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I’ve always been fat my whole life but healthy. Always had great blood pressure cholesterol etc. A few weeks ago did some routine blood work. My cholesterol is extra high. Problematically so. A lot of my self worth was dependent on well I may be fat but look i’m just as healthy as a thin person. Not anymore… I’m scared to go back to my pcp because I know we will have a conversation about diet and exercise and it makes me so depressed. How can I treat myself kindly in this process???

My (28F - plus size) fiancé (29M - thin)wants to take me to dinner.

I’ve never liked eating in public, but I’ve managed to go out 6-8 times with my fiancé in the 7 months we’ve been together. (Then number is also lower because of financial difficulties.) But he just texted me and wants to take me to a Buffet style restaurant tonight.

He’s about 5’1” and 110lbs. I on the other hand am 5’2” and 215lbs, and 2 years ago I was 280. I’ve always been plus size, like the smallest I ever was at 170lbs. I’ve done Buffets before, and I know the looks. The average person gets plates full of food, I get too much food, “well, dang she big”, “I feel bad for that small man”, etc. I get too little food, “oh, a big girl on a diet”, “who is she kidding”, etc. Like on an autistic level, I’m very aware of how people perceive me. I hate it. And I know my anxiety and past trauma with food/my size fuels my negative thoughts. But how am I supposed to enjoy a meal when that’s all my mind is wrapped up in? My fiancé, he is so excited to take me out, after he worked all day DoorDashing to make enough for dinner. I can’t even imagine how it’s going to feel to see him pay for the meal, the looks from staff.

I’ve previously posted here about my issues with dating or relationships. To be honest things haven’t really changed since then. I’ve been feeling like I’m invisible to everyone. I’ve been ghosted and stood up despite being upfront and honest. So I started posting slightly nude images of myself, all faceless on a separate account.

I posted on a niche subreddit and my post blew up overnight. I gained 300 followers in a few hours and dms of people telling me how good I looked and how I was their dream girl.

At first the validation was so strong and I posted more but then I would catch myself waiting for the validation and realized how lonely it is. Of course it feels good to be complimented on your half naked body by men when you don’t receive that. Until you realize that they are old horny who will forget about you within the next scroll.

Idk what I came here to say exactly, just a rant.

Best place for stretchy jeans for size 14/16 women?

I have wider hips, thick thighs and a lower belly from postpartum. Anyone have any jean brand recommendations in US?

I tried old navy and it was not working for me. The material was not stretchy at all.

Thank you!

I’m a large/XL in leggings but jeans I’m really struggling with.

Hiii im 20 years old and recently found out im 3 weeks and 5 days pregnant. I’m 250lbs right now. Any idea how that could affect the pregnancy? Tips and welcome and appreciated plz no judgement :)

One of my deepest fears has come true. I (25F) have gained a lot of weight (30kgs) since we started dating. My boyfriend (26M) and I have plans to get married this year. I am not sure what to do. I definitely did plan on losing the weight. But I have always struggled with weight loss and gain throughout my life. Even if I am to ignore this and lose the weight, I will constantly remain in fear of him losing his attraction for me.

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I want to cry. My chronic back a‎‎‎rthritis has had m‎‎‎e feeling like crap the last few months but i feel so good knowing i did this to‎‎‎‎day.

Tha‎‎‎‎t’s ‎‎‎all ❤️

Basically the question in the title. I've seen this question before, but haven't found any answers at least for women who are my size. I recently discovered that my actual size is a 49 I/j which is insane to me. Everything is saggy as well, and I literally just want something that supports me and something I can wear when I wear clothes that could show my bra. Plus everything I have does ride up (meaning if there is fabric underneath the cups it goes up and scrunches up under my boobs) Everytime I find something the back strap is always to thin, and rides up bc everything is heavy.

I've really struggled with this the past year or so and I'm just so irritated about it. I need help & suggestions!

TIA

My 2025 goal is to stop buying from Shein. I am UK based and looking for comfortable and well fitting clothes for plus size women. Size 18 UK. The biggest issue I have is that I struggle to find anything that ia both affordable and well fitting. Please give me your recommendations for the best first hand shops in the UK that sell comfortable plus size clothes for reasonable prices.

I don't care what society or anyone says. I am a size 22 and all I see is FINE AF when I look in the mirror. Call me delusional, call me conceited, I don't care.

I will stop when I see my reflection sometimes and just ADMIRE myself. Because it should be illegal in several countries to look so good. Yes I have a big stomach, yes, my shoulders are wide, yes, my arms are big.

And it all fits me and no one can tell me differently.

Truly loving yourself hits differently. Do not let anyone make you feel less than what you KNOW you are.

Love y'all.

Hi community,

A few weeks ago, I came here seeking motivation, and I have to say—sharing my struggles helped me so much!

The biggest lesson I’ve learned is to mix up my workouts, vary my routine, and not rely solely on the gym for self-esteem and confidence. Most importantly, I’ve realised the importance of feeling my emotions outside of working out.

There were moments when the gym felt overwhelming, so I took two days off just to sit with my emotions and cry. It was exactly what I needed. When I finally went back, I was able to release everything physically—such a blessing!

Thank you, community, for the support! Right now, I’m focusing on building my self-esteem, and I’m excited for the journey ahead.

What the heck happened?! There used to be options or even a plus size dedicated section and now there’s nothing. Everywhere I go to thrift they don’t even have those indicators that tell you where sizes go that go past XL & what little plus size stuff they have in the XL section mostly is XXL’s! What the heck. Is it only like this where I am? I’ve tried more independent stores and three different chain locations and none of them have anything anymore.

I tried buying an Eagles jersey from Dicks (had to order online, they didn’t have any in store) and I initially went with a men’s xl. It showed up and it was too long, but otherwise fit too tight anyway. So I returned that one, and ordered a Women’s XXL (expecting a little bit of a baggy fit). Tell me why the XXL fits like a MEDIUM 😭 or maybe a large idk but it wasn’t flattering. And was the biggest size they had, of course.

I tend to not get worked up over clothes not fitting the way I want them to, because it happens to everybody of all sizes. But when it’s the largest size offered and it’s not even close, it honestly pisses me off more than anything. Sorry to anyone else here who might be looking for a Jersey to wear for the Superbowl, hopefully you have better luck.

Lately I’ve been seeing so many memes or posts making fun of fat people (mostly women), acting almost as if we’re some alien species. Jokes about fat women eating people, being compared to animals, being portrayed as completely desperate or sex-craved, a regretful one might stand, doing unhinged things like having Oreos in their drawers instead of condoms (recent one I saw lol). Yet being overweight is so common— surely these people interact with fat people all the time and can see we’re not that different from themselves? Surely they have fat relatives or friends or coworkers in their lives who regularly prove these stereotypes wrong? In daily life I see so many fat people in relationships so I don’t really understand why people act as if fat people are inherently unloveable/unfuckable?

Idk it’s probably my fault for using Twitter still and interacting with this stuff so the algorithm keeps showing me similar posts. It’s just depressing as hell to be constantly viewed as a disgusting joke and makes me wonder how many people I interact with irl share this kind of sentiment

Soooo of course I have my bad days where I dislike my body BUT for the most part, it’s actually pretty cute. I love my soft tummy and I can pull off some pretty great outfits. The only part I can never like…. And this is so probably so stupid… is my 🐱. Like she just never looks cute and it really bothers me. Does anyone else have this problem 😭

A few years back I was just sitting at the park as usual and I overheard 2 guys sitting on the bench nearby talking about if I'm fat or thicc. They agreed that I'm thicc and tried to get my attention but I ignored them and had my headphones on. I had never been described that way before and I can't help but still feel flattered about it because unprompted compliments are so rare for me. It felt like the first time someone I didn't personally know saw me and thought I could be considered attractive.

Maybe I'm putting too much weight on a silly word, do you guys think its wrong to feel this way about what could be essentially called harassment?

Wanting to purchase my wife some new swimsuits and lingerie for an upcoming beach trip(super attracted to her!!). Mom of multiple pregnancies/c-sections. Square/apple shape, insecure about carrying weight in mid-section/“fupa area” 😬. Sizes from her 40D-42DD, XL, longer torso. Doesn’t like when bottoms gap in crotch area and show the sides of what they shouldn’t. Please help with some advice, wanting to make her feel special

Not sure if I picked the right tag for this but…

I’m 16 weeks pregnant and weigh about 300 lbs. So far everything is going great and the baby seems healthy! I’m having my gender reveal in 3 weeks and got an amazing dress that looks so cute with room for a bump.

But I’m wondering… will I have a bump at 19 weeks? I can feel where my uterus is growing and my old jeans have gotten uncomfortably tight at my waist but I don’t LOOK pregnant. I just look like my usual fat self but with bigger boobs.

Has anyone on this sub been pregnant while overweight? Did you ever start showing in a way that presented pregnant rather than fat? If so, when?

I want to be tan like all the time, but self-tanning takes so long. Exfoliating, shaving, applying, then standing still so I do not mess it up. And after all that, it lasts maybe three days and usually looks splotchy, especially on my hands.

I know I am overthinking it, but as a bigger person, I feel extra insecure about it looking bad. Like I should not even try, or I cannot even get it right because of my size.

So what do other bigger gals do? Do you have a tanning routine that actually works? I am so frustrated I have even considered tanning beds despite the risks.

Hey all, I need help! I(f) am 280lbs and my partner(m) is 370. Both of us are big with a large tummy. He also is on the smaller side which doesn’t help. We’ve been having sex for about a month, but can’t seem to make anything connect other than missionary. I have short stubby legs to further complicate matters. How can we better connect in different positions?!?

I'm just sick of not being allowed to wear cute clothes, I guess. One was just outright measured, designed, cut, and sewn badly and the over layer didn't cover the under layer, absolutely nothing covered my ass or lady bits, it barely covered the nipples and would clearly have not stayed up because the bust was like 3 sizes too small for the rest of the dress. One also badly designed and sewn, and was photographed/edited misleadingly to not mention the top was only sheer lace? I don't have time to find something to wear under it, it's too tight anyway, and the bust is asymmetrical in a way that looks like I just don't know how to put clothes on rofl. The third technically fits and should have been a flattering cut in every way, but somehow manages not to be.

I bought them for a work party, so now I'm not going. I was incredibly anxious about it already, so not having an outfit that makes me feel confident means I just can't go, but not going also makes me feel incredibly depressed and hating of my body. My husband and I spent so much money on these dresses (on sale, so no refunds), his outfit, new shoes, accessories - I've been having trouble fitting in at my new job and really just wanted to look nice for a social event and maybe finally make progress with people there liking me. Even the necklace I bought doesn't fit my fat neck. I'm just devastated and I hate myself, I regret taking this job, and I want to hide from the world forever.

A bot told me to mention that I looked in the wiki, and I did, but this is just a vent.

Went out to dinner with my husband and neither of us fit in the booths 🫠 well, we did fit in one, before the seat broke. But according to the waitress it wasn’t me who broke it, it’s just an old building.

Anyway, just another embarrassing fat story over here, lmfao. I’ll just never show my face in public again 💀💀

Why is it such a struggle to find plus size girlies(that are apple shaped) wearing baggy clothes,omds? I scoured TikTok and Pinterest trying to find them,but all I found were plus size girlies with hourglasses and small boobs,and that’s just not me!😭They look great,but I need to see how the round girlies with bigger chests do it. The girls that were shaped like me would put on baggy jeans,great,but then a baby tee,and the era I’m in rn?Im more comfortable wearing bigger shirts. If you know of any creators or style tips,please let me know.

Wanted to share my favorite plus size companies and hope you can share yours ✨🖤

Target (you’d be surprised.. online tho) ELOQUII ASOS adore me Nuuly REBDOLLS Old navy What lo wants Wray Selkie Shien

Target and ELOQUII are my top 2!

You know having thick thighs makes the inner thighs rub together, which causes the skin to turn dark, I have tried using scrubs and different kinds of body washes and soaps but nothing seems to work!! It makes me conscious as I can’t wear shorts anymore because it looks bad.

So currently me and my 2 other VERY GOOD friends of 10+ years are planning a trip to Miami. We’ve been putting requests on an app called Tabler to get into clubs/events for free. So far I’ve been rejected from 3 events, and 2 of the 3 my friends were really wanting to go too. Everything we’ve requested they’ve immediately been accepted, they’ve also always been thin and they’re both very conventionally attractive. I’m a size 16 5’1 210lbs so it’s very clear I’m being rejected for my weight. I feel like I’m ruining my friend’s plans by being just not as attractive as them. I’ve already purchased my plane ticket but should I just not go?

(I hope this is allowed and I've used the correct flair) Good afternoon beautiful Redditors!! I am a voluptuous female, 45, who entered a contest for a professional boudoir photo shoot and was notified yesterday that I am a finalist. Since I was a finalist I was offered a discount photo shoot, even if I don't win the grand prize. So I signed up to take advantage of such a generous offer!

For those of you that have done this, what kind of things did you wish you knew? How was the experience for you? What kind of outfits and accessories did you pick? Was the experience everything you hoped?

I am provided professional hair, makeup, lash and airbrush services prior to the shoot. I am given 5 outfit changes.

I've always been very insecure in my body but after much therapy and work I'm starting to see myself differently. I'm hoping this will be empowering but I'm also nervous. Any insight is appreciated!

I have grown to love this kind patient guy I’ve been dating for a few months now, but we have a pretty noticeable body difference. I weigh a good 60+ pounds more than him. I’m not super large in particular, but he’s quite skinny. His legs are the same size and my arms. I usually wear XL and I am pretty busty with wide hips and a tummy and he’s never dated a curvy girl before and I find myself being a little self conscious. I feel worried when I cuddle him or eating a lot in front of him. Am I too heavy? Do I crush him? Do I make him feel weak? He’s more quiet and reserved so I don’t know how he feels. Im also sad that I’ll never be able to wear his clothes. He’s a wonderful guy, but this is one heck of a mental block? Any advice?

I feel like my go to methods of shopping for clothes on SHEIN and Amazon just isn’t cutting it for this. I want to find plus size white dresses (or just cute white outfits) to wear to my bachelorette party and bridal shower. (I already found my wedding dress) Being a plus size girl, it’s not like I can just walk into the mall and find dresses I like anymore. Especially ones that fit correctly and don’t make it look like I am 80 years old. I want to feel hot and sexy in these dresses and everything plus size I have gotten is either too tight around the hips and fits perfectly everywhere else or just straight bad quality.

Anyone have any suggestions?? Just want some trusted sites you use to find clothes!

I am almost 4 months post baby (she was 10lbs1oz and 100th centile in all measurements) and struggling to loose any weight. My friend is getting married abroad and I’ll be 8 months post baby at the wedding. I am looking for shape wear that will help smooth out / hide the extra skin.

To give you an idea on sizing / how much extra skin I have, my bump measured 51weeks when she was born. I think I will need something with strong compression.

I looked at HeyShape but have seen a few negative reviews that have put me off. Does anyone have any experience with other brands or can anyone recommend some good ones?