Backstory: [25M] I believe I am someone who could be considered much more “hetero-passing” than most. Anyone I have come out to other than my mom was extremely taken back and even thought I was playing some dark joke. I can empathize with how this would be traumatic for some people, but for me I never thought too much of it. My bisexuality has always taken a back seat for me, which may be due to something in my past and should be dealt with in therapy, but I have never given it much thought. I have never been outwardly public about my sexuality outside of very close friends, family, and romantic relationships.

Today at work a male coworker of mine, who I am not very close with but have a mutual respect for and look out for each other, came to me for advice with another man who he had a few hookups with who was being too “clingy”. Prior to this I had never talked to this person about anything relating to our personal lives other than what we wear and what we drive. He said he wanted my opinion on the situation because he felt I could offer some insight that other people at our job wouldn’t have… because I was bisexual. He spoke of it as if it were so natural and not even a question. And for one of the few times in my life I felt like I was being actually seen by someone for who I actually am as a person. It was very surreal. I almost thought I had come out to him before but somehow forgot, he just spoke to me so matter of factly. My takeaway from this is that people who live similar experiences to us are able to notice each other naturally.

This was a very short exchange but I’m planning on talking to him more because I’d love to get to know him better now. I’m not really sure what the point of this post is. I’ve never visited or posted on any public community about anything relating to this. I just felt this moment was special and I wanted to tell someone because I don’t know who else to go to with this story. Thank you for reading this <3

You see I relate alot with heartbreak highest character Douglas aka Ca$h I relate with his character alot nmi don't relate to his Eshay stuff though anyway heartbreak high and heartstopper both made me question myself with heartstopper I relate with both Nick and Charlie and I lean more towards Charlie in physical aspects and mental health wise But I relate with Nick questioning himselfand taking online quizzes I have took so much of em my mum banned me from taking any more or she would change the internet password my mum is a huge ally BTW....sorry if this is worded badly I am dyslexic and autistic and I am still a young teenager not near the age of university/college yet and I don't want to have sex or anything like that because I think I might be Asexual because I get aesthetic attraction not sexual but I do get romantic feelings when I see a real person like face to face but I haven't felt romantic feelings for 8 months cuase my breakup---I started reading heartstopper again and I really connect with Nick and want what he has well not all of it but I think he made me question my identity again and Bisexual ya see I like guys like I have alot of celebrity crushes on both guys and girls not as many on girls as I do boys my mum says I shouldn't get into a romantic relationship again until I am 16-18 or something along those lines I agree with her---anyway back to my main question any advice on how to figure out your sexuality without looking up Porn or engaging sexualy,kissing is ok though but yeah nothing too big---so any advice?

My tiny little bright spot this week in a conservative area of Texas

I was at a college football game in a hella conservative area. Like I saw folks in Trump shirts many times at this game.

But at one point, a kid (~12) called the referees the f-slur used against queer men. Immediately, everyone in the area told the kid no and shut it the fuck down. I thought my wife and I would be the only ones, but nope. Dad got mad. The nearby families got mad. Kid immediately sincerely apologized and looked like he felt awful.

Idk man, it just gave me faith. People didn’t play with that word and I know a lot of those same people voted differently than me.

So I(18M) have always been confused even if I have considered myself bisexual

So yesterday i thought i should try grindr but to be on the safer side i only replied to the people who were from my college

So I picked out this one guy(19M)

We were going to study together today but he kept pushing (while saying not forcing) to have sex in the library washroom after the session (and when I asked about condoms he said those can't be arranged????)

So seeing his negative traits and my uneasiness

I dropped a nice apology message and blocked him

Now I know even if I might like men sexually to some extent, my emotional attraction to them is low(or isn't there idk)

I just want to know what to do... Should I just wait till I am graduated and earning to explore?

Edit 1 (i feel i should share this) Also I was being dumb yesterday as I was half asleep... Made an account on Grindr with my real name and pfp... Luckily wisdom struck today morning in breakfast and I cleared up everything

I had went as far as sharing explicit pictures with him.. when I didn't want to... Thinking about that made me realise... Oh fuck am making a mistake

Hey, I (28M) have been married to my wife (35F) for almost 5 years now, and I've always been questioning of my sexuality. Growing up having some attraction to some boys and experimenting once as a kid. Being Catholic though and in a not so accepting environment I repressed myself for many years but now that my life has been getting more settled and stuff I find myself wondering more and more of what could have been. I've never told anyone about my sexuality except for vague memes and jokes and I'm really terrified of telling anyone at all especially that I'm married now. I love my wife with all my heart but I still fantasize about sex with boys sometimes. I'm shaking just writing this and don't even know what l'm even asking about. Anyone have anything they can tell me? (Also posted in R/LGBT)

I (M) like the idea of dating a guy, but whenever I look at guys I never find them romantically or sexually attractive. Can anyone else relate?

Im a 36 yo bi male based in Florida and im looking for someone who understands me but also wants to get married and build a family. Tried bicupid but I think its all about sex in there. Any tips on how or where to meet likeminded people?

It went well I'm married but I'm definitely not hiding what I like anymore im going to start dressing fem my mom was extremely supportive and is telling family whoever says something funny to her ill never see again not worried about that even a little bit my wife think just saying on Facebook is too much she says to many people will try to start shit but just tell friends and family I think she's right over the years I do have alot of stalkers on my profile exfriends and exes but as for other friends I'm kind of a little worried but not stressed but ide like to thank this awesome community for support and love yall show everyone I love this page and all the awesome people that make it so great I'm living my life out in open I'm might be in straight relationship but we aren't gender norms and I think men and women are hott so does my wife so why hide anything from the world as my wife has told me the ones that mind don't matter and the the ones that don't mind do I'm bi and I'm proud hopefully I won't find the grammar nazi with this one lol

So I'm a 17 yr fem, and I work part time at a pizza shop; there are some regular friendly customers that come in the shop, but recently this (34 yr) guy has been coming in, and what I thought was harmless flirting with me. But tonight he came in (didn't buy anything) to give me a dozen pink roses. Then I find out that he's been flirting with a coworker, and asked to "hang out" with her. Everyone thinks that he's wrong and creepy. I don't know what to do about it...

Hi I'm a young boy who is asking himself questions I don't know if I'm in the right place but anyway it's been at least 7 or 9 months that I feel desire for trans girls and I have a lot of bi desire and I don't know if I'm gay or just curious but I feel like I'm doing something forbidden. so here's my situation

I've tried a lot of lemon bars throughout my life, and even lemon cake pops and lemon bar ice cream but I feel like I need a recipe for my upcoming holiday parties to really give em the ol razzle dazzle you know? Does anyone have a really awesome great grandma's lemon heaven bars kind of recipe?

Looking for some gamers that are around 30s to play with when I don't have anybody else to play with I want it to be just relax without politics or worries of the world hopefully understanding that my house sometimes sounds like a zoo and have kids (that don't always want to listen to me ) I just want to talk some shit and game for a few hours on fortnite working on ranked and stuff like that(my niece got me into this game and now I can't put it down). Plus gets me to talk to others like me.

(Edit) I have game pass so I do have battlefield and stuff like that.

I've known that I was queer since my kindergarten days, but I struggled with accepting this part of myself. It wasn't until I was older that I came to realize that I was bisexual as I had always thought I was gay because of my stronger same-sex attractions. I have been through many phases of my life where I've either felt confused about my sexuality, perceived it as being "unholy" because of religious doctrine, or have accepted my bisexuality. Every now and then, a religious inner voice or simply human curiosity questions my same-sex attractions and whether or not it is normal/moral. I'd gone as far as attempting to "pray the gay away" and made no progress—shocker (I'm being sarcastic)! I'm currently willing to embrace my sexuality and, should I feel ready to pursue any long-term relationships, would feel ecstatic regardless of the sexual orientation or sex of the person. How do you guys cope with the shame associated with same-sex attraction often rooted in religious trauma or societal expectations of what a man should be?

Ive been thinking of hosting a small bi cuddle party at my place. How would I go about finding the right people for this? I havent reqlly put out there that I'm looking. I am nervous to be turned down. But want it small and intimate. Don't want everybody that is interested in attending either. It would be invite only. And be approved. Any other thoughts?

I feel silly typing this but I need to get it out.

Girlfriend got pregnant so we got married. We have had problems with our sex life way before the baby and it’s not helping. She is 7 months along.

Because of our issues such as me having a higher libido than her, I suggested I find a FWB to help. She is completely against it.

I also am curious on my own sex life. Traditional home and taught masturbating is a sin was no help growing up.

Part of my curiosity is what is it like to be with a man. I have never orgasmed from a bj so I was wondering is a man would have “the skill”. My wife can’t blow me. Her mouth is too small and her jaw hurts after 30 seconds.

So I still want to have sex with a man but it would ruin the marriage obviously. So I am stuck with wanting something I can’t have.

There is no solution other than accepting it.

I just needed to vent because this part of me I will never get to learn more about, even if it is just lust or young desire or whatever.

I guess the question is, if you are bi, how do you explore that while being married? Not everyone is ok with an open marriage.

I am not bi but I am at least bi-curious and I guess I figured that part out too late.

I usually don’t think of myself as a bisexual, but I have understood that I do feel attraction to both sexes. Most of the time it’s extremely confusing. It’s much easier to get that I’m attracted to women as a woman myself — I don’t really know why, it guess it happens more often. I can tell when a man is attractive but they’re not as many as the women and then I fell in love with a guy earlier this year and that was strange, unusual and uncomfortable — because I’ve never felt those feelings so strongly before, I have only had crushes before on both sexes.

It’s hard to imagine my future. I want to be a mother so deeply and get married. The thing is that I want that with a woman but also not. I’m Christian and I love being it. My country is one of the top most accepting countries of homosexuality and bisexuality and the majority of the population wouldn’t really mind whatever you are. Most of my friends are fine with people being gay and bisexual and the same goes for my family but I don’t want to tell them, I simply don’t want to be like this. I don’t want to be abnormal. I don’t want to push people into making room for me. I can’t imagine standing on the altar breaking the tradition of a marriage between a man and a woman. I can’t imagine going through IVF or an adoption with a woman. I love loving women but I hate the fact that it’s not the norm and it doesn’t work with evolution. I don’t want to make things complicated.

It’s strange thinking for years that I probably was a lesbian because I almost didn’t feel any attraction to men in comparison to women and then falling in love with guy and opening a new door. I have a choice now — not really, you can’t help who you fall in love with but bear with me — and I can choose the easy choice or the hard choice.

I don’t want people finding out about it and I’m scared that they’ll notice. I’m afraid that they will find me staring at a girl a little bit too long and know. It feels as if there’s a big sign pointing down on me and everyone can see it but me. I don’t want to feel those things. I want my life to be easy and I want to fit in.

And then comes my problem with science. Because heterosexual relationships is the way for evolution there is a natural question mark as to why some people are homosexual and bisexual (I want to be clear I’m not questioning if homosexual and bisexual people exist rather why and how). Maybe I’m getting hung up on this but how can I be allowed to feel like this if there’s no obvious reasons as to why I feel like this?

I don’t really know why I wrote all this. I suppose I just needed to tell somebody and see if they can relate.

My first and only previous relationship was a WLW relationship for 4 years, and then i had the transition from that to a “regular” opposite sex relationship. Mind you I barely even talked to straight men properly let alone romantically prior to my current relationship so it was an adjustment lol.

For me it was like a type of culture shock. Things that didn’t matter in a lesbian relationship suddenly mattered a lot, like hanging out with perceived threats (other dudes or exes in this case). Obviously jealousy exists in lesbian relationships too but I never felt like I was doing anything wrong by hanging out with a certain gender of person, and it seems more normalized for lesbians to maintain friendships and be normal after relationships than it is for straight relationships. This specific idea of loyalty seems a lot more prevalent in “straight culture” and it was weird to get used to and work through.

Even just falling in love felt entirely different, not in a bad way it was just more slow and soft with my ex and intense and almost obsessive at first with my boyfriend.

Communication with another girl vs a boy was also very different, hard to describe exactly how but it was. I had more conflicts with my ex gf yet we still understood eachother very well without having to struggle to explain our feelings. With my boyfriend we don’t tend to fight often but it’s a whole different style of communication and having to explain basic emotions and perspectives that he doesn’t experience. I guess that’s probably a result of the shared female experience or something.

In the same line of thought there’s also the whole feminism barrier, not that my boyfriend was a crazy misogynist but there wasn’t that basic understanding of feminist theory and whatnot that lesbians and women in general tend to have that I kinda had to explain a lot of stuff to him that he didn’t quite get causing him to have some implicit biases and whatnot. Same thing with LGBT culture, racism etc. Yes straight people are aware of that stuff but they aren’t as directly involved so there’s a difference in awareness.

I also had to fight the instinct to grab his nonexistent boobs, that was something to get used to as well lol.

Being bi is like being at a weird crossroads between “LGBT culture” and “straight culture” and a lot of unique experiences come about as a result, feel free to share its interesting and funny

Man fuck it.

If you see this post, let it be a checkpoint for your mental health. Take a break from whatever you’re reading or scrolling through. Stop looking through comments for arguments. Stop engaging in these arguments online. I want you to take care of yourself first. The world wants you to take care of yourself first. It doesn’t matter who you are. This shit is so bad for the soul. Please take care of yourself, I love you and enjoy your day/night.

F25 here. I'm not sexually active because I'm socially isolated at the moment but I often feel a strong and irrepressible need to have sex with someone just for the sake of sharing good sensations with another human being. I don't have social energy to get to know people and establish a strong emotional connection and this is why I wish I was brave enough to hang out with strangers, but no matter how many times I search on Tinder, I don't have the courage to date any woman that I find even vaguely beautiful because of these main reasons:

1. I find women so beautiful and sexy that I end up feeling intimidated by them. Yes it might sound romantic and tender but it's frustrating because I'm not going anywhere. Basically I desire women so much and avoid them at the same time because of shyness/inferiority complex.

2. Sometimes I wonder how should I approach a date: should I go with the flow or is it okay to immediately declare my sexual attraction and desire to have a more intimate contact with her? I would choose the last option because it would decrease the anxiety I get from masking (i.e. respect boring social conventions of first meetings), but what if I come across as a loser or desperate?

3. I'm ashamed of my body. Actually, I like my body, when I look at the mirror I like what I see, I have no problems in staying naked all by myself and I regularly practice masturbation enjoying it since I was 6 so I perfectly know what excites me, how and where I want to be touched, etc... But everything changes as I have to interact with people and that is because I don't have a "canonical feminine presence". I mean: I'm not masculine, but I have flat breasts and I don't shave anything except for armpits so I'm very hairy and I'm afraid this may cause repulsion. But I don't want to shave anyway because I wouldn't be the authentic me if I did it! I wish people didn't give a shit of how much hair do we have on our bodies. Also, I have crooked teeth. So, as I said, I generally like my body and even find it sexy but I get anxiety when it comes to show it.

4. Last but not least: STD make me really anxious. Of course I know there are protections for oral, but what if I accidentally get an infection through a kiss?? How do you guys feel safe?? 😵‍💫

5. Simply because it's harder to approach strangers if I don't have any bond yet with them so I just have to rely on superficial things like physical appearance and "vibes".

I envy those who can go straight ahead to sex without any of this concerns. I feel overwhelmed by all of this even though I desire sexual pleasure. I'd just like it to be simpler to find a partner with whom share some kind of ancestral and natural need of physical connection. I'm trying to sublimate by writing down my erotic thoughts but it doesn't work well because they keep hunting me almost every day and every night especially if I'm ovulating 🙄. Please give me a potion to be someone else, I don't know what to do.

[In case you were wondering: I had one sexual encounter in all my life and it was several years ago. It was a lovely and wonderful experience, although we weren't in a relationship. The mutual mental connection we established made me perceive her such an attractive person that I figuratively and literally fell in her arms and sex just felt so natural that I let myself go without typical fears of the first time. Indeed, the chemistry between us was so strong I totally forgot it was my first time having sex with another human being. She made the first move and sincerely didn't give a shit of my hairy body, so I didn't have all that anxiety since I felt like we were on the same level. I know I've been very lucky but these are rare cases I can't replicate intentionally, so I'd like to become braver and approach women (and men) by myself better, without this tall imagined wall between me and them.]

Thanks for reading. If you don't have any clue about how to help me, emotional support is welcome too 😮‍💨😔.

I'm a male and I don't usually have crushes on really anyone but but I have recently realized that I have a bit of a thing for femboys. Does this mean I'm bi or smth can someone please tell me? Thx in advance

I am extremely inexperienced with dicks, I don't have one and I've never slept with somebody that does, but I met a guy who's going to let me give him head tonight. I know it won't be amazing given it's my first, but I really want to give him as good of a time as possible and enjoy it myself :) He knows it's my first time and seems very nice, so I'm pretty excited! What tips do you have for somebody new to the dick game?

80s baby, 90s kid, so grew up coming home crying for being called gay (for whatever reason) in grade school. Been in hetero relationships my whole life (although apparently I have an ex boyfriend now, I found out a few years after we broke up). But now getting into my almost 40s I’m coming to realize I might not be as straight as I thought? Always been into more masc-presenting women but over the last few years I’ve noticed it extending to NBs and fem-presenting men.

So basically I’m really not sure where I’m at. I’m in an incredibly happy and stable marriage with a woman, monogamous, no plans to change that. Most of both of our friends groups are somewhere on the Alphabet Mafia spectrum. But I just don’t know if it’s worth coming out considering I don’t really plan on doing anything different? And even though I’m sure my wife would be supportive I don’t want to rock the boat.

This is a bit of a ramble cuz I never really thought I’d be posting in here at all, so sorry for any lack of coherence.

If you haven't, basically Fletcher, who is a sapphic musician, may be dating a man. Fletcher had never publicly used any label other than queer. A lot of people assumed she's a lesbian because most of her songs are about a woman she dated for 4 years.

Currently, some people are melting down about what a betrayal it is that she is now dating a man. One person said that she was being intentionally deceptive to build an audience.

Genuinely, if I could roll my eyes any harder, they'd get stuck.

I'm moving out of India and I'm into guys too (I'm a guy) and I don't know how life will pan out. I'm a doctor and hence considering exploring the other side too because I know it's all normal. If any of you fellow medicos here who have moved out of India have any good experiences with life in general please share. Too broken rn 💔

I am still bisexual if I’m single and my partner’s gender does not affect my bisexuality. I’ve been a casual viewer of 911 and the recent hubbub has exposed me to some not great takes. That I feel encapsulates a lot of biphobia and misunderstandings surrounding bisexuality. So I just wanted to come here and express my thoughts and feelings on the matter.

First I’ve seen a lot of people celebrating that Buck is now single and can be ‘visibly bisexual’ like he’s not bi unless he’s sleeping with both men and women.

I’ve seen other people expressing how keeping him in a longer term relationship with the first man he dates means that he’s just gay. So they are glad that they’re not erasing his label.

I just hate that people don’t understand that bisexuality can be explored within monogamy. That we experience attraction and relationships differently because we are inherently bisexual. I want media to explore that aspect of bisexuality. Instead it looks like another piece of media is going to focus exploring bisexuality on sleeping with men and women. Idk, it just feels like bisexuality is rarely understood in media and this was a chance to explore it in a new and important way.

On the other hand we have bi representation and hopefully they at least continue to explore it. I’m just so starved for bisexual characters that I’ll take what ever they give us. Thank you for reading and letting me get my thoughts out. Also if anyone has insights I love to have more information and perspectives to overthink so pls feel free to add or disagree!

So all my friends are MAGA and hate LGBTQ. Turns out not all my friends do though. I could talk about immigration since he's Mexican hes worried about his family and other left wing politics. Felt so good just talk with a friend without being a called the f slur.