She stood up for everyone. God bless her. What a platform to make a statement for everyone in this community 🙏😔❤️

I am a minor(13) MTF trans person living in Texas and after hearing stories of trans people having their passports stolen after requesting gender changes I no longer feel safe here. This is scarily similar to what the nazis did in the 1930's. I have removed evidence of me being trans from most of my social media's and I suggest that other trans people do the same.

Hi, I am non binary (he/they) and I am attracted to boys and I am currently using the term Toric (non binary’s liking boys) but I don’t feel Toric but I know I like boys. I like the term gay but I have been told it’s not for enbys, can I use it and still be accepted?

I am curious to know what kind of resources there are for transgender folks who are considering going underground or trying to store food, supplies or survival equipment for extreme emergencies.

I do not have access to any community or mutual aid resources in my area. I want to prepare for extreme economic collapse but I don't have the money to store food. I have some wilderness and foraging sills but it's not going to be enough.

Most prepper communities are heavily right leaning. If there is a community where I can learn basic survivor skills with others who recognize some of the unique needs that the trans community has, I am interested.

I'm just curious ngl

I have been so beat down recently and y’all could probably put together the number 1 thing I want rn. I need to know if there are psych hospitals that are specifically for lgbt. I either need help or I’m taking the easy way out. I’m tired. I can’t keep this up anymore. My mask that I put on day in and day out I don’t even have the energy for anymore. My facade is fading and everyone is seeing how tired I am, how worn down.

https://meditations-in-an-emergency.ghost.io/welcome-to-meditations-in-an-emergency/ I genuinely believe that things will get better, eventually.

I’m 19 now and have been in university for almost two years. Before university I lived in China and had some personal stuff so I never had the opportunity to date as a gay girl. I want to be loved, to experience romance and feel safe in someone’s arms. I crave it but at the same time I’m scared. Have I already fallen behind because I’ve never had any romantic experiences? How do I even meet people to date? I don’t look gay so people won’t assume.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to give I’m and use a dating app since I don’t really take photos and most people just want hookups not dates. Im in Bristol which doesn’t really have many gay clubs and stuff to my knowledge and even then I don’t know if I’d be able to approach people. I was wondering if anyone else went through this?

Warning political post regarding trans rights.

I don't know how many of you are aware, but the anti-trans executive order uses a justification of protecting and defending women. Personally as an American queer woman, I find this highly offensive. I want to encourage any American women who feel the same way, to feel free to copy and paste the language below onto their social media. Let the government know we don't want to be used to suppress trans people.

President Donald J. Trump I have recently read your Executive order titled “DEFENDING WOMEN FROM GENDER IDEOLOGY EXTREMISM AND RESTORING BIOLOGICAL TRUTH TO THE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT”. As an American woman, I don’t need to be defended by you or anyone else from gender ideology. My trans-sisters, brothers and non-binary siblings are not a danger to me or other women, and do not deprive us of our dignity, safety, or well-being.

Your executive order is bigotry veiled in the concern of women’s safety, and I reject being used to hide your bigotry. This order will not influence women's safety; that is simply an excuse you are using to discrimination against millions of Americans. And I for one, refuse to be silent.

guys, it will sound like something silly but my hair cause on me dysphoria for being medium/long (i can’t cut it shorter bc my family is homophobic and stuffs), how can i.. idk hide it or make it less apparent? with a hat?

I never wore makeup in my entire life and I despise it with every fiber of my being, I know that anything exaggerated might give me so much disphoria I won't be able to think of anything else or enjoy the wedding/party. Is there any picture of a girl wearing masculine makeup I can show to my makeup artist? Or perhaps a makeup style I can wear without making me feminine? I need help (if anyone can show examples I would be really glad, I'm ok with eyeliner, but nothing too big)

I was out with an LGBT hat....my homophobic aunt saw me there, talking with someone about how she just left church. We just a stared at each other from across the room. Oh my god, bro.

This is woman cheated on my uncle with the youth pastor, sis had a secret abortion

Yet she has the AUDACITY to stare me down because I'm with another boy at a pizza place with a rainbow hat.

I've always been a crazy person, but even I can't fathom the insanity of judging me off that shit. It's crazy!

I’m a bi girl in the way where I want a boyfriend and a girlfriend, but I want my girlfriend to have a boyfriend, and my boyfriend to also be dating my girlfriend’s boyfriend. My husband knows this, it’s a thought in the back of our minds that will probably never happen lol. We met young, so I never got to have a relationship with a woman. I just wonder what it would be like.

How can I tell my parents that I like women? I am a woman.

There's an image graphic that's been floating around for the past couple of months and it has a list of all of the genetic variations (XXY, XXXY, etc) that create 'men' and 'women' who don't match up with what their chromosomes would indicate.

It's a great reference for dealing with all of those trolls who say there are only male and female and it's an excellent example that biology is both complex and messy. Nature has no compulsion to fit neatly into human categories, and by extension, neither do gender or sexuality - human minds are complex systems, too.

But I can't seem to find the graphic.

I know I've seen it online recently. I know I've downloaded it. I know I have it somewhere. But I can't find it - has anyone got it?

Hi! I’m a lesbian woman living in San Francisco. I’m studying clinical mental health. One of my final projects is to identify an underserved population that we want to work with as future therapists. I chose the transgender community! Part of the project is to do a zoom or in person interview where I ask you about your lived experiences. To me, this assignment in nature pushes boundaries and is uncomfortable. I don’t know how I feel approaching a transgender person at a queer event and saying hey can I interview you. So yeah… if anyone feels called to help a girl out let me know :) ( and I’m sending peace to you during this dark political time).

edit: I realized right after posting this that my title implies binary people only. Non binary folks are also more than welcome. Thats my mistake and goes to show even more reason that I should be doing this project!

Hi everyone, this is my first post ever but feeling very in need of help in light of recent American politics. I struggle to read the news every morning, so I have been listening to a daily news podcast (Up First from NPR), but I have been disappointed by their lack of coverage of news that affects us trans people, especially our idiot president’s new policies on trans healthcare. Does anyone have any recommendations for American news podcasts covering trans news, preferably daily/weekly ones? Doesn't have to just be exclusively lgbt+ news. Any recommendations for print news outlets are also appreciated.

Hi. Pretty new to Reddit so I don't know all the rules etc but I really need some support. I've been told that Reddit can be an amazing resource. Please be gentle with me if I make mistakes and I will learn and correct. Not sure if this is the right sub to post on but here goes. It’s going to be a long one so buckle up.

Omg I just finished and scrolled back up. It’s going to be an essay so apologies but please help. I feel like all the context is needed for proper advice?

CW: talk of CPTSD, bullying, boomers 🫠, mentions of CA

Backstory for context: I have an autistic son who is about to turn 5 in a few weeks (He very much identifies himself as a boy atm). He has been enjoying wearing dresses, playing with princesses, doing his nails, all the more “feminine things” since he was about 2. He also does love masculine things too but is more drawn to the pink and glittery. His father and I have absolutely no issues with it. We buy him the dresses he wants, tell him that dressed are clothes, and clothes are for everybody. We tell him we love him no matter what and have never told him that he’s had to choose. We have a book called My Shadow is Purple and we read it at his request. We let him wear whatever he wants when we go out as long as it is weather and place appropriate. In this moment, we have not pushed any kind of gender identity. We just kind of let him take the lead in these conversations while providing books. We don’t want him to feel like he needs to fit in a box or choose anything or be defined in any way.

The issue: My mother in law lives with us. She is 80 and though she says she is an ally of lgbtq and trans, she often says trans and homophobic things. She doesn’t understand why we let our son dress how he wants and says that we are setting him up to be bullied and to be at risk. I think that she personally has a lot of past trauma from being made fun of or bullied for being different than others. I believe that she is also on the spectrum (undiagnosed), though masks a lot now so maybe has trauma from that kind of bullying or perhaps not being able to relate to some people? It’s very hard for her to understand people and things that don’t fit neatly in a box. She’s very much a rule follower and very rigid in beliefs. It’s incredibly hard to have conversations with her because she only listens to respond and not to understand and reflect. She turns everything into an argument and always has to be right.

We bought our house together in 2017 (none of us could afford a house on our own) and so we are all on the deed. We don’t have the money to move out or split. She carries a lot of the financial burden. She also helps a lot with childcare when the kids are sick and can’t attend school and also does almost all the cooking. My husband’s father passed while we were all living together and so she is alone. She moved down to our city with us and has few friends despite our trying to help her branch out. She does have her church friends but I think she’s more friends with them because she doesn’t have so much choice vs they’re her people. When we first started living together, it was a nightmare. It got worse for a while after my son was born. It wasn’t until about 6 months after I had my daughter that all of a sudden, we kind of came to an understanding and she backed off of my parenting and gave me space. We finally started started getting along and there has finally been some peace in the house and relationships are being mended. However, this one issues of my son wearing a dress is a HUGE one. She can’t let it go. I tell her that I’m not changing my position on this and will no longer engage in conversations with her about it. We can agree to disagree but I’m banning talks of this from the house ESPECIALLY in front of my son. Also, even if it’s not in front of him, I don’t want to have these talks with her because he can still feel it. Kids are so intuitive and hear everything even when you think they don’t. I also have a hard time talking about this calmly because of my own CPTSD and not being heard and validated when I was growing up. I had parents that abused me and never stood up for me as a person. They were always trying to change who I was.

Back to my son. Last yr at preschool, I noticed that he stopped wearing his dresses for a little time and I asked him about it. He said that he just didn’t want to wear it anymore. I asked if that was his decision or because someone said something. He said that he just changed his mind. I told him it was ok to change his mind if that’s how he felt but that he can always wear them whenever he wants and if someone is making him feel bad about it, it’s not ok. A month or 2 go by and I’m cleaning out his closet and removing things that don’t fit anymore. I asked him if he wanted his dresses still or to give them to his little sister. He said no and that maybe he could just wear them on the weekends. I asked him again if someone had said something to him and he said yes. He didn’t tell me who but that someone at his preschool had asked him why he was wearing dresses. We talked about how is allowed to wear whatever he wants and we practiced responses that he could say. Then it came out that he had also heard his Oma (my mother in law) say some things. We talked about how some other people don’t understand but they are not in charge of who we are and how we feel about how we want to dress. He said ok but was still reluctant to wear dresses.

I’m actually a teacher at his preschool so I asked his teachers about this and they said that this hasn’t been an issue. They had heard a question once but it sounded like a genuine question and not bullying. We also have other boys at our school that wear dresses. At this point, my child had already moved onto his TK class at his new elementary school. I spoke to his new teacher about the situation. The next day another child in his class came to school in a dress and other children had comments and questions about it. His teacher sent me a message letting me know the situation and they had an open talk about it and how clothes are just clothes and a way to express ourselves. There’s no gender in clothing. She then pulled my kid aside later and told him that if he wanted to wear dresses to school, he could and that she would watch out for him. The next day he wore a dress to school and I had never seen him so happy and himself. He wore dresses near daily until all of a sudden, he tapered off again. (End of Dec before break and Jan -now). I asked him about it again and he was very reluctant to talk about it. He said a boy in the older kinder class had asked him why he was wearing a dress and it made him feel embarrassed. I told him that means that person is still learning about expressing themselves. I asked about the tone of the question and my son wasn’t sure. I asked the question in a few different tones to see if it was a curious question or a “im making fun of you” type question. My son indicated that it was the curious question. He said he isn’t ready to wear dresses back to school but I can see the uncomfortability in his face and I’m heartbroken for him. What do I do? Do I let him make the decision about when he feels ready? Do I have another mtg with the school? (I’ve already alerted him teacher about what he’s said). Do I get more books? Also, he then told me that Oma sometimes says things and it makes him not want to wear dresses. I can’t get much more out of him at his moment but I also don’t want to push too hard. I’m so sad that he doesn’t feel safe in his own home.

A little more context: Since he is autistic, sometimes he has a hard time hearing the difference in people’s tones and understanding what that means. He’s incredibly bright and sweet but also introverted because I think he is often misunderstood by others. He has an aide in the evenings and weekends to help teach him skills to verbalize how he’s feeling and what he’s thinking in a way to get his needs met. Sometimes he has a very hard time verbalizing what he thinks and feels. He often avoids talking about feelings and it’s really hard to know how to support him. There are also times when it seems that his perception may not actually be what’s happening. So the situation is very really for him but not the same for others around him. He once told me that kids were being mean and pulling on him at school. I got sooo concerned but calmly asked oh! Why do you think they’re pulling on you. He then said, because they wanted me to play with them. So yes, they shouldn’t be pulling on him but it wasn’t necessarily the same malicious thing that he was thinking.

I’m at a loss for what to do here. Any advice would be sooo helpful. Especially with my mother in law. I don’t know what to do. I’ve shared articles about how it is harmful to not validate a person’s identity but it’s falling on deaf ears. If you’ve made it to the end, you’re a hero and deserve a sticker. Thank you.

Ok so I came out to my family as being nonbinary and preferring the female team (including trans, etc) like during the start of covid

I’m in my mid 30’s now and I haven’t dated in a long time (my last relationship was a hetero couple that turned out to not be good for either of us 🙃)

I’ve tried to deal with my issues and past experiences (going to counselling and gender therapy)

However trying to find someone to connect with is extremely hard where I live and I’ve tried a couple dating apps but it’s left me nowhere i felt comfortable

I don’t feel the need for a sexual relationship, I would prefer a platonic romance relationship and just a good deep snoozing on couches and wandering around hiking but i’m also find being alone as I struggle with the idea of being with someone after being so much older and having no energy for jumping through hoops

I’m trying to figure out what I need to improve more on myself but also how to not feel uncomfortable around people as a whole

Like I’m not going to date the first person who shows interest in me but I don’t know if maybe I’m just not meant to have a ‘person’? It hurts but I cannot make a soulmate from the emptiness

Does anyone know aside from dating apps (no thank you pls) how you meet people? I’m trying to get my mind off it but even 1 new friend would be nice to talk to