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Everyone needs help sometimes. This is the place for Redditors to get a chance to help other established, active Redditors and give back to the community.

Everyone needs help sometimes. This is the place for Redditors to get a chance to help other established, active Redditors and give back to the community.

Rules

We believe in complete transparency in /r/care. The following rules are meant to protect the "giver" as much as possible.

  1. In order to make a request or advice post, you must have an account that:

  1. is verified (do so here).
  2. is at least six months old. No exceptions will be made.
  3. has at least 100 comment karma points. No exceptions will be made.
  • All requests for help must be initiated via a public post. Solicitation via private messages is not allowed, and can result in a ban.

  • Post titles must begin with one of the following labels: [REQUEST], [OFFER], [THANKS], [ADVICE], or [META].

  • If you are requesting anything that requires financial or a physical item post titles must mention what state/country you are in

  • No requests for anything illegal.

  • Please do not delete posts -- if you no longer need assistance, use the "flair" button below your post and mark it as "fulfilled". Deleting requests will result in a ban.

  • The moderators reserve the right to remove any suspicious request.

  • Users are free to ask questions in public posts, but do not be rude.

  • Absolutely no posting of anyone's personal information, including your own. You will be banned without warning.

  • Please message the moderators if you have any questions, or want to report any issues.

    Guidelines

    The following guidelines do not have to be followed, but they are recommended for the safety of all Redditors.

    1. We recommend waiting at least one hour before providing any (tangible) assistance, this gives the community time to examine the request, and raise any potential red flags.

    2. Remember to check users' reddit histories if you are considering helping!

    3. Please include your general location in your post.

    4. Verification is up to users, so requesters should be prepared to provide this. Read more about it and other rules here!

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    [REQUEST] (Queens, NY, USA) Rejected for disability and savings ran out

    I got Covid when the lockdowns were announced and it slowly worsened over time. Right now, I've been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, Rheumatoid Arthritisl got Covid when the lockdowns were announced and it slowly worsened over time. Right now, I've been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, Rheumatoid Arthritis, and my organs aren't behaving.

    I've been living with a great aunt who can only afford to give me a room. When I was able to do work, I couldn't take a full time job or else I'd loose my medical benefits. As my health worsened, I wasn't able to do as much. Then, my car broke down. Can't go to my doctors without a car, so, I was forced to take out a credit card to pay for it. Then, I couldn't work at all. I've been making the monthly loan payments with my savings and paying off debt for other cards I had to take out and use for food when I didn't have enough money or couldn't leave the house for a soup kitchen or church meal. I literally only have payments on these cards and have only used for emergency.

    I've repeatedly applied for disability and been repeatedly denied. It was supposed to go through this time, but it didn't and I've been run in circles. My savings officially ran out a few days ago. I'm not asking help for the full huge balance that I owe, just the monthly and the bank balance to get some breathing room.

    My bank account is: -75.56

    My first credit card monthly payment that's due is: 85.96 on about $4000.

    My second is $40 on $280.47.

    My third one is $290.96 and the card is locked for nonpayment. I was just waiting on the disability and had to choose one card besides the large loan. Not asking for payment for this.

    I know I should've done better and not out my eggs in one basket. I'm calling around to see if I can get bankruptcy aid. Any help would be appreciated.

    Donation link: paypal.me/GloryBlues

    2 Comments
    2024/11/26
    21:59 UTC

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    [REQUEST] Vet bills for Callie

    https://gofund.me/ffcd278b

    Raleigh, NC, USA

    Tuesday night we rushed Callie to the ER - we were told she had a 50% or less prognosis with possible sepsis, and to either hospitalize her or put her to sleep. We wanted to give our girl a fighting chance, so we did. Tuesday night we thought she was going to die. Thursday night, we thought we would have to put her down. Both nights we hugged and cried in the parking lot - we could not bare to part with our 1.5 year old girl after having her for hardly 8 months.

    Tuesday afternoon, I took her into her vet for more bloodwork. She was so weak they couldn't find a vein to take a blood test and referred us to an ER immediately, telling us not to worry about payment for her visit. Tuesday evening, she had low temp, blood sugar, blood pressure and was completely limp and not using her back legs.

    It took a week, but today, she is an entirely new cat and home safe. However being hospitalized for a week has come with a large vet bill. Any little helps.

    0 Comments
    2024/11/26
    01:13 UTC

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    [REQUEST] [Chicago, IL USA] Laid off and depressed in a tough spot - please help

    Hi guys. Things really came to head now. I got laid off a few weeks ago. Also, weather just turned from 50s to below freezing and snowy driving conditions! I just spent the last night sleeping in my car. I don't know how I did not freeze to doldrums. Anyways, I have been applying to jobs left and right. I'm still obviously waiting for any replies. Meanwhile I am struggling with severe depression that is chronic and comes and goes. I am doing my best but I am inevitably finding myself in a place where I have to ask readers for a little financial help. I will break down what I need and the cost of each right below:

    1. my monthly antidepressant and anxiety medications refill ($92, I am uninsured)

    2. gas to get around applying to new places ($30)

    3. groceries to last me for at least a week ($30)

    Total: $150

    I would be incredibly grateful and appreciative if you could help in this tough time of mine! It would be even better if multiple people chipped in together to the total cost. Have a wonderful day. :)

    0 Comments
    2024/11/21
    21:59 UTC

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    Urgent Help Needed for a Hotel Stay Tonight and Tomorrow

    Hello,

    I'm in an emergency situation where I am at risk of being homeless tonight if I don’t get help. Due to a family crisis, I've been put in a vulnerable position that's left me without a place to stay. I will be able to get a ride to Minnesota on Sunday afternoon to stay with a friend, but I urgently need assistance to cover the cost of a hotel room for tonight and tomorrow night. If I can't secure a place, I’ll have no choice but to sleep on the streets, and I’m worried about my safety and mental well-being.

    If anyone is able to assist with a small donation or payment for a hotel room, it would mean the world to me. I can provide more details if needed, and I’ll do my best to pay it forward once I’m back on my feet. Any help is greatly appreciated. I'm in Eau Claire, WI.

    Thank you so much for your time and kindness.

    0 Comments
    2024/11/16
    06:19 UTC

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    [REQUEST] Need help to Finish my Degree - Hessen, Germany

    Hi everyone, I am an international student in Germany, nearing the end of my bachelor’s degree. I came here three years ago on a loan from my home country, with my family’s house as collateral, and I’ve been working hard to cover all my expenses on my own.

    Right now, I’m in my final semester, doing an unpaid internship that’s crucial for my degree. Balancing work and internship hours became impossible, so I had to reduce my hours, which drastically cut my income. I’ve exhausted every funding option available for students here, but so far, I haven’t had any success. Now, I’m struggling to cover essential bills.

    Here’s a quick breakdown of my financial situation:

    • Rent: €1,400 overdue, 2 more months to pay
    • Loan payments: €600/month
    • Health Insurance: €480 (with late fees)
    • Internet + Mobile: €48 total
    • Debts to friends + credit: €440

    I’m down to my last two months of internship and need help to stay in Germany to complete my degree. Without support, I may have to leave before graduating, which would be devastating for me and my family.

    Any contribution, big or small, would make a huge difference. Thank you for reading and for any support you can give – it truly means the world to me.

    Link to my fundraiser: https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-an-international-students-dream-to-graduate?utm_source=copy_link&utm_medium=customer&utm_campaign=man_sharesheet_dash&attribution_id=sl:82185c01-f44d-42b0-b371-fd641b9f737a

    1 Comment
    2024/11/05
    14:20 UTC

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    [Request] Gear so I won't die while stuck working in Denver away from family

    I am getting a cheep sleeping bag and tent since my car broke down and I live a ridiculous distance away from Denver and there's no real bus system to get me to and from my home to work. I can't find work closer so I'm stuck living in Denver on the streets so I can work and send money home to my wife and kiddo. If anyone can buy anything off the list it's a big help. I'll be able to have someone bring it to me eventually. Thank you in advance and may the gods bless you more than they have cursed me lately.

    https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2TAM6OSQFWO3O?ref_=wl_share

    0 Comments
    2024/11/05
    00:45 UTC

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    [REQUEST] Help for my family. (Wauneta, NE, USA)

    I am needing help to keep my family afloat. I have created a go fund me.

    https://gofund.me/ebd036a8

    We are a family of 3. My wife has dementia and can not work. I am the sole income. My wife is still well enough to stay at home. My income is high enough that we do not qualify for government aid. We have applied for SSDI. It is a long process. Our expenses with her care exceeds what I am making. I work full time, overtime and, any side work I can do. We struggle to pay bills. Sometimes we struggle for food. I can just barely manage to keep a roof over our heads. We need firewood. My car is old and needs repairs. I have begged on other subs. I have received assistance from other subs. I am an open book if you have a question please ask me. If you can help it would be greatly appreciated. We are really struggling right now.

    Thank you.

    https://gofund.me/ebd036a8

    0 Comments
    2024/11/01
    01:56 UTC

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    This a really unique situation but I’m really desperate at this point.

    I'm Jess, an American mother from Los Angeles  living in Mexico City. On June 20, 2024, my ex-partner abducted our 3-month-old son, Sani, after a violent altercation. (TW: He assaulted me, destroyed my phone, changed the locks to our home, and handed Santi to an unknown person.) Since then, I've been unable to see my baby and im struggling so much in a country with no family, emotionally and financially. I just had a c-section a few months prior and was on maternity leave when he stole my baby and everything from me. Just to punish me because i wanted to leave him. I had enough.

    Despite me obtaining temporary full custody, my narc ex continues to evade the law, and an amber alert has been issued for my baby’s return. Im working with lawyers here, which have completely depleted any finances I’ve been given through a go fund me my friend organized.

    I'm close to getting my baby back, but I've been depleted of funds due to high legal fees, rent, and therapy due to the abduction of my baby and the narcissistic abuse ive endured from my ex and his family (enablers)

    THANKFULLY after months of this hell, I’ve finally found a job, and I start in a week, and ill be a working from home single mom, but I'm in desperate need of assistance to get me through until my first paycheck in a few weeks. I’m not sure if im allowed to post my gofundme and TikTok, in case anyone is curious about our story and is in a position to help. 

    Thank you so so so much, and I apologize if I’ve broken any rules, I’ve never posted in a group like this.

    Here is the link to the Gofundme is anyone is able to help.

    And here are some news articles to verify my claims:

    Mileno newspaper

    Infobae

    Univison

    Official Amber Alert

    Tiktok

    2 Comments
    2024/10/24
    02:11 UTC

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    [REQUEST] [Albany, OR, USA] Homeless with service animal, need hotel for a few days

    Hey y'all

    Me and my service dog became homeless in Albany Oregon on Friday the 18th. We've been sleeping in my car since.. I have some cash left but I need to save it for dog food and gas for my car. I fled an incredibly toxic household shortly after starting community college. I'm working with local community resources and my community college on getting work then housing. I receive SNAP to take care of food costs at the moment.

    I'm requesting some help in getting a cheap hotel room for a few days if possible.

    0 Comments
    2024/10/23
    01:45 UTC

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    Please help if you can (WV to OH)

    Hi there. Never posted a request on here before.

    Due to unfortunate circumstances, I need to move me, my son, and our animals. I have no more credit or savings, as I used them to start a farm and business where I am currently located and now I have to leave this situation. It's heartbreaking.

    I know the world has a lot of suffering right now. If you are able to give, I thank you. Sharing the campaign to sympathetic others also helps- so feel free to do that also.

    I would not choose to be a single mom if it were not necessary. Please help if you can!

    https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-lily-and-rowans-new-beginning

    3 Comments
    2024/10/09
    17:35 UTC

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    Looking for care/ support. My dad just sold my sentimentals without telling me.

    Title, basically been living out of the house for a few years now (college and graduated last year) but my parents house is very much somewhere I am welcome to keep my stuff until I can move from a small apartment to a real house. My room is the same as it always has been etc. now after being gone for a while my dad casually mentions he sold all of my games and consoles (that are only there because I didnt have space but absolutely would've made it work) and I feel really really hurt. There are so many old games that I had saved and replayed that are now collectors items that I could never afford... I don't care about not getting money from it but there are so many hours put into each one its absolutely heartbreaking to just learn that it's all gone and I don't even have a list of all the games that were there so there's not really any closure. Just want to vent and maybe get some advice on moving on. He told me months ago and I can't stop hurting about it.

    6 Comments
    2024/10/06
    03:27 UTC

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    My rescue puppy has problems. The vet’s diagnosis is a torn meniscus in both of her back legs. I don’t have the money for either surgery.

    6 Comments
    2024/10/03
    14:19 UTC

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    Need $60 for accommodation for the night

    I am about to be homeless and I need help in the rain. Crying 😢

    15 Comments
    2024/09/24
    02:25 UTC

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    [Request] help with classroom supplies for my students

    Help my students with classroom supplies

    Hello Reddit friends!

    I am a teacher at a low income school in an urban area. I love my students and want to give them all the advantages and opportunities I possibly can. My students are curious, brilliant, and ready to learn this year.

    I teach AP Biology and Biomedical Sciences. As you may know, those subjects require a lot of note taking, quizzes and test revisions, and (my favorite) labs!

    I’m reaching out today to request 3 ring binders for my classes. I did a survey to ask the students who may need assistance in purchasing a binder and more responded “yes” than I had expected.

    Please consider helping out my classroom. I really want to start the year off right for them and providing the appropriate supplies would go a long way in achieving that goal.

    You can find my Amazon list linked below if you would be willing to help me take care of my students.

    https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1EPU7X0NNPEND?ref_=wl_share

    Thank you so much for your consideration!

    With love, Ms. LG

    1 Comment
    2024/08/31
    09:59 UTC

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    REQUEST: $60 for "new" used van tire, New Orleans, LA, USA

    In this slowest of slow months for business, somehow managed to pay our rent on the 20th and got our 'disconnect' power bill postponed for a month at the very very last minute - despite the power company insistingwe weren't eligible, and the assistance agency running out of funds the night before we went to apply.

    We are handcraft vendors in New Orleans' French Market (outdoor tourist market). This time of year is normally slow, but this one is the worst any vendor there has seen... well... ever. "Feels like" temps of 110-120 will do that. Running out of product, after rent nothing left to buy more supplies... But, yay! It's supposed to be in the lower 90s this next week or so, and we have high hopes we can make enough to rebuild some stock and keep things going. just in the nick of time!

    But the universe said that was too easy, we needed one last parting gift - a giant, gaping hole in one of our 1998 Chevy Astro van's tires! See it here - the tire! Can't get to work tomorrow on that, already asked everyone with a vehicle capable of transporting our market setup, and no one can help us get there tomorrow.

    Already carefully drove the van to the ire repair shop down the street, had the tire pulled, and there's a decent used tire waiting, for $60. We literally have $2 and change left to our names. We are well and truly dead in the waterif we can't set up tomorrow, and I can't say I trust this weather to last, I am sorry to ask for cash but there's no way around it - shop is cash only!

    If anyone is able to help - some or all - we would be forever grateful! We always pay things forward! I have pretty much all the $ things - Cashapp, Venmo, Paypal, Zelle, Revolut... can even accept any credit or debit card or apple pay through Square with our business account (although that's the least preferred as we will be charged a percentage fee).

    2 Comments
    2024/08/23
    19:08 UTC

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    Student Insurance New York

    I am a United States Citizen who has been living in Germany for around 10 years, I will be studying at Columbia this Fall but I have major problems with the health insurance. One problem is I can’t even access the New York health government website, I don’t know if this is because I am out of the country, I would assume so. Another issue is that I don’t know if the basic New York health insurance qualifies me for a waiver, or I need a special plan. I am a low income student so I am trying to not have to pay the Columbia’s automatic insurance that for me is unaffordable. Next is the issue of timing. In Germany when you sign up for health insurance it is pretty much automatic, it does not take months to become active, it’s pretty quick but then you are paying for it- I made the mistake of thinking it would be similar so I waited until the month before to enrol. It turns out that when I enrol today my insurance won’t begin until the next month, but Columbia wants prove that I am insured from the 15th of this month until next year to wave the plan. I am insured in Germany now, but this won’t work for me after leaving the country. I was told by the office that I could have some sort of letter- does anybody know how to navigate this? If anyone knows anything I would be so eternally grateful since this is really stressful. I reached out to the office and they weren’t very helpful. Thank you.

    1 Comment
    2024/08/14
    08:24 UTC

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    [Request] Somerset uk £50 for food shop.

    As the title says I am really in need of some help to get some food for the house as i have literally nothing and don’t get paid for a couple days still so would be really grateful if someone could help out me and the cats get fed! ( if £50 is too much I would really appreciate anything at this point)

    1 Comment
    2024/08/12
    15:51 UTC

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    [REQUEST] DENVER CO. $150 NEEDED FOR RENTAL.

    Long story short my husband and I’s car was stolen and we are renting a car through uber because he’s an uber driver. Uber has program where you can rent a car with a weekly fee and we’re short $150 to keep the car.

    0 Comments
    2024/08/12
    13:58 UTC

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    (REQUEST) Need help with lodging and food for 2-3 nights in Casper, WY

    I'm about to be on the street in Casper, WY.

    I graduated from a treatment center for my alcohol issues on May 29, and have been focused on recovery rather than working full time. I'm presently waiting on a move-in date for subsidized housing, and receiving SNAP benefits. I've also applied for SSDI for the third time, and am awaiting that decision, which could come any day, but could well be denied because I try to keep working.

    The people I was staying with are pot smokers and drinkers, and are facing eviction, so for my sobriety, I can't stick around. I'm trying to find a solution that allows me to keep attending my recovery classes and not overwhelm myself, which could lead to a relapse.

    Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.

    1 Comment
    2024/08/08
    13:26 UTC

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    Need assistance to pay for a new ID (Illinois, United States)

    I need to get a new ID to start working again but can't afford the $20 fee right now

    1 Comment
    2024/08/01
    03:23 UTC

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    Need gas for critical task (WA)

    [REQUEST]

    Hello everyone,

    I need a few gallons of gas this morning. I must go move my stored RV or it will be impounded.

    I'm an unemployed elder. I've had a very hard time gaining employment. Over 2000 applications to date. I have skills and do well on phone interviews. But my age is disqualifying me. It's awful.

    Some history. I lost my job, followed by my home. I purchased a used RV hoping to use it when I found work. It's stored.

    I must move it today or it will be impounded. It's 100 miles from my location. I need gas to travel there. Can anyone help me? 4 Gallons would cover it. I have no income. I'm located in King County Washington. RV is in Lewis County 100 miles south. This must be done today. I just need to get there and all is good.

    I have PayPal debit card. And other means.

    Please, if you can help I'd be grateful, and you would gain a remote computer tech for as long as I can work. I have over 35 years in information technology. Support mostly.

    Also, I want to work. IT is my career, but I can do many things.

    Please help, I have only a few hours to travel there. I may have to jump start the motorhome, etc. I'm moving it a couple of miles to a new storage place.

    Thanks for considering.

    0 Comments
    2024/07/31
    13:58 UTC

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    Request: Asheville, NC: Save Bento’s Eyes. Bento is 2.5 years old and the best pup. He was recently diagnosed with juvenile cataracts. He needs surgery to prevent glaucoma and to regain his eyesight. Please help me give Bento the healthcare he deserves. https://gofund.me/392846f3

    3 Comments
    2024/07/29
    04:12 UTC

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    Help for me & my beautiful 15 year old mainecoon furbaby

    I am a 39 year old female in Mt.Laurel, NJ. I have been on my own & working 70-100 hours a week since I was 16... literally on my own as in no help from family & the only time I had help was with my ex, but after a few years he secretly got addicted to percocets. I always gave him half the bill/rent money and he would pay the bills but once he got addicted (which I didn't know about) he wasn't paying anything & was keeping my money. I finally had to leave and got my own apartment. For years, I had some health issues that progressively got worse but I couldn't afford to take off of work to go see doctors. Finally, it got so bad I had to quit and I figured it would take 4-8 weeks MAX to get diagnosed & treated. I was wrong. It has been 6 months and it's not all figured out and the parts that are aren't totally managed yet so I lost my apartment. I got some help from friends to get my cat (Marco) and I a motel. Then, I started receiving money from my ex employer because he got audited for not paying us properly so I've been surviving off that. I get it about every 6 weeks. I am out of money and don't get my check from my ex employer through the state for about another week. As for my medical issues, the biggest diagnosed issued is Severe Gastroparesis. I take a bunch of meds and have now had botox injected internally into my stomach twice. Anyway, I am waiting for disability to get approved but that takes awhile. I do get food stamps. I'm just looking for any help for my cat Marco & I to survive and keep a roof over our heads til next week please. Thank you so much. 🙏🏼🫶🏼

    Edit: Also, I can show any proof of my medical issues. If anyone can help, I would appreciate it so much. More than you'll ever know. I feel so low that I even had to do this but it's mostly for my furbaby. I've always worked so hard to be independent and I can't believe this is happening. If anyone can help, I have Venmo, PayPal & CashApp. Again, thank you so much for taking the time to read this & possibly help me.

    0 Comments
    2024/07/18
    19:17 UTC

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    [REQUEST] desperately need financial help. (Barrie ON, Canada)

    Hi all, I am going through a really hard time, I haven't been financially stable for a few months and right now its gotten a million times worse. I really need some money to pay my utilities before my electric and water get turned off. I am currently struggling to make ends meet and I have no idea what to do. If anyone could help me I would be so thankful, it's around $260 but literally anything would help.

    1 Comment
    2024/07/16
    21:50 UTC

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    Medicaid advice in Wisconsin

    My mom is in hospice at home and has paid part time caregivers. Family takes care of her in between caregiver shifts. Mom is getting low on money and will eventually need some public assistance. Is there a way for her to receive some Medicaid funds to help for home health care? This would be when she runs out of money. Want to get insights from others with similar experiences.

    1 Comment
    2024/07/07
    17:52 UTC

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