I really want to learn to do pigtail style French braids but it’s so hard to grasp! Anyone know of any good tutorials of have any tricks that worked for you? TIA ✌️

hello!

my 20th birthday is soon and i know it’s a young age, but i feel too childish and behind :/ I collect stickers, my voice gets high pitched when im happy or excited and i laugh, i love playing roblox LMAOOOO, i like cute stuff like teddies (im not super obsessed but i do like them and have loads mostly from childhood in storage etc) and at home me and my sister talk in a silly voice - i feel embarrassed of the childish aspect of my personality and i’m scared people will think im trying to act like a kid in a wrong way.

I’ve always just been naturally childish and immature and silly, but i want to mature behaviour wise.I want to be seen and to behave as a grown woman. When i was younger i got accused of being an age played because i got a bratz doll for my birthday (i was 18) and comments like that have really stuck to me because that is NOT the type of person i am at alllll that shit is so weird to meee it’s so gross and I don’t like being misunderstood or being perceived in such a way.

Tbh im mostly just childish at home but it’s bothering me. I feel very behind my peers in a lot of aspects in life already and i feel like the way i act doesn’t help. It’s not like im super immature and can’t be sensible or know how to act in public etc etc. I guess it more humour and interests and personality. Omg i feel like im repeating myself im so sorry 😭 sometimes i feel like there’s something wrong with me. My friends are doing adult things like going to uni to work towards careers, having boyfriends and dating and doing adult relationship stuff, looking at places to move to, driving or learning to, partying, working, cooking.

I spend my days watching youtube documentaries, reading, painting my nails, eating instant ramen and thinking of cute things online like clothes or trinkets and laughing at anything because i easily laugh lmao. I feel so behind. I don’t date, i don’t like parties or alcohol. I don’t drive or go to school. I feel so un-adult. I feel like i need to have everything together by my birthday. I feel like im too kiddish for my age idkkkkk. What can i do to be more mature?

Hi girls, i am 23f and study and work part-time and live on my own. When i get home, i cook myself dinner, eat and put on a series (the same one rewatching it again and again and again) for hours and hours until midnight or later. Then i go to sleep and it's not even enough for me, so the next day i wake up soooo tired. How do i stop the cycle I am in? I feel so frustrated at myself every time i tell myself "okay only 2 episodes today and that's it" (it's a 45-minutes-an-episode-series). I would like to work out, read some books or study sth good for me!

Just need your tips and tricks, if you don’t mind. Going through a wave of depression that I expect to last a while, so I’m here for any advice, tips, tricks, self care, anything. Thanks ladies.

ok so ive done it, or tried, a few tines.

first time i was 16 and i didnt know him long, i liked him but he did not take time to arouse me and basically we did it after a bit of kissing and it hurt, i couldnt get it in at first but he went on top and we went on a minute or so i remember. painful and uncomfy. he even said i was dry and i was. i wanted to lose my virginity but i dont think i was aroused in the moment.

tried at 17 but he did not count this as sex so i decided i would not. i think we got the tip or a little bit in and thrusted for maybe a minute but we stopped cuz it hurt and also we were both very inexperinced so did not know wtf we were doing. he got foreplay i didnt, i was pretty dry and not rlly excited.

third time was awful. tinder quickie at 22, tbh he didnt look like his picture and i just was not into him but figuered id do it to do it. wasnt into the foreplay tbh and found him annoying and dumb. couldnt get any, maybe a slight tip i felt in, painful as fuck. ugh. was like totally not turned on. i came by myself to force myself to get wet first but it didnt make it less painful.

i wondered alot if something is wrong with me medically or if this sounds like shitty sex. none of the guys i had an emotional connection to or trusted. i heard of vaginsums but i can use tampons, fingers and a vibrator so idk about that. i got a tool put up there for sti test and it hurt so bad but thats common i know. the finger exam was fine and she said nothing seems abnormal so im wondering if that would have shown a medical problem down there. please help. no i have never tried lube either.

I’m a senior in high school and starting to prepare myself for college. I have a few universities to choose from and no matter what I’ll be living in a dorm room. Are there any tips to prepare for life in a dorm? What are essential items I should have? What can I expect? My mom didn’t go to college and I don’t have any siblings or anyone with experience I can talk to except a couple teachers.

I have a very important event at work tomorrow and, frankly, I just wish I could fall asleep today and wake up tomorrow evening just so I could skip the entirety of it. Essentially, I'll have to establish communication between an international delegation and executives of a big local company. It's not the first time I would have to do something like this, but I usually deal with less important people (or, at least, a smaller number of important people, drastically smaller) and I am a massive ball of anxiety and fear. Honestly, this ruined my whole weekend cause I can't distract myself from it at all.

I won't be working alone, my manager says my role will be supplementary to a more experienced colleague, but due to the nature of the job it's really hard to imagine how I can practically imlement the "support" to said colleague without seeming either rude for interrupting, or useless and incompetent for staying quiet. I will discuss it with the colleague in more detail, but still. We didn't discuss it before cause we were informed of the event on a very short notice.

Another problem is that one of my less experienced colleagues was just fired for failing at another event, from what I gathered from my manager, and now I am just afraid of making a mistake, especially in front of important people, cause I might just be straight up fired as well. My record overall is pretty good, but failing something so important might nullify all my accomplisments for all I know. And I live in a small town, so employment is tough to come by and I can't move elsewhere (and wouldn't want to, really, I quite like it here).

Add to that the fact that my period just started and I can barely sit, let alone walk around for hours like I'll have to do tomorrow. I will take painkillers before starting tomorrow, obviously, but still, I feel bad about myself in the best of times, let alone now.

So yeah, I expect tomorrow to be pretty bad, potentially "unemployment risk" bad and I just can't eat properly or relax at all and frankly want to crawl into some deep and dark hole and die. Have you felt like that before and what should one do to feel at least a little better? Thanks.

I get hit on by creeps pretty often, though I've noticed whenever I'm feeling down or depressed it is near constant and way more vulgar. Maybe I'm making false connections here but I can't help but feel like for some reason my blues attracts them. Does anyone else experience this?

I'd like to learn how to flirt and seduce, but I'm a bit shy and insecure. Do you have any tips for me, please?

tldr: my elderly neighbor asked for a key to my apartment, i told her no, now i’m afraid to see her in our building

i (22f) moved into an apartment with my bf a few months ago and since then have run into our neighbor about half a dozen times. she is an elderly woman who lives alone so we try to help her out when we can, helping her with groceries when we enter the building at the same time, taking out her recycling, etc, just typical neighborly stuff.

we recently had a trip planned so i let her know just in case she was depending on us for assistance while we were gone. well, this turned out to be a mistake because she proceeded to ask for a KEY to our apartment so she could use our shower and dishwasher while we were gone. apparently hers are broken and she doesn’t want to ask the super to fix them because she “has too much stuff in there” (i’ve seen into her apartment from the hall and it is indeed like a hoarders house).

i gently told her no, but the day before we left she knocked on our door 3 separate times to try to get us to reconsider and really guilted me when i talked to her by saying how badly she needs to shower, that this could’ve been “the answer to her prayers”, that she’s asked strangers for much more than this (mind you i don’t even know her last name). i didn’t give in, but i felt super guilty even though i know it’s crazy to let someone you hardly know into your house when you’re not there.

now that we’re back, i feel really anxious to run into her in the hallway and i feel scared that she’s going to do something retaliatory since she seemed a bit upset that we rejected her. my bf says i should just try not to talk to her anymore, but i feel like as women we are socialized to always give people the time of day and it feels wrong to ignore her as she does genuinely need help sometimes due to her age. i’m just scared she’ll ambush me with another invasive request like that. it’s also a bit complicated as i am pretty good at ignoring/rejecting creepy men crossing boundaries, but she is a woman who needs help (even if she’s asking for too much). i’ve been avoiding leaving the apartment if i hear her outside, but i can’t live like this forever.

if anyone has a similar story or advice on how to deal with this people-pleasing(?) anxiety i would appreciate it! :o

does anyone have advice for how classic dr marten boots should fit and how much of a heel slip is normal? i wear a size us 9 in converse and when i tried on dr martens in store the 9 felt fine in the body of the shoe and had plenty of toe room, while the 8 felt more snug in the body of the shoe but my big toe touched the top of the toe box. the sales associate advised i get the 9 because the toe box would never stretch out so i did, but now wearing them around my house my heels slip up a lot while walking. i’ve heard about having to break in the shoes and i wonder if this is about that, but it feels like maybe they slip up so much because they’re too big

How do I become happier with the way I look? I always feel too tall, fat and ugly. I always feel like I look worse than other girls around me. And it doesn’t help that boys don’t think I’m pretty either.

How do you treat or prevent chafing not just on the thighs but all over the body?

I struggle with binge eating, its the end of semester and im stressed. Therefore, i have been eating non stop. But i am gaining weight and i have been a little insecure of body fat for a while. any tips on easy workouts, or eatinh habits?

Thank you

Winter hitting hard here in the Midwest. Adhd getting worse. Maxed out on my vitamin Ds and meds.

I need SAD lamp recommendations.The buzzwords I've read so far is 10000 lux. Is there something better out there? Also all the SAD light boxes I've seen is like a iPad. Looking for something that is also aesthetic pleasing but also genuine 10000 lux.

Please drop me your favorite brands AND Amazon links if possible (pretty please). I'm okay investing a little bit more and going up to or more $50.

I don't mean doing illicit activities or drugs, but just partying, going out a lot, meeting new people and having fun experiences.

I'm 22 and I never really had a wild phase at all. I just stayed in my room all of college and didn't really make friends. I did try initially, but people seemed uninterested in hanging out. I became friends with my roommate my senior year and attended my first party in my last semester of college. It was a frat party and I didn't like it, but frat parties in general aren't extremely interesting.

If people were to ask me what was the best experience I had in college, I would honestly draw a blank. I live at home now with parents while working, so I feel the ship has sailed. I can still have fun, but it's not going to be that sense of freedom that college offers.

I used to be super active and regularly went to the gym. I had pretty visible muscle tone too. Recently, after a period of major depression and the transition from an active job to a desk job, I gained a fair amount of weight.

Since I am no longer training for specific sports I don’t know how to plan my workouts, and because I’m not thin, I worry that I stick out. I know some of these feelings are irrational, but how do I get over them?

My hardworking mom is a very stressed out, anxious person. I help her as much as I can. She’s been wanting to start doing things and getting things to help with her anxiety. One thing she wants is a weighted blanket. What other unique gifts can I get to help her anxiety? Something more creative than bath salts.

hi everyone, i basically need the answer to the title. I have no problem with doing my hair, makeup etc “looking feminine” but i feel like my energy/personality isnt as feminine as i may look. I think i give out a reserved, intimidating, dont talk to me, awkward vibe. I really want to change that. Please help!

Edit: it seems as if some people replying are getting the wrong idea which is my fault, i should’ve been more specific in this post. I’m sorry if feminine energy was the wrong term to use, I’m not really sure how to put it. I meant that when I look at a lot of my female role models, they are not like me - they are quite confident and open but don’t look like they are trying too hard (which i think i look like at times..) I would like to have the sort of poise they have, the energy, mannerisms etc.

How do you stop thinking of yourself as ugly.. yes, the simple answer is "don't think it", it's hard. I'm a 39 y old woman, 3 kids, married. And I have always had a low self-esteem, I think I am so damn ugly.. it's really hard, and I really hate it. How do you stop thinking yourself as ugly?! 😢😓

Only reason I ask is because I’m a very organized person except for my socks and undies drawer. Well last night I was looking for a certain pair and I couldn’t find it. So I thought about organizing it to make it more easier to find stuff. Well I ended up giving up after being unable to fold my thongs, and thought does anybody actually do that shit? And if so how?

I (24F) was previously wronged by someone (22M) i was in a somewhat situationship with. From my own experience with him and from hearing other girls' experiences with him (there is a LOT) it was easy to put together that he is a not so great person, selfish, a liar who never takes accountability for his actions and overall a player.

He had previously done some things to upset me. When trying to address it he basically tried to gaslight me and make me think that nothing was going on, even though we both know the truth. From what i gathered while knowing this person it seems he has a hard time communicating with others and doesn't do well in confrontations. I had given up trying to reason with him or get any closure because its like speaking to a wall and i would rather save my energy. I would not say we are friends now, just acquaintances. Unfortunately, because we never properly addressed what had happened it still bothers me that this person wronged me and it makes it worse considering that romantic feelings from my side were involved at some point. Personally, it is harder for me to let go of people sometimes, due to my anxious attachment style, which is why i wanted to keep a distance between us.

Recently, he reached out to me with an invite somewhere, which i thought was nice and i appreciated the gesture. Come to find out i was invited along side another girl "friend" of his, which basically led to me thirdwheeling them. Thankfully there were people at the event that i knew so i could escape the uncomfortable situation as soon as we got there. Later that night i texted him that that was weird and, while i appreciate the invite, i dont understand why he went out of his way to invite me, if i was going to thirdwheel them. I communicated to him that it made me feel shitty to be in that position, to which i, again, just heard excuses and no apology.

Couple of days after that i met up with an acquaintance of mine who also happened to have a weird situation with him (small world huh). We both posted on instagram that night kind of "subtweeting" him (this word describes it perfectly, even though it is used outside of the twitter context). The issue is, she tagged my instagram handle in the picture she posted, which immediately gave away who and what we talked about. He follows both of us so he immediately put together that we shit talked him (as he deserves). I feel a bit bad for doing that since it was kind of an immature thing to do. It was supposed to be harmless, but since the other girl mentioned me it was a dead giveaway.

After a few days i noticed that he muted me on instagram and i made sure to check. I know for a fact that he did because even in shitty situations we had before he would always watch my stories and interact with what i post. Today, i found out he deactivated his account. This leads me to the conclusion that this person is very bothered that we gossiped about him to the point that he had to do all of that. Dramatic much? Lol. I dont particularly care for him or what this means for our relationship, since there was not much of a trace of anything there anyway, not even friendship. However, i am not a fan of knowing that there is someone there who is upset at me this way and having negative feelings towards me. I'm not sure how to deal with that. I think there's still a people pleaser part in me that cannot handle that and wants everyone to like me all the time, even if i, personally, don't like them.

And in this particular case, this person has given me enough reason for me to dislike them, but now that he was made aware of my reaction he is the one who is upset all of a sudden....baby, none of this would've happened had u acted like a decent person, not just with me but with so many other people out there.

I’ll spare you my life story and just say I’ve been so frikken down in the dumps about literally everything and today my brain has decided that I’m depressed over my lack of a thigh gap.

Now here’s what I know objectively: the thigh gap is a bone structure thing. I don’t have one because I can’t really have one in the first place, not without being life threateningly skinny. Fine whatever I get it.

But I don’t emotionally get it? Or maybe I don’t want to accept it? And I’m just sitting here feeling bad about myself and I’m just so over it and at the same time trying so hard not to cry at work. I’m not ever going to be skinny the way I want to be. I was told that your thighs never really change size no matter how fit you get and if that’s true then I’m royally screwed.

Idk. I really wish I could just cry in my bed or take a shot or something. I can’t shake this horrible sinking feeling in chest and it’s all over my body AGAIN. It’s always about my frikken body and I can’t take it anymore.

What did you do to get over those horrible 90s to 2010s era of tumblr ed inspo and the constant pressure to lose weight in certain places because I’m so close to having a panic attack over something I logically know I have no control over.

I’m going into college pretty soon and I’ve watched almost every single college advice video on youtube and they all say the exact same thing (Join Clubs). But how do I actually make friends?

8 months post breakup, we have 2yo together.

Im just so, so tired of managing everything. Not physically, but just mentally. I tell my daughter what to do, care for her, cook her etc., I have to tell my goddamn ex stuff to do (still some paperwork that we need to settle) and remind him of stuff about our daughter. I have a family, but theyre not really supportive theyre the "youre just bored/I wish I had your problems kind of people". I do therapy, I have antidepressants.

I just dont want to be in charge from time to time, I dont want to clean, I dont want to cook, I dont want to have any responsibility for a day, just for a day. Ive been feeling so blue lately becouse of it.

So, im a teen, pretty new to tampons. I know how to put them in and stuff, but how do I start to move up a size? I currently use the lightest ones because I know that I need to start using the light ones until I get used to it and stuff. But my flow is definitely not light, I was just using those because they are the smallest. Even then, sometimes I have a bit of trouble removing them because after they expand it's a whole lot harder/uncomfy to remove. So how do I work my way up to a bigger size? Does it just take time, or should I try to like... loosen myself up down there? I really just want to use tampons because they are 10x more comfortable than pads

Basically, when I’m hanging out with someone romantically or platonically… how do I know if I like them or if it’s just me who’s really funny LMAO

I have this issue where I can tolerate almost anyone’s company because I genuinely enjoy my own company so much. I laugh at everything I say. I recently have been talking to a guy who’s super sweet, so nice, and I just had a multiple hour conversation with. I’m running it back in my head and I really enjoyed the time I spent with him, but I am genuinely struggling to determine why. Was he funny? Was I funny? Was it meaningful? If so, was it mostly because of him or mostly because of me or a good balance? Am I a good conversationalist or is he?

I’m not sure if I’m getting the point across well but kind of just hoping to get some perspective on how to determine whether or not the person you’re talking to is truly someone you get along with I guess?

I’m looking for the easier way to wax legs at home. Considering just buying those premade wax strips.

Should I do wax strips? Sugardoh? Melted wax?

I have sugar course (I swear it feels like pubes) and dark leg hair and shaving just gives me razors burns too much. Really wanted to try waxing at home.