[55] Had my first ever anal experience last night (top)....I pumped him good. Wasn't as bad I thought it would be. I broke into a major sweat & I lasted an hour, he was amazed. He took every inch of what I had...WOW!

So basically the song is this viral song that is going all over TikTok and somehow I'm getting recommended it because for some reason TikTok thinks all bisexuals are women and that all bisexual women want to swear off men. Which might be true for some. Which is valid. And I'm a bisexual man anyway. And I'm happy with men and women. At least I used to be before my internalized homophobia returned due to guilt caused by browsing wlw and feminist forums (I was trying to be a better ally and because my online queer female friends recommended it), though it's getting better with therapy.

But many bisexual women can be happy with men just like they can with women. Only biphobes like Roan think otherwise (or how I used to think before I accepted bi women who had trauma with men and tried to generalize all bi women as lesbians and bi men as being more valid. I still apologize for that). Not all bisexual women are happy with men whether it be trauma with men or preference for women. And that's fine. Not everybody needs to be with men. But I'm a cis bi man that's seeing a MF swinger couple that's a bi man married to a bi woman. Is that bi women just going through comphet? NO! That's why this song is biphobic it treats bisexuality that loves men as inherently nasty. It also has implications that demonize men-loving-men which make Chappelle Roan's appropriation of MLM drag culture questionable in that way.

I've seen some online say they don't find it biphobic, some bi women say it's even liberating. You're experience is cool. But I don't like this song because it seems to demonize bi women who are happy with their boyfriends/husbands. And as a poly bi man who is bi4bi in his dating preferences (I refuse to date non-bi people because I relate to fellow bisexual men and women more as a bi man) I love to imagine marrying a bi woman and her letting me have relationships with men on the side and letting her have relationships with women. And I won't have FFM threesomes with her because I think those are fetishizing. But I would let her have MMF threesomes with me and my boyfriend.

IDK it just seems to be the old lesbian separatist shaming of bi women described in this video by verilybitchie: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cww0fLXMnzs

So I’m 23 and have been talking online and hanging out through games with this guy I’d say I’ve gotten pretty close to. His personality is good , we have great conversations, and we have a shared interest in gaming. But this past weekend we finally showed what each other looks like. When I saw him I didn’t think he was ugly just not very attractive to me physically. Which kinda makes me doubt myself sexuality a bit. This is not the only time I’ve felt this was about a guy. I’m mostly attracted to feminine guys . And I need both personality and physical attraction to be with someone . Am I over thinking this? Does this make me less bi ? Is it it wrong that I don’t see some or most guys attractive?

As I get older, I realize my younger self had a propensity to assume my life experience has a lot in common with the life experiences of others. Which is not the case. At all. For instance, on this sub, I have been surprised to see how many people realized they have same-sex curiosities or interests in their 20s, 30s, 40s and older. As someone who had this realization on the cusp of my teenage years, I just assumed (wrongly!) others came to this realization at roughly the same age. My next assumption, also possibly wrong, is that it might be more difficult to deal with the emergence of same-sex desires when you’re well into adulthood than before adulthood. I’m curious: for those who made their bisexual discoveries in adulthood, do you think things would have been easier or more difficult for you if you had made this discovery in your youth?

Today it's my 20th birthday, officially I'm not a teenager anymore.

It has been 7 years since I discovered that I'm Bi, I can't wait to start my sex life soon in this decade of my life.

So, what advice should I know about relationships and sex?

Can I date date now mature people (30 olds and 40 olds) without any problem?

I am a cis woman in my 30s, and for the first 30 years of my life, I identified as straight. I loved sex with men, and was 100% certain I experienced both sexual and romantic attraction for them. I was going through my sex bucket list doing everything that looked fun in porn, when I had a threesome with a woman, and to my surprise, I enjoyed it. I wouldn’t say I experienced attraction, but man it felt good. I had a way better orgasm than I had with men, and it sure left me intrigued. So I played with women some more, to the point I definitely couldn’t identify as straight. So I considered myself bi, even though I still didn’t really think what I felt was sexual attraction (more physical pleasure) and certainly not romantic attraction.

Fast forward to a few months ago, and practically overnight, I became repulsed to sex with men. Out of nowhere, no known cause, overnight. Like 2 of my favorite male FWBs, I could no longer have sex with. I tried and left their house crying. What on earth was happening!! I immediately was over my male ex, all romantic feelings, poof, into thin air.

Was I suddenly a lesbian? Well, maybe, except none of my feelings towards women have changed. I still don’t experience attraction to them (but enjoy sex with them), so I sort of feel like an aromantic lesbian.

Is it possible that I’m on my bicycle? Has this happened to anyone? I want to have a typical relationship and feelings for someone, anyone (man or woman!) again more than anything. I was queen of cuddles, kissing, etc. I’ve been seeing a therapist too but they really haven’t come across my scenario and think I should stop focusing on labels so much. And to be fair, it’s not the label I’m after as much as, am I ever going to like men again??

It's not a bad thought, it is something I've been thinking about for quite some time but is always just a thought at the moment

I should clarify first that I am a 32 year old cis het gal (new to this phrasing so I'm not sure how that was suppose to be typed)

I am in general someone who recognizes beauty in people, even if I wouldn't find myself attracted to them, I can say they're genuinely beautiful or pretty, and it doesn't apply to just men. I do this as well for women and those who identify beyond the 2 genders as well.

I like men, I know I do. Granted I'm not lucky at all in the dating aspect as I'm considered ugly as hell (according to Florida people) so I've chosen to put a pause until I can move and get more confidence.

The women is the interesting part.

I say that there are women that would be so gorgeous I would say "I'm straight, but if she wanted to sit on my face I would say yes ma'am you deserve the world". There are women that are physically, spiritually, emotionally, characteristically beautiful I genuinely get giddy and nervous.

How my friend brought this up? My friend (32 year old Cis gay man, love him) was playing Hades 2 and I fawned over Hecate's character design. Subtle and stunning, you could see the strength yet caring aspect of her overall. He was a little drunk at the time too. So he asked "So like are you maybe bi?" And I was like "no idea I might be".

That's pretty much it really. It was a pleasant conversation, but it is something that's appeared in my mind.

I'm not entirely sure how one goes about exploring this to see if it's true or not. Not sure how I would approach this.

Tips in how I could? How did you guys figure this out?

Hey everyone!

I recently realized I’m bi but not out publicly. I would like to try and meet a decent guy and possibly date. Any tips?

Thanks :)

So On a daily basis I struggle as to whether I think I’m gay or bi. I watch gay/Trans porn 80% of the time then Lesbian the other 20% .01% straight porn but it just bores the hell outta me and when I watch it I imagine myself as the female. When I fantasize I think about guys or Trans girls majority of the time to. I also crossdress as well and love to act feminine cute outfits nails done makeup wigs have to have the complete female look. Most of time I catch myself checking out women more than men as I have little to zero attraction to masculine males as I prefer femboys/Feminine guys and femboys are pretty rare lol. I basically think about crossdressing TGirls, Femboys, anything girly or feminine constantly wishing I could be girly or feminine 24/7. One day I’ll think about girls then the rest of the time I’m thinking about guys and crossdressing. Honestly I think more about dating guys rather than girls I don’t seem to lust after women even if I think there pretty I just crave guys more lol. I just can’t stop thinking about guys and having a boyfriend even while currently there’s a girl interested in me all the while there’s a guy I’m crushing on to which I talk to way more and think about him all the time. Does anyone else struggle with this as well? Like one day or most days you fantasize about the same sex but still think about the opposite sex just not as much?

that my jaw would be so fucking sore…

I am in my healthy slut era, this weekend’s sexcapades had me struggling to yawn! 🫠

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Kind of a first world problem; definitely not trying to brag. But for serious, if anyone has any tips on how to reduce this pain… my jaw feels like a stuck door 🙃

Context if it matters?? I am female

I (Male, 24) want to experience a relationship with a guy. I never been in a relationship.

Me(23) and My Girlfriend(23). We are same-sex couple and 4 years relationship. Is it normal that my girlfriend got horny with the moan of a guy? like she likes to watched gaysex but she said they literal not a gay but they do the things like gay.

What i mean is she literally likes of making the guy moan and what the feels guy.

She knows it, I’m not totally into that thing and it makes me uncomfortable knowing that she likes to hear moan from the other guy and makes her horny.

It seems so confusing to me right now when she confessed to me about it. because she told me she’s not into guy (or maybeis she just lying to me?)

Anyway, I’m her first girlfriend. Just want your opinion, if that’s a normal? hmm…

Hi, F23 bisexual here. I didn’t think I would ever feel this way but I can’t flirt for shit when it comes to talking to a girl. It’s easy to talk to a guy but fuck when it’s a pretty girl or someone I am into I don’t talk to them at all because I know I am a scared little bitch. I’ve had sex with 3 men and 1 woman. I want more experience with a woman but don’t even know how to talk to one. I want another round of getting to know another woman’s body and making them feel good. I would ask the previous girl for FWB but she has a girlfriend /:

So How does a female talk to another female that they like or is interested in FWB, what do I do ? What do I say? I feel like a scared 14 year old boy discovering boobs for the first time. LMFAOO. I’m also open to FWB.

all input is appreciated:))

Hey everyone I need advice..

As of recently within the past year I’ve been questioning my sexuality. I was recently in a gay-straight sports league. After the games we would go to the gay bars and I would find myself quite attracted to some of the guys there. I even gave head once but I was so nervous because I’ve never done that before. I’ve gone on dating apps and talked with a few guys I get a rush sexually speaking but not sure romantically. I haven’t been on a date but have watched gay porn and I do like it. I do very much still like women both sexually/ romantically. This is all very new to me so it’s been a journey so far processing things. Would love to get some advice! Thank you :)

Hi,

Does anyone find when they’ve had a pretty painful break up that their attraction swings more to the opposite sex that they were with at the time? I (f) broke up with boyfriend a few months ago and now I can’t stop fantasying about the same sex. I don’t know if my brain is just trying to protect myself as had a few painful experiences with men recently - so it’s easier to fantasise about women and wonder if it would be better. My sexual interests have always changed so intensely throughout my life.

Looking for the right situation m4m play

Do you find sex equally as good regardless of whether it’s with a man or woman? Do people have a preference? Or does it depend on the person?

Short explanation. I'm 34, submissive as f, and I've never dine anything with anyone same sex because of my, stigma, I suppose.

I recently spoke with someone online pretty openly, he and his wife are cool with who I am so far, and we are discussing a friend with benefits situation.

I don't wanna be immature, or silly here. I've had so, so many fantasies I never thought I'd live out. But uhhhh... my urges are getting super intense. On top of that I'm super anxious about meeting these people. Anxiety, nerves, some stigma against the idea, all beneath the "I wanna".

Can you relate?

This is a phenomenon that Dr. Joe Kort also mentioned.. it’s acceptable for heterosexual couples to be driven towards bisexuality but it seems like once a man becomes gay, it’s not acceptable for him to acquire a a taste for a woman at midlife..

It only seems men are turning towards men.. but you don’t see gay men turning towards females in a sexual way..

I suppose I should post this to an exclusively gay man forum, but these questions are usually rejected there.

Any good sites the wife and I can find like minded men and women? Both bisexual

How did you meet? What do you do together? Tell me your stories!

Just wondering, really questioning if I am.

To join the meeting on Google Meet, click this link: https://meet.google.com/egr-iozu-svr

Or open Meet and enter this code: egr-iozu-svr

Just curious to see what things people have done and where.

Me, blew a male FWB, whilst nude, in Hainault forest, he was nude too.

Full sex on a castle side building roof with my then gf.

Any advice will help me a lot thanks!