A lot of people are saying we may need it, but with America further militarizing the police force, is it really that safe?

My love language is acts of service and words of affirmation like, making food, no just making like stuffing you of food, and desserts 24/7( I’m Latino so I cook excellent), giving massage, HELP with cleaning, listen to you, help progress in life, I’m a very giving person, I’m I truly do it because I want to, but idk I feel like I don’t receive what I give, besides I always go 50/50 so I’m always feeling that I give more, and they don’t even care, they just receive. I truly cannot change my love language I tried, but when I like someone I like to do all of this, I’ve been trying to think of ways to compansate that effort, like stop doing 50/50 and let them pay for dinners or dates idk, what you guys think?

I love being AroAce it is so much easier than all other genders in my opinion cause we just find friends and chill.

I know I may get a lot of down votes for this... but Yesterday I was talking to someone, and they made a very well reasoned argument on why changing genders, crossdressing, transgender, etc is an evil propaganda and its not really nessecary and how it's the propaganda of the US government is trying to make us weak... Like how they teach children at school forcing these beliefs... and even goes on to saying that I'll go to hell and crap (I don't believe that tho) Explaining how people regret after changing genders, etc...

Not gonna go into details, but this is giving me a lot of stress, making me question everything...

tl;dr - not including my deadname, ive gone by 4 different names (including the one i currently go by). i want to go by a different name but i feel bad. i feel like im asking too much from my family because it feels like i throw new changes at them constantly. but i really like this new name and its the other name my parents were considering for me for when i was born and i think its really pretty. but i feel so bad about wanting to change it again.

i dont know why i feel so guilty about it. ive had a lot of personal growth throughout the past several years. ive done some "experimenting" (i dont like using this term very much in terms of identity, but i was sort of trying things out in a way. i dont know how to explain it).

in 8th grade (2020 i think) i came out as pansexual. it felt right and i did a lot of research before choosing to use that label, because i didnt want to use it if it didnt apply to me. later that year i came out as trans. i know this sounds bad but initially i just wanted to see what it was like. i liked being a boy. it felt good. i wanted to start going by a different name but my dad wouldnt let me.

keep in mind that i dont remember the exact times at which these events happened, but i do remember the order. ill try my best to keep it chronologically correct.

sometime after that i proposed a different name to my family. my dad tried to get me to pick a name that started with the same letter as my deadname but i didnt like it. he had a very hard time being supportive and understanding at first but hes come a long way since then. for this name, i wasnt a huge fan of it but i picked it because it seemed easy for my dad in particular to wrap his head around.

it was short-lived. i started thinking of other names i wanted to go by and i settled on one. i used that name for 2-3 years. a couple years ago i changed my name to the one im currently using, and have since identified as non-binary/femme but recently ive been thinking about a new name more and more and i really do love it and i want to change it but i feel like ive given my family so much change to cope with in these past few years. i feel guilty wanting to ask them once again that i want a different name. this name is the other name my parents were considering for me for when i was born. it really is a beautiful name and i genuinely think this name could be my forever name. im mostly just worried about telling my grandparents. theyre so loving and so supportive and theyve always respected my name and have done their best to use the right pronouns but i still feel like im asking so much of them already.

i dont know what to do.

edit: sorry this was kind of a rambling mess please let me know if you need me to clarify anything

TW: Transphobia, abuse, cheating, exes,

I heard recently that my ex told a large group of people that I was transphobic for using genderfluid as my identity. (He left out the fact he cheated, abused and lied to me about so many things). He just... Told people i was transphobic, probably to sabotage my reputation, so these people would engage with me less and favor him... Or, maybe because he ACTUALLY thinks im transphobic.

I never couldnt explain it well enough when i first opened up, because it was so new to me, but once i opened up, my 'friends' immediately shut me down and insulted me as sexist and transphobic until i left their chat. They then added this ex into that chat (his friends were also in it) and they likely told him that i was transphobic based off what they all thought.

Could someone please educate me, and let me know if my genders are accurate enough to be fitting for the "genderfluid" identity?

I want a penis. But i still want my tits. And vagina too. I want it all. Yet i want to appear and dress feminine, and be identified as any gender. The voice in my head when i think, that voice naturally feels masculine, to me. I cant explain it well enough. Everyone has that voice in their head even as they read this post. For me, that voice is a dude. I speak with a masculine tone and deeper voice, as a result, but not always. Sometimes i will act feminine without noticing either. Theres some indecisiveness in my identity sometimes, but im fully confident in how i want my body to be, my pronouns, and my antics. Oftentimes i feel male, female, and nonbinary all at once because my body and brain just doesnt comply with one specific gender. With how often everything switches about and stuff, i thought genderfluidity would fit this description best. I dont know any other label that fits better (please lmk if there is!)

I tried my best to explain my identity and failed miserably to the point of being cancelled... Please help me learn from this somehow...

Hi, so I recently came to the conclusion that I may be a lesbian. Part of me isn't shocked, I've identified as queer for a few years now. However, majority of me is terrified because it feels definitive if that makes sense. Like once I come out (if I come out), I worry that not only will the people in my life treat/ look at me differently but what if my sexuality is all that they see? I have a friend and she's Christian, I don't know how she feels about the lgbtq+ community. She's really my only friend and I really don't want to lose her. I've made peace with that possibility but I hope it doesn't come to that. My grandma is someone else I'm worried about, we've always been close but we got even closer this past year. She is also a women of faith and I feel like she may have an opinion or two but will be supportive overall. As far as everyone else, I have mixed feelings. I'm sure a few of them won't care, others I'm not sure, and a couple I think I'll have to avoid if they found out. My sister constantly jokes that I'm gay/ non-binary/etc, so I'm not concerned about her. My mother is the only other person I'm not too worried about, I've mentioned my sexuality before and she seemed supportive.

Now I plan on living alone when I move out and to keep my personal life private. So part of me feels like I don't need to come out because no one would really know and if I ever had a partner, they wouldn't meet my family/friend(s). However, I also sort of want to come out, I feel like I finally have another piece to the puzzle of me and I'm happy that I'm finally starting to put the pieces together and what to share it with those closest to me. So yea, if I stay in the closet, I'll probably have to do a lot of lying and whatnot. If I come out, of course there's the judgment but I could be losing people I care about. I feel like this weight would be lifted off of my heart if I started living in my truth then again my fears may become a reality and I'm not sure if I could handle that.

I swear even the allies are referring to us in that manner, like you would not call a black person "a black" would you??? No!!! So stop calling trans people "a trans", it is dehumanizing as hell!!!!

Hello, i am around 15-17 (i don’t want to give my exact age), and female. I have had crushes on guys before, but it was quite some time ago, and now i’m starting to get more attracted to girls. Like, i’ll be walking out in public and see a girl and think “holy shiiiiit 😨”, which rarely ever happened to me with guys, even when i was younger and had a few crushes on some. But lately, i’ve been hardly noticing guys at all, no crushes on them or anything; it’ll be the girls i’m noticing. I also think I had a few crushes on some girls growing up — and recently, i developed one on a character from an anime who is female. At the same time, i’m not so sure if it’s real or if I’m just an excited teen, because lately, with anyone, it’ll feel like some type of wall is up if that makes any sense? Could just be because i’m a bit down in the dumps currently. What does this sound like? And how do I know if i’m actually just straight and confused?

For starters, I am a 21 year old trans man. When I was 17, I was kicked out by my father because he chose his religion over his own son. When I got kicked out, my partner of 4.5 years took me into her and her parents house. At first, things were going well. I didn’t think things would turn out the way they have. At the time my partner took me in we were together for about 1.5 years. I was always close with my family. I would check in with my mother who lived pretty far away from where I was weekly. Just letting her know her son is okay and well. My partner would ask who I was talking to during the weekly check ins, sometimes biweekly, and I would say it was my mom and she was just checking on me. My partner would get mad. Saying I was a mamas boy and that I was so dependent on my mother. So then to not further anger my partner, the check ins would turn into once a month. Then every few months. To now, once a year. She says I don’t need to see my family and that her family is now mine. She says my family is too close and it’s “embarrassing”. All of this being said from her while we spend every weekend with her family. Everyday is spent with her parents. At first i didn’t mind it. But when I came out at trans about 2 years into us being together things changed. She utterly refuses to tell her parents that Im trans because she doesn’t want to “deal with the bullshit” that will come with it. Meaning she doesn’t want to hear what negative things her parents will say to her about me. So everyday I deal with her parents misgendering and deadnaming me. For her. Then her sister is constantly misgendering me and when I try to mention it to my partner because it does bother me, I get told I’m being “disrespectful” and I can’t “force” everyone to use the right pronouns. Keep in mind, I am about 2 years into my medical transition. That term “you’re with the person not their family” does not apply here. Her family is absolutely involved in everything we do. For example, I lost my job awhile ago because my partner would force me to call off just so I could spend time with her family because I was “always working”. So as you can imagine, moneys tight. I had my last $100 in my bank account and her family suggested we go to the bar for drinks. I knew a friend who I hadn’t talked to in a long time due to my partner making me cut off my friends as well, so I knew my friend would hook me up with good drink prices. I order a couple drinks and my partner does as well. When it comes to paying the tab, my friend asks if it was all together or separate tabs. As I was about to say separate tabs, her parents butt in and say all together. They ordered the most drinks and were clearly not sober. So my friend takes my card that’s in the check and pays for it. I’m now drained of all my money, still currently drained and in the negatives. And this is just one example. It’s constantly like that. Her parents and family refuse to pay for anything and they always suggest expensive things to do. I’ve just about had it. I deserve better. I miss my family. My partner wouldn’t even let me start going to school for my dream job. I’m now 21. Nowhere in life except in a loveless relationship and trapped. I want to leave but I don’t have the means to. Which is why I created this gofundme so that anyone who is kind enough to donate is free to do so. I know it’s odd to rely on strangers on reddit but I feel like I have no other options. I have no money, no family to ask for help, no friends. Nobody. I don’t even have items to sell besides my clothing and my phone. So I have made the decision to move far where my mom lives, move in, start school, start my career, make new friends, and get my life back. I’m no longer letting anyone control my life. This is MY life. So, if you are so kind as to donate even something super small or offer kind words, feel free to do so. Everything donated will go towards moving funds. Thank you for anything and everything.

https://gofund.me/3f8e9632

If I have only one partner and we are both sti free will the chances of anal cancer still increase? Google as always is very confusing and concerning.

I watched both these movies, so if you’ve seen them too, let’s chat! Here are my initial thoughts…

I loved Holiday Club. I bought it on Tello the day it came out, and honestly, I’ve rewatched it a few times. It’s super relatable, the storyline is so cute, and the chemistry between the two main characters really works. Every time Alex S. makes a new movie, it just gets better—I’m obsessed.

Last ExMas dropped today, and… it was pretty underwhelming. That said, I did laugh throughout the movie because of the ridiculous plot progression and the physical comedy from the side characters. Usually, I’m into movies from The Gay Women Channel, but this one didn’t really meet my expectations.

What did you think?

Hello, members of the lgbt+ community! I am 14F that is unsure of her sexual orientation, but it can be massively annoying. I think I'm either straight or bi, but I'm not in a rush to decide now. Anyways, the main problem is my parents. I don't know if you have heard of it but recently the season 2 to finish the series "arcane" came out. It's a brilliant show, with one protagonist and two Deuteragonists (secondary characters). the protagonist and one of the deuteragonist are gay and are a couple (romantic subplot, not main plot). It's just really frustrating that whenever something REMOTELY lgbt+ related comes up, my mom starts go on about how "god made man and woman made for each other" and just being extremely homophobic. She even considered taking away my Netflix as a whole after she walked in on a kissing scene, even though Arcane is actually the first show I've ever watched and spent lots of time on. Another thing is multiple of my best friends are bi/gay, and I can't really invite them over in fear of my mom saying something homophobic. I just don't know what to do - it's not really a problem if I turn out to be bi, as I don't plan to even consider dating until college, and even so I probably wouldn't tell my parents, but it's more just annoying than anything. The fact that when they see a rainbow they say homophobic stuff in public, and the fact that I can't bring up anything lgbtq+ related in the house.

This is slightly unrelated, but my mom is very adamant about religion even though I personally am not Catholic or Christian I have to play along and go to church and pray to make her happy. She can also be racist at times.

Considering this is a parent-to-daughter relationship, do you think I should risk confronting my mother (and how) on her homophobic behavior or should I just continue as it is?

Note: if I haven't made it clear already,my mom's homophobic behavior is deeply rooted in her strong religion , which makes it even harder.

This happened a couple of days ago, and I’m still buzzing about it.

It doesn’t happen often, but my dad will sometimes mention me to his co-workers. He mostly works from home, and from what I’ve seen, he does a good job with my pronouns in DMs. When I came out as agender in January, my dad did not formally announce it to his co-workers, which will be relevant in a minute.

This past Monday, extenuating circumstances allowed my dad and I to go into his workplace for lunch. My dad’s workgroup will eat in the cafeteria together, and sure enough, we spotted his boss and one of his co-workers eating together. We asked to join them, and they agreed.

I know the names of the people in my dad’s group, but most of them I’ve only met once during a minor league baseball event. The coworker we sat down with was one such person: I knew who she was by reputation, and she knew who I was, but we couldn’t remember if we’d met face-to-face. As we pondered, my dad’s boss, an older straight white male, spoke up.

“Oh, you probably would have met them at the baseball game.” I didn’t say anything out loud about it, but when I realized he had gotten my pronouns right, it felt magical.

After lunch, I mentioned it to my dad. We determined that his boss must have picked up on the pronouns through casual conversation, something he is apparently good at. The fact that he managed to do that made me incredibly happy.

(21F) i am one of those types of people that want and prefer to have a label, so when times come around that i question my identity, it can be sometimes difficult for me.

long story short, i have a hard time picking whether the bisexual or pansexual label works best for me. and to why that is:

i feel attraction to all genders. it feels a bit limiting identifying as bi knowing that gender isn’t something that would cause me to not feel sexual attraction to anyone. if i feel sexually attracted, i feel sexually attracted, gender wouldn’t play a role into that.

HOWEVER, i find myself usually MORE sexually (and romantically) attracted to men. though, again, in general terms, gender doesn’t determine my sexual attraction. which is why i am having a hard time understanding which label best suits.. without defying its meaning.

So I have been finding myself attracted to guys for a while now but I still like girls too. So I’ve just shoved the feelings down and focused on girlfriends and stuff for a long time. But I am in college now and live with a bunch of good looking dudes and it’s getting harder to cope with my feelings and urges. I am part of a very hypermasculine world, all about sports and the gym, so I don’t even know how I’d explore who I am and what I want without causing myself problems in every aspect of my life. My dad would probably disown me even. Kinda just needing some advice and guidance I guess. Anyone want to be friends? Would be nice to have some friends I could talk to about this stuff, I have no one in my life who I wouldn’t feel judged by. I’m just feeling super suffocated, repressed and isolated. Feel free to message me if you want to be friends, it would definitely make me feel a lot better to have someone to talk to without being judged.

Bom, tava usando o Tinder, tudo normal, aí dei match com uma mina trans q me chamou p whats, até aí, ok. Me mandou fotos íntimas, etc, e vida que segue. Curiosamente, dps, me mandou uma mensagem falando q ia me expor por n querer pagar o programa e ficar me acusando, dizendo q ia me expor. Depois disso, respondi com um “sou assumido já e já vazaram meus nudes”. Dps disso tomei block. O problema, é que a imbecil deixou o número de celular dela como pix, e eu fui checar. Curiosamente, achei o nome e o insta dela. Em suma, caso ela recorra a me mandar mensagem de novo me ameaçando, eu posso entrar com um BO ou expor pra família. Sei que não vai dar nada, nem acho q vai voltar a me mandar mensagem pela minha indiferença, mas se inventar de me encher o saco, devo expor ela? Vi sobre um golpe parecido no Reddit mais cedo, acredito q não há possibilidade alguma disso ocorrer, enfim. Mas juro, que raiva desses vermes. Eu não quero problema pra minha cabeça, sinceramente, e provavelmente nem recebo mais nada, mas Tinder, essas coisas são inutilizáveis.

Bro my friend keeps trying to talk about men with me

Girlie

I’m a lesbian I have no idea

Men=no Women=yes lol sorry I have no one to talk to about this 😭

Hello!! For some background: I'm a 20y/o ftm guy, I'm self diagnosed as autistic, and I realized I like my friend who's also a 20y/o ftm guy who is autistic I'm gay and he is also gay, but has said he's a little bit aromantic, and he's an introvert (I'm posting here because I realize quite a bit of lgbtq+ people are nuerodivergent, so hopefully some of you can relate >_<)

Him and I quite frankly have ALOT in common, and at first (a year ago) I thought it was so cool to have a friend just like me in college! But then I recently realized i like him romantically.

I have no experience with dating or anything, and quite frankly I have no idea how to tell if someone likes me romantically or not without them blatantly telling me (and I assume he's the same LOL). After I realized I like him I've been trying look for signs and do things to show I care about him.

Here are some interactions I've had with him for you to decipher(if you want to lol): We both for two semesters have arranged to have some classes together! he would always wait outside the classroom for me so we could walk in together (which is so cute) we would walk to class together too

(this is before I realized I liked him)On my birthday, he got me something related to one of my interests- and it's something I've only mentioned only once or twice (which was super sweet) we then arranged plans to go to the mall together, and I remember thinking how much it felt like a date, I met his mom that day (we both don't have cars LOL) and she told me that he talks about me with her (which was so flattering!!)

After I realized I like him, I recided to make him a gift related to his special interest, in which was was VERY happy about- I noticed his hands were literally shaking haha and then he said "I was gonna say I love you but I don't want to make you uncomfortable" and laughed nervously and I was literally froze up because I had no idea what to say- so i laughed. After that, I noticed there were some pauses in our conversation- mainly because I was super nervous and excited and couldn't think of anything to say. Then I walked him to his next class and he high-fived me and seemed really happy, and this might sound a little weird but that was the first time we had physically touched each other (mainly cause I think we're both germaphobes and also nuerodivergent) and I felt a little closer to him after that.

Also- the gift interaction was in a library with people close by, so I didnt want to embarrass everyone in the room by trying to flirt after he said that LOL

We also made plans to go to a store that relates to our special interests together after finals!! Also for some context (I don't know if this is necessary to share or not, I apologize if not): he told me (before I realized I like him) that he's dated someone before, but that person hurt him and cheated on him. From what little stories about his life that he's told me, he's been hurt by a lot of people close to him, and didn't get shown love and affection that often.

I'm stuck on when I gave him the gift and he said he loved me- because I've had friends in the past that have said things like that when I've done things for them, so I don't know what kind of love he means! I know he's probably also happy that he has a friend so similar to him, so I don't know if he means it in a friend way or not

I'm aware the best thing to do is tell him, but I'm scared of ruining the friendship- especially because next semester we have three classes together and I don't want him to be uncomfortable around me if he doesn't feel the same.

All I want is for him to be happy and to be smiling all the time, I want to do things for him that make him happy.

(Sorry if this was a weird post, I kinda also just wanted to ramble about this to the void) TLDR: I have a crush on my friend with autism that has a lot in common with me, but I'm also very socially awkward.

I Work since nearly 7 years in the Same Store.When i started i looked very masculine because it was a time where i tried to hide it. In the Last years i came with Nail polish daily,my haircut ist also very feminine. They Just think im gay because i'm into Boys. I dont want to Change my Job because the Namething.

Recently I told my parents about how I want to change my name and stuff. They reacted well and were excepting and all that. In the letter I gave to them I had mentioned my gender dysphoria, they had talked about mabey getting me a therapist or someone who knows about gender and dysphoria. I do think this would be good for me, it's just that my gender dysphoria is not the worst. It can still get pretty bad at certain times but it is something I can deal with. I feel like there are people who would need resources like this more than me. It feels like someone else should get this resource, but I also feel like I need it as well, just not as much.

So, I'm considering going on T once I can afford it and have my life all together. BUT, I had questions about facial hair growth; specifically, I do have some dark upper lip hairs that have grown in by themselves, is that a good indicator that T would help me grow facial hair? Or not really? Also, anything you recommend for guys NOT on T that might help with some facial hair? (Besides using fake hair.. I've done that before since I'm a theatre kid :3)

So i have very strong feelings for someone who is 21. I am 25. He sees me as his elder brother. He has literally cried on my shoulders. We are not related but my brothers have known him for a while and he is basically family. He respects me a lot and shows it. I do my very best to be an elder brother to him but it breaks my heart into millions of pieces that i would never have what my heart desires. I know i should not be ashamed of my feelings but he comes over to our house 24x7 and literally sleeps with me sometimes. He tells me about his love interests and asks me for girl advice and so on. He does not know that i am queer. It is a different kind of torture having someone you want be so close to you yet not at the same time. I have never been jealous of other people but i am very envious of girls that get to be with him.

I have a genderfluid pin on the back of my work hat and this was the first customer to ever realize what it was. Unfortunately it was an old guy who proceeded to react how you'd expect him to.