As I read from many guys here I am also not strictly considering myself as bisexual. I am totally into girls/women…and I am also super attracted by dicks, but not men over all. I dont feel like ever kissing a guy for example.

So I watch a lot of pegging, trans fucking guys and gay porn from time to time and I love pleasuring myself anal with dildos but I cant stop to fantasize about a real dick in my hands, mouth and ass.

In the past I had some encounters with Crossdressers but it didnt quite fit my needs, because they wanted to be treated as girls and were just passive. My dream is an active and also expierenced guy who can slowly lead me in the right direction.

Long story short…tomorrow is the day. I met a really nice guy online and we are meeting tomorrow late morning at his place. I am extremely nervous about everything. What if I dont like it and it was just the fantasy about it? What if I like it? And what if he does not like what I am doing? Maybe you guys have some advice for a first-timer on how to enjoy what is going to happen.

Today I thought: "If I were a boy, I would consider myself gay.'' Just sometimes I wondered what I would feel about girls too and after a while I'd get bored. Because I feel the most intense feelings only for boys.

If so, why don't I consider myself as a straight? you can ask yourself that question if you are wondering whether you are bisexual or not, maybe it will be useful.

2 years ago today, I accepted the fact that I am bisexual!  Yay me!  My life hasn’t changed much except that I have a little more spring in my step, I now go to pride every year, I have a pride playlist, and I have more colourful socks.  Huh, I just realized that there is one more thing: now, I am bi myself, whereas before I was by myself!  So, I guess my life has actually changed a lot!  Anyway, it was largely due to this group that I was able to do that.  So, finally, I would like to say to all of you beautiful people, please continue to be your wonderful selves and thanks again!

Okay so, I’m female (17), and questioning, as I’m just really confused about my own sexuality.

The thing is, I’ve had crushes on both genders before, but I can never figure out whether it’s platonic or romantic, which is a huge issue. And to add onto that, I also don’t feel physically attracted to anyone, or like them romantically, until I actually get to know them, and care about them. Like, ofc I find both genders really pretty, but I don’t exactly ‘feel’ anything, by just looking at a pic of a stranger, yk?

I don’t know if that’s weird, or whatever, but it confuses me, because I hear some of my friends talking about how they find this and that attractive, and how they have crushes on people they’ve never met but I just don’t, not unless I know that person personally.

Is that normal? Or am I just a poser, pretending to be bi? I don’t know, I’m confused.

I know my gay part was born purely from trauma: its penis envy and father abandonment.

When I get disregulated, my gay 'use me daddy' side needs attention: do be dominated. I can't kiss or find a guy's ass attractive. I just want the abuse and I get off on that.

Anyone else?

So I came out to my wife and really myself about 5 years ago. We have a loving relationship and we have worked very hard to overcome so much together. My wife is completely supportive of my sexuality but she is extremely monogamous. There is nothing wrong with that and we have work through so much together to get to this place where we both can identify ourselves and each other. I am committed to my wife but at heart I am not monogamous. I understand why she is and she understands why I am not but we both recognize understanding doesn't mean accepting. My wife understands I love her and through trust and communication I believe we can bring other partners into our relationship. She doesn't share that view but understands why I do. I understand that for her commitment and love is represented by singular devotion and sex and love are intertwined. It took 10 years to get here and a lot of work and conversation. I care about my wife and I understand where she stands but I don't know if I can adhere to it and I accept that she doesn' embrace my view. How do we move forward? I care for her and want to find a way forward that respects both our views but it seems like that may not be possible.

Is anyone else feeling like this? My identity pipeline was pretty much lesbian -> bi with a strong preference for woman -> bi enby with a strong preference for women. I feel like I'm pretty much in the minority in all of those communities and it kinda sucks. I value every one of my bi and nonbinary siblings and it's great that everyone figured out their own truth but sometimes I wish I could relate more to others in the community. I can't really relate much to the way most bi people online express their attraction to women either. I can relate much more to the way older lesbians describe and live their attraction to women. But I don't want to intrude into those communities either because I am very much attracted to men too (even if it doesn't happen very often).

It is annyoing to be stuck between all of those worlds.

Hi,

I don't know who I am anymore. I know I love my wife and my daughter but I feel nothing anymore. I'm just constantly, I mean every second, questionning my sexuality.

I am not straight, I have to accept it. But I don't want to be gay... I loved women, I fantasized more on women than on men, and above all I love my wife. But the fact that I don't feel anything for anyone is really hard. I feel like I have to leave my family now, I feel like I'll never be attracted to women anymore.... I have constant sexual intrusive thoughts. I hate it. I think I never had attraction to a man in real life, but what if it's fake and i just didnt want to see it ?...

I am diagnosed with OCD but I know it's not this.

I am an empty shell who is gonna loose the girl he loves the most and his family....

What can I do ? 😞

So my friend is kinda in a dilemma abt her sexuality and she wanted to ask but isn't quite aware abt the reddit interface, so from here on it's my friend who is continuing the post:-

Uh , hey guys, well the title says it all , honestly I think I am pretty straight ,even dated a guy after 10th grade during vacation for like 3 weeks , which was totally online, but never got to call him , cuz he was too "shy" ( he was my classmate btw and i was the one who confessed first) but other than that I haven't really experienced anything( nothing physical or emotional). But I have dreamt abt stuff, like kissing my girl best friend in the last bench of my class( felt way too real as if someone actually kissed me while i was sleeping) ,then kissing some girl in a white robe ( she looked really pretty straight out of an anime , but the kiss felt ... watery) and then once I also dreamt abt the guy who I was in relationship with , where I was going towards him slowly with the goal of kissing him but he kinda pushed me aside like gently backed off so ya nothing happened there. Well ya that's what I've been dreaming off and it's making me feel confused. Like Zendaya is hot but Tom Holland is super cute too. So what do you guys think, is this just a phase and happens with everyone???

(Someone recommended me to post this here)

I have been questioning on and off my sexuality for a while now.

I have never had romantic crushes on women (I am 27) never wanted to sleep with s woman I knew (never anyone at School, university, friends, people I talked with out clubbing etc) I got some crushes on guys and occationally a guy would catch my eye out on the street. However I started to question my sexuality, because I had several fantasies about women sexually because of porn. I liked superfical women I guess- the male gaze unfortunately like those very female women who looked like How I wanted to I guess. I have never had Big boobs, always flat chested, beside having curves and I never felt feminine enough beside everyone telling me How feminine I looked. I never felt sexy like those women. But anyway I had fantasies about tribbing with those women. So I started to question.

I went on dating apps. And swiped and swiped - not really attracted- went through 2000. Then I found 5 in total. Went out with Them all. My observations:

First date: felt fun, different and we ended Up kissing (on second date) and I hated it . Like I got nausea, wanted to pull away. It wasn’t anything to do with her kissing style or anything. I just felt Ugh. No arousal, No feelings beside disgust. However we ended Up sleeping together- and she wanted me to touch her vagina- it was too slimey, yuck and I got No arousal from it- I don’t like How vagina feels with fingering and oral made me gag :/ . I thought boobs would be fun to suck But I felt the same pleasure as if I sucked my own arm.

Second perso date: No attraction- I just met and we talked No chemistry .

Third person date: same No attraction. Felt weird

4th person (Yesterday) : super pretty, curves, Big boobs and nice and fun. We drank went Home tl her. Kissed, felt No arousal, just eh and going through motions and yuck. She wanted me to feel her wet, and the ick came again, it was too slimey. Again hated the same things as the First. We ended Up tribbing and I felt nothing. Boobs were not as fun, just boring Eventhough she had beautiful D-cup boobs. Very sondring experience and I regret it so much.

Consider if I should go out with a 5th or women just ain’t for me.

So I've had this friend for years now, we play online and grown attached, eventually our friend group grew overtime and I started to notice habits....

He's been shown to immature (he's 19 and our friends range from 14 - mid 20s), he gets easily mad over the simplest of things like not wanting to play the exact same thing he's playing or for take "too much" time off the game (y'know... For like a week 😐)

He always wants to be the centre of attention, wanting everyone to do what he does while screaming at the top of his lungs for DARING to other stuff to do

He's also shown to be racist (like calling me the Hard R if he loses me in a fight), he gets very sexist when it comes to any female person that at the very least standoffish about him, and has homophobic tendencies like calling us the F Slur (the majority of us are either gay or Bi). He's been very transphobic to one of our friends' previous girlfriend just he didn't really like her. And if u try to call him out these things he acts like a 5 year old covering his ears while hiding in a corner

Over the years I grew somewhat numb to his antics but what he did really was the last straw, I recently came out as bi about a month ago and me and one of our friends started officially dating a few hours ago, but instead of being happy for us He decided to insult us, call us gross, pathetic and wrong just completely out of the blue. After that went on his little sob story how we were "drifting apart" and that "he was in the way of us and is actually happy for us" and proceeded to unfriend me and my bf

Never interacting with him ever again and if comes crawling back to me like he usually does I'm blocking him

So I’m military and I don’t want my unit to find out that I’m bi but I really want a bisexual tattoo any ideas

I’m starting to question myself if I’m bi curious . Cause lately I’ve been watching a lot of bi porn like bi 3sums and orgies

I wasn’t sure if this should go under advice or discussion. I mostly just wanted to vent and hear others experiences but if any advice comes along, that would be great too. I hope that this isn’t insensitive in any way.

Sometimes I think that I might be bi. Wording it like that doesn’t seem right to me but I’m not exactly sure how else to put it. I just don’t know if I actually am or not, and I hope that saying it like that doesn’t make it sound as if I think being bi is a choice.

Sometimes I think that I might be misinterpreting how I’m feeling. I wonder if I’m confusing allyship(?) with being queer. Do I find women attractive? Yes, but I also don’t think that the fact that I think women are beautiful alone means that I’m bi. So then I ask myself if doing certain things with girls would make me feel uncomfortable, and my answer is no. But sometimes I don’t know if I only say that because I don’t think homosexuality should be a thing to be ashamed of, or if I say that because I might actually enjoy it.

I guess I’m just used to hearing straight people knowing that they’re straight because imagining themselves in a same sex relationship grossed them out in some way. And when I imagine myself being in a same sex relationship, I don’t feel grossed out. But in my opinion, being anything other than straight shouldn’t gross anybody out so that doesn’t really help my case.

I know that being bisexual doesn’t have to mean that I have to like men and women equally, because I know that there are bi people who tend to lean more towards one side instead of the other. It’s just that when I imagine myself in a relationship, getting married, having a family, etc., I have always imagined a man in those scenarios. But that’s what I was raised to imagine, and it’s not as if the thought of marrying, dating, or starting a family with another woman is something that I can’t imagine.

I wonder if I had grown up in a more supportive and open-minded environment that this would be easier to come to terms with. If I had been, would I still be questioning it this much? Does the fact that I have to question it at all say anything? Never having been in a relationship before might also play a part in my unsureness.

I still live with my parents, and I worry that I’ll probably have to rely on them and keep them in my life when I move out. If I was to tell them that I was bi, I don’t think I’d be able to keep them in my life. My siblings might be supportive of it (more so my sisters), but I don’t think anybody else in my family would be.

Hi friends, I’ve been reading this sub but first time posting. I know y’all have seen a million of this type of post, but I really need the guidance of this community. Thanks in advance for reading 💜

I (28F) just came out as bi to my husband (33M) of four years, but I wasn’t ready to. I’ve been pretty down lately- busy at work, plus stress coming to terms with my identity, plus living in a state where it especially sucks to be a woman or LGBTQIA+ right now. Husband was freaked out that I’ve been more distant lately, wouldn’t accept “stress” as an answer so I felt like I had to come out. He acted like it was really bad news. His first question was why didn’t I tell him sooner. I explained that it didn’t feel safe growing up in the south, plus his family is openly homophonic/bigoted, plus the last time I was distant and thought about telling him, he was so mad he punched the wall so I changed my mind (he would absolutely never hurt me but wall punching isn’t my favorite). He didn’t understand why that would prevent me from telling him and just seems offended . His second reaction was to say “that’s why you’re so weird around insert name of my lesbian friend” which I thought was a really unfair thing to say. He stared blankly in space for about an hour then promptly went to bed.

Pls help A) was his reaction valid? I know that coming out can be a curve ball for a spouse but damn I’m feeling misunderstood and judged. could I have done something different or better?

B) what can I do to reconcile this situation?

C) is this a litmus test for our marriage as a whole? I don’t want to throw the whole thing away, but I also didn’t expect this kind of reaction.

Can’t wait for the nightmare to pass, thanks friends 💜

Hello!! I am new to the area of being bi-curious. I interestingly realized/admitted that I lean more towards bi because of my friends ex-wife (found her very attractive), but also through my adventures with swinging.

It’s just an interesting feeling when watching shows or movies and certain scenes come on and I feel my heart beat harder and sometimes faster. I’ll then think back on my limited experiences so far.

It’s an interesting feeling after realizing all this after getting divorced from my now ex-husband. But I’m definitely enjoying it :)

I have been trying so hard to accept myself but can’t seem to.

I feel like others won’t accept me because of my attraction not being equal, fully sexual or romantic, and having a cycle of attraction.

I’ve come out to one friend hoping it would help but it didn’t and made me feel worse.

I’m tired of feeling this way. I want to love and accept myself. I come from a very accepting place and a very open minded family.

Any advice?

Hiii

So my situation is, I’ve dated guys for all my life from ages 19-24 and then stopped dating for the past 2 years because of school. I’ve noticed on dates w guys they generally go pretty well and I find it easy going. Men don’t really get me nervous so I’m not really worried about how it goes. I decided to not go on dates w guys anymore because I only see myself long term w a woman and am generally more into women. I’ve only been on dates with 3 different women and I always feel so awkward and nervous. I generally leave the date feeling it was okay/didn’t go well. Does anyone else feel this way, or maybe I should go on more dates with different women and not overthink it too much.

I think I am gay, I like men both assigned at birth and trans. Some have said that’s bi to me but I don’t like trans woman. Only men who look like men.

I’m so confused rn plz help

Hi! I’m a 29M and I’m getting married next month to the most amazing woman! Over our 8 years together, I’ve definitely dropped hints about finding men attractive and she’s always been super casual about it. I sort of came out to myself a few weeks ago - I’ve never been with a man, so I felt a lot of imposter syndrome about this. But this incredibly supportive community taught me that bisexuality looks different for everyone and helped me accept this huge part of me! So naturally I wanted to tell me fiancé, but I just couldn’t find the right time.

Then a few days ago we started watching Love Island (why is everyone so attractive on this damn show?), and it just kind of came out. She was super supportive and said she already kind of knew, but just didn’t realize the extent of my attraction

We talked a bit and she had the typical q’s like “this doesn’t change anything right?”, and said that she felt sad that I kept this from her for so long. We talked about how I’ve felt this way for as long as I can remember, that I still love her and that I’m still very satisfied only sleeping with her for the rest of my life haha. Then we went back to watching and talked about how hot all the guys were

Overall it went really well!! I’m so so happy to be out to the most important person in my life! I know that not everyone has a positive experience coming out, so I’m so incredibly grateful for being accepted for who I am!!

TLDR: yay!! :)

Been watching bi/gay porn for ages, finally acted on it at a nude beach. There were initially a few older guys hanging around that I wasn't really into. Then a guy around my age came and sat about 10 meters away. At first I was to nervous to look at him, but when I did he was just lying there stroking his huge cock. I was a bit shocked but massively turned on, then thought what the hell, been thinking about experimenting for so long it's time to act. He suddenly stopped when he saw me looking so I shifted my position so I was looking straight at him and started touching my cock. He got up and made his way over. I turned to him and without a word he just grabbed my cock. I could see he had a huge bulge under his towel that I started grabbing. He took off his towel and for the first time I was holding a guys cock in my hand. It felt great and he was huge. I started to rub our hard cocks together, then jerking him which I don't think he was into. Then he took control, climbed over a tree branch that was separating us and started to give me the best blow job I have ever had. I was shocked at first, thinking OMG my cock is in another guys mouth but it felt so good. I tried to take a step back but he just grabbed me tighter and pushed me further down his throat until I came. He swallowed everything, gave me a nod and wandered off. It was so hot been thinking about it every day since. Would definitely try again so guess I'm bi now

this is my first post ever… this is this girl in my college classes and over the last month we’ve gotten really close. i’m bisexual and am out to my friends but it’s not something i feel comfortable to talk about to just anyone so i haven’t really mentioned it to her. the issue is i have a HUGE crush on her and we are constantly (what i think is) flirting with eachother. i’ll give examples

1. always asking for my number (i always say no as a joke) and i just recently gave it to her and she told me i made her day
2. biggest smile whenever she is looking at me

3.told me class isn’t the same without me there 4. calls me babe (maybe platonicly) and said that the weekend sucks because she doesn’t get to see me everyday 5. other girls in my class have even asked about us and noticed the flirting …those are just some but it makes no sense because she is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. Ik she is prob just being super friendly but it just feels different. Also she lowkey gives gay vibes if yk what i mean. Honestly just looking for some advice on what everyone is thinking. I’m worried if i say im gay she won’t wanna be as close anymore and i love the friendship we’ve built. But even my friends say it’s weird the way she talks to me specifically.

summers coming up so i’ll prob just let it pass but i can’t help but wonder if maybe she doesn’t realize what she’s doing or maybe she does. could this be her gay awakening?! (prob not lol but a girl can dream)

Hey guys,

So I’ve posted here a few times about my best friend who I’m in love with.

Update- We’ve fooled around a few times this week and talked about it. I said so you’re 100% straight and she says she assumes so. That she’s never been attracted to another female. And that since she’s never been with a guy she has nothing to compare it to, but that it was fun and she enjoyed herself.

I’m so confused because she definitely wants to fool around more. Do you think there’s a chance for us? Or am I completely delusional??

Yes.. exactly that. I am in my 30s and finally found some strength to utter what I've never been able to say before for the very first time. I told my husband I'm bisexual.

Grew up very sheltered, very Christian.

Can't stop staring at boobs.

This is my first 'out' there post, I haven't really explored this technically before. Kissed a few girls in my teen years.

I have never had a crush on a girl before, Is that normal? Sexually attracted, yes, but never in a way of "I really love who this person is".

There isn't much of a question here but I felt like I had to say:

"HI, here I am"

👋🏼❤️

I don't mean like "I'm straight and only a little bi." I'm trying to say, "I'm totally bisexual but my 'types' are so specific that I rarely feel attracted to anybody and I feel like I'm missing out on the whole experience."

Can anyone else relate to this? It just seems so unfair, especially with all the "everyone hot" memes.

I have been thinking about it lately, and fyi I am Indian with pretty conservative parents, I am M/17 I believe they will listen to me, but, at the same time, I am scared of the the uncertainties that accompany this 'coming out'.

I would appreciate any help, and precisely I seek advice from someone Indian, who has been through a similar condition as mine.