I have been almost entirely homebound since last August and have been slowly learning things that make my life easier. For example, my desk chair is a recliner I scoot in and out from my desk and is covered in pillows to make it viable even on bad days! With a bookcase shelf as a lap desk, I get to be at my desk for a bit rather than stuck in bed all day. I also lucked out to have a laptop, so I have an actual lapdesk thing in the bedroom for the real bad days and for schoolwork.

But there are still some things that would help around the apartment that we need, like blackout curtains for the bedroom or lapdesk that lets me recline in bed properly. I'm sure there are other examples I'm just not thinking of, but I'm hoping to hear some ideas that have improved your quality of life. Or just that make you happy!

I made this group because while I have friends, they don't really understand. It sucks texting them and hearing about how they went somewhere cool and did something fun, and I can't even put on pants. And they ask how I've been and I'm like idk I watched tv? lol.

I want to have fun and do cool things with people, but with people I relate to, and won't have to explain my situation to. I want to have an online friend group of disabled people who get it who also want to have a good time and figure out what life is about and what life can be, even with such a huge limitation on how much of the world we can access.

I want to find people who will be happy when I am staying within my energy limits, not trying to expect me to hang out in person

Emphasis on wanting to have a good time though!!! This is my life longterm, and honestly I don't have spoons for feeling sad about it all the time lol, i dont just want vent spaces. I want to live my life!! And be social and goofy and fun!!! Just like, from bed 😂

Are there any spaces like this?

share a bit about yourself if you like (please no identifying info like last names or phone numbers or addresses etc!), and share a favorite thing you do to pass the time! doesn't need to be a hobby, can even be a phrase you think in your head on bad fatigue days or something!

share anything awesome!! and share excitement for other people's wins!!!

This is the thread for intense topics and vents and such.

Please add content warnings for anything related to suicide, self harm, substance use, sexual assault, and trauma.

Politics are okay as our existence is political. Remember none of us live in the exact same location and experiences vary by location, age, race, gender, disability, class, body type, family history, citizen status, etc. And be kind/no supporting oppression.

Please take good care of yourself when reading and writing in this thread, and have a plan to disengage and care for your body and mind if it gets to be too much.

You are not obligated to anyone here and you cannot and should not try to fix anyone's life problems here, this is an acceptance space where people have autonomy and things are what they are (for now, and acknowledging they may not be ideal and should even change); support is kind when asked for, unsolicited advice or trying to save people is not within anyone's scope here.

(Reminding each other to be kind as needed is still good tho obv)

Do not come here expecting anyone to take over and save you either, your life is your life to live, and no one can live it for you; if you are scared for your safety, please contact a crisis line or loved one! Your life and safety matter.

no spoons for image ID, please add if you can 💗 summary: a tumblr post by vampireapologist about the joy of removing wax from a lil cheese wheel

I really like gummy candies because they are fun to chew. Also sparkling water, and foods I can tear apart when I eat them (like pizza crust, or oreos)

[tumblr post by @coffeeseed: "God, I can't tell you how much the "there's not enough enrichment in my enclosure" joke has helped my mental health. Because, for some reason I can't comprehend, pretending that I'm a zoo keeper caring for an animal (which is also me) just makes everything easier to comprehend. Like "your head gets screwy when your apartment is messy" just doesn't carry as much resonance as "The tiget becomes agitated when its enclosure is cluttered" because then I'll be like, no shit? The tiger? I've got to keep things clean and nice for the tiger."]