Went using a schoolgirl costume and makeup, the idea was to get a few guys to spend the night but I ended up with more girls hitting on me 😂

Would recommend! In my case it was a nice way to break stereotypes and be myself.

The search for a guy who likes femenine men continues hahaha

I [24M] am bicurious to the point I may be bisexual, I'm having trouble coming to terms with that. I spent the past year dating woman and eventually things don't work out. Recently I have been considering dating another man which I have never done in my 24 years of living and do not want to. I come from a Christian household and it's not only the ridicule I'd recieve from family and friends but also I do not see myself marrying a man. I want to start a family with a wife and kids that are my own. I'm too old to be dating for "fun". I'm a firm believer in dating for marriage not dating to past the time or for sex. Any advice on my predicament? My sexuality is my biggest non-secret considering most people in my life suspect but in my current loneliness I don't want to cave in to the desire of another man. I do not mean to offend just sort of ranting, thank you for reading this far any and all advice is dually appreciated.

Any different than a woman?

I’ve heard of Lucifer and I’ve heard of John Constantine I’m not interested in either of those storylines. I’m preferably looking for a movie or show where the main character has a both a female a male love interest or something that goes a long the lines of polyamory but honestly anything will do.

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I'll keep it to the point. I admitted to myself that I'm bi at the age of 42 (now 43). I've only ever been with women (was married and have 3 kids) up until November.

I never felt good looking enough to even think about dating another man, but I put myself out there on several apps. Surprisingly, Facebook dating gave me the most conversations.

So, I meet a guy on November 23rd who liked me first. He lives 3 hours away. We text/talk nonstop for a week. That was enough to setup a trip to go visit him. I got a AirBnB and he stayed with me when he wasn't at work. We didn't have sex, but there was a lot of kissing, cuddling, and handjobs. We haven't missed a day of talking since.

We setup a mini vacation at a rental in April. He told me that will be when he shows me how much he wants me (instantly got me hard lol). However, I freaked out internally as I still have not had actual intercourse with another man.

So, now I update my profile looking for a FWB. I actually met a guy looking for the same. I meet at his place and I became a different person. We had sex and it felt amazing. I'm a top and for everything being my first time, we were both surprised at how good it was. At the time, I was on Lexapro so I couldn't cum no matter what I did. He was gracious because I made him cum, which was fucking hot.

We'll be meeting again soon and I promised him things will be better (I'm not on SSRI's anymore).

I feel so shitty though. I never had a person I was in love with, and had a FWB. Part of me is having fun that I never had, and the other part is trying to gain as much same sex experience as possible.

I know that once I'm officially in a committed relationship with the guy I'm dating, I'm cutting off the FWB.

How horrible of a person am I?

Update: Thank you for all the comments and advice.
A conversation happened today with the guy I'm dating that reinforced the path of our relationship. We're moving towards something life-changing and I'm not going to fuck that up.

I ended the FWB tonight and blocked contact. The blocking was for me so that I won't succumb to any moments of weakness.

I didn't imagine all this would ever happen to me, but I'm here.

As the title says, I’m in a relationship in a woman and am bi. We’re in a monogamous relationship and she knows I’m bi. We’ve been together for over 6 years now and we’ve both been completely committed to each other. More often than I’d care to admit tho my sexual attraction to men spike and the bi-cycle hits. How do yall deal with this? For the most part I watch gay porn and JO and that usually helps but sometimes I need to do that multiple times before the cycle subsides. Do yall have suggestions on other ways to deal with this? I obviously am not looking to cheat, and she wouldn’t give me a hall pass either. Just want to hear what others do/have done?

I have this ongoing fantasy about being in a polyamorous group of 4-8 people 2-4 girls and 2-4 guys all living together in a beach house. Like a little family, all working together like friends but, with everyone romantically and sexually involved. I know logically there’s probably a million reasons of why it would be a mess, but the thing is that kind of gives me an even bigger desire for it that 1 possible chance that it won’t be and that it’s what I need. I’m 20 and very hormonal so it might be my hormones talking but do you think a life like that could work personally it’s really all I think about, but hey if I don’t get it I will probably write a story about it or something Haha.

I like guys. I like women. Played with both (not until late in life), but always nothing long term. I’m old (56). I’m fat (6’1” and 320 lbs). I’m supposedly average in endowment, but always looks small to me. Never married. Last date was while in college (woman dumped me because she wanted to be a nun - which years later I found out to be a lie). I fear I’ve missed out on life and afraid to open up to anyone in fear of rejection or humiliation. Have a good job and good home, but my social life and skills are lacking. I’m sure I’m making a big issue out of nothing.

I'm definitely bi, I knew that from a young age. However, I've never told anyone and I come across as a straight guy. Unfortunately I struggle with quite a bit of internalized homophobia so I've never done anything with people of the same sex.

Despite this, I've got a high libido and have a strong urge to hook up with guys. If I do go down this path, where's the best place to start? I'm tempted to download grindr and go from there. Also for my first time is it more ideal to top or bottom? I think I'm vers as both turn me on so much, although I probably lean towards topping twinks/femboys.

M40 here been battling my sexuality for nearly 20 years if not 25. On and off basically had a few experiences with a mate nothing more than kissing, handjobs and blowjobs.

I've visited a gay bar by me and I've set up accounts on grindr, sniffies and squirt but as soon as I set them up a day or two later feeling bad and guilty about it I delete them. I've got a secret twitter account where I follow gay, trans & femboys stuff and feel bad about it like its the internalised homophobia. Like I hate myself for liking what I do and can't accept I'm very possibly bi if not gay.

I admit I feel some times I have zero attraction to men. Its purely a sexual thing. I can't see myself in a relationship with a guy like a woman.

I just need to vent really I don't know really what I want every day is a different feeling really. Recently I met and spent the night with a sexy woman from my local next morning I woke up thinking about wanting cock not the sexy woman next laying next to me.

I dunno I feel like women are given more leeway to go back to dating the opposite sex after being with the same sex but with bi men after you start dating men there's very little opportunity to go back to women. Even the most progressive of women seem way more hesitant when the guy they're seeing has had an actual relationship with a guy. Feels like we're slowly progressing to where men can be more open about potential sexual fluidity but not romantic fluidity...if that makes sense.

So my question is for the bi man who have successfully dated women after being in a relationship with a man how did that go? Did she know? Was there any insecurities or judgment?

I (25m) just ended a relationship with a girl I’ve been dating for about 6 weeks. Throughout it I kept wondering if I really liked her or if I was actually sexually attracted to her. I mean when I kissed I got turned on and occasionally I would become aroused when I looked at her but sometimes it felt like effort. The sex was great and I didn’t have to imagine being with a guy or anything it was just her and me. At first it was great, but as we continue I kept yearning to be or have sex with a man. Like there was this “want”that was not being satisfied by her. Also, there were points where I liked her for her but as time went along I realized that maybe I was just using her for sex. Like at the beginning I was looking towards the future of wanting to do things together and go on dates and all that but randomly it just went away and I don’t know why. Now i think I can’t be romantically attracted to women and I’m only sexually aroused by them when I kissed them or do something sexual. While men on the other hand comes somewhat naturally. I’ve found myself with many crushes for men but not women. I guess I’m asking if someone has had a similar experience. Was it just the girl and if I was to try it with another I would develop feelings? Or was I just turned on by the friction of kissing and being touched?

So first of all, thanks for all the advice. I have some anxiety which I play off pretty well but sometimes I get in my head and have awful decision fatigue.

Basically, guy I’ve been hooking up with asked me out. I drunkenly agreed a couple days later, as long as we didn’t call it a date.

But it was totally a date. We went to this tapas place kind of walkable but far enough off-campus where we weren’t going to run into anyone. They didn’t card me (he’s 21 but I’m only 20) so we had a nice bottle of wine, a little sangria. Just kind of got a little tipsy and everything just really felt so comfortable. Went to a bar down the street for a little more, and then he called an Uber back to his place.

Outside, he was getting a little touchy-feely, and he kissed me and I CANNOT BELIEVE IT but I kissed him back, and we kind of just made out for a few minutes against the wall until the Uber got there.

Went back to his place, and could not wait to get each other‘s clothes off. We had this incredibly passionate sex. Like the sex with him has always been great but this was fucking wild. Like we both could not get enough of each other. We finish and just wind up cuddling and talking for literally a couple hours. And eventually fall asleep together… first time I’ve ever fallen asleep while cuddling and first time staying over with a guy. We kind of just wake up naturally early, and kiss a little and fuck again.

And he has an early class on Thursdays so we both walk back to campus together, and when we have to split, he hugs me goodbye and literally we start texting immediately after as we’re both walking.

It was SO EASY. Like, I thought I’d be a complete wreck and it’d be super awkward but it felt so comfortable and so right. Like, the best first date I’ve ever had, and I’ve spent the entire day texting him or thinking about him. We both have busy fraternity weekends but we’re going to try to get together for something at least if we can.

And I’m like, gahh. Like, I have the butterflies. I didn’t think I could be romantically attracted to a guy but he’s so hot and so awesome. And all I can think of is that I like the guy. Like really like this guy.

Sooo, good news all around. I’m trying not to de-compartmentalize stuff just yet. Like trying not to think of being public or anything. Just trying to enjoy it and seeing where it goes.

But really just can’t wait to see him again. IT WENT SO WELL, I’m just so excited. And not nearly as nervous as I thought I’d be.

Anyone brought another man into the bedroom with their girl? She knows I’m bi, we’ve spoke about it often. She gets turned on by the thought and doesn’t even want another guy involved if he isn’t bi too. Anyone have any experience/tips for the first time?

I am still coming to terms with who and what I am. I have an insatiable hunger that's hard to control, and the way I was created, I often think about. How does one accept his bisexuality? In a world that is unaccepting.

Hey. Does anyone have advise for meeting other bi guys without being out? Has anyone used tinder? Thanks

I came out to a close friend. He was very supportive and shared that he had some bi experiences when he was younger.

This made me feel closer to him.

He has been having some trouble lately and we have been supporting each other for a while as friends. I told him I really care about you.

I have developed feelings for him. And maybe he picked up on it.

I got a text that said he was pulling away. And would return when he figures things out. I returned a text several hours later, explaining that if “we” have a problem we should talk about it and don’t shut me out. So talk to me.

5 days ago. Silence since.

I hope I haven’t lost a good friend.

And I am so angry and sad and hurt and afraid.

Accepting being Bi brought an incredible amount of internal peace to me. I am only just beginning to feel “society” pushing back. And I don’t want to be in this group. But I am.

So now I guess I have to learn to live in this new space and accept that not all of my old life will come along for the ride.

…but here I am.

I just want to say that I'm sad that things are the way they are right now, taking steps backward. Scary times we live in right now. Definitely not coming out, didn't want to before and Definitely not now. Might not even engage in sexuality, I'm not just Bi but brown skinned as well, lol.. Sorry that we have to go through this bullshit...

Are there any sweet scents whether it's cologne, body spray, perfume you like to wear? Recommend some scents to me because I'm trying to get into those more. I recently was gifted some cologne that smelled on the sweeter side and it got me interested in other scents that are like that.

I'm a 35m and realized I was bi curious a couple of years ago. After overcoming some internalized homophobia I'm feeling ready to actively explore these feelings.

I have a female partner that is accepting of this and is open to the idea of an open relationship. As I start to think about this next stage I'm curious to learn about how bi guys put them selves out there to flirt with other bi/gay guys and explore this side of themselves.

Bonus points if you have advice for how to take it slow and effectively relate the experience to a committed female partner.

Is my hero! Nuff said.

Hey so I’m making this post because I’m not sure if I am bisexual or not. So I consider my self a gay man I have no interest in dating girls nor do I find women attractive but I’m not turned off by the thought of pussy. Like I like to watch straight porn and sometimes I think damn that pussy is kind of hot but I know that feminine moans and energy would kill the mood for me. So would this be considered bisexual because I quite frankly don’t know what I am anymore Lol

So I am a (M36). I love my wife and I would never cheat on her. I’m 100% monogamous, Lately I’ve been questioning my sexuality. I draw and I occasionally draw naked people and I get turned on by both the male and female nudes. While I watch mostly heterosexual porn mostly women solo, I’ve been watching and getting aroused to gay porn and nude men. Particularly nude men masturbating, frotting or preforming oral sex on each other. I’m not into buttstuff. I also had a curiosity of tasting my own semen and have done so on many occasions. I get horny a lot and I wonder if it’s that I’m just addicted to porn or hypersexual, but I can’t help wonder if I’m bi or bicurious. What do you all think and am I normal?

As a bi man (21), more leaning towards other men, I feel mixed feelings when I think about this. Sometimes I wish I was 100% gay, because I feel that there is a certain part of gay men who do not want to date bisexual men, because according to them: "Bi men only want relationships with women and see men as sexual objects".

I also feel that it is difficult to find other bisexual men, and when I do find them, most of them strongly prefer women and are not interested in serious relationships with other men.

I am a guy who ends up passing as straight, and because of that I feel that guys who are gay/bi are afraid to approach me in real life and I almost always end up assuming that other men are straight and I'm afraid to invest in someone and be aggressive towards me.

On the other hand, I sometimes end up being "grateful" for being attracted to women too and since my attraction to women is consistent and somewhat higher, I feel that I can be in a relationship with a woman and be happy that way. I would like to have biological children, which ends up contributing to this decision as well. Also, since there are more straight/bi women in the world than gay/bi men, I am more likely to end up with a woman in the end. Likewise, blonde people end up catching my attention more, I am more likely to end up with a brunette person, simply because there are more of them.

Does anyone else feel the same way?

In my experiences hooking up over the last few years I don't understand why so many guys often insist on not using condoms. Oral I get it but for anal sex idk why they want to bareback it. Its one thing if me and the other person know each other and have been hooking up frequently. But I'm talking about random dudes off grindr, sniffies, or online in general. When I mention condoms they often say they are on prep. But prep doesn't stop u from getting other sti's. I learned the hard way because at first. I figured it was no big deal and I'd just have unprotected sex in most of the hookups. But after catching sti's a few times I was like yeah this is playing with fire so now I just use protection if its with a stranger for one and dones or short term flings. Does anyone know why some dudes are like this? Is it because they want the most pleasure? Are they not able to cum with s condom on? Do some enjoy the risk taking?

Hey ya'll, I have been challenged by something for a few years now.

Everytime I stimulate my prostate with my fingers or a toy, as soon as I start to get close to a prostate orgasm I physically cum and it disrupts the prostate orgasm. I think I had to prostate orgasms 4-6 years ago. I can be completely flaccid and no where near coming adn I'll still ejaculate as soon as the prostate orgasm sensation starts building. The same happens if I'm hard as well.

Does anyone else have this happen? How do I bypass ejaculation? I've meditated and done this, tried to edge and move into p orgasm slowly, etc. Nothing seems to disconnect the prostate orgasm sensation and ejaculating.

I'm trying to actually enjoy intense prostate orgasms and to separate them from ejaculation so I can go deeper and so sex doesn't stop. Looking for advice. It's been like 4+ years without moving past this.

Hey, which are the main mental health issues you are suffering as bi-men and how are you coping with them? thx

I (22M) have been at a crossroad w/ myself for a couple weeks now. For most of my life l've always been aware that both genders evoked some type of emotional or sexual response from me. As I transitioned into my teen years, My love for women was at an all time high so I was in various cutesy teen relationships. However when I turned 19 and left school, I decided to try my hand with men. I'd say it definitely changed my life. I met my first love and It was my first serious relationship, (we moved to another country, got married, etc.) However, a tale as old as time, we just didn't see eye to eye anymore. After moving, our goals and aspirations shifted and we just became more and more OPPOSITE. While he is more secure and sure of what he wants in terms of sexuality, I still think i have some interests in being with women. We've both decided to do our own thing and I think I'm ready to actually explore and learn more about myself. I've had one sexual encounter with a woman but every other time was with men. I still watch straight porn & l'm still turned on by women. I still have a lot of thoughts and urges to have sex or start hooking up with women, but I don't know how to go about doing that. How does that dynamic between bisexual /bi curious men & women work? I don't know anyone that has had this experience before so what better place to run to than Reddit &. If any of you had any similar experiences or just advice l'd love to hear it. Y'all be nice lol