Im a gay man, i came out 30 years ago. The whole pride bandwagon has steam rollered it's way through time. Yet where are the bi men? they seem invisible, always on the down low or keeping themselves to themselves, staying straight?

I see male colleagues at work and their bi-ness does appear now and again. Some innenendo, blokey flirting etc. but they're married with kids so they are shackled.

Where are the bi footballers, podcasts about bu life, and bi men coming out?! I just don't see it. C'mon bi guys, us gays have done it for year's. Join the party 🎉🥳

There is a Queer Prom happening in Yate for those who want to "re-do prom but gayer this time".
The organisers are non binary and very friendly.

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Apart from some hook ups, I haven’t really done much with it…

Sometimes I feel like I kinda jump back in the closet so to speak.

I’m on Grindr from time to time, all other dating apps feel too much like they take your money and give nothing back...

I noticed that pretty much every woman I have met since is put off by my bi-sexuality (though not all).

I suppose I’m wondering what to do… like next steps. How do I get out there so to speak?

I’m 40 next week. I have a great body, I’m pretty/handsome, funny and interesting. I don’t lack confidence obviously but I’m not an extrovert “let’s go out and party” kind of person so feel a bit stuck…

I’m kinda nerdy, I have a nearly 4 year old son, and in training to be a counsellor so maybe my focus being on all those things is a road block right now? And I live in High Wycombe so maybe lack of options?

Anyone have an insight or stories of when they came out? Feels like it might help 😊

Help I'm only attracted sexually to females but really feminine femboys and trans woman I find hot and would fuck what am I ?

I apologise if this is the wrong place I’m just a bit confused and not sure if this is alright or not. Since I was a young teen 13/14 I called myself bisexual because I was attracted to both boys and girls. But over the years since I’ve become an adult (I’m 22 now) I’ve thought that was incorrect and that I’m actually straight because I’m only attracted to cis women. Celebrities or just people I see around I only catch myself looking at women or thinking ‘she’s attractive’ never anything towards men. However when I watch porn which isn’t often I get drawn to watching gay porn mainly guys getting jacked off by another guy it turns me on I get hard and orgasm stronger than watching straight porn. Tonight I got horny for dick picks and guys jacking off, I’ve never got hard so quick. I’m quite confused and been thinking about this all year I didn’t think I minded not knowing and just stay saying I’m bisexual but it just doesn’t feel like the correct term anymore but neither is straight nor gay

Any recommendations? Love group fun any suggestions for clubs, Sexparties that are bi friendly in this specific dates :) also clubs, bars, ext that you would recommend ? Many Thanks!

BiCon is the annual get-together of the UK bi+ community. It's been going since 1984, making it the UK's longest continually running annual LGBT event!

This year's is at Heartlands High School, next to Alexandra Palace Station in North London.

There will be a variety of sessions: some serious, some not; some interactive, some mostly 'sit and listen'. There will be a party on Saturday evening somewhere else.

You don't need to identify as bi, bisexual, pan, pansexual, fluid, etc etc to attend.. although most people do ID as one or more of those.

It is trans-friendly. BiCon was an early adopter of accepting people's self-identified gender: it had the discussion back in 1993...

Tickets are on a sliding scale from £15 for the weekend (less if you tick a box when registering).

More on BiCon 2024: https://2024.bicon.org.uk

More on BiCon in general for people who haven't been before: https://bicon.org.uk/for-attendees/what-they-said/

I feel like I am am unworthy I recently came out as bi to my wife yet despite taking viagra can't get hard for my wife I feel so sexually aroused but I still can't get hard its really getting me down I feel my inability to perform is gonna end things if i dont get it sorted all I want life right now is to be able to stay hard long enough to have sex and cum surely that's not too much to ask for

As a mature male I'm finding it hard to find like minded people to chat openly with about how I feel, my bi curiosity so to speak, would be great to just be able to talk nonsense over a pint. Problem is knowing where to start. Any ideas ?

If all you wanted from a meet up was a chat a coffee and a hug from a bi/gay guy were would be the best app to look or is it just a silly Idea cause no one would be looking for that on an app .

I posted this under the spoiler tag even though the title pretty much says that this is going to contain TW’s.

A few days ago I ran into a TERF on Twitter who says she’s a lesbian - I say TERF because I’m also a trans man, not just bisexual. She went from being transphobic to erasing my bisexuality - now I know there’s a lot of a bisexual erasure going around and biphobia, but I’m not sure whether she targeted my sexuality because of my gender identity, or whether she was totally adamant that biphobia doesn’t exist in general and that my lack of sexual experience with people of the same gender makes me a homophobe. Anyway, under so much stress and pressure to defend myself from all the shit she was saying I pretty much told her that my sexuality is still valid because I’m in fact attracted to both women and men, and even told her about the kiss I had with another girl of my age when I was about 10 or 11 in which felt right to me, just as much as kissing a boy I later dated. She was forcing me into a box (straight) that doesn’t apply to me, and told me there’s no such thing as bi erasure because I’m in a “straight relationship” (that was her erasing my gender identity), and told me that the phobia thing only counts if I was in a same sex relationship - I told her that your attracted to the person before you know what genitalia they have in between their legs. Anyway, she insisted I was being homophobic because I’m in a same gendered relationship and I’m a transgender bisexual man.

I think I pretty much blabbed at this point, so I do apologise if it doesn’t make sense in some parts, you can just ask me questions in the comments.

Hi all!

I run the Bisexual Women 25+ Discord server. I've made friends through communities on Reddit (and their Discords), but I really wanted an environment specifically for bisexual women to feel comfortable, to connect, to share their hobbies, feel like they belong (regardless of lifestyles), and ultimately be a part of their own close-knit community (outside of general LGBTQ communities).

I've had a decent start, as far as new members goes, but my vision is to grow it large enough where bisexual adult women can use the meetup channels in the server to do local meetups, events, or general hangouts based on the state/province/country they live in; we already have members from Australia, Canada, and Europe so far, so international folks are certainly welcomed. We have a book club, do movie/tv watch parties, talk about all sorts of topics, and do plenty of gaming together.

If you identify as a woman, are bisexual, 25 years or older, and this sounds interesting to you or is a community you want to be apart of, please feel free to DM me for a link!

Hi there I'm just looking for a gay/bi male , someone with experience and who has embraced their sexuality. Would love someone to chat with about thoughts, advice, experiences. I feel a little lost for now overall and don't really have anyone to chat with about things. Much appreciated 🩷💜💙

So iv not had any experience with men. Not been a problem over the years with women, but for whatever reason this finding a guy business, well it's not happening. Iv been on Grindr for sometime and gone from having a shy hidden picture, to just putting myself out there. Still no luck, Iv got some regular pics and some more racy ones. It seems a bit of a brick wall , messages just get ready and no replies. I wouldn't say I'm like Adonis, but I'm not bottom of the barrel either. So is there any advice, I'm very keen to embrace my bisexuality, since I have never taken the opportunity or been brave enough.

So finally admitted it to my girlfriend. She's so supportive and amazing. But new just in... It's ok for me to explore and stay in a relationship. Advice ?. Kinda looking to embrace my sexuality more, better late than never.

If you have any events or activities you'd like to add, send a message via modmail.

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I am looking for resources of any kind blogs, books, video, podcasts, audiobooks, articles just anything which explains bi-cycling or sexual fluidity whatever you want to call it. How to deal with it, why it happens, if there's measures that can be taken to slow it down just anything and everything looking for detailed information of any kind to help navigate my own bi-cycling which at current im finding very difficult to.

Just wanted to highlight that Bi Pride UK 2024 is coming up in London on the 31st of this month for anyone who is interested. Tickets can be booked through the website, but they are free! https://biprideuk.org/

Hi there!

I have been tasked to promote a badminton group in the Stoke On Trent area, which is LGBT+ friendly and I am looking for some creative ideas on how to get the word out. We want to make sure the community knows we’re here, welcoming, and ready for some fun on the court!

If you have any suggestions on how to reach more people or where we could promote our group, I would love to hear them. Flyers, social media, local events—what’s worked for you in the past?

Thanks in advance for your help!

I am in need of help in coming out to my wife about my bisexuality and have started dropping vague hints to my wife that I might not be 100% hetrosexual.

I have been expressing it in a way to her that would probably be seen as more a questioning of my own self rather than coming straight out and telling it very much like it is. This is due to the fact I am so nervous about it and how she will react to it, in a way I have been sensing her reaction to these vague things. In example I have said that I think I might possibly be but I am very much not sure if I am or not. I have been largely putting it across that what I have read and spoken about with my counsellor is making me think like this but it very much could or could not be the case. I have not gone into depth about what I am feeling or what I want to act upon as I have said I didn't want to worry her about it because it might not be the case at all and didn't want to cause concern that I was working through it with my counsellor.

I get the impression from what she has said that she would be supportive if I was to come out that but she has said that if I wanted to explore the idea that was something else entirely which would have to be discussed.

I don't know where to go from here do I drop the bombshell and hope for the best or just keep dropping these hints which are so vague they could be seen as a lie to my actual true feelings. That in itself is eating me up I just want to tell her the whole truth but I'm so scared that I have got the wrong impression and it might be too much to handle.

My wife of 8 years is very open to me about how she feels she sexually bisexual but couldn’t see herself being in a relationship or emotionally attached to a female. She’s had 2 BGG threesomes before we met but never a true lesbian experience. I’m desperate to help her do this but not sure the best way to go about it? Any advice or others who have had similar experiences?

Married and Recently curious, kind of..

Im male 36 been married 11 years this year. When i was in my teens, around 15 i thought i might be attracted to guys but id never had a real 'gay' experience. Had a gay guy feel me up in my teens and a different guy hit on me quite hard in my mid twenties but i didnt do anything with either. Then years later, after marriage, a child and a few family dramas me and my wife started talking to a new group of friends around when covid started. This new friends group opened up some curiositys from my past but when questioned about it by my wife i closed down. Now within the last 12 months i have been watching bi/trans/gay porn and due to me starting to have erectile problems, this came out during an argument. I have previously lied to my wife about something not sexuality realted but this has caused trust problems going forward. Now more recently my wife had asked me to look into why i wouldnt want to tell her about it, (she is pansexual and very open about sexuality) and why i havent had these feelings before now. I feel like i am not attrachted to men but i like the idea of penertation. I am trying to find out more about what this means.