I only just learned about them and I’m super curious

I want to focus on men or NB people (penises only) who can’t masturbate themselves or feel uncomfortable asking for help. I’m very patient and understanding. PM for details or with questions.

I started with working my friend four years ago. She has CP and have very low mobility but cognitively very high. She has rekindled her old relationship from the past, he also has CP and very low mobility. They have asked me to help them be intimate, she trusts me and I am honoured, but I am not sure how comfortable my partner is with all this. He's a good man but he said he's not sure he's comfortable with me taking part. We talked and I can totally see his perspective but I really want this for my friend, she has loved this man for a long time. She only trusts me with this out of her staff. How can I help this happen without crossing my partner's boundaries? What tools are available to help me here in Canada? Any guidance or someone who has experience with this would be amazing!

Currently doing research to bring more awareness to surrogate partner therapy in an empathetic, compassionate way (details in DM). I’m seeking someone who either had surrogate partner therapy, is in it now or seriously considering it and willing to have a conversation with me. Preferably on the east coast (US) but would love to talk to anyone who’s willing.

idk if this exists but does anyone know of something i could put on my bed so i dont have 2 worry about incontinence during sex? preferably smth that looks visually appealing & reusable. i usually just put towels over it but it gives me sensory issues ToT

Does anyone have advice for this or any mental exercises that might help? I can ejaculate within 20 seconds from a handjob or blowjob haha. I have Muscular Dystrophy and wonder if there’s a connection between my condition (like weaker muscles) and this happening, or if it’s just because I’m still relatively new to having sex. I’ve had sex about a dozen times now but have only been able to last a few minutes once.

Any tips or insights would be appreciated!

Thought I’d post this here because if im being honest, im kind of worried what some of the people on the more popular subs like r/sex or r/AskRedditAfterDark might think, or my own therapist for that matter.

Even now as a (28M) with Type 2 SMA and scoliosis, I’m still discovering things about myself/learning of my identity and asking “Why is it that I’m this way?” “How?”

Thus, creating the perfect segue to the beginning of my journey:

I still remember when I had my first pairs of Underroos briefs as a kid. I remember thinking “I feel cute,” and “I love the way it cradles my parts. Anything that was remotely skimpy and hugged my bits and tush, I enjoyed wearing them.

When I was 14, I went to the local mall and got some red Calvins with the uplifting pouch. This is where the pattern began that I started buying even sexier underwear and swimsuits online, such as bikini briefs and thongs.

It was the one thing besides gaming where I felt some form of joy and pleasure, since I can’t do many activities physically, plus it was my way of expressing myself and boosting my sexual esteem.

Fast forward to 18 years old, just days before my high school graduation, I was laying in bed with nothing but my thong on and came up with the idea of “brushing” or groping the tip of my penis with a Chinese backscratcher (can’t reach down with my hands)… and before I knew it, I’d reached my first ever orgasm…

At first I thought I had peed myself. My vision became blurry upon blowing my load and I remembered panicking and going “Oh shit, I just peed my undies, the bed — my mom is going to kill me (I can’t clean myself).” But, surprisingly, she was very understanding, and cleaned me up with no issue.

I was born in the US but come from a supportive Cuban family, so sex really isn’t a taboo for us as much as it is for my nurses.

My mother, her sister, and my grandmother had expressed in the past that they never really thought it would be possible for me to masturbate due to my condition, and were relieved to hear of my successful ejaculation. Turned out I proved both them and myself wrong.

Eventually I began to turn my insatiable sexual energy as well as my passion for self expression into body positivity in the online world, so that I could teach others to not just accept their bodies, but also embrace it, flaws and all. I also wanted to break the stigma that it is only socially acceptable for men to wear board shorts/trunks at the beach, and normalize wearing speedos and even thongs, whether you’re disabled or not, overweight, skinny, or somewhere in between.

Point being, none of it should matter. No one should have to feel ashamed of what they can’t control, and it’s a personal choice how they decide to show off their body, so… own it. Everyone has the right.

It used to be I’d hide myself from social media thinking no one would find me attractive, until I found the courage within me to “just do it”. As a result, my body image was improving significantly.

Every modeling pic I had uploaded was met with praise, and I received compliments from women too.

It was actually because of this that I met other disabled folk who shared the same vibes and commonalities as me, and even became one of the mods here on this sub, not excluding r/disablednudes.

So, while my “fetish” did open up doors to amazing communities such as this and provided me an outlet that made me feel sexually valid, I can’t help but ask:

What is it that goes into the psychology of my unique tastes? Are there any women out there who have the same fetish as I do? Could it be that perhaps I had consumed so much sexualized media growing up that I found myself craving the same type of attention they had gotten (especially since I rarely get any opportunities to put myself out there in the real world so I’m stuck with nothing but my own fantasies)?

Maybe I answered my own question with that third one... o_o

Then again, it could be I’m just overthinking again and making something out of nothing. But I’d be curious to know if any of you in the comments have some sort of insight for me, so that I may learn a little bit more about myself and why I do the things that I do. Your feedback would be very appreciated.

Thank you, and I hope to hear from you soon. 🙏🏻

Hello, I have spina bifida and I also am incontinent. It doesn't really affect my sex life as I know how to manage it well enough to get through sex without an accident. However I'm curious to try anal play but I wanted to know if anyone else has experience and could share how to prepare yourself. Feel free to comment or chat

Hi everyone,

I’m hoping to get some advice or ideas on how to make things work during intercourse, considering my physical limitations. I’m a guy with Muscular Dystrophy, which has severely affected my ability to move, and I also have scoliosis. As a result, I have difficulty with low pelvis elevation.

I’m not able to sit up on my own, and my legs are difficult to move or straighten due to the muscular dystrophy. My hips are angled because of scoliosis, and I struggle with flexibility, so finding positions that are comfortable and accessible has been a real challenge. Additionally, my legs get in the way, making things even more difficult.

I’ve tried using pillows and different setups, but nothing has really worked so far. I currently use a ceiling track lifter and a sling, and I’ve thought about trying a chair or recliner for positioning, but I’m not sure what would work best.

Has anyone here had similar challenges and found a position, technique, or piece of equipment that works well for them? I’m open to any ideas, whether it’s products like wedges, ramps, or other supports, or even positioning tips that you’ve found helpful.

Thanks in advance for your help and suggestions!

I (25F) have a neuromuscular condition that causes most of my muscles to spasm and get rigid and flex. We have a running joke that sometimes the disability giveth (good parking, free vip, general helpfulness) and sometimes the disability taketh away (pain, lack of mobility, lost skills).

Now that I’ve progressed further, when I orgasm…I don’t stop. I just keep cumming. My orgasm muscles essentially get stuck on a spasm loop (in a good way). I had like 12 back to back orgasms with pretty minimal effort. ESPECIALLY if a vibe is involved. My girlfriend loves it. The disability giveth. This happen to anyone else?

Edited to add: not looking for sex but thanks guys

Just got out of my first serious relationship which lasted 3 1/2 years, beginning at age 29 I was so happy to have found someone that accepted me for me and was willing to have a lot of sex! That relationship has now ended and I have to go about dating again, which I find really intimidating and unpleasant. I'm also very sexually frustrated, and really want to fuck again regularly I can't help feeling my able bodied guy friends would be able to pick up a girl in a bar and get that confidence boost. Whilst I have kissed girls in bars, I was never able to get them into bed, and often the wheelchair was a psychological problem for the girls.

I'll be honest, the thought of having to find another girl is not a positive one, and I don't even know where to start looking!

Hello! Recently, I’ve become lucky enough to get a relationship that allows me to be more sexually active. My doctor prescribed me 100 mg sildenafil. This allows me to get fully hard however, after penetration, my erection goes away rather quickly within only a few minutes. Sometimes after a quick break, it comes back, but then it goes away again almost immediately. While I understand everyone’s injury and experience is going to be extremely unique I’m wondering if there is any advice available on how I can help this. Maybe other prescription medication’s that other people have seen success with or various herbal remedies or anything else. I do not struggle with AD really at all. Any advice would be extremely helpful.

I am personally more of a giver than a reciever. My previous sexual partners I noticed find this a bit boring. I have also experienced that they get a little sad when I say it might have something to with my injury. I have no problems getting an erection but I dont enjoy oral sex that much. I get aroused by the look of it, to know she is down there, but I dont feel it much. I wonder if ny focus on her, the urge to be the giver in the act, comes from shifting focus from my own body. The main critizism I get in sex is that I dont recieve enough. So what do you all think? Does your injury influence Your sexual preferences?

Hi all, just looking for any advice anyone might have! So l'm disabled, my most severe being my injuries from a childhood brain injury, which includes extreme weakness in my legs, so as you can imagine that can cause some issues during sex. During penetration I am only able to bend my knees while keeping my feet flat on the bed, I'm unable to lift them in any way in order for my partner to get in deeper. Now we do have a great sex life regardless of any issues my disabilities may cause, but this is one thing that l'd love to fix/ improve. We bought one of those things that goes around my neck and attaches to ankle cuffs to (in theory) keep my legs in the air, but we tried it and it didn't really do much, it helped keep them in place but didn't help lift them at all. The only idea l've come up with so far is getting a spreader bar and attaching it to my headboard and get thigh cuffs(?) to then attach my legs to the bar? Anyone else have any other suggestions? Tia!

Hi so I'm in a new relationship, some background I have Spinal Muscular Atrophy. I'm a trans woman and she is a cis woman I haven't been with a cis woman since transitioning and was just looking for some kind of advice regarding positions, toys or aids you might suggest so I can make things as easy and enjoyable for her as well as myself. Thank you in advance.

I am 31F with Spina Bifida Myelomeningocele. Paralyzed from waist/down. I was also born without a vaginal opening. How does everyone navigate having anal? I have to do anal fingering as my bowel program because enemas and suppositories aren’t effective and I have a difficult time “pushing”. Does anyone struggle with “pushing” as well? I really think I would enjoy anal. Living with parents again also makes it hard to have a sex life so I am struggling big time.

I have had all my levels checked and they came back normal. So I'm thinking it might have something to do with sitting in my chair all day 🤔 🤷

(Forgive me for my English if I make a grammar or redaction mistake, it's not my first language)

So I(26F) am sex worker, last week I was contacted online by a man who was looking to hire me to give intimacy to his son for his 18th birthday because his son is lonely and has never experienced any kind of intimacy. The man offered me to pay $1,400 per hour for 3 hours plus the girlfriend experience. Yesterday I met up with this man's son(18M) to spend the evening of his birthday with him. I was at this guy's home for 3 hours and I did have a great experience.

I went to this guy's home around 7pm where I first met with his dad who introduced me the home, it was big and accommodated for this young guy's needs. He then showed me his son's room and that's where I met this young guy who has a caretaker around him most of the time. Anyways, when I arrived to his room, I was given space along with this young guy, the dad just told me to be kind to his son and call the caretaker regarding any situation his son could present about his health.

I spent the first hour I was paid chatting with this young guy to get to know him, I congratulated him for his 18th birthday, and he seemed happy with having intimate company around for the first time on his life. This young guy is also mute due to his injury, so he communicates using a device he uses with his eyes, I don't remember how it exactly works, but it's the way he communicates. He also uses a breathing tube due to his respiratory issues. It was interesting talking to him, he told me he has been paralyzed for 10 years due due to a car accident he was in, and has pretty much have it tough in life with a C2 injury, and about the loneliness he has. He also told me about his career, apparently he studies software engineering with online classes. This guy also complimented my looks.

After chatting with him for a while, he told me if I could call his caretaker to help him get cleaned and dressed for bed, I called his caretaker, and she took him on his wheelchair to get showered while I waited for him on his room. He came back 20 minutes later with his caretaker who transferred him from his wheelchair to bed while he had a towel on, his caretaker made sure his breathing tube was well and told me to call her in case of any health concern this guy had and left us alone in the room. I took off his towel to get him fully naked, and then I started taking off my clothes in front of him. This young guy also couldn't communicate while lying on bed, so I agreed with him that he'd communicate by blinking once to say yes, blinking twice for no, and blinking multiple times quickly in case he felt uncomfortable of something.

Anyways, before we started getting more intimate, I gave him a tablet of viagra while I was touching him. I asked him if he could feel where I was touching him, but he didn't feel anything. Despite the viagra I had given him, minutes passed and he was not able to get any erection, I felt bad for him. I asked him if he was enjoying the things I was trying on him, but he didn't enjoy anything of that. I then started touching his face and ears, and he seemed to like that, I also kissed him which was comfortable for him. Finally, since there wasn't anything else I could try for him, I asked him if he'd like to perform me oral which he agreed to, I had to be careful while sitting on his face to not damage his tube. But still this oral sex I had with him was pretty satisfying for me, gosh, I can't describe exactly what I felt, but it was good, and I could see the happiness on this guy's eyes.

We spent a little more time cuddling together, I put on back my clothes and I helped this guy to put some of his clothes back on, even though I wasn't sure about putting him the shirt back again due that he had his breathing tube, so I had to call his caretaker for that to help. Anyways, the caretaker helped him get transferred back to his wheelchair and left us alone once again to enjoy the rest of the time I was paid to be with this guy. We spent the rest of this time talking and watching his TV. Finally, the time was up, and I said goodbye to the guy with one last kiss and left his home saying goodbye to his father who thanked me to be with his son.

It was honestly an amazing experience to be with this client and him being my first physically disabled client. I honestly kinda feel bad for him for the things he's not able to do, and this guy is a nice and blonde attractive guy, so the only reason he is lonely is due to the lack of social life he has due to his injury. Regardless, it felt so good making a young guy like him happy, I'm sure he's not gonna forget that experience.

34 m I was born with cerebral pAlsy and use a wheelchair but everything else is normal and works fine I'm single and have had sex but it's been awhile and not often I'm horny all the time to the point it's uncomfortable.and embarrassing and frustrated I've tryed mAsterbation but never get off like I want or any relief does anyone have anything i could try or ideAs or would be willing to help I am very open to anything just need help thank you 9

Are there any cheaper alternatives i know it’s just an expensive gliding chair.

Long story short, I had cancer and abdominal/pelvic surgery resulting in very little sensitivity in my genitals. Since my surgery I haven't been able to orgasm. I have nerve damage and numbness pretty badly in my hip, hamstring, glute, and groin/genitals. I've tried masturbating and sex with my wife but no luck. After a lot of hard work either on my own or with my wife, I can get close but right as I feel like it's about to happen it just suddenly stops and goes away. Then it feels like there's no way I can get back to that point again. After I get close and fail, it almost feels the way it would feel after actually ejaculating. Like I start losing my erection and it feels less pleasurable.

Any suggestions?

I have mobility impairments that affect my ability to have sex in general as does my spouse. I am looking for position suggestions specifically related to :

1. sex ( to allow for longer sessions with hopefully decreased back pain )
2. positions for oral that do not cause extreme neck or hip pain ( both m/f front & rear)

Ty

My last post I had let everyone know about the fact I can feel at the most depth of my vagina. It was amazing, but after I was so worried it it was a one off. I found myself hyper focusing on it that the next few times I thought I lost the feeling. I had also started back retuning to work and our schedules no longer jived so I blamed it all being in my head that I couldn’t orgasm again. Anyway it’s been a few months and I guess there has been some new nerve growth and we had sex and omg. I don’t know if it was just moving me into a specific position but he found the power button of my pussy and a came not once but twice back to back which has never happened for me. It literally took minutes and my reaction must have looked very theatrical. It’s all I’ve been thinking about. I can’t wait until the healing proceeds more and I can start to feel my clit again… fuck I miss playing with it

I (27f) want to learn more, I want to understand. I consider myself a very open minded person but as someone who's been disabled (sma type 3) all my life I do find it difficult to think about someone getting aroused by my disability, so I want to understand what it's about. I know everyone is different so I'll just ask the general "what is it about a disabled person that turns you on?".

I'd also like to know whether or not someone's personality plays a part in your attraction the way it does for most people, or is it solely sexual/a fetish for you. I tend to wonder "are they only attracted to me because I'm disabled" which is my biggest hesitation when talking to devotees. I'm already hypersexualized/fetishized as a woman so it's hard to accept being further sexualized for things out of my control.

I have a penile stricture and so it hurts to pee but cumming was ok I just had to build up to get enough to push passed the structure after orgasm , well now that i will have a Supra pubic for awhile I’m scared to masturbate cause I’m afraid of something pulling or the stoma opening . ( it’s already been in a week ) Should I just hold out for a week or two maybe a little longer so things heal somewhat, then maybe make sure everything is very clean before and after and go very slow? What’s making me nervous is it’s still weeping and 2-3 inch radius around the stoma still hurts especially at night ( I shower and change the gauze every morning )

I am going to bed (European), but thanks for talking and if there are any other questions, my dms are always open.

I'm 28 m and wanna know the best way to masturbate in a wheelchair and not I don't have toys

Hi! Im a 18 year old college student living at home with a physical disability. (If you want more specifics dm me) my disability really just weakens my body. So low range of motion and low flexibility. Is there any tips on how to pleasure yourself with these hurdles?? Or even any toys someone recommends.

im a c3/4 broken neck and wont stay hard longer than a couple mins any tricks?