Deciding to be sober was easy at first when I hit a low point… until it felt like I was fine and didn’t have a problem I was just sad. My girlfriend of 4 years left me, I lost my job, and now most of my friends don’t really talk to me because I stopped drinking. I decided I was actually fine and relapsed pretty hard this weekend, ending with me in a cop car. Now here I am 3 weeks after deciding to be sober hitting yet another low. How do I get serious about this? I start therapy tomorrow, knowing I need to get serious about caring for myself but it feels impossible when I feel like I lost everything I care about. I don’t really have much of a support system at the moment and being unemployed and now pending a possible dui and rent and utilities no longer be shared with my partner is all driving me insane. Life’s hard and I don’t know how to get better. I feel so alone and I don’t really think I’m strong enough to get through this… does it get better?

A week after breaking up with my fiance (30M), I (31F) found out he's been severely addicted to coke for an extensive period of time. His parents gave him the options of "move out" and "rehab", and he chose the latter. I'm closely tied to his family for several reasons, so I'm not able to completely step away from this absolute nightmare yet.

Today, I've been asked to write him an "impact letter". As I started thinking about where to even begin with the lying, gaslighting, stealing, and abuse, I found out from his parents he's planning on staying at rehab for exactly the required 28 days and then he....thinks he'll be done, I guess? All good? I think that sounds insane. Am I wrong? Is that a reasonable timeline? Or is he still deep in denial about how bad his situation is?

It's been a long ass journey but I did it

I feel good! I feel..fine! I didn’t make a big deal out of today but when I opened my app with an alcohol-free counter and I saw 365 days it made me smile. I’m not often proud of myself but this is a big accomplishment for me.

Keep going everyone! ❤️

Title. Even just having a few makes me sluggish and keeps me from doing other, more interesting things.

Stay strong, my friends

Are they right? Full disclosure, almost my entire family growing up died early in their early 40s/50s due to dependency on drugs & alcohol. I was the first to break the chain but I that doesn't mean I had it easy. The emotional toll of losing family time after time has really shaped who I am today. I can admit it, i am a tad bitter but it's bitterness to the drugs / alcohol. Not tje in addiction.

I wear t-shirts that say 'sober 4-life' & 'anti-drugs' 'clean forever' & 'straight edge'. Apparently it really makes friends uncomfortable. Is it wrong of me to wear them? The reasons I do;

• I am straight edge.

• they look cool as hell.

• Most members of my family wanted to get clean, but couldn't so I wear them to honour them.

• I want to send a messege to people who see it on the street & might be struggling.

So basically, I've been addicted to it for a couple months... I've found that weed helps A LOT with the cravings, it calms my mind, doesn't get me feigning for coke.. anyone else had the same experience??

and for context, I plan on quitting weed too, it's more of a medicine for now because cocaine has done some serious damage.. it's more of a temporary solution, I know a lot of you will say the risk of weed addiction is high too, but I've dealt with weed addiction too for years and was able to quit it through Depakene.

I'm just wondering if anyone else has had the same experience

Hey all, been struggling to communicate with Girlfriend and family. For context all 3 of my sisters and parents are huge potheads, I was too. About two years ago I really slowed down, nothing crazy, I just felt I didn't need it to have fun. And for about 6 months now I've quit entirely. But the issues lies when I try to spend time with my family, every single family gathering, be it Christmas, easter, or a birthday party, they get high. They get very confused when I decline, I've told them I don't need or want to smoke anymore and this seems to make them sad, as though I'm excluding myself from this activity. My girlfriend has picked up the habit and she too gets frustrated when I decline to smoke with her at home. Any advice would be helpful thank you!

One of my closest friends had an accident last night and decided he needed to get changed (necessary) however he stood in his shorts and I seen his stomach, it was extremely large just under his ribcage. I want to tell him but I don't know how to approach the subject? Any advice

Self explanatory. My church was supportive but my family couldn't care less. No meetings. Just day to day perseverance. Never thought I'd get this far, honestly. Today, for some reason, I'm incredibly depressed. Can't shake it either. Not even sure why. I should be happy/proud, but I'm not.

Exactly a year and a day ago I was hospitalized due to alcohol poisoning. Before that there wasn't a single sober day for like 2 years.

After I got out of the hospital I went to rehab, and I haven't had a single drop of alcohol since. I've had some hard times staying sober, but I made it for an entire year now!

Hello community,

As I state in the title, i have a teen cousin who I consider as a younger sister and I am shocked by what she is doing.

I understand a lot of teens experiment but I feel like she has taken the high road to a very bad end. Writing this, tears come to my eyes because I can’t bear the helplessness. This is incredibly stressful for the whole family, the nights out, the disappearances for a whole week, hanging out with strange men…

I cannot comprehend how does one end up like this, coming from a loving and supportive family.

I don’t know the details about what is she using, but I determined to help her out. The problem is that she does not listen, we don’t get anywhere. She will not state a problem, she will not talk. Mostly we get an “ok” and she just continues with her plan…

I would like to hear from you, what helped you “wake up” and understand you need to change your life.

Please, I am feeling helpless and I am afraid something bad will happen to her.

If any of you would like to chat or need a friend feel free to reach out! I myself am kinda struggling with connecting with people, have 5 months sober. If not I hope you all have a beautiful day! I'm willing to listen, make suggestions, anything I can do to help. This isn't my first bout with recovery and/or drugs. Had two years sober then I relapsed in December and went until May of 2024. Let's all help each other if we can!

Not looking forward to

“You’re no fun anymore” “You never spend time with us” “Whats wrong”

As many notice, no physical pain. Ok fatigue for a few days when I quit is not that serious. Cause I spent so much energy while on high and could not sleep for 2 days. That is normal.

Mental breakdown or whatever. I had thought it was nothing special.

I have been accustomed to boring ant-like life so much. No hobby, working and rest for one day.

But recently (since one month ago-when I have paused coke for 3 months) too dramatic psychological change started.

Now literally I have ZENO INTERESTS in anything, especially when it is not directly related to surviving tools. I work harder cause I must otherwise all financial issue. First we need fund to survive right? I don’t know but I work. I live in America but originally from where hard working and being non-social need is everyone’s norm and praised. So this kind of life is not what I can’t bear.

Otherwise I feel too tired of all. I found my fridge has nothing to eat or drink. Then I think with empty fridge I can survive for a while, just lie down. Tap water is enough. This is me now.

Before I loved sex, now NO LIBIDO. Once I taste euphoria or whatever while on high. Sex without coke is not fun. Should I desire what never gives me fun? No. Just lie down on the bed.

I check online shopping mall. Find nice new outfit. But I have zero interests. Nothing makes me desire something.

Poker face, no interests in anything. Even spending half hour at grocery store seems so useless energy consumption to me.

I don’t know whether it is from coke withdrawal. What kind of withdrawal symptoms starts after 3 months of pausing?

Maybe I need depression pills? Or is it what many coke users experience when they quit?

I have been drinking heavily, not every day for 25 years. I'm 44 now and had enough, I want last night to be my last drink

Is it worth doing it ?

My best friend is an alcoholic and he refuses help. He won't go to any rehab programs or support groups. I know this might be a lot to ask but; would anyone who has struggled with alcoholism be willing to give him a call and talk to him? I feel like he needs support from someone who has gone through similar experiences that can help him overcome his addiction.

A little about him. He's 39 years old and has a 13 year old son. He and his wife divorced 3 and a half years ago. He enjoys all things music related, especially bluegrass music.

If you're willing to, give me a message on here.

Today I attended a Halloweekend get together with tons of family. They were serving alcohol, my husband did partake (which is fine with me). I was tempted as they had my favorites but didn’t really have the urge. I was offered a drink about 6x and said no. Proud of myself. 🙌🏻 Today marks 2 full months of no alcohol. 😊

So I just joined this Reddit to talk to you guys about how I’m feeling right now. Currently I could go and smoke some bud but I’m trying to stay away from it as best as I can forever because of the demons that control me to do bad decisions (figuratively). Do I need more time to adjust?

My past situation is that I’ve smoked since I was 14. I’m 20 years old and just stopped 2 months back. You can tell that my body has had weed in my system since a quarter of my life so far. Since I’ve been sober I’ve alternated to nicotine vapes. I’m sorry…but I know it’s not good for me and it’s not the same as weed so I’m gonna let go of it pretty soon.

Exercise and video games are both hobbies that help me distract from my addiction but I’ve also been doing these hobbies whilst smoking so there’s a missing piece to this puzzle I fear. I promise myself, my family, my future, this sub, and God, that I will keep pushing through this process.

Can I get a NICE!

I apologize if this isn't formatted very well. I am a 22 year old male, I've been drinking since I was 20 and I dove heavy into it almost immediately, I recently decided to quit and become sober, I've been sober since March 2nd of this year, and recently I've been struggling to stay away from it. Normally when I'd get like this I'd speak with my wife about it and she'd help me get through it but recently it's been hard to bring it up because I keep thinking "One won't hurt" but I know it won't be just one. I just need some advice or to hear others stories.

Anyone struggle to look at old photos and whatnot? I feel utter disgust and pure hatred for myself at times. Just made a year sober, too.

I feel like after I hit a year of sobriety the monthly celebrations stopped, but I wanted to acknowledge this so I dont forget it is still a big deal, no matter how much ( or little) time has past.

When I was in 3 months sober I watched a woman take a 6 month chip and I thought It was a miracle I'd been sober for 3 months but I couldnt imagine being sober 6 months, so I just hoped I would make it to that milestone one day. Here I am 2 months away from 2 years and that will be 3 times the milestone I hoped to reach not so long ago. So I am just so proud of myself for not giving up.

I know theres been a lot of people posting here lately struggling to stay sober a few days, and I want you to know you are not alone, I was there too a few months ago and I am one drink away from going back there. Just put one foot in front of the other and take it one day at a time.

Thanks for letting me share

Do the cravings ever end? I find my self thinking about using more often than not. And I don't know how much longer I can take it. When do the cravings stop? I don't want to relapse but man, the devil is whispering to me...

Hi everyone. I love a drink or ten. That’s the problem, I can’t stop at one. I suspect I have ADHD and drinking is how I get my dopamine. I don’t drink all that often but when I do, it’s a LOT. Classic binge drinker. Sometimes I make it without throwing up but last night was not one of those nights. If I was at home it would have been fine, but it was in my partner’s car. And their car is their pride and joy. I had a towel in the car with me (my costume had fake blood on it and it wasn’t 100% dry when we left for the party so I put it on the seat) so most of it was contained in that. But I’m still embarrassed. I feel like I’ve hit rock bottom. My partner said that they won’t stand for it again, nor should they. I suppose I’m just writing this to ask for your tips and tricks, and maybe even some supportive words to encourage me to go sober. And maybe even tell me what going sober has done for you. I’m really, really embarrassed in myself and riddled with guilt.

Two years sober, three years July 2025. 28 female.

Really need to find some good, clean fun as the title suggests.

I have read books, hiked trails, done crafts, scrapbooked, gotten into language learning, am planning a trip to travel to France and Italy in 2025, my space is clean, I take a nice little bath almost everyday, I went back to school full time (along with work full time). I don’t have any friends who don’t drink. I don’t have a AA group or refugee recovery group I regularly attend as I find it a little triggering hearing people talk about their use.

Am seeking something fun to do. I know I won’t get the same “thrills” out of sober life but I am severely missing the fun “chaos” (as much as I’m thankful for the stability sobriety has brought).

I miss the 3AM, doing coke, drinking until I can’t anymore, talking with no filter, connecting, having fun, being out of my head…. I love my routine but can’t stand it. I miss all the adventures I’d go on. I know I’m romanticizing shit and I don’t want to fuck with my sobriety. Any and all help greatly appreciated.

One day at a time

I quit drinking 3 months ago. Physically I feel much better but mentally I feel like shit. I’m so bored with no motivation/energy. When I was drinking I would get so much accomplished around the house and felt so energized while drinking. Anyone else had this problem? It’s like I have nothing to look forward to. I had a scheduled week off of work earlier this month and I was honestly kind of dreading it.

Thank god for Facebook Memories it shows how lame and annoying I was when I was drunk how embarrassing some of they are.

For the past couple of years I’ve mostly smoked weed just 0-3 times a week and the occasional drinks here and there. And 43 days ago I stopped everything all together. Also not smoking cigarettes, though that’s actually been the easiest to kick.

Yesterday I was volunteering at a party, it felt nice to dance a bit, but talking to people and one other cute volunteer just felt so anxiety inducing. It was a sex positive/kinky party so the air of flirtation felt a little more poignant in the air than your usual party but I have to admit, I felt quite terribly anxious at points.

I see this as a good thing because the way I see it is that I’m relearning how to socialize and feel comfortable in my own skin without having courage enhancing weed/alcohol. But damn yeah it wasn’t easy at times.

Anyways, just wanted to share this with a group who might relate.

Cheers