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A free area for the discussion of issues facing those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and all other sexual or nonsexual orientations and/or gender identities. Post links to articles, self-posts, photographs, experiences and whatever else is important to your experience of queer life. We encourage you to treat others with respect, start and/or engage in robust discussion and interact with the community. The more we know each other, the better we'll get along.

  1. A free area for the discussion of issues facing those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and all other sexual or nonsexual orientations and/or gender identities. Post links to articles, self-posts, photographs, experiences and whatever else is important to your experience of queer life. We encourage you to treat others with respect, start and/or engage in robust discussion and interact with the community. The more we know each other, the better we'll get along.

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    As of July 2015 we are piloting a new guideline; until we have more precise language, please don't be an asshole. Free expression can only happen when everyone in the community feels empowered to contribute, and behaviors that disempower and silence do more to create an echo chamber than even the heavy-handedest of moderator actions. If you are acting like an asshole to a member of this community, the moderators reserve the right to extend a seven-day temporary ban as a cooling off measure.


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    not entirely sure what I am

    Sooo as a young girl my religious parents would constantly tell me, especially my dad, that I would grow up to marry a man when I turn 21. It’s kinda always been like that. So I’ve envisioned this shadowless mysterious man my whole life. Recently I feel like I like women (?) but I don’t really feel comfortable calling myself gay or whatever in public, I just like being me. I have a hard time with telling myself I actually like women, yea I joke about it, but it’s hard to fathom considering my future. My sister points out that, I like mainly (fictional) feminine looking men and celebrities that I can distance myself away from, but when I think about having a actual relationship with a guy, it makes me feel weird, and gross. Kissing a guy? Being intimate? Being romantically involved with a guy? Eugh. I’m not sure I’m fully lesbian or whatever because of this, and I’m not too keen on calling myself comphet either. In school one time I faked to my friends that I liked a guy, when I really picked one at random, but I just think of him as a somewhat funny guy and a decent friend. I’m actually more so admire him because he’s crazy talented and really nice. It’s weird because I can’t relate at all to my friends, and I want to badly. It hurts that I’m a minority too, because I’m not sure how other religious minorities feel because I don’t really live in a diverse area. I’m just really stuck. My babas always telling me that my greatest legacy is making a family, but I don’t think I want that.

    1 Comment
    2024/12/04
    02:37 UTC

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    He's "not ready for a relationship"

    I've been dating a guy for over a year, actually 14 months, and then recently he said he's not ready for something like a relationship but he still likes me. He treated me as we were a couple which led me to love him a lot. I found out he is still texting different guys and using Tinder. Today, I texted him to stop because I no longer want to hurt myself. My feeling is collapse inside right now and I really love him. Did I make it right?

    [EDIT] I had a few conversations with him before about that I asked him what are we, do you need a relationship, and some kind of these questions but I tried to avoid them, he said I was still not overcome because he had a bad relationship before. I decided to wait for him until now and then he told me he is still not ready for that, now I have broken my heart.

    Has anyone gone through something like this?

    3 Comments
    2024/12/04
    00:23 UTC

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    Thoughts on PNW, New England, Kentucky, Tennessee Areas?

    I currently live in Texas but I'm looking to move, I've used chatgpt and it's given me some answers but that doesn't have personal experiences or opinions. I've had an interest in the PNW and New England areas, Tennessee & Kentucky have also sparked my interests. I love forests, mountains, and wooded areas, I want to do more hiking and camping. If anyone has lived in these areas and can provide their experiences of being/living there that would be greatly appreciated.

    10 Comments
    2024/12/03
    20:40 UTC

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    sexual experience questions

    First of all, I am totally new to this topic. I am a male and have never had sex before. Lately I am going through a phase where having an identity crisis makes me nervous and a bit desperate, between wanting to be bisexual, gay, or transwoman. The thing that makes me so curious is how is the sexual experience especially in the submissive position and/or bottom position?

    2 Comments
    2024/12/03
    09:06 UTC

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    Help me find this meme

    im not sure if this is the right place to ask but i’m going to anyways. i’m looking for this meme or it’s really two different memes but one of the pictures was like 3 or 4 white twinks posing for a camera and on the bottom is was like 3 or 4 latino gays posing for the camera. the reason i’m trying to find it is cause i randomly remember the meme when someone quoted it on twitter saying “weho gays vs 340 gays” and if your from the LA area you’ll know why that’s funny as fuck

    2 Comments
    2024/12/02
    22:06 UTC

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    Need dating advice (M17)

    I need some help

    I (M17) am gay but in the closet and not quite ready to come out yet. I would say that I am quite obviously gay to the majority of people but still I’m not that keen on coming out yet. There is a boy at school (same age) who is very good looking and very much my type. But he is quite confusing as he definitely could be gay or bi but it’s difficult to tell as he does show signs of interest in me but acts quite straight. He does live in the same small town as me too. Reasons for him having an interest in me:

    1. I have caught him on a number of occasions looking at me over the past year. Sometimes I will look at him, catch him looking, and I will look away again, kind of like a sweeping motion to be discreet. But sometimes I lock eye contact with him and he keeps looking and usually I am the first to look away ( I don’t know why I do this I guess it just feels awkward)
    2. I feel like he tries to get near me whenever he can. One time we were put in a group together with about four others and almost every time we had to meet to do the project he sat next to me. We had another event where he sat next to me at the beginning for quite a while (and we touched our thighs together a number of times which I liked). Another time in the night he sat opposite me. Sometimes in class he also tries to sit near me
    3. He tries to include me in conversation sometimes with his friends (which are boys so I don’t really mingle with them that often
    4. He has stood up for me a few times when I was being teased by his guy friends for being gay

    Reasons against him being gay and liking me:

    1. He is quite masculine as he mainly hangs around with a group of guys and plays sports and video games - which apparently he is really good at football.
    2. He has expressed interest in one of my girl friends although part of me thinks this might be to get closer to me but that might just be my gay delusion talking.
    3. Maybe he is just being kind and friendly and isn’t into me at all

    I don’t think he would say to anyone if I told him I liked him but it would be embarrassing if I got rejected and had to spend the next year and a half being around him in school. Do you think he’s into me? Any advice? Sorry for the life story btw

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    2024/12/02
    20:58 UTC

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    Doubts about my sexuality

    F20 - English is not my first language:) If I get turned on by sapphic porn, does that mean I like women? I've always liked men and have never really quiestioned it. I don't know if what I've mentioned before and the fact that I'm wondering about this means that I like women or it could mean absolutely nothing.

    1 Comment
    2024/12/02
    05:20 UTC

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    How can i leave? Is there a way i can get help?

    Hello, i hope this will reach to people with knowledge because i am so tired of being ashamed of myself. I am a lesbian girl and im 17, im from ...... and its not safe for you if you are a queer person or a woman, and im both. I come from a muslim family so i never had the chance to explain my sexuality to someone. And i am acting like i am muslim, i am hijabi and i dont want it. I know its disrespectful for muslims and please forgive me but i need to be in disguise for my family's acceptence. Im so sick of not being able to live how i want, if i were to openly live my life as a queer person i could be abused and even murdered in ...... And everyday women are in danger because of lack of law here. I am planning to leave for college abroad. Or by anything as long as its legal. Is there any kind of service or somewhere that i can get help? Please do not mock me or make fun of me because of my poor knowledge. I just want to be safe and be myself in a people friendly enviroment. I deleted where im from because i dont wanna get in trouble.

    5 Comments
    2024/12/02
    03:27 UTC

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    I'm a bottom but I don’t want to stop eating

    Hello here (22M), I’m a Vers, recently I started to dating a guy who I really like, he is a 21M top, honestly I enjoy the sex a lot. However I been feeling my clothes looser, I think because I haven’t eating much out of fear of making a mess. I really have a great time during the sex but I need to eat, what can I do?

    5 Comments
    2024/11/30
    18:48 UTC

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    looking to support minority-owned businesses this black friday/cyber monday

    hey y’all, with black friday and cyber monday upon us, i’m on the hunt for deals from minority-owned businesses (Black-owned, disability-owned, woman-owned, LGBTQ-owned, etc.) supporting these businesses is super important to me, and i’d love to know where you’re shopping or any deals you’ve come across. thanks!!!

    7 Comments
    2024/11/29
    23:52 UTC

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    looking to support minority-owned businesses this black friday/cyber monday

    0 Comments
    2024/11/29
    23:47 UTC

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    I crave dick

    I'm pansexual and recently I've been literally craving dick (like the taste of it) I don't really know why, what's wrong with me?

    4 Comments
    2024/11/29
    20:10 UTC

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    Is it safe texting with someone in Telegram??

    So I met a person who I’ve been texting with from Tiktok and then one day he insisted me to text him on Telegram. I never use Telegram before , it is safe to texting with someone in Telegram?? Pls any advice??

    1 Comment
    2024/11/28
    01:22 UTC

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    How can I know if he likes me at all?

    Hi, Y'all.

    I've got a friend, my best friend, actually. I'm 21M and he's 20M, but the age gap is just 29 days, he'll be 21 on 05/12. We met in a party 2y ago, and he was the friend of a friend, we never thought we'd be this close, but he sleeps in my house, loves my cooking, we got the same music taste, like the same movies and I met his grandma yesterday. GOSH WE EVEN SHARE THE SAME NAME and I got him a job (I'm his boss, actually). We stay up late looking at IG reels and laughing, drinking and such. We're comfortable enough for fart and burp in front of each other, share the deepest secretes.

    I feel terrible for this, but I actually noticed I liked him in the start of his last breakup, he'd spend much more time here, drink more often and not want to drive home drunk, so we'd sleep in the same bedroom more days of the week, and when they finally broke up, I couldn't feel sorry for him, I thought it was my chance, so I could never really help through it all, even more when he wants to get back with her.

    I know it's extremely selfish of me, and maybe he just needed someone to talk to, and maybe I got the idea that he liked me because I never really had guy friends. But the way we laugh at the dumbest shit together, or when he tries to make me laugh by tickling my nose, it's just so fucking confusing, cause later when I suggest any possibility, he's like "f u gross" or "f word" and deny ever being bi, even thought we kissed twice already, and in front of others, but never did anything by ourselves.

    (We keep work and real life very separate, in fact)

    I really just needed to vent, but any help will be appreciated. So, Am I trapped in a "Too scared to make a move" kinda situation or is it all just in my head and we're just bros?

    2 Comments
    2024/11/28
    04:14 UTC

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    any lgbt folks in the east orlando area?

    Hello, this might be a shot in the dark, but I'm willing to try anyways.

    I'm looking for some new roommates in the East Orlando area (near UCF), since my old roommates are moving out. It's been a tough search especially because we're all trans/lgbt and trying to find respectful/accepting roommates.

    I've tried a lot of places but gotten nothing yet. If anyone is in the area and looking for a place to stay, please don't hesitate to reach out to me in comment or DMs.

    Thank you for reading! Here's the housing information:

    I have a private room open. You will share the bathroom with one other person. It has a window and a closet with substantial space. There is a hallway closet as well.

    The lease is year-long. The rent is $800 per month plus utilities. Pets are allowed with fee. Has a kitchen, pantry closet, refridgerator, dishwasher, stove/oven, washer/dryer in-unit, and a backyard.

    The house is 10 mins from UCF, 10 mins from Waterford. It is 3 bed/2 bath. I have one cat.

    3 Comments
    2024/11/27
    23:38 UTC

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    Anyone to chat about my sexuality and there’s

    dm me if you want to chat, explore and chill

    0 Comments
    2024/11/27
    20:16 UTC

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