Hey everyone, so I'm 20, bi, considering transitioning MTF but have a lot of confusion and doubts that hold me back from doing what I think I really want. I really want to talk to more trans people but I don't really have a community, so any response would be hugely appreciated. As I'm sure you all know I have a lot flying around but I'll try and keep it brief.

So, there's a lot of reasons transitioning is so on my mind and I can look back and see signs of this particularly since puberty. I remember day dreaming of being put into some sort of gender swapping machine even before puberty and it exhilarated me. But in the past I've tried on my mum's clothes secretly many times. I've stuffed things down my top to see what I'd look like with breasts. I've been extremely jealous when watching gender swap movies. In more recent years I've explored my gender more actively, crossdressing often in private and have been through periods of wearing makeup in public and having painted nails.

In private being feminine and crossdressing has always made me feel overjoyed, but as a socially anxious person who is very self conscious and has experienced severe homophobia, I have just been too scared to really express myself publicly. So when I have or think about doing so, any happiness it may bring me is clouded by the anxiety of feeling observed and unsafe. I've worried this means being feminine doesn't give me the confidence it surely should, but I think and hope that is just my anxiety.

My confusion thrives upon the fact that I am not particularly uncomfortable in my current body. There have been periods of my life I haven't questioned my gender due to the lack of discomfort. It is more so an intense want to be female rather than male. Women's clothes excite me whereas men's clothes mostly bore me. The thought of having breasts makes my heart ache. I've dreamt of having long hair for years. When I put makeup on and feel pretty I couldn't be happier, the same when I wear dresses and skirts. I just struggle so much to take it outside my room. The desire is so strong but it just feels so impossible to actually make it happen.

While I'm not too uncomfortable in my body, I don't love it. I've been battling my body hair a lot recently. I epilate my legs and any stray hairs left on me drive me crazy. I want to do my arms, armpits and bum but I'm trying not to overwhelm myself. Thank goodness I lack much chest hair but wish I had none at all. Having smooth legs makes me so happy. But my penis doesn't really bother me. Although, for years I've only imagined myself in the woman's position in sexual scenarios.

As much as I feel the desperate desire to be female the intensity of transitioning makes me very anxious. My family are wonderful and accepting but I get very worried about the toll it could take on them. I hate to cause them stress and worry as much as I know they want me to be happy. Putting them through such change makes me feel guilty.

As much as I want to be a woman I can't quite imagine myself getting there. I wouldn't say my manner is particularly feminine although I'm not the most masculine. I know it's a lot of work and that does intimidate me, but the thought of never transitioning breaks my heart. I worry I wouldn't make a pretty girl or my voice wouldn't sound feminine enough. But worries like that I know shouldn't stop me.

I also get unwanted doubts when I gets things mixed up with my sexuality. As a bi man I worry I am just fetishizing the thought of being a woman. Crossdessing has often turned me on and made me want to have sex dressed like that, but I also want it to be something more than just a fetish. Surely that arousal doesn't negate me being trans?

There's too many things that swirl around my head to say, but those are some major things that I'm thinking about. I am seeking therapy to help me figure these things out as I'm desperate to make progress and feel in less turmoil. I'd be so grateful for any feedback as it is easy to feel isolated with so many thoughts and I don't want to dump all of this on my family all the time.

Do you think I'm trans?

I feel really really sad right now, need someone to talk to.

Welp there goes any chance I have at getting a TS clearance approved by posting this but regardless I'm 21 male and I have no clue what I'm thinking about what it is. how hard it is I hate how I look. iv never felt right the first time I wished I was the other gender i was 6.. how expensive is it there's so many questions I don't even know to ask. If I could get a run down I will read everything!

hello. i’m using bicalutamide monotherapy as a puberty blocker. for whatever reason, if i hypothetically stopped taking it cold turkey, what would happen to my T. i heard that bica can actually increase T but the testosterone doesn’t effect you because bica blocks that. If i stopped taking Bica, would all that increased T cause masculinization immediately?

so, im curious of the information regarding transgenderness. im welcoming to my trans boyfriend, but what... changes would i expect to come?

I'm not sure what the term is, but I'm talking about things like "she/they" or "he/they/she". Is the first one the most "preferred"? Are you supposed to mix it up? Should you just pick one? Is there one that's better to use? Does it depend on the person?

for context im 18 y/o bisexual woman with ocd, ive been dealing with stress relating to this on and off and recently my life has been stressful and the thoughts came back.

i never really wanted to be anything other than a woman, in 2020 i came out as bisexual but before i thought it had something to do with gender and thats always been in the back of my mind. it usually switches on and off for when i start stressing abt stuff like that.

Iast year during my first semester of college i started stressing alot but it went down and now here i am. its like i feel masculine talking to my boyfriend or really any guy at all and that makes me think “am i a gay trans man” and then i get more stressed because i want to remain a woman. i dont have any issues with my body (except i could lose a few pounds). I keep thinking am i just in denial and i actually want to be a boy since i keep claiming i sometimes feel like one and that makes me even more stressed.

i was always told i looked masculine from a young age, and now i have alot of insecurities when it comes to that, like i feel like people think i look like a man in makeup and sometimes i look at myself and im like i do look like a man and that makes me feel horrible, so thinking i feel like a boy doesnt make me feel happy, it makes me spiral.

i dont want to be a man, but like i dont feel like a woman sometimes, is that dysphoria and a sign that im not a woman?

Parents who will act supportive until you don't fit their description or it becomes inconvenient to be supportive, the kind who will enable the family for being anti LGBT and apologize for you being the way you are? I'm not out as of yet (not as trans at least) but I have 100% been told things and have experienced things that tell me that this will more than likely be the outcome, and unfortunately moving out won't be a viable option for a good while.

I've been questioning my gender for over 2 years now, and each time i'm questioning, i have this point in my head : " but you never showed signs as a kid".

In order to prove that i'll overshare online (again).

I'm afab, and i had a pretty gender conforming childhood. I have a specific memory of me crying bc i had my hair cut too short and i hated it bc everyone thought i was a boy because of it, which is like peak anti-transmasc childhood sign. But I would have """masculine""" interests sometimes, like animes/toys more targeted toward boys, and would feel very guilty for it. I wasn't a tomboy, like, at all. I just know that puberty broke something in me. It's when things started to go wrong. I had a very feminine body WAY too early for a kid to process. Was never sexualized bc of it, thank god, but, still. I just became numb. I remember saying "i dont want to turn into a teen !!", thinking ill have to leave my interests behind. Obviously i was a weird kid. Always uncomfy, really anxious. discovered i liked girls at 12, took around 5 years to accept i was gay/bi. I used to OBSESS over labels, like i HAD to make a choice. I feel that that's what im doing now. I think i have dysphoria around my chest, and always had. If not dysphoria, an overall discomfort. I always used to see it as something attached to my body by mistake, bc its way too... disproportionate ? I would also spend hours as a teen looking at my body and being sad bc my hips were too wide, even tho i'm overall thin. Idk, this body always felt "too much". But i never thought, candidly, "i want to be a man", like never. I've heard my transmasc friend wishing everyday when they were little to wake up as a guy. Never experienced that. I just feel out of place, like im stealing their narrative. Whenever i see a trans person talking about how they've always yearned to be another gender, it's like im taking up their space when i shouldn't. I appropriate their feelings when i shouldn't.

And i wish i could understand why i started to question my gender. thing is... i cant. I mean i have some "signs" (strong envy of having a masculine/enby body type, jealous of ppl who transitionned, daydreaming about having a different body, looking at trans content a lot). But like it kinda started... out of nowhere ? This questioning ? I questioned bc i had this recurrent dream where i was a man and it did something really intense inside of me, something i never experienced before. A sense of warm, comfort ? But would it still be me ?

I'm still having a hard time finding "coherence" in my identity. That's what's scary. Bc in order to make decisions, like transitioning socially (im out as non binary to few ppl), or going further, i have to be sure.

Anyway, gender is a mess, i am too, and i know there are bigger things in life and that i have time to find myself, im just tired of these questions i guess :3

Hey everyone! I've been out as a trans woman and on hrt for about four years now and for most of that time I've been gendered correctly. I would even say that I used to pass, but that's not something I'm really all that worried about; I just want to be treated as my gender.

However, in the last eight months I've gone from always getting gendered correctly to almost always being misgendered, and I'm a little perplexed. I've been brainstorming changes I can make, but I wanted to check here to see if there's anything I'm missing or have blind spots about.

Here's what I've come up with:

• I've become less active in that period and I think I've traded some muscle for fat. This has made my breasts less prominent in comparison to my stomach, even though they haven't changed size. (I did start going for runs but then I got covid so I haven't been able to go in a couple weeks as I want to give my respiratory system some time to heal and recover.)
• Something in my voice might have changed. I used to get gendered correctly consistently on the phone, but no longer. I plan on reaching out to a voice coach to work on getting my voice where I like.
• Something might have "reverted" in my posture. I wonder if my locomotion and body language have slid back from when I had them down pat. I've tried fixing them again but I worry that I'm overdoing it.
• I've not kept up with fashion trends as well as I should have, especially in the colder months. I tend to dress in very feminine or revealing ways in the summer when it's not below freezing, but in the winter I just wanna bundle up in a sweater and some jeans, which isn't necessarily the most Feminine way of being. I wonder if being more intentional here would help.

[There is also a part of me that wonders if the recent wave of transphobia here in the USA where I live has more heavily publicized what trans women actually look like. But this wouldn't explain why even supportive people misgender me at first.]

Obviously, there is no one factor that can drive this, and internet strangers aren't going to solve my problems. But I have my blind spots! So I was wondering if any other late transition folks had to make adjustments after they got settled in their gender and what those were. Thanks!

The following is a comment post I came across online:

I knew when I went down on her something wasnt right. She had the base of her old member just below the plastic surgery.

Something incredibly sickening about trying to suck on a clitoris and feeling the base of a penis underneath.

Is this true? Any thoughts?

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Hello! There have been some moments in my life, or just random thoughts, where I do feel more at home with feminine stuff. I already go by She/Her pronouns, but I do feel that I’d like to be referred to as a woman and treated as such, but the thing is, I’d also want to be a boy. I know gender identity isn’t black and white and it takes a while to figure it out, but my feelings feel contradictory. I guess some things I’d prefer to keep is my name and my physical body, while being treated as a girl with everything else, despite still having the male title(?)

I think the most I can make of it is going by this description with close ones and friends, while having to go with what I was born with in the outside world like work, partly due to how I’m not sure how this is gonna go for me, and partly out of fear because the world is terrible

This has been on my mind lately. I don't think there's a real solution, but hopefully I can ask and get people's thoughts regardless.

I've been thinking about getting an orchi lately. I have a couple different reasons for that.

I don't think I have much, if any, genital dysphoria (I'm bad at identifying my own dysphoria). That said, I've gotten more frustrated with my junk as I wear more women's clothes. I have a pair of Leoline's panties and a gaff from Juniper and Eve, but neither are especially comfy. Plus when I tuck with the gaff things don't want to stay in place which is annoying.

I'm also not seeing full testosterone suppression with just estradiol pills so I need to stay on spiro for the time being. I know there's the possibility starting injections plus another 100mg of progesterone taking care of that. Which makes my whole question a "wait and see" thing but still.

The thing is, I don't know if I want to get a labiaplasty down the line. There's aspects I'm not sure if I want or maybe I'm not ready to deal with yet. And if I get an orchi, I think I wouldn't enjoy having the extra material they'd leave down there in case I do want one later.

I've read there's other methods that don't need the extra material, but I don't want to limit my options. What if the method that uses it would be the best for my situation?

The cherry on top is that SRS is the part of the whole thing that my insurance actually covers, so I could start getting the wheels in motion now if I knew what I wanted.

Tucking is really the biggest part. I feel like tucking after an orchi and not having extra skin there would be so easy and somehow satisfying? Like the spiro side effects suck but I can deal. Thinking about a bulge when I get dressed feels very shitty.

(Aaand typing that I wonder if that's genital dysphoria poking its head out. My dysphoria is like that: unnoticeable until I transition further in some capacity, then boom. Wild how that works.)

This has ended up twice as long as I'd thought it'd be. Thank you for reading. What in the world do I do here?

This is something I'd never actually say out loud because it's so embarassing so I'm using a burner account, but basically, I've (FTM18) kinda known I didn't feel exactly like a girl for most of my life, I've felt a huge gap between me and all the girls I knew. I was always considered boyish and I was always very interested in toys meant from boys, but honestly I never asked my parents for those, because I never particulally disliked girls toys or wearing dresses and that kind of thing as a young child, I liked both just enough that I could have fun with the toys I got and never actually made real effort to get more than that. Still, the way I acted was always obviously "like a boy's" and I remember my aunt telling my parents that "she'll eventually get more mature and be more feminine as a teen".

But that feeling just got so much more intense by the time I reached that age, when being a boy and a girl became actually two separate experiences. By the time I hit 12-13 pretty much all of my friends were boys, and when I talked to my few girl friends I would just think "I'm so behind them, they're just so much more like teenage girls than I am", I remember that I was really really worried about being childish because my puberty just never seemed to hit, it wasn't making me grow to be a girl like all the adults in my life thought I would grow to be. That made me try my best on being feminine, with long hair and skirts and bows and all that, but I realized, when puberty wasn't a new thing anymore, that I wasn't gonna change and gave up on it, so I went back to just being a boyish girl.

By 14 I had already realized that I was never going to feel like a girl, I told my friends that if anything I was trans but I could never bear with that or accept myself, specially with with my conservative parents, there was no way I could just live that way and that that was really the answer I was looking for.
Guess what.

I got awfully depressed around that time and became a shut in pretty much, but that's not what I wanna talk about. I've lived as a boy for around 4 years now? I'd say 3 since I thought about it seriously. I'm about to graduate high school and I'm just so, so exhausted. For context, once again, my parents are very conservative. Very, very conservative about matters related to gender. They "found out" like 2 times but I'm apparently a great liar if I feel like I truly need to get my way out of things, so I talked my way out of it twice. The thing is, I get along with them great and I love them. I love them so much and now the possibility of never being able to have a normal family life, not being accepted and loved, disturbing their barely stable lives and disappointing them so deeply eats me alive. I'm not even worried about my well being all that much. Of course I am, that's why I'm studying my ass off to get into a good university asap and have my future somehow set, but I worry so much more about how they feel about it. I've always craved for a normal, ordinary and happy life and I don't think I can achieve that.

That's making me slowly wonder if, if I had insisted a bit more on being a boyish girl, would I be able to live happily as that and never question it? If I had never told any of my friends, would I eventually get used to it? I'm also incredilbly worried about my looks, and I've always been described as pretty, even at the peak of my boyishness I had at least one or two boys liking me, and I know that if I was living as a girl, I would be considered just way more attrative than I am now. Now that I put it all down it does sound like a stupid question, but at some point the thought of living as a girl was truly unbearable and I've felt insanely disphoric next to my very cis friendgroup for years, but now I'm starting to think, is this all worth it? What if I just lived as this ideal girl I could be? Am I just exhausted of going through so much and feeling like shit? I think I'm feeling so bad about it that, in my mind, being dysphoric but accepted is better than this.

Also, a FTM classmate of mine (whom I don't really get along with) was accepted super, super easily by his family as soon as they found out. It made me lose my sleep. He came out a good while after me, but his process was so much shorter and so much easier. He's on testosterone, has all his documents properly changed, his family accepts him easily. I really hate him now and I can't bear to hear his voice. This feeling started after he started to pass better than me (it used to be the opposite) so maybe that's part of it.

I don't know what to do about it. I just feel so exhausted of all of this, but I can't bear to talk about that to my truly accepting friends who see me as a boy, or to tell that I'm trans to my family that won't see me the same way after it. I'm also on the brim of actually looking like a woman I feel like. I feel like I have a chance to grow some inches and have an easier time passing if I get on HRT now, but what if I get on it and I end up not being trans after all? What do I even do?

I'm truly lost. Has anyone gone through anything like this?

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Throwaway account because I’m embarrassed

I’m 25 and I’ve been on HRT for 7 years, still pre-op. I don’t seek out sex or relationships because of genital dysphoria although I occasionally masturbate, and my experience isn’t like what I’ve seen described on here. I see people talk about multiple orgasms and full body orgasms, and I can’t relate. For me, it sometimes feels pretty good, usually just okay, and never amazing or earth-shattering like I’ve heard about. It makes me wonder if something is wrong with me.

Am I doing something wrong? Will having SRS make a difference? What’s your experience?

So i have like a really really short hair i think it's called Straight hair? Idk names of hairs in english but i think it's called Straight hair not sure

But yeah i have seen transfem with short hair get like really nice mid long hair atleast and thats kinda what i want but i have never really hear how it works so i thought here maybe someone would have the info about it

I am a guy right now but thinking about transitioning but all my sexual thoughts before transition were like how I was fucking a girl with my actual dick. And I always seemed comfortable with those thought and actually got way to horny from it and I feel really confused about it.

How was it with anyone else?

Like the title says is there anyone? Why is it that every time I post something on here I get people messaging me to see my 🍆

Hello folks. I have been on hormones for 9 months. I'm 19 yo. I don't know if this is all I shall have gotten from HRT. As far as I'm concerned, in the first 6 months our bodies just try to adjust the normal levels for us, and the actual effects start after 6 months bcs it's the point after which we have the aimed levels of hormones. I think I've changed sooo much but I wonder if I shall continue to change at the same extent. Most people say the fat redistribution starts after 6 months and continues to happen for nearly 3 years. So far I have developed pretty big breasts I am 75A even though I'm pretty thin (176cm, 55kg). I am very satisfied with my changes so far, but I fear I shan't experience anything considerable this point onwards.

just a general post asking about common changes people experience within the first 3 months of being on T. then like if anyone has any information for longer than 3 months would be appreciated!

TRIGGER WARNING: Lots of Transphobia

Hi, this is a throwaway account.

I'm 20, AMAB. I'm fairly certain I want to be a woman. However, it's making me feel very bad with myself.

I treat my trans friends with most respect because I value them as friends. But, despite that, I'm pretty much very transphobic to myself. Looking at myself all I can see is a man who's mentally ill enough to think he's a woman. I insult myself and hate myself alot because I want to be a woman.

The thing is, I'm in no way convinced that I'm a woman. Rather just a mentally ill dude.

It also makes me feel like a hypocrite, because I'm good with my trans friends but not myself.

I want to change this way of thinking. I don't want to see myself as a mentally ill dude. What do I do?

Hello, everyone.

So, I'm a 19 year old guy but for the past like 3-5 years, I'm not sure how long exactly, I've been wishing that I was a girl.

At first, I wasn't thinking about it that much and the thoughts of wanting to be a girl would go away for some time but then they would always come back. However, this time they have not gone away since a couple months and overall I've been thinking about it a lot more throughout the days and nights. Those thoughts just randomly pop into my head, sometimes it even makes me a bit sad that I'm not a girl. I just wish I was born one.

And I don't even know why I want to be a girl in the first place, I just do. It seems better for some reason, I have no idea what that reason is though. I don't think I have dysphoria or anything.

And yeah, that's about it. I know that there is probably a ton of other posts like this on this sub, I'm sorry for making another one. I just wanted to talk about it for a little since I haven't really ever told anyone about this so I wanted to get it out of my head for once and I thought this was maybe a decent place to do that. Feel free to send me a DM if you want or just comment under this post, I'll appreciate any kind of response I get from you all. If you made it this far, thank you so much for reading all of this and have a good day/night! :)

Tl;dr: I'm a guy but I wish I was a girl, this has been going on since a while and it's gotten more prominent lately.

I (22 AMAB) have recently been contemplating stopping HRT (I started in January) and resuming around next spring or summer (2025) when I graduate from my studies and can move out. I live with one of my parents who won't allow me to transition nor present fem while living at home. I've already subverted this restriction by shifting towards more gender-neutral clothing and wearing subtle makeup, but if I'm found to be taking HRT, I will be kicked out.

Managing my HRT in complete stealth has been incredibly stressful and barely doable To make matters worse, in the last several weeks I've started waking up at like 4:00 AM for 2 hours pretty much every night from fluctuations, and I can hardly function during the day.

I'm already 22 and I think the ship has sailed for a lot of the natural feminization I could get from HRT. What difference would it make if I stopped and resumed in like another year or two? I feel like if I stopped, the dysphoria I'd experience might be less miserable than what I'm enduring right now.

Hi all! I never thought that I would write here, but here I'm. I don't know anymore how to feel about myself or my identity. Need your help.please be kind!

When I was in school I was not coming along with boys. I kinda always played with the girls. Approximately until I was 15. Always felt that Im a girl inside. I like girls. I turned 18. I got into girls had till now a lot of girlfriends. The thing is that I like wearing dresses, doing my makeup and having nice nails. I like to have a smooth skin and I wish I had breasts. None of my gfs knew about this. I also like chastity play and sometimes anal. Nowadays I'm looking to trans pics and yes!-also porn and I find all those people attractive and I wish I would be them.

I'm confused cause rn I have a gf. Sex is great but I'm afraid of the things she doesn't know and I'm constantly thinking about transitioning. I'm afraid doing it, cause what if I will be not accepted? What if I will not pass? Is it just a phase? Is it just a fetish? Or that's the "new" me? Btw im 27 now.

Thanks in advance!

So, I’m (24, amab) making this post because for the last 4 years (give or take) I’ve had serious thoughts and doubts about my gender. It started with coming to terms with my sexuality (I’m bi, but never experimented with men because of my environment at the time) and accepting that part of myself, and quickly progressed to having doubts about my gender.

For context, I grew up in a Latin American country with a backwards society and a culture that normalises sexism, homophobia and transphobia.

For that reason, I never dared bring up the fact that I was attracted to men as much as I am to women, or that I like make up and nail polish, or anything that would make me look or be perceived as “less of a man”. I think this kind of environment seriously damaged my psyche and it took me years to realise a key part of who I am.

Well, thing is, ever since I was a little kid, I remember sneaking into my mom’s or sister’s closets and trying on their clothes, their shoes, sometimes make up and nail polish too, but I had to wait till everyone was asleep or I was home alone. I remember doing this as early as age 6, if not younger.

But even then it felt “wrong”.. idk.. like, I was ashamed of it, and I guess I still am, but less so as I am comfortable talking about it with my S/O (she’s the only soul I’ve told about this), but aside from that, I also remember tucking my pp between my legs a lot, as if to look feminine, and always secretly wanting to watch girly tv shows and movies but never actually doing it without and excuse for it. Or spraying my mom’s perfume on, or even this one time, I was 10 maybe, and my dad was watching Law and Order (I think, but it might’ve been something else) on TV, and there was this episode where someone kidnapped a baby and basically forced a transition on him (making him MtF) and raised him as a girl to avoid raising suspicions.

After watching that episode I remember thoroughly -like very thoroughly- examining my genitals, trying to see if I might’ve been the opposite? And I even convinced myself that that might’ve happened to me but of course I didn’t ever bring that up.

I also always wanted to have long hair as a kid, I never really knew why but I did, but my parents never encouraged, they straight up didn’t let me grow my hair, but of course that changed when I was 14-15 and it started getting weird for them to try to force me to get a haircut haha.

Now, I also remember wanting to be more masculine sometimes, it’s weird cause I don’t know if I wanted things like a beard, or getting ripped, or doing traditionally masculine things like sports and martial arts because I was told “that’s how you are a man”, both by authority figures and society, or because I truly wanted them.

I moved to the Netherlands in 2020, and since then I’ve slowly gone through a lot of self discovery and acceptance, but there’s still a big question in my mind that I can’t answer. I know I’m not a cis man, or at least I doubt I am, but I don’t know if I am a trans woman or gender fluid or non binary. I know my upbringing plays a big role in clouding my mind, there’s some internalised shame that I hate but I still feel when I do decide to shave my body smooth, or do my nails, or put makeup or dress in a feminine presenting way. I can’t fully explain it but I feel the need to wear long sleeves and pants whenever I shave, so people won’t see, or not to shave my facial hair, cause that’s what makes me look like a man (well aside from other stuff of course but you know what I mean).

This is all starting to have a negative effect on my mental health and I don’t know how to cope with it all. I’ve read that waiting lists even for therapy can be 6 months+ and that’s very discouraging. I would genuinely like to get some help to figure these things out, but past experiences (I got referred for an adhd clinic to help treat insomnia and I’m still on their waiting list. The referral was more than a year ago) make me not have a lot of faith in the health system, and I don’t have the resources to seek private treatment.

I also think about the fact that I think I would lose everyone from back home if I found out I’m trans and went ahead with transition. That’s a scary thought to me, because if I go to therapy and my therapist tells me I’m a trans woman, I will transition, I would want to, I want to be happy and be myself, but I am terrified at the thought of breaking that news to my family. They constantly mock and talk shit about LGBTQ+ folk, despite the fact that they are educated and have traveled extensively. They somehow feel the need to make demeaning and derogatory comments every time they see LGBTQ+ people in public. It hurts me that I don’t think I will ever be able to be myself around my family because of their close mindedness, and I don’t want to try and educated the lot of them. I didn’t care as much at first, as I though I could just straight pass when around them and since I have a girlfriend (and have always had girlfriends), there’s nothing for them to suspect, but ever since I started questioning my gender, this has been very present in my mind and giving me anxiety 24/7.

I am at my wit’s end trying to figure this out on my own and I don’t know how much my upbringing affected my relationship with myself and my ability to be honest with myself about this.

I am hoping that those of you who had similar upbringings could share how the whole process was for you, hopefully it helps me try to make sense of my head.

I know it’s a long read, so thank you for reading!

I hope you have a nice weekend c:

I, a 16 year old, am legally required to get one of my parents to consent to me going through HRT, but my parents happen to be very concervative. I had opened to them about it once before (back in 2021), but they brushed it off as a phase that would just pass over (it hadn't). My father even outright said that he would never allow me to go through with it and that unless I can convice my mother, i would not go through HRT.

Now, in 2024, I still feel dysphoric, but also there have been some mental health problems that have arisen. Because of some brain problems (genetic mutations in the brain like arachnoid cysts) and the fact that my father is bipolar, I am concerned that I will again be brushed off, but for the reason of mental disclarity. My mother believes that because my father is bipolar, that I am probably too (and I don't disagree that it's possible).

But what is very contradictory to what she says is the fact that my mother doesn't want to take me to a therapist to evaluate me. I have asked multiple times and she had said either figure it out yourself or it's a no. In my state, I am legally required to have an adult consent to me getting therapy (because conservative law makers really want to make our lives difficult for no reason).

It also doesn't help that I am going to an all boys boarding school (they have recently announced going co-ed the next school year). There is a therapist at my school, but she is never open to talk to me because she gets booked for the entire year by my school for a select few people (ie: those who have had people recently die in there family; for some reason, it happens a lot for the guys here, and I totally get giving them priority) (I found the last bit out through an email conversation with said school therapist). But I also don't want to wait until I am 18, but it seems like I am going to have to.

Summarising: Conservative parents no like trans people; claims I am bipolar, yet doesn't want to get me tested; I go to an all boys boarding school (recently going coed); school therapist is never available

I've had these silicone breasts I've been putting in bras for a little over a year (so their stickiness is completely gone) but recently I've been eating to wear outfits that a bra would either look awful with or wouldn't work, is there any way to remedy this issue?

I have a genuine question- with no malicious intent what so ever.

When transitioning from female to male and doing the big below the belt surgery- Do they do a hysterectomy? or is it more of reconfiguring the parts that go into the parts to make a man?

Thank you..

so i didn’t go to my prom last year, but my girlfriend’s prom is next month and i have absolutely no idea how to prepare for it. can anyone give me any advice? i’m lowkey freaking out over everything.

(5’1, 90lbs, 19yo, pre-t)

1. do i wear a suit or tux? for reference i’m 5’1 and 90lbs, so very short and skinny. i barely know the difference between a suit and a tux, just that tuxes have bow ties and are “fancier” while suits have neck ties and are considered more “casual”. my girlfriend is wearing a red dress so i will be wearing an all black outfit with a red tie.

2. where do i acquire said tux/suit? i am pre-t and don’t pass in some situations, would it be okay for me to still go and rent a tux/suit or would it be weird if they see me as a girl? and what do i wear when i go? (i’m a huge overthinker) i’m trying to stay under a $250 spending limit with the tux/suit, so i figured renting one would be the best way to go, but let me know if you have any other ideas.

3. what shoes do i wear? as i said i’m 5’1, and my girlfriend is 5’2 but she’s gonna be wearing 3-4” heels and be about 5’5-5’6. i am considering getting these platform doc martens but i’m not sure if they would be considered too feminine or “stereotypically queer”. (i don’t want to look like a masc lesbian) or should i wear standard dress shoes and just deal with being significantly shorter than her the whole night?

4. do i pack? i don’t have an actual packer but sometimes i’ll use a bunched up sock and it looks pretty realistic. i’m wondering if packing in this scenario would be worth it or not. but i guess it doesn’t really matter.

5. any other passing tips??? i’m going with her group of friends that i’ve never met and they know i am her boyfriend, but i don’t know if they know i’m trans. a few of them are queer so i wouldn’t mind anyone knowing, but i’d rather them not. if anything i’d be fine with them knowing i’m trans but still seeing me as a man and not having to question it. i’m also worried about taking pictures before and how to look “normal” in those. and i’m worried about passing at the actual dance too. i guess i’m just literally worried about everything. any other prom-related passing tips would be amazing.

i extremely appreciate any advice y’all may have even if it’s only for 1 or 2 of these points. i’ve been out as trans for years but i’ve never been to a formal event, especially a dance. however, please do not comment anything like “just wear/do what you’re comfortable with!” because my goal is not to be entirely comfortable, but it is to pass and appear as cishet as i possibly can. i will be comfortable in anything that helps me accomplish that goal. thank you :)

Hey guys! 21/yo Transfem here :) I just wanted to ask some questions about my dosage, as many of the posts on here have been extremely helpful but not as specific to my current dosage(s)

Currently, I inject 0.2ml of 20mg/mL (EV) subcutaneously every 5 days; I also take 50mg of spironolactone daily. Has anyone here had similar or the same dosages, and if so, would you be willing to share your thoughts and experiences?

Some additional information, I started HRT very recently — I began the process on the 15th of march, so I am actually exactly 3 weeks in as of today. Thanks so much!! ♡