I am at a rather awkward stage of transition. My breasts are developing rather quickly and now are noticeable in T shirts or any other thin fabric top. I tried sweaters but they surprisingly amplified their visibility. I have been wearing oversized shirts with heavy fabric or flannel.

I don’t feel the rest of my body is changing as quickly which makes me feel like a man with boobs.

Any fashion tips to help me get through this stage to the point I am ready to socially transition?

So, I'm on my 6th week, post op, and dilation is an ongoing, uphill battle! The important details: I had a peritoneal pull-through with Del Corral. I'm still sore and swollen in some places, and I'm still having some bright red blood. The last was treated with silver nitrate almost two weeks ago. So, I'm so freaking tired of the soreness, and I'm trying to be careful to not undo the cauterized spots. I'm uncomfortable, and I'm having a hard time relaxing and softening my pelvic floor.

I have four "rooms" (Terrace, Basement, Boiler Room, Crawlspace) in there, and each of them has a portal I have to relax in order to access the next room. Sometimes, the Terrace is really expansive and I can't find the portal to the Basement. Sometimes, I can't even fit the purple Soul Source dilator and I have to coax it through over like an hour.

An hour of dilating is too long. I'm tired and frustrated. I don't have any friends who have transitioned surgically, so I can't ask anyone in person.

Please help.

Looking to learn. I'm creating a newsletter for a gender studies department, and I wanted to use the title "We/Us". I thought it was sort of clever and inclusive, but I've been told it might have the potential to offend. The person suggesting that wasn't able to articulate exactly how it could be offensive, but that doesn't mean they're wrong. I'd like to hear the thoughts of this community so I can understand and avoid other potentially offensive content in future. Better safe than making someone feel unwelcome or mocked.

i’ve been on a list with tavistock for about 5 years now and still haven’t had my first appointment yet. i’ve had 1 letter off them and that was it, saying that they were rebuilding buildings around the uk. a year later i still havnt heard anything until i saw a news post about how tavistock is getting shut down? does anyone know if this is true? if so what happens to everyone on the list?

I'm sorry if this is the wrong place to post this.

Hey, I'm a trans woman (she/her) and I'm in a t4t relationship with my partner, who is trans masc (they/them). We both suffer from chronic pain, so sometimes I like to give them a massage to try and help them loosen up and relax, often making them feel less pain the next day.

My partner enjoys the massage but ends up stuck and unable to get up, mostly out of dysphoria and possibly some trauma. They don't want help putting their clothes back on, but can't really do it themselves in those moments either, so it usually results in them laying in place until they pass out.

Because of my own chronic pain, I can't do massages for very long unless there is some sort of oil or lotion involved so just giving them a massage through the clothes isn't really enough to help them with their pain.

Do any of you have experiences like this? Or have partners who've experienced this? Really any advice I can get would be really appreciated.

Here’s the deal, I’ve never been misgendered but I don’t know if it’s because I really pass as a cis woman in their eyes or if they’re just being nice. One thing that has me thinking it might have been the latter is that my city is pretty open minded regarding lgbtq+ stuff (I live in Buenos Aires), and one other thing is the fact that when I had my hair short and was just starting HRT (still boymoding) people still referred to me as a woman (and I don’t think at that time I looked like one). Now that I’m more advanced into my transition I can understand some people might gender me right, but not at that time so I don’t know what to think

Edit: Ty for all of the great answers; I couldn't have got this far without the help of all the lovely people who've helped me out. I'll be filing ex parte in Superior court (which has records sealed along with the name change) tomorrow along with the form to have the fees waived.

My only remaining concern is as to wether or not having my records sealed will mess with my credit; I've been working hard to build it back up and I'm at a point where I have a much needed safety net should something happen. I'm just getting back on my feet again, so if something happens, I need to know I can still take out a loan or other line of credit if I really need to in a pinch.

Does anyone have experience with having their records sealed after a name change? Thanks!!

Hi! I've got my gender marker changed already, long before I started taking hormones. I've been looking into getting a name change to finally get to the point where I can show my id without wanting to crawl into a hole and die all day afterwards. 😅🙏 (The way they are trained to say your name out loud to confirm just... Ugh.)

Anyways, I tried to change it at the social security office, who told me I'd have to fill a form out at the courthouse. So I looked up information from the courthouse on the proper form and couldn't find it. The page directed me to social security. 😒 🌽 So to break me from this infinite loop so I can continue... 🌽

Does anyone have any very specific, idiot proof advice for what form to get, the right steps, federal, state, which order, etc? I was also born in Massachusetts. I'm not even sure wether I'm supposed to be doing this through Washington or Massachusetts.

Wading through bureaucracy is my cryptonite. I have absolutely no aptitude for it, at all. 😥

If anyone could help get me started here I'd appreciate it so much you have no idea! (Well, you might actually... lol)

Thanks!!! 💕

New insurance, same old frustrations.

I've trying to find out what procedures Cigna will cover with my employee plan. I've called 1-800-244-6224 but the robot always tells me to check the coverage on my card, and then hangs up on me. grrr

How do I speak to a human at Cigna that can answer questions?

Hi! Basically, I've been on estrogen for 3 yeras now, but every single time I see my doctor, he only points out my weight, instead of talking to me about my hormone replacement treatment, and I'm very confused, I've searched all over the internet and I haven't seen anything about needing to be a specific weight to take estrogens, am I crazy? Or is my doctor just not focusing in my treatment?

Will I have any health issues if I have to stop my HRT for a period? Will it undo all my progress? Will my liver fail?

The Depo-Provera shot is a progestin given in your doctor's office every three months. The progesterone I'm getting now (200mg suppository) is taken daily. I would much rather get a shot every 12 weeks rather than have to boof a capsule every night - if they are equivalent. Are they?

Just got blood work back it was saying that my estrogen levels were high supposed to be around 39 pg/ml mine was 136 pg/ml charts say I am premenopausal help please

So I’ve been on estrogen and spironolactone oral medication for a year and a half now with some noticeable changes to my body. My testosterone levels are still little high but overall everything looks good from what my doctor said.

Recently they brought up switching over to injections but I was hesitant mostly cause I’m nervous about doing it myself and messing up somehow and hurting myself. I know it’s something they can show me how to do properly and safely but I’m just wondering if injections would have better overall results?

hi all, ik this is tmi but not sure else where to ask tbh. posted earlier but deleted it immediately

been feeling like a dysphoric POS lately. i want my right breast to round out & to have a better fat redistribution to my boobs and hips overall. I’ve noticed a massive difference in my body since starting estrogen last year, my boobs r nice (not nice enough!!!) and my love handles are curved inward but. yk how gender dysphoria is. it’s not enough and i don’t really feel desirable (altho i do have a partner who is incredible and reminds me daily that i am, it’s just the voice in my head telling me i could be more for him since there’s more out there.)

I’ve been sitting on 19 capsules of 100mg progesterone for almost a month now that my coworker gave me. She mentioned its best to boof and im reading conflicting info abt it online. some ppl say it doesn’t make a difference and some ppl say the bioavailability is better since it bypasses the liver

which would be better..? i dont want to take a medication anally every day if there’s not a massive difference to oral administration. i feel like that’s a tad tedious and since im depressed i might not do well on keeping up with the dosing daily.

for more context i’ve been on 8-10mg of intramuscular estradiol weekly for a year & 2 weeks now. havent blood tested my levels for personal reasons but i know for a fact im within the same hormonal confines of a cisgender woman given i’ve been on mono therapy for this long now.

tl;dr to boof or not to boof? are there any gastrointestinal issues that could arise if taken orally? the pills smell odd & im concerned about sulfur burps but thats about it. All the other side effects don’t sound dissimilar to what im already experiencing with estrogen. i just wanna be prettier help

hi, i just have a question about the term egg! is this a term only used for unaware/questioning mtf or can it be used for ftm as well? I'm watching a video about r/egg_irl memes and it's mostly about mtf, and as trans ftm I feel a little left out.

edited to add the word memes after egg_irl

Hello, I woke up this morning and my whole room smelled like a burnt pan 😭 when I left to go in the bathroom, the smell disappeared. Im on E five days now and 3 days in t blocker. Am I losing it yall? 😭😭😭Also I am struggling to fall asleep at night. My body still adjusting I think 😭

😣Weekly, taking 1 subcutaneous shot of estradiol valerate, and every time, getting a case of cellulitis at injection site. I follow the instructions to a T, and sanitize the shot area, and as directed switch from the larger needle size withdrawing the med to the smaller needle size before injecting, injecting at 45° angle, etc. Anybody else getting similar reaction? Advice????

Hey all I was wondering if any one had any advice for meeting other trans people in Austin? I mainly date T4T and have been having a lot of trouble on dating apps. As a trans woman myself I’m mainly a homebody so I don’t really know where to go to meet more trans women. Is there some common meetup spots or any advice anyone has to share? Thanks!

I came out as trans in 2019 at the age of 63. My wife asked me to leave a few months later. We were divorced last year. Our son is getting married today. Last night I attended a dinner for the wedding party. My ex brought a date, I'm assuming he will be at the wedding and reception today. I am hurt by this a little. Am I wrong to view the boyfriend as a power move by my ex?

Should I get a tattoo before or after my breast develop

I just moved to Houston from the Austin area and have been stumped on where to go to get my hair cut. I'm in the Webster area more specifically, but am willing to drive into Houston! I have so many bad experiences with getting my hair cut and just not being pleased with how it looks, so I really would appreciate any recommendations ^_^! I also just want to take a break from dyeing my hair at home and have a professional do it, so any recommendations there would be much appreciated!

Hi! Andy, babytrans FTM here, wondering... when you pack with an STP is it necessary to have it directly touching your body at all times? That's what I assume and this is a dumb question but. Can you wear normal boxers and just have the silicone touching you all day or does it have to be like... moved into position before you pee? I'm clueless lol

Reading different posts how hormones make you feel better I haven't felt any better I am still the anxiety ridden person

I recently came out and found a name I enjoy being called. Problem is that while the name feels amazing to be called, at some times I don't really feel spoken to, which makes me wonder if the name is actually the right one. This isn't always the case, and it definetly feels way better than my previous name.

Hi, I was born and raised in New Mexico, lived in Texas for like 6 years and then moved to Montana last year. For this reason, I'm a little confused as to how to navigate the name change process. Do I do it in Montana or New Mexico? Will Texas have anything to do with it? Any help would be greatly appreciated because I'm genuinely so confused

I identify as mtf trans and have recently decided that I want to go on hormones but have no idea how to start