Me and my ex broke up a month ago over her falling out of love she wants to see me again we agreed freinds with benifits when we broke up so she’s coming over . Is it bad that I want to test the feelings when we’re together after some time it’s been a month . I respect her but our relationship was so beautiful and she agrees she did say if her feelings came back she would want to persue us again because we were so healthy and strong together. What can I do to get her back?

Hi! for the past few months I have been running a queer meetup group at my rock climbing gym and it’s been going pretty well, we have a few recurring members but the group has remained pretty small. I was wondering if anyone here could give me advice on how to be a better leader to this group. Currently how the meetups usually go is that people will trickle in and get name tags and once there’s at least a few people I start a pronoun/name circle and I usually have a themed icebreaker question (like for our October meetup I asked what everyone was gonna be for Halloween) but after that not much else happens in the group, we just kinda hang out and climb mostly on the boulders and then move to doing toprope if people are feeling it. Is this enough? Is there anything I can be doing to make the group more engaging? Most of the people are pretty beginner climbers so I don’t want to overwhelm them with extraneous climbing activities (most climbing games usually revolve around pushing your limits) I want the group to feel like a comfortable safe space and I’m not sure how to best foster that environment

Any advice is appreciated!

TLDR: how to be a better leader?

This post is for people who think that they have, or do have autosexualtity or are an expert of the sort.

For my entire life I have been particularly attracted to myself. I thought that was just a normal experience for everyone. I discovered porn pretty early, maybe around 9 or 10 :/ I’m a girl, and I only really watched lesbian porn. For some reason it still took me many years to realize/fully accept that I’m bi.

I have a husband, just married!!! I love him to death, he’s truly wonderful. We’ve been together for about 4 years. Intimacy has always been frequent and great between us.

I realized at some point recently that… I don’t think it’s normal for other people to be married and also have personal folders of themselves that they use in their personal time, if you know what I mean.

I don’t even really have over confidence, I wouldn’t expect anyone else to see me the way I do like that. After quick searching, I see autosexuality associated with narcissism a lot, which I really don’t think is the case, at least for me. Its always just been this nice little secret that I keep with myself that I thought could be a fetish.

Does anyone have similar experiences?? I’m curious to hear and compare

I recently turned 18 and decided to join dating apps. A whole heap of people suggested ‘Her’ but I personally didn’t like it. I didn’t find it user friendly and the free version blocked everything! So far I have download all the main dating apps and I really like bumble. It’s perfect for me. However, the day after I downloaded the app I went into it and got a pop up saying that my account had been blocked for “inappropriate behaviour/sending inappropriate content”. I have no idea why I got this pop up. My profile is completely sfw and I only messaged one person and we really hit it off, we discussed our jobs and our pets so there was definitely nothing in that conversation that would’ve been picked up by any sensor. I am genuinely really upset about loosing this conversation because we really hit it off, I feel like we had a connection, and now it’s gone and I’m unable to contact them. I have been emailing back and forth with bumble trying to get an explanation as to why my account was blocked and they refuse to tell me, my only guess is that I might have been reported for being underage because I never really got adult facial features. Anyway this is just me venting because I’m really frustrated with bumble rn. Thanks for listening

HIII id love to share my story about switching from the dark side to the light side of lgbtq. Please do not judge me, and advice is greatly appreciated since I am VERY new to this exciting new world of love.

I am 23 years old and I have been brought up to NOT accept LGBTQ. Until in the last week, it took ONE person to change my mind. Completely flipping the switch. Such an intense and unexpected change for me.

For many years I did not understand the LGBTQ community, I was actually against it. Which now, I am so so so so so happy that im on the RIGHT side of this community.

I went to my first burlesque / cabaret show called Blanc De Blanc. This show consisted of gay and bisexual performers dancing to incredible music. There was this one drag queen whose name is Adam Malone. They were VERY VERY confident in their performance and I instantly fell in love.

But It was a big shock to me. ME, a straight woman, literally sexually attracted to a buff male in a blonde wig and drag makeup, wearing lacy lingerie and gstring, dancing to SOPHIE with a hula hoop act. They were so masculine and feminine at the same time and I have never been attracted to something like that before. I literally could NOT stop thinking about them. Even though they were gay. TELL ME HOW COMMON IT IS FOR A STRAIGHT WOMAN TO BE ATTRACTED TO A DRAG QUEEN????

I am sooooo questioning my sexuality. So I go back to my home town and I visit a gay nightclub to explore a little more. I could not believe my eyes. There were naked men making out on the dance floor, I wasn't getting hit on by creeps like a straight nightclub. There were drag queens in my presence. There were girls with the most friendliest personalities. I have never felt so much like I fit in. I felt so confident. 80% of conversations were literally just complimenting each other and it was such a beautiful vibe. I saw fashionable boys passionately kissing on the dance floor and that turned me on so much.

I only have experience with "normal" straight people but once I have witnessed these beautiful people, I don't think I can ever go back. My attraction for straight men is out the window. I can NOT believe I am attracted to drag queens. Is this a realistic sexuality though? Are there trans MTF who are attracted to a girl like me? It is intimidating to learn about this, so it's why ive come here on reddit. I would love to hear your thoughts and advice.

How should I approach this? I am also thinking I am polyamorous but I haven't experienced any of that either.

I feel ashamed that I had once been against lgbtq. Now, it feels like... the exact opposite. Am I delusional? Is it unrealistic to be attracted to gay men?

My style and makeup has changed in inspiration of drag. I feel like more freedom in my sexuality and how I express myself. I have even thought, damn I wish I was a boy so I could be a trans MTF. AM I WEIRD LOL!!?!?!?!

Anyways, thanks for reading. If you have anything to say to me, id love to discuss it. I really do think that becoming part of the lgbtq community has made a big impact on my life. And im excited to come out of my shell and explore this whole new world.

(Enby) I rarely learn into gender but I've been having fun with slap recently. Here's a subtle egirl type look 😊 (those blobs under my eyes are stars)

My housemate is ready to start dating, but is nervous to put her foot in the water. I figured I could vet a few apps/cites so she's more comfortable (and I wouldn't mind looking for a partner myself while I'm there). What are your favorite or most successful queer/bi/lesbian dating apps/cites?

Things to consider about my housemate: 32 yrs old, cisgender she/her, interested in any non cis/male, POC, most comfortable with dating another POC, monogamous, never dated before, Plus sized +, high functioning self-diagnosed autism, polytheist eclectic practicing witch.

So which apps/cites would be most supportive for her and her lifestyle? Are there any apps/cites she should avoid? Also, she is not "stereotypically beautiful by society's standards", so she's nervous to be judged by looks alone. I explained that most of the sapphic community I know have very different beauty standards than the average male gaze, so she has less to worry about. But she's still nervous about it. I think some apps/cites focus less on looks. what do you think?

So far, I am going to check out Herr and Taimi.

Thanks!

I feel like I'm demisexual and very much so sexually monogamous, but I'm a bit of a relationship anarchist regarding everything else. Sensual (cuddling, kissing, dancing seductively) with others feels fine, emotionally intimacy feels fine, intimacy that could be defined as deep friendship or budding romance is fine, etc.

My sexual partner doesn't have to be my forever person, a nesting partner, or committed to me (but I'm open to it) - I only prefer one sexual partner at a time and pace myself in sexual connections. It's not conventional monogamy, but it is a form of monogamy all the same, and I enjoy what could be considered "only relationship stuff" with my other progressive-relationship companions in life. I just only want to have sex with one person.

Does anyone know if there's a term for this? I'm specifically looking for a pride flag.

Hi I’m 18f, i have previously been in a wlw relationship. We started off best friends and slowly became more, but kind of had this confusing back and forth going on. Eventually we decided to give it a go and start dating officially, but it kinda of felt like we were rushing things and like we were putting each other under a lot of pressure to put a label on it. It didn’t end up working out and i was heart broken for quite a while like crying on the floor, snot dripping, looking at the sky wondering if she was thinking about me, heart broken. Lol. Well anyway i have dated only men ever since, because there isn’t really a large queer community where I’m from. Anyway down to the real shit. Im physically attracted to men and i like a lot of things about them. But emotionally i don’t think i could ever have the emotional connection and intimacy i have had with women with men. Like i guess it’s because I’m a girl and they are also girls and they really just get me in ways men just cant understand. Like when I’m with a girl i like, i just want to talk to her about everything and kiss her and cuddle her and laugh till we cry, but the idea of sexual intimacy with women makes me really nervous and like when it gets to that point i freak out and want to stop, but i can be sexual intimate with men with out issue. Im just so confused. Can anyone help?

Hi! So I'm doing a research paper for my English, class and it's required to graduate. The topic I chose was why minors should be allowed gender affirming care. The thing is, we have to include a lot of sources, and I've been noticing that there have been a ton of removals of sources including anything that deals with gender identity, and for that reason, I've been trying to download any sources I can before they're gone. However, I'm struggling to find any that aren't paywalled. Does anyone have any ideas on where I should go to find sources, or any sources in general?

Reactionaries don't just pass legislation against marginalized people out of personal dislike alone. They are also motivated by systemic reasons to maintain class society and destroy class solidarity.

So, a few months ago I was going through some stuff. I had allowed myself to finally acknowledge some stuff regarding same sec attraction that I think I had been repressing for a while. For a bit, I would be really stressed about whether I fit the exact definition of bisexual or this or that. Basically I had a lot of insecurity about the fact that I am not really sexually attracted to other guys nor have I ever felt the desire to date one, but still find them attractive in many of the same ways I would find a woman attractive as well. Eventually, I came to the conclusion that no label mattered, and that whatever I feel, I feel and that’s all that matters.

But sometimes, I still get these moments of confusion and insecurity and I’m not sure where they come from. To be honest, I’m not even sure where the insecurity is coming from.

Have any of you gone through this or have any idea where it may be coming from?

In case anyone wants to let them know they're missing any letters, now that it only lists LGB travelers. Took like a minute to fill out and did not require me to fill in contact info (which does not necessarily mean untraceable btw). Why make it easy for them? Here's the form: https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/contact-us/report-website-issues.html

I see so many of us queer people calling men who are attracted to masc women gay (in a derogatory way). Can we stop? Thats like telling a girl who likes femboys she’s lesbian. Femboys arent girls and masc women arent men. These are heteronormative standards that keep being re-inforced despite us letting go of the need for gender conformity

Where are queer support groups for the absolute absurdity going on in America?

Hi everyone! Im starting a queer support group soon, basically a community event where queers of all ages and identities can gather and have a space to talk about how we are feeling and build each other up, connect, all of that. It's the first time I will be hosting something like this and I am seeking advice. If you were to attend a space like this what would you want to get out of it? Or have you been to a space like this, and if so what did you like about the way it was structured?

hi! this is my first time posting here and I have a question for the queer community of eastern EU; ** so, my parents want me to travel to Turkey with them (no, they actually insist) but here’s the thing - i’m a closeted bi guy and i really don’t feel safe travelling on the eastern side of the EU (which they absolutely love) because of how conservative it is, but I also don’t want to blindly accuse a country of being homophobic if I don’t even know it, so… what is your experience in Turkey / eastern EU? any advice or things I should take into consideration?

**I put eastern EU in the caption, because usually the beliefs in eastern countries regarding queer community are somewhat the same, with only differences being the levels of hostility and tolerance from the society.

thanks for reading! every answer is appreciated!

TLDR;

my parents want me to join them in travelling to Turkey and I wanna know what can I expect/look out for as a queer guy to keep myself safe.

I’m a girl and I have a crush on this girl at work but idk if she’s likes me or if she’s even into girls. I’m a super quiet girl. Like I barely talk at work I don’t talk unless I have to talk to customers or if they ask me something. I just go to work and then clock out basically. But she’s so pretty and smells so so nice and her smile is so beautiful. I think it about it sometimes when I’m not at work. . But how can I find out with out asking 😵‍💫. I don’t think she would be attracted to me. Either. But sometimes when I look at her she’s already looking at me. Not all the time sometimes. And when she was telling me something she did when I was gonna do it while she said it her face turned red. Idk if it’s because talking to me makes her nervous or if she thinks I’m intimidated because some people think I’m mean before they get to know me. But I’m not sure. On the other hand I tried to ask her questions like what school did she go to etc. stuff like that. But she never asked me questions back. Like oh and what school did u go to or yk stuff like that. So I thought she didn’t take any interest. So should I just give up and focus just on work? But like she stands close to me when she tells me stuff. Or when I need to ask her something when she’s about to answer she will stand really close to me. And that makes me nervous. And like she does like this nervous like awkward mannerisms around me.

This is my only method of trying to contact the girl I don’t know the name of.

If you sat next to me and ate Cava at the DCA airport at 6pm on 1/31, I’m so sorry I didn’t ask for your number.

I’m so awkward and i never realize when someone is trying to talk to me like that omfg like I’m so sad. Watched this girl walk away like a stupid mf.

Anyway, probably won’t work but Reddit help me find this woman. 🙏🙏

(And if this girl had no interest in me then rip)

So I thought I was just like a straight dude right? Then one faithful day last summer, I walk in subway near me and see this fucking handsome looking dude. He had the perfect body and I flustered around him. Acting like how I would be near a woman I like or something. I think about how hot he was from time to time.Am I bi or am I tripping?

Hlo, I'm Arc. (Zhe/It, AFAB) I've been ID-ing as Genderfluid for in the tune of about a year or so, and recently I've been questioning it. I draw facial hair on my face with my usually heavy makeup, and I try to make my voice just a bit deeper to meet the androgynous type of tone that I'm looking for. (Please don't yell at me about it, I really love to do it.)

But because of my femme body, I've been lately just considering myself as mostly a girl. Now don't get me wrong- I don't consider myself cis or strictly nonbinary, but I feel like the masc-ness of my ID is just only represented through my makeup. So- I'm thinking- Am I anything different if I consider myself mostly a girl, but also not nonbinary or a guy? Is this just another name for Genderfluid?

I really don't know. I don't want to be an idiot about it and take some sketchy "Gender Quiz" that you'll find in a youtube ad sometimes. But like- I keep second guessing myself about it. I'd appreciate some advice and/or input on this.

Oh also before I forget and get myself banned from here on accident, PLEASSE please let me know if this isn't what the "Label Help" tag is actually for. Sorry in advance;;;

To begin i don't know what I am, but i think this is the right place to ask my questions. Sorry for my English and i also marked where i acctually start telling my concerns.

I started to question my sexuality last year (I'm 20),but it remains questioned since then but that's not the problem right now.

I'm second year uni student and i think my peer (course-mate whatever it is called) is doing something with me or I'm delulu.

So on the first day of Umiversity we were devided into 4 groups and she was not in mine so we had lectures at different time, but English class sorting was based on exam scores so she and I ended up in the same group. So for like 3 semester we've known each other, she is so sweet and kind and all that.

We found out that we have some things in common and one of them is watching BL Series. In the begining of this year administration desided that groups should be rebalanced and we were lack of people and in her group there were too much students, so THIS GIRL and her 2 friend desided to join our group. It was all good, and gradually she started to text me outside of groupchat about our assingments and uni stuff. The we were talking about tv series we really love (all of them are queer) and discussing stuff around this topic. I encouraged her to make tiktok account cause she was sending me IG reels🥹 now i checked her profile and she only follows me and her sister and i just guess her other friends don't have tiktok????

🧠🧠SO THE MAIN PROBLEM- yeasturday she suddenly told me that she was going to show me something that i will NOT TELL ANYBODY and before i even see the message she sent me schreenshots of groupchat she had with her sister and a friend where she was basically saying she preffers girls and the other two are calling her weirdo.

I got confused, we never talked about our sexuality (i once bring up that i dont want to lebel muself) and i asked her jokingly are you coming out to me?? And she was like no, then i asked then why would she say ''dont tell anyone" and she said it was a joke. Likee??????

Once she mentioned if she will still be single by 40 she will ask a girl out.

My question is, what is she doing??? Is she tryimg to come out to friend or she's trying to give me hints??

Hello, VALENTIMES is coming up and I want to treat my wife with actions showing appreciation. I was thinking I would start out by making her favorite dinner, she’s not really going to be down to go out to a restaraunt. But I want to really like make staying in special and sweet for my wife.

Any suggestions?

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I've been identifying as a transman/masc for about 5 years now, ever since I was 11. However, that's not right.

I dont know what I am and for a month I was settled with calling myself a vagueboy, but that has neurodivergent ties and I don't wanna get into that.

When I think of my gender, I'm not a girl. I'm a guy, but also not really. I'm a guy but something else that's still a guy but also not, but still masc. I don't like terms like non-binary or demiboy because I'm not non-binary, I'm still a guy. In a non-guy way.

And sometimes, not often, but sometimes I wish I was a trans woman, not a cis woman (because I could easily just detransition) but specifically a trans woman.

I'm confusing myself and I don't know what to call myself. I did sometimes say "I don't need a label," but I'm tired of kidding myself. I just want to know who I am.

Is there anything I could possibly be?