So ok, i came across this sub, not sure why i didnt think to look for something like this sooner. I came across the word biromantic a few years ago. Im sick of all the hypersexual people in the bisexual subreddit who cant seem to keep it in their pants🤔 ,its not just the men but bi woman are just as bad lol, holy shit, most the posts are ' I dont want to cheat but.... or ' Ive been in a wlw relationship for a few years, she's perfect, but i miss dick🤨. No wonder we get stereotyped.

Hey, I’m ray 22 afab . So I was born a women but I’m not cis , I’m agender . So, I know I can date a guy and fall in love with a guy but I’m not sexually attracted to them . I am with women tho .

Hi! I’m new here! I just figured out that I’m biromantic. This explains a lot! I’m so happy to have figured this out.

I’ve identified as bisexual for years. I knew I liked men and women and thought my sexuality aligned with my romantic orientation.

But then I turned nineteen and this chick I really liked and I just ended up fooling around. It was a lot of fun, until… her pants came off.

My strong repulsion came as an earth-shattering shock to me.

After I went home, I cried in the shower. The kissing and all the top stuff we did were great! I was confused. Was I not bisexual? But I still liked girls!

That was a couple of years ago. I didn’t know the reason why I reacted that way. I thought maybe I just wasn’t attracted to her genitals specifically. But… private parts have never been particularly interesting to me.

And then I discovered my asexuality. I’d considered once, in passing, I might be asexual before. But I’d totally dismissed it. Sex had never really grossed me out… but then again, I didn’t really care for it.

So then I started looking back… and realized I’ve never really wanted to have sex with anyone. And that I’ve only ever really experienced aesthetic attraction. And that I’d thought everyone was just kinda like me when they weren’t.

I think the reason it took me so long to figure out I was asexual is because I thought to be asexual, you had to be grossed out by sex. And, well, I had liked it in theory. And I wanted it. At least, I’d thought I did… now I realize, I was just trying to be like everyone else.

So yeah! I’m just biromantic (and asexual)!Feels good to know and say. Any other biro-aces here?

16f here. Disabled dms because of creeps. (Bear with me this is very cringe). I definitely know that I’m attracted to men. I’ve had crushes on men, been attracted to them, love m-f romance books/movies, been in relationships with them etc. but I don’t feel straight the way straight people feel. Like if I see a man he has to be in my proximity or around my orbit, else I won’t like him.

I don’t know if I’m attracted to women though. It’s really confusing because I’m not sure if I’m straight or bi with a preference for men. Whatever I’m feeling towards women, is different to the very obvious attraction I have to men. I’ve never thought of and don’t enjoy thinking of kissing, having sex with, or being in a relationship with a girl. I don’t enjoy wlw romances either (I’m a very hopeless romantic). But sometimes when I have a best friend I’m really close with, my heart swells with something, my heart beats really fast.

And I know this is cringe but sometimes when I’m checking out girls my mouth waters and I feel sparks in my body for some reason. But there’s no thought to back it up?? Unlike with men. Sometimes (very rarely) I see an attractive woman on social media for example and get tingly down there. So I’m not sure if it’s attraction or what. I also had a sort of girlfriend when i was 12 but i decided i was straight after i was very repulsed by physical affection, felt like we were more of “best friends” and just imagined her to be a guy in my head to make me feel better.

But instead for a man I’m attracted to it’s like “omg wow he’s hot I want to pounce”, suddenly he has no flaws, I want to impress him, make him notice me and want me, I feel tingly down there, I feel warm, i want to date him, cuddle, my heart beats really fast, I think of all sorts of stuff, what sounds disgusting and repulsive with women sounds very nice with men, etc. I’ve always compared my attraction to men to women, and because my attraction to men is very strong I thought no way these feelings towards women are attraction too.

Do straight people experience this? If not does that mean I’m bi?

22 cisgendered women, first reddit post lol, so i recently found the term biromantic heterosexual and i’m wondering if i could be applied to me?

so i have always felt/knew i was romantically and or sexually attracted to any gender as long as they are the opposite sex (genitalia wise) of me (meaning, genderqueer, nonbinary, genderfluid, even cultural genders such as two-spirit and hijira etc) as well as have found trans men attractive (even though if i was in a relationship with a trans man it would still be a straight one) i never thought anything my sexual orientation being different other than straight i just thought it was normal to think/feel this for years haha but i told my older sister who is queer and she thought i could be biromantic

i thought it could be too much of a stretch since it would be only individuals that were not cis men, cis women, and the opposite sex, so i carried on my way lol

but as i said i recently found the term biromantic heterosexual which is normally defined as having romantic feelings toward more than 2 genders but only be sexually attracted to your opposite gender, but from doing reach i’ve seen two uses of the label

mine as an example: i’m romantically attracted and then sexually attracted to multiple genders of my opposite sex (ex: i could date and sleep with all nonbinary people with my opposite sex, as well as cis men) this example would also include other genders as well

another definition i’ve seen: i’m romantically attracted to multiple genders but only sexually attracted to my opposite sex (ex: i could date any person who is nonbinary with but only sleep with cis men)

i wasn’t sure if there was a wrong or right way to use the label/ varies person to person, and or, if its simply just supposed to mean something different for anyone that uses it since i’ve seen both variations

I’m a (16M) in the closet, who plays football, 6’3, 285, I’m a bigger kid and pretty masculine and mature for my age, deep voice, facial hair etc, and I don’t really come off as gay/bisexual. I have a really cute twink friend/teammate (17M) 5’9 160, beautiful eyes and cute face, that I absolutely adore and get along with really well, I’m not sure 100% if he likes guys or not but he’s done some subtle things that make me believe he may be, rubbing my jewels, frequently wanting to touch me/lean on me, etc,

what are some subtle things I can do or say to him to express my interest in him without coming off to strong?

Forgot to say he’s pretty shy in nature and has had only 1 girlfriend ever, which is completely ridiculous if he WERE to be straight considering how handsome he is.

When/how did you realize that you were biromantic and how has it manifested (??) in your life since that time? I guess what I mean is that, in practical terms, have you actually developed any homo-romantic relationships? Or, especially, have you ended up conducting simultaneous homo-romantic and heterosexual relationships before?

Hello everyone, how are you? I am a woman and I have a question... I clearly like men in a romantic and sexual sense, but I like women in a romantic and sexual sense, but in a low frequency, like 85% men and 15% women. But I hardly ever fall in love with women and I don't rule out the possibility of having a relationship with them and I feel little sexual desire for both, I can only feel it when there is a strong connection... I find it a bit confusing lol, but sexuality is fluid and unique... So would I be straight or bi and asexual/demisexual?

I’m trying to figure out my identity so I can better understand myself. I'm in need of some advice and support 🤔 So far, I’ve arrived at non-binary (AFAB), heterosexual, biromantic. Sometimes I feel like a demigirl/demiwoman, sometimes I feel genderfluid.

Sometimes I think I may be somewhere on the asexual spectrum, but maybe not…I have sexual/romantic attraction towards men’s bodies, but I’m also really attracted to an androgynous presentation. But lately I’ve been realizing that some women are really hot 😅 Except I don’t want to sleep with them. But I feel some sort of attraction to them, so I’ve arrived at the label biromantic.

And sometimes I think I’m demisexual, but maybe that’s also fluid…? Or maybe I just form emotional attachments really quickly. Or maybe I'm not demisexual at all.

And then I go back to thinking maybe I’m ace or maybe I’m just an occasionally sex-repulsed heterosexual.

I guess I’m just having a hard time reconciling all this? I’ve also grown up Catholic but I’ve drifted from the faith in recent years for various reasons.

I think what I’m having the most difficulty with right now is being biromantic. I don’t know how to wrap my head around being sexually attracted to men while having romantic attraction to women.

Perhaps I should just identify as queer or questioning. That probably covers everything 😅

I use to be a fairly outgoing kid. Due to childhood trauma caused by my biological father and his wife I learned to not draw attention to myself, and to keep my head down and do my time. At some point I convinced myself that i don’t actually mater.

Now if i see a sexy Lady/Guy my instinct is not to talk to them because I’m not going to waste their time.

I hate this, I hate knowing something is broken. I could have been more social in high school and college maybe I would have had to wait until I was 30 to come out

I land in an hour and he’s gonna be picking me up. We recently confessed our love for each other and have been flirting and carrying on like we normally do. I have a very strong desire to hug and kiss him passionately and I know he would be ok with it, but I want to surprise him! So should I just do it?!

I'm 31 and a cis woman. I know I'm biromantic. That part is clear. My sexual attraction is where I'm so confused.

I am sexually aroused by all genders. I find them sexually attractive, I feel sexual arousal. But, I have a hard time envisioning sexual acts with any gender other than men, and especially so with women. It's like as soon as I start creating a mental image in my mind about sex with a woman I know and am sexually attracted to, my sexual arousal heightens for a moment and then just like fully dies. And then I get uncomfortable. Which, considering I've performed and received sexual acts with women, I have a hard time wanting those things with them. It just feels like there's this block. For a while I thought it was internalized homophobia from my mildly Christian upbringing, but I feel no shame or guilt or something being wrong with me for being sexually attracted? Part of it I think is bodily fluids (which I have a hard time with across the board) but again, I have had sexual encounters that I did thoroughly enjoy with women. Those encounters occurred spontaneously and in the heat of the moment, which I think is part of it cuz I feel like maybe I was able to skirt around my anxiety and second guessing? I think part of it is also body image, I do struggle with my body post 4 kids.

I'm struggling with this so hard right now bc I have a close friend of mine who I have always been very attracted to and I have come to develop deep feelings for her. I would love to develop a romantic relationship with her, but I know she enjoys sex with women so I want to make sure I know what it is I'm into, what my limits are, where I'm willing to work towards, before I even talk to her about my feelings? I can definitely have an open conversation with her about this but I don't want to overload her if I don't even understand myself! I spend two nights a week at her place bc it's closer to my school and it's gotten progressively harder for me to avoid thinking about this topic 😅

Any input would be great. Do you have ideas of what else could be creating this block? Is there anyone out there who has experienced the same or similar? Any suggestions on how to get past that block or how to approach the situation with my friend?

I'm happy to answer any questions.

Thanks 💙

Someone asked me my sexuality and my immediate thought was, Bi-romantic, because I identify as Bi-Romantic, Homo-sexual, but I’ve never heard anyone identify as Bi romantic and my paranoid self got worried that I was actually supposed to say Bi-sexual? Even though I’m homo sexual? I know they’re many “types” of Bi sexual/romantic people, but I’ve never heard anyone say specifically what they are, so what should I tell people I identify as?

Also I didn’t respond and the next day told them my phone died, because the conversation was over text ;-;

Why is confidence so important to potential dates or romantic partners?

I have been told I kiss well, am I confident about it absolutely not. In fact one of the few things in this life that I am confident about is there is nothing above ordinary about me

So, I recently figured out that I am biromantic asexual, but I don’t want to be in any sort of relationship with guys, only girls. Does this make me straight? I still am romantically attracted to guys, but I don‘t want to be in a relationship with them. A book I read before stated this really well, and she said, “I like guys more as a concept than a reality, and girls more as a reality than a concept.” Can I still label myself as biromantic if I only want to be in relationships with girls?

Hello! My name is Brooke. I’m 25 years old. I’m a girl, and I’m high functioning autistic. I’ve never had much in the way of sexual feelings towards people even my boyfriend. I’ve thought of myself as possibly bisexual, but I feel more asexual since I don’t have much of a desire for that. I think it’s common for autistic people to not have much of a sex drive. However, I find people attractive. Both men and women. My type is mostly “cute” I’d say over “hot” or anything along those lines. I’ve pictured myself kissing guys but also women. I’ve always been confused as to if I am bi or if it’s just a special interest. I’ve had more special interests in women (celebrities and friends and even Ellie from The Last Of Us) than men (celebrities and friends as well) in my lifetime. I’ve found guys cute but also women I’d say. I think I know what the answer is, but I’ve still been confused on that kind of thing mostly because I don’t have much of a sex drive, and I do get attached to people and have had quite a few special interests. If I did have sexual interest in women and men a lot more, I’m pretty sure this would be easier to figure out. Do any of you relate to this?? What do you think about it?? Thank you! :)

I realized like women and nonbinary people romantically, but not men. I'm having a difficult time figuring out what that makes me and if that means I'm not biromantic

Did anyone notice that Billie Joe Armstrong from green day is bisexual and the song Bobby Sox embraces it?

So recently I've been thinking I may be biromantic heterosexual. and my friend asked a question that made me wonder while still trying to figure out where I'm at with this is it ok to use the term bicurious or does that only really apply towards being curious about bisexuality?

Okay, don't get me wrong, i love being who i am. (Biromantic Heterosexual woman) But i just fell in love with the most beautiful woman i've ever seen.

So i decided, hey you know what? Let be friends with her! See how that goes and where that leads. So we start hanging out, you know, normal friend things. Everything is going well right?

Fast forward 3 months, She's my absolute best friend. So i decided to just ask.

"Hey Leah! I've always thought you were cute. Would you mind giving us a shot?" She stared at me for a good 3 minutes. "I um.. I'm only into guys."

I can't explain how upset i was. I was in LOVE with her, just to be rejected. She even stopped talking to me completely because she doesn't feel comfortable with someone who likes girls.

Yall i'm so done. Nobody likes me 😭😭

Don't get me wrong, I love that there is representation for asexuals and biromantics in general, but every time I look up ones, it is either for bisexual/biromantic (meaning I don't know if it is just a side character that is biromantic or just that both are lumped together) or explicitly asexual biromantic. Thanks in advance!

Don't get me wrong, I love that there is representation for asexuals and biromantics in general, but every time I look up ones, it is either for bisexual/biromantic (meaning I don't know if it is just a side character that is biromantic or just that both are lumped together) or explicitly asexual biromantic. Thanks in advance!

This question has been bothering me all day and I feel like I'm running around in circles. I'm trying to get a better understanding of Biromantic and Biromantic Asexual for potential OC's or preexisting OC's but I can't wrap my head around it. It just sounds the same to me (an individual who is romantically attracted to two or more genders). I need a more simple explanation for both these terms. I was debating on posting the question because I thought I would sound dumb as hell but what do you think?

Thank you.

I thought I was asexual because I never felt any sexual attraction to anyone.

Recently I redefined myself with the term Biromantic asexual, but again today I saw a picture of an Italian girl on instagram and went insane.

I was sexually aroused to the point I had to satisfy this impulse. Nonetheless, thinking about having sex with a woman doesn’t attract me at all, actually it repulses me.

Can you please help me understand what happened?

I need help lol By my example (below this) am i a biromantic heterosexual woman? I’m new to all this and i'm not sure of all the labels, what things mean, etc. (Just keep in mind, i am a female)

Here's what made me think i'm a biromantic heterosexual. I feel a "romantic attraction" to both men and women. But i only feel a "sexual attraction" to men.

Like i would marry a woman, and i would marry a man. I don't want to have sex with a woman, but i do with a man.

Does that all make sense? I just need help with what i should identify as.

Edit: I've been told that i'm just "straight but want to slap a label on myself to seem cool." I'm actually so tired of this bs.

I am completely fine with kissing, cuddling and any other physically driven thing with a woman, just not interested in sex with them! I would much rather have sex with a man.

I just find it crazy how judge mental people are nowadays.