I started crushing on my friend a while ago, but before that I made a joke about making out with girl. He brought something up so I just made that remark, and now he thinks I’m gay. Like gay gay. How am I supposed to bring up in a conversation that I’m actually omni?

Hi, I just reread some of the comments my younger very much confused self made under some Pan and Omni flag Pinterest Posts, and it really gave me a flashback because I don't know but I really get sentimental when I think about the way I had to go until I realised I was Omni.

Soooo, if you're willing to share, where did it all start for you? What way did you have to go? How many other sexualitys did you thought you were, until you found out about Omni? Did you do any "am I pan, bi, or omni?" Quiz? Obviously this entire adventure isn't over yet, but I'd like to know how you are so far.

It's just a random lying awake in bed though, but I'd genuinely like to know

I was just scrolling in Instagram, minding my own business, wasting away my life, as I happen to come upon a video of a very pretty lady wearing a sports bra. The very much not so straight part of my brain is like- instantly stunned. I watch the video once or twice or twenty times until I realise I'm staring and hide in the comment section a bit ashamed. I scroll through some of the rather Queer and flirty comments and realise she reacts quite actively to them. I think- when I comment now- maybe I'll get a reaction from her. So I write, truthfully, "I just lost my train of thought, help". I'm not a native speaker, so my stupid brain start wondering: is "train of thought" something people actually say? I think about it and somehow my brain comes up with that memory from that movie I saw some years ago, that definitely deserves a rewatch. And I think- in the movie Inside Out (the first one), there was a train, transporting thoughts, wasn't there? And I realise- Oh my god- that was supposed to be the train of thought! My one braincell realised that NOW literally years after I first watched the movie. Satisfied in my question and amazed by the movie and how it manages to surprises me still years after, I send the comment, and leave the comment section, immediately greeted by the very pretty lady and her sports bra and AGAIN, it stunnes me so much that my phone slips out of my hand and, since I'm laying in bed and on my back, it lands directly in my face.

So what do I take from this?

1. Inside Out is a very good movie
2. My insta algorithm knows me pretty well
3. My past and future self should finaly shut up about the self doubts and whether I'm Omni or actually just doing this for the attention and secretly straight, because if I was straight my nose wouldn't hurt.

I don't know what this post is, but I wanted to share this stupid story so I hope you enjoyed. I'm gonna go te sleep now. Good night!

The title is kinda funny, but it’s an honest question. I mean, yeah, women can look good, but shouldn’t I have had a crush on one, or at least be able to see myself in a relationship with a woman? Is it weird that I can find women in fiction attractive but not really in real life? And why does it feel wrong to think about women in a romantic or sexual way? Help please; I’m 19, and this just turns my stomach every few days.

....what do you masturbate and fantasize about while you're still with your partner?

Here we go again. I've been here for what feels like a thousand times. Looking through my Pinterest "hot people" - Board, trying to prove to myself that I am who I believe to be. I mean- I know I am Omni. And I'm confident in that. I'm out to pretty much all my friends and family (with the exeption of my grandparents, but they'll find out soon enough, should I ever come along with a non male partner). I'm proud to be Omni, and I like to be Omni. The thing is, when I'm out on the streets, when I hang out with friends, when I'm at a Party, I know it’s okay to be me and I trust in the person I believe to be (general social anxiety and a tough case of social awkwardness aside).

But as soon as I am alone and at home, what is usually where I feel most comfortable, I start to wonder. Why is it, that I've never dated a girl? I laugh at myself. It's a stupid question, really, I've never really been out on a date with a guy either.

But- why is it, that there is literally no girl in my school I have a crush on? Apart from the two I did have a crush on, but obviously they don't count, because what the heck do I know, my mind makes up.

Why then- I wonder- why then do I always just crush on the guys in books, video games and Movies? EXCUSE ME?? What about Yuli, the cutest NPC ever to exist (Zelda Botw, at night she stands in a bar in Gerudo, at daytime she wanders over the market, wondering which mushrooms she should buy, and wishing she had enough jems to afford the jewelery (just maybe I followed her entire Ingame weeks just being obsessed with her, just maybe))?? What about Zuko's, excuse me, Lee's Date from Ba Sing Se (I have to admit I forgot her name, and she has only very little screen time, but I do very much fancy her)? What about Debora from Baby Driver (To be fair, I love her character, but that Crush is mostly based on Lily James just being Lily james)?

What I'm trying to say, I just keep sabotaging myself. I keep mentally kicking myself in the gutts, everytime I don't fancy a non-male person, and that’s just stupid. I spend hours just complaining to myself about how much I want to have a girlfriend. I sit at home and think about how pretty Humans are (generally I think about women and Nonbinary folk more often than guys tbh, but that's not important). I lay in my bed and wish I could (respectfully) place my hands on her hips and see if her lips are actually as soft as they look like. Sorry if this is a bit too much, I just have to get it out of my system. Just because I had next to no experience with being romantically involved with anyone in general, but especially non guys doesn't make my sexuality less valid. I know that. It’s just sometimes hard to believe it aswell.

And that's why I'm currently sitting on my couch, writing this half of a novel and looking at pictures of pretty humans, mentally shaking my hand and handing me a "well done" badge, everytime I loose my breath over a girl swirling around in a pretty dress, or showing off her muscles in a sportsbra, instead of studying for the chemistry Exam I'll have to write tomorrow.

Again, sorry if any of this was too much, I try my best not to get too over the top.

Idk but whenever I told someone I am Omni sexual they always connect with gay Why people don't know about omni sexual person if you ask anyone they most only know gay and BISEXUAL

Tell me what is the omni sexual mean to you

(PLEASE GIVE ADVICE)Honestly I'm just really nervous and I need some advice. I'm scared that my dad won't accept me and that my mom is going to play it off as admiration again. I tried telling my mom about my sexuality back when I was bisexual a few years ago and she said "honey, there's a difference between admiration and a crush". With my dad, we've had our situations and our relationship is strained as is. I don't want to ruin my relationship with him anymore. I know that I'm Omni and I want my parents to know. I just need help. If you have any advice, please share it thank you so much :)

Are you an undergraduate student who is attracted to multiple genders (e.g., bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual)? Are you currently online dating? If this sounds like you, I would like to hear from you! I am a doctoral candidate in Higher Education at Indiana University and I am conducting a digital ethnographic study on LGBTQ+ undergraduate students’ online dating (Approved IRB#23872, Indiana University-Bloomington) to better understand their experiences on campus.

For this study, I am seeking bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, and other multi-gender attracted undergraduate students who are:

• At least 18 years old
• Currently dating online (dating apps and/or social media platforms)

Activities for this study include (1) six biweekly journaling exercises focused on your online dating experiences over 12 weeks and (2) observations of your online dating/social media profiles. You will be compensated $5 for each journaling exercise completed, as well as receive $15 for observations of your social media and/or online dating profiles.

To indicate your interest in participating, please fill out this Interest Form.  Those who have completed this form and are selected to participate in the study will be contacted in October. If you have questions or concerns about participating in the study, please contact Olivia Copeland at ocopelan@iu.edu.

Hi. I'm a member of the Los Gibbities myself, so her coming out to me was no surprise, as I know my children well.

HOWEVER, there are alot more terms now than when I was young(20ish years ago) You were either gay, straight or bi. I was in my twenties when I discovered that I wasn't any of those either. (Pan) which changed my whole world at the time. Because bi just didn't FIT.

ENOUGH ABOUT ME.

My girl has gone from lesbian, to bi, to pan, and now to omni. And I don't know about it enough to have a conversation with her about it. I just pocketed it and Google searched. Which can be a little hairy sometimes, which is how I found this community.

Mind you she's 12, so she's still exploring herself, she isn't "active" yet, so it's all purely emotional for her, so she has a hard time explaining things to me about what it is to her, the omni part. And it's never easy having a conversation about these types of things with parents, I'm just a single mom trying her best here in an ever changing world.

Any advice on how to talk to her? Reassure her? Make her feel safe? Understood? I may add, when she told me, she cried, sayed she was worried I'd be angry, I sayed "no baby, it's OK, mommy is a little gay too sometimes" and I think that might have been a little crass 🫠 so I'm really trying to just back pedal from that weirdness and move into a new better conversation moving forward.

Please help. 🙏

how do I know what genders I'm not attracted to. There's too many to list and I'm so OCD about my level of attraction. and what is considered not a gender because there are things I am not attracted to (body hair even my own, tattoos, piercings, heck even people with less developed bodily features that they themselves cannot control but is still PERFECTLY VALID). i know there are folks that suggest don't worry about the labels but I want to feel happy with who I identify which is why I feel more in relation to the mspec identities than the plain umbrella term. still bouncing between Omnisexual and Polysexual so please offer me advice or validate me in some form ty <3

So for context I'm 23 I have previously had realtionships with people who use she her pronouns as well as others for example they them and he him I prefer dating women but I don't have sexually attraction to women trans or cis I don't currently identify as ace but I don't not because I am slightly attracted to cis men and trans men but in so confused help.

So I am a minor and I wanna get into non sexual dating but no one ever gets crushes on me and if they do there not my type and make me uncomfortable which sucks and I really just want to date someone and I don’t understand how to make connections like that and I live in Canada and am in highschool that’s all I’m saying and all the queer people I know aren’t my type are dating or younger then me and immature and it makes it so hard to date and even bad people I know have dates and even “gross” people do so I don’t understand why nobody likes me romantically like I’m literally in a setver on discord for queer youth and I haven’t had a date in fucking years I was like 10 when I boy I liked liked me back and even then we never got to dating and I feel left out I just wanna be like loved and stuff any tips on anything

Right. This may sound awful and full disclosure I have not had a partner in two years. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a month and feel like things are starting to get boring. We barely text other than goodnight and good morning, I don’t know what I am doing wrong. But I am also having trouble with my sexuality. Here’s the problem. I have only ever had one girlfriend back in 2020 to like 2021 ish. I ended the relationship as we moved apart and Covid hit we could barely see each other. I also had a lot of family stuff going on and I wasn’t in the right headspace. Over the past two years I have had on and of feelings for her as we maintained an online friendship. We would talk for two months and then suddenly stop for ages and then talk again. My boyfriend who we shall call Trent. (Not real name) Is very sweet. But I’m starting to loose feelings I think. I feel awful as I’m starting to consider that I’m omnisexual rather than bisexual. Unfortunately one major problem I can’t decide on my preference. I have mainly been with cis men and have only ever had one female relationship, but I have had more crushes on women. That haven’t gone anywhere. Lately I’ve been thinking more about relationships with women and i feel awful for it, I know I’m supposed to only focus on him. I know it’s wrong and I should just be focusing on this relationship rather than imagining myself with a women, but I can’t help it. Should I break up with him? I’m scared and I don’t want to hurt him. Also I’m a complete closet case as my extremely British highschool isn’t very kind and my friend group itself isn’t the most comfortable to talk about relationships. Only my best friend and obviously my ex girlfriend know that I am ‘bi’ if I even am. I’m scared and I feel like a disgusting human being currently and I beg for help 😭😭

Update: I gave it a lot of thought and ended up breaking up with him. He didn’t seem upset, I made sure he knew it wasn’t his fault and it was my feelings. I couldn’t keep on like that. Thanks everyone 💜

Are you an LGBTQ+ undergraduate student? Are you currently online dating? If this sounds like you, I would like to hear from you!

I am a doctoral candidate in Higher Education at Indiana University. I am conducting a digital ethnographic study on LGBTQ+ undergraduate students’ online dating (Approved IRB#23872, Indiana University-Bloomington) to better understand their experiences on campus.

For this study, I am seeking LGBTQ+ undergraduate students who are:

• At least 18 years old
• At least in their second year of college
• Currently dating online (dating apps and/or social media platforms)

Activities for this study include (1) six biweekly journaling exercises focused on your online dating experiences over 12 weeks and (2) observations of your online dating/social media profiles during the 3-month data collection period. You will be compensated $5 for each journaling exercise completed, as well as receive $15 for observations of your social media and/or online dating profiles.

To indicate your interest in participating, please fill out this Interest Form. Those who have completed this form and are selected to participate in the study will be contacted in September-October.

If you have questions or concerns about participating in the study, please contact Olivia Copeland at ocopelan@iu.edu.

I wish people knew omnisexual doesn't always have a preference it can just be that gender plays a role in the attraction.

So the main issue is that I like this guy and I want to ask him out. But I have been rejected so many times before and now I’m starting to become hesitant. I met him 2 years ago when he was dating a friend’s friend (who I wasn’t close with) and quickly found that out and immediately stopped talking to him and tried to move on. Recently I found out that they are now longer dating and I still find him really attractive so I started crushing again. I was set on asking him out the first couple weeks after I found out (I’m extremely impatient). But then I thought about his ex and how she was beautiful and I now feel self conscious and unworthy. I still like him, I still want to ask him out but at the same time I’m stuck. I guess what I’m really asking for is a hype man, advice, and wisdom for this situation.

All light hearted of course I tell her what it is later :)

I remember that before pandemy, there was a difference between bisexuality, polysexuality, omnisexuality and pansexuality. I still believing that there is a difference, am i more "conservative" for that?

I remember that bisexuality was defined like "the atracction to both (binary, cis) genders". polysexuality was defined like "the atracction to some or many genders but not all genders". omnisexuality was "the atracction to all genders, but with a preference, or different kind, grade or intensity of atracction of every gender" and pansexuality was like "the atracction to all genders, without difference" or "blind to gender".

I mean that the classic difference between bisexuality and omnisexuality was that bisexuality was the atracction to only cis men and cis women, and that omnisexuality and pansexuality included trans and NB people.

Am i wrong or more "conservative" for believing yet in that difference? Is my opinion valid?

So… gender is sorta a factor in my attraction, maybe…? I find gender to be another beautiful part of a person, but it’s not a deciding factor. Sometimes I crave specific things from specific genders despite being attracted to them all in the same way (e.g. the emotional softness with a woman, or sex with anyone who has a dick, DON’T QUOTE ME ON THIS BECAUSE IT CHANGES ALL THE TIME!!!). I would count my “preference” as being “fluidflux”, it changes from one gender to the next and sometimes it doesn’t exist at all. When I get a crush on people, it just happens. They do or say something attractive or look attractive and suddenly I have a crush on them and want to do all the romantic and sexual thing with them. You know?

I feel like I’m walking the tightrope between pan and Omni, and I’m not sure what I am.

so basically i noticed that i’m omniromantic with a male pref but i’m still questioning myself about my sexuality. i’d say i like every gender or non gender but i wouldn’t say i’m pansexual cuz i’m not gender blind (sorry for using this word). when it comes to sexual attraction, i don’t have a preference tho. could i still be omnisexual without a preference?