My doctor told me I should stop using contact lenses for the sake of my eye health. My vision is unfortunately too poor and my only alternative is glasses, which I never wore. I thought I had insecurities about my appearance all settled and I was now kinda confident, but there is something about glasses that makes me badly insecure. I don't know what it is. I took many different photos with glasses and I cringed looking at them all. Every time I decide to go out in glasses I chicken out in the last minute and go back to put in contacts (which is getting painful). I will stop this eventually but I'm dreading it. I know there is no shame in needing glasses, that many people wear them and looking at other girls I don't think glasses make them look bad, but when I look at myself I just see it as a flaw and makes me look sort of blind. Maybe because I know how bad my eyesight has got, and it's probably my fault because I avoided getting glasses in high school and strained my eyes a lot, and I was teased for it. But that was years ago. I don't know. It's a big part of my face and I don't like it. You can call me crazy or fragile, I'm just kinda venting, but hopefully at least somebody understands.

27F and I haven’t showered for 2 weeks. I’ve struggled with mental health issues for as long as I can remember and used to struggle badly with my hygiene. Now I usually shower every other day, my biggest struggle is brushing my teeth and no matter how hard I try I only seem to manage once a day instead of twice, however….

The last 2 weeks I’ve been struggling mentally and ended up very ill in bed with the flu and a chest infection, I then got my period and due to feeling so ill haven’t been out of my house at all and only brushed my teeth a handful of times. I feel disgusted with myself.

I have physical health issues aswell like ME which don’t help but I just physically can’t find the energy to shower. I did get a warm cloth earlier and some dove sensitive beauty bar to have a quick rinse but it didn’t do much. My hair looks like someone has poured oil over it.

Am I the only one or am I just disgusting? 😞

Hiya,

Bit of a random one but I've noticed even after an easy shift at work I am physically exhausted and run-down. My empathy reaches 0.

My work can be physical but on days where I make conscious effort to go slower and not exert myself physically, I still feel this way.

Just wondered if this is a normal feeling to be expected after work or is this burnout?

Does lack of sleep/bad sleeping schedule usually cause a delayed period? I’ve been tracking my cycle on Clue and it says my period is 5 days late so im worried. Is it normal?

Hi strong ladies...did any of you who are survivors of SA, did you do a self defense class? Boxing? Anything? Tips? Was it triggering??

I just lay here lol but feeling so bad rn

I can't show my anger but I really want to get it out. Bottling it up makes me cry and crushes me from within. How to let it out in a healthy way?

I’m 20 years old and really want to completely transform my life—physically, mentally, and financially. I’d love to hear any tips or advice on where to start, what habits to build, and strategies to stay motivated. What helped you the most on your journey to self-improvement? Any recommended resources, routines, or mindsets are welcome! Thanks in advance!

So.... F (26) who is navigating the dating world for the first time as an adult. I left a long term relationship with a guy I met in high school awhile ago so this is all very new to me.

I have been seeing a guy for about a month and am planning to stay the night at his house tomorrow. We have slept together, just haven't stayed the night together. What is the "protocol" regarding what I should bring with me (worried about him feeling like I'm "moving in") and the morning after (do I wake him if he is still sleeping and I need to leave or do I just sneak out, do I leave right away when we wake up, should I suggest breakfast together, etc,). I know these sound like such silly questions, I just don't want to come across as awkward as I feel. Any advice is appreciated.

I recently moved into a new house and have more clothes than room to put them in. My closet is small and grows more in height The solution I found was these hanging containers but since I filled them too much they broke.I've already bought them again but I don't think it's a permanent solution. How can I have a more organized closet? Aside from decluttering stuff I don't need (I'm trying to)

Hello,I am 18 right now.My parents wants to getting a piercing on my nose and ears but I am afraid for this,any advice for this?

This is a lot. I don't even know how to go about this. I lost myself in the midst of taking care of my husband and his kids.

What do I start with? Workouts, self-care, mental health, friends, etc. How can I put myself in a place to make new friends?

I don't know what I'm doing. I'm finding women roommates and living with my cat in apartments nearby. What do I do, ladies?

Ever since, I’ve been embarrassed about my boobs. Not only are they small (32B), but they are unusually pointy. Plus I have prominent puffy nipples that add to the triangular look.

Not only is it hard to fill in bras (because I’m bottom-heavy), but going braless is also awkward because of my prominent, angular tips. I keep self deprecating that they look like Kim Possible boobs, haha.

Getting back into the dating scene after years, I would definitely want to feel better about myself again.

Especially when I become intimate with a guy again, I’m afraid that it will turn him off.

Are there women who have conical breasts like me, with success stories about how you’ve overcome your insecurities? Or how your partner has found them lovable? Is it a turn on for some men?

I’m 25 right now and I understand that these feelings of hopelessness & confusion are normal. I recently lost my job, I’m supposed to be working towards a nursing degree but I really haven’t even began and I’m extremely ashamed but I just can’t bring myself to put ANYTHING into motion despite my endless amount of free time. Idk. I’m just looking to hear from some women what they thought of their life at 25 and what they think of it now, no matter what age you are now. What do you think your 25 year old self would say? Would she be satisfied? Would she be disappointed? Hell, if you’re 25 now too go ahead and share how you feel about this age. It honestly kind of sucks, lol. I’m excited to leave my 20’s honestly. I’m at this point where most of my friends are entering serious relationships, having kids, almost finished with school if not already in their careers, traveling and so much more. I feel like an undeserving loser. I’m not working. I’m not moving towards my degree. I’m not exercising. I eat like shit because food is my only source of joy right now. I’m avoiding my friends. I can’t date because i’m too ashamed of myself.. so yeah. Lemme hear it. You now VS 25 year old you. I need something to look forward to. Or not… if that’s your story, haha.

So I'm 94s baby and I'm pretty confident in saying that I've grown a tremendous amount throughout my 20s. I went from depressed broke college student, to business girlie with lots of debt, had a mental breakdown in the middle requiring months and months of hospitalization and rehabilitation, got laid off shortly after, found a new job, the love of my life, cool side gigs that bump me up to six figures, 2 wonderful cat children with my fiance, and even found a workout routine that I enjoy and can consistent in.

And while being 29 I've felt I was in a great place, now that I'm turning 30, I feel like I'm at square one again haha. Where is my house, why do I still have student loans, should I be with child, is it bad that I have side hustles. I'm not rly looking for advice, just wondering, anyone else turning 30, or turned 30? How are ya'll feeling / how did you feel? Bc I am this close 🤏 (insert mood stabilizer pill) from an anxiety attack, and I've been obsessing over skincare.

I don't even know what I'm afraid of exactly. I just get all this trepidation and negative emotions, even months before my birthday. If I had to explain it just feels like I should be doing more, like I can't be a "girl" anymore and no one will be kind to me, help me or take care of me if I'm a real adult. I dread the shame and guilt of spending another year doing nothing and missing out on the life of my dreams. I also don't have friends and I haven't for years and I guess it hits harder around birthday.

I can't stop basing my worth around male attention and male validation. I feel like I'm less of a woman because most women always have stories or complaints about men hitting on them and getting approached but I've just never had that experience. I always thought that this was because I was too ugly to ever be wanted by somebody and I'm so sick of feeling this way, I don't know how to stop thinking about men so much and base my self worth on their validation and attention because I never get male attention and I hate feeling this way.

I have this one friend who I have known since childhood. We are now adults. We both got bullied frequently when we were younger

I personally do not believe anyone is "ugly" per say. But my confidence has grown MASSIVELY since them. I have leveled up in my career. As far as appearance goes, people go out of my way to compliment me frequently now. I am approached more romantically. It's fair to say that I have had a glow up.

This friend is someone who constantly calls himself "ugly" almost every time we hang out, as if he is fishing for compliments. I usually validate that he is not but lately I feel like he is projecting his own insecurities onto me.

Dating wise, I spent my 20s being wild and adventurous. Now that I have hit 30, dating for fun just does not appeal to me anymore. My main focus is my career. I briefly hopped onto the dating apps but nothing appealed to me because my standards for what I want in a partner are different from what I wanted when I was younger. I also don't waste time entertaining what I know isn't for me. I either swipe left or wish them well and part ways.

One time when I mentioned not being fond of the app I was on, he said something along the lines of "oh yeah it would effect myself esteem too if I wasn't getting enough matches" when I quite literally NEVER mentioned feeling undesirable.

He on the other hand mentioned feeling behind because he didn't explore as much while dating. So I feel like he was projecting onto me because I feel like there are many men who can't fathom not dating/hooking up BY CHOICE.

He also frequently posts about revelling in being invited to events but not actually showing up (extremely disrespectful). I understand being flattered by invites but he is the type to ask who's going, hype up how much fun he is going to have and chronically cancel last minute. Like he has rarely had the courtesy to just say he has no interest

I feel like people who are insecure with themselves love the idea of being the one to reject because it makes them feel powerful/desirable. Me personally, I just decline the social event so that way I can respect the person's time. If it's not an event I would have attended, declining it doesn't boost my self esteem because I'm already content with who I am

Has anyone else dealt with this. And if so, what did you do?

So my feet are small, I'm a size 2 (UK) and I've always had trouble in heels no matter which pair I try. The most comfortable type I've found are the heeled Oxford style (as long as they're not too high) but I'd rather wear stuff like what Sabrina carpenter wears. Does anyone have any tips on making them more comfortable or a style that would be better for me? When I wear them it feels like I'm balancing en pointe, and I walk like a newborn baby deer 😒 any tips will help thanks!

Throwaway account as the pregnancy wasn't public knowledge...

My friend is very very far away (I can't travel) and has just miscarried her first pregnancy. I'm totally heartbroken for her and I'm not sure what I can do. I'm there for her as much as I can be to talk but do you have any suggestions on something I could do or send her and her partner? I'm not sure what is appropriate...

Of course, I just had to start my period today. 😭 LOL. I have to fit into a corset for my costume tomorrow!! I'm hoping I can avoid bloating as much as possible by avoiding certain foods but I'm a little lost and Google isn't super helpful. Can I please have some tips?? It'd be super appreciated!! Thank you so much!!

My son is getting married in late summer (southern hemisphere). Please can you guys give me a few guidelines of what to look for. I'm not at all into 'old lady' or traditional formal wear, however I want to look put together without standing out too much. I'd love to wear a pantsuit if that is an appropriate outfit.

my class and i decided to make a senior borad which means we will put our photos on a big board with a theme, other class use a theme like crime and they are accused so do you have any ideas for the theme i think about put ourself like we are missing

I 18F got laid off yesterday morning at my restaurant job with no notice as i was coming in for my shift, i received a message from the manager the night before asking if i could come in early. I went in scheduled for three weeks+ on my scheduling app as well as well for the shift i was scheduled on the day i was let go. I know its not such a big deal because alot of my 18 year old friends are in college but dont work, but the difference is i live alone and would not like to return to my parents home under any circumstances, and i still need a couple 100 left to save to pay my tuition in full in february. I worked there from mid august, to yesterday. They had a whole new management hired at the same time i was hired as well as the few weeks prior to this hired a whole bunch of new people for training most of which i never saw again so im assuming they quit. This lay off comes as a shock to me as my performance has been fine and i’ve received positive feedback both from fellow senior staff as well as the new management on my performance so im confused honestly. I’m honestly panicking and very stressed already as a week prior i was basically dumped by a guy i was seeing for 5 months so this is already the worst week/month ever. I do have emergency savings as well as my remaining two paychecks coming in but that wont hold forever. I was planning to work this job as something stable because of the good tip out and hours as im enrolled to start college in January, and can’t withdraw a second time. I have started applying for jobs and sent out 50 applications directly to managers hiring as soon i got the news of being terminated. but i seriously don’t enjoy looking for jobs all the time and like stability, and getting kicked out with no notice like this on top of being in rough spot dealing with basically being dumped is affecting my mental health seriously.

Hi, I’m not quite sure how much background to give this, but for a bit now I’ve been having problems where whenever I get critique, do something wrong publicly, or am in a high pressure situation especially with a person of authority (teacher, boss, coach), I start to cry. It’s not full on bawling but I tear up and if I’m not able to control it in time it is noticeable.

I am in College and my major requires me to have public critiques of my projects often, where I present and professors then give me recommendations on what I could do better. Additionally, I am in a semi-individual sport but got into it much later than most others I compete against so am not 100% on each tiny rule that I somehow find ways of breaking every race.

Whenever I realize that I did something wrong or get a piece of criticism that hits home, I begin to cry. I understand internally that it’s not personal and it doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. However, I can’t for the life of me stop my body from crying in these situations! Any tips?

Hey queens! Where do people get those cute stylish soft cardigans? They land right around the hips and are lighter material usually. The ones you can just wear by themselves buttoned or people put them over their shoulders

Prepare yourself for a big yapping!

Of my 16 years on this Earth I've had a total of one crush, in third grade. I had it pretty rough with my childhood in terms of socialising as well as have had a stark lack of female influence in my life, which I wonder whether it may have influenced my situation today.

I'm by no means against the idea of a romantic relationship. I think a bond between two people is absolutely beautiful and I gush over adorable interactions in fiction, but dating really isn't a priority in my life. I definitely don't feel like I need a partner, not out of some sense of prideful independence but rather that my life is so full without it, I feel that it's something that would be lovely to have, but that I would genuinely be okay with being an old lady, enjoying my own company and those of my friends and community. But! I'm not sure if that's a philosophy I should reevaluate.

I've seen boys as cute, but I'm not sure what other people mean when they say that. Does saying someone is cute mean that they're saying they want to date them or that maybe they're sexually interested in them? I just think people are so pretty! Like if I see someone I can go "they're so pretty" in my head while feeling my cheeks sparkle a little.

Also! Dating makes no sense to me. The way my peers seem to approach it seems almost like a boyfriend is a trophy, a decoration. That he needs to be tall, funny, play guitar.. stuff like that. I feel like what makes me gush within fiction is the beautiful connection between two humans, the vulnerability and closeness of a relationship. Two souls that have connected with eachother.

Which brings me to my next confusion: asking out strangers. When someone asks out a stranger, it can only be because they think they look nice, right? Is it out of sexual attraction, or because they think they look beautiful? And do people ask people out only when they are sexually attracted to them?????

Then when it comes to accepting a date, is the criteria sexual attraction? I feel like what makes the most sense to me is the friendship to romantic relationship pipeline where you have come to know this individual as a person and then want to spend your life with them as a result of that. Like, my life long partner would be like a best friend anyway, what's the point of establishing a relationship that can only go in the direction of romance or breaking off if not for sexual attraction?

All of this keeps coming back to sexual attraction. I don't think I've ever looked at a person and wanted to do anything sexual based off of that, but I'm by no means against the idea of sex and the plumbing still works fine below. Ah! Very confusing.

The idea of pecks and hugs and holding of hands and kisses and cuddling and so on makes me gush.

A part of me wonders if I simply haven't met the right person? There are qualities within role models in my life, whom I cant help but admire and find absolutely cool that I've never seen in peers my age. So maybe it's something of that nature?

If you have read this to the very end, thank you! I would love your thoughts and advice.

That’s the best flare I think lol. So I have had sex for the first time in the past month. I have no regrets, it all felt good but like I have no clue what an orgasm is like. I still have no clue if I have one or not. I think part of it is because I still to this day have never masturbated (boyfriend was actually incredibly shocked when he found out I hadn’t). So he has found ways that seem to make me feel good, but like I don’t know anything for sure. He is the only person who gets me interested or wanting sex more than an annoying tap on my leg (I believe I am Demisexual). I want to make my boyfriend happy because he wants me to orgasm and everything but like I don’t know if I do or not. Like I think I have felt what others have described as orgasms but like nothing that I could ever say definitively. I have seen things say masturbate so you know what you like but masturbation scares me way more than any sex. I am so confused as to why sex is fine but masturbation is still nerve wrecking and I struggle to actually attempt to masturbate