Ok, I (20M) want to hear your reasons/opinions.

In my case, although I am straight, I must say that the best compliments/flirts I have received have been from guys

In my entire life I think I have heard 4 or 6 women try to make the first move to flirt with me.

With men I lost count, it doesn't bother me, it's more that at one point my self-esteem increases.

I know, it sounds stupid to some extent, but the way I see it, I think we all like to receive compliments (right?).

In my case, the times that a girl has flirted with me have been... Common? Or empty? As if there was really no incentive for wanting to be creative.

I think the only times I've been like "wow..." or I really end up blushing, have been from guys.

Hey guys I 16 f am doing a project for history class and it can be about anything I want from the late 1900s. I chose lgbtq+ rights. I am super exited to do this project and a part of this I would like to interview real lgbtq people who had an experience 1970 and 1990 they would be willing to share. I am looking for one other interview as I will have 2 one my Papa will do! I am bisexual myself so this topic means a lot to me and I would love to hear your influential stories.

Pls comment if you would like to be interviewed and I will private message you!

Thanks!!! 💗💜💙

I (28f) only started embracing being bisexual in the last couple of years. I don’t have much experience dating, and I have never dated a woman. I have a massive crush on my co-worker (23-24f) and she has told me she is pansexual. We get on really well together, and I think there is some chemistry there. But I have no idea how to ask her out and am so nervous about it. I am wanting to ask her out sometime this week and am just looking for a private moment to do it. If anyone has any advice or encouragement about the situation, I would appreciate it!

I discovered her music through NPR's Tiny Desk Concert and now I can't stop listening to all her songs...she's like some unreal mix of Kate Bush, Cyndi Lauper and Madonna? Amazing talent and queer AF!

What causes this?

I (22M) was convinced I was straight until six weeks ago when a friend (25M) unexpectedly gave me a handjob. After that I couldn't stop thinking about it and when I saw him again last weekend I kissed him and we jerked each other off and I went down on my knees and took his cock in my mouth. I can't stop thinking about him and how much I want to see him again. I keep imagining what his cock felt like in my mouth and I keep thinking about how much I want to properly suck him off and make him cum. I can't stop thinking about this but I'm also so confused because I'm not usually into guys and I don't care about penisses but I want to suck his cock so badly. What the hell is wrong with me?

So basically I’m questioning my self I recently experienced getting a bj from a trans man I didn’t hate it it was a good time but I didn’t like love it and think to hit the person back up for more but at the same time will do it again if was offered I fantasize like a normal teenage male I love big boobs big ass if it was a good looking straigh female over the trans male I’m going female for sure that’s one I do know sometimes I regret getting the bj just cuz it put me in this what am I mindset and ik I shouldn’t care but basically I’m trying to figure out what I am ik I loveee and fantasize for sex with straight women I don’t really fantasize for anything with my same gender I don’t want to suck a cock or do anything more than get a bj from from them I have never had a crush on a male all the way from celebrities to day to day people basically am I just a freak who likes receiving oral or am I bisexual 😂

I get oval medium length nails done frequently and my next design is to get my pointer and middle finger hot pink and the rest light pink. Is that too obvious? (because I'm highlighting those two fingers) I'm not trying to make it obvious, honestly I'm not really out by any means so I was thinking of adding the thumb as hot pink as well. They're already kind of long so I figured that looks straight-ish. There is no way I would ever cut the two fingers short, that's way too obvious. I'm just wondering if anyone would think of it. I kind of want to seems straight to the straight people but not to the gay ones lol I'm going through a crisis

honestly i dont really support the lgbtq communities but tbh I've been liking my same gender ...embarrassingly it started with anime girls but now its actually women😭 at school tbh I'm aware of my popularity with guys but I find my self attracted to girls...i know I like guys to but girls as well everyone at my school sees me as your everyday pretty hot girl who gets guys but I want a girls attention also big confession I. FIND MYSELF ATTRACTED MORE TO FEM/GAY GUYS THEN MASC IS THIS NORMAL!!!!

anyway please help me most of the bi girl either think I'm gonna judge them or they just look at me like I hate them😭 (I want to keep it a secret but I want to be freely to like girls as a popular girl)

So I've been dating my fiancée for 8 years, engaged for 2. I'm very much straight passing. Despite this, a couple of years ago I decided to come out. My fiancée has known the whole time we were together that I'm bi and never had any issue with it. My parents however, who I recently tried to explain myself to, after they noticed my bi flag pin on my denim jacket, were less convinced. They asked me if I was unsure of my relationship, and despite since learning more I feel like they're still confused. They don't fully understand that I might conceptually like people regardless of sex but still have an individual I'm 100% committed to, to the exclusion of all others.

They're not the only people to do this though, so many people have expressed concerns about the longevity of my relationship when discovering I'm bi. I've always dismissed these ideas, but I find it all the more frustrating when so many people on this sub seem to be posting about frustrations in a relationship, and a desire for variety. I'm fully supportive of people in poly relationships, but I feel like the amount of people on this sub who are posting about potential cheating or looking to break out of monogamy in their relationships infuriating, especially when I'm looking for examples to show to people that me being bi doesn't necessarily make me poly or somehow promiscuous. Granted, I think bi people should be able to sleep around just as much as anyone, but I feel like sometimes I struggle to find proof to point to when trying to explain to people that being bi doesn't automatically make you hyper promiscuous.

Maybe this is all just me, but I really feel like if someone came in from the outside to look at this sub they'd just have their biases confirmed, seeing people in 20 year marriages looking to end things because they really need some same-sex action after all those years. Like I said, maybe I'm wrong, honestly, maybe I'm just hypersensitive after being sick of people questioning my loyalty to my fiancée. I dunno, I'm just real tired of this idea that all bi people are slutty. How do any of you deal with this? Is there a study or some other resource you can point friends and family to when they express worry that your sexuality somehow makes you a sexual vagabond?

Hi,

I don't know what to do.

I am not out to myself or others. I only have one sexual experience that went further then flirting with the same sex and it has left me confused.

Me and a friend kissed when we were drunk one night when I was about 15. After that for a while everything was normal.After maybe half a year or less had passed and I was still friends with this girl. I started to watch gay TV shows and maybe had a crush on a teacher and also flirted with girls that I thought might be gay but I still declared myself as straight, I started to remember my kiss with her fondly and started to fantasies about having a relationship with her, things got really weird quickly from there. I felt so awkward around her I would get spiteful and bitchy and be very jealous when she made new friends, I would be mean to her but I still insisted on staying friends, I would glue myself to her invite myself round to her house and pretend everything was normal. I would keep asking her for reassurance that we were still friends.

I would indulge myself into fantasy's that we were in love etc I asked her once if we could kiss again which she refused saying that I shouldn't have told my other friends about our kiss.

20 years later I am still coming to terms with it all, I have dreams about her and my life has not been the same since. I try to distract myself with porn or play with the idea of being with girls I meet at work etc. I keep messaging her with the idea that I can bring it all up to talk to her about it. But end up just talking about normal mundane things.

I feel alone and isolated. I just came to terms with it this morning that maybe it was obvious that I was in love with her and maybe people around me are just waiting for me to admit it.

Should I ask her if she could tell I was in love with her? Something like "was I in love with you at school?". It is all abit of a blur and I don't know myself really but looking back on it does seem like I was in love with her.

It is so complicated relationships with girls because there is a power dynamic that comes to play which confused me. For example when we started hanging out she would copy me and dress like me etc but when she no longer needed me I felt bad and I was confused when she rejected me. Was I in love with her or was if just a complicated friendship and I was just emotional and sensitive at the time?Will coming out about this fix anything?

I don't know what to do? life is not black and white and it is what you make of it. I just wish she could tell me she loved me so I could understand my feeling were real.

I've always been more attracted to girls and enbies than guys but it feels even more pronounced now I'm in my first exclusive relationship. Is this something you lot have also experienced?

Im in my early 20s and trying to figure out my sexuality. I have never slept with a girl, had a crush on a girl, or even fantasised about a girl sexually. The only romantic fantasies I have are with women but made up women who do not exist.

I have watched straight porn my entire life , but recently I have watched femboy/trans/idk the terminology but its cool doesn’t really effect me that they have a dick.

But I have been trying to figure out why i don’t care about girls as much as guys my age do.

When I was much younger, before age 10 I had kissed both boys and girls. But since then no, when girls rub up against me, I don’t care no reaction. When a girl put her boobs in my face I didn’t even care no reaction. When girls like me I don’t care no reaction. Wtf is wrong with me?

Hey guys I’m new here M24. So I’m a straight man I think, I have had a few girlfriends and have one currently, we have been together for 2 years. I have only ever been attracted to women and only ever sexually turned on by women. But lately whenever my girlfriend has given me head I’ve got so turned on to the thought of how it feels to suck a penis. I have never been attracted or sexually attracted to a man or a penis but sometimes I catch myself thinking about how it would feel. I’m very lost especially because I’m so in love with my girlfriend. Any help would be appreciated.

I enjoy penises far more than vaginas. I love anything involving fellatio, frottage, and being penetrated. It’s just so frustrating having a really specific type when it comes to men. Something in between masculine and feminine men I really enjoy. It’s just so hard to come by. I hate being picky, but I can’t just force my sexual preference either.

Not really sure what to do about it. Really just want to vent my frustration more than anything. Especially considering I’m closeted.

So, I have a bit of a dilema. But first, some context. I'm 19 and a virgin with no relationship experience, but I do watch a bit of porn now and then. I CANNOT bring myself to enjoy body hair. I don't know why because I love more muscluar and masculine bodies, but I just can't stand body hair. Perhaps this is because I'm young and haven't found love yet, but this is so strange. I'm bisexual and strongly prefer the same gender in so many ways, but body hair is almost like a repelent for me.

Is this normal? Does it fade with age?

I (23F) am bi and out to my friends and bf. Recently I have been reading romance books with straight sex scenes and they low key make me feel uncomfortable like I am happy the main character are together and rooting for them but I wish I could just skip the sex scene parts sometimes. This has been making me spiral cause i normally read sapphic romance and when they kiss i get so excited and even turned on a little sometimes. I just don’t feel that way with straight sex scene and the book I am reading currently is not even heavy heavy on that part of the story. I am debating on giving butcher and the black bird a whirl and see how I really feel about straight sex scenes but kinda scared and dreading it.

What do yall think this all means as I am literally dating a man but every couple months I am like maybe… I am a lesbian.

I have a feeling this is going to turn into a rambling post lmao

About a year ago I moved to a new city. Demographics are like 80% white, many of those 80% being Ukrainians, russians, etc when I first came here my thoughts were "damn mexicans must be an in demand commodity here" 💀 I'm mostly Spaniard but raised mexican/ look more mexican than white.

Anyway no joke since I've been here and starting a new job 3? Girls have said they like me. I know a few others from second person? Is that's what it's called? Then I stsrted thinking about this because I was walking and this like 40 year old woman says "hey there attractive young man" I'm like "that's a new one" ironic too because my self esteem has always been in the drain

But tell me why everyone seems to like me except for the ONE guy I like? Literally I've never had a crush but for some reason for the second I saw this guy I became obsessed with this guy.

Sidenote but after talking to him for forever feels like he knows he's not straight but his culture keeps him from coming out aka straight. But yep he's Russian

Story of my life

Edit: I'm curious, how would you handle something like that? Yay or nay to dating someone who's still in the closet?

Edit: k this is where the rambling starts.

OK it's not so much that he doesn't like me but more like he "cant" for reasons stated above. Like when I met him I got so many mixed signals from him then slowly as I got to know him better that's when the pieces started coming together. So now I'm thinking I wasn't wrong and he does like me, it's just that he idk what I'm saying.

But his self esteem seems to also be down the drain as well. I really don't know why, he's absolutely perfect and I mean it 😭

For me, I thought I just really liked my coworker. One day she came in to get a drink (I work at a coffee shop). Someone else made her drink and brought it to her. I tried to tell her to bring her a straw (she won’t drink it with out one) but she didn’t hear me. I grabbed a straw and brought it to her. She was talking to the manager at the time and didn’t really notice I was there. I tried to just put the straw in her hand. That’s when she noticed that I was bringing her a straw. She stopped listening to the manager and said “AWWWW.” I it felt like my face was on fire I WAS BLUSHING SO HARD. Such a little thing made me realize so much.

I (21F) and my girlfriend (20F) have been together for 6 months now. She’s the first girl I’ve been with and up until her I always thought I was straight. We started as friends but I quickly realized she wanted to be more. She was very forward about this and seemed very comfortable with her sexuality. I kept ignoring her flirting for a while because I wasn’t sure about all of it. But I also still wanted to be friends with her. She eventually asked me out and I said no. But I kept thinking about it and couldn’t understand why I said no. I connect with her emotionally, I find her very beautiful and attractive, I like everything about her. So later I tried to rekindle and everything worked out and we ended up being together. Everything is great expect one issue: I’m not sexually attracted to her. I thought that once I got more comfortable, that I would want her in that way (this is how I was with past male relationships). But 6 months later and I just can’t get aroused by her or think about doing anything sexual. I am horny a normal amount but I only can think about men and fantasize about them. It’s gotten to a point where any man I interact with positively, I think about having sex with them. Let me clarify I WONT cheat on her but I don’t know what to do. I love her so much but the lack of sex is driving me crazy. She has tried to initiate a few times and I always make it awkward or try to move away and she stops. WHY AM I NOT TURNED ON BY HER IF I FIND HER ATTRACTIVE Do I have to break up with her? Have I STILL been leading her on this entire time? I feel like such an asshole because I don’t want her to feel like she did ANYTHING wrong!!!! And if I say “you did nothing wrong, it’s not you it’s me” even if I TRULY MEAN IT I feel she will still take it on herself.. she is a very emotional person and I know she loves me a lot (hence why she’s even waited this long for me to come around) and I don’t want to hurt her :( please help

I know taimi and grindr are the .main ones but there's not many users

so i am engaged to someone who i have been with for a very long time - he was actually my first serious boyfriend & i love him very much. (please no comments about him or anything, i have relationship ocd & do not need any more intrusive thoughts lol) i’ve kind of struggled with sexuality before thinking that maybe I’m demi or ace, and it’s just been a rough time for a recovering catholic to figure out her sex life. lately i’ve been noticing some things that i’m not sure are normal for straight people, like enjoying watching the women in porn or wondering what it would be like to kiss a girl. like im so curious what it would be like but im not really in a position to try things because im getting married, and I know I don’t actually want to be with anyone else. has anyone realized they’re bi while in a long term relationship? is there really even a point in trying to figure this out if i’m just going to be with one person for the rest of my life? like why would i need to figure out if im bisexual or not if i don’t plan on acting on it or leaving my relationship, ya know?

i’ve never been with a woman, i’ve never loved a woman romantically, i’ve never had any type of relationship with women except for friendship. i know i’m bisexual, i really like women and i feel that i want to be with women, i want to love a woman, i want to kiss a woman.

but i love my boyfriend, and i know he loves me too, deeply. i don’t know what to do because i don’t want to die without having experienced loving a woman, but i also don’t want to break up with my boyfriend, because we have a great relationship and i love him and i like him too.

has anyone gone through this? what should i do?

I see post all the time about "fell in love with my bestfriend" or what-not. My situation is different, we both love each other, no questions. Would do anything for the other. Neither one of us would ever want to be in a relationship with each other though, it's a real platonic love.

That being said, we cross those platonic lines sometimes by kissing, flirting, cuddling, etc. I don't fall in love, and that leads me to my infatuation problem. It's easier (but still hard!) for me to detach from these erratic waves I get when it's somebody I just met/hardly really know. I can't detach from one of my closest friends though.

How do you all get over infatuation? She's "straight", I'm openly Bi.

Edit: When I care for an individual, I tend to be too intense. It's a fault, I know, I'm working on it.