ok so i learned about dyspraxia a bit ago and after doing some research im wondering if it applies to me. i have adhd, but fair warning, i am a teenager with anxiety and spend a lot of time on the internet so suddenly seeing myself in a disorder i dont have definitely happens sometimes. im aware of this but obviously cant tell whether im being objective about having the symptoms or not. parents dont help because they tend to refuse to see me as anything but perfect since ive been pretty successful in school.

i wouldn’t usually post here but i just feel like this would explain my whole life and all the symptoms ive read seem to fit me /so well/ but again, i cant trust my own judgement when it comes to these sorts of things.

can anyone help me figure out if my concerns are valid? not asking for diagnosis or anything, but just wondering if im being silly. any objective tests i can do? more significant thing to look out for than just general clumsiness and lack of balance? or any advice in general would be appreciated.

Hi

I'm new here and hoping people may be able to give some advice?

My 8yo daughter has recently been assessed by Occupational Therapy and has now been referred to Paediatrics for a formal diagnosis as the OT are unable to diagnose. However, her report states that my Daughter scored "below expected" in all areas she was assessed in.

My Daughter has always struggled, and I noticed it a long time ago, however I was told by people around us that I was just "looking for problems" and there was "nothing wrong" and that my Daughter was just "clumsy" and "ditzy". All I wanted is to understand her capabilities and limitations so we can help where we can.

The main issue she has at the moment in her opinion is the social exclusion side of things, her friends don't understand that she just can't do some of the things they expect her to (or can't do them very well), but she always tries and gives 100% regardless.

She can't go on bike rides with her friends and regularly gets excluded from being selected for sports.

This week she has started athletics in PE and one of the tasks was to throw bean bags towards a target - as she struggles with grading force and depth, she wasn't very good at the activity and her teammates got cross with her and really shouted at her, then accused her of not trying hard enough and lying when she said she can't help being rubbish at the game. This really upset her and she came home in tears and was so upset the rest of the evening.

Considering her teachers are aware of her situation, I'd have expected them to step in and explain to the other children, but they didn't. I've asked for a meeting with SENCO to discuss this and other issues she's having at school, but without a formal diagnosis I don't feel like they'll take me seriously.

While we're waiting for her diagnosis I was hoping people here may be able to provide any recommendations for helping her adapt? We're in the UK and she's been assessed by the NHS so I've no idea how long it will take to see the Paediatrician.

I was considering getting her a trike instead of a bike, but I don't know if this would attract negative attention from her friends as opposed to giving her the tools to join in with her friends when they go for bike rides at the local park. Are trikes even cool? I've no idea!

Does anyone have any tips or tricks to help her:

• learn to throw & catch?
• learn to ride a bike?
• Fasten her own laces/buttons?
• Focus her attention on tasks set? (She gets distracted really easily)

I'm so desperate to help her, and although I don't regret asking for her to be referred for assessment, she's since become very aware that she has some difficulties and it's really beginning to affect her emotionally and it breaks my heart.

Thanks

My hand movement is like shooting an arrow with a bow; if you aim quickly, you miss by acres but if you take your time you'll still miss the target.
When I tell my hand to place an object or grab an object quickly, it for some reason misses 90% of the time. Today at my dishwashing job, I was supposed to place the plates aligned exactly onto a tray. In order for me to align anything correctly, especially with larger things, I need to be slower than everyone else. When I tried to go faster, instead of stacking the plate on top of another, it just smacked to the side and i basically broke 20 plates. Got the email from the manager today that I was let go.
Please tell me if there's any way I can fix this inaccuracy at home? This is like my 5th job at this point thats been ruined by this.

Drama in the UK local elections today. In 2022 the government passed a law saying you need photo ID at the polling station. A very unpopular MP, who voted for this law, had to arrange an emergency proxy vote due to him losing his ID. He has stated that it's due to dyspraxia and it's made national news.

I don't have much sympathy for him as he voted for that law. Also there are multiple types of valid photo ID so I don't know how we lost all of them.

Now I'm waiting for the inevitable internet uproar and demonisation of this condition. Maybe I'm too pessimistic, but I've seen conditions I suffer with, and sufferers themselves, get insulted and ridiculed far too often.

I have dyspraxia and I’m also a clinical psych grad student. I was researching some stuff about neuro psych testing and found out that frequently breaking the lead of your mechanical pencils/ pressing down too hard while writing is something that happens to a lot of people with dyspraxia. I always sorta attributed my bad/slow handwriting to dyspraxia but I never realized that dyspraxia is also probably the reason that I break the lead off of my pencils like every 30 seconds. Does this happen to you guys??

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Maybe it's because I'm tired, because I'm stressed or because it's my time of the month. But, for whatever reason, it feels like my dyspraxia has been noticeably worse this week.

I have managed to spill a hot coffee all over a desk full of paperwork. It was neither my coffee, nor my desk, nor my paperwork.

In a gift shop, I managed to knock over a display cabinet, sending all of its contents (luckily non breakable things) flying across the shop floor.

I ripped a shirt when it got caught on a door handle.

It's lots of small things, but it's just felt really frustrating. Especially when, like the first two, it's someone else I've affected and not just me. It makes me feel terrible. I can (and do!) apologise, but I still feel really guilty when I have accidents like those.

I'm reaching out to you today in need of guidance and advice. I've harbored a lifelong dream of becoming a surgeon, driven by my unique strengths as a dyspraxic individual, with having all the traits with the unusual caveat of haviing exceptional and unusually great fine motor skills and hand-eye coordination. throw a ball at me however and watch me crumble. (lol)

In 2012, I began my journey by studying dentistry in Libya, my father's homeland. However, the civil war disrupted my studies, forcing me to return to the UK. I then channeled my skills into fine arts, working as a freelance illustrator and graphic designer, with a particular focus on anatomical and medical illustrations.

At 37, I realized that becoming a surgeon might be a distant dream, so I opted for a degree that would bring me closest to my goal. However, my hospital placement as a dyspraxic and autistic adult has been nothing short of hellish. Despite my seemingly 6ft6 aging jock twink neurotypical exterior, I've faced bullying, indirect aggression, sexual harassment, and ridicule. I don't use these terms lightly, having witnessed real trauma in war-torn Libya.

The structured environment of a hospital, the meticulous process of sterile scrub, gowning, gloving, instrumentation, and being on-call for surgeons, is challenging enough as a dyspraxic. But it's the dog eat dog attitude of the nurses and other non surgeon operating staff that I find unbearable. I made the mistake of disclosing my condition, which led to them treating me as if I were mentally retarded. I apologize for the length of this post, but I have so much more to share.

I've considered attending medical school in the UK, but my dyscalculia and the challenging maths A-Levels required present another obstacle. I'm at a crossroads and unsure of what to do. I love the surgical environment and have the utmost respect for surgeons, but the hostile attitude from other staff members is disheartening.

I'm seeking advice on how to navigate this situation, manage my stress, and pursue my dream without compromising my mental health. Any insights, personal experiences, or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. im on a break right now, as sadly lost both famuly in libya derna floods and in gaza city. buf I need a new focus to get me out of a self pity grief spiral, however the thought of returning to NHS (national hell service) is making me ill.

So, some background, I'm 26, Dutch, and I have autism and DCD, I spent most of my youth with other people with autism. I also have minor physical disabilities outside of the DCD and autism. I also have a long (for my age) history of mental health problems, but that's behind me; something relating to that did get me to this line of thinking. I had to explain my life's story for a course I have been doing, and then, people's reactions made it dawn on me how much I struggled and still struggle with DCD.

I know what's normal for autism, I know dozens upon dozens of others with autism IRL, and volunteer to work with autistic adults nowadays. I just don't know what's normal for DCD, I know 2 people with DCD (as far as I'm aware), not a big sample.

When I got the diagnosis DCD when I was 9, for some examples, I couldn't tie my shoe laces, use buttons in clothing, or make my own sandwiches. I had to learn many of these very basic things through therapy at a medical rehabilitation centre ("revalidatiecentrum"). And I still struggle with shoe laces and making sandwiches. I still don't really know how to tie my shoe laces, I just use the same trick I was taught 17 years ago, meaning, if anything changes or I pause, I don't know how anymore.

Is this typical for people with DCD? Do I just have a slightly worse case than is typical? I just seem to struggle with many basic life things still, and it's still just very frustrating. It really wrecked my confidence as a kid, especially being the gifted child who couldn't, for the life of him, do the most basic things, but understood what a Quasar was at age 10.

I do exercise nowadays at a fitness group, it did help me gain some confidence in my body and coordination, especially the boxing. I initially started in a group mostly made up of people with additional needs (think intellectual disability, or other things that make these things harder), which was very helpful, since they just had more patience and attention for me. But still, the fact that, as soon as I stop focusing, I mess up everything immediately remains a constant frustration for me.

I also have poor eyesight and hearing, but that's pretty typical for DCD, as far as I know. I can't filter stimuli very well, which means that anything busy severely limits how much I can see or hear.

It's also one of these things people don't really understand, even at work, where I'm among many people who've recovered from depression or more complicated psychiatric conditions, I often have to explain again and again why I'm unable to do certain things well, and people don't really react well. I tend to connect the most with people with acquired brain injury, since they often have very similar struggles, even if different, there's a sort of mutual understanding there.

I have known that I had dyspraxia since 6 years. I always noticed that my feet aren't really walking straight. They keep walking in an angle I'm walking to. If I'm walking straight they swerve in like an arrow and if I think bout it they swerve out like an reversed arrow. Does anybody else also have that. And does it have to do with dyspraxia.

is it just me who gets so overly annoyed when someone says this to me? like.. what do you mean my entire house being disorganized and accidentally bumping into people and spilling things and not being able to act like a functioning human person is a superpower? actually go away.

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Sorry but this is a bit of a sad post. I’m in my early 30s single, don’t drive,don’t own a house (not like that’s important ) but have a good job which I’m grateful for and my life I’ve experienced having travelled to 30+ countries and lived in 3 different ones.

Just been to a stag do and I’m the only single one left. People are asking me when I’m going to change (as it’s a bit of a joke in the group that I’m clumsy like mr bean) but I really don’t know if I truly can get out of my own way.

my dyspraxia/trauma from growing up and my lack organisation has prevented me from progressing in my life goals I feel behind and I don’t know where to start the thought of raising a family even getting into another relationship with someone who will have to put up me and my struggles and always fail. I can never truly open up out of fear.

My question is . How do those with dyspraxia overcome any self esteem issues they had in life to help them achieve their goals.

I get that this isn’t Dyspraxia related but the side effects mentally it can cause are underlying.

FYI I plan to have therapy again just in case this is suggested

Remember Bratz dolls? Like their feet but wrong. All the fuckinh time lately. Is it my boots? The air.

No it's me. Trying not to trip over them too.

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Helloooo, so I am not officially diagnosed with dyspraxia, but as a kid I had several exams done on me and they deduced it to "slow processing", but I was never given a label. I've ben driving since I was 15 and while it has been a slow process, I am 20 now and very comfortable with both my driving and parking skills. My issue is I've taken the road test twice. Intially I did not make it pass parking because I had a panic attack and gave up, second time was yesterday and I don't know what happened but the instructor just randomly told me to stop mid turn even though traffic was clear. Obivously I could have missed something, but I was already being super cautious, so I just told my examiner I wanted to be done. Anywho my point is I like desperately need my license because I am moving to an apartment and I don't want to rely on public transportation, but I am in a panic spiral as I've already "failed" twice. Any tips?

Hey, so I have dyspraxia, but I’ve also found I have some other issues that don’t really fit under any mental illness label I can find, and I’ve read one or two other dyspraxia posts talking about the same sorts of things. For one, I’m very narcissistic—not enough to warrant an NPD diagnosis, but I pretty much only think about myself 24/7. I have just a general lack of interest in other people, their feelings, thoughts lives etc. Other people are an afterthought most of the time, or a nuisance I begrudgingly take into account so as to not make anyone upset. Like I avoid hurting people and try to pretend I care and stuff but really I just…don’t? People are kind of like objects to me; they give me the attention I need, and I give as little as possible in return to stay in their good graces.

On this same note, I struggle to form any real emotional attachments to anyone. I don’t really care about other peoples suffering at all. Like, I’ll pretend like I care, and act sympathetic to the best of my ability, but deep down I don’t really feel anything, and it doesn’t make much difference to me whether they’re dead or alive. Seeing someone in real life get hurt feels the same as watching a tv show character get hurt—it doesn’t FEEL like anything, even though I know it should. Because of this, I’m pretty desensitized to harsh and serious topics like rape, murder, etc, even in the context of real people being discussed. I can read about true crime stories for hours and go “that’s all?” Because I enjoy it the same way one enjoys a grisly horror story—I don’t process it the way other people seem to, with that gut reaction of disgust and horror. I just don’t have any of that. I do have certain fear and ick triggers, like blood and veins, but that’s not really because I feel bad for people—just a phobia of sorts.

There’s a lot more I could go on about, but to hammer my point home I guess, the last thing is that I don’t think I can grieve. To be fair, I haven’t lost anyone incredibly close to me yet in my lifetime (like a parent or sibling), but I went to a friend’s funeral (we weren’t very close and fell out of touch a year before her death), and I genuinely didn’t feel sad or anything. I actually kind of had fun, to be honest—lots of people I knew there, and I got to sing in a choir. It was the same as attending a party or something, just that everyone else was sad and crying.

Anyways, I was wondering if any of you dyspraxics have similar experiences? Am I just weird? Is something wrong with me?

I find I do this alot but if I'm carrying cutlery or tableware and I need to put a tissue or food in the bin I nearly always put the cutlery or tableware in the bin.

This is a bit random but my daughter wants to learn how to whistle. I've been trying to teach her my way as a neuro typical but it's not working. Any suggestions?

I always take out a knife for my porridge or a spoon to butter my bread. Does this happen to anyone else?

Is it dyspraxia when you are collecting mobility aids? Is it dyspraxia when you are considering a walker one day?

Is it dyspraxia when you stomp around on a broken foot for two days because you can't tell any difference from the daily pain level that 'everyone has'?

Is dyspraxia when taking 2 abortive arthritis meds at once that are so strong you're not supposed to drink alcohol makes no difference?

Is dyspraxia when your symptoms magically disappear over lockdown??????????

I either have this condition or Cerebral Palsy (which Dr.s have said some of my issues don't belong to either) so I'm trying to sus out what is what.

Edit: I have been officially diagnosed with both as a toddler but can’t find any answers for what I’m describing in either condition. Looks like I need to look further into this medical neglect as at the moment if anyone asks what’s wrong with me I have to sit them down for a two hour yap out because I don’t even have a word for this. It’s not rheumatoid arthritis either. And I’m still waiting for this to magically get better through exercise like everyone says it will. Because 10 mins every day or something is somehow supposed to see improvement but getting to the bus stop is still a boring boring slog and I need to take a break after putting my hair in a ponytail. Be real with me, after 30 years when does ‘just exorcise’ start improving this problem? Because I’m still waiting while it gets worse after each feet bash around.

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I’ve been diagnosed with dyspraxia for nearly two years and ever since I was a kid, I’ve always been shaky and quivery, even when I’m not cold or anything like that. It’s ruined my life because my gf was put off hugging me cos I will sometimes shake randomly. Does anyone else get this?

Was at work today. Was trying not to be upset but felt undervalued and being ignored. When went back to the office. People went to the meeting and when they left felt angry, crying. Just kept thinking wish I could be able to brush off a lot of emotions easily and not have the tendency to cry over something trivial. Then started to blame dyspraxia for making me feel emotional.

Ever since I was young I've been insanely clumsy. Tripping over nothing, dropping things, running into things and falling up stairs because I constantly miss steps. I also struggle with handwriting, opening lids and closing lids, I cannot draw or dance or skip or push a shopping cart because I bang into it or bang it into walls and sometimes people 😅 I have a hard time driving because it makes me feel disoriented. I trip over my words often too, I have a hard time with utensils and brushing my hair and teeth tends to be a nightmare. I also can't tie my shoes properly (at the ripe old age of 25, I didnt learn till I was 13) I have autism and ADHD, arthritis in my hands and poor hearing & vision so I'm wondering if it's everything else causing me to be a clumsy mess or if it could be dyspraxia.

I think this is a dyspraxic thing so does anybody else dread when they get asked to hand out books In school cause you just don't know anybodys names like I know who they are I just can't seem to put the name to the face you know.This happened to me td and not only did I have a group of boys taking the mick out of me but the teacher literally just told me to give them her and sit down because I was taking so long lmao