I'm 21F and have ADHD with lots of anxiety, and I am due to fly from a UK airport to go on holiday this week. I have always had really intense airport and flight anxiety - particularly with going through security and then the process of taking off and landing. I constantly feel I am doing things wrong and that I've forgotten something and that I'm going to be late. I have cried several times going through security in the past and then felt ridiculous afterwards lol. Airports are something that really scares me, as well as with the sensory hell that is taking off and landing. I'm hoping to speak to the assistance desk when I arrive and get a lanyard, which may mean I am able to go through a quicker/more relaxed security and get priority boarding - but does anyone have any tips? I've not been on holiday in six years and I'm so excited to go and I really don't want my anxiety to be too overwhelming when travelling.

Heya all, a relative of mine is losing nearly all muscle functionality, and the job of moving him onto his side and back many times during the night is becoming increasingly taxing on the family. Carers are very expensive in the UK and we were wondering if there were any mechanical devices that can shift him from side to side in bed?

We've found that there are some beds that laterally tilt such as the invacare soft tilt, but we thought considering he has a transfer hoist that can suspend his whole weight that maybe there could exist a device out there that could reposition him in bed.

Thanks so much in advance - would be great to find something that could help us out!

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Hello,

I was approved by company STD through Sedgwick. I was wondering if I need to submit STD claim as well via EDD.

I did file a claim via EDD but nothing has been updated. From my doctor's point of view, it seems like just additional paperwork for my doctor and I don't understand why Sedgwick can't just release the funds.

Is it a hard requirement for CA residents to submit and get an award letter from EDD for them to release the funds or is there a work around to this?

Thank you all in advance!

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So, in Portland, we have issues like this. Even with "empathy" forcing all these vagrancy over to just one sidewalk and keeping the other sidewalk absolutely off limits to any blockage subject to immediate abatement would be a reasonable interim solution. Blocking one side won't fully comply with the law, but at least it maintains one side of the street keeping accessible path. This street connects the two halves of the neighborhood and it's been like this for about 10 days and absolutely indifference by the City of Portland, Oregon government which apparently prioritizes the rights of vagrants to do whatever they want over anything else.

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Sidewalk on BOTH sides of street blocked by transient camps

I'm on disability because I got an offer for a suck in college.

If you check my profile, my wife just had both arms amputated, and it's certainly the biggest challenge either of us have ever faced. She's doing great actually, she has already had one PT appointment and is working on stretching her legs out and core exercises. I think her therapist was surprised because she's so incredibly strong, especially in the core/legs area so no big deal there. I'm so proud of her and this is absolutely not to take away from her at all (it has nothing to do directly with her).

But now, I'm feeling tremendous impostor syndrome because my wife is very disabled. This is obviously horribly selfish and rude, so I'll never tell her, but my own disabilities are now so insignificant that I don't really feel like I should complain. Even when it becomes a problem, I just try to shrug it off now.

As for what they are, I believe it to be PTSD on the mental side, as well as serious skin sensitivity and weakness in my left hand caused by shrapnel and gunshot wounds, burns and scarring on my back and left arm, and minor hearing loss. I've never let it get to me because I've been able to work around those things both in my personal life and in the gym, building something I can be proud of again after hating myself for years based on... something apparently (maybe guilt). I acquired all those particular memories in Syria, where I went for a year and a half from early 2016-2017.

To be honest, I've been trying to just forget all of those bad experiences and so far I've been doing pretty good. I moved to the US just before Covid and I met my wife during the "two week lockdown" period and we began chatting. To cut a long story short, we got married a month ago and it was amazing until 4 days ago. Obviously, her situation consumed all of my energy and output, so it wasn't a big deal to ignore things. But now, I can't help anymore outside of encouragement so even though I spend as much time as possible with her at rehabilitation, there are still times when I go to the gym or am in transit. It is this time in which I feel lonely and impossibly selfish and I've had to pull over once (fortunately in an urban environment, so safe roadside parking) because of an anxiety induced PTSD flashback. It's not even like, a hallucination, like in the movies (I hate those scenes particularly). It's just like, I have music on during a calm drive, and suddenly I hear yelling or my bro's voice (not real brother), or shooting, and I just freeze up and hear what I heard years ago. It's like a recurring dream.

The worst is when the sounds are muted, coming from my impaired left ear. Particularly the whiz-crack of close by arrivals. That really bothers me more than anything, because I can't really respond in a car. At least in a truck or an MRAP you can be protected, or have places to shoot back. Not in my little Audi though. Sorry for rambling, I'm not really in a great mood right now and I'm feeling pent up about this.

But now, I feel like that doesn't matter anymore, and it's making the symptoms worse in all fronts except hearing. I'm trying to get over it but I have no idea what I'm doing. I haven't seen a therapist yet but I'm trying to find one that might not throw me out after hearing my story (happened last time). My wife knows about all of these but not the horrible impostor syndrome and guilt, because I feel like I can't really relate to her and that's worse. Although, do I really want to relate to not having arms? No, but the feeling is still there. Just looking for a bit of support and help. I feel very alone because there are no support groups for me here really.

I struggle with chronic pain, thanks to Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. But EDS is generous- I also have epilepsy, degenerative disc disease, chronic migraines, osteoarthritis in so many joints and lots of other comorbities. And thanks to being in daily pain, my memory is garbage. It's not just my opinion, either. It was confirmed by testing when I was at Mayo Clinic. So many days I feel like I'm barely making it day to day. It's been like this for years, even with pain management.

The last few days have been awful. I tried to get out and work in the yard but my back is f@ked. Just in time for my husband and I to fight about tax documents, where they are, when did I do this, why haven't I taken care of that. His memory is not great either. He spent 20+ years as a bouncer and violence takes a toll.

I'm just tired of living like this. I hurt, I can't remember anything when I really need to, and I feel like I'm losing my personality. Not what I wanted in just my 40's.

I would love to get out and meet someone organically, just by putting myself out there, shared interests and all that- I tried meetup and I emailed a food bank about volunteering the community. I'm quadriplegic as of a few years ago and I'm in the process of taking back my life, I think interacting with other volunteers as well as the people that we’re helping out is gonna do me a world of good as well as maybe helping someone else.

How else can I put myself out there?

Yeah acceptance and accommodations are great and all and they’ve made living with my disability less hard but my autism and adhd still sucks and is frustrating to live with accommodations or not. While I don’t think we should start aborting babies with autism It would be a Godsend if we had better drugs for adhd and some way to “cut out” the disabling aspects of autism like the sensitivity to noise, struggling with social cues, and difficulty with some textures. Because while I do believe it has disabling aspects it also has aspects that I feel make me unique and help me and I’d love if I I didn’t have the unnecessary baggage of my autism. But no one else in the autism community or the disabled community at large really feels this way and it seems like they’re just full of nothing but blind and sometimes toxic positivity. But what do you guys think? Do you wish there was a more vocal “pro cure” community within the disabled community?

I need recommendations on brands of gloves or braces for mine. Preferably ones on Amazon. Thanks for the help.

Has anyone had success getting approved for this with Crohn’s disease? Were you happy with the tax credit? Can you share what I would be looking at. Average salary last 10 years about 75k

I’ve been suffering from disability depression. Does anyone know of a therapist with experience dealing with depression caused by being disabled?

Like the title says I would like some advice pertaining to romantic relationships. The post is quite long, but I wanted to provide as much detail as possible.

For background on me I am a 26-year-old male law student living in America. My injury means that I am mostly paralyzed from the neck down with no use of my arms or legs with very little function in my core muscles. As a result, I need people to perform a lot of personal care for me. Therefore, I still live with my parents since moving out has so far proven to be too difficult in both finicial terms and simply finding reliable help (although I do plan to move out once it is more doable).

On to the issue I would like help with. Whenever I have considered entering into a relationship, I am overcome with thoughts of insufficiency. My mind always goes to the question "If the tables were turned would I date me?" and I always answer "No I would not. So why should I expect anyone to say yes". So far, I have conquered half of the battle in that I no longer get these thoughts when asking someone out, but they return in a slightly different format whenever I actually go out. What I mean is that I begin to believe that I do not belong on the date and that the person said yes only out of compassion and that they are not actually interested. It gets to the point where that thought becomes so prevalent that I have a hard time actually focusing on the date to point where I struggle to even hold a conversation. What makes it so hard to overcome these thoughts is that so far only one person has ever agreed to go out with me, and she admitted that she only agreed to hang out because she would have felt bad if she had rejected me outright. Before anyone says she lied to win a breakup that was not the case. We had only gone out three times so there was no emotional fight ending it and her disposition was one where she would not want to intentionally hurt anyone.

Now onto what I tried so far to remedy the problem. First, I tried therapy for this issue, but it was not effective. The therapist said I just needed more self-esteem and told me to watch some ted talks. I tried following their advice but ultimately it felt as though they did not understand what I was communicating and thus gave me an oversimplified solution. After about a year, I quit therapy since it did not seem worth it to invest time and money in something that was not producing results. After that I tried refocusing my efforts into my career. I found this to fairly effective. By focusing on something I could excel at I was able to cultivate feelings of belonging and confidence which is where I am emotionally at nowadays. But despite my best efforts I cannot completely get rid of my desire for a romantic relationship and so whenever that part of me resurfaces I feel as though I gave up on a dream.

So here are my questions. First, do think I should renew searching for a relationship or would that be like chasing a phantom? After all, ignoring that part of me has produced the best results so far. Second, if you have struggled with something similar how did you overcome it?

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My mother has Primary Progressive Multiple Sclerosis. We just received the Invicare 9805P lift. PT and OT have been to her house and said they have never seen a lift with no break mechanism for the wheels (this one doesn’t have them). The medical supply company said none of their lifts have breaks and they haven’t heard of a lift with them.

I found wheels with breaks for this model online, but there is a warning that stated that breaks prevent the lift for adjusting center of gravity when the person shifts which can cause the entire lift to tip over, so breaks should only be used by medical professionals. I’m hoping someone may have some experience with this, because we aren’t sure what to do.

For context my job is half on the computer and half in the field. I found out on Thursday that because I fell due to vertigo last Monday that they are planning to have me file for unpaid leave of absence. Since then I’ve found it very hard to find the motivation to work even though I haven’t technically filed yet. I’ve said that I can work from home Friday and today but I’ve done little actual work and mostly sulked. I know I need to be working as they are paying me for this time as well as potentially letting me work from home (that is a long long shot because they would not let me have a work from home position even when I was in the hospital). But at the same time it is like, why give them more of my work (i am one of two people in the company who know a certain process and how to code) when they are just going to leave me unpaid while I have medical bills and rent. I’m struggling with this and it’s making my vertigo work.

I've posted here a few times, but I recently started FT employment in an attempt to get back insurance and prove that I am unworkable. sounds stupid, maybe it is, but my rejection letter stated that I could still work "other jobs," and I wanted ta good ole college try to prove this untrue. so far, that has been the case. within a little over a month, I've been talked to by management twice: once to send me to another store after a call out due to my disabilities (specifically my insomnia, as I was up for over 24+ hours, and I didn't feel safe driving or performing my work), and another not even 1 week later at my second store. with that one, I had a manager approach me due to my performance being subpar bc of my disabilities. one issue quoted was even my spatial awareness, for example. and I had to inform him that while I could try to pay better attention, I would still have hiccups with that. he wasn't rude, but I could tell it left a sour tone. otherwise, my speed and how I did my job were also questioned, as pain and physical limitations affect how I perform my work.

overall, I feel like my coworkers watch me like a hawk as they worry I am not doing what I'm supposed to, be that properly, or they think I'm not doing my job when I am because things are taking me so long... I've had a lot of physical issues (I'm having to wear braces, I've been made immobile after shifts, and I have had to double my pain medication to even get through the day) alongside mental (I average 1-2 panic attacks a week at work, I am very overwhelmed by customers, and my overall mood is so low and I am loathing going to work to the point I have physical symptoms prior to going-- somatic nausea and gagging, for one). my relationships with some coworkers have also been affected, as I've had some doubt why I can't perform an action, or make comments when this occurs. I believe I have a reputation for being "lazy and slow," when in reality, I'm trying to do my best.

in general, my mental health has been greatly affected by my time working, but I also because I have severe insomnia that has made my life, even on my off days, a living hell. I have long-standing medical documentation of these various issues, from both my physical and mental health, and I am still in the appeals process in my SSDI case.

because of how many issues I've had, my therapist has recommended going to part-time or maybe even quitting. because of this, I have also been pursuing a lawyer to try and represent my case to Social Security (and I was recommended to seek them out by providers as well).

today, I reached out to several, and my attempt to work full-time has proven even more detrimental than just to my every day life and physical/mental health. I've been rejected by several lawyers now-- some who outright won't help unless I am unemployed, and others who state I make too much now to be represented. I didn't work for nearly 4yrs before this, and so far, going back has hurt my case and I am scared it will get me rejected atp even though I not only have providers sticking up for me saying I need to be on SSDI, it's clear I am not functional enough to actually work full time.

I was pointed in the direction of disability advocates, such as Easterseals, too. but I contacted them over a week ago, and I've heard nothing from them.

others have told me not to quit, and I was pointed to FLMA, but I will not be able to access those protections, as I have to be employed for a year's time before accessing them. I already have run into major issues at work, and my biggest fear is I will be fired or have major consequences at work, in which I will not only be denied FMLA protections, but I will not have SSDI as a possibility to even pursue. I don't want to ruin my shot over this fucking job, at this point...

my game plan is entirely in tatters. I legitimately don't know what to do... I've emailed my therapist again to maybe get some pointers, but so far, the only shot I have at any improvement or SSDI consideration is to drop my job entirely... I've been exhausting myself and all options, and I'm not sure what else there is that is even doable. advocating for myself is one thing, but I cannot secure anything for myself with how this is going...

wtf am I to do? :(

so a basic rundown of my situation: i’m from the south of england and having a hard time finding a job. my small area means theres little for me to apply to and everything that i find seems to deny my applications due to physical health. i have crohns disease and currently in the middle of a severe flare up along with other issues that i’m getting tested for. i’m 16 so i don’t have any qualifications, i’ve tried apprenticeships but i still have the same issues. would i be able to claim something like PIP or anything similar? working for me right now is hard in general even if i was able to get a job, since i’m not in college i may end up having to pay for my medication but my family simply can’t afford it, as well as the multiple hospital trips we’re having to take which is costing a lot for fuel and parking. any help would be greatly appreciated!!

When I finally face the fact that my traumatic injury has left me permanently disabled

Darkness creeps in as I'm forced to watch the death of myself and all of my potential die along with her daily

No one talks about the darkness, the loss of self, the guilt, the shame, feeling like a burden, the loneliness, being limited, being excluded, stuck at home, the loss of friends, loved ones, becoming dependent, frustration, the sadness, the fear, the confusion, the anger, trying to find peace, a new purpose, a sense of self of belonging, all while being in excruciating chronic pain but wearing a smile

I'm still battling my darkness, anger Im still looking for a place of belonging, of understanding, genuine support and friendships Im still broken and grieving my old life Through it all I am thankful, even though my body is broken and I'm still really struggling I'm learning acceptance I'm learning peace, the joy in slowing down and enjoying the day I'm discovering myself, she's an artist and she's pretty dope

So I live in the states Maine to be exact no not the city or I would have public transportation. Also no I can't move to the city. I have a program that I can use to get to appointments but is there a program I'm on state aid and Medicare that would help me get to adaptive sports and no taxis Uber lyft etc not to mention im a wheelchair user and yes I can transfer. I'm looking but maybe I'm not looking up the right thing I don't exactly know what I could do. Where to start?

So to try to make a long story short, I recently lost my leg. I had to have my second emergency abdominal surgery at a Cleveland clinic hospital and and everything was horrible but where it went really wrong was post op, they woke me up and I was treated horribly in extreme pain, was told I was causing my own pain and I had to use the bathroom unfortunately I do not have a prosthetic and I use a knee scooter and the two nurses who were treating me awful decided to say If your going to be rude to me were going to be rude to you and proceeded to move my knee scooter and any possible way for me to get up away from the bed, at this point I was crying and begging for my husband and my phone I wanted to record their behavior. They laughed at me. And I proceeded to ask for an AMA paper to which the refused and said a physician has to see me and bring it to me which is not true. They still would not let my husband back and I was still begging to use the bathroom. They then proceeded to get on the phone with someone a doctor I just don't know who and told then I was mentally incompetent and crazy all of which I could hear!! Finally I after two hours they got my husband and tried telling him the same thing and he knew this sounded all wrong.. I could go on but the fact that they used me not having a leg and trapped me there and lied and laughed about it has made me really mentally unwell .and I'm open to any advice thank you for reading.

Hey,

I recently learned that I may qualify for the Disability tax credit in Canada and can backfile the last ten years.

Has anyone done this before and been approved or denied by the CRA? I'm worried that they won't approve me, although I already receive disability grants for school, so I don't think I'd qualify for those without qualifying for the tax credit, but I could be wrong.

If you've backfiled, how long did it take you to receive confirmation of approval from CRA and how long did it take you to receive the funds, and did you receive the entirety of the tax credit?

I'm confused as to how it works and if I backfile ten years worth of taxes if I'll actually receive the maximum amount of disability tax credit. Is it based off of income and taxes paid?

Thank you to anyone who has any info

Hi friends,

I'm posting this here too because I'm really scared and need your insight on disability. My epilepsy has been getting worse and worse over the last year and I'm now getting grand mals when I focus on a screen for even a few hours (I even am typing this in short bursts, taking breaks). I do high level design work, so as of last week it seems I just can't realistically do this anymore. My boss has let me use sick time as I figure this out with my doc, who confirmed it seems to be screen related and ordered a week off to try more meds.

I'm going to try going back to work this week, but I'm terrified of another grand mal. If it happens I feel like I have to start disability, I don't know what else to do. I don't know what my boss can do, can she fire me? I have a $1,500 mortgage + bills and I don't want to lose my house!

I have called a few disability lawyers already to learn more who have basically all said "get back to us when you no longer have a job and make no money." I thought being preemptive was the way to go? Am I supposed to get fired? Quit?

Have any of you experienced anything similar? I know the disability process can be a very long nightmare and if I have to go that route I want to start asap. Any advice from those who have been there, done that?

I work at a Christian camp over the summer and have seasonal housing and meals included, can they say no pets? I live in a small cabin in Ohio and share it with another person. I want my emotional support cat with me, but everything I find related to ESA stuff is about renting a place, not when it's included.

Hello! I am looking for ways to decorate my cane to make it feel more "mine". I know cane covers are a thing but i don't want cloth covers that can get dirty.

I also want this post to be a way for other cane users to find some decoration ideas!

I know some stuff that can work: Stuff for fishingrod handles, like antislip rings With colors and symbols on them.

Reflective tape for dark walks, even some patterned ones

Other patterned tapes like duct/duck tape Washi tape

Decorative Charms on your hand-strap And so on.

What other ideas do you have?

I may be being paranoid but I think I might be being discriminated against at work. If anyone here had info on law would be greatly appreciated.

I have PTSD, been working for a University, for 3 years. I have an informal arrangement to work from home / WFH permanently.

I started in a new team & right from the off I could tell they didnt like me. There's never any specific performance issues, just comments.

This month a few things have happened in tandem.

1. They've given up on offering hybrid for me and started hosting in-person meetings that I'm simply not invited to.

2. My manager invites the other manager to our 1-1 and tells me that my career interests don't align with the group and "not that we would want to lose you, but maybe you should look for other opportunities". These are the same career interests I told them about in my interview. I'm past probation & my job is safe.

3. Manager books a follow-up meeting and tells me they "never anticipated someone would WFH permanently in this role" and they need to speak to HR, and is acting shady about it.

What's going on??? Am I being forced out??

My disability has been an experience of being told it looks like it’s getting better, until the scans come back and it ruins my years of progress. What was mild turns into moderate. After they were all so sure it was anything else but the disabling condition when it WAS. Having to wait even more with these results written in what is essentially another language for a phone call that might not happen before the next appointment. Knowing whats about to be said and unable to change the outcome no matter how hard you wanted to. Not being allowed to be angry without it being blamed as a side effect of new medicine because you’re known for being calm. Why am I supposed to be the calm one in this situation. My body is fighting itself and I’m supposed to hold your hand and tell you everything will be ok?

Basically I’m (19m) applying for disability until I’m qualified for a job I can do. I’ve been seeing doctors but I’ve needed to work full time to maintain healthcare, and working as a welder is making it worse.

I’m going to switch fields and I’m going to try to go back to school but I don’t think I’ll be able to work while I do it. My body is pretty quickly starting to crap out on me. I don’t know what’s wrong with me yet but it’s getting worse pretty quickly. (My main two theories are h-EDS and fibromyalgia, as well as something that causes muscular stiffness but that could be explained by the h-eds.)

Ideally I’d want to be a therapist or social worker, but those both require professional graduate degrees and I won’t be able to maintain a stable living situation working full time for the six or so years that will require.

For the past couple years I’ve been living on my own and working full-time, but my body has started to fall apart. I was managing chronic joint and muscular pain with braces and muscle relaxers, but I’ve started getting injured, sustaining micro tears on my rotator cuffs and probably other places. Everything hurts constantly so it’s hard to single anything out. I don’t have enough sick days to recover from a work week, and the pain after a full shift is agony if I’m lucky and if I’m not it’s worse. I can’t keep living like this.

Does anyone have any recommendations about applying for disability in Texas? Or any disability lawyers in the DFW metroplex?

I’m not sure if this was too much information or not enough, but any advice is welcome! TIA!

I have several health conditions and mental illnesses. I struggle everyday to even get out of bed. I want to work, but I literally failed often and cannot. But, sometimes I feel like my disability isn’t real enough or serious enough. Does anyone else feel this?