Long story short, I had cancer and abdominal/pelvic surgery resulting in very little sensitivity in my genitals. Since my surgery I haven't been able to orgasm. I have nerve damage and numbness pretty badly in my hip, hamstring, glute, and groin/genitals. I've tried masturbating and sex with my wife but no luck. After a lot of hard work either on my own or with my wife, I can get close but right as I feel like it's about to happen it just suddenly stops and goes away. Then it feels like there's no way I can get back to that point again. After I get close and fail, it almost feels the way it would feel after actually ejaculating. Like I start losing my erection and it feels less pleasurable.

Any suggestions?

I have mobility impairments that affect my ability to have sex in general as does my spouse. I am looking for position suggestions specifically related to :

1. sex ( to allow for longer sessions with hopefully decreased back pain )
2. positions for oral that do not cause extreme neck or hip pain ( both m/f front & rear)

Ty

My last post I had let everyone know about the fact I can feel at the most depth of my vagina. It was amazing, but after I was so worried it it was a one off. I found myself hyper focusing on it that the next few times I thought I lost the feeling. I had also started back retuning to work and our schedules no longer jived so I blamed it all being in my head that I couldn’t orgasm again. Anyway it’s been a few months and I guess there has been some new nerve growth and we had sex and omg. I don’t know if it was just moving me into a specific position but he found the power button of my pussy and a came not once but twice back to back which has never happened for me. It literally took minutes and my reaction must have looked very theatrical. It’s all I’ve been thinking about. I can’t wait until the healing proceeds more and I can start to feel my clit again… fuck I miss playing with it

Hey. Im 34 spina bifida. Amy f want to have a chat?

I (27f) want to learn more, I want to understand. I consider myself a very open minded person but as someone who's been disabled (sma type 3) all my life I do find it difficult to think about someone getting aroused by my disability, so I want to understand what it's about. I know everyone is different so I'll just ask the general "what is it about a disabled person that turns you on?".

I'd also like to know whether or not someone's personality plays a part in your attraction the way it does for most people, or is it solely sexual/a fetish for you. I tend to wonder "are they only attracted to me because I'm disabled" which is my biggest hesitation when talking to devotees. I'm already hypersexualized/fetishized as a woman so it's hard to accept being further sexualized for things out of my control.

I have a penile stricture and so it hurts to pee but cumming was ok I just had to build up to get enough to push passed the structure after orgasm , well now that i will have a Supra pubic for awhile I’m scared to masturbate cause I’m afraid of something pulling or the stoma opening . ( it’s already been in a week ) Should I just hold out for a week or two maybe a little longer so things heal somewhat, then maybe make sure everything is very clean before and after and go very slow? What’s making me nervous is it’s still weeping and 2-3 inch radius around the stoma still hurts especially at night ( I shower and change the gauze every morning )

I am going to bed (European), but thanks for talking and if there are any other questions, my dms are always open.

I’m a 50 yr old male searching for female or any age between 27 - 65 from the City of Leicester, United Kingdom who would love to enjoy a regular daytime sexual relationship!

I suffer from COPD and depression and have found it increasingly difficult to find the person behind the health problems so just tends to, I’m not the greatest person at saying the right thing at the right time hence 50 yrs without finding anyone so if your interested and female and aren’t offering paid services then please pm me if I offended anyone I’m sorry in advance?

I'm 28 m and wanna know the best way to masturbate in a wheelchair and not I don't have toys

Hello everyone, I'm 27 years old and live with SMA type 2. I have never had a girlfriend. Would it be too weird to ask my mother to help me with masturbation? What I mean is literally stroke me as I have very limited movements

Hi! Im a 18 year old college student living at home with a physical disability. (If you want more specifics dm me) my disability really just weakens my body. So low range of motion and low flexibility. Is there any tips on how to pleasure yourself with these hurdles?? Or even any toys someone recommends.

Anybody (gender or age doesn't matter) who need a person that can help you doing dirty things (i'm a male)

im a c3/4 broken neck and wont stay hard longer than a couple mins any tricks?

But how would this election affect us the disable community

No hate please

Just wanted to see ppl opinions

Anybody here had an endoscopy and colonoscopy before at the same time ? I’m just shy of 25 and unfortunately I’ve had 3 of each so far . In addition to 8 VP shunt revisions , 4 back procedures, 2 hamstring lengthenings with 1 possible in the future, 2 tendon transfers, 2 bladder , an now a series of penile and urethra surgeries to repair damage from a MVA . Now I know it’s small beans compared to most in the community but it just really gets ya down when you wake up every day feeling like your so young but let every day feels like death , but alas just keep on pushing . After all a lot of our experiences in life are what shape us and personally i wouldn’t change it for the world even my worst experiences . I know in time hopefully I’ll be better physically and mentally but one small push at a time , ugh if you made it this far thank you , sorry it turned into a rant . I was just curious if I was the only one needing frequent colonoscopy’s 🤦‍♂️😆 any ways have a great day

Does anyone who has muscle weakness disorders struggle with wearing butt plugs?

I put one in and a few mins later it just pops back out. Very annoying! They aren't too small either because they still hurt/are uncomfortable to insert

Lots of high pain tolerances I'd bet bdsm

Sorry, nobody to really share this with so I’m doing it here. I’ve been seeing a massage therapist for a few months now and I actually feel horny today which I never usually feel so I’m happy 😁

I would love to hear the experiences of people with my same disability. I'm open to anyone really but I especially would like to hear from people with SB

I have spina bifida with partial paralysis beginning at the waist. I can only feel a tiny spot on my penis, but it gets hard and ejaculates just fine though without any pleasurable sensation at all. Physical stimulation does very little for me while I can quite easily get hard and cum from visual or auditory stimulation alone. I struggle with ejaculating almost immediately which is immensely frustrating. People talk about 10 second wonder as an insult while I wish I could make it 10 seconds. Odds are that within 3 seconds of kissing or even just taking clothes off without even touching at all, I've already ejaculated.

Since I don't get any pleasure at all from ejaculating, and that happens almost immediately unless I'm supremely focused on actively turning myself off, I'm at a loss of how to enjoy anything sexual. I wish I could just ignore the whole thing and move on, but my brain doesn't know that I can't feel my penis or orgasm and keeps making me horny. I've tried talking to doctors to see if there's anything to be done, but they just brush me off. Is there anyone out there that experiences anything similar that might have some advice?

Hello, I’m 24 and I have spina bifida ! just wondering if there anyone that has it on here, It be cool to chat lol

Thank !

Would you ever date or fool around with someone who couldn't get an erection? I can get some blood flow but nothing enough for my penis to be useful. Would you still date me or fool around with me?

PLEASE BE HONEST, no judgement

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Hey guys,

Me and my girlfriend love 69. Which means it's a very regular thing in our sex life. We both prefer her to be on top. And we've tried doing 69 sideways as a lot of websites suggest, but we just can't seem to find a good way to do it. It's uncomfortable to hold your neck like that, you both have to keep a leg up to have some mobility... It's a hassle.

But my girlfriend is struggling with supporting herself on her hands/elbows/... because of her disability. Which means that our 69'ing has taken a hit.

So in order to make it more pleasurable and comfortable for her, I've been looking into something to support her being on top during 69. Something to supports her upper body, leaving mobility in the neck /head, but taking the strain of her wrists and arms.

But I can't find anything....

Does anyone have any idea if something like that exists? Or maybe even just plans to make it myself?

Thanks in advance ♥️

Just wondering how to go about it but I just moved from California to Illinois and I’m wondering how I can find others that are disabled as friends / Friends with benefits or maybe something more if things are right . Idk if this is the right spot to put this but I’m not sure where else to reach out especially about getting intimate

Frustrating no one is rough with me I’m not made of glass

I am dating a trans woman and am pretty inexperienced with enjoyable penetrative sex (aka I just kind of lied there and waited for it to be over when I dated a cis dude). Since I’m actually attracted to her I have more desires in bed. Yesterday we had sex and I got on top because I like taking control. I had my hands on the bed for leverage. But then my wrist popped out of place about 5 minutes in. It was only minimally painful but VERY loud and felt weird to move for a min. Is there any way to get on top without putting my wrists at risk?

This question is for single people if you can't masturbate yourself who helps you