I'm 24 amab transfem enby. i think labels are ever changing and nothing is fixed, we do what we can, we be what we are in the moment. i like being fem, presenting fem. but not always. i have an afab gender fluid partner who has really REALLY helped me explore this side of myself. coming from India it's very difficult to come across people who would be supportive. i have issues in my relationship, there's underlying emotional attachment issues which are difficult to deal with. but talking with some queer friends, they told me it's hard to create a healthy relationship as it is, but being queer just adds to it as there is no model for them. currently I'm struggling with my mental health as well, but I'm way better than i was 5 years ago, things have been gradually getting better. I'm happy to be who i am for the most part. speaking with my therapist about hrt and transitioning, having supportive friends and a supportive partner. I'm ok. i wish i could hug my younger self and let him know he is going to be at a better place soon!

I’ve been trying to label myself for a long time. As an autistic person, I find with my particular brand of the tism— labels make me feel safe and comfortable.

For a long time I’ve just identified as bisexual and sometimes polyam/polycurious?

But is there a term to describe someone being fully sexually attracted to women, situationally sexually attracted to men (based on romantic attachment) ?

I know I must be biromantic. But I don’t think I’m sexually attracted to men naturally. There’s been times I thought a guy was attractive, but it was super flimsy and died almost immediately. I think I can develop attraction to a man if I have a very strong emotional and romantic attraction to him first, though? Idk.

I’m struggling to find a label that isn’t 8 miles long. >~<

Any help is appreciated!

Hello, I need all the advice you can give! I (24yr F) have known I was queer since I was in HS. I came out to my friends around that time. I have been seeing this girl for a couple months now & I want to come out to my parents. I believe that would help me be more confident in my sexuality.

They aren’t hateful nor would react dangerously. However, I recently discovered they would be classified as “emotionally immature”. I have never opened up to them due to the fact that they never make themselves available for me to do so. I only recently have been able to tell them I wanted to be on medication for my mental health struggles. I have confronted my mother about how she does not make herself available for me, emotionally, however, she just got defensive.

I am having a hard time coping with this. I want a relationship with my parents but I don’t know if it’s possible. I want them to meet my future SO or spouse, but I know that entails being able to open up and let them into the deepest part of me.

If anyone has any advice, I would appreciate it a lot. I am hoping that someone has also experienced this and can give me some insight.

the black parts are really to suggest straight allies but more because I love this color combo

Hello everyone, I am a 20 year old gay man and I am so hopeless for the future. Last night I watched the movie brokeback mountain and it touched me so much, I was crying in almost every scene. It's a really famous movie but to those if you who don't know it, it's about 2 guys that happened to go shepherding together, fell in love and had to hide their passion for each other from the rest of the world for their whole lives. One of the main character's, was shown a brutally murdered gay man at the age of 9 by his dad. I related so much to that scene because when I was 10, my very violent and homophobic dad misheard me saying "When I grow up I want to be a gay" when I just said "gamer". That moment he humiliated me and scared me and literally said that if I become gay he will kill me. Actually I was traumatized not just scared. My whole teenage years passed being homophobic as a coping mechanism, hiding my true self from everyone until one point I figured why I was sad. I worked with a therapist my emotions about myself and now I feel really good actually, but my dad still haunts my dreams. There was a major decision I took for my life about my university and my dad did not like it. He started bullying me about my decision (now that I'm 20 lol) and I entered a state of PTSD as I was a child again. I fell into depression and tried to kill myself but thankfully my mom stopped me and brought some logic into my overwhelmed brain, she always loved me and supported me. I told her I was gay last year and even though she didn't accepted it, she still supported it and overcomes herself in accepting me as a whole. She is the world to me and the only person I can trust with 100% of my heart. Anyway, I am so disappointed about society and how the "majority" treats whoever they find "unacceptable". It's not fair not being able to express who you are in people around you. How will you find your love if you are hiding under a mask? Dating apps? The shitty corporations taking advantage of hopeless people like me by creating this toxic "standardization"?

Sorry for the long rant, but now I feel much better that I dumped everything off my chest

Right now I got the beat from Hits From the Bong by Cypress Hill thanks Spotify discover weekly! 😂

Uhh So a couple weeks ago I figured out a was Aroace(Now cupioromantic) and Its amazing, but I live in the south and go to a less than progressive school. Almost everyone of the people I know would not understand me being Non-Binary. A lot of my friends are guy friends and semi trump supporters. I haven't told them I'm aroace cause I'm kinda scared, But I'm happy I know I'm Non-Binary 👍

Hi (21m) here I know this place is for lgbtq people but i just wanna say I appreciate everyone who is proud and celebrates their identity and sexuality. I have to confess that I was homophobe but after going to college and seeing meeting people from different background, sexuality I realised and understood their perspective I respect their choice as they did mine, I am thankful that I was able to understand that their are people with different sexuality and it's ok it's their choice and I or anyone shouldn't interfere with it. I wouldn't want some one to come to me and try to interfere with my sexuality so yeah sexuality is a very personal thing and no one should interfere with other's. Thank you

My 10 y/o son was holding his friend’s (male 11) hand today….fingers linked like a couple. His uncle also noticed and asked me about it.

This is the first time I’ve seen this; I never even considered the possibility of my son being gay/bi. I’m wondering if I should even bring this up with my son. Parents, please give me advice.

FYI - I am a hetero woman, however have gay/lesbian friends since the 90’s. I’ve always had a sharp gaydar - so today caught me off guard.

Let me also say - I would NOT care if my son turns out to be gay or bi. I will love and accept him no matter what.

I think I’m thrown off by my son’s young age and if this is something I should even bring up or just observe.

Ok, then choose to be gay?

I honestly do not understand this rhetoric when I see it. Like what are you telling me you have to consciously choose to be attracted to the opposite sex? Is every day a struggle to not pounce the nearest same sex hottie and perform some lewd homo acts or something? I’m sorry I didn’t wake up one day, sniff the wind, and decide I was going to be gay from that point forward. I didn’t choose this (not at all complaining though 😅), just like straight people didn’t choose to be straight.

im friends with this really cool guy but i dont know what to call them

I have known for a while that I was different and I have kind of accepted that i'm gay but i'm still so confused on what that means idk if i'm a top or bottom none of my friends or family know and I don't think they would ever even expect it I just started college and a month in all my friends joined a frat and I rushed but when I got my bid I threw it out and didn't accept it and now none of them talk to me I know its probably for the best because they wouldn't support me anyways but I feel so lonely and my two roommates make gay jokes constantly and it makes me feel so uncomfortable because I feel paranoid that they know and I just laugh even though I know I shouldn't I hate the college I go to I want to transfer so bad and the pressure I put on myself to get good grades to make that happen makes me feel more hopeless and stressed its been like this for the past 2 weeks but now just sitting in my dorm while everyone is out at halloween parties I just broke down this is the most I have ever struggled mentally in my life and I was definitely not prepared for it before I left for school senior year I downloaded grindr and had my first hook up with a guy and it felt right but I haven't done anything since and i've deleted and redownloaded the app multiple times but I get paranoid and delete it again I have gotten with girls since and it just doesn't feel the same as it used to before I got with a guy I know probably most of you have gone through a period like this but it just feels like theres no end in sight and I feel like it only gets worse from here any advice would be seriously helpful I read online writing all this out would help so hopefully it does if I didn't start writing this I would probably be crying in the shower which is probably what im going to do after posting this

Hello! I’d like to ask if the prep is free and where we can access it. I’m just around España and would love to get one!

So, I use any pronouns so I don't have to worry about people using the wrong ones. I have some trans and non binary friends though, and I'll catch myself accidentally thinking about them while using the wrong pronouns. It's frustrating for me, because I know that gender is important to them. I always correct myself in my head, and I always use the right pronouns when speaking, but it's just annoying.

Does anyone else have this problem?

This is my first primary election I've voted in. What's a good station that doesn't talk about the possible outcomes, but just broadcasts live electoral vote counts?

Very basic oversimplified break down of My situation check post profile for the full details and everything if you want:

I accidentally shared a message with my parents about wanting therapy and struggling with body hair dysphoria. They reacted supportively—finding me a therapist, buying a razor, and easing up on haircut comments. However, their suggestions, like wearing dresses, feel overwhelming.

I’m struggling with job hunting, limited funds for feminine clothes, and family pressure to find a “real” job, even though I’ve started a small rock-selling business. I feel both fear and excitement about exploring being trans, but I worry about standing out in my conservative town and how HRT might affect my health (POTS and EDS). My biggest concerns are looking like my mom’s side of the family, becoming physically weaker, and feeling isolated. I’m looking for advice on managing dysphoria, handling emotions, and finding out who can prescribe HRT, and I’m leaning toward wanting to transition.

Explanation ends here.

I need help I don’t have for weeks and I’m struggling so much. My dysphoria get worse by the day I can’t look at myself with being disgusted. I wish it would all could be over soon but I’m so overwhelmed. I keep on realizing things daily about myself which is good but also a lot to handle. I realize I’ve been faking to make my parents think I’m fine. I’m want so much but I don’t know if I have the means to accomplish. I wish I didn’t have to be constantly scared of politics. I want to crack my egg be free of my mask but I’m too much of a wimp to do it. I hate my body it so hairy, gross, masculine, and ugly. I want to be myself. I wish I didn’t have to constantly being in a mental war against myself. I don’t want to sob every day from the fact that I am what I am. I would love to just know for certain that I’m trans. I wish I could have a source of euphoria that would last. I wish I could be like all you beautiful people. I wish I could break the mask. I wish I could be my true self and be loved for it.

I really need advice desperately and would love to hear it. Sorry it was so ranty I was crying the entire time.

Ok so i am transmasc (15) and i really can’t tell if im bi or gay. I am mainly attracted to men and i always have been but there are times when i find women attractive. I don’t ever see myself being with a woman but sometimes i can? I seriously need help rn this is hurting my head.

So yesterday I (15M) was tricker treating with a few of my friends (all 15M). While we were going from house to house, the topic of gay people came up and one of my friend says he only supports some of them (this was a joke, he knows I'm BI and care a lot about LGBT stuff), and my other friend (the transphobic one) says that he agrees, he's "fine with gay people," but he "can't stand trans ones."

At this point we had gotten separated from the main group, and I told him that being transphobic wasn't the flex he thinks it is. Instead of apologizing, he doubles down HARD, going on like a 2 minute hateful transphobic rant about how he "Is transpobic" and that all trans people are actually perverts who go into bathrooms and rape women. He then says something like "people should just fit in like puzzle pieces."

I told him to shut up, but he just kept going and going, so eventually I just grabbed his arm and told him to shut the hell up. I told him that I have trans friends, and that he's being a massive, hatful dickhead. I kinda ignored him for the rest of the night, and I ignored him during class today.

I don't really know how I can see him in the same light anymore, we've been best friend for so long and I have no idea on what to do. I can tell he doesn't actually know what the hell he's talking about, so I guess my only hope is to try and inform him better, but honestly I don't even know what to do.

I feel like I’m the only gay guy who is the way I am in Texas. I (18M) am a semi-conservative (I voted for Mother Harris don’t worry) pretty masculine gay guy, but I have my feminine urges as other gay men do. I like to go shopping, watch drag race, blast Charli XCX, wear a cheeky pair of underwear or a scandalous outfit every once in a while, but I also like to work out, play video games and watch football, and be generally masc presenting. I also fucking hate hook ups, I’m not one of those guys who can have sex and not get attached. It just feels like I’m the only gay guy who’s like this. It’s not that I hate or dislike other gay men. I simply just don’t mesh with most other gay men. Or just men in general. It’s very hard for me to find a male friend LET ALONE A BOYFRIEND. Only older men (ages 30-50) want anything to do with me. I feel like I’m doing something wrong or that I’m not “gay enough.” I’m moving out of Texas soon for college in South Carolina. So I know my dating and friend pool will only get smaller. But I’m tired of feeling like the odd one out. It kinda feels sometimes like I am doing a disservice to my community by being my own definition of a “gay man.” Almost like I am not outwardly being proud of my sexuality. Even tho I am incredibly proud to be apart of such a strong collective. I just show it in my own way. Does anyone else feel this way or am I just on one rn ?

Hi. I’m a 22-y/o genderfluid AFAB who is dysphoric about my chest and would like to wear a chest binder so my chest doesn’t pop out so much and I can feel more androgynous. Does anyone have any recommendations for where to get a chest binder? Does cup size matter or are chest binders a one-size-fits all? As much detail and advice about them as possible would be great.

So I've been genderfluid for a few months now and it still feels pretty exciting. Is this normal and does anyone know why this is?

I (15M) have recently been horribly confused with myself and gender and whatnot. I think I’m non binary but idk. Pronouns don’t feel right at all on me, but I’ve always been friends with girls more often and there’s always been a few things pointing me on that side (maybe having lesbian parents helped there surely) and after hanging out with my best friend and their sibling they dressed me up in girly clothes, I acted annoyed but heck I loved it. Tl;dr I’m confused about who and what I am so if y’all got similar experiences I’d really like some advice on what to do here. Thanks everyone q:

I'll go first. The guy and gal from the Sotyktu commercial. It's more the commercial that makes it odd, than the people.

I'm 17 and I feel like such a freak. I've just had three straight people explain to me that I have to try and fit in to be successful (and most of it involved erasing my queer and religious identity) I'm wiccan and a gay man openly on both of those identities and I've never felt so alone. What do I do? The thing is nothing I do (interests wise) fits In to the norm or what is culturally acceptable so I'm so scared i'll never. find someone who relates to me. Is it just teen emotions or is this something else? I'm so confused.