I was at a bar well known for business with mtf trans people for years. There were 2 other patrons who sat together. Both appeared feminine with long hair and shorts above the knee. I couldn't tell, but I speculated that they were both mtf trans. How do you ask? "Hey, you guys got dicks?"

So I’m 23 and have been talking online and hanging out through games with this guy I’d say I’ve gotten pretty close to. His personality is good , we have great conversations, and we have a shared interest in gaming. But this past weekend we finally showed what each other looks like. When I saw him I didn’t think he was ugly just not very attractive to me physically. Which kinda makes me doubt myself sexuality a bit. This is not the only time I’ve felt this was about a guy. I’m mostly attracted to feminine guys . And I need both personality and physical attraction to be with someone . Am I over thinking this? Does this make me less bi ? Is it it wrong that I don’t see some or most guys attractive?

Would you feel uncomfortable if i say i have a thing for Bi guys? I think that the part where they like girls turns me on because it feels like they're straight guys. But is it a form of fetishization? or you dont have problem with that.

Any podcasts i should be listening to that involve gay and or bi men and their hook up stories. Or their experiences of trying to figure out "who they are". Or podcast about kinks and fetishes.

The title was made to be catchy or hella brain-dead, I know that I liked both boys and girls from a young age as I had a crush on both a boy and girl at a young age.

But is my anal fetish born from my sexuality or did I genuinely come to like it, for reference I started to like anal when I somehow retconned myself into being straight and into the closet mentally. So It could have been a mental expression of my sexuality?

(For context for the retcon thing, I have a shit memory and forgot I had a crush on a dude, and rampant homophobia in Caribbean culture repressed it.)

Hi, so I M(26) am questioning my sexuality. I have a girlfriend F (27) who I love, I like to spend time with her, I love to kiss and cuddle with her. I have know her for few years, but the sex stuff started about two months ago, we have been together for 4 months. She is my first girlfriend.

Now let me rant: For few years now I have masturbated to gay thoughts often, probably more often then to thoughts about girls. Mostly I like anal sex, I have never been with a man but just the feeling is quite nice and gets me off easily (I like to be submissive)

From when I was a child I always found girls exiting and always masturbated to thoughts about girls, and had crushes on girls. However what I masturbated to evolved into gay porn and anal sex.

I have never had a crush on a man, and don’t know if I would like to be romantically involved with a man.

I have OCD and often get thoughts what if I am gay and I am not straight/bi, what if I am lying to my self etc. and to my girlfriend. I then have to “check” if I can come to thoughts of my girlfriend. And I can easily, I mostly find that I only masturbate to thoughts about her now that we are together. However, taking the OCD to the side and my compulsions, what do you guys think?

I get hard when I am lying in bed with her, when we are kissing and cuddling, and I get really nice orgasms. We had penetrative sex 3 times, the first time I was not in my head, I came after like two minutes. However the last time I could not get hard, but then I did not feel like having sex either that time.. this made me think again and now I am obsessing again. Like I feel like my sexuality is all over and very fluid, sometimes I also get very low libido. And sometimes I just want to play with her and come hard. However like should I get hard erections every time I see her naked right away? how can I live like that and be in a happy relationship?

I’m 59 divorced. I have always been straight but been thinking about bi sex.

Married discreet bi guy here. I need to figure out a way to hide my grindr, twitter, and reddit app from being so easily accessible. Im wondering if there is an app to hide other apps inside. In my head im picturing... i download a "calculator" app this app appears as such when looking through apps and also appears as such if you open it. You can either use it as a calculator or you punch in a 4 or 5 digit code and hit equals and it opens a "behind the scenes" screen and in there is where u hide grindr, reddit, twitter, scruff, ect. Any apps or anything really that u want to hide.

Is there anything currently out there that u can download and it look like a legit normal no fuss app but once a code is entered it opens and inside is all you hidden stuff???

So I’ve been dating this girl for over a year and she is the love of my life. She is also bi and supports me in my queerness. We enjoy each others company and interests, we have sex 3xs a weeks and it’s fantastic, we have a solid grasp of what we want for our futures. But on days where we don’t see each other for a while (esp during her period when we don’t have sex) I watch and jerk off to gay porn. Sometiems twice in a row. It still turns me on and I don’t know if that makes me a bad person or not. I love her and want to be with her but these specific actions make me worry that I’m doing something wrong.

TL;DR: I love my girlfriend, but I still watch gay porn.

I love my girlfriend more than anything. We’ve been dating for three years & we are compatible in almost everything. We both have a passion for art that’s so similar in style. We sew each other things & draw art for each other as well. But I’m not sexually attracted to her. With both genders, I care mostly about clothes & I do love how she dresses. But I never even watch porn with women. I’m scared I may even be fully gay. Though, I think I am mostly disinterested in curves.

I also feel so ashamed because I feel so feminine preferring to do art with her rather than fantasize about her body. Meanwhile, I jerk off my male friends & think about how I’d love to rim their ass. But I’d also never want to marry a man, so I’d like to stay with her regardless. But I’m scared of missing out on potential opportunities for happiness & peace within my life. I don’t want to feel on edge all the time. I just want to stick with something, knowing that it will be the best for me.

TL;DR: I am not sexually attracted to my girlfriend, but I love her and I can’t imagine my future with anyone else.

I was doing a post yesterday about exchanging nudes with a guy. We had a quick videocall before to check out the vibe and I already could tell I was not feeling his vibe as I should have. He seemed completely ignorant and even asked if I had a big dick because I‘m black. I ignored all that because I wanted to have my first experience so bad and we already talked about when to meet. When we exchanged nudes he kept pushing for other pics. I said to him I‘m not feeling comfortable sending more and I want to do things at my own pace. He told me to not be insecure and stuff which was completely not what I was talking about. I than said don‘t you want to see this stuff in person and than he said come on just send it, your worse than a girl. Then I blocked him and everything. I feel dirty, I feel powerless, I feel angry and I feel disgusted. I always kept my guard up. For seven years I haven‘t tried out anything and now I just gave one of the biggest pieces of shit so much power over me. It‘s taken all my desire to even explore this possible side of me. I was already hesitant before about the possible risk of anyone finding out but now it would be embarassing to a level where in all honesty my life would be at risk. I feel like the biggest fool there is because my gut feeling clearly knew that this is not the right guy. My hornyness and curiosity just took completely over. I‘m even starting to feel awful about writing on here and am scared that anyone will see what I wrote here. You guys were awesome but I don‘t know if I‘ll come here again. Thank you for everything tho.

I am a male, I have always liked women, but I have lately noticed I become aroused by penises, but I don’t get aroused by men. I do though get aroused by femboys and then mostly the feminine femboys. I also get aroused by looking at my own penis.

I have done some research on different sexuality’s, I heard about bisexuality, but I feel like it doesn’t really fit me because I don’t have any feelings for men. Then I discovered Gynosexuality, I feel like this fits me better but I don’t know if this includes being attracted to penises.

So my question is would bi sexuality fit me better of gynosexuality or another sexuality, or am I straight and do I just like penis?

So I'm a bi guy been charring to a few guys and I think I'm gonna hookup soon for the.first time. I'm really nervous about it and was wondering of you jabe any advise on positions and things to do. For context it's a fuck meet up hehe..

I'm very inexperienced and only had plain vanilla sex.

Can you recommend any positions or what I should be doing as a bottom.. other than taking it.. .

For context, I’m a 23yo male currently with my boyfriend on almost 3 years. I had identified as bi since high school but about a year before I met my boyfriend I was more interested in men than women and felt like realistically, I was gay.

However, recently my interest in women has kinda skyrocketed. Not romantically but honestly just sexually. It such an awkward feeling because I love my boyfriend and am more than attracted to him sexually, but I can sense a shift and am anxious about it. Like will my brain end up just losing interest in men or is this just a phase (as corny as that sounds)?

Was just curious if anyone else has experienced something similar and what happened or how you dealt with it.

Just exchanged dickpics with a guy for the first time and had some exchange of dirtytalk per text. It was nervewracking. Definitely was hot but couldn‘t shake the paranoia of someone finding out and the pics and our texts reaching someone that is not supposed to see it. My fear and the simultaneous excitement right now is so overwhelming. I‘m still shaking out of nervousness. Plus it feels like the cracks of my heterosexual identity are getting bigger and bigger and I don‘t know how to deal with it. I just fear loosing my stability in life. Still not convinced that I‘m bi but if I have my first actual experience and I like it I will be in a total crisis probably. How did you guys deal with the nervousness and negative thoughts and do you have any advice for me going forward? I‘m planning to meet the guy.

Hey guys I think I might be bi sexual but I’m really not sure.

I discovered fingering and I like it. Abit too much

And sometimes I catch my self looking at femboy content.

I like woman tho but I have like a feminine sex drive or something?

I think I might go t be bi? I really don’t know and it’s driving me up a wall. Can y’all help me?

Okay, so I am still gay of course as you already know, but years ago when I was 24, I went to bed one night and I had a dream that I was giving pleasure to a woman orally. The worst part was that I really enjoyed it in the dream and when I woke up I apparently had so much cum on my underwear! Prior to this strange dream of eating a vagina, I had never had that incline before! I thought it was weird for me to have such a dream because I know I am 100% gay! Okay, I totally forgot about this dream since it was only a one time occurrence! But fast forward to the past few months lately at age 34, I keep having the dreams again, but this time it is with a trans man who only did the top surgery! They still have their vagina! I have the strange urge to get with a trans man! I have absolutely no clue as to why, but I even started to watch those types of porn mostly. I just have this strong urge to eat and is definitely curious about what an actual vagina is like to penetrate sexually! I think only the trans men are my cup of tea, I'm not interested in cisgendered women at all! I only seem to be sexually curious about the trans men who still have their vagina. No breast. I'm not interested in those types! My question is: what is it like to penetrate a vagina and what does it possibly taste like? I'm assuming you have some experience with this at some point in your life. That is why I am asking...please don't laugh because I am being vulnerable right now and I am quite serious about the situation...though if you laughing, I wouldn't blame you!

38 bi married verse/bottom guy. Naughty open minded. Like to share experiences, fantasies, and chat ask questions about sex

I (19m) became friends with this one boy in my college. Who used to regularly “flirt” with me as a joke. After some months it started to feel very genuine and deep. His flirts were very VERY homoerotic and at times extremely sweet.. the kind of flirting that would make you stay awake at night.. (he used to proclaim that we were husbands to his friends). The flirting was both physical and verbal, he used to hug me from behind at random times and randomly hold my hand. Sometimes he’d stare at me for hours while I used to do my dance prep (for performances), he’d chase me around the college and we’d play tag with each other. My friends always speculated that he is fruity and so did I. Even before this entire thing happened my gaydar used to ping when he was around. Later on when I got too frustrated with this NOT turning into something more, I confronted him and asked his deal.. he told me he was straight and wasn’t aware that I was bi. It is very hard to believe that he is straight. We are still very good friends but I still haven’t moved on. I keep questioning if he’s ACTUALLY straight or not. It is very painful to like him and to try to move on is even more difficult. What can I do?

Got roasted in askgaybros so hopefully bros on here are a bit more chill.

My fiancé's (29f) mental health has led to a bit of a lull in our bedroom life to the point where we only had sex maybe once a month for the last few months. I love and support her but it's been pretty tough for me physically (30m) and I have been insanely horny constantly.

Recently and for the first time, I have started having dreams about having sex with men in the last like 3 months. (Topping specifically) As this is a bit new to me Ive tried exploring it privately and tried watching some bi/gay porn but I'm generally not into it. I'm not really into men giving blowjobs but I do find men fucking to be pretty hot sometimes.

Anyway, I'm trying to figure out if I have a bi streak that has just recently manifested. (Purely topping, no interest in bottoming). Primarily interested in women and don't have much interest in men romantically, or physically beyond some fem men and some trans women but do have some sexual attraction to the idea of topping a guy. Was just curious if anyone else discovered this later in life similarly or were in a similar place on the sexual spectrum and any advice on exploring it (particularly in a primarily hetero relationship; fiance is also bi)?

Sorry if any of my language is offensive or incorrect but I mean it from a place of humility and I'm not super familiar with the community. Thanks bros for any insight!

So I've been in virtual meetings with this colleague that warks in a different dept. He's the type of person you'd enjoy working with, very helpful, friendly demeanor. Also very good looking, great smile, sun kissed skin... We met face to face a few days ago and I saw this dude also has cake for days! Anyway, we're on a project again and I send him an email saying thanks for the update... but added a P.S. that basically said he should change his profile pic so we'd see his handsome face clearly. Should I be worried he'll be offended? I have no idea about his sexuality and it's too late to recall the message, I tried. I think I may have been blinded by booty. I've recently began being honest with myself and identify as bi but don't wear a patch on my sleeve or anything. Normally I wouldn't send a work email like that. Even compliments could be taken the wrong way.

Hi (25m) I’m in a serious monogamous relationship with a gorgeous woman and I truly love her, but I’m missing being intimate with guys and exploring homosexuality. I find myself fantasizing about jerking off with guys and oral often. It’s not affecting my sex life with girlfriend at all but when I’m not around her all I can think about is how sexy guys are.

This is very frustrating for me, I don’t want to feel this way now that I have this great girlfriend. I’m scared that this feeling is going to grow and cause me to sabotage my relationship.

Any advice on how to get over this feeling, and just focus on my girlfriend?

Why is more often than not only guys who are uncut (from what I have seen/experienced as a straight guy) always dropping pre cum? Is it only guys who are uncut who experience it? Do cut guys as well? Does it vary person to person?

I’m 23 bi and I came out to my mom a few weeks ago. Which ended better than i thought. And as I’m still on my journey of self discovery . I want to know how should I go bout being more in tune with my bi identity. Like do I buy a flag, support a LGBTQ business, or do I need to get some kind of merchandise? I’m still somewhat new to the community so some suggestions/ advice would be very helpful.

I am a bi 56 years old . I have never done anything with a guy. I have been married now for 20 years. I want to have sex with a guy . I know about the prep medicine for preventing hiv How do active sexual people stay disease free from all the other STD’s out there?

I'm prescribed a medication for ADHD, I've been more tired than usual and it turns out I'm anemic ... I cut all red meat out of my diet, and don't really eat iron rich foods (enough) so I mentioned it to my psychiatrist and he asked if I wanted the Adderall increased to help with the fatigue/somnolence. I agreed and the moment I took the first one it's like I get the most turned on I've ever been in my life... That'll go away the issue is I've had a sex a couple times now and unless we're there for st least 2 hours or their good at oral, with their hand, I'll be there for a week... But it also makes me focus on my kinks take the point im just hooking up for that..69, any guy down for edging/69 (lots of guys I've met in my city can't perform oral for shit) so since I've just been keeping to myself and edging these side effects out, id there a silicon lube that lasts up to four hours? Amazon used to have a good one but I just had one that had to be replied every 30 minutes...I just wanna cum constantly unfortunately, and I can't...it sucks bad.

Hi, I‘m a black masculine looking guy who‘s frequently questioning his sexuality. I am and was always extremely attracted to women. If I see pretty women I get this rush that is indescribable. I was always in love with women too and had crushes on them. With men it‘s a complete different story. I don’t feel anything when I see them on the street. I only enjoy them in fantasies and porn. But they have to be an exact specific muscular type for me to be aroused by the porn or the fantasy. In fantasies I imagine I top them but I have strong fantasies about being a bottom as well. My problem is everytime these intense fantasies and questioning thoughts come up I feel extremely unattractive and unmasculine to women. I know that there are probably plenty of women who are attracted to non-masculine men but the thing is that psychologically I only feel attractive if I feel masculine. And these thoughts make me feel extremely unmasculine which is a strain on my mental health. Plus one of my biggest fears is not being attractive to girls. I draw a lot of self esteem from womens approval and attraction to me. I know it’s extremely unhealthy but I’ve just not been able to change it enough jet. I heard so many bi men say that they are rejected by women for being bi which if I’m really bi and really like sex with men does make me want to stay in the closet as this is as I already mentioned one of my worst fears. My question is now. If you’re a bisexual masculine looking guy and masculinity is important to you, how do you keep on feeling masculine in front of women? How can I stop these thoughts from impacting my self esteem in regards to women so much? And do you think I’m really bi?

Sorry if this post is kinda all over the place. I did a similar post a while ago but my thoughts are beating me up again and I need outside perspective and someone to talk to again. I just feel like I’m going mad if there’s no one I can share this with.