So basically I met this girl a few weeks ago and things have been going pretty good. After talking to her for a while it become abundantly obvious that she is a very sexual person. I had no problems with this as so am I. However today she told me how disappointed she was with her ex, and went on and on about how small her ex was. I asked how big was her ex and she told me he was 7in. I laughed thinking her ex might’ve lied about her size so I asked her to show me how big it was, and she basically showed me 7 inches. Then I asked her what felt good to her, and she proceeded to tell me her first bf had 14in penis and how great it felt. (I have a 6in penis) so now idk what to do. I feel like we really get along well and I don’t wanna stop talking to her, but should I stop talking to her ?

Not crazy, or obsessed

Two nights we got real close because of a work incident that needed me to stand up for her livelihood.

We kissed, explored New York City and had sex. The following night, did it all over again.

Shes moved on. But I can’t.

I can’t get rid of her face from my brain.

I can’t stop remembering her smile.

I can’t stop myself from thinking about her.

I can’t stop wanting her to come back.

But I know she won’t.

How do I overcome this mental state of pain over a girl I never even dated? And why can she be so loose with her (and my) emotions with no real repercussions?

I’m not bitter or anything. Ive gone through relationships before but I seriously can’t wrap my head around this one.

so i (19f) have a boyfriend (20m). we both have a common friend (18f) who we’ve known since we were about 12, and we’ve pretty much always been really really close with her. i see her as a younger sister honestly. the issue is that out of absolutely nowhere i’ve been having nsfw dreams about her ??? normally i don’t even get those sorts of dreams and when i do it’s like snippets, but these ones are full blown sex dreams about my best friend. i’m bi, and she likes women, but i don’t feel that way about her at ALL? it’s leaving me actually baffled every time i wake up considering they don’t have any effect on me.

i told my boyfriend and he laughed it off and essentially said ‘jesus that sucks’, we laughed about it together etc but it’s happened twice more since then???

help !!! i do not want to fuck my best friend !!!

Hey my name is Alex and I need some advice on what to do next with my friend Stephanie. We have been very close friends since we were 2 years old. we used to be teased and that we like each other since grade 4 and there has and still there a lot of tension between us. I know she likes me and honestly I had a big crush on her since grade 5 and We’ve been so close to the point her parents used to come argue with the school to adjust all her classes to mine . Our parents know each other too. Recently I gained some weight and was dealing with some stuff so I thought she would become distant but she didn’t she stood by me the whole time. Now the problem I’m dealing with is that recently I’ve migrated to another country and I’ve been getting a lot of hints of long distance relationship but I like her alot but recently I’ve been feeling we don’t have the same interests or whatever and sometimes I think she’s the one for life but then I think I’m still young and if the long distance dosent work I’ve lost a friend for life and I don’t want that. Sorry i might have just been ranting any opinions on the situation would be very appreciated

I got out of my first real relationship back in mid 2023. It was a rough and messy breakup but eventually I healed and I'm pretty sure I moved on. We stopped talking ever since. (he blocked me)

A few days ago I found out he has a new gf and they have been dating for a couple of months now. He posts her, spoils her, etc.

I don't know why but I feel so sad and alone. Because of school I don't exactly have friends to talk to and I haven't seen anyone since the breakup last year.

I thought I was over it but I just feel like the break up happened all over again. I'm overthinking and being irrational and feel so lost. I don't know why I feel like this. I should be over it but it has taken a toll on me.

Need advice for a frienship issue.

I (29F) have a friend (28F) whom I met during junior high school. Since 2017, we exchanged messages once in a while. We haven’t met since 2017. She has always asked to meet and last week I finally agreed.

Reasons why I kept declining her invitation:

-I don’t think we are close. I didn’t even invite her to my wedding (she thought it’s due to covid, but I didn’t correct her)

-we are at different points of life and I did think we didn’t have anything in common to talk about

-she kept messaging me how she wanted to send some gifts (one for my marriage, one for my baby’s arrival, and one for my baby’s bday, all of them never came)

-she once asked for me which I agreed to give (not much, around $50) so I was a bit worried she would ask for money.

Before the meet up, my friend said she would bring the gift for my baby, even made me choose by sending pictures of multiple options. When we finally met, she said she forgot to bring it.

I never expected any kind of gifts from anyone, but I felt like I was tricked into saying yes because she really needed to give me the gift. I didn’t enjoy meeting her at all and it’s almost painful to find a subject we could talk about.

She messaged me again asking to meet next month. What do you think I should do? I don’t want to meet anymore but I don’t want her to go violent about it. How do I subtly let her know I’m not available anymore?

The love of my life was R*ed we've been together for 2 years now and she was SA'd around February this year and i don't know how to help her and I feel absolutely and utterly helpless to her I've never ever in my life felt so helpless. I asked her to get some professional help and she took it in a wrong way for which I don't blame her she tells me she doesn't wanna live anymore and that she doesn't wanna live like this also this has fucked my mental health up we are not that old to afford therapy and this person took her virginity and things just don't seem to get better I get triggered about that very easily and everyday is a constant reminder about how I can't do shit about this and my sweet baby keeps suffering because of that guy it hurts a lot I've lost it I've lost my way of living and i want to help her seeing her happy makes me glad and seeing her in trouble absolutely aches my heart I just don't know anymore. Now I know this is not about me but help me help her

I'm getting my gallbladder removed tomorrow and I want to be alone in a room without anyone else in it with me. If I have someone else next to me, it would make me feel anxious and self conscious. I don't like being seen or bothered in that state.

It costs an additional 150€ to be alone in a room and I wanted to ask my dad to help me pay for half of it but I come from a somewhat conservative country and my mother called me a crybaby because of it. That I should just endure it like everyone else.

What should I do?

i’m not sure what to do. Probably since i’ve been a teenager i have noticed or felt that I was “different” from most people. But any time I wondered if it was depression or anxiety, any time I felt my mind spiral into the dark, I would think of other people I know who suffer from those things and think to myself “You don’t have it that bad. You don’t qualify.”

I’ve had close calls with alcoholism. A few times a year I will have a week or two where I wish I didn’t exist and just feel an unexplainable weight on my shoulders. I’m terrified of asking for help. I wish I wasn’t the pathetic person that I am. I shouldn’t have to bother others with my non-existent existential problems. I know there’s nothing wrong, but why do I feel so bad sometimes?

I’m scared to get help. I really am.

I and this man let's call him dirk met online while I was living in Africa and he was living in The Netherlands , we quickly started dating after a few days of chating on online and the whole idea of being in a relationship with a foreigner was a new thing for me ,at first everything was going on smoothly and it seemed as if I had met the man of my dreams until we had our first argument,coming from an African background most of relationships are best on what a man had to offer you as a way to show that he cares but I don't know it was somewhat different for this European guy ,in the first weeks of dating I was excited and told almost all the people I was staying with that I was seeing this white guy I had met online , the all concept seemed false to everyone so we decided to test to see if he was willing to prove he liked me first we video called and to be honest at first I didn't mind his looks but not ignoring the fact that I wasn't physically attracted to him from the first time I saw him on video call later I asked him for money to test if he would send it , he agreed and sent me roughly 35 euros first time in our relationship,I got so excited and felt happy since he sent me money which is something that was normal to me having had previous relationships where giving and spending on me was the way they always showed they loved me , so we dated and in this relationship we talked a lot and I kinda realized I didn't like some of his ideas on a lot of things since we argued on a lot of topics and had very few that we had a mutual understanding though I ignored all that since I was excited , so being that I was 21 years old when we met and he was almost 30 years old I kinda expected him to support me since he was more stable than I was and being in a long distance relationship there was nothing much he could do to show that he loved me ,so I believe it was a wrong decision for me to date him in first place since I stayed with him because of the things he could possibly do for me not necessarily because I liked him,he happened to be in my life at a time when I had this toxic relationship with my mom and I was already struggling with it for a long time before we even started dating,so one time I had this strong argument with my mom that I decide am not going to go back home mind you I was still at university and couldn't support myself ,when I told him about my situation he was touched and told me he would help me pay the rest of my tuition fees so that I could complete university, I said thank you since it was a good thing and that would help a lot so we continue talking and got into our first ever argument where I reminded him that he promised to buy me some flowers this triggered him and he started lecturing me and on how I should not ask gifts from him or anything (he would only send me money if it was for something really important with thorough explanations so if I just needed money for something other than food or utilities I would not get it or would get an lecture) so the conversation got hitted up because I felt like he should just say no if he wouldn't do something for me and leave it at that than adding these long paragraphs showing me why I shouldn't expect gifts from him ,but one thing I recall during this argument is when he said "I expect you to have some little sense to know that am looking for money to pay for your tuition fees and I don't have to buy you gifts " So this triggered me too and I was like what did you say ? so I told him since you think I don't have sense let's break up that's disrespectful, so that made him angrier and at first he tried to plead using texts and I kept on rejecting he later started insulting me instead and said I was horrible cold hearted and am evil for breaking up with him for such a small matter so I chose to get back with him after that first fight but it wasn't because I liked him , it was because he was actually going to send me money to pay for my tuition fees but in the mean time me and my mom were ok again and she was going to pay for my school fees so I thought I would use this money for something else ,from our first fight he said a lot of things and I knew I didn't like everything he said to me and it made me distant to him but it was easy to pretend since we were long distance and I enjoyed the idea of what I could get from him which I later realized was wrong, so time came he sent me I think 150 euros to pay for my university (this wasn't the full tuition amount since I paid way more than that )but I just accepted that since my mom already paid for my tuition fees and I used the money he sent to pay for my rent and something else and didn't tell him because he wouldn't buy the idea and I'll have a lecture about how it's not right so to cut the story ,we choose to meet (I actually didn't expect it would reach this far)so I tell him I should go to his country he agree and he helps me process all my documents do all the necessary procedures and I visit The Netherlands for the first time, the first time I saw him I was in shock since I realized I wasn't attracted to him at all and also the fact that we had alternating views on many topics I knew I didn't actually love him but since I was already here I decided to give it a try ,it was hard to pretend while with him so in his words I was cold to him most of the times but yes he took care for me and I constantly felt guilty because I knew i didn't like him ,I looked for all reasons to make me like him but all to no vail because every day I stayed with him pushed me far away from him ,we usually argued all the time and every time he got angry a lot was exchanged he would say am horrible narcissist cold hearted a bad person more and more to an extent I looked up to the new names he had to call me every time we argued,am not saint here I used to always say let's just end it every time we argued but he would plead and apologize and I kept on taking him back ,so I came back to my country and in my mind I was sure I didn't want this man but I stayed in contact with him because I hoped that maybe I would develop feelings and things will work out since he always said he loved me and wanted to marry me ,and he sent me money almost every month since I made up important reasons for him to give me money like I would say buy me food or I want to pay for homework or am in a debt and all times I'll have to explain for him to send me money which I later got tired of ,and let him be but that meant not talking to him alot which I felt guilty for since in my eyes I was just using him but he genuinely loved me,we constantly had fights and arguments about sending me money ,me asking for gifts from him and me wanting to celebrate monthsaries and I decide to limit my self from asking any thing from him since the process made me angry and he made me feel so poor which I hated but yes maybe he was right,so my life besides this relationship ,I was suffering from toxic relationship with my mom and I got into a depression and we decide I could go back to The Netherlands to cool off abit and we could stay together with this guy which looked like an opportunity since in my country things had become rough for me ,so I fly for the second time and I knew that if things didn't work out this time am not lying to this guy anymore I was leaving the relationship, one month of staying with him I couldn't tolerate him since we like d different things I wasn't in love with him and he constantly annoyed me and given that the fact that I felt guilty for being in this relationship for wrong reasons this made me not be committed to him which was unfair to him so we had two arguments and the usual happens he calls me names like moron narcissist cold heart evil horrible bitch bimbo shit all that Iam also no saint I pull out my card of let's break up always and he pleads that I shouldn't leave him but on the second time we argued this time I chose to break up with him for good because I feel am not happy and am guilty every day for lying and he constantly complained about me being cold which I kinda hated hearing so I decide I won't take it any longer because it's unfair to him , I leave , but I won't speak the part when he tried to to talk so that we could resolve things but he also told me if I didn't live him then I couldn't stay with him and guess what since I knew I was done and didn't want to resolve things I chose to leave once and for good which I later regretted since I suffered later on moving for place to place since I was homeless now and I had to ask for help from people, mind you I was in a foreign country with no money and no where to stay so I left him and settling in The Netherlands with my situation is a story for another time though it wasn't easy ,so he keeps on calling me and constantly want us to get back when I say no he starts saying ,am an evil person for abandoning him a,m horrible ,am a monster I deserve to die ,why did I leave him yet he loved me so much ,I used him for his money so that I could meet other men here ,but to make one thing clear I wasn't in any relationship so these running off with another. We're just alligatuons ,he constantly sent me long paragraphs harassing me telling me how am Evil I was ,he even puts his all family in this so they all send me messages cursing and calling me all sorts of things ,I decide to apologize to them and acknowledge the fact that I did something wrong and am ready to own up to my mistakes and I don't want to lie to thus man anymore he should find a genuine person am not the right girl,and I also told this man I was selfish to be with him given that I didn't love him but was just in a relationship for my own benefits, but this wasn't enough I blocked him on WhatsApp but he texted on email and in all his texts he is reminding me of how evil Iam which I accepted and decide to look for help so that I could change but I wasn't going to be with him either I block him every where then he uses a friends number to contact me and says the same words you are evil ,you used me, you are horrible you don't deserve to receive any genuine love from anyone ,you are a monster ,you deserve to die for what you did ,so i try to explain yourself but to no avail so I apologize to him his family and friends for what I did so I thought it was over , boom new messages again sometimes he is pleading to get back together with him and on other grounds he is telling me how evil I am and writing me emails also to show my alleged new man am staying with and those emails are in Dutch and in them he says all these words about how am just looking for targets how am poor from Africa and I used him to come here which I understand,so I stayed in The Netherlands because 1,I didn't have money to move my flight to an earlier date 2, in Africa I was depressed and I don't want to go back to my depression and frustration so I chose to stay here abit and then I'll go mind you in the Netherland I slept in shelters until certain African people helped me accommodate me till my return date reaches but my ex kept on using different numbers to contact me stalk my social media and calling me all sorts of names , is it right and what should I do.

I am not happy with it. The money is okay but that’s not so important anymore.

I’m thinking about quitting and delivering food. I would probably make half what I make now but I could work anywhere if I wanted to travel. I manage a restaurant somewhere in the United States.

I only need $1200 a month for right now. I could take a month off work also without digging into savings. I wouldn’t want to return to this industry ever at least not management. My mental health would be so much better but something is stoping me from quitting. Anxiety probably? I don’t have anyone to talk to about this. Thanks for the advice in advance.

a bunch of stuff just piled and i feel restless but more on edge. I just had a pretty bad dispute between my bandmates, pretty much because of me but things got bitter. I also have some paperwork that i done previously but still hasnt been recorded, i already reached out to them so i think ill be okay on that. I just need to calm myself down since im pretty much worrying and panicking, even though this isnt that heavy

Hello all, I have been struggling recently because my mom has been really loving and nice to me ever since I moved. This is great, but every time I want to love her I get this memory of her touching me. When I was younger ( around 6-9) my mom would touch my penis, and I cannot stop thinking about it. I feel so gross, and I hate that I allowed her to do this. I also feel really embarrassed that I let her touch me in front of others,I don’t know why I did that. I also remember her verbally degrading me and insulting me for allowing myself to be touched like that.

I need some advice on how I can forget about this? I feel like a terrible person because I do not love her the same way she is showing love now. I just want to forget about that happening. Please, any help would be great. Thank you.

My boyfriend and I have a close mutual friend whom I met through him a couple of years ago. Since then, the three of us started hanging out more regularly. There was a period when we spent a lot of time together, and during that time, this friend and I began texting frequently. It started out completely friendly, but at some point, things started feeling a bit off. I sensed he might be flirting with me, though it was so subtle that I felt I might be imagining it. I knew this wasn't fair to my boyfriend, but I never acted inappropriately or crossed any lines—I just noticed certain signals that confused me.

One night, I got drunk at a party and, wanting clarity, asked this friend directly if he had feelings for me. He admitted he did and suggested that if there were mutual feelings, maybe we should act on them. Hearing that made me feel uneasy; I realized how messy things could get and how much harm it could do to my relationship, which is otherwise perfect. I think it was just curiosity on my part—wondering if anyone else might find me attractive after being with my boyfriend for so many years.

After that conversation, I decided to cut off contact with this friend to avoid any further complications, and we naturally grew apart. Eventually, I told my boyfriend about the whole situation. He understood my curiosity, but he was understandably hurt and disappointed, especially since he lost trust in his close friend over something ultimately meaningless.

This all happened nearly two years ago. Since then, we’ve only seen this friend occasionally at parties or in group settings, without any one-on-one interactions. But a few weeks ago, the three of us ended up drinking together, and I noticed subtle signals from him again—comments about me being his "type." I’m frustrated with myself for even entertaining these conversations, despite knowing I’m happy with my boyfriend and the life we have together. There’s something about the thrill of it that reminds me of teenage emotions, and maybe that’s why I’ve let it drag on.

Recently, there were brief, seemingly accidental touches—passing things, our feet brushing—that felt both exciting and unsettling. I don’t know what any of it means to him or why he plays along. But I know I need to stop this once and for all. Nothing good can come of it, and I don’t want to jeopardize my relationship over something that ultimately doesn’t matter.

I (18f) have hung out with this guy (20m) twice and he has show subtle signs of gaslighting. For example I’ll be talking about something and he will convince me he’s never heard of it and then confess later he has. Or earlier I went to his apartment bc we were planning on hanging out and when I texted him “here” he told me he wasn’t there and then opened the door. I feel this is really sketchy tbh. If he is acting like this when we have not even gone on a real date before. Should I just stop seeing him before anything gets worse… or do you think it’s perhaps his humor? I do like him quite a bit but, I am not oblivious to the fact he might be toxic. What would you do?

This is my first time posting something on here but I am really confused and feel kinda dumb. F(25) and my boyfriend M(24) we’ve been together since almost 6 and a half years. I’ve always made it clear it was okay for me if he wanted to watch porn, but he always made it clear he hated it. I absolutely never use his phone and something very dumb happened, I wanted to use his UberEats account to order something and he had X open watching a porn account. He noticed instantly and took the phone off my hands. I was shocked for a while and he tried to explain himself saying he’s gotten addicted to watch porn on X since last month. I wouldn’t have gotten mad if he hadn’t sworn (last week) he still did not watch porn. But obviously it was a lie. I don’t know if I did not made clear my boundaries and I really don’t know what to do. What made me feel insecure was that he didn’t had enough trust to tell me, and I also feel like porn is porn and that’s it, but I feel that X or instagram is like involving it in daily life, like with normal people. I still don’t know how to feel, ty for reading.

So long story, I started randomly chatting with my ex before moving back to germany, where he lives. We were talking about us meeting and hanging out. We met couple of times and actually once hooked up for the last time I saw him, it was weird, he ghosted me afterwards. I developed feelings for him during that time and told him that. But he told me he has a girlfriend and that we can’t be together. So it broke me to hear that. And was being strict to me, not to tell anyone about us hooking up. So after a while, some girl is trying to follow me on instagram and I randomly accepted her and followed her back, and after some time I decided to look at her profile to see she has pictures with him together. I started panicking a little, because I had story highlights of places me and him and his friends were hanging out (me and him basically shared the same pictures of places). So I deleted them, hopeful she didn’t see those. She didn’t message me anything. So after few months she then found me on snap and added me and I didn’t care, so added her back, now she is always sending me snaps of her and him together and I think she knows I’m his ex. So here’s the real question, I have a picture of me and him together, should I expose him of being the cheater and send it to her?

I 23F have been dating my 23 M boyfriend for 3 years now. . Now let me start with a little bit of backstory for yall. When I was 13 I was dating a pretty horrible guy let’s call him Jeff. Anyways Jeff and I dated on and off for almost 7 years and it was horribly abusive the entire time we were together. Physical, sexual, mental assault you name it. I moved in with Jeff around the age of 16, moving back home during the times we were broken up and kept all of the abuse hidden from everyone who actually cared. By the time I was 19 almost 20 we had been together consistently for a little over a year and around that time was when I realized that he was either going to get me pregnant to trap me in the relationship or eventually beat me to death so I called my big sister and she got me out of there. Now here’s what’s super important. When I left Jeff I moved in with my oldest sister and her partner to kind of have some me time and heal. However that’s not what I did. I decided to put myself out there and soon enough within 3 weeks I started dating my current boyfriend. Everyone at the time told me that I need to take time and focus on myself and what I’d been through but I didn’t think I needed it then… recently I’ve been thinking a lot about who I am as an individual and how I don’t really know who I am outside of a relationship. My entire teenage and adult life has been jumping from one relationship to the next. And while I love my boyfriend so much, I love the home we have together and the little family we’ve made with our cats, I can’t help feeling like I never truly healed from the trauma of being with such a toxic person and I don’t know if I can really heal from what I went through while still feeling like everything I do directly affects another person. I don’t know what to do here without hurting everyone involved.

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In pictures 4 and 5 I was banned on unpopularopinion yesterday.

unprofessionalcook is a fascist mod with a fascist list found here: https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/wiki/index/

I point this out in picture 1 talking to them in makeupaddicts.

In picture 2 they proudly respond boasting their powers to suppress opposition.

You remember suppression? a core tenet of fascism? I think they talked about it once on Sesame Street

In picture 3 that same mod banned me from makeupaddicts. Picture 6 is proof of that ban.

Picture 7 shows that this same mod controls posts for well over 80 million reddit members.

I posted my concern to PetPeeves. Picture 8 shows PetPeeves mods deleting my post.

Does anyone care whats real anymore? Am I wasting my time or banned here next?

I thought objective representation was important or something but now im doubting myself. I can find a new website if this is just how things are.

Been in a rocky relationship for the past 4 and half months. I made a mistake of allowing another man to touch me (put his arm on my shoulder and told a joke) and having a 2 minute conversation with an ex where he wished me well in my new relationship a few weeks into the new relationship and this has caused problems ever since.

When we started dating I was at rock bottom. I have 4 kids and was staying with family in a very small place. I had been in an abusive relationship with my kids father that I was trying to escape from. He was very controlling and since I married him at 17, I was never allowed to have a license so I don't drive. This made getting away extremely difficult but I was trying my best. Staying with family and no way to get back and forth to a job I was taking anything I could find. This meant I was working at a bar for 20-30 bucks a night because a friend of mine allowed me to ride with him as he worked there too. It wasn't ideal but it was something and the only thing I had when I met my now ex bf at this bar that I was working at.

He was told everything up front about me and my situation and my children. He persisted. He seemed to be perfect and by month 2 I was moving in with him (his idea. I was really hesitant). After this we had a bad fight one night that led to him calling me lots of derogatory names, breaking the bed, putting holes in the wall, and throwing a glass vase at me which shattered in the floor. We made up but our relationship suffered. I was not allowed to go to any bar nor have any alcohol whatsoever which meant I had to quit working there.

I was required to care for his 18 month old son almost entirely. My life became being a housewife and that alone, minus a trip a few times a week with him to the gym where I had to stay in the car with his son and wait for him. Any argument we had it was held over my head that he was giving me and my kids a place to live and "taking care" of us although he admitted that his bills didn't change after us moving in. I was accused of cheating almost every other day because I became distant and depressed. I constantly told him what I needed from the relationship. In the moment he was understanding but the next day it was as if we hadn't talked at all. He worked 6 days a week and long hours. That left us little time for each other. The time we did get with each other became about his needs. He didn't care about my pleasure in the bedroom unless it was manually, which I told him I didn't like so he got upset I wouldnt let him do that and said it was my fault I didnt get "pleased". If I didn't allow this he just did his business, said he loved me, then went to sleep after scrolling reels for an hour. Many times I had to give him oral even after saying no and I didn't want to.

He would rarely engage or interact with my kids. Was constantly nitpicking at my youngest and complaining about how much my older kids didn't like him. He wouldn't help with his son either. I was to take care of him even when he was home. Many times he'd push his son out of the room and shut the door behind him so that he would not have to deal with him. He would rant to his mother over every argument we had and she started to not like me which eventually turned into her accusing me of abusing his son. When I found out about this I asked for cameras to be installed and he refused but still left me alone with him every day when he went to work. Then when I told him I wouldn't keep his son anymore unless he was home it became about me just not wanting to take care of him.

I did not mind taking care of the home or the kids, I just needed a break every now and then. I never asked for much and handled the cost of food for us myself through government assistance (which I hadn't until I moved in because I was told I had to). There's many other things I could include but this is already long enough.

So what led to this is that he had the entire weekend off work. He chose to go to the gym and then go out with a friend and ride motorcycles for a few hours until after dark then came home and played the Xbox both days. I was upset because I wanted a break and I wanted to spend time together. He obviously didn't want that so I didn't try to force it which became my fault. Fyi: he's addicted to reddit so every minor inconvenience we had he was posting on reddit about it. Posts he left out important details on and even lied. His most recent one was he thinks I'm cheating on him because my family can't come and see me for Thanksgiving so I wanted to go to my family (an hour away) the night before to help cook (a similar situation happened at Halloween, which he also made a reddit post about) because my sister and I always started the cooking late the night before with desserts so they'd be nice and chilled the next day and we wouldn't have as much work to do trying to get everything cooked in time for dinner the next day. When I told him about going to my family the night before I could tell he was upset about something. I asked about it but he said it was nothing. So tonight after giving me the cold shoulder he finally wanted to talk.

It immediately becomes about me and how I blame him for everything wrong in our relationship and how I "ignore" him. I explained to him that I don't feel safe enough to talk to him about stuff because he turns everything around, accuses me of starting an argument, agrees to do something then doesn't do it, then acts like I never told him, or gets extremely defensive. I tell him that I feel he isn't very considerate of me and this gets turned around to me not being very considerate of him. I get frustrated and leave. He follows me and I tell him that I need space and I don't want to talk right now. So he gets upset that I don't want to talk and asks me when I want to leave. I tell him I don't and he tells me I need to go tell my kids. This is when he locks me out of the house and is giving me some mania fueled expression as I'm pounding on the door. (Hes also addicted to steroids, not sure if that has anything to do with any of his behavior. Hes on trt but has taken other steroids in the past and takes way more test than prescribed.)

Anyway, it all escalates. He starts ripping my clothes out of the closet and shoving them into a bag and I tell him not to touch my things. I'm blocking him in the closet because he told me he was gonna burn all my stuff. I told him he could come by me but he was not taking my stuff. So he sits my stuff down and I step aside. He grabs my stuff again and I stand back in the door way (this is all I have to my name and I wanted to protect my property). He then football shoves me with his massive shoulder to the chest and forces me back onto the bed. Then he grabs a lighter and tries to set my clothes on fire right in the middle of the kitchen. I try to get my things from him and he starts slinging my stuff everywhere and i yell at my oldest son to call the cops. This is when he sticks up his messed up finger from work a few days ago and tells me to go ahead and call and we will see who they believe.

Now he wants me and my kids gone and we want to leave too but it's the middle of the night and I don't trust getting into a vehicle with him. We have nowhere to go and no way to get there. I'm happy to be getting out of this relationship but now I'm lost. I'm exactly where I was when I was trying to escape my kids abusive controlling father. I'm at rock bottom again and still at my ex's house with my things packed but no way to leave and terrified to sleep (he also has multiple guns in the house).

Where do I go from here? What kind of resources are out there for someone like me? I've applied to housing but that can take ages. I just don't know what to do and I feel so bad for my kids because they had to witness every bit of this. I realize my mistakes here and take full responsibility for them but it's like I can't win for losing. If, by some weird reason (and i dont think he will), he comes to me tomorrow and wants to work it out, should I? My family can't help me atm and since he tells his mother everything, I know it's gonna be even more trouble with her tomorrow if I don't find a way out of here especially because I have to be gone tomorrow. I'm scared and alone with nowhere to go.

TL;DR: My abusive bf kicked me and my kids out with nowhere to go. What should I do?

I need some perspectives please. I am an Engineer who continually helps significant other who earned the Engineering title by experience. I have continuoualy been asked to aid with techncial aspects of their job responsibilities for over three years. I know exactly what I am doing, so I am self-sufficient. However, I wanted to feel supporter so I finally asked for an email to be groomed that would be provided to my VP. I was told they had no time atm. So, I said can you have it reviewed by midnight? I checked in at 830PM and he said he would get it to me by midnight. At 1030 nothing AND my text do not say delivered. Fast forward to next day and he didnt take responsibility for not aiding me. Did I need help, no. Did I want emotional support-YES. Did I get it, no. He gave me all the excuses. I lost my lid and blew up on him and am pissed. I feel extremely used. Any comments? I feel very sad atm, to the point I am praying I do not become depressed. How can he not come through for me? How can he fall asleep and have no consideration for me. It is disheartending to say the least. I am female and he is male.

Note: I am still lowkey sus as in Feb I spotted texts of him talking to another female. The txt ingrained in my brain forever is, "Good morning beautiful güerra 😘."

I have diagnosed GAD Anxiety and severe depression, however the medication I was last on stopped working due to environmental changes and stress, and I had to get off it. I’m 18 and F, I got off my medication because I was told I would be put on new medication immediately following the lowest dose, to smooth the transition. Another thing is I recently got an IUD a week ago, Kyleena to be specific. (I got it because I was too fertile for the pill…)

Here’s the factors that I have: I am a first semester university student who just had midterms, one of my parents moved across the country, I have a boyfriend, and I have a part time job that requires handling the public. When I am medicated, I have extreme patience. I am great with handling conflict and communicating maturely and efficiently. My boyfriend has never seen me unmedicated, he met me while I was on my last medication.

Since I have gone without my medication, (since October 10th) my assignments have fallen behind, I have so much less motivation when I already didn’t have enough, I physically cannot sleep even with melatonin and have what’s equivalent to spontaneous depressive episodes and panic attacks, I have zero patience, and I overreact at the smallest inconvenience when I would usually be able to process it well. I have been overreacting and lashing out at my boyfriend whenever he does dumb shit, when I would usually just get a little frustrated and then communicate my frustration and discuss alternatives. Ex. He made plans over ours further into our time we scheduled, told me as I was on my way over, and I immediately shut him down and said I was going home and didn’t explain and almost started sobbing. Freaked him out- and I felt so guilty afterwards.

And over the last couple weeks i’ve been so awfully depressed about just everything, I hate going out with friends, I don’t enjoy time with my boyfriend as much, and it’s affecting my school. I don’t know how to manage this huge shift in my life. I need help. Therapy isn’t an option because it’s way too expensive and I don’t have proper benefits for it.

Edit: forgot to mention the reason they’re keeping my off medication.. My doctor thinks I have Bipolar disorder. Which honestly I don’t see that as an invalid diagnosis, but the fact that they need to keep me medicated and act-psych me weekly(Visit the assistant every week so he can analyze me and how I’m doing)? It is wasting my time and I was functioning fine on antidepressants. I don’t know how to function, I love my relationships and I can’t fall being on my education I do not have the money for it, and if it effects my work that’s even worse.

Me (19F) the person I’m with (24M) So we know each other since 2017 but we only got close at 2021, we were playing games and talk a lot and as we get closer we kept doing things only lovers do. one day he said when are you going to say i love you and lets watch movies and tv shows together and sit on my lap and i did. one day he changed at November 2021 and he was saying oh I’m with my girlfriend and dont call me “daddy” my gf is jealous so i was curious, is he lying?. I checked his Twitter account turns put there is a girl he plays with mentioning each other many times. I was so sad so i talked to her as another girl who is in love with her and i told her leave this guy im sure he is a player (i talked to her because i know i have no right to talk to him since he is not my boyfriend). she said was he is not my boyfriend he is just a friend and she was sure that he is good and not talking with other girls so unfortunately i logged into his account but guessing his password. his dms was full of girls one of them was just a girl showing him her body and he tell her to do this and that and calling her stuff and he enjoys her body and the girl i talked to was sending him nudes and he was talking to her the same way he talks to me. when he woke up he was like did u logged in my account i said no because i was afraid and ashamed of what ive done, and then she blocked him and we stayed together and he is okay with me calling him “daddy” again. all of these happened at January 2022 so we stayed that year doing good and doing the same things as before but deeper and better, at November 2022 when the football world cup started I noticed that he is changing and again he said he dont want me to call him “daddy” again for a while so i did the same thing. i checked his account turns out there is another girl he talks to and they are watching anime together and stuff so i talked to her again as a friend and i told her you should focus on yourself and block all the boys (in her religion you cant talk to boys). so i told her its much better to do this and I didn’t talked about him a lot so she made a new account and told me she will start a new beginning and after a while she ignored me . so I talked to him as another person and he responded immediately but when i was talking with him in my number he was ghosting me for 4 hours and i told him I’m an astrologer and i told him his sign and said “there is a person you know and you are making him/her tired your energy is bad” and he blocked me. so this time i just left him and the girl as an anonymous but we stayed together, they were talking a little bit at December and they left each other at January 2023, now he is okay with me calling him “daddy” again since December. and at 2023 it was a perfect year soo perfect we were doing things only lovers do i swear and i didn’t checked his account for a lonnggg time until one day i was working in twitter and i saw a girl that could be his type so I checked her followers. unfortunately he is following her and i was sending him a follow request idk why, he said why are you doing this ? I said I’m sorry i dont know… and he was angrrrryyy and mad for a week maybe and i was begging him this whole week for forgive me this was November 2023. but anyways it was only a week and we were good and all until one day he was changing again and i felt like “oh my god is it happening AGAIN ?” I checked his account and it was happening AGAIN. at first i did nothing at all until January 16 2024 i talked to the girl as a girl who is in love with her and i told her that he looks like a weirdo and a player she said i have feelings for him and i was in disbelief and my heart dropped i told her why?? She said he is so good with me. i asked her is he in love with you too ? She said yes maybe and i was crying soo bad but i had to act cool because i love HER yk. so i showed her my old account and its full of us doing everything together and showed her his tweets about me and i was like oh my god I’m so sorry for you girl you deserve better and you should leave him and she blocked him and he started to change. until one day i asked him why are you treating me like this ? He said tell me the truth are you the person who did all of these things (we talked about it a year ago maybe and i swore it wasn’t me) but this time he blocked me when i kept denying it wasn’t me so i gave up and told him yes it was me. he started saying every bad word in the world to me you are a terrible person and blah blah and blocked me, i was SO sad i made many Twitter accounts with the username please unblock me give me one chance and begging him. he said if I apologised to every girl i talked to about him he will (sometimes at 2022 i was sending some messages to the girl at curiouscat saying eww what do you want from him and shit like this) and i did apologise. while he was thinking i talked to a girl i knew before and told her and she showed her friend turns out her friend did knew him before too and she said he was talking about me to her and mocking me and the last girl i talked to said the same thing one thing he told her “what should i do if someone kept sending me gifts but I’m not interested in her”. so after he is done thinking he talked to me and said I’ll give you another chance but don’t to these things again i said yes of course and we kept talking as before but this time not as we were before not like i lovers no this time as friends. (I can’t edit but when I admitted and told him yes it was me he said you have no right to all of these and as who ?? Who are you to do things like this and get jealous??my girlfriend?As we weren’t talking like a couple). so yeah we were friends until February and one day he said I can’t believe you talked about me behind my back like this, i said even that girl was talking about you and she called you f word her and her boyfriend he said i dont care about her I’m talking about you and we closed this argument and i left my house at morning without my phone. and when i got back home he was like “you told the girl that you were spoiling me ??” I told him she is lying and you know that she is a liar because she lied about him before and i swore no i didnt and he said i dont want to talk to you. we didn’t for 3 days but i couldn’t so I apologised to him and promised him i wont do anything again and he forgave me and we talked again this was at February, march at first we were talking like friends but the end of it noooo we were talking the lovers we were before so is April and may. now we are in jun we were playing elden ring at 3rd june and we talked like lovers like always, but two weeks after he said dont call me daddy or any of these stuff and he dont want to so i told him why???? U just called me that two weeks ago he said i tell every girl the same thing and you are not the only one. from that day until now we don’t treat each other and talk like lovers and these months he always trying to make me mad and when i tell him I’m sad or upset he says that he dont care. he always talk about the problem that happened before (the problem is everything i talked about before) and how is it all my fault and i deserve nothing my existence is useless and he hates me so much BUT we talk and play a lot so idk about this one. and yesterday i told him I’m sad, he said okay i told him why you don’t care about me ???? He said you deserve it and talked about the problem. and i told him can we bring a 3rd person to see what is he going to say about the problem and who is wrong and we can solve it he said what the fuck is wrong with you you are a weirdo i dont want to solve it i want to get rid of you and its only 2 months and then i will leave you and won’t see you again. why do we solve it i dont want to and he is maaddd so i told him I’m sorry I’m stupid and we were quite for 10 minutes and he closed the call.

TL;DR Now the thing is i know what i did was wrong but is it really my fault? Is everything my fault and i deserve to d1e ? He did nothing wrong ?

I just started dating the most amazing, thoughtful, compassionate, and generous guy I’ve ever met three months ago. He’s a 26 year old man, and I’m a 23 year old woman. He treats me really well—better than I’ve ever been treated in a relationship. And the best part is—we’re moving slow, living our own lives, and not falling too quickly into things (which is typically my pattern).

HOWEVER. A couple weeks ago, I sent him a nude for the first time. Then when I saw him the next day, I asked him to hide the photo because I didn’t want it on his camera roll for everyone to see. He hides it, then taps into his hidden camera roll, and I see hundreds of nudes—most of them are of his ex of four years, who he broke up with a year and a half ago. Some of them are of other girls he hooked up with before his ex. I confronted him about it in the moment, and he said that he completely forgot they were on his phone, and that he never looks at them. Honestly, at first it didn’t bug me because I believe he’s a really honest guy. But doubts are starting to creep in.

Was he looking at them? Is he not over her? Is he secretly a creep and I just don’t see it? I’m spiraling.

What are your thoughts?

TL;DR My boyfriend has dirty pictures of his ex girlfriend on his phone. What should I do about it?

I've (28f)always wanted to get plastic surgery, but my mom (59) is really against the idea. She worries that I might regret my decision later on. This is something I’ve considered for a long time, yet she still doesn’t support it. How can I make her understand my perspective??

Last night, I was drinking with one of my friends, when AirPods suddenly shut down while I was talking to my mom. I had already warned him, “Please don’t talk loudly; I’m on a call,” but he kept talking too loudly, throwing beer cans around, and shouting (Note: he’s not even that wild; he was just acting drunk.) I tried to ignore it and put my call on mute, then reminded him again that I was on a call.

After about 30-40 seconds of silence,I turned my microphone back on, right after he started insulting me. At that point, I couldn’t hold back anymore. I cut the call, stood up, and slapped him in the face, telling him to go to sleep. Things escalated quickly from there.

Now, the problem is that he’s my junior at work and my flatmate, and neither of us is talking to each other. I’m feeling really conflicted. I know I should reach out and apologize, but part of me feels justified in my actions since I warned him multiple times.

How can I apologize when I feel like I’m not entirely at fault? I don’t want this to affect our work or living situation, but I’m unsure how to approach him without feeling like I’m taking all the blame. What do you think I should do?

I had just started to do refereeing for wrestling and while me and my dad (a referee too), there was this girl who just started refereeing too. She looked really nervous just like me. Well a couple hours later she FINALLY introduced herself. Shes like “hi, im __” i said to her back “hi im __”. She then asked me if i wanted anything from the back room because it was my turn on the mat next. I told her “no thank you but i really appreciate it”. She then ignored me the rest of the day and just giggled and laughed with her friends the whole night till she got on the mat. I wanna know why a girl would introduce herself and offer to grab me something if she wasnt looking for something in the end, she persistently kept looking at me when i wasnt looking at her thats why this whole situation has me confused. Shes also won cif as well meaning she is a damn good wrestler who wants to referee. Is it just her ego?

So 29m feels like my phone may be watched but unsure who’s watching me, and there’s times I can’t call or have a call just drop out of nowhere. Is there a possibility my phone is hacked? Or sim swapped and people are using my information to make false statements that can cause harmful consequences to my life. Just wondering.. Might be my ex doing it teeehee jk but foreal feel like my accounts are hacked. Lmk pls and ty

He’s very understanding but he just doesn’t talk well to me.. we contact well (no late replies.) but he will answer with “yehhh” or short replies but sometimes it’s better too. He has told me he doesn’t know what to say and he also won’t show me his selfies. But problem is that..I really like him through all of this. I’m so frustrated and I tell him how I feel and he tells me to rest and take time for myself which actually pisses me off…. He told me he likes me and shows interest but I really feel he doesn’t like me.. I didn’t contact for the whole day and not sure what to do next. I want to protect my heart but I also want him. I wish he would text me and show me that he wants me. It feels so one sided..

Hey guys so basically I've been in this relationship with this guy for 10 months and we have really been happy you know and we've loved each other and we still do and anyways I've known that he has struggled with mental health for many years in his life but when we first got together like he was fine you know he was so happy he was over the moon and he says you know that he's never loved anyone before and that no one has ever loved him and so that's why you know me loving him and him loving me was so special you know and we still do but anyways a few weeks ago he broke up with me but he has been doing this for like the last two months I'd say but he did come back every time again let me stress this again. We love each other very much and I know he loves me but the problem is is that he is going through a lot of mental health issues. So when he broke up with me, he blocked me because he knew that if he didn't get rid of me completely he would just come back and he would happen again so it lasted for a week and then he texted me and said that he wanted to see me and so we went out and we were just kind of crying and we were telling each other that we love each other and he was just you know saying that he thinks that I deserve better because you know of his mental health issues and then he ended up saying that if he can fix himself one day, he will come back to me and so basically we left it at that and then that was fine and I was really happy because you know when he did break up with me I was just mentally down and just not okay then a couple days later he text me and he said that he had been doing some research into mental disorders and he said that he thinks that he has borderline personality disorder because he fits with every symptom and he told me to read into it and I realise that he had literally almost every symptom that came with having BPD and then the day after he tells me that he's had a really difficult conversation because he's not close with his mum he said he had a really difficult conversation with his mum about getting him to go to a psychiatrist or psychologist and then fast forward two days ago. He told me that the doctor had put him on antidepressants and he had had his first session with a psychologist and his next one is in a couple weeks so that is where we are right now and anyway we met up today to have a conversation and he said that he will only come back to me when he's fixed and he says that his mind is like very neutral and he just doesn't have all real feelings and that sometimes he wants to be with me other times he doesn't and he's saying it's because of his mind and we think that it fits in with borderline personality disorder, but obviously he hasn't been diagnosed yet because he has only been to one session and so today you know he said like ill only come back to you when I'm fixed but then like when we kept talking he said that he'll never be fixed and that he'll always be that way and so I got upset because we promised at the start of our relationship that we would be together forever get married and have children and we love each other very much but now he thinks that he'll never get fixed and that he can't come to me unless he's completely fixed and I keep telling him and I keep trying to be positive saying that his sessions will help and the antidepressants will help but I think he thinks that they won't so I'm really confused. I don't know what to do. Do I need to let go of him? Do I need to move on like I keep trying to tell myself that he will come back to me but today when he said that he won't get better and that he will always be that way I got really upset and confused. Please help me. Surely since we love each other he will be back right. Yes he will be back. He has to be back he will be back.