Hi all. My wife started drinking after 5 years sober when her mom died, 3 years ago. I quit drinking with her. I've stayed sober. I've been a provider for my family (just her and our 2 young children) looking back, I'm guilty of setting too high of expectations for her. I worked , she did housework and took care of the kids. Simple right? No. I always got upset when I'd come home to a trashed house, and held my love hostage. Said mean things ect. I'm facing and dealing with my issues now. Just admitting my guilt. Anyway, her drinking started getting really severe 2 years ago, and that added more anger to me. I was struggling to maintain my sobriety dealing with her drunken episodes. I talked to her every other day about options to quit drinking, ect. I tried everything. I yelled, I asked, I pleaded, I tried making deals ect. Fast forward to buying a breathalyzer. (She was really bad. Wanted to show her she was a functional alcoholic) she was blowing .3 on a daily. Worst part was I work out of town, and again, she's home with my kids. I'd get furious. She finally asked for help. I jumped on it, took her to the ER set up the detox, made reservations for a 30 day residential program, got help from family to help me with my kids ect. With my job it's very difficult having my kids. I work on call 24-5 so anyway, I was picking up on coldness on the phone from her 2 weeks in, not caring to talk to me, only the kids, not saying I love you ect. Family day came, 3 weeks. No touching. Her rule. No hug, no hand holding, no nothing. I felt she was on her way out. I'm dieing inside. Now ff ahead to 4 days ago. She got out. Same rules, but not staying with me, filed for separation. She said, they said I'm her trigger. I'm blown away, heart broken you name it. But in the last 4 days, I've got a therapist, read 5 love languages and been taking a hard look at myself and realized so many things I can change but she dosnt want to hear it. All I know is she said separation is 100%  , she wants to see other people (Noone is in the picture she says but this BREAKS ME INSIDE) and Divorce is most likely in the future. But not positive,  just most likely. Glimmer if hope right? Well I'm an absolute wreck, I can't stop attacking myself, trying to figure out what I can do, and what I can't, (and I'm confident after 5 LL book I can drastically improve) to a point I'm actually a good man and lover. My question finally is, WTF happened to her in there? I'm desperate, devastated, and devoted to winning her back. I love her with all my heart, but don't know how ill feel seeing her "try other options" while she continues to "work on herself" main takeaway is she's not "done done" but won't say never coming back or the opposite, I might come back. All I get from her is "I don't know what I want, and I can't make any promises. I'm living day by day" WHAT SHOULD I DO, to help her? Give her space? Try to show her things still from the book? Let her still know I care about her everyday? 

I'm trying to help my step-brother who's battling a decade-long alcohol addiction. He's very responsible with work, and his job is one, if not the only, area where he finds pride and accomplishment.
He is looking to get promoted to a top management position. However, while laws and company policy protect those with addiction disorders to an extent, they are less protective of high level managers and are not likely to promote him if they find out he has an addiction, and further, needs time off for detox.
Some clinics take insurance to offset costs, but I am worried that this will get back to his employer. Are employers notified what treatments or conditions an employee has via their insurance? Do they have to provide clearance?

I attended a rehab called Coolmine and they said something would happen after two years clean. It did, I had some form of psychosis where I could hear voices in my head

These voices were like people trying to help me but the group that I was with in Coolmine would say Cool, mine and steal the voice

They stole the people trying to help me for themselves. They made me donate a load of money to the charity.

It's been a while now since this has happened and I am no longer hearing voices but I feel like I've been robbed of people who were going to try and help me

They have taken advantage of my "privilege" for their own gain

What can I do to get some good voices back or am I permanently connected to these bad actors?

If you are a patient who has said this or had this thought, then this video may be for you! I created this video below to identify reasons why a patient may not be having good success with physical therapy, so that their DPT may work to target and overcome that challenge. Its been my experience as a physical therapist that patients commonly may not progress well with therapy due to their medical health not being stable, or they are not being compliant with their home exercise recommendations, but their are several other reasons as well which we discuss. I hope this video is of some help to patients in identifying reasons they may need to conquer to have success with their PT!

Physical therapy isn't working...why?!? 8 Reasons which may explain why!

https://youtu.be/FihQBFmgy0k?si=yHxT0lhgcvIGEqro

Hello. I had a loved one voluntary enter Liberty Bay Recovery Center (alcohol) in Portland, ME recently.

Anyone have experience with the treatment there?

I've very glad they've gone. Just stressed. They didn't fight going but more or less an intervention.

I'm 19, my dad was in rehab around 1996 when he was addicted to various drugs, rehab worked he found a job and everything was fine until the last 8 years or so when he got diagnosed with a scoliosis, the doctors said its only light and he can continue working and everything should be fine if he did exercises for the back. My dad didn't listen to this and he quit his job and started to just sit on the couch the whole day for maybe 2-3 years eith no exercise. His scoliosis turned severe and he also got diagnosed with dvt due to no walking or any movement basically. His doctor then prescribed methadone alkaloid which is an opiate used to treat addiction of other opiates. Nobody actually knew about this prescription until after recently my little sister thats 7 found a box with around of 200 used empty bottles of methadone, and currently only me and her know about this. Since the last 7 years I'd say my dad hasn't walked not even 50k steps, he basically sleeps 20 hours a day and the other 4 hes sitting and nodding of, he cant even talk anymore properly, he cant think of words to start and end sentences, if hes talking hes probably yelling and having a fight with someone in the house. Only activity he does is when he tries to beat the shit out of someone. This has taken a huge toll on everyone as my family is renting the house we live in, mom has a minimal paycheck and I try to help with some money I earn beside college. Living paycheck to paycheck would be heaven at this point, mom is also struggling as she has to cook, wash and clean everything while he won't even get of the couch. At this point I'm lost on what to do, should I telly my mom or confront him or call other authorities such as police to take care of such thing?

*This is part of a scheduled monthly discussion post*

​

Did you have an interesting case recently? What did you find interesting? What did you do to treat it? What do you wish could have been done differently? Discuss it here!

They are now focused on staying clean, rebuilding relationships, and addressing the financial impact of their past behavior on their family. The fear of losing his wife and the potential for relapse are significant concerns as they strive to make amends and move forward positively. Have been clean for a month now. Have a good and stable job. Work is nit affected Relationships with siblings and Parents is on the track. How can this individual improve their relationship with their wife whom they love and is the reason they have stayed clean and fears if she leaves they might relapse . Any guidance is highly appreciated this just might save someone’s relationship/life

Awaiting ortho appointment. My main concern at the very moment is surviving the crutches. I’ve gained a lot of weight in the last few years. 280 lbs of fat man. A trip across the living room to the bathroom and back literally wears me out and I can feel my good leg giving out and needing a rest. Obviously this is a time to re-examine my eating I am making immediate changes. Is there anything I could do or should be doing to strengthen the good leg to make mobility more comfortable? And obviously I can’t wear it out for an intense work out. Any advice?

Hi there everyone I’m Mike from Belive rehab center and we have openings for new patients if anyone needs help please contact Mike @ 323-308-8677 or email @ Blkonblkstop@gmail.com. We also provide transportation thank you

This is a part of a monthly discussion thread.

​

Something make you agitated recently? Need to vent it out? Post it here!

My friend’s in a really rough situation and I know that when I was in the psyche ward, they helped people get into homeless shelters, but is it the same for rehabs?

"Dead Arm" after sleeping weird - more details and request for suggestions

Greetings All, So I fell asleep on my right arm slumped over in a chair 8 days ago. I woke with the not unfamiliar feeling of my arm bring "asleep" IE, numb, weak, and near painfull tingling as circulation and sensation returned. I should say "mostly returned" because this time it didn't fully return.

I kept waiting for it to sort itself out like these things normally do, but my arm hand and grip remainred extremly weak and uncoordinated, Its almost impossible to tie a shoe, and I like the strength for even lifting a one gallon jug

Four days in I attempted to fill out a money order to pay my rent to my surprise I was barely able to write in fact I could write no matter how I tried.

I was worried that I possibly had a stroke and I remembered having something similar to this a few years ago when I read about it it was a nerve damage. It primarily affected two fingers of the hand my pinky and the one next to it are the most numb. I can use the hand a little bit but I have a difficulty lifting my arm up over a certain Heights, I end up using it like a claw with the pincher being the index finger and thumb. Keep forcing myself to use it even though it's greatly impaired hoping that muscle memory will return but it almost feels like I'm retraining it to do everything. I read somewhere else on the internet that it could take months to return to normal does anyone have any experience with anything like this or any further questions to help diagnose it?

I remember some exercise that I looked up related to it the last time it happened about 5 years ago ( though it was over in a few days that time).. It was something like putting your hands together to pray and then inverting it pulling on the tendons and muscles and nerves I guess.... Don't remember how I found it and I can't seem to find anything like that again.

I'm hoping to find some exercises or something I can do to help expedite the recovery. Any thoughts or suggestions would be deeply appreciated - thanks in advance. If I posted in the wrong area or if there's a better place for me to post this please feel free to make the suggestion.

Hollister

What do I do?

my username says it all. I have a strong addiction to xanax. I use to take 3-4 pills a day, now im taking 2. I have a big stash of like 40 2mg IR pills and 30 XR 2mg pills. I got some XR because the extended release could help take less and eventually stop. Shall i reduce gradually it until i stop or try a cold turkey? Or maybe shall i change the IR to XR and then stop?

How long did it take you to get your arm or leg working ive been lazy for about a year but now with the knowledge of me permanently losing my left arm and leg Ive been increasing all my exercise and focusing please anyone give me suggestions on how to help speed up the process and how long did it take yall?

Has anyone recently obtained a CDCA in Ohio and know how to fill out the grid? I feel so dumb right now.

All can attend! PTs are the only specialist that will receive CE credit.

https://preview.redd.it/c4myhj0xcqpc1.png?width=544&format=png&auto=webp&s=0852a23700988a1630bc9473f077bcc3d6aae0e5

Hello, my name is Sarah McCombs and I'm currently a senior in college doing a research paper for my degree in Psychology. I am studying the correlation between a history of trauma/PTSD and developing a substance use disorder. The the link below will take you to my survey, which is only 10 questions, so it shouldn't take much of your time. If you would be wiling to participate it would be greatly appreciated!

Thank you for your time!!

https://forms.gle/eSR33Eehz6ZKJVGq7

What’s a rehab that’s luxurious in Minnesota that takes blue plus??

Look I would love for you to share your experiences and stuff. And maybe games or cool tips that patients plAy. Or cool activities. I will volunteer at the same rehab

This is a recurring monthly discussion thread.

​

What is a big success you've had this week?

As the title says starting this Wednesday my mom is going into rehab for extreme alcoholism. According to her she will be gone for 6 months. I don’t know how to feel, on one hand I am proud of her that she acknowledged she had a problem, on the other hand it makes me sad both because I feel like I could have done more so that she would have never had to go to rehab and I am sad because I am, simply put, going to miss her. Even with the alcoholism she was never abusive or aggressive in any way. I know it’s good for and something that had to happen but for some reason I still feel empty. If anyone out there knows any way to make this hurt less please let me know.

Hello, does anyone know of or have any recommendations for any mommy and me drug recovery/duel diagnosis/inpatient programs? (Inpatient programs where I would be able to have my baby be there with me.) I am in South Jersey area and the only ones I’ve ever heard of are all far up in North Jersey. I just wanted to be able to be closer to my family and my other daughters who are now 5, which I think is the cutoff age for children allowed to stay with you while in treatment. I want to do, and be better for myself, but mostly for my children. I just can’t imagine being able to leave my baby (6 months) she is in amazing hands but I selfishly don’t want to miss anymore than I already have with her. If anyone knows anything please help!!

*This is part of a scheduled monthly discussion post*

​

Did you have an interesting case recently? What did you find interesting? What did you do to treat it? What do you wish could have been done differently? Discuss it here!