I consider myself to be a straight man (22 years old). In the last 4-5 years however I've been gradually expanding my horizons when it comes to delving into different kinks and finding out what I like. I'm still a virgin but in terms of what I like when I'm playing by myself I'd say I've gone from being pretty vanilla to being very open minded about trying anything once.

Lately, and what's made me super confused, is my recent discovery that I like showing myself off to not only women, but men too. I'm not really a fan of receiving pics from guys but I do find some femboy stuff on here to be hot (mainly because they look really feminine). I'm also really into trans women too because the idea of a female body having a cock turns me on a lot.

I'm not really sure how to explain it but I'm really not sure if I'm bi. I'm so confused and don't know how to get an answer. Has/was anyone in a similar situation as me? What did you do?

Hi, I (21M) came out as bi just over a year ago but I’ve probably known deep down for At least 2 years. And I really just wanna share my experience. I wouldn’t really call myself a very sexual or romantic person, and as a kid I only really had platonic interests in other people (I rarely developed “crushes”). However, as I grew up I started to be attracted to women and I thought I was straight for my entire teenage years. Then, suddenly, one day I met a guy and began to feel these feelings for him. This was very very confusing for me because these feelings were familiar, yet until then I only ever felt them for girls. Over the years since then I began to find men attractive more and more as I grew more curious of this part of me, but it was only recently that curiosity turned into comfort.

Nowadays I know exactly what I am, I’m bi. And I feel this amazing sense of pride and empowerment every time I repeat it to myself. I’m in absolute amazement at the fact I experience both ‘straight’ and ‘gay’ attraction and I’m not limited to a single gender. It really feels like I have the best of both worlds, which has been a theme for me my entire life.

I also feel like men and women are two completely different experiences (in terms of how attraction towards them feels). Both genders make me feel different ways and invoke different responses in me, which I think is fascinating and really cool.

So yeah, being bi is awesome and I wouldn’t trade it for anything else, cus it’s who I am… and it’s awesome :)

Ooh, and another thing is, I’ve struggled a bit with the “bi-cycle” (only sometimes) in the past, which has been the cause of a lot of my more recent confusion. I’ve literally been like “oh damn I’m straight after all” one day and then literally the next day I’ve been like “maybe I’m actually gay”. However I kinda know how to tackle that issue now, I literally just reassure myself like “yo, no matter how you feel right this second, you’re very evidently bisexual” or something like that. I’m curious to hear how the bi-cycle has affected other people and how they felt.

But she's suspicious. Asking questions that are requiring me to lie because I am not ready to tell the truth! She hasn't asked if I'm gay or bi. She hasn't asked if I'm cheating. But she thinks something is up.

I have no confidence that coming clean will work out. Even if she accepts it and we stay together, that doesn't mean I'll be able to act on it. So I could be better off just keeping my mouth shut.

What a mess

For context I'm 26 y/o and I've started to embrace my bisexuality. I didn't always know I was bisexual, growing up, I didn't know there could be a space in between straight and gay. But now I'm more content with being somewhere under the bi umbrella. I've tried stuff with few guys a few years ago on Grindr when I was more insecure about my sexuality but never anything romantic related. And also had a girlfriend who I loved deeply and enjoyed being with. She's the first person I've told I'm bisexual in person and she really embraced me. I told her from the start because I didn't want to hide a part of me. But also I would shy away talking about my attraction to guys during our time together. I still craved some guy attention, but equally loved being with her. It was quite conflicting for me.

Few years have past now and I'm looking for meaningful, fun and adventurous connections. I want to explore my bisexuality and desires further but also fall in love with someone. Lately I've been thinking about what it would be like to have both a boyfriend and girlfriend. I've recently joined Hinge, but haven't made my bisexuality visible on my profile, but a step forward in that I'm putting myself out there to guys and girls. I also come from a south Asian background so I've been very discreet about my sexuality in the past. Now I just want to live it out and enjoy my life more. I also plan on being in the creative industry and will likely be under the public eye a lot eventual but want to remain quite private in my dating life. But also I think the bisexual community could do with more positive representation so maybe I will create art around it and be more open about it. Help future bisexuals on there journey by feeling less alone. Just don't want to have to announce and make it my whole personality. It should be celebrated but also just enjoyed as a normal part of life.

I haven't rushed into anything with girls or guys since breaking up with my gf a few years ago. Pretty much been celibate since. But now looking to potentially have a boyfriend/girlfriend. Ideally both.

Any advice for me would be very appreciated, thank you.

I [25M] moved to a new town and I finally feel like I am able to explore my bisexuality - however, curious to know if anyone has experienced a longing for something they’ve been told or feel isn’t possible with regard to their orientation? Let me explain - characteristic wise, I’m fit, 5”10, athletic, was in a frat etc; and honestly, this is also the kind of individual I’m attracted to. I’ve been told (in my search) this is nearly an impossibility to find - that if I’m lucky I’ll find a “DL bro” looking for an experience. Its created an intense sense of longing and sadness that I won’t be able to explore this side of me because the “archetype” I’m attracted to is only straight. I feel dissociated from showing this side of myself because I just have to silently watch and observe the type of person I find attractive, and it’s depressing to feel unable to experience this - it’s like crazy FOMO and idk what to do about it.

Honestly, just looking for some input, experience, reassurance? Discussion.

I just got out of something that was pretty long term, so I'm not sure if it's the current dating climate or if I'm just out of touch. Does anyone else find it easier to get dates with men, but harder to build a relationship with them? All while it being the opposite with your interactions with women.

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For me, one of my best buddies was actually the cause of my bisexual awakening. We've known each other for 6+ years, so it was weird at one point starting to feel romantic feelings and eventually sexual ones as well. One day, we're just two dudes hanging out, the next, I start noticing how he bulges in his sweatpants or how his jeans hug his ass. I went from punching him in the nuts to wanting to suck his cock. I feel like a cliche — crushing on my straight best friend.

He does know I'm bi; he just doesn't know he's the reason I figured it out. And it was rough at times, trying to preserve our friendship while simultaneously getting over him. I've had a rough couple years and he's been instrumental to getting me through it all. While I'm not 100% over him, it's gotten a lot better, but I had to artificially create distance between us to help facilitate that, and I felt like an ass because he was also going through some shit. Even as I've been able to temper my feelings overall, I have to admit he's still what I think about when I jerk off. Every. Single. Time.

Anyhow, I'm curious if this has happened to anyone else, and if so, what's your story? Were you able to get over him AND stay best friends?

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Hi, I was wondering if I would be able to bottom if all I have done before was just fingering? I recently came out as BI and I had some hook ups as top, but I really want to bottom too... Should I buy a dildo or something?

I am a verse but predominantly a top but I love looking at the Abs and biceps of men the masculine torso gets so me so hard and I like long penises and have been looking at them a lot lately and wondering what it would be like to have one inside me, but I feel weird because people think Tops are so supposed to like feminine men and bottoms are supposed like masculine men, like I was having a conversation with a straight friend where we were looking at a bunch of naked guys on the internet as a joke and he saw one dude with big muscles and a fat ass and he said “I don’t why gay men spend time lifting weights if they’re just gonna get their cheeks stuffed” I said that’s because we like the male body I said that like saying “Why do women get breast implants if their only gonna get fucked in the vagina” he laughed and said good point. I do love a lot of feminine men by I normally have higher preference towards fairly masculine men for the same reason that I prefer more feminine looking women, because they are the female and male body at they’re natural peaks my ideal wife is a woman with big breast wide hips and a fat ass while my ideal husband is a man with toned abs long penis and a big butt I’m not saying they have to look that way because that’s a little out of my league but I’m saying that’s what gets me the hardest normally.

M40 here been battling myself for probably 20-25 years after a few experiences with a mate. Nothing big just snogging and swapping hand jobs & blowjobs. We were both sure of our sexuality and curiosity got to us we were single horny guys who got a little to close.

Anyway after our 3rd time my mate was like we need to stop I'm not gay or bi it's affecting me etc.

Well we stopped & met our girlfriends done normal relationship things but I was still secretly in turmoil over the times with my mate. Not because of doing them or anything it left a effect on me of wanting more I started watching gay porn, trans porn more. More recently last 10 years I'd say I set up a secret account on twitter (or x as it is now) to follow gay stuff basically.

I'm in a weird position as I don't fancy guys just like the idea of gay sex being dominated by a trans godess or femboy. I've let this affect relationships as it just won't go away its like I hate myself for being the way I am like I shouldn't like what I do.

I mean last last 5 years I've swapped blowjobs with my mate again twice no fuss just bang done it yet I hate myself after as its like a voice saying "why did you do that your not gay"

I have times where I'm straight just into women can be months & months then bang wake up and feel gay like only gay stuff will satisfy me. It's affected me to the point I can't even say if I'm bi, gay or what. I feel I'm straight but bi tendencies to a point but could just be in denial and actually be bi.

Thanks for reading i know it's long any comments would be appreciated good or bad same with advice.

I was wondering if there is a place to express sexual fantasies, about a man, men, couples and or read fantasies about other people's fantasies? It really turns me on to read about them, porn seems to be fake. Or recommend good books to read? I have a few fantasies, about encounters of my own imagination. I think I scare people off when I unload my fantasies in the chats. I don't want to but I just have sooo much desire...

What hookup or dating apps do you use? Have you found your person there? If so, how did it go/progress? If not, do you believe you can or will?

Most of the time i feel nothing in my pants when i see attractive women at work even they have big butts and big breasts and happen to be beautiful, yet when i see female cosplayers in skimpy outfits that shows off their boobs and accentuates their butt , scantily clad egirls , gamer girls with big boobs showing cleavage on social media or even female pornstars having their big boobs exposed and bouncing around and even buxom female anime characters and hentai of female overwatch characters i get turned on.

some timesi get turned on a little and sometimes i get turned on alot to the point i want to masturbate just thinking about doing lewd sexual things to women with big breasts.

Why is it i don't think this way about women i see irl, yet e girls,pornstars,instagram models, scantily clad cosplayers,and buxom fictional characters arouse me?

I still find men irl and i still have some male celebrity crushes and male gay pornstars and crossover pornstars like Dante Colle i still get turned on by even in bisexual mmf threesome scenes.

Is this normal for bisexual men or is it just me that feels this way.

Only been with women before, but have always fantasized about sucking cock. Specifically car/public type BJs. Nervous to try it and would like to be very subtle about it but not sure how to go about it or what it would be like

Hey everyone, I’ve been in this cycle many times and just want to get my feelings out , and sorry if this is abit tmi but here we go . When I’m horny and want to pleasure myself I love nothing more than to watch gay porn , trans porn any porn really and really into the idea of being with men , downloaded Grindr a few times and love it on there , but other times I couldn’t think of anything worse than to do that especially when not horny , the idea of dating a man just isn’t there for me , I have no interest in it like idk why , just being with a women is a lot more appealing and it all depends what mood I’m in when I’m horny to what I decide to watch ,I would like to do stuff with men but I know as soon as I finish I’ll hate it , not sure what’s up with that lol , sorry this is all over the place just want to get this off my chest really

Hey everyone, this is a deeply personal story I’ve carried for years, and I’m sharing it here because I don’t know where else to turn. I feel like I need to get it off my chest, and I think this community might understand.

I did use AI to help me clean up the post as it was a bit of a mess and removed names of people. I have proof read it several times though and made a few counter edits.

When I was a kid, around 8 years old, I met my childhood best friend. He lived just two houses down, and we did everything together—vacations, adventures, and all the things best friends do. We were inseparable for years.

As we got older, our relationship became more complicated. There were things I didn’t fully understand at the time, and I’ve spent years trying to unpack how those experiences shaped me. What I do know is that I struggled a lot with my identity, especially during middle school. I didn’t feel the same way about women that my peers did, and I was bullied relentlessly. People called me names like “gay,” and I felt so ashamed and confused, even though no one actually knew what I was going through. I suppressed everything and just tried to survive.

Fast forward to my early 20s, and I spiraled into alcoholism while he struggled with drugs. We drifted apart for years, but I sobered up in my mid-20s and eventually tried reconnecting with him to show how much had changed in my life. I was no longer attracted to him at this point. When I came out as bi to him, I thought it would open a door to deeper understanding between us. Instead, he grabbed my genitals and asked to have sex. After that, I decided to walk away from the relationship for good.

A few years later, due to drugs and alcohol, he ended up dying. It hit me hard, not just because I’d lost someone who was such a big part of my life, but because of the unresolved guilt I carried. I always wonder if I could have done more to help him or if reconnecting sooner might have changed things. But the truth is, I don’t know if I could have made a difference, and that uncertainty eats at me.

This whole story has left me with so much baggage I don’t know how to unpack. It’s complicated by the fact that no one else knew about his sexuality, which makes grieving even harder. I’ve never had a place to talk about this openly, and it’s something I still struggle to process. I can't talk to the family as I'm not even sure they know about his sexuality (nor do I).

I’ve struggled with a lot of guilt about how things ended between us, especially after losing him, and I don’t know how to process it all. I don’t even know what I’m asking for—maybe advice, maybe just to be heard. But if anyone has been through something similar or has thoughts, I’d appreciate hearing them. Thank you for reading.

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I just had the chance to have sex with a guy a second time, it was really nice, kind of like I expected, but weird to say it, I kind of confirmed that I like girls far more, I find that funny because I topped him for like 1 hour straight, I and I really enjoyed his ass, but I couldnt stop thinking about several girls I really like, that was making me even harder, at first I asked him to top me, paradoxically that, and all my female fantasíes raging on my mind, made my penis a bit unconfortable on the pleasant way, I mean like far too hard not to put it somewhere. I was proud of myself because I made him orgasm, he told me that it almost never happens to him as a bottom. Also confirmed that I just have kind of good stamina, I used to think that maybe girls did not turned me out enough or too much so I couldnt orgasm easily, but it seems to be just the way my body works. So, this was just 100% awesome, I feel desired, confident, and even more lustfull than before. Also since he was around the same height and weight than most of the girls I usally have sex with, it was really good practice on how to position them for pleasant strong anal sex. Thanks for reading.

For some reason, my cycles feel vastly different. With women, it feels steady and paced, and it can easily last several months. Of course, I get horny, but it seems like an "average" amount for a 40+yo.

When the pendulum swings, though, it may only last a couple weeks, but I'm horny AF 24/7 and insatiable, and I can't keep my hands off myself like I'm a teenage boy again.

For some context, I only recently discovered that I'm bi, and I've never been with a dude. And I wonder if some of these ravenous impulses are because I've never scratched that itch. I'm more curious and into exploring during my guy cycles, but I tend to want to take things slowly because I'm new to all of it. Then suddenly the pendulum swings again, and I'm no longer as interested and months later, when it swings back, it feels like I'm starting from scratch again.

Anyhow, curious to know if anyone has similar experiences!

Long Post Alert So, I previously posted a little summary of how I admitted to myself (43) I'm bi this year. I took a chance and signed up for Bi-Cupid, Tinder and Facebook dating. I'm frugal with money so I haven't paid for Tinder or Cupid, so Facebook Dating has been my primary.

When I did this with just women, I would get likes pretty quickly, but they mostly weren't my physical type. However, my first wife and ex girlfriend were both met online.

So, nervous as hell, I made my profiles just seeking men. I'm the type that puts everything out there because I don't like wasted time. They know I have kids, I'm a new bi-guy, I don't do hookups and I'm looking for LTR. I'm open to some casual, but I can't do sex without a good connection, whether man or woman.

I never considered myself a good or decent looking person. I was scared I was too ugly to date a man based on how I've heard guys talk, and all the bro gym culture. I'm short, black, a dad with a super dad chunky bod. I'm loving myself more so I just put that out there with my best pictures.

My GAWD, there have been some good looking guys, bots (easy to scope out) and some interesting guys that have swiped right on me. NGL, felt flattering AF if they were real people lol.

Facebook Dating has been my most active. I didn't know I had a guy type, but I've chatted and flirted with several. I even setup a date for Sunday with one, but I haven't heard from him in a week, so it may be cancelled.

Fast forward to this past Tuesday. A guy in Louisiana (I'm in DFW TX) liked me in FB. The pictures he posted showed he was my type. Some were older, but he had recent pictures that showed how he's changed. He's 32, but it didn't bother me. His smile is gorgeous and he's just plain cute lol. He messaged me hello, and I responded. I told him I'm a little far away, and he didn't mind. I self sabotaged and said he was out of my league. He apologized for "wasting my time" and I freaked out. I said he didn't, and I didn't want to waste his. From there, we hit it off.

We migrated to Messenger and now our phones. He works a lot so I told him I want to meet him where he lives. I'll get a room and if things work out, he can stay with me or not.

We text multiple times a day. We have too much in common, we have pet names already. He loves the way I look and I him. Everything is dependent on when we lay eyes on each other. I'm so nervous because I want this to be something really bad, but I'm keeping my expectations in check. We have to greet each other when we wake up and say goodnight every day. Yup, it's like that.

I believe everything happens for a reason. I know I need to be realistic and cautious, which I am. I haven't felt this since I met my ex-wife.

I'm not even out to friends or family, and I won't be until I'm in a relationship. My best friend isn't going to take this well because of previous comments about gay people in her family, but I kinda don't care. I'm fully prepared to be excommunicated from most of my family. They have ZERO idea.

Sorry, I don't want to ramble and make this even longer. I just wanted to get this out and say thank you to the authors and comments here. It's helped me a lot!

I met up with this guy yesterday and got face fucked. I've never done this before, but watching a few videos turned me on. I started talking to this guy and explained what I wanted to do and he was up for it. I was nervous walking into his place. He was a pretty nice guy with a big dick. I started just sucking him off at first. Then I got on the bed with my head hanging over the edge. Then he fucked my throat. Then we changed positions a few times. After he came, I was insecure that I didn't do a good job, even though he reassured me it was good. Id probably do it again. My throat wasn't as sore as I thought it would be.

Feel free to ask any questions.

I've only done oral with one other guy over 10 years ago.

I’m bi married m and I’m struggling to satisfy my bi side and I need some help to try and satisfy them I have tryed gay porn and strap on I will not cheat it’s just not in my nature I am loyal to my wife but need some help trying to help with me wanting cock

I came out tonight to my generation of the family (my mom still doesn't know, but she's 70 and has health issues), and they were so supportive and amazing! I feel so positive and seen. Just wanted to share with you amazing people.

I posted a few days ago about me(41) telling my girlfriend that I was bi, and it went about as well as it could go. I told her I was bi, and that I’ve felt I was since I was young. She told me that she was happy that I trusted her enough to tell her. She also told me to explore that side of my sexuality as long as it was only physical. Im just relieved that she’s okay with me the way I am. I don’t know if I’m going to do anything with a man yet, but it’s good to know that I’m not alone in knowing this about me. And I’d also like to thank everyone that commented on my previous post.

Lately, I fantasize about women a lot...particularly much older ones. I think I want to experience intimacy with women again. It's been 13 years. I just don't know how to go about dating them or if I should get into a relationship with one. A lot of straight guys talk about how difficult women are and that they all seem crazy or play games. I had a lot of bad experiences with them in the past too, though. I am just afraid I would have to hide being bi from any woman I am with. Not that many women accept bi guys. I used to have bi in my dating profiles back when I was on apps years ago and I wouldn't get any matches with women.

Also, does anyone have any pointers about meeting women in-person? How and where do you approach them? My confidence isn't high.

Did anyone else catch the bi vibes from Denzel in this film? There’s a throw away line he has about being into guys too.

32(m) I’ve always had a physical attraction to dudes, but never wanted to “be” with them. I’ve always had girlfriends. When I was younger i got with friends, drunkingly fooled around and stuff but never really talked about it with them after we woke up. We were boys and dumb.

Also had an accident where I told a friend I thought I was gay, and the news spread like wildfire. After that I decided I could never officially come out because I don’t think I’m actually gay, and it didn’t fell right, like I could never date a man. So everything cooled down and I’ve had girlfriends ever since so I guess maybe they think I’m just Bi?

My new girlfriend I am actually SO attracted to her personality and body like I’ve never been before. I think it’s genuine love and see it going far. But sometimes I masturbate to gay porn and it makes me feel so guilty. Even though I know im attracted to her it makes me feel like im lying to myself I guess.

I don’t know exactly what I’m hoping for posting this but I kind of just wanted to write it down. Anyone have a similar story? Can you make it work?