Before you hit send on a message to an ex or someone you’re still hung up on, take a moment to clear your head. Post-nut clarity is real—taking a break to focus on something physical can help you see the situation with a fresh perspective and avoid acting impulsively. It may sound funny, but giving yourself a moment to think it over often results in a more rational decision. You’ll be glad you waited.

One of the best ways to stay consistent with self-improvement is to set a recurring calendar reminder to check in with yourself. It’s easy to start a habit or a goal but hard to maintain it when life gets busy.

For example, if you're trying to save money, set a reminder every three months to review your spending habits. If you're working on fitness, schedule a check-in to see if you're making progress. Even for general life goals, a simple “Am I where I want to be?” reminder every six months can help you course-correct before too much time slips away.

The key is to treat it like an external nudge from “past you” to “future you.” That little notification can be a powerful way to hold yourself accountable and stay on track without feeling overwhelmed.

Try it—your future self will thank you.

Obviously you gotta start the interaction good. Like asking the superficial questions, and maybe that will lead into a deeper conversation. But if you are like me, and are happy to let the convo stall out. Look at r/tooafraidtoask, find an appropriate(<THIS IS CRUCIAL!l) question and ask it. Maybe look at it before to have some fun Qs locked and loaded.

A lot of people who struggle to accept praise (due to shyness, low self-esteem, cultural emphasis on humility, etc) - tend to downplay their contributions as "no big deal", "just doing what anyone would do", and/or not as good as what others could do.

So instead of focusing my praise on their efforts, which can always be downplayed or compared unfavorably to others, I focus on the effect their work has on me.

"Hey, thanks for putting together that spreadsheet - having all the information clearly laid out like that saved me a ton of time and stress."

"Thank you for looking after my dog while I'm out of town - I always feel better knowing he's in safe hands, and I know he's much happier with you than he would be at a boarding facility."

"I love that painting you did! It reminds me of the camping trips I used to go on with my dad. Seeing it always makes my day."

That way, if they do still try to downplay it as nothing special, I just shrug and let them know that, regardless, it had a positive impact on me and I appreciate it.

Because, yeah, sure, maybe it didn't take much effort. Maybe anyone else would've done the same thing. And statistically speaking, there's probably somebody in the world who could've done it better. But here's the thing - no one else *did* do it. They did. And at the end of the day, that's all that really matters.

I know what you're thinking "yeah but my favorite juice is loaded with sugar and calories!" , but the goal we want here is consistency. If it takes your favorite juice to make you drink water consistently? So be it. It's better than not drinking water at all or being super inconsistent with it. Here's how we start out with.

Before work fill up your flask (or whatever travel cup you use for work) with 25% juice and 75% water. Try that everyday for a couple of weeks to a month and once you get the hang of it, reduce the juice to 10% juice and 90% water. It'll be mostly water but you'll still feel the hints of your favorite juice. Try this until you have it fully down then you can permanently reduce to 5% juice and 95% water. The juice will be so minimal that you're body won't even register it as a calorie while you're still tasting the hint of the juice. Try this and before you know it you'll feel constantly refreshed and feeling good!

P.S. Forgot to mention that while there are alternative solutions like sparkling water or tea, theres something about having your favorite juice that just hits close to home and you're willing to drink it constantly, instead of forcing yourself to drink a particular flavor of sparkling water that doesn't resonate with you.

Ever been in a situation where you needed something but didn’t know how to ask? Here’s the trick: Just add any reason, even if it barely makes sense. People are wired to respond positively when they hear a justification.

Because the brain processes “because portion” automatically, skipping the logic check. We assume there’s a valid reason, even if it’s nonsense.

Examples:

If you are trying to leave work early? If you ask like "Can I head out 10 minutes early because I have something to take care of?” You didn’t even say what it is, but your boss is more likely to let you go.

Normal asks like "Can you lower the price?" Most probably the answer will be No. But if you try something like "Is there any discount available because I’m really trying to stick to my budget?". Now you have a better chance to get some discount.

Prevent your bathroom mirror from fogging up after a hot shower with car wax. Apply a small amount of car wax to the mirror, let it dry, then buff with a soft, dry cloth. 

If you have a fancy toothbrush, you can buy cheap off-brand brush heads to use for cleaning one-offs. Otherwise, even the inexpensive, AA battery-powered brushes work great.

Self-checkout at grocery stores don't take any percentage and you can use all of the coins you want!

Edit: This doesn't seem to be the case in many self checkouts in Canada sadly!

I joined my library (Camden, uk) and they have a lot of books. Most of my reading these days is library.

It doesn’t work on kindle. You need a tablet, the app is Libby.

I'm so over complicated, time-consuming recipes. I grabbed one of my kids' cookbooks and made a great meal that was super simple and tasted great. So if you don't like cooking because it's such a hassle, try simplifying with recipes made for kids.

Online stores are filled with fake deals and discounts where a company will momentarily inflate the price of an item by 50%, then change it back to the original price immediately, resulting in a $50 "discount".

You see this a lot on Amazon, especially around Black Friday and Holidays.

This is actually illegal and you can report it to the FTC.

The specific rule is the Federal Trade Commission Rule 16 CFR Part 233 [Former Price Comparisons]:

https://www.ecfr.gov/current/title-16/chapter-I/subchapter-B/part-233.

You can report it here: https://reportfraud.ftc.gov/assistant

Most people don't know this is illegal and don't report it so companies keep getting away with it. The FTC only takes action when they receive a complaint so do this when you can and share so others are aware.

If enough people do this, it will eventually become an inconvenience to companies having to pay fines and receiving cease and desist letters from the FTC and they'll eventually stop.

Please share so others are aware.

That’s how can you tell whether they were being serious about it or if they just made the suggestion to be nice & were more than likely gonna ghost you otherwise.

Motivation is overrated. It’s like a wave—it comes and goes. If you rely on it to get things done, you’re going to be stuck waiting forever. Instead of waiting for motivation to strike, start building consistent habits.

Here’s the trick: Start small and focus on repetition, not inspiration.

For example, let’s say you want to get fit. Instead of waiting for that “I'm so motivated to work out today!” feeling, commit to doing one push-up a day or one minute of stretching. That’s it. Over time, you’ll start doing more because you’re not relying on motivation to get you moving—you’re creating a routine that just happens without needing to think about it.

The same goes for reading, writing, cooking, or even cleaning. Make it a non-negotiable part of your day—even if it’s just 5 minutes. Consistency is what leads to progress, not motivation. Motivation is temporary, but habits are permanent.

So, the next time you feel unmotivated, remember: don’t wait for motivation, build the habit instead. You’ll be amazed at how much easier it gets once it becomes part of your routine.

More like for your meds and car keys. Or even just a small remote. Depends on where and how your shoes are stored, but gravity, and animals(us included) work in often unpredictable ways...

It's important to be mindful of your child's privacy and dignity. Sharing their embarrassing moments, especially in public settings like dinner parties, might get laughs but can also leave lasting negative effects on their self-esteem. Respect their personal memories and allow them the space to grow without being humiliated for the sake of entertainment. As parents, supporting their autonomy and respecting their boundaries shows love and care.

That’s just another way of them saying “your new home is in shambles & there’s probably broken appliances but oh well, it’s your problem now” & they will very likely overcharge you for rent.

Can you still lower the ER bill even after the insurance covered most of it?

I hear stories about people reducing their medical bills by 50–80% and wonder what they said to

hospitals.

Take some time to write down all the accounts you have, utility, electric, social, financial, Internet, medical, employee, etc.

Now, write down account numbers, websites, user IDs, passwords. Make a note if the account requires 2FA and how that's done, whether by text, phone call or email.

Print it out, keep a copy in your records, and seal a copy in an envelope and give it to someone you truly trust. Tell them the envelope contains information that will be useful if you die.

I've seen so many stories of people given a hard time closing out a dead relative's affairs because of bureaucratic b.s. Something like this can smooth the process.

Ever been in a heated argument or faced someone who was unnecessarily aggressive? Instead of matching their energy, do the opposite & lower your voice.

People expect anger to be met with anger & when you respond calmly, it disrupts their emotional momentum.

It forces them to mirror your calmness, de-escalating the situation naturally.

It signals confidence & the most composed person in a conversation holds the most power.

Real-life example: A guy at the airport was yelling at the gate agent over a delay. Everyone around was tense. I simply said, “Hey, man, I get it, but yelling won’t fix it. What do you actually need right now?” His whole attitude changed. He sighed, nodded, and started talking normally.

If you ever notice a fishy or urine-like smell near your electrical panel, outlets, or switches, don’t ignore it! This odor is often caused by overheating electrical components, melting plastic, or faulty wiring—all serious fire hazards. Electrical fires can start silently, so if you catch this smell, turn off power to the affected area (if safe) and call a licensed electrician immediately.

Many iPhone apps store their data in iCloud and are also included in the full iPhone backup, meaning they take up double the space.

A great example is WhatsApp:

• WhatsApp has its own built-in iCloud backup for chats and media.
• Apple’s iPhone backup also includes WhatsApp data.

This means your WhatsApp chats and media are stored twice, unnecessarily consuming iCloud storage. You can disable one of these backups (either the in-app backup or the one in your iCloud backup settings) to free up a significant amount of space.

Something I have discovered about sleeves that I find useful is when you roll up sleeves to prevent them from falling you just twist the sleeves. this creates a small amount of compression holding them up better

For products you are using everyday like : deodorants. shampoos , conditioner etc they will add up to make an combined smell that you might not have intended to create. Remember the smell is a lot stronger for other people who aren't close to you. On the other end regularly changing your hygine products can help to give off the apperence that you "smell good" to people already close to you.

For as long as I can remember i was sleeping on bad soft mattresses, a month ago I rented my first apartment and got my first bed and mattress. At first I found the mattress extremely hard, but a week after sleeping in it, my back pain that I thought was just there at this point and learned to live with it, disappeared.

I don't know if i should mention I'm heavy, like 350 pounds heavy, I don't know if that matters but it saved me out of nowhere.

If you're planning on getting the apple of your eye some flowers or plants this year, be mindful if they have pets. Many of the gorgeous flowers may be deadly to our furry friends.

Lilies for example are one of the most deadly plants to cats - simply touching the flower and grooming off the pollen can send a cat to an early grave.

There's nothing a pet parent will love more than hearing "here's a bouquet, it's all pet safe".

I’ve found way better results flexing my muscles than shaking and flailing my arm. For me all it takes to regain feeling is a few muscle flexes and I’m good . I discovered this way too late and wanted to share