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A place for pregnant redditors, those who have been pregnant, those who wish to be in the future, and anyone who supports them. A place to ask and answer questions all related to pregnancy. A great place to come for post-partum depression, breast or formula feeding issues, and body image. It's one of the biggest changes of your life and we're all here to support one another!

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I'm 3 weeks early but this baby is coming!!

I'm fucking nervous! I've had all my kids late, this one is 3 weeks early, I'm already 4cm at 3am compared to 2cm at 11pm.

I'm sick to my stomach at blood and gag at so much, when I literally haven't had an issue before with that stuff. I'm so stressed out lol, but I think I got this.

She's going to be my third now, so this early labor thing is all new to me. Wish me luck!

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2024/06/23
08:09 UTC

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Breastfeeding anxiety

This is gonna sound weird maybe, but I have this fear that I won't be able to breastfeed my baby to come.

I have extremly small breasts that did not get bigger during pregnancy. I am in my mid third trimester and had no leaking or anything.

I would love to breastfeed but I have this feeling that journey won't be mine.

Moms with small breasts [AND I MEAN REAL SMALL] were you able to breasfeed your baby?

2 Comments
2024/06/23
07:56 UTC

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Am I terrible for wanting some time to recover after having my son?

I shared this in AITAH, so apologies if you're seeing this post again. I'm just really at a loss here and needing somewhere to vent and gain insight. I'm due in mid-July, and I'm having to have a c-section. Like I was told that I'd have to have a scheduled c-section beforehand so it's not like it's coming as a surprise. The thing is, my boyfriend is expecting his parents to be able to come the next day and see our child. I've told him before that it really depends on how I'm feeling after being gutted and sewn back together. I remember with my last pregnancy (I was with another man), I was overwhelmed when he brought his whole family that next day. I'm talking parents, two siblings, and grandma. It was alot to take in, I was hurting, and I just didn't feel up for company. My boyfriend and I have argued (twice so far) about allowing his parents to come the next day after the kid is born, and I've tried to leave things at "it depends on how I'm feeling." And each time I'm being told that it doesn't matter how I'm feeling cause they're coming, and when I say everyone needs to consider me (the person getting cut open to have this kid) and how I'm feeling I am told I'm selfish and made out to be the bad guy. Am I really the bad person here for wanting to recover a bit before having everyone see the baby and being up for company?? Am I really the a-hole here? I'm honestly hurt right now with how I'm being told I'm the bad guy. I get that they're all excited with my boyfriend being a first time dad and his parents being first time grandparents, and I'm excited for them. But is it really too much of me to ask for just a bit of recovery time before everyone swamps in?

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2024/06/23
07:39 UTC

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It was not an UTI/constipation/gas, it was my appendix.

24 weeks pregnant.

I went to the doctor multiple times this week because of pelvic pain that felt similar to the ones I get when having a UTI. The tests were all negative, but I felt something was off. Nevertheless, I shrugged it off and thought I was maybe overthinking it.

The following day I woke up extremely exhausted and sore, which I attributed to my chronic pain. Fast-forward to 12 pm and I could barely walk. I thought "I'm probably constipated" and took some laxatives and did some yoga to relieve the gas. Well, that clearly didn't help, and when the pain reached a level where I couldn't just sit down, and had to constantly move even when trying to sleep, it became clear that I needed help. I still thought it was probably constipation, but didn't want to take the risk for the sake of my baby. I called the hospital, and they didn't seem too concerned, but luckily we agreed that I should still show up. After a long night and day of testing, i ended up getting my appendix removed, and I already feel a thousand times better.

Never have I been happier that I listened to my intuition, it's way better to be proven wrong than to run the risk of ignoring a serious health issue. It's especially easy to downplay pain when you're used to it.

List of symptoms I had in case anyone can relate:

  • pelvic pain that later moved to the right side of my body.
  • nausea from pain, but I never vomited.
  • felt like an UTI to begin with.
  • could be mistaken for a really bad constipation/gas, but going to the toilet did nothing to relieve the pain.
  • increased temperature but never an actual fever.
  • unable to sleep.
  • pain level at a constant 8/10, once it got bad. No breaks from it.
  • lack of appetite.

I'm currently relaxing at the hospital, and getting medication that'll prevent me from going prematurely into labor, had I not been pregnant they would already have sent me home.

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2024/06/23
06:56 UTC

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Pelvis Shape & Delivery Question

Has anyone else been told they have a pelvis with a flat arch (platypelloid shape)?

I’m 36wks and my baby is on the larger side (95% head, 94% abdomen), and my doctor thinks she can induce me at 38wks for a SHOT at a possible vag delivery.

Wondering if anyone else has had a similar situation with a successful vag delivery, or if you ended up just having to do a c-section. All my research basically says that majority of moms with my pelvis shape require a c-section, so I’m a little confused at my doctor thinking an induced vag delivery is even on the table.

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2024/06/23
06:03 UTC

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For soon to be parents feeling pressured to entertain visitors postpartum

Don't.

My mother has no filter, and it's been getting worse with age. Recently she came to visit me and my newborn in the hospital. It was the the day after delivery. I thought the environment and situation would, idk, get her to keep her comments to herself for once? Silly me.

Here's a sampling of our interactions:

  • Walks into the room recording everything, because why not just enjoy a moment right? Records me sitting in bed just having finished nursing, I'm in my bra. She then proceeds to send the video to every one of her contacts. Me putting my hands up and saying "no, stop," went over her head.

  • Baby fell asleep while I was holding her. Mom informs me "holding her that long is spoiling her. Put her down or she'll always expect it." Expect what? Love? Comfort? Heaven forbid.

  • "Wow she's dark." I can't.

  • "Is this a picture of her?!" Dead serious pointing at a pamphlet about health screenings.

  • "You washed your hair?! You're not supposed to wash your hair for 40 days postpartum!" Ew, no.

  • Upon hearing about the unpleasant parts of my birthing experience, "we should all be so lucky! When I had you my skin turned black!" Did it now.

  • "Why are there so many bloody pads in the bathroom?" "Because I just had a baby?" "I never bled." Sure you didn't.

  • "Where's the formula so I can feed her?" "I'm breastfeeding." "You won't make enough milk, you need to supplement." Thanks for the positivity.

She said some other unhelpful things but they just blended together after a while. Frankly I only register half the things she says anymore.

New parents, please don't ever feel guilt for not letting people visit you and your baby. There's a reason you don't want them there.

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2024/06/23
06:03 UTC

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Complicated Christmas

My husbands parents live around a 4 hour train ride away and we usually go to them for Christmas. My due date is October 9th but I’m anticipating it being later for some reason.. I’m not sure why.

We had planned to bring the baby to Christmas this year, get a Private family carriage on the train and all would be well. Also his sister is pregnant and due a month after me so we’d all be together.

Very sadly and unexpectedly, his mother died just over a week ago and so now I feel the pressure is even more on to visit and be there for his father and sister but the closer I’m getting to the date the more scared I am of traveling even this short journey with the baby.

I have harm OCD and it’s so stressful to even leave the house, constantly terrified someone is going to hurt us. I know I really need to see a therapist instead of posting here but it’s very hard to find an available English speaking therapist in my city. Oh lord, I guess this is kind of a rant/vent.. any advice??

Edit: I am in the process of trying to find a therapist aside from all the other stuff that’s happening

2 Comments
2024/06/23
05:53 UTC

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Braxton hicks

what do braxton hicks feel like? and are they felt in the pelvis are or stomach? and is it kind of a sharp pain? how would you describe it ?

2 Comments
2024/06/23
05:29 UTC

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ITCHY

1:22 am right now & i’m standing in the shower bc i am so. itchy. i didn’t have this with my first. didn’t even know it could be a pregnancy symptom :’) anyone else so itchy they can’t sleep?

3 Comments
2024/06/23
05:23 UTC

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i think the cat knows i’m pregnant?

my SO swears he knew before we took the test, but at that point one of our cats started laying on my stomach about a week before we found out. i’m 16 weeks today, and we just found out the gender, TODAY. our same cat, has been rubbing against my belly in bed, licking/trying to groom my belly and putting his face on my stomach?? our other cat could care less… however for him to usually be a daddy’s boy to suddenly giving me all this affection; i have to think that he might actually know i’m pregnant? anybody else have this experience lol

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2024/06/23
05:20 UTC

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Chronic constipation in 7th week

I am eating tons of fibre and drinking lots and lots of water still my stool is rock hard. I already have hemmerhoids and it has got worse in the last 1 week. I am having isabgol and duphalac 3 spoons in the night time still I have no relief.

I have started questioning my decision about getting pregnant 😭 very very helpless situation. Please suggest some medicines that can help me with this severe constipation. I have to put a lot of strain while pooping.

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2024/06/23
05:03 UTC

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Graduated!! 38w5d

I went into my routine appointment Friday morning. The technician reported that my fluids were low, from 12 last week down to 4 that morning. I guess I had been slowly trickling and didn’t notice. In retrospect it explains why I felt the need to urinate more often, and why I was leaking a bit despite my pelvic floor being in good shape. My baby wasn’t moving a lot in the days leading up to the appointment, but enough that I considered it normal because she’s never been big on movements, anyway. She’s always been small and sleepy and this wasn’t concerning. I feel the need to mention this because if you’re experiencing the same symptoms, please get checked out! Better to be safe than sorry, and I consider myself lucky to of had the appointment that day. Since later on I noticed spotting and I felt a bit off.

So we headed to the hospital 3 hours later after getting the bag packed up and making arrangements with family. I was admitted swiftly, my team was just the sweetest. I was monitored, given medication to kickstart contractions and dilation. By 1am I got my epidural since the meds made things very intense very fast. I am no superhero and was happy I could finally sleep, which is what I did until about 6-7am. I went from 1.5 to 5 overnight. My epi was wearing off by 9am, and at that point I was dilated 7. I got my epidural topped off, and about an hour later I felt the need to use the bathroom. It wasn’t a constant or intense need, so the nurse just monitored me and told me that I was getting close!

I decided to do a sheet mask at 12:30 to help relax. The doctor came in about 15 minutes later and introduced herself. She said she would be doing an exam to check how far along I was. And guess what? At 12:50 I was being swarmed by nurses who prepped me to push. My partner, bless him, held it together and held me down. I pushed for approx. 30 minutes and didn’t feel a thing until the little squid baby came out, lol. Just some pressure and the sensation of being stitched up afterwards. It was a blissful labor, and I couldn’t have done it without the support and commitment from my medical team, who were so professional, swift and dedicated to my care. and my partner, who fasted in solidarity with me because I couldn’t eat for 24 hours and didn’t move from my side unless it was to get me some of that yummy hospital ice.

I write this as I hold our daughter, our firstborn child. Dakota Jade was born yesterday afternoon, 6lbs and 18 inches. I am so blessed to be her mother. I would do it all again , and again, and again. My cup runneth over with gratitude. To be able to sit here and watch my partner, my childhood sweetheart, become a father is everything and more to me. To watch my world fall into place, to know that I have an opportunity to be a better parent than mine ever were is something I’ll never take for granted. I love you Dakota.

Thank you for all the advice, for allowing me into your worlds and making me feel confident and supported enough to embrace pregnancy and motherhood 🤍 I hope to pay it forward.

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2024/06/23
05:02 UTC

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16 weeks and shoulder pain from sleeping on my left

FTM. I've been sleeping on my sides for the last couple of weeks but it's getting uncomfortable now. In the last two days I have ended up waking up at odd hours because my left shoulder starts hurting if I'm on my left for too long. I keep switching between left and right but I've noticed I'm more comfortable on my right side.

I used to sleep on my tummy a lot but it's discomforting now even though I don't really have a visible bump. I never thought I'd say this but sleeping on my back feels like heaven though I avoid it for more than 5 mins at a stretch!

I have two questions: Should I continue sleeping mostly on my right if that's more comfortable for me and switch to left in between? My doctor suggested sleeping on the left but a lot of women have said it's okay as long as you're sleeping on any side and not your back.

Would a pregnancy pillow help in relieving shoulder pain since I don't really have any back pain right now?

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2024/06/23
04:56 UTC

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When you labored at home, at what point did you go to hospital?

How did you know it was time after laboring for however long?

5 Comments
2024/06/23
04:55 UTC

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Is Babylist shower gift registry be worth it or will the “elders” not be able to navigate it?

Im working on my baby shower registry. I currently only have the one on amazon started. It’s kinda mandatory that I also make one for Walmart since we have quite a few family members that work there and will want to use their employee discount to shop for a gift which is totally understandable.

How easy was it for say your 60+ year old friends/relatives to use it? Did you personally love using it?

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2024/06/22
23:46 UTC

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I don’t want to make a big fuss with the announcement.

My husband and I are both super creative. He’s a videographer and I’m a graphic designer.

I hate being the center of attention. So much so, we eloped in Vegas with no family present. Perfect. But now that we are expecting, my husband is pushing me to tell our families in a “not boring” way.

His idea will have me drawing, on camera, in front of hot lights for an hour. I am good at drawing, but I draw digitally mostly and work with vectors. My hand drawn sketches are just okay. But the more pressure there is to draw something well, the worse my drawings come out. So this idea stresses me out.

He also wants to do it in the basement against a black backdrop, which just doesn’t seem like the aesthetic for a baby announcement to me. I’m also worried about keeping my posture pretty for that long as well, as I sit like a gremlin 99% of the time.

I made other suggestions, but it was just an hour long disagreement where I think his ego was hurt more than anything. I feel like he just wants me to play along and doesn’t want my input.

Honestly I want nothing more than to tell our close family in person around the 8-12 week mark. Ideally in person so I can see their reactions. I think the news matters way more than the delivery of the news. Id be open to do a cute photo or even a cute staged video that included art at like 16 weeks for social media, but I also could take or leave that.

Above all, I want to avoid stress and adding unnecessary things to my plate. I’m exhausted as it is. We have two big trips in July coming up. My work is nuts, his work is even more hectic. Why torture ourselves?

I’m just venting because I’m feeling upset and stressed and I hope you all will share your stories and feelings about your announcements too. It’s not selfish to skip making a big fuss about this is it?

2 Comments
2024/06/22
21:56 UTC

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Maternity bras?

I’m 27 weeks and my boobs are hurting so bad 😭 they’ve grown so much that my left is sagging. I hate bras, I don’t like to be constricted and the ones I have now do not hold me up enough (bodily everything bra) and I have another that’s ok from kindred braverly but it squishes my nipples (hurts after awhile) and i sweat like crazy in this heat.

Any bra recs for sensitive skin and nipples??

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2024/06/23
04:25 UTC

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Pregnancy all about my parents and I’m about to lose it

24 weeks and dealing with a lot. We told my parents at 6 weeks because I was experiencing severe morning sickness/in and out of the ER. The intent was to get help if I needed it because my husband's job sometimes means he isn't able to take calls in the middle of his shift. This started with my dad full on guilt tripping, complaining, and arguing with us about why we didn't want to tell anyone else or announce yet. Then when we did get the all clear from our doctor and were ready to announce, my dad told everyone instead. Now we're trying to plan a baby shower. So far the shower date needed to be moved to a date that was less convenient because my mom's friend wasn't able to come the original date we planned on. Then it was two of my mom's friends want to host it (I politely declined because I am not their child and thought this was strange plus my sister was the one who wanted to help us host/was really upset about the ask). We decided to do a Baby-B-Cue: invite friends, neighbors, and family to come to our home and have a barbecue. Both my husband and I were excited because it would be a chance to see everyone before the baby comes and do something simple. Tonight my parents stopped by our house to tell me that they want the shower to be ONLY women because my dad "doesn't feel like coming because he's a man and that's weird" and because none of my mom's friends' husbands would want to attend either. Then my mom had the audacity to tell me "try not to get too emotional. I was scared to say something because I don't know how you would react". I've literally never had a single emotional outburst or reaction to anything this pregnancy. WTF! Even my husband was staring at her. This lead to me asking them to leave our home as the entire concept of changing our baby shower for THEIR friends and my mom's comments were super offensive. Now (as always) my mom is the victim and everyone is just horrible to her on purpose blah blah blah. At this point, I don't even want to have a shower. Why is this entire pregnancy about them regardless of how many times I ask "where would the baby be without me here?" Or "why are we excluding my husband and father of the child".

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2024/06/23
03:54 UTC

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Newborn essentials (please help)

I had my baby shower today and was looking forward to lots of diapers and wipes, turns out no one got the memo that those are main essentials I need. Not that I’m not grateful for all the clothes… but my baby girl won’t wear them until 6 months+

I feel kind of lost on what I need other than new born clothes and diapers/wipes (as essentials)

I have a bassinet and car seat/ baby stroller!!

But please list what else y’all needed during the newborn stage!!!

4 Comments
2024/06/23
03:51 UTC

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If anyone needs a good laugh tonight 😂

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2024/06/23
03:29 UTC

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Am I leaking fluids ?

So yesterday I completed my glucose test but while in the hospital I noticed I was leaking down. No too much but I noticed discharge or something leaking out. I freaking out and wiped it. Then I came home and checked my underwear. It was wet with white discharge and nothing too heavy. Then I noticed green snot which smelled like a literal fish. Like it was so bad I thought it was BV. But since then I have been noticing clear white liquid ooze out of me for no reason. It is sticky, smells funny. l am so scared. Is this happening because of the infections or fluid leaking??

I had an ultrasound like 2 days ago at 10w1d and everything was good. Heard the heartbeat and measured perfectly well. Then why am I having clear discharge all of a sudden?

6 Comments
2024/06/23
03:13 UTC

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At what point does it become weird that you haven't announced?

I just hit 15 weeks. My husband and I lost our first pregnancy to miscarriage last October at 12 weeks. He was so excited and anxious to announce that first pregnancy, but I made him wait because I didn't want to deal with questions. As far as our families know, we don't want kids.

This time, he didn't want to announce early. The loss hit him hard and he wouldn't even let himself feel excited until the 12th week. Now I am the one who wants to announce more, though still apprehensive about surprising everyone and dealing with their emotions, questions, and expectations.

But now I feel we are reaching a point where it is beginning to feel strange that we haven't told our families. We are at 15 weeks. Husband wants to tell everyone on the same day, which is hard between everyone's work schedules. He doesn't want to tell someone a week after and have them feel sad someone else knew a week sooner. I really don't think this is an issue, and I think between the two of us we might just show up at Christmas with a baby.

Soo, just interested in your opinions. At what point is it weird to not have told? Anyone have experience waiting a long time? We've told no one at all.

67 Comments
2024/06/23
03:12 UTC

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Did anyone ask how you conceived when you told them the news?

Both my parents (they're divorced so it was two calls) asked how the kid was conceived and whether I'd gained weight.

Is it just me or is that weird? My husband was launching into delicate euphemisms but I just said "unprotected sex" both times. My mom at least was like "Don't get mad if I ask you this, but everyone else is going to ask me so I have to", but my dad just launched into it.

When I said yeah, I had gained a bit of weight, my mom said that she had been so tiny before she got pregnant that she showed immediately. And my Dad's wife said that I shouldn't feel bad because I was producing life and I was like, "I don't feel bad, you asked!"

My husband's parents were normal and cool and said things like "Congratulations!", "How do you feel?", and "Let us know how we can help!"

43 Comments
2024/06/23
03:01 UTC

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3rd trimester nausea

Hi all, I'm waiting for an appointment with my doctor but I'm wondering if anyone has had a similar experience and can put my mind at ease. For the past week I've had morning sickness symptoms (nausea and fatigue) seemingly out of the blue. I'm just in my third trimester now - the only things I've had consistently throughout the pregnancy are insomnia and waking with my heart racing.

Baby movements are great and I know I won't be able to get medical advice - just if anyone had something similar I'd love to know.

4 Comments
2024/06/23
02:57 UTC

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Any exercises you TRULY believe helped put you in labour, helped through delivery or with quicker/easier dilation?

Have any of you done exercises near the end of your pregnancy that you truly believe put you in labour, or helped you have an earlier/better delivery or easier/quicker dilation?

Thank you!

3 Comments
2024/06/23
02:49 UTC

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Pregnancy hiccups

My baby has been hiccuping once sometimes twice a day. I’ll be reaching out to my midwife as I feel this week not one day of hiccups has been missed. Has anyone else experienced this?

4 Comments
2024/06/23
02:38 UTC

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Most used baby registry item?

What were your most useful baby registry items in the first 3 months, 6 months, and year?

24 Comments
2024/06/23
02:30 UTC

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Overstimulated rant

Sorry. I just gotta get it out.

27 weeks with number 2 here. Today has just been a day. We all got horrible sleep last night, no nap today & I am jjuuuuuuuusst done.

I want to cry now that bedtime is finally over lol it was sooo overwhelming how wiggly my son was during books tonight & just stop elbowing my belly! Just sit! Pleeeeeease.

Whew. Now going to enjoy my gd shells & white cheddar & my cherry juice ginger ale mocktail 😂

Please feel free to scream into the void along with me

ETA: now I really could cry. Lmao I don’t have the kind of pasta I thought I got at the store 😭😭😭😭😭😭

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2024/06/23
02:19 UTC

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HELP!!!! Can’t tell if these are real contractions

I have been having back pains for like two weeks, and I’ve been having mild contractions for about a week. First noticed the contraction when I thought the baby was kicking, except it was like a blanket kick everywhere at once (aka tightening feeling). But the past day or so it has gotten a lot more frequent, to the point where I downloaded a contraction measuring app and it said “go to the hospital” (I quickly closed the app in a panic and ignored it). These are not painful contractions. I can’t tell if they’re Braxton Hicks. But they are regular, between 4 and 6 minutes apart and lasting about a minute. The back pain (which is really left back rib pain and is EXCRUCIATING) is not connected to them. The baby is moving like crazy today.

I am actually due to be induced tomorrow night anyway (and have been trying to do things to induce natural labor because I’ve heard induction suuuucks). Anyway, wondering whether these sound like real contractions or practice contractions. Everything I’ve read says that contractions hurt BAD and these don’t hurt, they just feel weird.

(Side note, if you have any tips on how to push it over the edge so I don’t have to get an induction… please provide your wisdom)

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2024/06/23
02:09 UTC

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Books for TTC couples

My husband and I are newly TTC after being together for 7 years. As much as you probably can’t truly prepare for a baby, what are some great books to read to prepare to be a parent? Most books I’ve seen are about fertility or birth plans. I am looking for more about parenting styles or other baby topics.

Thank you 😊

3 Comments
2024/06/23
01:49 UTC

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