So I’m a questioning teen and was wondering if there’s any other questioning teens on here ? If any of you would be interested in small things like flirting to see if we’re gay , I’m also interested to find out

I'm AFAB, but Whenever I was dating a cishet man, I kept pleading for him to see me as a gay man with him and was confused as to why he'd treat me like a woman.

When I imagine myself, I like to imagine myself as a dude. I get gender envy from one of my male friends, wishing I had a beard.

When I wore my packer I felt pretty good. When I put on trans tape, I feel good.

Am I really a trans man or is it something else?

I feel very anxious even posting this, as someone who always worries about everything and how people might see me as, I'm sorry if I upset any of you. I don't know who I am. I keep questioning if I'm straight or bi or idk. I feel very conflicted with myself. I feel like I'm having a midlife crisis. I feel like everything around me is falling apart as if the earth has come to swallow me whole. I don't know to whom I'm supposed to feel attracted to and it makes me miserable. As if I didn't have enough problems I've basically been a shut-in for the past two years. I've been feeling really unhappy about myself. I have no self-esteem, no social life, unemployed and I feel as if whatever I do is not good enough for anyone. I've lost any and all interest in the things I used to enjoy. I need help finding my sexuality and I came here for some guidance. Please help me I feel so miserable, I don't know if I can live another two or three years feeling like this.

So I’m chilling in my room and I hear a pop. This scares me half to death and it takes me a minute to realize that there is a smoldering hot shard of glass on the back of my neck and I am wondering what caused this?

If my face is ugly?

In the state of New Hampshire if I don’t inspect the car and then go to re register the car the year after still un inspected what am I looking at when trying to re register my vehicle

Recently I found out that I was Trans. (What a time to figure that out huh?) But I came here because I'm having some issues with believing it so I wanted to ask if these are signs of being trans! Again, this purely to solidify this realization in my head.

I've had an OC thats female that I draw all the time because I find comfort in that character. I find that I would be more comfortable with certain sexual activities "if i were a girl." I tend to think that the main characters in stories I read are female (unless stated otherwise of course). I get frustrated and uncomfortable when people say my deadname multiple in the span of a short time. (This was even before my realization.) The voices in my head all "sound" female.

Im not sure if some of these count but, just wanted confirmation. Love you all and hope you're holding up okay. 💖

I am married to a man but since I was 13 years old I have always tetered the line between bisexual and lesbian. He's active duty military on his first deployment I was stuck at home with my thought. In those thoughts I would think about how everything thing that brought me true joy in life was not anything that followed the "traditional" I thought about how I had just convinced myself I liked men when truth be told I lean more towards feminine men and just women in general. I don't really want it to be true because it would just be easier if I was bisexual then my husband and I could just go to marriage counseling to help with our serious problems. On the other hand I don't feel like my authentic self in the marriage....I also feel too old to be questioning my sexuality I mean shouldn't I have figured this out in my teens/early 20's.

I (24 F) always identified myself as straight, even though most of the male crushes I had were fictional. I have never had any interest in women.

I was trying to read a BL called ten count, but I was worried about being misogynistic.

So I decided to look at a few forums and I stumbled on Quora and other sources about experiences about being a lesbian.

I decided to read a GL called Asumi chan is interested in lesbian brothels:

https://www.google.com/search?q=asumi+chan+is+interested+in+lesbian+brothels+&sca_esv=5b22f5787084afa3&hl=en&biw=1440&bih=778&udm=2&sxsrf=ADLYWIKDjKJWvV8gDgo2uI9T0kid8AKPJg%3A1735583027036&ei=M-VyZ4b1AfmnhbIP1ebmwQ0&ved=0ahUKEwjG2rfOjtCKAxX5U0EAHVWzOdgQ4dUDCBE&uact=5&oq=asumi+chan+is+interested+in+lesbian+brothels+&gs_lp=EgNpbWciLWFzdW1pIGNoYW4gaXMgaW50ZXJlc3RlZCBpbiBsZXNiaWFuIGJyb3RoZWxzIDIEECMYJ0ifDVCgCligCnACeACQAQCYAU2gAU2qAQExuAEDyAEA-AEBmAIDoAJbmAMAiAYBkgcBM6AH2gI&sclient=img

I read the first chapter and I began to have nightmares and intrusive thoughts, to the point where I couldn’t sleep alone.

I also started to look up book covers of the manga, YouTube videos of women kissing each other, women (celebrities) in sexy clothes, Yuri porn on r34, use those perverted AI girlfriend chatbots , looking at lesbian dating apps, and started having intrusive thoughts of kissing women or having sex with them to confirm my orientation.

I looked up other forums on reddit and quora to see if my orientation has changed. My sister said that sexuality is fluid but I saw other forums say that the statement was homophobic.

I am muslim so there might be societal pressure as well but I have been depressed, sometimes to the brink of tears.

I have lost interest in drawing, learning Japanese and a lot of my previous hobbies and I have lost interest in men and forming relationships with both men and women, to the point where my whole routine and goals are being ignored.

What should I do?

I am not having intrusive thoughts at night and I am smiling at certain dreams (kissing and having sex with women). I am having intrusive thoughts at other times and sometimes I get anxious. One time, I had an intrusive thought of kissing my friend and I cried in the surgery. Some of my thoughts feel real (like marrying women, kissing them in bikinis and touching them ). I sometimes feel calm and sometimes I am indifferent, which scares me

I still look up images (sexy or not) of women and the results vary from anxious to feeling nothing. I don't know if I am a lesbian or if I got desensitised to the whole thing. One time, I looked up images of a cornstar (changed the word ) completely nude and a few hours or so later I went to the bathroom to test and started laughing and crying.

I have these intrusive thoughts at work (I never felt this way before) where I would get nervous around women and I don't know why it started.

I did a quiz on wikihow on am I lesbian and when I did it, it said I was attracted to women and when I saw the comments, one of them said that one sign is having mainly women friends and male fictional characters and I kept using chatgpt and reddit to reassure myself.

When I watch certain shows like Mr Bean, I stop thinking about this and I feel better, which worries me because I wonder if these thoughts are genuine if a TV show is able to distract me

I had my therapy session and I mentioned sometimes I go onto reddit to explore the possibility of OCD and they said I might have it or not and I am worried because I wonder what if I don't and I am in denial of everything.

I just want my old life back (before the intrusive thoughts). If I stop the compulsions, will the intrusive thoughts go away?

I feel "excited", an urge to smile and anxeity like I am enjoying my thoughts but I still look depressed. When someone mentions I look depressed I lose it and start crying

I came out as trans back when I was 16, and have been out and proud about it since. At the time there was no doubt in my mind that I was a man and that suited me best. 6 months later I got onto T. When I turned 18 I had my name legally changed. And just about a year ago I've gotten top surgery. Since getting top surgery though (which I'm very happy about), something feels like it's changed. I feel more comfortable with being referred to in a feminine way. It's to the point that, when we're in private, I'll sometimes have my fiance call me she/her and princess, and other such things. It also doesn't bother me in the least bit when people misgender me. I know that it's not that I made a mistake in thinking I'm trans, because I still 100% feel like a man. I am definitely a man. But also, I wanna be a woman now???? It confuses me because I used to hate the idea of it, but now I kind of like the idea. I don't know what to think or how to feel about this part of me. Am I some gender that doesn't fall on the binary scale? Is this just some weird phase I'm going through? Anyone who can shed a little light on what I'm dealing with would be appreciated.

It’s only been three and a half days since I tried being one again and I really don’t wanna be a man anymore. I feel like I screwed up making my unicorn shapeshifter character with he/him pronouns and I don’t like the way it feels. I don’t feel that’s the true me at all. Thing is I’m not exactly a “girl”either and every gender seems to be short lived for me. The only thing that seems to stick as long as possible is “butch trans woman” but no one is gonna take me seriously as Thomas the girl and I never had any childhood dysphoria but I hate being a man. Ugh.

i'm still questioning my gender identity. i really want to be a boy. i look at other men and i just wanna be like them but i don't mind the feminine parts of me??? i don't REALLY mind my body but I'd be so much happier if it was more masculine. i would prefer to be perceived as a boy but I'd prefer to be referred to using any pronouns. BUT at the same time, using she/they pronouns would insinuate that i am feminine and i don't want that.

Now, I know for a fact the term demiromantic fits me, because it sums up every single crush I have ever had, and that's a queer identity. However, because for the longest time I only had crushes on guys, I assumed that I was, essentially, straight.

Until recently when I started acknowledging some interactions in the past, and now I'm having doubts.

Most of my crushes have been on fictional characters. Most were male, one was female (EDIT: at least I think it was a crush, could just have been admiration), two were non-binary but soft-masculine leaning. In terms of actual people I knew, all of my crushes offline were male (3 of them). I had two online flirting, one with a guy, and one with a woman. Though with the woman, after we talked over text, and flirted a bit, I panicked at what this could mean for me, got cold feet, and ghosted her due to fearing not being straight

Also, usually I avoid erotica, especially visual erotica, as I find it gross and disgusting and avoid seeing it visually like the plague. But when it comes to reading, I started reading some erotica between characters I like, or a degree of self-insert fan fiction. Straight erotica, I feel a little hot about, kind of aroused (I think), but lesbian erotica that I read has me feel absolutely volatile—hot. dry mouth, much more discharge than straight erotica, the works. I feel really guilty that I feel this at all, but I'm unsure if it's legitimate attraction that I'm feeling or just something about the emotional fantasy, and that is might have no bearing on my sexuality in terms of real-life feelings.

So not sure if I'm bi, pan, or "straight with exceptions". Is this normal for a straight person to feel or am I a bi/pan woman miles deep in the closet?

Need help!!

I loveee women, I love the idea of falling in love getting married having kids and everything, but at the same time I love 🍆 for years I’ve used gay dating apps to hookup with guys not much most guys scare me but I can’t picture myself like falling in love with a man and kissing a guy and getting married. That’s just so crazy to me idk if it’s just the way I was raised or what. But I feel bad because I want to be in a relationship so bad but I can’t hold off my urge. Anyone else been through this or feel this way?

So, I'm sure we all heard this news. But, when this started my friend group started to get a little shakey. My LGB friends handled this like it was nothing, didn't even mention it. However, my trans friends seem to be frightened for some reason because of this. I have a general question, isn't the whole point of the Lgb to have people accept them despite their sexual preference? If that's the case, then why or how do trans people fall into this category? Trans is what you are, so that doesn't necessarily mean that's your sexual interest, right?

If anything, I kinda wish the other letters in the alphabet besides LGB should have their own group. It would make understanding them better because I feel like there's a difference between? 🤷‍♀️ Enlighten me? Thanks for reading, and the replies. I know this is a sensitive topic. 💕

I used to identify as a lesbian but obviously since I’m a man that label does not apply to me anymore. Then i thought i might be straight but I realized I could probably be attracted to any gender as long as they align with my genital preference. For context I DO NOT think that genitals equals gender, and the only reason why I bring up my preference is because sex is an extremely important part of a relationship to me from the beginning and I don’t want to start a relationship with someone who I won’t enjoy sex with. Saying that I’m not interested in people with penises sounds super transphobic though, and I’d hate to be doing that to my community. I don’t even know what I’d call this sexuality to begin with. Does anyone have any advice on what I am/ if I’m being transphobic?

Hey all,

I (F21) have not explicitly identified as anything but people assume I am a lesbian. I am more masculine presenting, have shown an interest in women in public etc.

I dated a guy for 2 years and towards the end of the relationship I started kind of spiraling thinking about the fact that I couldn't be with a woman. I had previously been in a relationship with a woman for like 3 months, we did some physical things, but it was just me doing them to her.

I lost my virginity to the guy I was dating and I really felt that I was into him, but suddenly a long term relationship didn't feel like something I wanted. I dont know if i was just not ready for a relationship and felt overwhelmed, or if I just didn't want a relationship with a man. I've always felt like I need to identify as lesbian because thats what people assume of me, but I'm also unsure about how I would ever feel in a long term relationship with a woman. But when I picture a partner for the future, I either picture a woman or nobody at all. I'm just feel confused. I find myself watching p0rn that involves women only, men only, straight couples, and they all turn me on. But when I think about the long term real aspect of it, I feel overwhelmed. Just looking for some advice, especially if any of you have felt this way. I know I don't need to identify as anything specific, but I'm just not really sure if I'm alone in this.

Thanks!

Iv been using HephaestusUK for years on everything, but iv had some doubts about how good it actually is. People have called me Hep or Heph before, but is it easy to get or is it a bad username?

I'm 33m, married in heterosexual relationship recently got really turned on by gay/trans stuff. I always watched lots of porn but recetnly watching a lot of trans and gay porn. Moreover recently I discovered prostate play and I bought prostate messager and anal dildo and started playing with my butt and I really like it. I've become obsessed with it so few days ago I was home alone during weekend and I played almost not stop. Now I'm thinking about visiting trans woman escort to have real deal.

I wonder if it's just me or straight porn started to be boring to me and I switched to trans/gay porn because it's new and fresh and straight porn is no longer exciting to me.

I thought I was gonna be an agender femme but now my gender has shifted to a more mssculine gender. I think I'm a trans man now.

Am I genderfluid?

I've never been in a relationship despite having many opportunities to do so. I always gave the excuse that I wanted to focus on school, but now that I'm years out of college; I find that I just don't find enjoyment in any of it.

The dating apps feel shallow as I struggle to have the same conversation over and over again with men who don't read my profile.

The dates feel like I'm speaking at an interview rather than with a possible romantic partner. Even if they are nice, and objectively not ugly, I can't help but feel uneasy at the idea of us being 'close.' I've never been attracted to a single date and it's starting to make me look inward.

I love the idea of planning outings, giving gifts and having someone to spend life with, it's just the execution that is failing me.

The best explanation is that I'm ace, but I find a lot of enjoyment in romance books, perhaps them being fantasy is enough to separate my own experience with it.

It could also be my autism, I have no clue at this point.

When i was younger, I left my phone charging for 3 days straight when i went on a trip with my family and my parents said I couldn't bring it. I didnt know much, so I left it charging so that when I got back I could play with it. When I got back, I took it off the charger and the phone was completely dead. It wouldn't turn on, and it was perfectly fine before the trip, even though I left it charging. I'm still confused about that because I googled it and google said that phones have a setting where it just cuts off the power in the cable when the phone reaches 100%, because I thought that maybe i left it charging for too long and then the battery maybe got damaged?

Hi,

My wife is a Vice Consul and works for a Consulate (not USA) she does not pay taxes since she gets taxed from the country where she was born, however she has a Social Security Number from the USA

Can I claim her as a dependent so I can file my taxes as Married? We do not have kids by the way

Thank you guys

Whose sexuality they've made you aware of, yet they prefer not to talk about their love life regarding their sexuality due to not being interested in expressing that part of themselves and keeping it private

Don’t know if this is compulsive or true

So I’ve always been attracted to girls growing up, like ever since I started masterbating when I was 11 I was into women, always hooked up with girls never anyone else. Even now in real life I only look at girls. However my fantasies went from women to trans women to men to finally now being the woman and sissy hypno when I watch porn. I have been watching it for 13 years so I’m wondering. Is this porn escalation? Or am I actually experiencing gender dysphoria? I still as mentioned above only feel attracted to girls in real life. I don’t look at them and tell myself “I want to be them” I tell myself “I want her”. But when I watch porn I don’t get erect at the thought of being with them but rather being them…. Would appreciate some insight experiencing porn induced erectile dysfunction as well… I’m considering talking to a sex therapist and currently on day 4 of no masterbating or porn and the urges have diminished a bit and the thought of girls sometimes gets me erect. I just want to say I have no problem with this questioning stage. In fact I actually empathize heavily with the trans community now as I understand this societal pressure to be “normal”. However I do think I’m straight or at least bi and experiencing some sort of porn induced confusion… would appreciate some insight from someone who isn’t purposely trying to transition me or lie to me about being straight either. In addition I never look at guys in real life only in porn and I don’t get erect in real life at the sight of woman or men anymore.

So I'm a 29M and had always identified as bisexual. I've only been in a romantic relationship with a female. I've had sexual encounters with men but never felt the urge to have an actual relationship.

For the most part, when I used to watch porn (I stopped recently) I would watch a specific kind of gay porn mainly involving straight men. Or if I watch straight porn I prefer the ones where you can see the guy as much the woman. So I guess I have a thing for straight men.

I would say I'm more sexually attracted to men but nothing more. I don't see myself dating a guy. Maybe because I've never tried it? I don't know.

When it comes to women, I usually admire them wholefully? If that makes sense. Like not just sexually but like their character and personality. I could picture a relationship with them as opposed to men.

With men, it's rare that I would admire someone past the sexual or looks part. I remember when I was 18 or 19 developing strong feeling towards a guy co-worker. I think I tend to develop the romantic attraction after developing that bond.

Finally, I really don't know when someone is attracted to me. And it's kinda frustrating since I don't know when someone is hitting on me or if they're just being nice. Like unless you told me, it doesn't really click.

So yeah, what do you think? Is this something I should be talking about with a therapist?

Okay, I (NB16) know I’m ace, but idk if I’m aro. I thought I had a crush in fourth grade, but it could’ve been me hearing about crushes and telling myself I had one on a guy that people liked. I can’t ever see myself in a long or short term romantic relationship.

I always thought I was straight normal vanilla but recently I’ve had a couple sexual experiences and all of them have left me revolted and gross feeling like even just kissing or hands on my waist or hips am I asexual or am I just a weirdo?

I feel like I want to die but the concept of death scares me shitless so I can never say it out loud-in a serious matter that is-but I also feel like I have no purpose anymore even tho Im still very young, and its scaring me honestly. Not only me but my unwillingfullness in life is scaring the ones closest to me aswell, I tried to talk to my therapist about it but chickened out at the last minute. What can I do? Is this normal? Am I okay?