Thank you so much to anyone who is able to give me a meaningful and helpful reply you have no idea how much this means to means to me be able to speak about this. To be able to have a safe space and an honest conversation this is a huge step forward for me and probably something which I should have done a long time ago, long before it has gotten to the stage I am at now. I will tell you exactly how I feel and what has happened so you can fully understand the context. I apologise if anything which I say is too graphic and thus results in NSFW I will try my best to limit this as much as I can but I want to tell you what has happened as well so you have the full picture.

I’m married to a woman ‘A’ and have been since 2016 we have been together since 2012. We have a son who is 5. A is the love of my life. She is the best mum and wife I could ask for and has stood by me through thick and thin yes we've had troubles like every marriage arguments about silly things differences of opinion or just one of us generally being a an arsehole to the other for whatever reason but we have always worked through it we have never split up or had time separated to work things out that kind of thing.

I met A through work and she was my first proper girlfriend which was a big deal for me because throughout school and further education etc I was lonely and was never able to find anyone to whom showed me any kind of affection in the same way which I wanted to show them not through my lack of trying. Thinking back now with disgust I probably came off as more than desperate which is not attractive for anyone and there is no much wonder it never happened and I was a virgin till long after I left school. All I wanted for my life throughout school was to be married and have a kid or kids and be a good husband and dad that's all I wanted to be and to have. Everything else grades, friends etc was extra that was the main goal have my own family.

I'm not really sure when it first started or when it started to become apparent that it was more than just females, which I felt attracted to. Probably during the time I was 14-16 but it was only when drunk I felt this overpowering attraction in a purely sexual way towards some slightly more feminine men in example Robert Plant in The Song Remains The Same the Led Zeppelin film. I would look at things like his long hair and tight jeans and the way they hugged his body below the belt both front and back and I would feel drawn to it. I put this down to being a virgin still at this and time and thought once I lost my V it would subside and I would be like everyone else that probably more added more fuel to the fire so to speak and made me more desperate to find love.

I left it there thinking there was no more I could do about till I lost my V. About a year or so later I was at a birthday party at a pub for a friends 18th and I had it in my head that I wanted to get absolutely smashed which was nearly always the case every weekend back then truth be told. I ended up mixing lots of drink. There was a gay guy who worked at round the corner to be honest can't remember much about it but I remember getting a phone call the following day from one of my other pals saying that I had been caught giving him a BJ behind the pub. I felt physically sick as images started coming back to me and I knew it was true but I vehemently denied it ever happened and in the end he had to move workplace because of the stick which others gave him for the event regardless if it was true or untrue. It occasionally popped up in conversation among friends and when asked if it had happened but I always got so angry and frustrated with them in the end everyone stopped asking and it became hearsay was rarely mentioned. I grew up left school and thought that was it.

It only ever happened and I had these urges, thoughts and feelings but I started drinking alot everyday in fact towards leaving school and into college, university and beyond for many years truth be told I was a functioning alcoholic. I knew that everything had to be done in complete secret where I was unknown and it was next to impossible to be traced back to me and I could deny it.

There was very little after this time for a few years as the shame from the first event at the pub had shook me hard I felt sick when I thought about it but something about it still didn't sit right despite loosing my V not in any romantic, loving kind of way basically was a one night stand and we realised we werent compatible just thought we were at the time because our birthdays were the same day after a few drinks in a pub.

When really, really drunk this is the the only time I would indulge so to speak in these fantasies but by now it had taken on a different form it didn't have to be feminine men, regular muscular men fit the bill now never looking at faces just neck downwards and pornography kept it in check when I felt like this. Always after the indulgence had gone and I sobered up came long periods of guilt and shame.

There was one additional encounter which happened the same as what had happened with the guy behind the pub that night but it was anonymous in another city and no-one ever found out about it again full of drink. This was the first time I felt no guilt, no shame it was anonymous and would stay that way in my eyes nobody was none the wiser.

I didn't know how I felt about this afterwards I wondered whether it was the drinks fault it made me do it, only when I was drunk I never had these feelings or thoughts or need to indulge in this kind of thing when I was sober it had to be the drink.

I met A not long after than and cut down my drinking and nothing happened for ages years in fact she knew I had had issues with drink in the past. I explained to her about one night something had happened to me when I was drinking and apparently I don't know if it was true or not but people had said that man had put something in my mouth I never wanted it to happen and that was that. She accepted than and we never spoke of it again.

Fast forward a few years to now I barely if ever drink because I can't just have a few I have to get plastered and it lasts often that just the night starts again the next morning when I waken up.

The problem is that it has changed again and now I'm getting these feelings and thoughts and urges to indulge in it once again. Now it seems to be the case that regardless if I am sober or drunk and that it would be behind my wife's back and its making me disgusted and sick to think that I can't control these urges to indulge in these kind of behaviours and I have to think and control myself to actively stop myself from making a massive mistake and have to try control myself from cheating on my wife that I love so much and risk loosing everything I have with my wife and a son. I just don't know what to do it feels as though it is intensifying all the time just this pure sexual need to be gratified by exploring things but over and above what I have done before. It makes me absolute ashamed to think I could even think about doing it and given a moment of weakness or a singular opportunity I could go ahead with it regardless what it will do and will break my entire family unit.

I just don't know what to do I just want it to stop and I can go and be heterosexual with A and thats it.

I don't even know if I will even like doing these other things which I've seen in videos. When it's been in videos recently I've felt arousal and felt no shame in a variety of material availability but when I think about acting on it with someone else either now or what has happened in the past before I met her all I feel is shame, embarrassment and disgust in myself. I sometimes think if it can stay in the videos which no-one needs to know about its OK it never happened I can just ignore it and get on with things but if I go do it and act upon it then it real.

The urges to act upon it in real are getting worse it's as though I want to my own self screw up my entire life to go do something I don't even know if I want to do it to make the urges go away, just do it in hope of putting it to bed like a checklist item didn't like can move on now kinda thing. It's my whole life and what if it doesn't stop there what's next?

I really don't know what to do I feel whatever choice I make will be wrong do I tell A what's being going on and we can work through it maybe if I don't end up divorced? Just ignore as per usual and fight it as I've done in the past with not much success truth be told. Act on in secret but what then what if it escalates further if that's even possible? What's the next thing? The shame, disgust, embarrassment loathing I feel for myself is indescribable I don't know how to go on and what to even do about it never mind try out a label on something I don't even know what it is.

I'm a guy that has had a serious foot fetish for feet in sandals for as long as I can remember. I have always felt physically and emotionally attracted to girls but never for other guys. As I have grown up and started to notice more male feet bared in sandals in the warmer seasons and since I have become friends online with a cross-dresser that started chatting to me online which in a way has felt a little exciting I have emotionally felt a strong attraction towards him online because he is so well dressed up, make-up etc you wouldn't know he is male by his appearance. It has made me feel really confused and don't know what to make of my attraction to this cross-dressed guy that even looks really pretty. I've always wanted to date maybe marry a girl some day but now I have also started having thoughts, fantasies of dating the girl version of this cross-dresser some day just to experience it. I've never felt any kind of attraction towards another guy before but when this guy is completely dressed up as a woman baring in mind this is just going by photos I have looked at of him online of this cross-dresser and chatting to him online. As embarrassing this is to admit emotionally I have felt a very strong attraction growing towards him looking like a girl in whatever female clothes and long to see his bare feet in a lovely pair of flat sandals baring his toes but not flip flops. I get very turned on by a guys feet bared in the right kind of sandals lol.

I even fantasize about meeting him in person someday to remove his sandals from his feet to spend a long time licking his feet, sucking his toes and chewing and biting his toes , soles just to experience it all, another guys feet for real or I could instantly become totally reluctant knowing it is really another guy lol

Glasgow man with very little experience finding myself more and more drawn to this place but im scared and anxious. Anyone whos been open to chatting and helping me with questions?

Not sure where to start! Am looking to date and have NSA fun with fellow bi women, ideally curvy girls, in the UK. Any advice as to how to begin?

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I am bisexual**, I** don'tknow how to tell my friends, I need supporters

Hi

I was a hetero male happily married until my late thirties but then started a long and difficult but also exhilarating journey to my current total acceptance of my bisexuality and yes my wife knows (from about halfway through) and supportive but doesn't want to know details. We are happily marriedd still.

I am now in my early sixties. I want to complete the journey by having sex with another man and need advice on how to discreetly and safely meet up with an understanding man who doesn't mind my age and have sex with him. I want to bottom.

I will not go through my journey unless anyone is interested but it involved a lot of cognitive dissonance and awakenings which I bitterly regret not resolving years ago.

Mick

Hey all, I think this will come across as complicated and not well explained but here goes So I love womens bodies, and women turning themselves on is definitely something I love. I've been 'straight'all my life and am confident enough in female company. However , for me , sex with a lady is more her enjoying foreplay and her orgasms than my pleasure (my choice) I love the female pleasure. I haven't dated for a year though . But.... All my life I've loved to watch porn of men . I appreciate much more now , male form in all shapes and sizes (body). And I love male cum. I have had limited experience with men yet loved it , sucking playing touching and a little rimming and anal. However , I am very shy sexually with men , I'm a man's man ,like beer rugby etc. But don't know how to meet gay friendly patient men. I've looked on here, online, even think about dogging. Just too scared to take that step. I dont know whether I need a younger lady (my last gf was 28 years younger) to help attract bi men, as I enjoy her pleasure , or whether I need a gay /bi Male to lead me gently towards my true sexuality . Also my disadvantage in my head is , you men seem to be good looking well hung and confident, I'm kinda opposite . Women like me for who I am , but I'm very unconfident with men sexualy .

Hey there who wants to chat I’m bi 30 and vets

I am just confused about my gender that I am gay, bisexual or straight.

So here's my story, back when I was 15 I experienced this for the first time. So I went to a new class as my section was changed. After that I sat with a boy and I don't know why out of the blue that day I started forming a crush on him. I remember I was watching him secretly although he was sitting just next to me. Whenever he kept his hand on my should I felt electrified, my body got shivers and I was fantasizing getting fucked by him in standing position. I was in that fantasy the whole day. Whenever he called me or touched me I was electrified. Then when I was 16 I had a sir and when I was practicing NoFap on the highest streak like a month or so I felt like getting up and kissing him, I don't know why. After that with time all that feeling went away and I carried on now as I am 19 last year my sister had a lesbian encounter and she found she's bisexual. When she told me about her incident of making out and finding her sexuality. The flashback of what happened with me at 15 came back to me. Those memories just got fresh. So I downloaded grindr app and tried it to hookup with a couple of guys but I only enjoyed it with one of them and that too only anal because he had a small penis. But I never enjoyed the kissing part, hugging part, I just went numb when they did that. And I want to know who am I what's my sexuality? Like should I continue to hookup and find out or maybe I should go to some therapy which will help me. I really want to have a husband in future because it's way better that having a wife. I am not saying having a wife is bad or something but like you know If I have a husband and I love him whenever he cuddles me or hugs or kisses me or we have fun, I could understand him more than a wife.

So can you all please help me out on what should I do? Is it my homophobia or maybe I am just straight but if I am straight then why did that incident at 15 happen. I wasn't forcing myself to think it was all with the flow. Thanks for reading please help me out!

Thinking about Going to a gay sauna, the pipeworks in Glasgow, but was wondering what it’s like and also what it is like going there when your a stocky build, around 105kg. Anything would be appreciated.

What are your plans?

Has anyone noticed how few options there are designed specifically for bisexuals? This shop makes a couple cute ones:

The first one (pictured) says "Bi Bi Bi" with some very recognizable dancing silhouettes (for 90s babes/Millennials, anyway).

The second one says "Both Teams" on spots flags/pennants in the colors of the Bi flag.

Has anyone else found examples they like? Share them in the comments.

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