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Pretty niche question but here goes:

Checked the wiki with no luck.

A couple of years ago I was diagnosed with colon cancer. I had to have a section of colon removed and I had a colostomy etc. I ended up having surgery four times and have a lot of scar tissue. Its hard to describe but my stomach isn’t round like it used to be. Its rounded but right in the center is a pretty gnarly mass of scar tissue. This sounds like I am joking but my stomach is sort of pyramid shaped now. I have issues with my underwear rolling down. I’ve tried different brands, different styles etc and nothing helps.

I was hoping someone here might have a good (affordable to a fixed income) suggestion.

Thanks guys!

My sister wears an S/M. She is not petite, she is taller and fuller, so she doesnt think of herself as skinny or slim. She will make comments like, "why does this store only carry clothes for skinny people? Like where am I supposed to fing things?" When we are shopping together in straight size clothing stores. One woman stopped her to say - "Youre one of the skinny ones!" To which she laughed off. She is the kind to say things like- Or, "I feel really fat today," "Why do women try to suck in their stomach, why cant they just love their bodies for who they are?", and "I dont want to eat X/Y, Ill get fat if I do".

These comments for me are semi triggering since I have complicated feelings about my weight and body image. Ive been mostly size 16/XL majority of my life, have dropped down to 160 at some point and now back to my starting weight. She will also say things like, "People only like the "acceptable plus size" which isnt really plus size" - which is annoying to me too, since im the midsize in online plus size spaces and irl, im always being told I'm either too fat or not enough fat enough for everything and its really annoying and irritates me. I especially dont like to hear it from someone who has never been plus size.

There are times when I tell her im excusing myself from the conversation because its personal to me, or I give plain responses to not encourage the conversation - sometimes I think she means well and trying to give me like, "ally" support (that comes off patronizing to me), other times theres a side of me that feels like she is being competitive or speaking down to me.

Do you experience this with anyone you know? Do you think I am just being too sensitive? Because I think im more learning into being too sensitive, most of the time I say nothing, because I realize even if its an "insensitive" comment, it may just be my own insecurities. Or, if she really is saying something offensive, I'll let it be someone else who says something that has no skin in the game.

Hi everyone. So I have my belly pierced but the ring is to short. Where can I got a longer bar??

So…I have a (maybe dumb) question. I bought some wide calf compression socks. I got them on just fine. They are tight, but how do you know what is good tight and bad tight? I measured myself first…I have just never worn them before. I can get my fingers in there easily but man they feel weird. Maybe that’s normal. I am traveling for surgery on Monday was told to wear “medium” compression socks on for the trip.

It turned out even better than I’d hoped, and I cannot wait to see the look on people’s faces when I hand them one. Hope you guys enjoy it as much as I do lol! :)

The thought of leaving maternity pants behind was daunting and intimidating. So I turned to shapermint, (LOVE) and after that, high waisted leggings and sports bras (pumping, comfort was key).

Meanwhile its now five years later and I still rely on the leggings and bras (shapermint was giving me a sort of posture that contributed to a herniated disk, I’m an apple shape and found myself pushing my gut out for some reason). Im a preschool teacher so I need the comfort-wear but all of this is causing problems in my skin and I was wondering if anyone else has experienced them too?

Skin tags and more keratin plugs. From the friction. I used to just get the keratin on arms and legs but now it’s my stomach too, and skin tags- I never had until now and it’s disconcerting. I don’t mind the keratin much but the tags… some have left and some never do, but has anyone found a way to keep your shape-wear and be skin tag free?

I'm so tired of the backhanded "compliments."

"Have you lost weight?" "You're really pretty for a BBW." And of course, the dreaded "I love chubby girls!"

Some are just creeps, which is whatever, but some people genuinely think these are nice things to say. One person even told me "I try to go out of my way to compliment fat girls, because you all think you're worthless."

Um...no, I don't need people to compliment me to know my value, and if I did, it sure wouldn't be from random people on the internet. I know I'm gorgeous all on my own, and not just "for a plus size girl."

Hi everyone! Yesterday I had an appointment at a gym with a worker where we discussed questions and he gave me a tour of the gym. I ended up joining. I will have my first session on Monday. The guy said that it probably won’t include much exercising and said that I will probably talk more about my goals. I’m guessing I will also be shown how to use certain machines because I literally have zero gym experience and don’t have a clue on how to use anything there. I was told that after my first session, I will have a second session where I will be doing much much more. And after that, he said I’ll probably feel better going alone and doing things myself.

Now with that being said, if on Monday I won’t be doing much exercising, what exactly should I do? How do I prepare? After the worker is done explaining everything to me, I’d like to stay and do some exercise but what exactly should I do?

I know I probably sounds so stupid, but I genuinely don’t know what to do. I’ve always stayed away from gyms because one, I don’t know how to use equipment, and two, I don’t want to be judged.

Any advise is appreciated!

Does anyone have any recommendations for lingerie and sexy toys like swings/slings? Possibly recommendations on like panty vibrators

i was on a party yesterday and i always wanted to be the girl that gets looked at or flirted with. it doesn’t really happen to me, but to all my skinnier friends. im usually the largest person in my friend group.

im turning 22 soon and i never rlly had a boyfriend or really got flirted with irl. and i don’t understand, i mean i got told im average looking, so it’s literally just my body.

and dating apps are even worse. it’s all so exhausting and i just wish i could be seen by someone.

ako yan.

and iniisip ko lage, required ba na ako lage yung “forgettable” friend kase nga mataba ako at panget? 😅

hirap na humanap ng rason sa sarili minsan para di magrelapse sa depression e.. 😅

Hey I’m thinking of getting back into the dating world and want to update my dating app pics. I want to add a full body mirror pic of myself but the problem is I really struggle with taking a good one. Does anyone have any tips or tricks with taking a good full body mirror pic?

So... I kinda think I have a crush on my driving instructor. He's good looking, really nice and funny and we always chat about random things or sometimes have deep talks about important stuff. So the thing is that he is married and almost 20y olders than me(I am of legal age). Please, I do not want any hurtful comments. I know that I am very wrong in this situation and that this is very inapropriate and I myself feel very, very bad that I have a crush on a married man. Sometimes I feel like I just developed a crush because in my whole life he's the first man that ever gave me this sort of attention and it all comes back to me being plus size and men never giving me attention. Sometimes he calls me nicknames like sweetheart and darling but it's like, in a way your dad would say it to you, not in a way your boyfriend would. And I simply melt when he says stuff like that, or when we have any type oh physical conatact. I feel so bad about it, but I really need advice on how to stop this crush, and well in general how to stop having crushes on men that simply treat you nicely🫠

So edit First of all thank you all so much!! I really appreciate any advice given! I just wanted to clarify something. So my instructor is definitely not a creep in any way. He never tried to initiate any type of physicial contact, nor has he ever made any inappropriate comments. He's simply a really nice guy and that's all. I really feel like he treats our friendship as a platonic/parental type. So just wanted to clarify that, the problem is 100% me, not him.

Where do I find snow boots that’ll keep my feet warm but fit my massive calfs?! My son is obsessed with the snow this year and this plus size mama is suffering. 😂 also any ideas for a warm coat? Size US 26/28

I’m a 21 year old female who is plus size (specifically 5xl) I’ve been plus size my entire life and have been bullied for it my whole life mostly by men. It’s started to make me nervous around men recently whenever Im near men in person.

Back in September while a family member and I were in the car headed to an Audubon Society Center, we were making a turn and at this turn with a guy in his truck and his friend in the passenger seat, he rolled down his window and started laughing at me, pointed at me and called me a whale. We were literally in a car. My family member tried to convince me that it wasn’t aimed at me but it definitely was.

Then in October me and the same family member were at a pumpkin patch which has a ton of fun stuff to do, and lots of yummy food. As we were passing by the food stand some guy yelled out “LOOK AT THE BIG BACK” as I walked by. Once again the family member tried to convince me it wasn’t aimed at me but I’m pretty sure it was.

This type of stuff happens like once a month normally and I’m not sure why but I’m starting to develop a fear of men and it’s really messing me up. I told my therapist about it but it still bothers me..

Has anyone tried their plus clothing? I see something I really like and the vibe they give off is exactly what I’m looking for. I’m just hesitant to buy from a new brand. Feedback appreciated!

My husband has been hard at work remodeling our house and perfecting the build on his custom garage he built himself. To reward him (hopefully for Christmas but can be later if need be), I want to make a tasteful boudoir type calendar. Unfortunately we live in a very small town so I'll be doing modeling and photography on my own with (hopefully) well timed shots on a camera and/or my phone since photographers in that line of work are few and far between. So I have some questions:

• Best place to find plus size lingerie?
• I have brown hair and blue eyes and look great in yellow, but yellow is apparently not a popular lingerie color (haha). Any color suggestions for what to wear?
• Any other suggestions for things to wear? I'm not made of money and don't want to drop a ton on just stuff to wear.
• Any favorite posing techniques?
• Anything else I need to know?

Thanks r/PlusSize !

Hiya, me again.

So, I've been thinking about getting a calvin klein triangle bra. I have 2 sports bras in 3xl from their that is a perfect fit. Comfortable and great!! There's a few bras on there, triangle bras that look so good but their max size is XL. While they do have 2 triangle bras in 3xl, they are £40 each while the ones I want are only £16 at the moment. I was wondering if I should get the bra and get bra extenders from amazon so I can wear them?? I'm asking because the sizing talks about bust not underbust so I'm unsure if it just won't fit either way. Sizing is at the bottom.

I've said before in a previous post, I have small breasts but I'm 43 inches underbust and 46 bust so finding normal bras that fit is hard. The sports bras from CK is like a godsend. This and matalan.

The sizing for CK is:

XL: bust 39-41 inch 1XL: bust 41-43 inch 2XL: bust 43-45 inch 3XL: bust 46-48 inch

(Random comment but I do not recommend gray. I bought gray first and while it fits and is comfortable, it shows sweat marks so bad!)

Where are my plus size girlies buying their undies from? I have been getting them from torrid for years but they just don’t have what I’m looking for anymore especially since they put so much unnecessary prints on them… anyways I usually go for some cotton fabric and range from a 5x-6X.

Should I splurge on Doc Martens? I’ve always wanted a pair but idk if they’ll look good on me or not. My ankles are quite wide and my calves and thighs are thick as well. My options are the Jadon Smooth Leather Platforms, Jadon III Platforms, Sinclair Platforms, and 1460 Bex Platforms. Do any of you have these? I’d really like to know if they look good on someone plus sized bc all the inspo I’ve seen have been on smaller women☺️

I find that drivers seat very uncomfortable since gaining weight over the last few years. I was 270 when I bought my car and I am 310 now. I just don’t feel comfy driving. My back and everything hurts.

I did NOT reciprocate very well but !!! I got a smooch from a hot guy!! Now I gotta figure out how to kiss bc I can’t be doing it like THAT when it comes time to actually hook up!! I am 25 years old and this is the first time someone has shown genuine interest in me sexually that doesn’t make me feel weird. I really want to sleep with this dude but I’m afraid my own awkwardness will be my downfall.

Work Shirt Recommendations?

Hi everyone! I've never posted here AND i just joined but I desperately need some recommendations.

So I have a big chest! My most common size (because we know different brand = different system haha) is around 40G. The bands are usually loose while the cups are still not quite big enough, but that's another discussion haha.

Anyways, this makes button ups a NIGHTMARE. Im starting a serving job in two weeks and the dress code calls for black, button up, collared shirts. I haven't been able to wear button ups since middle school.

I wear a L t-shirt (sometimes an XL). I went and bought two black button up shirts, one in an XL and one in an XXL. I tried both of them on and the gaps between the buttons are horrible, especially when I move around. Of course, the XXL is a LITTLE better, but neither are good. They have a "safety button" that's hidden in between two buttons, but it's up high (around the top of the cleavage) and does nothing for me. I tried multiple different brands of bras that i own and one brand helped a little, but i'm still not comfortable wearing it out (pic above).

Do you guys have any recommendations for brands or stores I should check? Anything with more buttons? (Sorry if I used the wrong flair thing, I'm not very familiar with Reddit. Also sorry for how blurry that picture is, idk what happened.)

All year me and my lovely girlfriend have been looking for places to get her undies. She has particular preferences and cannot find her size (3x) Does anyone know where i can purchase 100% cotton bikini cut undies without those scratchy bands at the top? Preferably something which may make her feel beautiful? I am willing to make room in my budget. Thank you to anyone in advance!

#It's Feel Good Friday! 🎊

Post your feel-good moments and positive stories here. It can be anything: work, hobby, pets, kids, events, a book you particularly loved, a win of any sort, finding the exact right pair of shoes, mastering something, you name it, so long as it's positive. 🤗💖

Do please still refrain from any weight loss talk (save it for the Intentional Weight Loss Wednesday thread 😉)

for context, i’m a girl still in high school. i’m not overly obese but i’m definitely bigger than most girls my age, however i’ve always been on the chubby side. i like to think i’m quite proportionate and i have a pretty face (i’ve been told that i’m pretty but that i’m just fat). anyways, i’ve had a huge crush on this guy from my school, and my gut tells me he also likes me back but part of me can’t accept that a boy would ever like me or admit that he likes me. we’ve never actually had a real conversation, but i can definitely feel the chemistry between us; i’m going to list some things that have happened which make me believe that he likes me. around 2 years ago, i never really paid him any attention until i heard him speaking about me to his friends. the first time was when i was walking out of PE wearing leggings and as i walked past him and his friend, his friend goes to him “didn’t you say she has a fat ass” almost to sort of tease him, and obviously he shouted “no i didn’t!!” the second time happened just after this first incident, we were in the same lessons and we both had a lesson together after PE, and again i saw and heard him talking about my ass to his other friend. i don’t think it was said in a bad way, judging by the way his face was lit up and the hand gestures he was making (basically shaping out my ass saying it is round and big.) this other time, i’m still not sure if he did this as a joke. but we sat near each other in english, and he tried a pick up line on me, and then his friend started teasing him saying he looked stupid. about a year after all this happened, we got sat next to each other in english, and i could almost feel the chemistry between us. i don’t know if chemistry is shared, but i just felt it. i always noticed his body language, he would constantly (and i mean once every 1-2 mins) fix his hair. he does this anyways, but he did it A LOT when sitting next to me. sometimes he would lay his head on the table and i could see him from the corner of my eye looking up at me and staring for about 10 seconds. this brings me to my next point; we always make eye contact. sometimes i’ll be with my friends or sat in a lesson and i’ll see him walk past with his friends, and we always catch each others eye, even in large crowds of people. again with the hair thing, whenever i walk behind him he fixes his hair from the back a lot. i do the same exact thing when i’m around him because i want to make sure i look good, but i don’t know if he does the same for me. and finally i forgot to mention one of the most important things that signalled to me that he liked me. we were sat in spanish class (this happened maybe a week after he was talking to his friends about me) and i overheard him and one of his friends talking. i heard his friend say “why do you like her she doesn’t even have a neck it’s just chins” 💀💀 which was a really rude comment but i didn’t care about that. and honestly if he did like me, i’d ask him the same thing. i mean, he’s in one of the most popular groups at school, he works out, he’s devastatingly good looking to lots of people (me especially). he’s just really attractive, so i agree, why would he fancy a girl like me?

anyways, i apologise for the long writing, i sort of went on a rant because i have no one to talk to about this. because at the end of the day, it’s just my gut feeling. whenever i mention any of this to my bestfriend, he’s very straight up with me and tells me i’m being delusional, and he would never go out with a fat girl. which wouldn’t shock me.

if anyone ends up reading this (tysm if u do i know its long), could you tell me your opinions? and please, don’t say i’ll only know if i ask him because even though its true, i would never let myself talk to him in school, because i know everyone would somehow find out and make fun of both him and me. so just based on my experiences with him, is there a chance he could like me even though i’m a bigger girl?