I got, the more anxious my birthday made me. I would often avoid telling people it was my birthday because it was easier mentally to have people not know it was my birthday than have people know and forget/not acknowledge.

I have a really close group for friends from college (let’s call them Alex, Sam, and Bea). They all know this about me and have for many years. Despite my resistance, they do try to celebrate my birthday a little and usually convince me to AT LEAST go out to dinner. Over the years, I’ve come to not hate it so much because I had loving friends (and a supportive partner) who would make the day not so bad.

This year was different though.

I’ve been having a pretty tough year for various reasons - career upheaval, family problems etc. I’ve also been having some issues with Bea lately. Her, Sam, and I have been living together the past two years, so small issues would come up just due to proximity. It was never anything super horrendous - just little snide comments from her or arguments started over nothing. Bea can be a little blunt sometimes, so I tried to smile through it whenever she said something a bit off color to me. She isn’t like this with Sam at all, but I tried not to think too much about that.

Because of everything going on this past year, I was dreading my birthday - but it rolled around nonetheless. Over the course of the day I got various calls/texts from coworkers, my family, my partner, Sam and Alex…but not Bea. Since we live together, I figured she was waiting until I got home from work to say it. I come home, she’s sitting at the kitchen table, and she says…nothing. We engage in small talk, but nothing more. Sam even comes out and wishes me a happy birthday AGAIN, and still Bea says nothing. I head out to go get dinner with my partner and Bea remains silent.

That alone was pretty hurtful - as I said before, I am very sensitive about my birthday and my best friends all know this. So the fact that she didn’t acknowledge it, even after Sam said it specifically, made me feel pretty shitty. Luckily I spent the evening with my partner at one of our fav restaurants, so I had a distraction, but it almost ruined my night.

Then, it got worse.

A few days later, Sam suggested that Alex+Sam+Bea+I all go to dinner to celebrate together. I suggest a dinner/improv show near my work, everyone agrees. Alex asks if he can bring his partner of two years, I say yes. I also decide to bring my partner since Alex is bringing his. Then, Bea asks if she can invite a different friend of ours too because “they’ve been talking about going to see an improv show”. This kinda irks me because, again, Bea knows I try to keep my birthdays very lowkey with just my core group of Alex/Sam/Bea. But, since Alex and I are bringing partners and I do really love our friend Bea wants to invite, I agree.

The night of the dinner/improv show comes. Alex calls me a while before our reservation and tells me he had a hard day at work and doesn’t feel up to dinner and a show. He apologizes profusely and asks if I want to come over to his house before the show so he can give me a present and hang out beforehand (and also offers to do something another time to make up for it). Even though it makes me sad to have him cancel, I understand and I’m not upset. Before I say yes to Alex, I check Bea’s location on my phone (Bea mentioned maybe heading down earlier to attend an event nearby, so I wanted to make sure I wasn’t keeping her waiting if she was already in the area). Luckily Bea hadn’t left yet, so I had time to go see Alex. I went to his house and hang out.

About 10 minutes before our reservation, Sam calls to let me know that they have arrived at the venue. I tell them great, I’ll be there soon. Then I ask if Bea is with them since she hadn’t left the house last I checked. Sam then informs me that Bea was not feeling well and decided not to come. I am a bit shocked because Bea has not texted me or called or anything, but I tell Sam okay and start making my way to the venue.

So, my reservation for seven has become a reservation for three - just me, Sam, and my partner. This is literally my worst birthday nightmare. I cry the entire drive over there, three times during the dinner, and the entire drive home. And all this time, I have still yet to receive a text or call from Bea to acknowledge, explain, or apologize for not being there.

When I arrive home, I got to Sam and ask if Bea had said anything else to them about why she didn’t come. Sam tells me that yes, Bea had actually stayed up until they got home so she could explain - Bea had donated blood that day and was feeling dizzy, so she couldn’t go. This frustrated me even more because Sam only arrived home about ten minutes before me, yet for some reason Bea did not see any reason to leave for room and come tell me any of this herself. And so, after that, I went to bed, screamed and cried into my pillow, and went to sleep.

It has officially been five days and the only acknowledgment Bea gave me was when I got home from work the next day and she said “Oh, sorry I couldn’t make it yesterday, how was it?”. Still no birthday acknowledgment whatsoever. I told my mom about this and she is furious (since she is very familiar with my birthday trauma). My roommate Sam is sympathetic to why I feel hurt, but doesn’t seem too bothered or pressed about the situation. My partner is upset that I am upset and thinks I should talk to Bea about it and let her know that she hurt me.

At this point I’m still so so mad about everything, I don’t even know what to say to her. It’s made me reconsider whether or not she really respects me or if this is just the her finally showing how little she values me as a friend. I want to give myself time to calm down from my hurt, but I’m worried that if I wait that long the time to discuss this will have passed.

So, my question is - what do I do? Should I talk to her about this or just get over it? Am I being reasonable in my anger? Should I wait until I’ve had a chance to calm down or talk while it’s still fresh?

Any and all advice on this issue is appreciated - I feel very torn on how I should be feeling and what I should do, so I appreciate all insight ♥️

So I sent some innaproriate message on my sister's phone to her class group chat. Eg j said suck my d3ck and some other stuff like that to a bunch of 7th graders. Now the skl knows and set up a meeting with my parents discussing the topic. I didn't tell my parents everything I said because I'm scared they would punish me. I forgot some of the things I said and am worried that they were quite bad and would get me in trouble. What should I do when I have the meeting? I go to a different school. I sent an email apology to the teacher and messages to everyone in the gc

I’ve been in a really painful situation lately, and I’m struggling to cope with it. I dated someone for about a year and a half, and everything seemed great until, out of nowhere, he started lying to me and eventually ghosted me without any explanation. On top of that, he shared really personal details about me with his friends and family, and those people spread those details throughout my college community. It’s made it feel impossible to go outside because I now have severe anxiety, and I’ve been harassed and called slurs by his family. I feel like I've been completely isolated and used.

What hurts even more is that my ex admitted to lying to everyone, but refuses to tell the truth and set things right. I feel like the rumors and judgments about me are never going to stop, and I’m overwhelmed with the thought of facing this every day. My PTSD and anxiety have been triggered, and it feels like I'm trapped.

At this point, I feel like I have no other option but to disappear completely. It feels like the only way I can get these rumors and the harassment to stop so I can find some peace. I know that might sound extreme, but I can’t handle being the subject of cruel jokes and rumors any longer. Every time I think about facing these people or leaving my room, I feel paralyzed by anxiety. I just want to be able to exist without the constant fear of being ridiculed or hurt. It feels like my reputation has been destroyed, and no matter where I go, I’ll always be remembered as the person everyone gossips about.

I don’t want to hurt anyone, but I feel like the only way to make it all stop is to make them think I’m gone. I know that may not be the healthiest solution, but in my mind, it’s the only way I can escape this nightmare and have any peace again..

I'm 19(M) never get a gf. 1 year ago, I met a girl ( 25f) at my workplace I was her trainer. In the beginning I stayed professional but she didn't want that,she wanted something more. She started to invite me for coffee after work,to go eat sometimes and Cinemas. I was thinking yes I'm gonna finally have a gf but when I asked her if she can be my gf she said she's older than me and being best friend is better than being in a relationship. So, we started to chat everyday 24/24h she was with me everytime. But recently she's got a visa problem, I helped to solve it but she had to change her job. So, we kept chatting but slowly slowly I was seeing her changing, I text her she answers when she wants, she doesn't engage conversation...I was feeling a one-sided friendship. In the end I sent her a long message to explain to her the problem but she said it's not her fault it's my f**cking problem. I decided to stop texting her now we're not chatting anymore. But recently there's a voice in my head telling me go appologies to her but I don't think it was my fault. What do u guys think

Hello! Was seeking advice from strangers online lol. So I’ve recently been seeing this girl for a while now this is the first time I’ve been interested in someone this serious since my previous relationship (two years ago) At first she initiated our hangout and I was very hesitant, not because of her but just in general had a few rough dates but after our first date I had such a wonderful time and had to see her again. Now a couple dates have gone by where I’ve been initiating the dates but I can’t get a read on her if she likes me I’ve tried a few times to make a move but she says “she’s awkward” and most recently she canceled on a fun date I really had planned for us super last minute. I really still want to give us a shot but just don’t know if she likes me the way I like her.

I 22M have been dating my girlfriend 22F for over a year with half of that being long distance. She is studying abroad and I’m on campus. Recently me and my roommates decided to go to a club that a lot of other classmates go to frequently. About an hour after we were there we saw a group of girls that we are friends with that my girlfriend knows as well and knows we hang out on occasion. We hung out with them while we were there and went our separate ways afterward. I was updating and texting my girlfriend throughout the night but never mentioned they were there. She saw a picture my roommate posted a day later of all of us and called me crying. She feels so hurt and broken that I lied to her (even if it didn’t matter) and is having a really hard time trusting me. I completely understand why it hurt so much that I would choose to purposefully not say something. I want to do anything I can to fix this because she truly is the most important person in my life and I can’t imagine it without her. I did something so stupid and risked losing her trust completely. I know what I did was wrong I just need advice on what to do to regain her trust.

TLDR I lied about who I was with and broke my girlfriends trust

21F and my gf 21F lets call her Sky, have now been dating for almost a year, in the beginning everything was perfect, we did everything together, never argued, we could be our own people as long as we were faithful. Fast forward a few months we moved in together and a little while after we got a new neighbour lets call him Josh. So one night Sky mentioned that she wants to go see her ex, after i begged and pleaded her to not go she kept bringing it up, in that time i started to distance myself mentlly and prepare myself for the worst, because she made it very clear that she can't trust herself with him, because she cant say "no" to him. So after a week or two of her constantly bringing him up and since my concerns didnt affect her she went anyway. They met up at the park they use to always go to, and she came back just before 9pm that night, she walked in with a huge smile on her face while on a call with her best friend. I kept quiet and she didnt say aynthing untill i asked what happened, and she gave me this long story with every detail but i still felt like she was hiding something cuz she was over explaining the whole thing. Never the less a month or so later i asked her again and she added things to her story about that night and she changed alot of things and when i confronted her she said she just forgot or misspoke. So i left it at that, then after a week or so passed it was month end and she spoke too quickly and accedentally told me we have a 2k short this month...Excuse me? So i asked her why? And she told me that a few people asked her for help and she helped, so instead of leaving it at that i asked her who wanted help? And she told me that is was her mom and one friend so i asked which friend and she just laughed in my face like she always does cuz she thinks every time im being serious that it's a joke. Eventually she told me it was her ex and he needed it for rent. I was beyond upset and i felt very disrespected, and i told her that but she didnt seem to really care. Then after a few month passed i went out one night cuz my ex and i were great friends and had no feelings towards eachother anymore so i took her for a beer at a sport club close to our apartment, while being there i saw Josh and she asked me for a lift home, so i said sure, during the night my ex went home an hour in and i just enjoyed being out and playing pool, Sky called me every 20 min so eventually i went to josh and told him im leaving so if he still wants a lift now is the time, and we didnt talk untill i told him im leaving, so he was drunk and i was sober i had one beer the whole night, so we drove home and while getting out he gave me a hug, grabbed me and kissed me so i pulled away and said i have to go inside. That meant nothing to me and it was never supposed to happen, so when i walked into the house there was Sky, shivering and crying so i asked what happened? And she told me that she saw everything, so she started packing and i tried to explain and she slapped me and stormed out of the house, she went to her best friend, i didnt sleep at all that night and begged her to come back but looking back i shouldve just let her leave completely. Eventually she came back but we were never the same, i was under a microscope and i couldnt do anything without her, my phone was also no longer mine alone and i was also told to block and delete my ex (who was my only friend) and that still hasnt stopped, she also forbid me to drink, or smoke. She also treated me like a child and she physically hurt me alot, so mentally i distanced myself even more, and my sex drive is also non existant anymore, we spoke alot and tried to work it out but she keeps bring up that night and im getting so tired of it cuz i have no more answers for her and i understand how she feels but its not like i slept with him or have any feelinsg towards him, i have no contact with him and also avoid him at all costs. I feel like im trapped but i love her and i dont want her to leave but i also dont feel happy i feel suffocated in a way. So What do i do?

My friend's mom whose daughter is my sisters friend told 5hem I wasnt as pretty as my younger sister how am I supposed to read tto that

On a throwaway since my friends can easily access my Reddit.

I'd like to start off this by clarifying I'm also a minor (2009), only a year older than my friend (2010) who I will call G. When we first met I had no idea about G's boyfriend who I'll call P, but once he was brought up I've been mortified ever since.

G revealed to me that P was 19 years old only a bit after she revealed she was dating someone at all, at the time she was still 14, and this leads me to believe he was born in 2005 which is scary to me because he's going to be 20 this year, not even a teenager anymore, no excuses. I had no clue what to do, as far as I was aware there was nothing happening between them, she posts tons of what would be cute images online of them together and it always disturbed me. Recently I found out they're living together.

G seemingly has no father and her mother knows about P and doesn't care, obviously doesn't considering he seems to be living with her. I feel powerless, I don't want to go to the police as I have no concrete evidence of wrong-doing. I'm scared for her, she admits to knowing what he's doing is wrong and says she doesn't care, I'm afraid of what this is going to do to her life in the future as well.

I love G, she's a good friend, but she's disabled, has a social worker and smokes weed and has health problems due to it, all at her age, I know her life will go down the wrong path if I don't at least help her out of the grip of a predator who's grooming her. I don't care if she hates me for it, or if she never understands it was for her own good because no matter how nice P treats her he is malicious, he is preying on a girl who is still in high-school and just barely passing by it already.

I really hope G can have a better life, can get a good job and make good money, with the way she's going now I doubt that could even be a possibility, her life seems like it's taking every wrong turn. My life isn't great, it's hard, I've been in similar situations to her but I pulled myself out, I realized this wasn't how I should live my life or that something was wrong and ran away from it. I'm afraid she won't be able to do that for herself unless she realizes there are real consequences for people like P, that he is really in trouble, really doing a real crime. She needs to realize the world isn't a place where predators can be 'good people' who won't get in trouble, I don't mean to be cruel but it's the truth.

We live in Canada, and as far as I'm aware the Romeo & Juliet laws do not extend 5 years so I'm sure this has to be illegal, what do I do? How can I help her?

I haven’t dated many people three max and my last one was about five years ago so it’s been a bit since I’ve been in a relationship. Even those relationships weren’t serious they were just middle school relationships thats didn’t go anywhere.

But recently I’ve been getting close with a friend that I’ve known for a while we’ve been hanging out more and I’ve notice that my feeling for them have changed but I can’t tell if it’s a crush or if it of admiration for them.

I can’t tell what this emotion I’m feeling for them is, so what were some signs you had felt when you realized you were in love? I just need some help figuring out what this emotion is.

I give all the physical touch in my relationship to my 10 year bf. We used to be all over me made me feel more special than any man ever did. I became obsessed on that physical touch for years bc it made me feel so good no matter what was going on in my life. I think it's because I never had that before ever. And I felt like I found my special person. But now. I am providing all the sensual touch, the hour massage that make him feel amazing, wanted, desired. Recently Ive realized when I don't do that. Nothing happens. There's no touch, no hugs, no stolen kiss, there is nothing that makes me feel connection or thar he still wants to make my body feel like I do his. Damn does he enjoy it, and Everytime I'm done with the hour massages I think to myself "wow" I wish I had someone who WANTED to make me feel like that. W/o having to ask. How amazing and comforting it would feel. I'm so glad and I can do that for him. I enjoy it. Runniñg my hands all over his body gives me a feeling I can't explain. we are explosive. Or our we? If I don't initiate, he doesn't. I'm not talking about days, weeks, or even months. It's been like this for a couple of years. We've talked about it. All I've heard is I know he has had some depression. From lying to me. I've given him so many chances and endly understanding bc no one is perfect. I literally told him ALL I ask of him as a partner is some basic affection. A hug. Kiss on the forehead. Grab my waist as I walk by. He does nothing UNTIL I turn it on and start to do show him heaven 😜 it leads to us making love sometimes but others. It's like "thanks babe, that was amazing. Then goes to his phone for the rest of the night. That happens more than sex. Let's get to the ADVICE. When should I give up and realize he doesn't want to do those things for me anymore. Is feelings have changed even though mine got stronger. 774Life is too short and myabe there is someone out there that would love to have me in their life and admire me like he used to. I want him to be happy too even though the thought of him with someone else kills me. I'm so torn and I try to communicate but he placates me and says the same thing every time. I want more in life. I want passion back, I am only 40. But mostly I don't want to draw this out forever. Change is hard and I love him so much but when you feel the other person changing, I think I owe it to myself to bow out with some self respect. Is he using me because I treat him so passionately, and he just does enough to appease me so I won't try and talk about things or leave. Idk at this point, but I know I feel sad and alone most days. Emotionally and physically. I love him, I want him, so idk when to walk away and let him go. Bc I know he won't tell me the truth about what he wants. This isn't the person I met. Got me all messed up obviously. Advice? Anyone?

The is a girl that I liked but at time she had a bf n they broke up I used to keep staring n her n she confronted me n asked me do u like me? I answered no we spoke for about a month n she is really nice to talk to but at that time I was kinda in a situationship with other girl who is now my gf who is emotional n stuff so due to circumstances I started dating her

Now that girl texted me Again we spoke a lot I didn't tell my gf about it we r in the same college I really like when she stares at me but we spoke 2-3 times n she told me I won't text you from now you will be the one to do so n now is kinda ignoring me.. Do i tell her y did I not date her or ignore her??