I have a new, cute effeminate younger guy friend who is a freshman computer science major at my university that has issues with achieving erections due to a spinal injury from a car accident he was in several years ago. He can only get partially erect (about 1/3 - 1/2) for a few minutes at a time, but loses it quickly without constant oral or manual stimulation. For this reason he’s gotten more into sexual relationships guys than with girls due to being so self-conscious about his ED. With Viagra or Cialis plus a good cock ring he can manage about 3/4 erect for a little longer, but that’s about his limit. We’ve been swapping head once a week since early August and his condition doesn’t bother me at all. For one he gives me head with more passion, skill, and energy than any girl ever has, plus he’s a geek gamer/computer nerd like me, lol. He is able to orgasm and ejaculate at times with a lot of vigorous and passionate effort. It’s kind of relegated me to a more submissive role during oral sex than I’m used to, especially since he’s so much smaller than me, but I like spending time with him and the way he interacts and communicates with me to maximize our pleasure in bed so that’s just what it takes to get him off. I’ve got where I like to lay my head over the edge of my bed and let him stand behind my head, lay over onto my body as I place him into my mouth, and steadily pump his warm 4-6” partial-softy over and over into my mouth for multiple 20-30 minute sessions until he’s either exhausted or climaxes/oozes cum into my mouth. If we 69 he gets distracted and totally loses his erection, so when it’s his turn it’s all about him only. It’s a lot of fun and kind of a challenge. He’s a loud moaner and gets really into his own pleasure zone and I just like being able to make his body feel good with my mouth and make him feel sexy and accepted one night a week.

But how would this election affect us the disable community

No hate please

Just wanted to see ppl opinions

I have been trying to look for a girl who has the same disability as me (Cerebral Palsy) but I never seem to find one.

It’s too hot to handle, I’m so attracted to beautiful women and I do OK talking with people in normal settings, but not great in party scenes. 21M C6/7 SCI who just wants to have a lot of sex with gorgeous women and I feel like being pornstar is the only way to meet my sex drive and try out a lot of different things but I have no idea how to do that and I really don’t wanna show my face. I’m on the East Coast.

Definitely first world problems, I know, but I think that it could help me actually be turned on and hopefully orgasm, which I still have been struggling with not achieving. Any ideas?

Depression is hitting me hard wish I had someone to cuddle and or talk too DM open . Sorry if it’s not the right place to post I just don’t know where else

Still Looking for more disablity friends maybe see where the flow goes , dm open

Anybody here had an endoscopy and colonoscopy before at the same time ? I’m just shy of 25 and unfortunately I’ve had 3 of each so far . In addition to 8 VP shunt revisions , 4 back procedures, 2 hamstring lengthenings with 1 possible in the future, 2 tendon transfers, 2 bladder , an now a series of penile and urethra surgeries to repair damage from a MVA . Now I know it’s small beans compared to most in the community but it just really gets ya down when you wake up every day feeling like your so young but let every day feels like death , but alas just keep on pushing . After all a lot of our experiences in life are what shape us and personally i wouldn’t change it for the world even my worst experiences . I know in time hopefully I’ll be better physically and mentally but one small push at a time , ugh if you made it this far thank you , sorry it turned into a rant . I was just curious if I was the only one needing frequent colonoscopy’s 🤦‍♂️😆 any ways have a great day

Does anyone who has muscle weakness disorders struggle with wearing butt plugs?

I put one in and a few mins later it just pops back out. Very annoying! They aren't too small either because they still hurt/are uncomfortable to insert

Lots of high pain tolerances I'd bet bdsm

Sorry, nobody to really share this with so I’m doing it here. I’ve been seeing a massage therapist for a few months now and I actually feel horny today which I never usually feel so I’m happy 😁

I would love to hear the experiences of people with my same disability. I'm open to anyone really but I especially would like to hear from people with SB

I have spina bifida with partial paralysis beginning at the waist. I can only feel a tiny spot on my penis, but it gets hard and ejaculates just fine though without any pleasurable sensation at all. Physical stimulation does very little for me while I can quite easily get hard and cum from visual or auditory stimulation alone. I struggle with ejaculating almost immediately which is immensely frustrating. People talk about 10 second wonder as an insult while I wish I could make it 10 seconds. Odds are that within 3 seconds of kissing or even just taking clothes off without even touching at all, I've already ejaculated.

Since I don't get any pleasure at all from ejaculating, and that happens almost immediately unless I'm supremely focused on actively turning myself off, I'm at a loss of how to enjoy anything sexual. I wish I could just ignore the whole thing and move on, but my brain doesn't know that I can't feel my penis or orgasm and keeps making me horny. I've tried talking to doctors to see if there's anything to be done, but they just brush me off. Is there anyone out there that experiences anything similar that might have some advice?

Hello, I’m 24 and I have spina bifida ! just wondering if there anyone that has it on here, It be cool to chat lol

Thank !

Would you ever date or fool around with someone who couldn't get an erection? I can get some blood flow but nothing enough for my penis to be useful. Would you still date me or fool around with me?

PLEASE BE HONEST, no judgement

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Hey guys,

Me and my girlfriend love 69. Which means it's a very regular thing in our sex life. We both prefer her to be on top. And we've tried doing 69 sideways as a lot of websites suggest, but we just can't seem to find a good way to do it. It's uncomfortable to hold your neck like that, you both have to keep a leg up to have some mobility... It's a hassle.

But my girlfriend is struggling with supporting herself on her hands/elbows/... because of her disability. Which means that our 69'ing has taken a hit.

So in order to make it more pleasurable and comfortable for her, I've been looking into something to support her being on top during 69. Something to supports her upper body, leaving mobility in the neck /head, but taking the strain of her wrists and arms.

But I can't find anything....

Does anyone have any idea if something like that exists? Or maybe even just plans to make it myself?

Thanks in advance ♥️

Just wondering how to go about it but I just moved from California to Illinois and I’m wondering how I can find others that are disabled as friends / Friends with benefits or maybe something more if things are right . Idk if this is the right spot to put this but I’m not sure where else to reach out especially about getting intimate

Frustrating no one is rough with me I’m not made of glass

I am dating a trans woman and am pretty inexperienced with enjoyable penetrative sex (aka I just kind of lied there and waited for it to be over when I dated a cis dude). Since I’m actually attracted to her I have more desires in bed. Yesterday we had sex and I got on top because I like taking control. I had my hands on the bed for leverage. But then my wrist popped out of place about 5 minutes in. It was only minimally painful but VERY loud and felt weird to move for a min. Is there any way to get on top without putting my wrists at risk?

This question is for single people if you can't masturbate yourself who helps you

Hiya. I’m a young adult whose recently started talking to a guy online. He’s a full time wheelchair user because he has a spinal injury. I know that: he can’t always get erections, he has no sensation there and can’t orgasm. He does, however, want to lose his virginity.

I’ve offered to help with that. I am curious if there are ways to help him experience different sorts of sensation. Would vibrators perhaps help? I admit that I don’t know much about this sort of injury. But I want to learn.

I also want to know… if his penis is numb, then would his prostate be too? Or is there a chance that I could pleasure him that way? Could I trigger an orgasm this way, or could he not orgasm at all? I know these are things I should ask him but he’s a virgin and doesn’t know much himself.

Thank you.

Important note, the way I worded this for the joke is not at all inclusive, and that is not the vibe here.

So I sadly do have erectile dysfunction due to having spina bifida and I was curious in using pill in boosting, having a longer time. but I was curious if anyone of u guys/girls using any and how was your experience with it

Thank !

Hey y'all so I have a question. I enjoy anal play but I know frequent anal play can sometimes carry risks such as incontinence. I also have alternating constipation and diarrhea with no other digestive symptoms. Is there a safe way for me to engage in anal play occasionally? Is there any research on complications of anal play and hEDS?

New husband cerebral palsy what toys are easiest to use with limited dexterity, bonus points for affordability. I'm a lucky guy just want to make her feel good too.

I've been thinking of leaning more into my disability when it comes to my SW, does anyone know what I can do/where to post to garner more attention from Devotees?

Would using hashtags on sites like Fansly be a good place to start?

TL;DR: Disabled af, never had sex, really horny sometimes, thinking about doing and thus losing it to a hookup

Hey all. I'm 20M, with a bone developing disease. Right now, I can walk a bit (around the house, bit in the garden), but I'm mostly a wheelchair user. I live in a small, but consistent pain, don't have endurance at all.

As you can imagine, I'm not the most attractive person on this planet. I'm small (4'), chubby, and overall have a weird body shape. As you can imagine, I'm a virgin.

Although I never had any relationships, or doing nothing sexually, I can become insanely horny sometimes. My main content source then is reddit.

Here comes the part I'm not sure about. One of my female friends said, that they could hook me up with some of their friends, I could choose. I instantly pulled off the idea, because I want to lose it with someone more "permanent", but at the same time I think I could benefit from it.

Do y'all think I should accept the offer?

Hello! Between being AuDHD and chronically ill, I'm extremely sensitive and things that feel great one day might hurt the next day. I've explained this multiple times to my boyfriend but he still feels defeated and upset if what he does doesn't feel good. If I have to tell him to stop or change anything he feels like a failure. I don't know how to tell him to change or stop without making him feel bad. It's incredibly frustrating because it's not a big deal to me if he has to stop or change but it definitely is to him and I don't know how to handle this. 1 - how do I handle this?? 2 - is there any sort of numbing cream or anything that might help me be less sensitive?

What's the best way to masturbate with my diaper still on