I know you have heard it and asked it way too many times : Am I trans?
Its so fucking difficult? For what? I just want to understand who I am- who I am meant to be. I question being trans(FtM), being NB or just being a major league liar... I assume you all get it, so, anyone got any advice as to what I can do to try and solidify my views?

Then when the fake christians/GOP make rules we can state it goes against our religion and ignore the bs laws. Allow medical professions to join so they can provide medical help.

I've written about this one before, but someone brought it up again...so here's my response, again:

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I would like to make one point:

At one point, you speak of a 6’8” trans woman athlete playing a sport. You also mention only having been on hrt for 6 months, but that’s not really germane to my next point here.

There is this thread that it would be perfectly fine for a cis woman who is 6’8” to play that sport…but somehow not fair for a trans woman who is 6’8” to do so, merely for the fact that the trans woman somehow “cheated” by going through testosterone driven puberty, through no agency or desire of her own, to attain such a height.

People are born or grow up with all sorts of disadvantages and advantages in sport. It is perfectly fine to accept this when we’re talking cis people, Michael Phelps being the example that gets most used here. But when it’s a trans person, all that goes out the window.

Here is a paradox:

Do you remember Rebecca Lobo? Women’s basketball player. 6’4”, 185 lbs. Power, skill, athleticism off the charts. Cisgender. No issues of hormones out of the usual, etc. Revered. A legend in the sport.

I am 6’1”, 170 lbs. I have been on estrogen HRT for 6 years. My musculature and frame reflect this. My strength is well within any female norms. Let’s give me FAR more credit than I deserve and say I am an absolutely average basketball player in skill and power compared to other women my size.

Let’s say you have a cisgender daughter. She’s 5’11”, 160lbs. Also average in skill and power for her size.

If your daughter steps onto a court with Rebecca Lobo on the opposing team, it’s all good. She is massively outclassed by Lobo, but it’s a team sport. No one is concerned about danger. No one is concerned about fairness. Let’s play!

If your daughter steps onto a court with me on the opposing team, she’s at a little bit of a disadvantage. I am slightly taller, slightly stronger, similarly skilled. And now, all hell breaks loose. It’s unfair. It’s dangerous for your daughter to be on the court with me. I am a cheater…people start talking about not just banning me, but actively doing me harm for having dared to play. “Biological male”!!! OH MY GOD!!!!

Here’s the kicker:

If I step onto a court with Rebecca Lobo, I am also, like your daughter, at a massive disadvantage…but now…all hell breaks loose. It’s unfair. It’s dangerous for Lobo to be on the court with me. I am a cheater…people start talking about not just banning me, but actively doing me harm for having dared to play. “Biological male”!!! OH MY GOD!!!!

Does that REALLY make any sense to anyone?

Why are the recommended oestrogen levels so low?

They make inferences based on studies for post menopausal women I think?

But they want me to be so low in my levels. When I was self med I was the highest for a female range for my age and I swear the nhs want my level to be too low.

Makes my orgasm week and makes me fat and sleepy.

Ramble sorry

So I hear that when you go on Estrogen you can have emotions kinda break through like a floodgate. What are these mood swings like and more importantly can they be controlled?

I feel like it makes sense that being trans means you are a different sex mentally than you are physically. That's what I always thought trans meant.

Do people not like it because it can be seen as a mental illness and the term "illness" makes it sound negative? Because there's nothing wrong with being autistic, but autism is a mental illness. It just means your brain has developed in a certain way that is different than how it normally does.

Or maybe I am misunderstanding what transmedicalism means? Or what trans means?

On a side note, I feel like people are getting a little carried away with defining every single specific way that a person can be. It's a little too much to follow. I don't understand the difference between non-binary and bi. I just hope I'm not expected to know all of this stuff off hand out in the wild.

I know some will look at leaving the US and others will DIY, however I was wondering about how we can work this out with providers by perhaps having them use different CPT codes for a particular treatment of say to treat a: hormonal condition, intersex, hair loss, anxiety, sleeping disorder ( progesterone helps with sleep I hear), a prostate or for FTN maybe hysterectomy related or menopausal.

I would love to hear your thoughts or ideas.

We need to all come together! Love

My mouth hurts so much on the right side I feel a ball of stitches I can't wait for them to dissolve, honesty I had less pain in my mouth right after ffs, now I'm feeling it all in my chin.

Can anyone provide some optimistic affirmations on this ?

Would we not be able to bring our HRT with us?

TL;DR: I think I might be trans, and I want you to tell me what you think. I understand you can’t give me a perfect answer; it’s ultimately my experience.

Hey everyone! I hope this is the right place to talk about this.

QUICK TRIGGER WARNING: talking about what I was taught growing up in a conservative household. I really don’t mean to offend anyone, but it’s part of my story.

I’m especially scared I’ll linger on a point for too long, and send the wrong message. Please bear with me, and I promise I love and support you all. <3

I know I’m gonna yap a lot here. This is really scary for me, but I’m trying to push myself.

I’d like to ask for some advice in my current situation. So I think I might be trans, but I don’t know if I exactly “qualify”.

I’m a guy. So far, so good. Now starts the complicated bit.

Since I was in primary school, I always wanted to be a girl. I remember imagining myself as a girl and thinking about how happy I’d be.

I never told anyone. I’m in a Christian household, and I’ve been raised to think that any… I guess ”LGBT+” stuff is bad, and people who take part in homosexuality, or believe in “gender theory”, or whatever, are supposedly mentally ill or something.

I’ve tried to act kind of neutral when my family talks about this stuff. I really try to support everyone, and I’m happy for people who have found happiness in being gay, trans, or whatever.

If anything, when I was a kid, I remember feeling a kind of respect to those people who (from my child-raised-conservative perspective) were defying norms to find happiness. And again, as of now, I fully support everyone in this whole community.

I carried my “trans-ish” (idk) feelings into the start of high school, but I guess I started to repress them when all the teachers are trying to show me “how to grow into man” and whatever.

(By the way, these are Christian schools, if I didn’t already mention that)

Through school, I’ve always been part of girls’ friend groups. I’ve found it easier to relate to girls.

I’m 17 now, and still, most of my friends are girls (not all of them).

I’ve suddenly discovered trans creators on YouTube, and they’ve reminded me of my childhood feelings… or something. I’m not very good with feelings, and now I’m even more confused because of the whole gender thing.

Anyway, I still wish I had been born a girl. I feel like I should’ve been born a girl.

But I really haven’t been able to think about transitioning. I’ve only found out fairly recently (maybe a year ago) about things like HRT and medical transitioning. I never knew those were options before.

I’ve thought about how my life might go if I “took the trans path” (lol). Would I really be happy? Would I regret it somewhere down the line?

I feel like maybe if I knew about the trans community sooner, then I could’ve decided by now. But it’s still not that simple.

Because I’m still living in the same house. I think my parents would probably disown me (or worse) if I “came out” in any sense, gay or trans or whatever. Like, they really don’t understand. For example, I told my mum I have no interest in romance (I’m aroace-spec) and she still keeps asking me if I’m interested in anyone at school.

I’m about to graduate high school and I have almost no privacy at home… I just feel like I’m stuck, and now thinking I might be trans? It’s just too much.

I wish I could try on girls’ clothes and see how it feels. But I don’t know how/if I would even react? Again, I don’t really know how to feel my emotions. People talk about “euphoria” and whatever, but I’m scared that I might not feel anything.

Could I be trans? How would I even know? Is it too early to tell? Or am I just delusional?

And even if I were to realise that I’m trans, what happens next? I don’t know who would support me. My family certainly won’t. And I love my friends, but I really don’t know how they might react. After all, I met most of them by going to a Christian school with them.

Sorry if that’s a bit much. I’m feeling pretty lost, so it makes sense that my writing is confusing, too.

I feel lost and alone, and even turned against myself. I just really don’t know what to do. This is the only place I can think to reach out.

I’m happy to give more details if you want, but I feel like I’ve yapped too much already.

Do you think I’m trans? Or maybe not? Either way, what should I do now?

And to anyone who knows me IRL... :P

Wasn't a clumsy person pre-HRT and was alright at hand-eye movements. Not sure if it's just me but ever since going on (E), I've noticed that I still have the same reflexes but gotten worse in coordinating my body movement.

Lately, I'm just randomly crashing into things/person even though I am fully aware of where I am going. I would get off my chair to walk to the kitchen and crash my shoulder into the door frame. Or stretch my arm and hit fingers onto furnitures (followed by cries of pain). Funnily I used to tease my sister about how she have bruises randomly on her legs and now karma repays, I got a random bruises on my knee, and the sad part was I don't even remember where I got them from...

Also curious for the reversal on (T), did your hand-eye coordination get better/worse?

Ao can you help me

Sorry for the ignorant question, I really want to understand, I hope I don't offend anyone with this question.

We just had this discussion and wanted to know the answer.

How much about gender dysphoria is about not fitting the gender role vs wanting the body of a different gender?

Or to put it differently, if there where no social norms/expectations like "Men are X/women are Y", how much would this reduce gender dysphoria and the wish to switch gender?

I had srs one years ago and i am experiencing moustache hair and chin and jaw hair growth, the ones on the chin and upper lip seem darker and thicker! I am also experiencing dry skin around mouth and cheeks, with hormonal acne on the dry patches!

Could it be because low estrogen?

Hey, I'm looking to get a facial epilator, I hate having to shave every day so I am looking for a better solution.

My question is, can someone recommend me one? I'm really not sure what to get tbh.

Basically, when people knew me as a man i'd be notified if i passed to someone, now i have no way to tell if i pass to someone unless they're a complete stranger but get notified if i don't pass to them.

My country is ignorant but not hostile towards trans people, so i wouldn't be in danger if i just went back to introducing myself as a man.

I dont have money for ffs , my poor country doesnt have insurance for that, but i can't stand im not even at least average in looks, im just ugly

Dunno, how can i actually cope with this ?

I’m looking for recommendations for a hair transplant surgeon in Turkey, specifically someone skilled in creating a more feminine hairline and addressing recession. I want someone I can trust to understand this goal without me having to worry too much about it. I have the funds to go to Turkey and am really focused on finding the best place there.

Has anyone here had a good experience with a hair transplant for feminizing their hairline? What surgeon or clinic would you recommend? Any tips or advice on what to ask for during the consultation or what to look out for would be super helpful.

I'm 16 and semi-recently cracked my egg and realized I am transfem. I planned to tell my parents soon since I thought Kamala was going to win, but with the new political climate in the US, I'm worried about how they would feel about me being trans. I'm out to them now as nonbinary and they're supportive, but they've expressed fears for my safety, and I worry that being trans would just be too much of a stress to put on their shoulders. However, if I tell them sooner than later maybe I can start my transition before stuff gets too hard legally. We live in California, so hopefully that will help me too.

I just finished watching this movie and now I'm balling what does this mean the movie hit me like a gut punch.

Please don't be offended by my ignorance. I am here with no prejudice, disrespect, hostility, or ill will. I just want to have honest conversion and get some insight on some things. TIA

I got started on Estradiol 11/6/24 and am super paranoid i’m taking it incorrectly. i also understand it’s like day 3 and i shouldn’t be stressing about any changes so that’s also definitely not what i’m doing. i’m just worried that like, it dissolves too quickly, or that im not keeping it all under my tongue right, or if there’s a specific place to put it under my tongue to make sure it’s most effective

for reference, since it is my first time starting my doctor gave me a titration guide, also more in another post on my profile

MONTH 1 - 2 mg estra DAILY, 1/2 morning and evening MONTH 2 - 4 mg estra DAILY, 1 morning and evening MONTH 3 - 4 mg estra + begin spiro (need to go back for proper dosing based on blood.

i’m also paranoid this is a weak schedule even though i’m just starting. this is all a little scary so i’d love some community insight, mostly on how to take my estradiol

right now i’m taking it incorrectly the corners of my tongue so it doesn’t go anywhere, but was also told to put it right under my tongue instead of the corners.

(warning: i'll be describing saliva and pill intake in detail)

I have been taking estrogen pills twice a day for over a month (as prescribed) and i am becoming increasingly worried about if im simply unable to take oral estradiol.

Every single time i place the pill under my tongue it does not dissolve properly and my mouth produces way too much saliva, resulting in the medicine not actually breaking down under the tongue but going out and forcing me to swallow it. I have attempted holding my tongue down for as long as i can but no matter what it all escapes and i have to just swallow the medicine. I have tried not swallowing at all, but my mouth produces so much saliva that i am forced to. I have also tried only swallowing saliva in the back of my mouth. I know for a fact it is all getting lost because i taste it and see the blue in the saliva if i check in the mirror.

I realized this problem right after I started taking them so I did alot of researching for what other girls do, leading me to discover that you can just dissolve it between the gums and cheek for the same effect (buccal method). For a bit less than a month ive been trying this, but its just as bad. If i place it on my upper gums it takes around one and a half hours to break down into a liquid, after which it just falls down to the teeth or into my mouth- which I have to swallow because, again, i produce too much saliva. The lower gums aren't any better as they take the same long time to de-solidify, and when it does i end up swallowing it on accident along with my saliva.

Im so tired of taking it twice every day just for it to be completely useless and another failed attempt. Im on the verge of tears after every time cause it feels like i keep messing up my one shot to actually change my body. I waited so long to start on these meds and I feel im not gaining any progress whatsoever cause its all going straight to my liver. I know theres an injectable option but i specifically told them i couldnt do it cause i cant handle needles.

Id love to just switch to patches trust me but they cost way too much even with goodrx and i dont have insurance i can use- i am relying on the little savings i have to get these pills.

Please tell me if there is a method i have not tried- or any possible tips. I heard some of you crush the pill and pour the dust along your bottom gums to dissolve quick- but is this just as effective for intake? And does the amount i swallow still add to my estrogen levels or is it basically worthless after that?

Thank you & sorry if this is annoying or gross

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*Started HRT April 15, 2024 Estradiol: (23 pg/mL) Testosterone: (391 ng)

First prescribed Dosage: 2mg Estradiol (Sublingual Pills) (once daily) 50mg Spinolactone (once daily)

• 2nd HRT appointment July 18, 2024 (3 months on hrt)

Estradiol: (77 pg/mL) Testosterone: (45 ng)

New Dosage: 2mg Estradiol (Sublingual Pills) (once daily) 100mg Spinolactone (one 50 mg pill; twice daily)

• 3rd HRT appointment Oct 21, 2024 (6 months on hrt)

Estradiol: (42 pg/mL) Testosterone: (71 ng)

New Dosage: 4mg Estradiol Sublingually (one 2mg pill; twice daily) 100mg Spinolactone (one 50 mg pill; twice daily) 100mg Progesterone (100 mg once daily)

Will my testosterone drop after i doubled my Estradiol?

I'm worried my testosterone will stay high if i do nothing.

Any trans people in alabama ammended their birth certificate and changed their name on it. I'm trying to get my passport and I think there will be an issue if the birth certificate doesn't match my ID

Thank you.

Currently located in Wisconsin, and Tony Evers is fighting hard to help trans people in the state. I have a passport, but I'm in the middle of college. What do I do?

I'll definitely wait to see if things get bad, first. But I feel like a cornered alley cat. Does anyone know how I can prepare, or have any reassuring legal knowledge to share?

I’m a 17 year old trans male and I was just thinking about when I first came out. I realized that it took me years to befriend girls because I didn’t want to associate with girls at all. However, I didn’t realize it immediately because I’ve always been like that, even way before coming out; I was never close with girls. I didn’t start to befriend girls at all until I was in 8th grade. Now I’m at a point where I can have female friends but I still don’t get too close to them and find myself hanging out with my male friends more - both in school and outside of school.

I don’t have anyone to talk to about this. I need answers. Please.

I’m very upset at the news of orange man winning. But I’m also inspired to create provocative short form art as a response to it. I understand a lot of my trans friends may be feeling extremely scared, and rightfully so. Many I know are wanting to live a more private life until things get figured out. I’d like to make my project with a trans actor. But if no one is willing to be a part of it, would it be transphobic for a cisgender person to play the trans character? I myself am cisgender so I’m unsure what the best way to go about this would be.

One day I get called miss by men then the next I'm getting "What's your pronouns" then immediately misgendered by others. Unfortunately many trans girls don't have supportive parents so they were not fully socialized in their gender identity if at all. I was a very feminine as a child and would often be gendered as she ..so my parents tried policed every bit of femininity out of me and now I'm more tomboyish partially because of trauma. This means I have to relearn how to be my authentic self.

A learning tool for me is paying attention to people misgendering me "accidentally" or automatically gendering me correctly and asking myself why? I understand some people misgender me purposely but all the same this helps me better understand how I am perceived and how to better socialize myself.

Disclaimer I fully agree and understand that all women regardless of what they were assigned at birth are varied. Even though not all women express the same I also know that I live in a society that is violent against women who are perceived as masculine..yes even cis women are disrespected for being masculine. The difference is as a trans woman the way I am perceived also is life or death. I can no longer boy mode lol I have tits even in a baggy hoodie. My Face Is becoming feminine .. my frame is athletic but my shape is very feminine... Despite this I still have masculine features .. I'm androgynous looking point blank and depending on what I wear am seen as more fem or masculine.

I feel like im in between and I don't feel good about this for myself. I know am very physically attractive but being in this in between space just makes me feel constantly awkward...how I feel is the most important and this stage of my transition is painful. Im not passing but I'm also not read as a boy but I'm also not read as a girl of any kind..."at times".

Has anyone gone through this ? How and when did you finally start being gendered correctly? Was it much effort on your part?