Hi From the subreddit rules it seems as an outsider I can ask a question? (this contains a story so sorry for the text).

Context: I'm a medical student (in the UK), I have a mental health placement (every few weeks so not much exposure), at an acute psychiatric ward and just sit in on their meetings. I am not the best w social cues and have MH stuff too (so I don't like generalising / making assumptions based on it)

The actual question (well I'll try to keep it concise bc it's the story behind the question) : I've been thinking about the last day quite a bit, young black man, in for psychosis related stuff but gets into fights and injured ppl. They only mentioned the dissocial (previously: antisocial) personality disorder at the end. The meeting was about treatment, the sectioning (which I think still had some misunderstanding) and touched on the fighting. I thought he was actively being polite, did start to get upset espec when talking about certain things like the physicality of the police bringing him in (shedded tears actually). At the end of it when he leaves,the consultant,[paraphrased] 'you can tell he was getting agitated despite me being very very gentle, it's scary, I felt almost threatened.' (he didn't particularly shout, make any threats). + quotes like 'don't react to anger, they have a steady heart rate. They will get into a fight if they want to.'

I was really confused when they were talking about the PD I had to ask different versions of' how do you know he has a PD rather than anger problems etc'. Answers had statements like "well it's obvious with how he's getting into fights, you can hear the excuses he's making and thst he deosnt care about the people he's hurt" (also stated earlier a parent has the same thing and it's very genetic apparently). 'you can't really treat it or do anything to help them. I mean there's therapies but that's all'. 'X symptom is a personality issue, it's not a mental illness thing (comparing him + another example of starting fights'. In the past they often say these patients r the most difficult / dangerous.

Eventually I got why he specifically had the diagnosis with additional context. But overall it did feel wrong, to say stuff like that right after we listening to his concerns which were actually genuine concerns (they said that themselves),and Im still not sure the meeting was as "obvious" as they said. Also I thought technically personality disorders were born out of trauma (cluster B atleast), and I did expect more empathy I guess? Even if someone's been violent...Or am I just being naive (they r the 'experienced' ones)?

Hi so i have bad ocd (was diagnosed just last year) and i wasnt in therapy long enough to know if i ONLY have ocd. My insurance has been gone for a while so im off meds and have no therapy in any way. Anyway, I have always had a really hard time making friends and sticking with them bc im either too self centered or just dont talk to them enough. Recently within the past couple of months i have made a really close online friend and we have been pretty good buds, calling and texting very frequently. Now i wont put all their business here but they also have a hard time when it comes to making friends but recently theyve been trying to talk to other people and make new friends. Heres where my jealousy comes in I have an irrational fear of people leaving me or talking to other people more than me, especially when theyre all i have. I become hostile or just stop engaging all together because in my head theyve already abandoned me and so i should go first before i get hurt. Just today they were talking about how theyre nervous and our other mutual friend made them talk to other people and since that happened ive just kinda shut down. Ive been sleeping all day and i havent been wanting to talk to them cause in my head its already over. I really want to overcome this, because its not fair to anybody that I have trouble accepting that i cant just keep someone to myself. This has happened to me a lot over the course of my life and has caused me to lose a lot of people because i would rather leave than have to deal with this, but i dont wanna leave. Is there any way i can try to overcome this? I just want to be normal and let my friends have other friends.

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Hi Reddit! I would love any advice or opinion from users who may think they have some insight into what I’m contending with.

I feel like there are some deeper issues here but it is hard to pinpoint exactly what they are -

I’m dealing with a 50 year old man who could be characterised as a ‘fun’ and mostly normal type but beneath the surface there are a lot of issues - while well meaning there is an inherent emotional immaturity which is so severe it actually frightens me;

This individual seems to deal with extreme paranoia which is not helped by his continual dwelling on hypotheticals and getting himself worked up over said hypotheticals. Sometimes he will recite the hypothetical conversations and scenarios down to the very words he would respond with, as though he is retelling a story with vigour. Many of them are deeply far fetched.

Another strange behaviour is that at the slightest inconvenience, he will call his parents, despite being 50 years old and spit chips just screaming about all his gripes and frustrations. I have been privy to them telling him they don’t want to know anymore (often, that is one of 10 phone calls they’ve received) but this doesn’t deter him from continuing on or calling back again later.

Many family members including myself have discussed the volumes of calls that they receive from him on a daily basis and with each of us experiencing mass calls (if we do not answer, he will continue to call back) often with no subject matter other then than “what are you doing” and between us all he must hang up from one and proceed straight to the other.

What is stranger about this is that he isn’t a bored or lonely man. He works and has a wife (albeit a flawed relationship) and two children. He does the same thing to them,

Another huge issue is his inability to ‘read the room’ or take any social ques. He will never quit while he is ahead or acknowledge it’s not the time for something and often when he does push people beyond this point he refuses to accept any responsibility,

Now … he is deeply and profoundly spoiled and I doubt he has ever been truly held accountable in his life. Excuses are often made for him.

He has some level of learning disabilities and isn’t able to read or to write and often exhibits a high level of social awkwardness even around people he knows well.

His emotional immaturity bleeds into other areas of his life - in some ways he becomes very fixated and obsessive over things that have nothing to do with him, such as other peoples relationships (especially his own children) and can be quite unreasonably critical.

All in all he is well meaning but I just wish we had a better understanding of why he responds to things the way he does.

His frustration has historically made him quite violent and aggressive which is one area which he has improved drastically in with age.

He is not completely lacking or unintelligent- in fact he can be profoundly cunning and manipulative and often seems to stir up things and thrive in highly toxic and drama fuelled situations. He can also have a jealous streak at times, but both of these things could also be learned behaviours.

He has been to a psychologist once before but doesn’t have the scope to understand that you must be honest and look within.

If you think you know the ‘why’s’ behind all of this or have been through it yourself .. please help.

Disclaimer: I am not diagnosed with any disorder but I also dont go to therapy

I'm not sure what is exactly happening, I've felt like I have multiple personalies but I was able to go with it up untill now without a problem.

Today I had some sort of realisation about life and I decided to do some stuff differently but I keep getting the feeling that I am suppressing "something", basicaly I keep having short moments of self hatred or the feeling of being trapped even tho nothing like that is happening and I think it can possibly be the "other personalities".

I didnt do any research on this cuz I sound crazy even to myself when I type this.

I hope someone on here believes me and is able to give me an answer.

I don't know if I have a pd or not but I don't know where to start.

Honestly I have always mistreated my brother/talked back and hit him, I don't do it anymore, but thinking that I did it I don't know if I should feel guilty exactly, it's been a while lol. Sometimes I cry about my past self but then I don't really care, since I was 10 I think I've been aggressive? I stole my classmates' toys because I liked them and I thought I should have them too, I didn't really care what they thought. I remember one child crying because I had stolen his entire album and I remained impassive denying that I had stolen it. Now I'm not a "thief", because I'm not sociable, I'm sensitive and I don't think I particularly like being the center of attention, but I still want people to talk to me, or Im Just more intelligent than them and I dont deserve to talk to people like them, but I'm still very sensitive and shy. I've never been particularly sociable, antisocial? I don't know. I think I hate my partner, it's not really hate, but I would like to insult him and remind him how much he sucks, argue with him, for me it's enjoyable to think that I insult him, just like I insult anyone who I think they don't deserve to be better than me. I have a scenario where I say things to make others suffer, I would take their position, and if I could I would hack them to get as much information about them as possible. To have some fun and feel, "special"? I don't know. (only on people I find interesting). Then I hate my psychologist, I don't tell her anything, because I think it's stupid, I don't care what I should do with her, I think I don't need anything. Then I'm rather irritable, like I often get annoyed with my partner and immediately my mood changes, I want to insult him and treat him badly, but then it passes but idk.

This is what I feel. Should I talk about it with someone?

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I am a learning disability nurse and I am working in a forensic hospital and most of my patients have a personality disorder. My patients also have a learning disability, so if anyone has any advice related to LD combined with PD and a more specialised approach for this, this would be welcomed, however, I welcome all advice regarding personality disorders.

I have had plenty of training surrounding personality disorders, however, I feel as though it lacks a perspective from the individual, so I would love to hear perspectives from those with personality disorders and how it feels for them and what they would like from a healthcare professional in a less scientific literature based way that I am more familiar with.

The skills I currently implement are to never be dismissive of a persons feelings and emotions regardless of whether I perceive them to be rational. In an environment where we are consistently understaffed and don’t have much time for every individual, I always put the patients needs first and I am always consistent with them, even if it means staying behind at the end of my shift to complete all of the “nurse” jobs like writing notes as I think the patients should always come first. I don’t want a patient to perceive me as rejecting them or changing my attitude towards them so I always stick to my word, I never make false promises and I allow them to have as much time as they need to talk to me without making my them feel rushed or brushed aside. I make sure I honour their needs and give my undivided attention when they request 1:1s etc. If they are shouting at me or being aggressive etc, I never change my tone with them and I make sure they feel heard and validated.

I set boundaries but I make sure to do them early on and justify them, so that they don’t suddenly approach a boundary and perceive it as a rejection. They know what they are getting with me and I avoid any possibilities of them not knowing where they stand with me and the need to test any of my boundaries.

I notice that most other staff do not have these approaches, they make false promises often, they rarely make time for patients and often change their tone with them and have this obsession with having boundaries meaning shouting at them when they do something “wrong” and dismissing their emotions and giving them consequences for expressing themselves. I find a lot of staff telling me I am “too soft” based only on the fact that I don’t shout at them and I don’t assert any dominence. However, if you look at the respect these patients have for me and the fact I still maintain the same boundaries as the other staff and the patients do listen to me, you can clearly see that my approach is not “too soft”. Because I am their nurse, not their friend and I think a lot of staff perceive their role as if a friend has disrespected them, they need to react in a way that they would in their personal life, however, I believe that as a professional, I am putting myself in a position where I am working with people who are unwell and my personal needs don’t matter in that situation. May sound extreme but of course patients hurt me and upset me, however, that is not their problem and I make sure to deal with my personal emotions in my own time or take time out as needed. Sure I don’t let patients walk all over me and I communicate when they are being disrespectful but in the right time when they are ready to hear it. I don’t believe in fuelling the fire by shouting back at them or giving the silent treatment etc when they have disrespected me. It only blows things out of proportion when they could be defused so much faster.

I am curious to know if people think my approach is okay or if I could improve in any other areas or if my colleagues approaches are more effective. Of course I feel like I have gotten positive results from my approach, however, as a whole I don’t know how effective it is when I am not always there and the patients are mostly receiving the other people’s approaches and the inconsistencies could be making things worse.

Also please let me know if there is anything I am missing in terms of ways I could better meet people’s needs as well as sharing your own experiences in healthcare from a patient and professional perspective and what has worked for you.

This is something that is really important to me as I have worked in mental health for many years and the majority of patients in these settings seem to have EUPD which is very eye opening as it shows how debilitating it is, and while I hear many success stories, I can’t help but acknowledge the vast majority of individuals suffering long term and consistently being readmitted every time they make what appears to be progress, leading to a discharge. I feel PDs are very misunderstood and under researched and there needs to be more urgency in terms of improving the care of individuals with a personality disorder as it is evident that most of what is being done already is ineffective when you look at the statistics in psychiatric hospitals as well as first hand seeing for yourself this vicious cycle of an individual having an incident in the community which leads to an admission and detaining them in an environment where they cannot heal only to be kept there with no evidence that that environment is helping them, or being discharged only to have another incident leading to a readmission shortly after and seeing the same patients coming in and out for years and years yet nothing is being done about this and it breaks my heart. I just wish for every person with a personality disorder to feel peace one day and end the suffering and I am willing to learn as much as I can to contribute to this change.

Thank you :)

I don't care about people. I haven't even formed an emotional relationship with any of my previous dogs. That is until just over a year ago when I rescued my current dog. She had been in the shelter for over 4 years of her 5 years of being alive. Needless to say that she has some severe anxiety and reactivity to other people besides me and other dogs. I rescued her in August of 2023 and came home from work every day on my lunch break to take her outside and check on her. In November I was in a car accident and was unable to run home on lunch while it was in the shop. Suddenly I was having extreme panic attacks because all I wanted was to see her. To cuddle with her in bed and hold her. It was so alien and I have never felt like this before about anyone or any of my other dogs. In February of this year I lost my job and we spent 3 months hanging out at home together rarely seeing anyone. It was perfect. I got a new job in May and was once again coming home on lunch to check on her until she got comfortable with a friend and let him check on her. I have been staying at work for lunch but now this weird separation anxiety has returned. I don't understand it, all I know is that I just want to be with her. For the first time in my life I actually care about another living thing and it's scary. It's so foreign. I don't know what to do or how to feel about it. No one understands when I explain it.

Ok so i have a freez reaction to social interaction and only way to stop it is to get validation or roasitng/shameing them And i subconsciously avoid social interaction i absolutely avoid beaing rejeacted so much that i manupilate ppl to offer me things ,the thing that makes her suspicious of aspd is that i dont feel guilt shame sadness envy and BOREDOM even tho i feel remorse regret and embarrassment and compassion affection tho i cant feel emapthy for men Plus i read ppl way to much this is subconsciously and i cant turn it off do i have smth like cptsd or i have antagonistic avpd/social AD im supper confused

From my very little research I see that he is literally a textbook case. Every single bit of what I've read sound EXACTLY how he acts and thinks. We all live together and we've had some pretty horrible experiences. I am new to the subject and I have a ton of questions.

How do I help him avoid emotional outbursts?

He seeks attention by being argumentative about EVERYTHING. How do I deal with it?

He seeks attention by literally annoying people on purpose. Like flicking ears, wet willies, kicking shins, and giving hugs that are way too hard. Constantly explaining that my family doesn't like it makes no difference.

He lies constantly, sometimes on purpose, sometimes on accident. He gets paranoid and screams at us that we're trying to gaslight him. He left a knife with peanut butter on the table. I saw him do it. He was actively eating the sandwich he had just made. I asked him to at least rinse it off and leave it in the sink. He WENT OFF amd started screaming at me that I had done it to get him in trouble. Once he's in that mode, no matter how calm you are with him, he denies everything.

I need advice. He won't go to any sort of therapy. He didn't finish high school. He constantly wants to escape reality by playing games on a phone or computer. His dad puts limits on his cell phone time. Once the screen time is over he WILL NOT let anyone in the house have peace. He literally can't watch a 20 minute TV show without talking or demanding everyone's attention.

He's only gotten violent a few times. He's threatened to end his own life multiple times. He says it's because everyone in his life treats him so horribly. Absolutely nothing is ever his fault.

His dad sets very reasonable boundaries and has endless patience with him. He screamed at his mom for no reason. His dad explained calmly that, as they had discussed previously, in order to help you remember your mother deserves to be treated kindly, you will have no phone time today. He screamed at the top of his lungs, "Why does everyone demand I have consequences for my actions!?!?"

We're at our wits end. He won't listen to anyone. He won't let anyone talk to him. He's an emotional terrorist.

What is his future going to be like? He won't be able to hold down a job. He can't have any stable relationships. Everyone wants to give up on him and kick him out of the house. No idea where he'd go.

Is there anyone who's dealt with a loved one with HPD that I could talk with?

Thanks so much.

So I didn't really know where else to go to ask this. It's seriously freaking me out. My brother moved in with my mom, he's in his early 20s. We all live in separate states. But he moved in with her saying that people were watching him and he was fearful of his roommate and that his roommate had a gun and he was terrified so he left.

He stayed with my mom and started to say stuff like she was spraying perfume right over his head to fuck with his mind and trying to put voodoo on him. Saying that she would be standing over him (he slept in the living room since it was a one bedroom and she was getting ready to move so he could have his own room) and mind you, my mom is a heavy drinker and I've lived with my mom and know for a fact she is no killer nor does she do voodoo (Were from Liberia)

She said they got into a couple of physical altercations and he put a hole in the wall. When I spoke to him during that time he said he was going to get a camera to catch her standing over him. I spoke to him yesterday and he kept saying not to trust her, whatever is in the spray she sprays over his head fucked with his mind and he couldn't breathe and that's one of the reasons he says she was trying to kill him, she said he would say she's trying to make him horny with the spray.

That she's jealous of him and he didn't even last a week. He heard people coming down the steps and freaked out and thought a guy walking behind him was trying to hurt him, he literally threw all his stuff in his car and left. I believe he's living in his car and says he has a job. Yet, he still calls her for money whenever he needs it. I spoke to him last night and I am beyond worried.

He says he's around people who are teaching him how to use a gun. He seems to truly believe people are trying to harm him and that he needs to be prepared. My brother was always so clear headed and always so loving and literally the mediater between my mom and I.

I have no idea what is happening and I just need some help figuring out what this could be and how I can approach it because he's already blocked our older brother because he told him in a not so nice way that something is wrong and so did my uncle he blocked him too.

I want them to understand, but I don’t want the whole friendship to be centered around my borderline and my episodes. What do you think? Is there a balance?

53M. Have GP referral for a psychologist for assessment for possible ADHD. Should I go see a psychologist or get another referral for a psychiatrist who can prescribe medication if need be. Am I just wasting time with a psychologist? I can see a psychologist next week but it's at least 4 months for a psychiatrist. Been looking into things on the internet, podcasts etc.... and it seems medication for an adult is a better option if diagnosed correctly. Unsure what to do.

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Hey everyone! I’m writing a fiction book that centers around a group with personality disorders. I have BPD, and I want to be as respectful and accurate as possible with my writing. I really appreciate the insight.

What’s it like having your disorder? How do you cope? Do you have any anecdotes? Are you in treatment? And if so, what? How do people around you react when you tell them? What symptoms of your disorder do you most identify with? Or anything else you want to say…

If anyone is unsure what dissocial personality disorder is because I was… it’s another name for Antisocial personality disorder.

Been diagnosed for around 2.5 years now (23m) just want to know if anyone else out there has the same diagnosis and what your experiences have been like dealing with it?

What do you do on a day to day basis to deal with it?

I don’t like to tell people about my mental health does it get easier to share it as you get older?

What symptoms do you have?

I was sectioned by police and placed into a psychiatric ward which is where I got my diagnosis short version is I attacked someone who ended up in hospital. How did you get your diagnosis?

Has anyone else done anything in the past or in the present that people would look at you and think “wtf”?

I’ve been diagnosed with EUPD for several years with many trial and error medications I’ve been told venlafaxine effexor is really good to treat this and depression just wondering if anyone else has had any good or bad experiences with it? Thanks!

i aspire to be a research psychologist someday with a focus in personality disorders. i’ve been trying to do as much research on schizoid personality disorder as i can, but sadly, there isn’t much scientific literature on it compared to other personality disorders.

i was assessed to have schizoid, avoidant and depressive patterns when being given my diagnosis of personality disorder-trait specified, which helps my understand the condition a tad better. however, what i’m looking for at the moment is information on ego-dystonic presentations of schizoid patterns or schizoid personality disorder.

if you’ve seen cases that meet those specifications, i’d appreciate and information you can provide. obviously, it would be rare since schizoid is usually ego-syntonic rather than dystonic, but any information would be much appreciated.

I might have to change my personality. i like to act goofy and say dumb things just to make people laugh (and im pretty good at it) . HOWEVER people seem to take it too LITERAL and actual start talking to me and treating me like im an actual DUMBASS..

Curious if anyone else has one (or more) personality disorder from each cluster, and if you want to share how it effects you please do so. I'm also curious to know which disorder do you feel effects you more, or are they equally present in you?

I have SzPD (Cluster A) NPD (Cluster B) and OCPD (Cluster C)

I think it's not uncommon to feel like you're a different person around different people, but I think the extend to which I do is.. unusual. When I spend time with a friend, I embody a certain character that has its own quirks and character traits. I still consider this to be a version of me, but it can be a night and day difference between which version I display with which person. As soon as they leave its like I snap out of it. Then when I see them again, I snap right into it again and it's as if no time has passed in between. My memories are also specific to the person I'm around, I'll recall things specific to my relationship with them that I would not have remembered if I was alone. It's like in the moment, all I ever was and all I'll ever be is the person I am when I'm around them. When I'm alone again and this person texts me I really struggle to reply, because replying to them demands me to go back into character and completely change the state I was currently existing in. I have to force myself back into that character in order to access the memories, mannerisms and character traits that version of me has in order to appropriately respond. I also don't like to remember the things I did when I was with that person once I'm by myself, it almost feels painful to access those memories. I also never miss people despite feeling a lot of love and connection to them when I'm around them, I just can't or won't think about them.

This extends to my therapy sessions which is where it becomes a bit of a problem. Once I leave the therapy building I leave all my findings behind there, only to access them again the next time I have a session. My therapy "persona" is able to recall everything that happened the previous session when I'm there and it's like the previous session never ended and it's all one continuous time period, except it's not and a whole week has passed in the meantime where I didn't think about therapy once.

It's like I walk a few footsteps in the life of one character, then flip a switch and become a different character and feel unable to think about memories that are not apart of that current character. But I could still access all these memories if I wanted to, it just hurts to do so. It all feels very performative and fragmented.

Does anyone else experience this or have any idea on what could have caused this or what this could be? Is this a normal thing to experience?

Ps. I'm very sorry for the long post, thank you so much for reading

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Ever since I was 11 I would get this jealous feeling of when I saw someone who was more unique then me, and I am not that unique. Even if it was something small like badges on a bookbag, or stickers on a phone. I'd get jealous because they were more unique and happy, I tried to be like them but I wasn't different like those people.

When they are literally trying to annihilate you?

There's someone who is trying to "put me away" somehow, because that's really where she needs to go. Her motive is jealousy. It's scary as f--- because she is a very good manipulator. .What kind of mental issue is that?

Fear of connection to a place once left. For instance, will throw away old shirts and items rather than donate as they feel by giving away the item, they are connected and exsist.

Avoids photos and videos as they could be uploaded to facebook ( they don't have facebook). Because the above and also, facebook data collection, which they believe likely has a lot of information but doesn't want to give the platform more.

The thought of anyone having anything of the person's causes great anxiety, from video, photo, to old shirts.

I got stuff to say in hopes of someone relating to my situation My dad's very academically smart but he might act a little wierd sometimes, nothing major but enough for those close to him to know that he thinks of social situations differently from others. He's the total 180 opposite of those people pleasers with adhd who adjust their personality with every new person they talk to. He thinks differently of social situations overall, and I got my personality from him, and I notice myself acting like him, and I often do social slip-ups (taking the wrong action in any social situation) and I don't know if I should blame those on him as well. I've been hating my personality and my behaviors for the past 4 years and longer, and that does stuff to your brain I think because I'm getting social slip-ups on the daily. Back when I was a moron and didn't notice the way i behave looks to others, I considered myself the center of attention and subconsciously thought that the whole world revolves around me, and I still subconsciously think that now because when I was taking a picture with my class and a guy near me said "don't get near me, don't get near me" and the first thought that came to my head was that he said that cuz he got a boner and me coming near him would induce that (btw i never interacted with this guy but he used to mildly make fun of me/bully me over wierd stuff i did). I'm used to myself immediately placing myself in the center of the world and I hate myself for that cuz it affects the way I act which cause those daily slip-ups which I get headaches over later. Knowing myself, I might be this embarrassed over my slip-ups because of my obsessiveness with my image to others. My ego so big I try to act kawaii sometimes which doesn't turn out good cuz I'm not a good actor, but my self obsessiveness is the definition of my entire personality so without that I'm just a even more wierd potato who generally doesn't know how to act.

So looking at the cratiria for both of them i fit in some pf them cuz i have a social anxiety that makse me freez up and the only way to make it go away is if i win a “roasting contest “ and use it as a fulle to stop freezing up also i have a pretty grandiose outer shell and some how made every one feel like they are the problem tho Here are the take aways i dont feel insecure also can feel love and compassion selectively for avpd part the fears mostly become thoughts of hopelessness and spite rather than fear if somen makes fun of me socially i usually turn supper resentful and see this as a opportunity to do sometihng bad and get validation to stop the freez ups Could this just be a agrassive version of social anxiety disorder? İm supper confused as im plagued by delusions of inadequacy and unable to go past boundaries so i acidantly push ppl away (Sry for my bad English)

I just wanted to see if anyone has an idea this person's behavior could be tied to a personality disorder. I am thinking possibly antisocial PD or narcissistic PD. She is a chronic liar, has been her whole life. She cheats in every relationship she has been in, and tells every new partner that her relationships all involve abuse. She lies about medical issues. She ruins prior partner's reputations. She tells her partners she was abused as a child (it is not true, verified). She lied to everyone's face and plays the victim no matter what. According to her, all of her behavior is a result of others neglecting or abusing her. She lies about every aspect of her life and has no disregard for others. She cuts relationships to anyone who attempts to call her out. I want nothing more to cut her from my life but don't have that luxury. She tells all her therapists the lies she tells everyone else. Is there any advice on how to deal with someone like this in your life and still show them support and love?

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