Someone over on Twitter tried to rope me into the "define a woman" argument so I started building a theoretical room and with each addition I would ask if this would be considered a room instead of answer their question. They were not happy at the end.

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So I’m moving to a new city. I have lived in the same city most of my life and most of my queer friends and community I’ve known since high school. I am now nearly 30. So how do I go about meeting new friends and finding a new queer community to be in. This is such a big change for me and my partner and I are moving there for work. I’m just not really sure where to start since I’ve know my community most of my life especially since I want to be in a queer community.

I am F18 and recently I've been considering I may be bisexual. I remember a year ago or so I first had this thought when I saw this woman at a nail salon and was really allured to her. I thought she was beautiful and she actually told me she thought I was pretty and I felt super flustered. I didn't really think too much of it but I find this has been happening more often with random people. I can't tell if it's actually attraction though or admiration for their beauty. My whole life I've considered myself straight (I am attracted to men, at least physically) but also I've never really had a deep emotional connection with one so now I'm just confused.

I grew up in a household that is not super pro LGBTQ+ (not against it but also not for it if that makes sense), so I wonder if that's making me subconsciously think it's wrong for me to have attraction to women (to be clear -- I am obviously pro LGBTQ+ rights 100% just thought I should mention these are the conditions I was raised under). I've had deep connections with women in the past (and made out with some of them before) but I wouldn't say they ever exceeded platonism and we were moreso just messing around.

Anyways, any advice? I guess life experience will give me more to grapple with I just don't know what to do with this so I was wondering if anyone has been or is in the same situation.

I have been gay my entire life. Sub/bottom. Gay mannerisms.

2023-I began to find women attractive but only for very small bursts. Off and on. Sometimes the feeling would lay dormant for months.

2024-I no longer wanted to be submissive. Feelings towards women became stronger and lasted longer.

Fast forward to September of this year and since then it seems I am now exclusively attracted to women. I can't make myself attracted to men at all.

I masturbate thinking of women. They occupy my thoughts and carnal desires. It's mind blowing.

This is not good because everyone knows me as gay. If I wanted (and I do, desperately) to pursue a relationship with a woman she would most likely find out about me being gay and I'm certain that would be an issue.

What the fuck do I do. This is worst than when I was 14 and struggling my sexuality.

I am 40.

Sooo as a young girl my religious parents would constantly tell me, especially my dad, that I would grow up to marry a man when I turn 21. It’s kinda always been like that. So I’ve envisioned this shadowless mysterious man my whole life. Recently I feel like I like women (?) but I don’t really feel comfortable calling myself gay or whatever in public, I just like being me. I have a hard time with telling myself I actually like women, yea I joke about it, but it’s hard to fathom considering my future. My sister points out that, I like mainly (fictional) feminine looking men and celebrities that I can distance myself away from, but when I think about having a actual relationship with a guy, it makes me feel weird, and gross. Kissing a guy? Being intimate? Being romantically involved with a guy? Eugh. I’m not sure I’m fully lesbian or whatever because of this, and I’m not too keen on calling myself comphet either. In school one time I faked to my friends that I liked a guy, when I really picked one at random, but I just think of him as a somewhat funny guy and a decent friend. I’m actually more so admire him because he’s crazy talented and really nice. It’s weird because I can’t relate at all to my friends, and I want to badly. It hurts that I’m a minority too, because I’m not sure how other religious minorities feel because I don’t really live in a diverse area. I’m just really stuck. My babas always telling me that my greatest legacy is making a family, but I don’t think I want that.

I've been dating a guy for over a year, actually 14 months, and then recently he said he's not ready for something like a relationship but he still likes me. He treated me as we were a couple which led me to love him a lot. I found out he is still texting different guys and using Tinder. Today, I texted him to stop because I no longer want to hurt myself. My feeling is collapse inside right now and I really love him. Did I make it right?

[EDIT] I had a few conversations with him before about that I asked him what are we, do you need a relationship, and some kind of these questions but I tried to avoid them, he said I was still not overcome because he had a bad relationship before. I decided to wait for him until now and then he told me he is still not ready for that, now I have broken my heart.

Has anyone gone through something like this?

I currently live in Texas but I'm looking to move, I've used chatgpt and it's given me some answers but that doesn't have personal experiences or opinions. I've had an interest in the PNW and New England areas, Tennessee & Kentucky have also sparked my interests. I love forests, mountains, and wooded areas, I want to do more hiking and camping. If anyone has lived in these areas and can provide their experiences of being/living there that would be greatly appreciated.

I just don't. I don't want to get used to the idea. I won't want to be persuaded. I've been thinking it through for years. But still haven't changed my mind. Is it "internalized homopohbia", I don't know. It just doesn't feel like the real me. It doesn't feel like something I'd want to do with anyone

But somehow I feel I'm not "adequate" gay because of it.

I feel like my dream of finding a livelong, monogamous partner is considerably harder, due to this. Maybe even unreachable. Do I really need to force myself to do something I never wanted to do? To get accepted

To me it seems that the attitude is, that I'm just "not there YET". And that it's "internalized homophobia."

But there's lots of straight women who don't want to do this. Even when their man might. I saw a national survey where only 7% of straight women actually like it. A little more could do it, but didn't enjoy it much. And big portion didn't want it at all. But they don't have "internalized phobia", women are used to men sticking stuff into them. It doesn't "emasculate" them or anything like that. They just simply dislike it the idea

How common is it to think like me? And is it always gays who fully "haven't come to grips with their sexuality"

First of all, I am totally new to this topic. I am a male and have never had sex before. Lately I am going through a phase where having an identity crisis makes me nervous and a bit desperate, between wanting to be bisexual, gay, or transwoman. The thing that makes me so curious is how is the sexual experience especially in the submissive position and/or bottom position?

I'm a 20 year old recovering former mega conservative Christian and a pansexual (I call myself gay cuz I generally have no intention of dating women). Due to being sheltered and abused I don't know how to do this whole romance thing and have really only been flirted with once by two annoying teens. Iam a virgin and don't think anyone could like me. What am I supposed to think in this situation?

im not sure if this is the right place to ask but i’m going to anyways. i’m looking for this meme or it’s really two different memes but one of the pictures was like 3 or 4 white twinks posing for a camera and on the bottom is was like 3 or 4 latino gays posing for the camera. the reason i’m trying to find it is cause i randomly remember the meme when someone quoted it on twitter saying “weho gays vs 340 gays” and if your from the LA area you’ll know why that’s funny as fuck

I need some help

I (M17) am gay but in the closet and not quite ready to come out yet. I would say that I am quite obviously gay to the majority of people but still I’m not that keen on coming out yet. There is a boy at school (same age) who is very good looking and very much my type. But he is quite confusing as he definitely could be gay or bi but it’s difficult to tell as he does show signs of interest in me but acts quite straight. He does live in the same small town as me too. Reasons for him having an interest in me:

1. I have caught him on a number of occasions looking at me over the past year. Sometimes I will look at him, catch him looking, and I will look away again, kind of like a sweeping motion to be discreet. But sometimes I lock eye contact with him and he keeps looking and usually I am the first to look away ( I don’t know why I do this I guess it just feels awkward)
2. I feel like he tries to get near me whenever he can. One time we were put in a group together with about four others and almost every time we had to meet to do the project he sat next to me. We had another event where he sat next to me at the beginning for quite a while (and we touched our thighs together a number of times which I liked). Another time in the night he sat opposite me. Sometimes in class he also tries to sit near me
3. He tries to include me in conversation sometimes with his friends (which are boys so I don’t really mingle with them that often
4. He has stood up for me a few times when I was being teased by his guy friends for being gay

Reasons against him being gay and liking me:

1. He is quite masculine as he mainly hangs around with a group of guys and plays sports and video games - which apparently he is really good at football.
2. He has expressed interest in one of my girl friends although part of me thinks this might be to get closer to me but that might just be my gay delusion talking.
3. Maybe he is just being kind and friendly and isn’t into me at all

I don’t think he would say to anyone if I told him I liked him but it would be embarrassing if I got rejected and had to spend the next year and a half being around him in school. Do you think he’s into me? Any advice? Sorry for the life story btw

F20 - English is not my first language:) If I get turned on by sapphic porn, does that mean I like women? I've always liked men and have never really quiestioned it. I don't know if what I've mentioned before and the fact that I'm wondering about this means that I like women or it could mean absolutely nothing.

Hello, i hope this will reach to people with knowledge because i am so tired of being ashamed of myself. I am a lesbian girl and im 17, im from ...... and its not safe for you if you are a queer person or a woman, and im both. I come from a muslim family so i never had the chance to explain my sexuality to someone. And i am acting like i am muslim, i am hijabi and i dont want it. I know its disrespectful for muslims and please forgive me but i need to be in disguise for my family's acceptence. Im so sick of not being able to live how i want, if i were to openly live my life as a queer person i could be abused and even murdered in ...... And everyday women are in danger because of lack of law here. I am planning to leave for college abroad. Or by anything as long as its legal. Is there any kind of service or somewhere that i can get help? Please do not mock me or make fun of me because of my poor knowledge. I just want to be safe and be myself in a people friendly enviroment. I deleted where im from because i dont wanna get in trouble.

Hello here (22M), I’m a Vers, recently I started to dating a guy who I really like, he is a 21M top, honestly I enjoy the sex a lot. However I been feeling my clothes looser, I think because I haven’t eating much out of fear of making a mess. I really have a great time during the sex but I need to eat, what can I do?