/r/bisexual
This group is for discussion and support for those who fall in between, for the "shades of gay" in what is often assumed to be one or the other:
... or anyone who doesn't quite fit the otherwise binary "straight" and "gay" pattern. If you can't work out if you're straight, gay, or anywhere in between... you should probably visit us.
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The world isn't binary, and sexual orientation doesn't have to be, either. There is more than being straight or being gay. This group is for discussion and support for those who fall in between, for the "shades of gay" in what is often assumed to be one or the other:
... or anyone who doesn't quite fit the otherwise binary "straight" and "gay" pattern. Whether sexual or asexual, everyone is welcome.
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I'm 13 M and bi. I haven't told anyone and I'm wondering who I should tell first . Then how to come out
With love,
A bi girl who leans towards guys AND loves being bisexual. Don't erase bisexuality.
I’m a woman who’s identified with bisexual because it’s the most comfortable title for me. I’ve only ever been in relationships with men, not because of my romantic preference but because they seem to be who I mostly I attract. I’ve been involved with women but straight men are just more common. I’ve always known I preferred women but I suppose I still do have some attraction to guys since I’m dating men. However, the more I date men the more I find myself longing to be with a woman, and I get anxious thinking about being with only a man forever. I can’t help but think about the touch of women, kissing them, dating them romantically and being in relationships with them. I don’t have these fantasies when I’ve been involved with women about men. I know deep down that I’d ultimately want to live in peace with a woman forever. I’ve been questioning my bisexuality as of late because it seems like no matter what, no matter how much a guy is my type or how well things things are going, I always deep down wish I was with a woman instead. Are these normal feelings to have? Is it just a preference? I once had feelings for a woman that a man has never been able to elicit in me. I honestly feel so conflicted with my sexuality and I have no one to talk to about it.
Kind of like the title says.
I've been bi for almost a year now but been in denial for 2 I think. I (a male) got married about 6 months ago and I absolutely adore my wife she's my favorite person. But I have had a gay experience and it still tugs at me every once in a while.
My best friend and I were roommates for a bit, he got sick and so I took care of him, cuddled with him and that led to us having some fun times. Neither of us thought of ourselves as gay or bi at the time.
We parted ways for a bit and it was not a fun time mentally for me but shortly after that he found his wife (they've been married for a year now) and then I found my wife. We were best mans at each other's weddings, needless to say I still have a great relationship with him.
We both are very monogamous and have no intention of doing anything.
Ever since we were intimate I fell in love with him and it hurts I can't have him. But after finding my wife it fixed itself a bit but I do still get flashes and moments where I wish I had him still. My best friend knows about this but unfortunately he doesn't share my feelings and never really has, well at least to the extent I do.
Just not sure how to work out the complicated emotions of loving him and loving my wife and trying to move on from him and show my wife the devotion she deserves. (To be clear my wife does know about my experience and is very supportive of me and my journey)
Pretty much at the title says.
For context, I met this girl (also bi) a couple years ago and we both knew we wanted to be friends but we’re both really shy. Over time we gradually warmed up more and started talking more regularly. We now talk every single day either in person or messaging, usually at night until late.
I think she also likes me back?? It’s really hard to tell if she’s just being nice or is flirting because she has a long term boyfriend. If she didn’t have a boyfriend I would 100% assume she also has a crush on me.
She says she often ditches her boyfriend to see me but also at the same time complains that she doesn’t see her boyfriend enough (they live together).
Recently we’ve opened up more to each other and have been talking more about our previous spicy experiences with other people and have been comfortable making jokes about each other. Sometimes joking about doing things in 3s (if you know what I mean) together??
Also new, sometimes when we’re together in person, we will end up accidentally touching legs or arms and neither of us will move. Which now seems to happen every time we’re together. This is interesting because she is very reserved and self-aware and I have never seen her make contact with anyone else.
We have very similar future plans and dreams, all of which when we talk about them don’t include her boyfriend - including living together.
I’m also friends with her bf and I think he’s really sweet and I like him a lot as a friend so I feel really bad about this.
I do not know what to do about this. I do not know if she actually likes me back either. I just need some advice or different perspectives.
Also much appreciated any advice on any more signs to know if she actually likes me or is just being friendly
I’m (f) very disinterested in dating, I hate dating apps & I’m very context being alone… I thought. I have been hanging out with this woman for a couple months just as friends (I met her on a dating app) but recently talked about being more, except I work out of town which she isn’t interested in. Part of me wants to change my whole life to just be with her. I won’t, but wow do I want to. This sucks.
hello i am really bored and lonely looking for like minded people i am open to talk to anyone as long as you are 18+ if you wanna chat feel free to shoot me a message i am open to anything just shoot me a message
46 cis male
TLDR: How do I understand where I fit since I feel "in-between" what I see in the straight and LGBTQ worlds. I've felt "in-between" various communities in all areas of my life and it never feels good. Can I call myself queer? Are there others who experience sexuality and gender the way I do? If so, how do you describe yourself? How can I find others like me?
I am looking for help in understanding myself more. I love who I am. I am completely comfortable with what I experience, who I'm attracted to, and how I express myself. But I don't understand it and I don't know where I fit in with the straight and LGBTQ communities. It feels like the LGBTQ YouTube videos don't describe me, and conversations with LGBTQ community friends reveal I'm not like them. But I don't feel straight either, except when I do, if that makes sense to anyone. So I struggle with imposter syndrome when I call myself queer, like i don't have that right because it's unfair to the LGBTQ community for me to adopt that label. As someone who's always struggled with not feeling accepted by the communities I want to be a part of, for many reasons most of which have nothing to do with any of this, I find it very emotionally distressing.
Periodically, I find myself attracted to men. It's not often, but it feels quite obvious when it happens. It requires a conversation with them first. I'm not simply going to feel attracted to them based on their looks, the way I am with women. I've never acted upon it by asking them out, and I've never played sexually with men. I do want to explore it, but would need to take it very slow and assess at each step if it's still right for me. I struggle with guilt because that slowness feels like it would be unfair to a potential male partner, so I simply don't go down that road. It feels like an unexplored part of myself, but it doesn't feel inauthentic to choose to not explore it. I'm simply open to it if I were to meet a man and really want to explore it with them. I find this confusing because does that mean that I'm really not interested in men since I'm only occasionally attracted to them and I've never been with one and don't feel like I really need to?
I also really love exploring my feminine side, both inwardly and outwardly. I identify as a cis man. But I don't like being trapped by masculine gender roles. I love painting my nails pretty colors and have no problem with them being visible in public and at my corporate job. I also enjoy dressing in women's clothes. I've worn lingerie with many female partners. I recently wore a sheer women's dress to a swingers club which was the first time I did something like that in a semi-public setting. It felt great, but also made me aware that the other men were dressed HYPER-masculine, almost like they were trying to project “Hey, I may be looking at some penises here but I'M NOT GAY!” So my comfort at that event only lasted so long.
I had a light bulb moment recently where I realized that I go to the swingers club because I feel that my sexual interests are completely accepted without judgment. But that's only one facet of my uniqueness, and I don't need to be limited to only expressing my feminine side in a sexual way. So I bought a beautiful summer dress and heels, and I feel so beautiful in them. I have amazingly supportive friends who loved my pics of it. Now I just need a non-sexual community that I can be comfortable wearing it in.
A close straight cis male friend used to wear women's clothing about 20 years ago, and he still struggles to accept that part of himself. He calls it cross-dressing, but I don't like that term. It implies dressing like an “other”, dressing like something I am not. I may not be a woman but I have a feminine side and I'm simply expressing that piece of me. I love feeling handsome in a suit and tie but I also love feeling beautiful in the dress and heels with my nails done. There's no “other”. They both express facets of myself.
But all of that gender expression is a little confusing to me as well. I don't think it means that I identify as female, nor do I think it makes me non-binary. But I don't know how to think about this in terms of what the straight and LGBTQ worlds expect.
I recently realized that almost 100% of my partners since my divorce 11 years ago have been in the LGBTQ community. The others were strong allies. I need this both in dating partners and in friends. I thought I just gravitated towards this community because I am incredibly liberal and an ally. It never really occurred to me that it might be because I'm part of the community and long for acceptance as well.
This has led me to trend towards dating younger women, including women in their early to mid twenties. Women in that age group are simply a lot more accepting of who I am and how I express myself. Many have been bi, and with few exceptions, have not only accepting of me, but encouraged me in this exploration as well. I didn't have this when I was married. I wasn't exploring any of this while I was married simply because it wasn't on my mind, but I couldn't be myself in so many other ways including spiritually. I promised myself when I finally left that I would never be in another relationship where I couldn't explore who i am, regardless of where it takes me. Since then, I've made sure that I am fully supportive and encouraging of my partners to explore and live their full authentic selves. I desire and deserve the same in a partner.
But being 46 years old, there's multiple reasons why I'm not likely to find a life partner dating younger women. I have my own biases about age-gap relationships that make it challenging for me to date younger women openly. I'm afraid to be judged. I understand where that comes from in my life and it's not likely to change. I've also found that some important life lessons can only be learned by having many years of life experience as an adult. Healing from trauma takes many years, and we can really hurt partners in our life that we truly love until we're able to work on that. That simply takes time. So I need to find communities where people my own age will be accepting and encouraging of who I am.
I love who I am. I'm more authentically me than I've ever been in my life and the result is being consistently happy for the first time, and not desperately feeling like i need a relationship anymore. But I don't know how to understand who I am. Labels may not matter, but they do help us understand. How do I describe myself? How do I relate to others who are similar and dissimilar to me? Will the communities I want to be a part of accept me? Labels won't give me the answers to all those questions. But they may help me understand myself as I continue to evolve over time. They may give me enough confidence to not feel like I don't quite belong. But at the moment I still feel like an outlier. At the moment i still very much feel “in-between”. Other people get to simply say “I'm gay”. And everyone understands. But I don't know what to say. Because I don't really understand.
Open to thoughts, feedback, clarifications, advice. Gently please. I may be confident in expressing myself authentically, but I am not confident in the communities that will accept me, and that includes this subreddit.
Thank you all.
When I was in high school I had a group of good girlfriends who were very supportive of me being bisexual and embraced my feminine side. However after high school we all drifted apart. I enjoy reading all of your posts everyday and if anyone is interested in chatting abt life or anything it would be nice to talk with like minded people again. HMU :)
Trying to prove a point to my straight friend.
I was with a few of my coworkers and we all had a couple drinks in us and I made a comment on behalf of the bisexuals and my coworker asked me if I consider myself bi and I said yeah and then they acknowledged it and we moved on lol and it was not a big deal. My therapists words are echoing in my head “remember this will not be as big of a deal to everybody as it is to you” It’s just hard because what is this thing that’s been circulating in my head for so long causing me so much anguish and then I say something and it’s … fine??? It still didn’t fix all my social anxiety and make my problems go away which is preposterous (sarcasm)
help 😭 😭 😭 this is such a bisexual problem what do i do
So, first off, I'm nonbinary, but specifically in the sense that I'm both a boy and a girl, and I think I'm bi but I might only be into girls, but im wondering if the reason I think I'm only into girls is because I feel weird about being a guy that likes guys?
Basically, if im bi, then that means I'm gay for both guys and girls, I've fully come to terms with being gay for girls and that feels fine, but I feel like I might have some internalized stuff about being gay for guys too. I think part of it comes from the stereotype that queer men are promiscuous whereas I am actually very prudish about sex, so I think I feel on some level this feeling that's like "well I can't be a queer dude, I'm not sexual enough" even though I know and understand that such stereotypes are untrue and also... its perfectly fine to be a sexually active queer man, even though that's not what I am.
So basically, any bi guys out there, maybe some that don't fit what society thinks queer men should be like, how have you come to fully accept who you are?
I never saw a bi person who has the same preferences as me, so I'm wondering if anyone here is like me
Hii I’m what’s known as a baby gay via social media 😂😂
I was talking with my husband about women whom I find attractive and we were watching American Horror story. My husband said while he doesn’t think she’s not attractive, he just thinks I’m naturally attracted to women that are queer. Is this common??
For context this conversation was about Sarah Paulson.
I’m just discovering my “type” lol
Just curious if anyone else tends to find they tend to “ironically” find women attractive that happen to be queer??
Hi i like to consider myself a femboy but i’m fairly new to it but are bi guys into femboys i do know it’s different for everyone but i want to get a second opinion.
Hi guys, so I have identified as straight all my life but in the past couple of months I have found myself very attracted to fem boys. I know I want to be with a woman, and marry one, but this side of me has just started to creep out haha As I say, I am very fussy and want an extremely feminine boy to the point that they could pass as a girl. Despite this, I know they have a penis and I would definitely do something with them. So, to sum up, I have been straight all my life but as of late, I really want a d*CK in my mouth lol
Anyone else get this?
Hi! I’m a Female bisexual who leans towards the male side. I don’t feel like a true bisexual based off the biphobia in my life. Idk how to feel or what to do.
Hi everyone! Check out the r/bisexualdatingg subreddit I created!
So, I'm 26F, and ok, firstly, i only had significant crushes for men. However, when I was 22, I had a vague interest for a female friend. The whole thing was mild. I have the tendency (and issue) to get a bit obsessed when liking someone, and that in that situation definitely did not happen.
That said, I am getting convinced that the sexual abuse I was victim of when very little from my aunt is blocking a part of my sexuality. It could sound delusional, and I could just think "Well I don't want to have sex with a woman, so I'm straight, period." -- I know this can sound disconnected, but sometimes I just wish I would be able to have sex with women, I think I may be into that. But when trying, the few times it happened, I felt very uncomfortable, and uneasy, almost triggered, for sure not into the idea.
My experience is limited, after my mild crush for my friend, I drunk kissed a friend, which right after asked me to have sex with her, which I refused (which she did not accept easily, for that matter). Then we kissed a second time and I remember I clearly thought that I was uncomfortable. Now in my university course I noticed an attractive girl and randomly started flirting. I really did it without thinking much and noticing that she showed some interest I started freaking out a lot. My mind seems to go crazy since I decided "ok so I don't want anything now with her, let's stop it", but when I see her I get nervous. I mean, I don't really want anything too physical with girls but I would want it.
Am I just lonely and enjoy some people attention? Or was really my abuse that fucked me and any potential attraction?
It's worth adding that this trauma was standing completely removed from my conscious memory till I turned 22, and when I started having flashbacks, I got recovered in a mental hospital. I feel weird and frustrated by all of this. I had to turn down many people. I could add many more details about the nature of the abuse that could provide more insights about the issue (and its intensity), and so on but it's not the right subreddit here. I am in therapy, but till now it seems I just should accept things as I described to you. Probably this is more an off my chest post and you can't help me but all kind words or reflexion to a damn survivor of hard times will be fantastic.
22M.
Since I was around 14 and started watching porn I’ve always found gay porn exciting - more so than straight porn. However, I’ve only ever been attracted to women in real life. I had a girlfriend for a couple of years when I was 18 and was very much in love with her - however I often struggled with guilt as I would regularly watch gay porn when not with her and I’d often have to think of gay sex to finish with her.
I did a lot of research and came to the conclusion that I must be gay and in denial. We ended up breaking up for unrelated reasons and I saw this as an opportunity to experiment. I had sex with a few guys but something never felt right - it felt purely physical and I never felt any emotional connection to these men and honestly the sex wasn’t that great either. I’d also regularly go out with friends and end up making out with women at clubs and often go home with them. I’d also only ever notice myself checking out women in public and very rarely men. I’m friends with a lot of conventionally attractive men and can honestly say I’ve never felt any urge to be any more than friends with them.
So I kind of settled on myself being bisexual (not out).
Recently I’ve started seeing a new girl and I think she’s incredible in every way. Whenever I cuddle her or spend time with her I feel butterflies and want to kiss her constantly. But whenever we get into bed together I find myself losing my erections very quickly. I just can’t decide whether this is because I’m secretly gay or if because I have a porn addiction and am suffering from performance anxiety.
Now, I’m not one of those guys who is trying to claim I’m straight - I masturbate to gay porn regularly (not many straight guys do that) and I have definitely enjoyed sex with men. But honestly I think I prefer the idea of having sex with men rather than actually doing it. I’ve never found myself attracted to a man’s face - only ever bodies and dick. Whereas I’ll see a pretty woman and instantly imagine myself in a relationship with them. But straight sex just feels so much more boring - to the point now that I’m scared of intimacy with a woman because of fear I’ll lose my erection.
This is quite long so I’ll end it here but I’m wondering if anyone has had similar issues and found the answers later on? I guess I just thought that experimenting with men would answer this question but it didn’t. Labelling myself as gay feels completely wrong because I definitely get attracted to women often, but labelling myself as bisexual feels dishonest because the idea of sex with a man is often more appealing when I’m horny.
Any ideas?
So about a year ago, I was out with friends at a gay club as most of my friends are LGBT, and this girl - who I didn’t know at all - asked me to dance. I thought, why not? She was gorgeous and confident, and she had this way of moving that just pulled me in. So we danced, just letting the music carry us, and she kept returning for more. By the second time, things got a bit more intense. At some point, she turned around, smiled, and then kissed me. And I don’t mean just a quick peck; it was this slow, sweet, unexpected moment that felt almost surreal.
The thing is, I was in a monogamous relationship with my boyfriend at the time. I loved him, truly did. I thought I was straight, but this felt like something else entirely. Dancing and kissing her lit up this part of me I hadn’t explored. I didn't think of it as “cheating” exactly, but I couldn’t deny that I was feeling things I hadn’t expected, especially toward another woman. If it had been a random guy, it would’ve felt like crossing a line. But this felt…different.
After that night, she texted me to check if I got home safely. I thought it would end there, but it didn’t. We kept in touch, first just casually, then almost every day. We started meeting up for coffee, and I found myself drawn to her kindness, her honesty, and the values we shared. Eventually, I admitted I’d always thought of myself as straight until that night. Getting close to me helped her realize I might be bi, and that she wanted to explore what we had too.
It was confusing. I didn’t want to hurt my boyfriend, but I also couldn’t ignore this growing connection. After a lot of reflection, I realized I wasn’t being fair to either of us by staying. So, my boyfriend and I had a serious talk, and we decided to break up. It wasn’t easy, but I knew it was the right thing to do. I needed to follow this part of myself, and he deserved someone who could give him their whole heart.
Fast-forward to now, and that girl and I are dating. It feels surreal like I’ve found something I didn’t even know I was missing. We have this easy, honest connection, and it just feels right in a way that I can’t fully explain.
So, here’s my question: Did I do the right? If you were in my shoes and met someone who made you rethink everything, would you take that leap? Because, looking back, it’s one of the best decisions I ever made. But I feel really bad how it started from cheating.
Hi!
So, I have seen a lot of discussion about how toxic the gay dating scene is, and also how bi men are usually facing bigotry for being bi (while bi women are usually disregarded, unicorn hunted or invisible). So knowing all of this, how did any of y'all find a loving, healthy relationships? What should we singles keep in mind, where should we go to find accepting and loving people?
I’ve always struggled with where I live. People are assholes and just incredibly bigoted. Well, that’s only continued ramping up and it’s getting disheartening af. One of two gay bars is closing, and the reactions on Facebook are really making me want to uproot my family and get the fuck out of here. I had been so happy with coming out to my friends I lost sight of the fact people are still ugly. And that it’s not really safe for everyone out there. Sorry for the downer post. I love you all, and hope you’re safe.
Hi y'all, I excuse myself in advance in case I'll write a massive clusterfuck of a post, but I'll try to keep myself relatively concise in relation to this (to me) complicated problem.
My problem is: I (M20) fell deeply in love with a guy (M19), and thinking about him has been draining a lot of my mental energy and (free)time - For lack of a better way of saying it.
I have been thinking about writing this a few months ago, but thought it was too embarassing and tiny of a problem for it to be worthy to be posted here (If that's even an okay place to do so ._.). And I feel I have to write about it now at least on Reddit or else this might spiral into a mental nightmare
About seven months ago, I came out to myself as bisexual, because I got this crush on this guy. And when I say "got" I don't mean it slowly developed over time, I mean it hit me like a freight train.
A former classmate (At the time of writing I've known and talked to him for three years) - allow me to gush about him for a second:
He's cute! Everything about him is what I love: touch, body (not skinny, not fat, he's friend shaped), smell, hair, copius amounts of silly and nerdiness! Gosh, I could listen to him talk about hyper specific topics for hours on end! We even share a lot of hobbies and similarities, we're both furries (a detail that will be important in a minute believe it or not) and even politically we roughly have the same thinking.
Sadly he isn't bisexual himself, he's straight, and that's where the problems start :/
I'm well aware and content that I cannot have him as a partner, but. I still want to spend time with him, as friends! However, I feel I'm constantly walking on eggshells when it comes to talking about serious topics and not making a shitpost about everything we say.
I vividly remember when I confessed my feelings for him, it was the worst possible outcome for any confession, he had to catch a bus and I had an appointment in 30 minutes, so I kinda had to blurt it out in front of him (we saw eachother only like once a week for a few minutes).
It sucked, because I even said I wanted to talk about it when he had time, like a friday night or something, but at the same time I didn't want to make the situation any more awkward than it already was. I confessed, he smiled, said "I knew it, I could tell the entire time" and unexpectedly hugged me. Very wholesome right? But after that I just said "I like you.", and I could see him die inside. "Okay now this is getting very weird", he said. Fucking what.
I asked him if we can do stuff together, like going on cons. I suggested the EuroFurence (furry con) this year. I'd pay for tickets and travel n' stuff (If you don't know: gets quite expensive very quick if you're planning stuff like this). He declined, but not for the reasons you'd think.
At first he said something along the lines of "There's someone in Berlin (where the EF was usually hosted) I don't want to risk seeing", I explained to him that this year it was hosted in Hamburg, to which he got really defensive and made up excuses about how he's not used to waking up early, completly ignoring you can sleep in a three hour train ride from where we live.
My point is: there's either something fishy going on or I could be imagining it or both.
Yeah yeah I know this sounds like something you'd ask on the relationship Subreddit, but I have the feeling that the fact that I'm bi makes him uncomfortable, and I'm stuck in this position where I want to spend time (platonically, hugs and non-sexual cuddles included) with him but don't want to directly ask him if we can do something because that might weird him out or worse. The best I can to is to sometimes send him memes or cat pics or cool art I found. But even then I watch out that I don't dare annoy or appear needy to him.
We see eachother once a week for like maybe one and a half hours, but sorting out between breaks at trade school rubs me the wrong way. Same for texting.
And the reason why I'm even writing this post happened today: I wanted to hug him, but hesitated so much out of fear that I wasn't able to.
I felt a sharp pain in my chest afterwards.
That extremely shitty combo of constantly thinking about him whenever I'm alone with my thoughts to the point where I have to force them out with music or mindless entertainment and everything I've just said just drains energy, and worse, I cannot for the life of me focus on cool stuff I want to do like drawing or projects that have been rotting inside some folder.
But at the same time... He deserves platonic love, he deserves someone who's genuinely happy to see him. I love him dearly, but I feel I'm just buying my ticket for the VIP lounge of unncessesary suffering. I'm tired man.
Even if not a single soul read this post, I'm just happy I got rid of this, I don't have anyone to talk about this, in fact my only other friend is also straight and he's chronically busy.
As a final note: you guys/gals/anything inbetween and outside here on this sub fucking rock, occasional shitty fetishization post or odd user aside you are one of the most chill people on Reddit!
Thank you! <3
Have a nice day/night ya'll :3