"Peacock" is often used to describe a particularly flamboyant queer man, but sometimes I feel more like a peacock who keeps his feathers down and tucked in. Partly with how I was raised, partly by masking in A Society™, and then partly having ADHD-i + Anxiety and not wanting to stand out or impose upon anyone.

Anyone else have a similar experience as a bi/pan/etc. individual? Known I've been Bi since I was about 16 (over twenty years ago), but have always kept myself a bit in a bottle, expressively.

Grew up in New England, currently in SoCal, for the curious.

This song has been in my head. No doubt this song catchy and I bet it’s going to continue to play on the radio. Even though the radio is a Spotify playlist.

I like the easy to dance to pop melody of Charlie XCXs 360. The melody is light and also vintage. Reminding me of the early 2000s, she has had that style of pop before.

Her lyrics go by fast. It’s hard to catch them all. But when it comes to lyrics I’m not in the mood to play Pokémon go. I also have one Question who is Julia? And is this going to be the song of the summer

Hey everyone,
I'm conducting a survey for my masters thesis on how LGBTQ+ people manage their emotions when experiencing discrimination or other gender or sexuality-based stressors. The study is completely anonymous and every person that identifies as LGBTQ+ in any possible way can participate. You would really help me out with your participation and get instant good Karma back! ❤️

Here's the link: https://univiepsy.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_77KddElcpfVvYLs

Thank you :)

Hiiii I’m a 15 year old single girl I’m near northern Colorado I’m bi and looking for a relationship I tend to like more masculine woman and men w pretty faces. I want someone who will take me on dates and love me for js who I am. Some of my interests are The last of us, life is strange, arcane league of legends (the show not the game), shameless, avatar the last airbender and a lot more. I am kind and funny(as said by my friends) please hit me up if you’re interested 😝😝

Hi all, I am a queer researcher and focus my work within my community.

This study has been reviewed by the Ball State University IRB (#2105259-1). ( Exempt Letter.pdf). The goal of this study is to investigate how bisexual+ populations manage stress and life experiences. The survey will contain questions about experiences you may have had due to your sexual orientation, how you respond to stress, and questions regarding well-being. Participants must be 18 years of age or older and identify as being attracted to more than one gender. Bisexual+ is used throughout the survey as an umbrella term to be inclusive of all identities that do not fit into the gay-straight binary.

Participation is completely voluntary, and all responses will be kept anonymously (i.e., we will not ask for any identifiable information so no one will know how you responded). This survey will take approximately 10-15 minutes to complete – you can skip items or quit at any time. Your responses to the survey would be very useful and greatly appreciated.

If you would like to participate in the survey, please follow the link below:

https://bsu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_0jgHkLiQLmb0B4q

Thank you for your participation!

If you have any questions, please contact:

Student Investigator: Mackenzie Cook, mtcook@bsu.edu

Faculty Advisor: Dr. Anjolii Diaz, adiaz6@bsu.edu

Unless I was maybe, like... the "god of crippling self-loathing," or something along those lines...

Hi everyone!

I'm Lynn, a graduate student in Women Gender and Sexuality Studies at UAlbany currently researching bisexuality and bi+ labels as identities through focus groups. This is my first-time sharing research recruitment on social media so, here goes nothing.

A little bit about me: I've been out as bisexual since I was 13, and by the end of my undergrad in sociology I realized that I had read so much about gender, (Het/Homo)sexuality, and feminist theory, but none of my assignments ever included anything about bisexuality. In graduate school, I decided to address that and took a deep dive into bisexual literature (growing more frustrated as I realized how relevant this was to my coursework). I've been reading and writing about bisexuality ever since. Now that I'm in my last year of my MA, I get to conduct my own research and I've chosen to highlight bisexual people's voices and experiences.
For this project, I'll be conducting guided virtual focus groups (no longer than 2hours), where we will be discussing different aspects of your journey and experience identifying with a Bi+ label.

If you're interested in participating or would like to see if you are eligible, feel free to complete this survey: https://forms.office.com/r/mAWWPdcsSW Thank you so much for your support!

UAlbany IRB approval document: https://1drv.ms/b/s!Ali4RLVwBVYfg2sOndl5KdxfoQIc?e=Dyxsuu
IRB study number: 23X241
Any questions please contact me at: lriosrivera@albany.edu

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I'm 44, cis male, and I've been out since I was 18. I think the universe is trying to tell me to give up on men.

Btw, if this doesn't belong in this, mods just let me know and I'll delete. I realize this doesn't much match the vibe here.

Now, I'm currently single so obviously my relationships with women and NB haven't gone perfectly either, but they all ended so...normally. Personality differences, growing apart, misaligned goals, sometimes her (or them, as the case may be), sometimes me, usually both, just normal life stuff that happens.

But with men...I can count the number of healthy relationships, flings, or hookups I've had with men on one hand. Most of them have been some variation on the many flavors of abusive. My last, with a guy trying to navigate the murky waters between booty-call and boyfriend, ended when he just straight-up sexually assaulted me.

That was fairly recent, in the last week, so it's probably coloring my thoughts right now. But after 26 years I have to wonder what's wrong with me that I continuously end up in these situations. 'The only common denominator in all your failed relationships...' and all that.

I don't know what I'm asking for, really. Maybe just to get to say all this. I don't have the heftiest support network, so I haven't really been able to unpack it with anyone. I know I need therapy, but my job makes that logistically very difficult. Anyhoo. Thanks for letting to me complain.

Hello, I'm a 26-year-old cis girl and I'm in this wonderful process of coming out of the closet, I am increasingly sure that I am bisexual but due to all the internal homophobia that I say from having grown up in a very religious home, I am barely knowing me. The issue is that I would like to go out with a girl, I have always gone out with boys and never with a girl, but I don't know which dating app to download.

I read on another Reddit that one should have an account on Tinder, Badoo or Bumble but I'm afraid to create an account there since many of my friends are there (because I'm not ready to come out to them), I'm not ready to talk about my sexuality with them and I want to avoid generating gossip that reaches my mother's ears, because she could throw me out of my house.

What apps do you recommend? because unfortunately Grindr is only for boys and I would like to know if there is a similar app for girls or if there are other apps that I don't know about in my ignorance

EDIT: The survey is now closed. I wanted to take some time to thank all of you. In being a part of this amazing community data collection was completed very quickly. Thank you for allowing me to share this space with you and thank you to all of those who participated in my survey.

Hi everyone! Thank you for allowing me to share this space with you. As a bisexual woman myself I want to be sure to honor your space and time. I would be honored if you would participate in my research study in an effort to add to the literature and improve services for those in our community. Thank you again!

okay so, I am really new to being bi and I feel like i am not bi enough cause I didn't have like a big awakening and stuff 1 day I was like oh she is hot (my classmate) and then the next week I thought a guy was hot( also my classmate).. i felt attracted to both of them.

just a second opinion from someone older than me BTW i am 15...

just need a little validation

in short plss help.....

your opinion???

[OH GOD I just realized the title is kinda weird and predator-ish? No, I don't want to date literal girls, I'm into women my age, I just want to know how to start dating other women as a grown woman with no experience, sorry sorry]

So. I'm 31. I consider myself non-binary but I do understand most people see me as a girl.

I kinda always liked girls. Female badass heroes, making my barbies date each other, as every other kid. Lara Croft, Poison Ivy, Xena, Dana Scully, I was fascinated with all of them.

My first crush was a girl from school. I was about 13. She said she was "maybe into girls" so I thought I had a chance. Of course, it was my first crush so I was a tad too intense and she rejected me. At 15, I was in love with a smart girl with strong opinions and too cool for drama. She was into girls, but I was such a disaster I came across as a creep. I kept trying to start a conversation to know more about her. Teenagers are awkward, you know that.

In college, I was the girl the "curious" ones sought to "experiment" with. I kissed them, they thanked me, and then promptly I'd get ghosted, because it was just an experiment, one time fun. At first I was okay with my role, but it got kinda depressing after a while, like I was just some kind of public service.

At parties I managed to get shy smiles and cute looks from other girls, but I never knew what it could mean or what to do.

I had success dating guys. They never thought I was weird. They think I'm a good kisser and a good companion. Dating guys is... easier? Simpler? Maybe because I don't care about them that much? I even had a very active role in my relationships. Some of them lasted many years and yes, I loved them. But the "what ifs" still lingers on.

I think women are super out of my league. I've never tried dating sites because pics and texts don't really tell me who someone is and I'm afraid they would get disappointed. Or maybe if I had a chance I'd kinda act weird trying to be "perfect".

I tried going to gay bars and stuff like that but I always feel out of place, and most girls are too young for me and the women my age seem to only go out with their girlfriends/wives.

How to even start at my age? Where should I go? How to signal to other women I might be available? How to even know who is approachable?

I love you. I know we haven't said that many words or spent that much time together. I know it's illogical. But the truth is I love you. Furthermore, you're The One. Again, that doesn't make sense. Yet I just know it.

When I first met you, you didn't make a strong impression on me. You seemed aloof and not very approachable. But over time I began to see glimpses into your being. I was intrigued, also sympathetic. Being sapiosexual, I value your intellectual drive. I also notice a sadness. It's all too familiar to me. A person's ultimate happiness is inspiring happiness in others. I so wanted, and still want, to be the person to make you deliriously blissful. I was hoping you would finally be that person I could finally walk hand in hand with, both literally and metaphorically.

But you have no interest in me. I think your curiosity was piqued. That's not unusual in my life. Many females have had an interest in me. But with all females that curiosity faded. I have consistently been unable to maintain interest of others. Like walking and using language, the ability to seek and develop romantic experiences and connections is something a healthy human (and even non human) develops at some point in their lifetime. This is something I never developed. From time to time I could attract women, but I could never "complete the sale" and make attraction and interest sublimate into something more established and meaningful. In that way I am mentally handicapped. And at an age where I could technically be a grandfather, it's not practical to hold out for hope. Several experiences of disappointment have spelled that out for me quite clearly. There are virtually no chances.

I'm not bitter towards you at all. You like what you like. And that's not me. You've made it clear you don't wish to socialize with me. I accept that. And I wish you the best. I hope you get your life together in every way, and find purpose, appreciation, and joy beyond your wildest imagination. I especially hope you find that person, your Best Friend, you One you can bet together with on a sometimes happy, sometimes sad journey in life. It would be such a waste not to have someone experience, appreciate, worship your uniqueness, your utter beauty, your wonder on an intimate level. You have so much to offer. I know what I speak of.

And the thing is I know you're a pain in the ass. I know you have your faults. That doesn't change my feelings for you. If anything it validates them. Anything that is dear is worth putting effort into. And I so desperately want that opportunity. But you won't hear of it and I must move on.

To anyone reading this: Don't be concerned about suicidal thoughts. I am very not inclined to go that far. Recently I was reminded I do have things in life I enjoy. I'm also mature and responsible enough to support myself. It took some time to determine I can't let this one egregious void in my life affect my responsibilities and dictate my future. I still need food, clothes on my back, a roof over my head, etc. I have been successful in putting my deficiencies off to the side and move on with life, even finding some positive episodes here and there. And I'm grateful and blessed with relative physical health, financial stability, intelligence and especially some good friends (whom, by the way, I wish I saw more and were more in contact with).

Still, I know I will die alone. I don't want that to happen, so my goal is to try to find happiness wherever I can, have as much happiness while I have the opportunities, and get my mind off what is the ultimate destiny of all of us. Maybe someday I'll even go forth with my delusions of bisexuality and indulge in same sex experiences. It's not the perfect outle

Also to anyone reading this: Please don't give me advice or encouragement. I've heard it all from friends with the best intentions and professionals with the best qualifications. Anything said or done to improve my hope will just bring my hopes up only to have those hopes pulled up from under me. I guarantee this will happen. The most peace I will ever find is knowing this situation will never change, not contemplating it and focusing on things I can control and accomplish.

Oh, how I wish things could be different. My Lord, why have you abandoned me?

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I love her. I desire her like I have never desired anyone else. Take my word on this. But she's made it clear she doesn't want me. I'm far from considering anything drastic, but hope is now a concept completely unknown to me.

Talk about a disaster lol.

I love her. She's the most beautiful person in the world, perhaps literally.
But she doesn't seem to give a rat's ass about me.
She's lonely too. Kind of ironic.
I still want to experience same sex fun. It's definitely in my Bucket List.
But she's too important to me for a bucket.

So....I've had two major partners in my life. One was my first love (f) who I met online and only had 3 periods of about 2 weeks each together with. The second I met in the town that I go to school in. When I transitioned she began to back away from the relationship. There were some fun hook ups in between but nothing with real emotional attachment.

So my 2nd partner was older. She had been married to another woman prior, and our sex life wasn't great for the last year and a half. I worked a ton, had school, and was on an antidepressant which meant my sex drive was almost gone. And my partner was I feel like she just wanted to have one last relationship with a younger woman to feel young again and I was no longer a woman so *shrug*.

Throughout my transition period I had pretty vivid expectations of dating women outside of my small group. That being said I felt like the dating game was even worse. I want to make it pretty clear that not even in middle school did I ever have a crush for a boy.

So about 4 months ago while on my treatment my expectation was that I'd become a bit more horny for women. But I started to have pretty vivid sex dreams of men.

Two months ago I was working w/ my male friend who identifies as gay. We went swimming together at his pool and I basically threw myself at him. He fucked the shit out of me. Not like a gay porn star. But like a craftsman. I wasn't even sure if he enjoyed any of it but he basically demanded that I stay so he could get another round and the truth was that I wanted to.

None of it was romantic. He's not very romantic at all.Every now and then he'd mention a friend of his that was interested in meeting me. I haven't met them yet but I went on a dating app and had a few hook ups.

Part of me wonders if this will all change after my therapy is complete and I'll go back to being interested in women for the simple fact that I'm comfortable having a romantic relationship with one.

Yippie Kye Aye

It's a new day

I got no fucking sleep

Idk what rhymes with sleep

sheep

beep

keep

weep

seep

peep

deep

meep

There is actually a lot that rhymes with sleep

Anyways

I'm hungry who wants waffles

Apparently having two swords is a sign of bisexuality so Imma just put two characters out there that use them (Only two cause I'm too tired an can't think of more rn)

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LOKI

(sorry this is the best picture I could find)

(Also who doesn't like Loki)

(fight me)

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KIRISHIMA

(For all Ya'll Kiribaku fans out there (I do agree btw))