I at the age of 28 have realized that I am a girl who likes girls!!! Wooooo! The whole world has opened to me. I recently watched Ammonite (oh my god…. oh my god… I don’t understand it’s bad reviews. Also started watching The L Word and I feel so free. What else should I watch?

For people who use both bi and pan, what does that mean? I hope i'm not sounding bad, but I don't get it yet. That's all thanks.

I am a 20 year old trans man who's been living as a man for 8 years. At first I had to be out to everyone because I was in middle school and high school with a bunch of people that knew me pre-transition but then I moved to a different state and it all changed. Barely anyone at my new high school knew I was trans. Now I'm a junior at a university and five people know including my roommate. I love making jokes about being trans but to most people I know I can't. I live in a very liberal and accepting area but I get scared anyway. I haven't been misgendered in years and I don't want to be misgendered again so I just don't tell anyone. The worst was when I told someone outright I was cisgender because it felt like it was my only choice. What makes it worse is that I'm straight so without being out as trans I'm slowly backing out my own community out of fear.

To trans people who have transitioned and are out- how do you do it? How do you not fear being disrespected like I do? I want to be more confident and be out, wear a trans flag every now and then, I'm just scared I guess. If you have any advice on how to be more like you, more unafraid of the rejection that may come with being trans, please give your wisdom.

As the title says, I wasn't sure where to put this so I'll just ask here. I got into an argument with somebody online because I made a tiktok video talking about headcanons and stated that I headcanon a bisexual character as pansexual (it's not been outright confirmed if she is bi or not, but it's heavily implied.) They argued about bi-erasure, which I did not know was a thing until now, but I still want to keep my headcanon as changing it would affect my au and I think it just fits her character a lot better. Is this okay?

Hi I am 14M and I want to come out as pan to my Girly who is a big insperation how should I do it funny??!

So we have been best friends for almost 4 years now, and I always like this guy, and I always tell him that I don't want to lose him, but things changed last month. We became distant, and of course I got detached, but suddenly, after a month of silence, he came back, and he apologized for what he did for being distant and all of that, and he also told me how much he misses me and he regrets everything. He becomes a different person this time; he became nicer and sweeter, and of course I forgive him. We always hang out, and when we get home, we always talk via video call on the phone. Then after that, I became attached and fell in love again, so I told him everything about how much I liked him, and things didn’t get awkward; we became more close, attached, and more open to each other. I even flirt with him, and he doesn’t mind at all. He always comforts me; he’s always there for me; he even tells me that if he’s bi, we’re probably together, and he always reassures me. But sadly, he’s in love with this girl, but they’re not dating yet, and I confronted him and told him that I wanted to detached myself so my feelings would eventually stop, so I told him to lessen our interactions and no more calls, but he kept telling me he didn’t want to do that. What should I do?

So for the longest time I've thought I was bi/pan but over the last while I've been noticing that I have a very heavy lean towards women and feminine presenting folk. It's a very very heavy lean, and im realizing that outside of maybe a handful of men I never really been attracted to any of them and could never see myself with one outside of like 2 or 3 of them. Heck, I'm in my mid-20s and have only ever dated women and can't actually name any men I've ever found attractive and the only thing I've ever been attracted to them by was the more "feminine" features.

What I'm wondering is would I fall under a leabian banner or would I fall under a bi/pan banner.

Is that a normal thing?

Age 16, 17 in less than a month, no weird shit please 🙏 🥺

So know we have the Labrys Lesbian flag which is an axe can we have one for bisexual witch is a sledgehammer. Like this^^

i 15M need a bf but im too shy to ask anyone out and im gay so that doesn’t make it any easier since im in the minority and every guy i want is straight.💀😭

That's all. I think that's pretty great. I live on a lovely island of respect in a sea of deep, deep red.

I'll start. Ken doll, and Kris from Deltarune.

Hi, I'm (27M), gay, still a little itty bit closeted.

Just here to express what I feel since a few days ago.

I just had this sudden rush of emotions after remembering my elementary crush. It was a boy as well of course. After transferring at my 6th grade on our school, I immediately noticed how cute he is. With his cute eyes, nose and lips I just fell really hard for him, were even bandmates of our official school band.

I recently been searching for his social media, but seems his not very active in it, his last post in facebook is 2014 and in Instagram is 2018. No update since then.

Sigh. I hate this sudden rush of emotions it's like I feel sad and alone for not ever telling him how I feel or even bonding with him.

I just wish I was able to express my true feelings even if it means he'll avoid me.

Hoping I can see him around and just get another glimpse of my very first crush.

I think I’m a lesbian. I know that I’ve been into women and I’ve dated women since I was literally six years old. I go as bisexual now, but I’m really struggling to find out if I actually am bisexual?

The last person I dated was in March 2024 and it was a man . I feel like I really liked his personality. I think he was very good looking but every single time I said I love you I feel like it wasn’t very full hearted? Every single time I have dated a boy, I feel like it has been awkward, and it was a one-sided relationship. I still look at men and think oh my god he’s so hot and things like that?? But I really don’t think that I have ever been in a romantic relationship with a man that has worked or been same on my side.

Every single time I have dated a woman, it has been comfortable and I have not been scared to do things , I haven’t been scared to make the first move and it hasn’t been uncomfortable for me at all. When I say I love you, I feel full hearted when I say it and I feel like it is a double sided relationship and we both love each other other..

The thing that is confusing me to whether I am bisexual or not is the fact that I still find men attractive sometimes .

I'm curious

Last Friday, I presented my persuasive speech in my Speech and Communication class. To be more specific, on October 11, which is coming out day, I tried to persuade my class on why to respect queer people. On paper, my topic was combatting homophobia/transphobia but I don’t I can present “why you should be a bigot” lol.

I started off my speech with a survey, asking my classmates to raise their hand if they know a queer person, personally that person, and if they’re friends with them. Unsurprisingly, not many people (except my friends) raised their hands. After that, I did what many fear to do and I came out to my class telling them that I’m bisexual and genderfluid. My main reason for telling them was because I’m pretty straight passing and to show that there are probably a lot more queer people in my school than some may think. Pretty much I told people that you might not think your words are going to to much but in reality, someone is getting hurt by their words.

After my intro, I briefly defined homophobia and transphobia and I give examples based on what I’ve heard from my fellow queer students. Overall, people have said that a main form of bigotry is the comments that other students say, whether directly or indirectly. Also some students say how they feel that other students have been avoiding them. After these examples, I comment how uncomfortable and how dehumanizing things like this makes me feel.

My main strategy for my speech was primarily refuting homophobic/transphobic claims to get rid of misconceptions. I just found out today that that’s what MLK did in his letter from a Birmingham Jail so that strategy had a lot more credibility than I thought. The first claims I tried to refute were claims from the Bible. I go to a Jesuit (Catholic but better) school so biblical claims wouldn’t be too hard to refute, but it would also be harder to convince some people by telling them the Bible passages they learn are wrong. I primarily talked about how the homophobic/transphobic claims are either mistranslated or out of context. I tried to use this to my advantage since I go to a Jesuit school almost every student there has some exposure to the Bible. After that, I said the word “politics” and moved on to my third point of refuting claims, specifically how a lot of homophobia/transphobia is based on misconceptions and misinformation. I mention how lgbt topics are rarely talked about in school and if a school wants to teach it, they would most likely need a guest speaker or have a small part in a specific class in order to learn. I also mention how the topic can kinda get complex, why trans people can seem sensitive to pronouns, and why there’s no straight pride month.

I also talked about specific, slightly more complicated claims for me to refute. For example, I talked about the claim how people say being gay or trans is unnatural, so i mention how swans, penguins, and dolphins exhibit homosexuality and how male clownfish and humphead wrasses both change their sex. I also mentioned how some people say that being gay goes against life/gay people can’t procreate. While I do mention that that fact is mostly true (for simplicity sake I said that it is completely true), it’s actually a god thing because we don’t need more people in the world. Finally, to add a bit of credibility to my speech, I mentioned how i don’t entirely understand neopronouns, but i tried to explain them to the best of my ability.

When my other classmates gave their persuasive speeches, they discussed the topic of mental health. To convince my classmates to care about our mental health, I told them that if they care about their own mental health and the mental health of others, they should also care for our mental health. I mainly used statistics from the Trevor Project, so a good bit of them were about trans mental health which made up for the fact that I wasn’t able to talk about trans people much.

As a conclusion, I gave advice on what to do to help. To start, I mentioned how respecting one’s pronouns is a very simple, easy, and effective way to help others. I also told others to watch what they say in the halls for obvious reasons. Finally, I told people to ask questions. As i said, I think misinformation and negligence is a huge reason for homophobia/transphobia so to counter that, just ask questions and do research.

A teacher once told me that a conclusion paragraph should answer the question “why should I care?” At the end, I answer that. As a Jesuit school, we believe in the motto “men and women for others” which i choose to emphasize how we should learn to actually care for everyone, no matter who they are. Also, October is Respect for Life month and in a presentation, my school used the quote, “The fundamental human right, the presupposition of every other right, is the right to life itself.” Despite the fact that I disagree with pro-life, I use the quote to also apply to queer people as well. Finally, I tell people to be nice to queer people just because.

Afterwards, I was asked a bunch of questions and I’m really glad people asked. I’m glad to know that people are willing to learn about something that they might disagree with and that people actually paid attention to what i said. The only thing i was really scared about was the fact that I had the longest speech out of everyone. The time requirement was 3-5 minutes but I took 16 minutes ‘cause I yapped too much lol. Even after class, I was delight to learn that there were talking talking about my speech. I was even more glad to hear that there were both negative and positive comments about my speech because i know that I actually did something.

Hi everyone!

I just wanted to share a new subreddit into our community:

r/SpookyTransGirls is a space for those of us with Goth, Victorian Vampire, Witchy Aesthetics, Alt Fashion and general spooky trans girl vibes.

This space is for everyone except TERFS and Chasers.

Hope to see you there 🖤🧛🏻‍♀️🔪

It seems like an underground hush hush thing so I don’t know how I would go about finding them. I don’t live in the city and I feel like the nightlife is a hotspot for these type of things, any input would be lovely.. thank you !!

psa: swingers you can prob help me out with this one, how do you find local freaky people?

also adult halloween parties sound so hot and I wouldn’t have lived if I never went to one.

All of this over a video game. If you get this angry and spew this type of shit then bye Felicia. I don't know why I try with family. I want to be so petty and give out his number. I'm done with this racist homophobic pos.

I’m 25 and still live with my parents, and admit I have a very good relationship with them (ironic due to what I’m asking). I’ve known I was bisexual for a few years now, and I’ve found a few books I want to read, movies I want to watch, etc. that have a lesbian relationship or (god forbid) a lesbian kiss and my parents just think that’s all so disgusting. And they don’t ever let up about it either. If they like a TV show and then there’s an episode with a gay kiss, they refuse to watch any more of it. It’s very difficult to read or watch anything without them knowing, because again I still live with them. I’m not out to them and don’t plan on ever telling them. They claim they’d be supportive if I “ended up gay” but I know they wouldn’t be (they don’t even acknowledge bisexuality, they’re like “just pick one or the other”). I know I’m an adult and should be able to stand up to them but they’d think I was just acting out for attention by telling them any of this.

TLDR: Need advice = want to read LGBT literature but live with parents who are homophobic

I just recently found out my friend is a tad bit queerphobic, and I have no idea what to do about it. We were just casually chatting one day and somehow we got into the topic of the queer community, because there's been gossip about one of the teachers at my school being gay, and also there's this person who looks like a boy but wears makeup. They didn't seem overly homophobic, but it's still there. I've been out as a lesbian to some of my friends (not non-binary yet, though), but not her. I can't really fully not be friends with her because of how my friend circle is set up. What should I do?

I'm a girl and i identify as bisexual w a preference for women, past few months I was thinking if I was a lesbian or not, and I settled on identifying as sapphic and bi with a pref for girls, all my friends make jokes abt me being into girls and it's all fun since we are all lgbt, but I kinda have found myself liking a guy, and I feel so stressed to say it because I'm afraid my friends will assume I was faking being into girls, as they've kinda just all summarised me up into being a lesbian (they all use the term lesbian on me even though I have stated being sapphic and still liking men a bit), I don't want them to just think that I'm straight, as I'm not, but I want them to stop thinking I only like girls

I'm 18 right now and plan to move and start living in Oslo, Norway after middle school. Do you know is this safe place for bi/gay (im still not sure tho)? I have plenty of time - 2 years before i will do this, but still, i want to know this kind of information. If wearing more feminine clothes like crop tops, look alternative nor wearing makeup will make me feel unsafe and someone is going to bark on me? Finding for more LGBTQ+ community and people who will not hate me for who i am and how am i look, is one of more important purpose my moving there. How it looks in Oslo and other Norway cities? I will be grateful for every answer and help <333

Trans fem living her best life!

So a friend from high school posted something and I checked they’re profile and they updated their bio with the lgbtq+ flag and the bisexual heart flag. We’re not that close so I could casually mention that I’m also queer and I would like to talk with her more. We kinda talk here and there cause we know each other but our interactions are very minimal. I wanna talk to her and say hey congrats on coming out, if you didn’t know I also like girls, wanna be friends? How do I approach this situation? She’s from another country but we follow each other on social media so we talk sometimes. I’m very desperate for queer friends guys, what do I do?