Good morning everyone,

I've kind of decided to take things into my own hands this year, after almost losing my dad because he wasn't looking after himself all that much as a taxi driver, I look at my kid and wonder "What if that was me" and then the thoughts just keep flooding in the more I think about it, I'm always on the road for work 8-12 hrs a day and after work I just go right to bed in most cases.

To put it into more perspective I'm 29, 243 and its all belly, my days start around 4am, always fueling up for my runs, grabbing a bottle of Pepsi or 2 and go about my day, once I'm done it's torn between grabbing fast food and just getting something I can gorge on before bed, there is no alcohol consumption because of work, it's definitely not the best life style to live, I've been working on cutting out pop from my days as I drink quite a bit of it outside of my work days and trying to figure out a food schedule that works for me where it's healthier but can be quick to knock out because I'm on call 24/7, I've gotten a gym membership and going slowly a couple times a week.

But I'm curious how did you start, what did you change or do more of specifically,

Something that has been absolutely life changing:

When I felt uncomfortable, I ate cookies.

When I felt I was faced with an unsolvable issue, I ate chips.

When I was mentally spiralling, I ate ice cream.

My primal animal brain learned: “A very delicious treat comes our way when we feel an unomfortable emotion. This is a reward for feeling uncomfortable! Let’s feel uncomfortable more often!”

This lead to increased anxiety, feelings of depression, and a constant cycle of eating and being uncomfortable

It was like I was giving a dog a treat for crying. The dog eventually learned “if I cry, I get a treat”.

So, I had to become aware of my inner thoughts. If they’re uncomfortable thoughts I was craving food.

1. Put them on hold
2. Tell myself you can always go back to thinking about it
3. Force myself to think of something pleasant or neutral. Usually it’s how awesome and funny my dog is lol
4. Wait a bit to let the pleasant thoughts resonate (maybe 5 minutes)

When you’re ready, you can go back to the uncomfortable thoughts.

1. Realize whether the uncomfortable things I’m thinking about are changeable or unchangeable. (Can I do something about the issue)
2. If it’s changeable, think of a solution for change, and tell yourself you will eventually think of a solution. Journal it and move on.
3. Or accept things wont change, and move on

I stole part two from the saying: “Accept the things you can not change, courage to change the things you can, and the wisdoms to know the difference”.

By the end of these steps, I’m not actually craving anything. I realize I’m not hungry, I was just uncomfortable, and my inner animal expected a treat. In other words, Pavlov’s Law came into action.

The trick was catching the uncomfortable thoughts, and they can really creep up without even realizing. But the more I did it the more it got easier.

This has really helped me. I hope this finds who it applies to and helps then as well

I’m a 26F and I haven’t been happy with my body since I was like 16. In 2022-2023, I finally came to a place where I accepted my body for what it is. Then, I had a really stressful period for a year and gained weight (grad school 🥲). Now that this period of my life is over I want to lose weight but I don’t know how to change my mindset.

I wanna focus on building healthy habits that can be sustainable because while I wanna lose weight, I also recognize the benefits regular exercise and better diet can bring to my mental health and overall wellbeing. I don’t want to just be punishing myself. But at the same time, I hate the way I look and I’m angry at myself for gaining weight. Today I had to stop an at home yoga practice bc I caught a glance of myself in the mirror and I got so frustrated bc I hated what I saw and just couldn’t continue. Logically I know this is not productive at all but how do I stop? 😭😭

I (46f) don’t think my friend (38m) objectively meant to be hurtful, but I felt ashamed with what he said.

I’ve lost 60 pounds and I’m beginning maintenance. Over that last few months, I’ve been finding my balance between my new normal and an occasional special meal that’s maybe not so healthy. I’ve been really happy with how I’m doing. I’m staying in my range and learning a lot.

Yesterday, I had a lunch planned with another friend and I was excited to go out to a nice restaurant. He texted me a comment asking if I was okay emotionally, because he thought I was slipping into my old behaviors and I was happier while I was being very strict.

I replied that I didn’t understand why he was saying that, and he told me it was meant with love because “we’re in this together”. It felt really judgmental and presumptuous.

What does this sound like? Am I being overly sensitive? Does this seem possessive of him? Or is it normal for people to have strange reactions when you’ve changed a pattern? I’ve never lost weight before (I’ve been heavy my entire adult life) and a lot of people have had strange things to say. This one was particularly distressing.

Background: Started at 270lbs after a couple of years of corporate life (no sleep, no exercise, eating out a lot). After on and off ‘dieting’ over the last couple of years I got down to 230lbs. Honestly not that impressive compared to stories on here but I did it my own way. Target is sub-200.

I struggled to lose weight past 230lbs. I live a pretty balanced life - my food intake isn’t crazy but I could definitely exercise/gym more. A typical day of eating is:

Breakfast (10am): 2 slices of toast with jam and butter in the office Lunch (1:20pm): My company provides lunch each day and it’s nutritious. One meat and one fish and loads of vegetables on the side. Snack (4pm): A handful of nuts or small protein bar Dinner (8pm): normally a small something just to tick over. Either a snack or little meal depending on how hungry I am.

I decided to give Mounjaro (Zepbound) a go and me being a nerd, I didn’t want to change too much in one go to see the impact Mounjaro would have i.e. keep diet/exercise the same and just introduce Mounjaro.

Since getting to a 5mg dosage I’ve been losing 2lbs a week which I’m extremely happy with and feel is a sustainable long-term solution. The crazy thing is that in my daily life there are only 3 noticeable changes:

I don’t force myself to finish my plate of food at lunch. I now normally leave about 10% because it’s uncomfortable to be so full.

• I don’t have an afternoon snack anymore

• Some days I have a snack in the evening but sometimes I’ll skip it

The realisation is just how small those decisions were that kept me at 230lbs. At 230lbs I would probably say I needed that food but now in hindsight I’m like ‘if someone told me I just had to make 3 small inconsequential decisions a day and I would start losing 2lbs/week I wouldn’t believe them’. And maybe my weight gain in the past was made on these small ‘inconsequential’ decisions and I chose the wrong way that meant it built up to be consequential.

I’ve often thought being overweight doesn’t mean you’re not doing everything right - you can be 300lbs but if your weight is stable then you’re doing just as well as someone who is 180lbs whose weight is stable. It’s just you had a different past to get to your respective weights.

So think about those small, seemingly inconsequential, decisions that you might be faced with each day and how best to approach them. It might just help you lose 2lbs a week.

I know weight loss isn’t a race, and setting deadlines or losing weight extremely fast isn’t good necessarily

But it does make me feel like I’m “failing”. For context, my SW was 202lb, went down to 185lb in a month and a half.

But I just saw a post about how someone who lost 20lb in a WEEK (SW mid 200lb). Another person said she lost 6kg in a week. it took me a month and a half of super committed diet and exercise.

I also follow people who document their weight loss on YouTube/instagram. This girl lost 80kg (176lb) in ONE year, and she’s skinny now. This other girl lost 20kg (44lb) in 3 months from 93kg to 73kg

My GW is 134lb, so I have 50lb left but things have slowed down so much for me now, I’m really jealous of people who lose weight that fast, and I’m frustrated.

SW: 240, CW: 185

In case your family, like mine, has a serious taco addiction…

I have really been trying to cook more healthy food at home most of the time but sometimes we all are just tired of doing dishes and want to go out (me, husband, 14 year old twins). I would say 90% of the time that we decide to go out to eat on a whim we go to the Mexican restaurant near our house. We go there so much the owners can even tell my twins apart… lol

I used to always order cheese dip to start and a Margarita, and sour cream on the side of whatever main dish I ordered. And I would eat way too many chips and would walk out feeling way over stuffed. Since I started calorie counting I was shocked how many calories are in all of these things! I was looking over the menu trying to find something other than my usual grilled chicken tacos on a corn shell, and I decided to give their Ceviche a try… damn! It was amazing and so healthy! Just shrimp, avocado, lime, onion, cilantro, tomato. So simple, and so delicious! Very low calorie and so tasty. I enjoy grilled chicken tacos but I like to mix it up sometimes and just wanted to share in case anyone else struggles with what to order when you go out!

Hey all looking for a bit of input and guidance as I seem to be stuck and nothing has worked over the last year..

I’m 29F 184lbs and I recently signed up for the ladder app to add weight training/conditioning and yoga to my routine.

Since November I’ve been on the 10k steps a day kick along with eating 1800cals (exactly, I measure and weigh every single thing and eat at least 120g protein per day) and I did see a 4lb weight loss.

2 weeks ago when I started ladder I was 180 and felt good.

Ladder is a 6day per week workout program and the first week, I only got through 2 of the workouts as that was all I could handle.

This week I got through three strength and conditioning workouts before I needed a complete rest day and felt sick.

I was sure that with adding in the extra workouts that I would be well into the 170s by now but instead I’m 184 (calories are the same) what’s even worse is I’ve only lost a half an inch off my waist and nothing anywhere else.

Positives - I feel more solid through my core, arms and legs but there’s no was I gained 2-4lbs of muscle from 6 workouts (right?) this must be fat/water. I just don’t know where I’m going wrong.

I was doing just fine until i started doing higher intensity.

Now I barely have the energy to go on my walks, I constantly feel like I’m getting sick and I’m not even doing all of the workouts on the plan.

It can’t be good that my body can’t tolerate higher intensity and I’m only 29.

I need to drop weight for my wedding in June so I really don’t have room for error here.

Would it be a mistake to continue on the ladder app and just hope I get used to it? And eventually the weight will fall off? I physically can’t handle lowering my calories any more.

Sweets are my kryptonite, and a lot of times I've eaten it without catching myself. I, once before, cut out sweets from my diet, but then I got pregnant with my first who restricted my diet to crazy things like sour candies (I wish I was kidding, I could barely keep anything down and actually lost 10 lb in my first 2 trimesters, so what I could eat I did) and my sweets cravings is back. I've tried to cut them again, but its like I'm doomed to fail no matter what I do. I can't just not have sweets at home because my husband uses them to help him after work (physically demanding). I don't have much for my own treats, but before I know it i find myself grabbing his items, even if I don't actually want them (we have different tastes for sweets), almost like it's subconscious.

I know theres no magic bullets or anything, but are there any supplements that may help curb my sweets cravings? Just to help me cut them out while I work on it as well. I know I have a vitamin B issue (I have a genetic thing where I need to take l-methylfolate for depression because I can't actually process one of the vitmain Bs), I'm not sure if a lack of vitamin B could be causing it? Or if there may be something else I'm lacking that I need to supplement while I focus on cutting sugar and building that vitamin or mineral in my diet naturally?

Hello, so I am new to this calorie deficit, counting calories world.

My mom convinced me because she lost 30 pounds last year staying in a calorie deficit and staying consistent.

I have only been on it for two weeks now, but I have been very consistent with tracking all of my calories The first week I lost 4 pounds.. this week, being the second week I have just maintained. My scale also measures my body fat and BMI. It does look like my body fat is slightly going down. & I do feel way less bloated and I can tell (naked) that I look thinner.

I know I shouldn’t focus so hard on the scale and maybe I’m becoming a little bit obsessed with it, but it is bothering me that it’s not going down at least an ounce. My calories are already set pretty low because I’m not really working out besides walking, I know I could increase my steps.

Just wanted to come on here and ask is this a normal thing that happens or is there something that I could be doing differently?

For the longest time I’ve been around the 275-280 range, sometimes higher. I don’t remember the last time I stepped on the scale and saw a number below 270. Today I weighed in at 267, and I swear I almost screamed. I’ve been portion controlling, substituting my usual drinks for lower calorie or zero calorie options, trying to focus on getting more steps in, prioritizing protein, etc.I feel like despite everything and sometimes not feeling well mentally somedays, that I’m still making progress. There’s been days where I’ve slacked off and wasn’t as active, but I still maintained my deficit. I know it’s probably just water weight, but seeing the scale go down is such a rewarding feeling. My goal was to lose 10 pounds before going back to college, and I’m so glad I was able to achieve that goal :,)

I’m 22, 6’2, M and I started at 248 and I’m at 215, but I’ve been stuck at 215 for a good 4-5 weeks now. I started doing lifting again about 7 weeks ago and I can see significant changes in my muscles, they look a lot more defined than they did before I started. I used to lift a ton a few years ago and was extremely strong (could bench 295 for example.)

My problem is, is that I’m stuck at 215 on the scale. I feel like my body is slowly trimming down, but I’m getting frustrated that the scale is not changing. Is it possible I’m losing fat and gaining muscle at the same time and the muscle/water retention is canceling out the fat loss? I read a few times that if you have previous gains, you have muscle memory and therefore gain quicker. Is any of this true or plausible, or am I kidding myself and need to re-evaluate my eating habits? I would really appreciate any tips or advice or brutal truths!

All advice is highly appreciated.

Some things about myself: I'm 22, used to be 104kg at my highest but went down to 78kg. I currently eat basically anything, but it's basically a mediterranean diet because I'm... mediterranean. I do not workout at all, but I walk a lot. I'm really busy so I don't have much time in the day and could allocate one hour max per day for workouts. I have a lot of fat everywhere, but especially my thighs and upper arms.

What workout routine should I stick to to get the body type in the link below? I know it's possible for me, I just don't know how.

https://imgur.com/a/BZWecpq

Edit: I'm 177cm

I am 18 Years old Male and my measurements are 6’ 0” and 220lbs and I am fairly active. Every calorie counter I have used said my maintenance calories are around 2800-3000 Calories, although my health app says my daily calorie expenditure is around 1,800 calories, so which one would be more accurate? I am currently doing a pretty harsh deficit of around 900 Calories and have seen some pretty good changes although I would like to just know a more solid number for a maintenance. Also, is there any way to check body fat% and other progress at home?

Hi!

I’m (25M) super thankful to have started a great job recently that provides breakfast lunch and dinner. Before this I’d actually lost like 20 pounds and was basically doing OMAD (dinner).

But now I go in for lunch and still have a dinner and my appetite has ballooned up. And i also snack a lot now because there are a lot of those.

Obviously blessed to be in this position but very worried because i’ve definitely put on a few pounds and don’t want to get back to where i was.

I know self restraint is a core answer here. But wondering how people navigated simlar circumstances or if there are any practical tips here

Thanks a lot

I'm 37, down 53 lbs. And I've been doing my self care again since about October, doing things that make me feel good despite the fact that I know I'm not the coolest or best looking person in the world. Until my daughter was 4, I was always tired and didn't want to put the time and effort into myself. Eventually I got so fat (318) that I couldn't even sleep anymore because of developing apnea even though my little one was finally sleeping. My confidence is higher than it has been in years and I'm getting a lot of positive attention from my co workers and people in the world. I am not invisible anymore. I wear flattering clothes that I also love. I am still fat, but fuck it, I look so good and I feel great. That motivates me because I know the smaller I get the better I will feel. I used to wake up and consider calling in every morning because I was so tired. At 265, I jump out of bed again as soon as my eyes open and I'm ready to roll. My job requires a lot of walking and my feet don't hurt anymore like they used to. I'm so happy and appreciative. I'm so excited to see how I am in 6 months from now. I'm just happy. Thank you for letting me share.

For anyone interested, I use intermittent fasting to restrict my calories. I found that during certain parts of the day I used to over eat so I just restrict the times I eat so that I'm still able to eat with my family and eat as much as I like at dinner.

ugh, I don't even know where to begin. I was never active and fit but was at around a 'normal weight', for lack of a better term, for most of my childhood and teenage years.

the yoyo-ing started in my adult years in 2016 when I got from 158 lbs to 216 lbs in a few months. (I gained weight due to medication, stress, and big life changes) I was down to 185 lbs in 2017 and then immediately started gaining it back.

when 2019 began, I was back to 230 lbs. started intermittent fasting and daily walks. was down to around 200 lbs that year. then covid hit. I was able to maintain my weight for a bit.

by late 2022 after a few big life changes, I was back to 222 lbs. I started eating healthy and exercising again and was down to 170 lbs by mid-2023. it was a HUGE achievement for me and I felt so good. but, yet again, I started to gain it back pretty fast.

now, after less than 1.5 years later, I am back at 230 lbs.

I want to lose the weight again. I want to be active. but after hitting 220+ lbs FOUR DIFFERENT TIMES and then losing weight THREE SEPERATE TIMES, I am feeling hopeless. I've spent more than 8 years of my adult life gaining and losing weight at this point. I know that I did it before and I can do it again, but I can't seem to maintain it, so knowing that is killing my motivation.

those of you who yoyo-ed rather significant amounts a couple times, how did you motivate yourself to get back on track again? and if you are maintaining your goal weight, how do you do it?

(you will probably ask why and how I gain it back. I just do not know how to get back on track when I start eating unhealthy meals again. I feel guilty that I gained back some weight, and then I spiral and start eating excessively. at this point, I understand that I definitely need therapy for that. but I also feel that I still need motivation from people struggling with similar issues, hence this post)

all your replies are much appreciated!

G'day All, as the title says, I’m looking for some advice and tips on three big goals I’m tackling over the next year: Some other info - Im 33 years old, male, work full-time and have a wife and 1 kids whos almost 4.

1. Losing 40kg (88lbs): I’m currently at 138kg, and my target is to lose 40kg. (Be under 100kg for the first time since High-School). I’ve started making some changes to my diet and activity level, but I’d love to hear from those who’ve been through a similar journey.
   • What worked for you in terms of nutrition, exercise? I hoping to create something simple and repeatable each day
2. Health Tests: As I’m making these changes, I want to ensure I’m doing this in a healthy way. Are there specific health screenings or tests I should consider?
   • I’ve heard about cholesterol checks and blood sugar levels—is there anything else I should look into?
   • Is testosterone something I should get checked out
3. Training for a Half Marathon (9 Months): So my family is running a half marathon in late October, is it realistic that I could run that distance with 9 months training. I’m starting as a beginner with no running background. Plus i know Id need to lose weight first.
   • How should I structure my training plan as someone who’s starting with a low fitness base?

I’d appreciate any advice you’re willing to share. Thanks in advance for your help!

Hi everyone,

I (26m) been wondering if I stunted my height during my teenage years due to overtraining and undereating. When I was 13–14, my doctor told me I was likely to grow another 10 cm (~4 inches) before my scoliosis surgery. However, I didn’t grow much afterward, and now, at 173 cm (5’8”), my proportions feel very off. My dad is 179 (5’10) mom is 164 (5’4) sister is 168 (5’6) and my younger brother is 182 (6’)

Growing up, I was obsessed with staying as skinny as possible, constantly counting calories, and overexercising. I was bullied a lot for being a bit fat and my mom encouraged me to do it, sometimes even recommending me to skip meals for a day. I started doing this at age 13-14 because my doctor recommended me to do sports but I think I “overcorrected” it. My wingspan is 180cm (5’11) with a height of 173 cm and a sitting height of 84 cm (33") so I'm mostly legs.

I ate very little and was highly focused on weight management which was probably a mistake I averaged less than 2,000 calories I think. Looking back, I’m worried this might have impacted my growth. My torso feels disproportionately short compared to my legs, which adds to my concerns about stunted development.

Could these habits during puberty have affected my height? Is there any way to confirm if my growth was stunted?

Sorry if this has been posted many times before. I'm 23F, 168cm (5'6") and am technically at a healthy weight of 56kg (123lb). However I have a waist circumference of 85cm (33.5 inches), much higher than the recommended range for a 'healthy' waist size of 80cm. I am also East Asian, which I've heard has an even lower threshold for what's considered a healthy waist circumference due to being at greater risk of health issues.

I've lost 10kg (22lb) in the past 6 months from cutting out most sugary snacks and ultra processed foods and walking 20k steps a day. But despite the 10kg I've lost, my waist did not change at all.

What's the best thing for me to focus on? Building muscle? My strength training routine currently is doing 3 x 10 pushups a day and then lifting weights while watching TV. I also go to a ballet barre class once a week. I'm guessing there's a more optimal way I can go about it? Any specific muscles I should target or exercises that I should do?

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Hey guys I am 6'2 18M and weight roughly 110 Kg so I am quite overweight and I have struggled with Binge eating for most of my life and I was wondering if you guys had any tips on how to stop it. I have been on a diet for roughly a week and lost about 2kg but I am getting cravings again that I have had most of my life because I fell into a habit of just eating junk and thinking about the consequences later in life. Any advice of tips on how to help this feeling kinda go away or at least muffle it would help greatly. Good luck to everyone else on loseit!

I (25M) started a few weeks ago at 151KG (332lb), and I’m now at 141KG (310lb). I’m well aware there will be water weight in there as it’s not my first time trying to lose weight.

I’ve stopped driving to work and instead walk to work, it’s about 3 miles each way and I roughly do about 12K steps a day walking to work. On the weekend I can hit 20K-35K steps a day easily. Walking has always been something I’ve enjoyed. The mental part of walking regularly is doing me a lot of good.

Tracking my calories has been super helpful too, as it’s become almost like a game to me now to try and keep my calories down and track what I’m eating.

I naturally don’t eat breakfast, so I’ve naturally gravitated to a OMAD and 2MAD fasting regime too.

I’ve completely cut out sugar and fizzy drinks where possible. I drink as much water as I can, and mix it up with some tea and coffee too. I’ve also grown quite fond of sugar free flavored water too. I’m a bit of a fussy eater but I’ve found my eating habits are getting a lot better recently.

Because I have cut out sugar for the most part, I’m not snacking at all really now as I have no need, I was eating stuff like chocolate, donuts, pastries etc all the time.

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So I’ve been wanting to lose weight for years, but if I’m honest with myself never really tried that hard for long enough.

I’m at my heaviest ever following Christmas (242ibs, 6ft2) so I really really want to do something about this. I got a Garmin vivoactive 5 just before Christmas, and have been making a conscious effort not to eat crap. I’ve cut out “meal deals”, I’ve barely eaten bread in the last 2 weeks, I’m eating varied salads with chicken breast and a small amount of dressing for lunch every day.

I also recently started a new job - I’m a Surveyor, and the project I’m working on is a greenfield infrastructure project so when I’m on site simply moving from one end to the other is a workout in of itself, it’s like the Somme, especially at this time of year. I know many may not appreciate just how hard that is if you’ve never worked a job like that, so imagine walking across a sandbank with 1-2 kilo weights added to each foot whilst carrying an additional 3/4 kilos in survey equipment across your back. My Garmin tells me I’m burning about 3k + calories a day, and I’m quite sure I’m not eating that many, but the number just isn’t going down.

Despite this, at weigh in today I’ve gained a kilo in a week.

What am I doing wrong? I know muscle is supposed to be denser than fat so is it possible that I’m building more muscle and offsetting my loss? That just feels like an excuse though.

"...what can do 180 days of eating healthy to someone ?"

Starting from this question, I started that 180 days challenge and we're currently at 10% achieved, with as the title says : 4kgs (8.8lbs) lost!

For anyone who wants a deeper background on who I am and what weightloss has always been to me, you can find it here : [Challenge] What can do 180 days of eating healty to someone ? I also posted some day to day notes but not sure if I'll continue this, though

Secret #1: sticking to a time frame rather than a weight goal is highly more effective

Beginning this experience has been like many others attempts I had in the past, except that I'm now focusing on a kcal/protein plan, and a "time goal" to achieve instead of focusing on the number on the scale. I use an habits app tracker that allows me to increment a counter each day by one, so I can see on my smartphone's homescreen the current number of days I've been through, and I HIGHLY recommend that, for a simple reason :

If you see that you're currently at a, let's say, 10 days streak, you can't say you tried enough to give up, so you'll most likely continue and give yourself some more time even if the scale moves weird. And the more days you get through, the more it'll keep you going because you'll be into a "I can't give up that far" mindset. The whole idea is about to see your progress day after day, and not a scale progress but a mental progress, a sticking-to-the-plan progress, that will be more effective to stick to your journey! It's all about patience, and discipline, one day at a time, and you WILL get there!

Bonus tips: I also made an Excel chart to have an average weight loss goal on each 10% of the journey, this also helps sticking to the plan, so I'm not looking at the June or July deadline, but each 18 days is almost like a mini journey to accomplish, this helps me but not sure if it'd be the same for everyone, so I drop that tips there hoping this helps, but I feel like the Secret #1 is most likely to be applicable to most of us

I'm going to post another report either on the 20% milestone, or 30%, not sure yet but if anyone got ideas about how I can make this experience better to help the community, feel free to tell :)

idk if it’s just cause it’s 2am and i have tunnel vision but i feel discouraged because i know i can get to my goal weight,(5”8 180 right now i want to be 155-160) but it’s maintaining that weight for the rest of my life that freaks me out. i haven’t worked out in a couple days cause college classes just started back up this week and im adjusting to my new schedule. But that’s just the thing, that’s an excuse i told myself and now i’m feeling really guilty. i had an extra snack today because i told myself, “why not, i haven’t been eating many calories for the past 3 weeks, i deserve a snack?” and now im feeling double guilty. am i going to be feeling this guilt for the next 70 or so years im alive? how do i come up with a good routine thats healthy for me where i don’t develop an eating disorder or something. then i go and compare my body to other peoples body and it just makes me feel worse. i know i shouldn’t but i just do. i just feel like everything’s so complicated, but it’s not. it’s really not complicated at all im just making it harder and sitting here feeling bad for myself but that’s all i can do in this moment. then some days i look at my body and im like “damn i feel great and look great” and i’m like why am i even trying to lose weight if i like how i look. then i compare myself to my high school body and get down in the dumps again. i hit 178.8 two days ago and i weighed myself just now and im back to 183 :/. i can’t do this for the rest of my life man, it just feels so draining. call me dramatic but i just feel hopeless

I lost 45lbs last year and had a few defining moments in terms of my eating habits and lifestyle. I even managed to keep my weight steady over Christmas whilst still enjoying food and drink. I’m about halfway to goal, but since the New Year, I’ve lost all focus and motivation to keep going, and I have no idea why.

I’ve lost a lot of weight once before and maintained a healthy weight for years, so I know I can do it and I’ve got it in me.

If anyone has any words of wisdom, motivation or hard truths for me, I’m open.

Howdy folks!

My partner is an incredibly fit woman who has managed her diet and exercise extremely well for years now. I'm talking goes to bed by 6pm, awake at 2:30 am and doing an hour and a half workout consisting of very intense weight lifting and HIIT 6 days a week. In addition, her job has her on her feet and moving all day basically. She also precisely measures out all of her foods and tracks all the macros she eats, and I don't think I have ever consume more than 2200 calories in a day (I'd say 1800-2200 normally, 1300-2000 on cut weeks).

So she gets plenty of sleep (for the most part), works out intensely, and eats right but I think the fact she does all of that and her body "doesn't look as good as it did a few years ago"(her words, not mine, I think she looks incredible) and she's not at the weight she wants is eating at her mental health. She is trying to lose 8-10 lbs, but I'm not sure there is anything exercise-wise we can do to accomplish that considering how much muscle she already has. I told her, very cautiously and as respectfully as I could, that I think it might be the result of perimenopause impacting her body. She seemed to take that well, but it left us in this weird place where she is still unhappy with the way she looks considering all the effort she puts in.

She has zero interest in taking medications, and I don't see her changing her mind on it. Whatever approach I bring to her needs to be rooted in evidence-based stuff because she's a 20+ year Physical Therapist, so I was hoping maybe some folks within this community had ideas. I thought maybe changing her trainer would be a good idea because I don't believe they specialize or have much knowledge of the differences in older women, but she's not interested in spending more money at the moment for a number of reasons.

So, any ideas from you folks? I'll take any suggestions and answer any questions I can, just trying to be helpful.

No statistics related to weight because I've been trying to avoid scales.

I am a university student and we started school this week. I've been very stressed about picking out my classes and starting on work, and I think I finally broke because I binge ate dinner. It was mostly good food (a lot of carbs -- sure), and my only "indulgence" was 2 cookies, but I honestly feel so terrible. Not to mention I look bloated and my stomach feels horrible.

I am short and sedentary so losing weight is a lot harder. I'm not sure how to move on. Feels like shit when I had a good streak going all week.