So I’m in a weird place. I’m definitely way more attracted to women. But I am also a submissive bottom. I’m curious if you saw a lacy thong or anything like that at a bar would you be turned on or turned off? Or don’t really care? How about lingerie as a whole? I like when I am in lace and generally more feminine clothes. I like wearing sports bras and thongs to bed and lacy bralettes and thongs durning the day. I’ve never flirted or done anything like that in person with a guy before. Just some hookups from Grindr.

Posting this on my alt because idek what to do anymore im so overwhelmed and just need opinions/advice/help. I think im bi/pansexual and im ok just need a lot of help and someone to talk it through with. A quick summary of my story can be summed bellow

When I was just graduating high school I was your stereotypical jock straight man. I loved sports and just was overall a very masculine man. Over the next year 18-19 looking back there was some small changes but nothing major to pick up on but I started noticing small things like I started to become a bit more timid and to myself and became less of a let’s hookup and fuck guy and more of let’s cuddle soft boy who’d still do the same things just very different personality. Once I turned 19 this is when I started noticing big changes and felt myself becoming more feminine/bi. I had began hating seeing hair on my body/face and pretty much started shaving myself all the time. I started to distance myself from homophobic friends. I began to notice difference in the porn I watched and experimented with trans/femboy stuff and liked it(also still watched straight stuff lol). Then in public I saw me catch myself looking at asses and they weren’t girls and they were guys and didn’t feel like I was wrong and slowly thought oh wtv an ass is an ass. Eventually started realizing about 7 months ago that maybe I wasn’t straight and it wasn’t some fetish but I didn’t really have anyone to come out to. At this point in time I was completely in denial and just kept telling myself it was a faze and I was straight. The last 7 months are the real rollercoaster. I’ve still gotten with females but have been more interested in feminine men then ever before. I cut off anyone in my life that’s homophobic(pretty much every male friend I had) and just tried to be my true self. I tried to accept myself but felt like I was still living a double life until 2 weeks ago this all changed. One of my platonic female friends had some of her friends over 10-15 of us a few guys mostly girls to just chill and watch tv. One of them is a flirt gay (this is important). Night was fine but eventually the girls asked some of the guys to get them coffee and me and him went because I was just trying to be nice and so was he. We got in his car and he pecked my check and I started blushing and he turns to me and says trust me I know you and started laughing. I felt really embarrassed and then he convinced me to hook up with him and I’m ngl it felt completely normal and I loved it. I asked him to please keep this between us and he agreed and said dw I like the fun of it being my little secret. Ever since then I’ve been thinking I’m bi but I’m attracted to femine oriented people and have started to become feminine oriented myself as more habits,behaviours lead towards traditional feminine activity. I don’t live in an open accepting household and if I came out I’d get shamed. I just need people to talk me through this because I’m really been stressing out over this and is coming my life. Is it so wrong I just want to live a life I’m scared to win. I just want people to like me for who I am, not who I feel obligated to pretend to be.

If anyone has any comments or just can offer to talk to me it’d be huge and I’d love it. More than anything I have lots of weight on me and just want to release it and be myself to someone at least!

…. So. I was with girls in HS and had 2 long term girlfriends.

Now that I’m at college, I’ve been discretely blowing hung straight/curious guys in my room.

I don’t want a boyfriend. But I love being submissive and pleasing them. I feel like hung guys deserve to be worshipped. I never need anything in return. It’s all about them.

I’ve been with 5 guys since sept. 2 were only one time. The other 3 have been multiple. Including a really good close friend. I go to school in Boston so there is a ton of horny college guys… just hard to find legit hung…

I’m literally obsessed about big cocks and balls. To me there is nothing me erotic.

I guess I’m bi now…. Or somewhere in between. I don’t know. It doesn’t really matter.

Just wondering if any others feel the same way about certain guys..

I am 20m and only had sex with other men. It is great. Thanks to nature of male sex and grinder it is extremly easy to just have fun and relatively easy to have fun with someone who looks good. I would like to try women, but have no idea how to do it because it is so much harder. Any advice?

I think I'm sexually attracted to girls as well but it's really really confusing idkkk

i’m never happy, i like dick more sexually but women are so much more attractive in the face. cant make up my mind (i bottom with men) anyone else deal with this?

Told my wife that I'm interested in trying out the same sex I was surprised by how supportive she was I always feared she would have left me can't believe I'm married to someone wonderful. who's happy to help me after coming out to her I feel like a great weight is lifted off my shoulders. I wouldn't mind trying something with a guy it's just so hard to find someone you can trust. I've only told a few handful of people about me coming out haven't told my family I believe they will disown me and treat me like crap I told my best friend and he was very supportive which surprised me. sometimes I feel your closest friends are more family than your real family

I want to ask you what does feel better. If you had to chose only one what would it be? And I am asking without any context of given gender, just what would you rather penetrate and suck/lick.

So I’m pretty sure I’m bi - committed to a wonderful woman so I’m not going to be testing this much further, but I enjoy gay porn, I like playing with a dildo and getting pegged, and the one time I sucked a dude off I really enjoyed so make of that what you will.

My question is this - is it a common thing for guys to have a stronger urge than normal to want to bottom when sleepy/tired?

Most nights if I’m physically exhausted I really feel like I want to get fucked and my attraction to guys goes way up. Does anyone else experience this?

Hear me out. So I’ve had a girlfriend in high school but we only went as far as oral. Then I’ve dated with men only. I’ve slept with hundreds of men, and three women (all one nights).

I have no desire to be in a relationship with a woman, I just don’t find the naked female body attractive at all. But I love the sensation of being inside a vagina. I have fucked so many different asses but only one or two came close to a vagina imo in terms of how it grabs the dick. Does it make sense?

57, long time happily married. Wife has never been very open sexually. Over the last 5 years or so she has had some medical issues and our sex life is now non existent. So masterbation has become my mistress. I have been on several apps and scroll porn more often now than ever. I think the denial of sex and my age has opened my mind to acceptance and experimentation. But my wife has no clue and there's no way she would ever understand. I wouldn't want anyone else I know to learn of my new sexual exploits either. So I keep it private and enjoy the people I meet online. But it's a cautious journey. How is it that I have no attraction to men but have extreme attraction to cocks, especially shaved, shemales, Trans, men in panties, passable crossdressers. Maybe I transitioned as I had a dominant mom and in adulthood have always been attracted to larger dominant women with large tits. My wife would never do it, but pegging is also a fetish. So I masterbate with dildos and buttplugs. My cock is small and I don't know if that has anything to do with anything. But all size cocks are hot. I recently have started mutually masterbating with others on the video app Whereby. A bi couple turned me on to that and it is mindblowing! Watching others orgasm in real time is amazing. It just adds to my cock attraction. And based on what I see on line, there's sooooo many men that seem to share similar feelings.

Just wanna know for sure....

I've always wanted to have a mmf threesome but not sure howen feel about it? I'm sure almost all men are bi curious and bi guys turn me on....should I ask him?

I had sex last night with a FTM so he has a male upper body but a vagina.

I've heard that many bisexual people go through bi cycles and may temporarily lose attraction to one gender completely, so maybe its also the case with me as i couldn't experience attraction to women at 12-18 years old? Or I was attracted to them less than now and maybe didnt see those specific types of women that attract me (thick muscular ones with thick butts).

I mean since i didn't get attracted to at least a few women back then and never doubted my homosexuality at that time that means that i was definitely not 50/50, and especially not more than 50/50 in favor of women back then, right? I couldnt even imagine an attractive woman in my head then. But now i might be close to 50/50, but I'm definitely not attracted to a female body as much as to male body as I can get attracted to pretty much every male body part like hands and thick wrists, while with women its usually only butt+thighs and tits. But since I've heard that in bisexuals attraction can shift between males and females, so maybe at some point women can even attract me more than men? Its so confusing, lol

Did anyone else here also think they were completely gay at first, and then realized they are actually bi? Because its more often the other way around for most bi ppl

Hey yall I’m sure this is the 4th time this month you’ve seen this question

I was talking with my straight friend the other day and he mentioned to me how the sight of a vagina in of itself doesn’t do much for him. It’s the curves and what not.

However a lot of what has led me to question my sexuality is bc I do feel an attraction of desire when looking solely at a penis but hardly ever a vagina.

I’ve had sex with both genders (n both transgenders) and idk it’s got me stumped. I get it’s comes down to just preference and it’s okay to have more one then the other.

But has anyone else felt or heard of this?

Personally I like big butts,and I cannot lie lol. But jawlines, muscles, and cute faces (regardless of gender) do it for me.

It seems like more than half of every 20-something year old guys I’ve seen both online and irl who’s straight-presenting looks like a twink. It didn’t seem like this 5 years ago. Does anyone else feel this way? Or is it just me?

I’m a 27 year old bi guy, in case any of you guys are wondering.

Hey y'all, quick question. What's the difference between Pansexual and Bisexual? I've been around this gray area for at least 2 years and wanted to find where I land before telling my folks.

Anyone got anyway to come to a set answer?

I’m curious what you all think! 🤔

It’s not just that I’m bi but that I’ve slept with men over women 75:1, and I’ve tried to post a question like this in every conceivable Reddit sub to get a breadth of opinions for women. I’ve been banned from all the major subs (r/dating, r/askwomen, r/askwomenadvice, r/relationships) for simply asking women if they’d date a bi guy with my sexual history. What gives?

I couldn’t ask in r/askwomen because the question excludes lesbians from answering, and in r/dating because the question apparently opens the door to anti-lgbt hate being spread. It seems like rules that are intended to create a safe and equitable environment end up just discriminating against people in specific demographics, because the only relevant questions for me to ask in those subs is in regards to my bi identity.

Suppressing thoughts maybe? Im happily been with my gf for a little over a year and moved in together beginning of this year. Everything has been great! Potentially even considering proposing within the next year. We are monogamous and pretty sexually satisfied for the most part. But every now and again, more so the past couple of weeks, iv had the urge to want to suck a nice real juicy cock. (even kinda wanted to take a load all over my face) We are setup for pegging and indulge every now and again. Even suck her dildo, last time almost came from it. Real v fake big difference. Iv been with a few different guys/ladies during my 20s but I wish I indulged more dick as my lady doesn’t like to share. Maybe I should get her to peg me more(1-2x wk?) Future recipe for disaster?

Anyone else love to bottom but top with women? Sometimes I just get the urge to stretch my hole and get something thick in there 🫠

I'm an 18m virgin who has always considered myself to be straight. I've had a girlfriend briefly before, but we never really escalated nor did we even kiss. It just never felt like the correct moment.

Maybe it's because I'm super horny or I've watched too much porn (both straight and gay), but I have been fantasizing about having sex with anyone, even a dude. I would love to just hookup and top for a guy.

However, I'm not sure if I should take the plunge. Post-nut clarity sometimes kicks in, making me reconsider if this is actually my sexuality. I definitely don't think I'm romantically interested in guys, but I am interested in seeing how sex with them could be.

Now, an opportunity has arisen to satisfy my curiosity.

One of my gay friends is down to do "friends-with-benefits" so I can experiment if I would like to do it. But should I save my first time for a girl? If I like the experience, then great. But if I hate it, I will always remember that I lost my virginity to a dude, which is the sex I may not even be actually attracted to. I may regret that decision for the rest of my life.

Yet, I also may not get the opportunity to safely explore my sexuality for a while. Should I just try now and see what happens? Or am I just not in the right headspace. As stated before, I'm still combatting a porn addiction that may be messing with my brain.

I may never get this opportunity again though. What should I do???

Hey all… so at a crossroads right now that I feel like I always keep ending up at and honestly tired of it lol. I’m 29 male and I have always struggled with my sexuality. Always jacked to masc guy growing up and convinced myself it was cause that’s what I wanted to look like lol. Still perused women and did have major crushes on girls. Had a few girlfriends and had no trouble getting hard when with them just for some reason was always nervous around them. Explored myself more found out I definitely have a side to me that enjoys the fantasy of bottoming for a big beefy guy. Would turn me on like nothing else. Had one experience with a guy and it was hot I enjoyed it. Then ended up back with girls. But for some reason no matter how much I tell myself I am bisexual and it’s okay to be I constantly start to doubt my sexuality anytime I feel something for one gender. How do I manage to completely accept that I can indeed like both for different reasons? I’m tired on always contemplating it and not fully just embracing what I like about men or woman!! lol any advice is appreciated.

I put the flair as questioning because I am both questioning and have a question. To put it simply, I don't know why, I've always been weird and quiet and not very outgoing or masculine so it's easy to call me gay and bully me for it. I've been getting bullied and getting blown kisses and touched in gay ways for a very long time. Before I would get angry as shit because I thought being gay was an insult but also nervous. Now I'm just mostly nervous since I'm not trying to get angry over stupid shit and I'm trying to be the bigger man.

I don't know what advice I'm looking for, anything works. People will do gay shit to me and I'll try not to get tense and nervous but I'm just trying to let go and not give a shit. I just don't want to get nervous though and respond with gay shit to promote that shit though. I'm really insecure in my masculinity and I need to let loose. Actually, I HAVE to let loose, my blood pressure is high as shit for my age and I'm always tense especially around other men, especially when I'm getting bullied and touched and shit. And I don't want to be that stereotype of that ultra-gay guy that's quiet and closeted and shit and gets tense as shit when interacting with men because that's not me, at least I don't want to be that guy. What all this shit is doing is making me look like an autistic ultra gay closeted retard that's only gonna prevent me from even pulling girls. I'm not a very macho guy, I've been trying to lift for the past year and trying to work out but it's not like I play sports or fuck bitches and shit. I mostly hang out with non threatening guys that are chill and not loud as shit. But even then I can tell those guys think I'm weird or that I'm lowkey gay. I don't want to be friends with girls and be fruity and shit cause I'm not that type of guy, but sometimes I feel like I don't fit in with my friends and then most dudes see me as a closeted weak gay kid and either don't respect me or bully me and touch me and shit

I don't know man, I need some advice on anything really, sorry for going for so long

I've told my mom in the past that I thought I was bi and would need some time to truly find out, it's been a couple of years and I'm now in high school and Im sure now that I'm bi and I want to be more feminine as well. I don't know why but for some reason telling her this time is harder, I don't know if it's because I'm sure now or what, could someone please give me some advice

Can anyone help me cope with the fact that I'm gonna get old one day, and not stay small and cute

i’m a 30 yo male, i’ve been bi my whole life but recently i’ve been enjoying and preferring sex with men more than women. i only bottom with men and to me the orgasm is 1000% better, i always cum hands free from him and i feel completely satisfied after. am i starting to lean gay? or is this normal to experience this cycle later in life?