I want to control/kill my ego

Hello everyone, i know the title can be a little too bold. But as i observe my self i realized that it harms me and make me suffer on a day to day basis. I'm guessing this might overlap with some Buddhist philosophies too. So in recent years i faced many failures(before that as well) and while i understand it is normal to feel down by these, i think i get overly obsessed over them. I always define my self based on my achievements and therefore when i fail i take it too personal. When i think that "if this happened to a friend, how would i react?" and i usually am pretty supportive to family/friends i can't be that supportive and open to my self. I think this is hypocrisy. If i think that some sort of outcomes define me in life, then why wouldn't i think that same outcomes define to those people aswell? I think even if i unconsciously thinking so i just don't say out loud. And whenever i fail at something(it might be anything) i always take it way too personal, or always become obsessed with it. There're people that i admire in life. And one thing that they have in common that, they are uhm- chill guys? Like they usually don't care about others opinions on them much, mind their own business, usually humble and kind, they often seem peaceful too. I think this is due to their ego is more controlled than mine. I want to view my life's outcomes as a functional tools to get things, not as things that define me and my worth. Also i don't want to think that i'm worth something, if that makes sense? Like i don't want to care about if i'm good enough for smth, because it shouldn't matter to enjoy life. How can i achieve this through meditation? Or if there's other ways you can recommend, i would be interested to learn about them as well.

I hope somehow this makes sense and i could explain it well. If not feel free to ask questions.

I'd like to introduce some family members to basic mindfulness and I'm look for book recommendations that may help. They are grumpy, pessimistic boomers and are fairly sceptical regarding a lot of things, so a book that presents information in a factual way, including things like scientifically proven benefits, rather than a 'hippie shit' approach (the kind of term they would probably use) would definitely be preferable.

Also, we are in the UK, so something that avoids excessive American specific references would also be preferable.

Thanks in advance.

i'm so angry at C for betraying me at my lowest and hurting me so deeply. I've tried to take out my anger productively by writing it into stories or writing letters i'll never send or trying to just let it sit and allow myself to feel it among other things, but none of that seems to work. it feels like the only way i'll get over this anger is if i shout at him directly and demand an apology, but i know that's not productive. does anyone have any tips or advice on what i can do because it feels like it's becoming much harder to control the longer it stays

I wake up consumed by my thoughts. I can’t seem to focus on anything or anyone around me. It’s feels like there is a huge cloud in my mind that never goes away and it’s pretty terrifying. I meditate and all that but nothing seems to be working. Any advice I can get would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

Hello all,

I felt it was important to post about this topic, as many have asked about it. In 2014, I began working as an energetic surgeon, and learned about the effect of attachments. At this time where we are feeling the need to release what does not serve, and to bring harmony and balance to ourselves and to our lives, energetic decording can help a lot. Although we have non-physical assistance, this process can be done by ourselves, and I find that it is empowering and healing on many levels. If you have any questions, please let me know, and I will be happy to help.

One of the largest contributors to physical, emotional, and psychological depletion is energetic cording. Whenever we have a relationship with another person, whether it is with a parent, spouse, partner, sibling, friend, coworker, or another, we create energetic cording between ourselves and the other party. Energetic cords look like tubes that are connected from one person to another, and sometimes from one person to an entire group (such as a family unit or ancestry). Cording can go from any part of the energy body to any part of another's, for example, I have viewed cording between someone's head and another's head (thought transmission involving mental manipulation and judgement) as well as many other configurations, such as from one person's throat to another's solar plexus (transmissions of disempowering energies and also siphoning of another's power). The combinations of cording attachments is infinite, but always created by thought transfer.

As thoughts are tangible structures, each contain a specific vibrational frequency and energetic charge. When you have a thought about someone, that thought goes to the person, it does not disappear. And, depending on the emotional charge of the thought (positive, negative, or neutral), the thought will go through the cording to that person and integrate within their field, or it will dissipate. Over time, repeated transmissions of thoughts can create structures within yourself or another person, called "thoughtforms," which are clusters of thought energy that can shape one's perceptions and impede health. That is why it is very important to be vigilant about the thoughts we transmit, and the vibration of them, as they create.

Cords are also created by our beliefs, and are attached to thoughforms anchored in the 4th dimension. These thoughtforms are conglomerations of thoughts of the same belief and vibration, transmitted by every human on the planet with the same perception. Thoughtforms exist for anything to which humans believe and fear, so if one recognizes a belief or fear that is causing suffering, one can also decord from that thoughtform as well. For example, if you have a fear of heights or of an animal, you can decord from that fear. And you can also decord from an illness or addiction, and this release can help you to heal.

Energetic cording transmits thought energy to others, and it can also siphon as well. If you are attached to someone who is codependent, they can be continually siphoning your life force via your shared cording, which can create a host of physical issues for yourself, most especially depletion within the solar plexus, which includes physical weakness, exhaustion, stomach, intestine, and colon issues, and many other manifestations. Siphoning can also create headaches, lack of focus, and various other conditions, depending on where the cording is attached.

Decording can make a world of difference in our existence, as afterward we can rebalance and get to know our authentic self, without interference from others' thoughts and perceptions, and also life force siphoning. We regain strength and sovereignty. The results can be permanent and create a lot of healing, if we are willing to also reevaluate our relationships and to not accept anyone into our life who will take energetic advantage. Creating strong boundaries is essential to maintaining health and vibrational integrity. The higher our vibration, the better our health and clearer our spiritual perception. It is also equally important that we evaluate our own programming and clear what is not supportive, so we do not attract others into our life that mirror our own issues. Working on clearing ourselves after decording is always helpful and highly recommended, because the patterning we carry within is what expresses itself in all aspects of our daily life and relationships.

If you choose to decord yourself from another person, it is helpful that you intuit whether permission is first needed from their higher self, as we all contract our relationships with others at the "higher" levels. The physical person does not have to be asked, but you can make a request of their higher self, and then feel (or hear) a response. If you receive that the decording has been agreed upon, then go ahead with the process. If you feel any concern, then it may be best to wait until you feel a pull to ask again.

Sometimes decording can be done without asking for permission, for example if there is trauma involved and to stand in your power, you feel the need to immediately detach from another person. Also, permission is not needed to decord from mass consciousness belief and fear thoughtforms.

Please note that decording only removes energetic distortions, and the genuine love you may have in the relationship is not affected. So, if you intend the relationship to continue, decording can provide an opening for this love to be experienced and reflected more authentically.

Below is a statement that you can use to decord. You can use the statement alone, or if you would like, use it in addition to visualizing the release. By visualizing, see yourself and the other party attached, and then with holding a large pair of scissors, cut the cording from toe to head, while saying the statement. Either way is effective, either visualizing or not, so please do what intuitively resonates. I suggest you do this release in a quiet state, where there are no distractions, a state of peace and calm. And do it in a state of knowing, where you know all is cleared.

After the release, you may experience a clearing of the energies, either immediately or over time. If you feel emotional, tired, or anything different from how you usually feel, try to move through the feelings and observe them, instead of attaching to them, as this will prevent re-cording. Trusting and having confidence that all is released, is important.

"I now hereby permanently sever, cut, release, and remove all energetic cording, banding, attachments, and 4th dimensional thoughtforms connecting me to (a person, a belief, a fear, an addiction, or a past life)____________. I state that all vows, contracts, agreements, and karma are now null and void, and completed. I take back all power I have given to _________ and I take back all power __________ may have taken from me, and declare that now I regain and contain all power that is mine and inherent to me. I release and clear all energetic imprints, charges, and programming within my entire being I may have received from ________, and release and clear all programming within my mind and subconscious mind that __________may have transmitted to me, and declare I am now completely free and clear of any and all energetic distortions throughout my entire being, transmitted from ________ to me. I now state that I am free and sovereign, and am no longer attached to ________ in any way, shape or form. I am completely clear right now, and so it is.”

Font: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheStarPeople/comments/1guj1ip/energy_cord_cutting_ritual/

I’ve found that by treating them as I would a stranger; the overwhelming narrative dissipates and my interactions are freed from the anger and frustrations that predominate the relationship.

This little “trick” has freed me from constantly judging and anticipating their next misstep. Now progress can be made as the climate is peaceful and free of vitriol.

Thoughts?

When I am unable to express myself, I write and draw stuff. In one my of YT videos, I drew on a simple topic 'how to be happy'. I try giving my perspective which I honestly believe is an easy way to feel at peace again. This is the link to the video https://youtu.be/06UlG37MKTY

Well I already knew that, I got deep rooted flaws that cause me to be more reactive than proactive. I'm not levelheaded sometimes, and I act out on emotions, usually shutting people out if I ever let them in at all. I realize that I can self sabotage opportunity a for myself because I'm scared of change. Of the future that's out of my control. You see I love being in control, it’s my favorite past time. When I'm not in control. I don't feel stable or safe. When someone likes me. I shut it down because I need to be in control and I can't control someone's limerence for me so l usually avoid them.

I blame others for who I am but it's only me, it's been only me who is responsible for who l am. Why can't i understand that? I can't put someone who truly loves me and has their own issues, through my issues. A relationship isn't fixing any of my problems, a friendship isn't fixing any of my problems. Nothing will, except me.

It's either one or the other in my book. Either I get uncomfortable help and become a better person or I stay stuck in my own ways, being comfortable with how far I dug a hole for myself. But for some strange reason the second option sounds so much more appealing.

Any advice?

For as long as i can remember i have much preferred to do things alone and by myself for one key reason. Other people will get it wrong, i won't

I know that sounds very egotistical and there is some of that in there but what i mean is that i tend to struggle with communicating the particulars in a way that someone other than me would get so i've learnt that it saves so much time if i simply don't and do it myself allowing me more time to actually focus on the thing that needs doing

Maybe then i'll be good enough to warrant love and attention. When i was a kid i don't recall my parents ever saying "I love you" or "i'm proud of you" they tended to adopt the mantra of "It should be obviously implied, i wouldn't be here if they didn't" as such i also don't understand affection or understand the need for it, it again just gets in the way

If i currently can't do something myself and i deem it possible that i could do it myself with a bit of research then i'll do it (I am self aware enough to know that things like medicine and law can't be done by myself)

People get in my way and slow me down and i feel are activley trying to prevent me from achieving greatness (Yes i'm aware that is bordering on paranoia)

Hello everyone, I was wondering if I could get some help and advice on something i've been struggling with.

I've been on this journey for about 2 years now but I think i've got something wrong along the way. I remember feeling peaceful and bliss when I first started and i've been trying to chase that state again.

However, my mind is saying stuff like "stop thinking" and I believe that I should have no thoughts. It's like a violent and urgent feeling and desire to not have thoughts because I feel like it's not how to live life properly.

Have I tricked myself into believing my thoughts are being mindful? Have I lost the mindful practice and technique altogether?

I've also tried some other techniques and practices like throwing away possessions and belonging, drinking tea, essential oils. But they haven't brought that inner peace I once felt.

It's a bit weird but if anyone has any insight, advice, or perspective, it would be much appreciated.

TIA

For about a year already I made it my goal to be able to control my mind instead of letting it control me. Before my emotions would dictate every decision without me really knowing, I thought it was just a part of life which involved a lot of suffering. At the end of the day, life does involve suffering, but there is a way for it not to dictate your whole life. I have learned over this year that you can't run away from yourself forever, sure it can work but only temporary. When you do try to "run" away, you suffer even more trying to find way externally on what can fix the problem. The only thing that can help you is yourself really, you have to be willing to sit with yourself and give yourself sympathy for all the pain you go thorugh. Once you learn how to do this, your emotions have less power over you because you finally made the choice to not run away. What has helped me is learning about buddhism and I really think It can help lots of people only if they are willing to learn. No one is alone, we all can have each others back especially like communities like this, no questions is dumb because we are just trying to learn and understand.

We are troubled by past memories and future uncertainty and apprehensions. You can not wishfully ignore them nor cover them up with solaces. You can not cheat your own mind.

Nothing can be thrown out of the mind.

The uneasiness, the discomfort these memories, apprehensions generate now has to be experienced ‘as it is’. Whole energy is gathered here. Any action now is relaxed, conscious.

I see people just going through a hike fast without really processing where they are or what it feels like. Especially when I reach a peak or do a difficult hike I make sure I stay there for a good while to process where I am and what it feels like. Some people just rush through it and its like you really didn't get the full experience.

Tracking a habit of walking post lunch that I started practicing last month

The Habit Template

You can find a printable version of the habit template in the picture over here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/15b6AK4JZurFtm94s4\_tmiD\_LDP0\_les7/view.

As some thoughts:

• Start small. Pick something that you can visualise as doable even when you are sick or tired. For, reviewing and tracking one's habits (wholesome qualities) is also a habit that one is cultivating alongside.
• Keeping the habit being formed as actionable, with context of location or an activity, e.g. meditate for 10-mins before going to bed.
• Periodically review to observe for the benefits to the mind, independently verifying for:
  • growth in diligence, initiative, contentment, and clarity of mind,
  • improvements in one's personal and professional relationships.

The Science of Habit Formation

Forming new habits takes initiative and then a steady application of effort. However, with practice, it gets easier, automatic and gradually becomes second nature over time. Modern science shows picking up a habit takes 20-30 days and growing it fully takes 60 days.

3 Key take-aways:

Key #1: Frequency is vital for new habit formation

Key #2: When practiced in consistently, habits can become part of one's life practice

Key #3: Harder habits take more time to form, but they also become automatic and second nature when consistently practised.

Read more on it at: https://www.clearvuehealth.com/habitscience/.

Words of the Buddha

I do not see any other single quality that causes unarisen wholesome qualities to arise, or arisen unwholesome qualities to decline as much as habitual engagement in wholesome qualities and habitual non-engagement in unwholesome qualities. Through habitual engagement in wholesome qualities, and habitual non-engagement in unwholesome qualities, unarisen wholesome qualities arise, and arisen unwholesome qualities decline.

- AN 1.73

Just as, Brahmin, a skilled horse trainer acquires a fine thoroughbred and initially trains it in the management of the bit, then proceeds to further training; similarly, dear Brahmin, the Tathāgata initially trains a person thus: 'Come, bhikkhu, be virtuous, restrained with the restraint of the Pātimokkha (monastic code of conduct set forth by the Buddha), endowed with conduct and resort, seeing danger in the slightest faults, and undertake and train in the precepts.'

- MN 107

Bhikkhus, it is good for a bhikkhu to review from time to time his own failings. It is good for a bhikkhu to review from time to time the failings of others. It is good for a bhikkhu to review from time to time his own success. It is good for a bhikkhu to review from time to time the success of others.

- AN 8.7

Just as the ocean has a gradual shelf, a gradual slope, a gradual inclination, with a sudden drop-off only after a long stretch; in the same way, this Dhamma & Vinaya has a gradual training, a gradual performance, a gradual practice, with a penetration to gnosis (final knowledge, full awakening) only after a long stretch.

- Ud 5.5 (dhammatalks link) ↗️

The Buddha himself continued reviewing in this way in himself even after his awakening.

Now, at that time, the Blessed One was sitting, reviewing the multitude of harmful and unwholesome mental qualities he had abandoned, and the multitude of wholesome mental qualities that he had developed to completion.

- Ud 6.3

"I do not see any other single thing that, when developed and frequently cultivated, leads to as much benefit as the mind. A developed and frequently cultivated mind leads to great benefit."

- AN 1.28

Do not underestimate good,

thinking, 'It will not come to me';
Just as falling drops of water,
fill up a bucket;
So too, the wise one is filled with good,
accumulating it little by little.

- Dhammapada 122

How tiny improvements when done with reflection and consistency lead to meaningful growth: The four right efforts and the power of tiny improvements over a longer timeframe (AN 4.13)

Be mindful, my psychiatrist says.

Be mindful, my therapist says.

Okay. Let's be mindful then. I am at home. I am mindful. What do I notice: I notice that the air quality in my home is absolutely horrible because I live near an industrial site, a highway, in a valley which leads to the bad air quality to concentrate. I notice that I have breathing issues, I can feel my breathing being objectively worse (not mentally), by the way my lungs sound when I inhale, exhale. I have asthma. There is nothing mentally, this is a physical problem. I can feel my breathing being worse when I am in this place, my home, only, and when I go away as far as possible, like a forest, I can feel my breathing being significantly better. I can feel that my cognitive abilities are decreased when I am in this home, and I know the reason for this.

I can chose to be mindful, and be minutely reminded of the factual problems in my life, which leads to nothing but stress, the awareness that I have to sleep in this place, every single day, feeling a bit worse with each day waking up because my sleep is so awful from the air quality in my place.

Being mindful means that I would never choose to be in my home, at all, because there is nothing remotely likeable about where I live, how I life, why I live.

I can chose to be mindful, and be reminded of the fact that the next possibility to move again is in 10 months, when my rent expires. I can chose to be mindful of the fact that this means 10 months of feeling horrible in my home, 10 months of nothing but daily suffering, 10 months of knowing, mindfully, that where I live will never lead to joy, happiness, knowing that where I live will not guide me anywhere in life. Knowing that where I live is a place to decease, yet it is populated by student dorms. The contrast is so bizarre, on the one hand you have hundreds of students living here in dorms, on the other hands this place is so hostile to live at. Where I live is kind of end time apocalyptic, you have this freshly built apartments, houses near the ugliest, disgusting places imaginable. Maybe that's why the dorms are here. Because of cheap building space near an industrial site. Because they don't expect, or want students to live here for longer than a couple of years.

I realised I was just mindful. It's quite interesting actually thinking your thoughts to an "end", writing them down.

The thing I avoid being mindful is that I know the problems, but know there is no immediate solution to them. I know, though, that there is in fact an immediate solution. Being not here. So on the one hand, I know I am stuck here. For now. On the other hand, I know that just being in a place with 100% better air quality makes me think, sleep better.

This is such a painful realization how a single factor can be so detrimental to my life quality. And if this factor was better, my life was better. Instead, I am here, suffering.

I can be mindful and be aware that instead of thinking about my University degree, the interesting things I like about it, I think about not suffocating in my own home.

I also know, though, that not being mindful is willingful ignorance. Not being mindful is neglecting yourself, especially if you know you would feel better in a different place.

Be mindful: Okay. My reply to being mindful is that I hate everything in my life, from my family, to so called "friends", to where I live. My reply to being mindful is that I hate every single person on earth because no one seems to understand me. My reply to being mindful is that no one understands why I am asking for help, even after describing precisely what kind of help I need and why.

Is that what my psychiatrist, my therapist really want to hear? This is what I truly think, and never, ever will I dare to say that to anyone. But this is my true mindfulness, this general digust in everything, how humans voluntarily choose to pollute their own living location. How you can think "Yes. Let's place student dorms near an industrial site. They will sure like the "beauty" of the living space".

I can be mindful. I don't know if when I am mindful, you, that is a therapist, a friend, a family member will appreciate of this. If I was mindful, I would live in the woods, watch the stars every night and wonder "Why am I here". Obviously, this is not socially acceptable. So instead I go to university, study some arbitrary degree and consider myself "intellectual", as society tells me that I am.

"Be mindful". You don't want me to be mindful. Trust me. Telling an autistic person to be mindful is a dangerous statement, because what this person will tell you in response is something no one will appreciate of. This is the concept of the "mask", the "anti-mindfulness" tool in order to be socially acceptable.

"Be mindful". Why are you not helping me, Mr. Therapist, after I told you to the atom exactly what my problems are, the reasons for them and why they arise? Why do you not listen, Mr. Therapist? Why do you think to know what my problems are? Are you *me*? Why are you like the 5 different therapists I consulted earlier? Not listening?

"Be mindful". I am seeking therapy, psychiatric help because society expects me to do. Despite me knowing very exactly that my problem is not related to my mind, but to the living environment I live in, the air quality, pollution, people tell me "You are mentally ill. Seek therapy". Okay. If you say so.

"Be mindful". If someone would just listen to what I say, understand my problems, there would be a solution being found. I know, for a fact, that I *can* change my life to be a life I enjoy, yet am unable to do so. I know, that being suffering in your sleep because the air quality where you live is unbearable is nothing mental. It is the result of humans cognitive distortions.

"Be mindful". My family throws money at me and expects me to solve my problems on my own. Thanks, not helpful.

"Be mindful". Why does Firefox on my phone flicker every single time when I open the app? Are the developers incompetent?

"Be mindful". Why is my landlord not replying to my emails, ignoring the problems I mentioned? Did I speak in Arabic language? Am I an alien, perhaps?

Mindfulness over. Back to studying for a degree I did not chose, a place of living I did not chose, a life I did not chose, a family I did not chose. Back to pretending I like what I am doing. Back to pretending that I "should just be normal".

Ah, this is fun. It's peaceful knowing that nothing matters. That it's all absurdism. That I have free will. That the mental behaviour is just a response of my brain.

"Be mindful".

Is mindfulness really the solution? Is being aware of every single human irrationality, my own irrationality, the solution? I know however that ignoring it isn't the solution either. Ignorance is bliss is not true. Being ignorant simply means ignoring your desires, your wishes, your self. I think the best solution is being mindful and solving your problems. Now. Not in 10 years. Now. Or is it?

Im looking for 10 beta users to use my app that allows people to optimize their reading at the max while retaining as much info as possible.

Features:

• Vocal notes taking
• Speech-to-Text
• Embedded Dictionary + Translation
• Habit Tracking of Reading
• (Coming Soon) Archivist/Librarian Chat with personal knowledge context

I myself always struggled with simply remembering what I read: Id read a paragraph, understand a very important piece of knowledge and then completely forget what I just read.

I got pissed off of forgetting.

If anyone wants to use the app and give feedback let me know and ill dm you.

https://docs.google.com/document/d/15iYvUozdUcl27yj2xZelq9li221AOaIl7XXVneZnkGY/edit?usp=sharing

Would you mind telling me what I should add or edit? I'm pretty new, so I assume there is some stuff wrong.

I don't mean to self promote or sell anything. This doc is simply for my own memory and I'm curious if what I have written is correct

EDIT: I MEANT ON NONDUALISM BUT MINDFULNESS IS ALSO A PART OBVIOUSLY

hi, these days i have noticed that while i meditate, i get completely lost/sleep/blank/dose off/become unaware/idk what else for a bit, after which i suddenly regain consciousness and start to focus on my breath again. This cycle continues till the moment when i am at the last stretch of my meditation, when i notice that my entire focus shifts to my breathing (i can finally meditate properly, without any other thoughts/with a clear mind and i can go on for an infinite amount of time—i start feeling good).

it happens when i just focus on my breadth, and it just started happening recently and didn’t used to happen before.

I meditate for 30mins to 1 hour continuously, and i am 21 years old if that matters. I also have Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD).

It does not happen when i focus on in-breath and out-breathes while speaking verbally or in my mind the following,”breathing in i know i am breathing in, breathing out i know i am breathing out” with every corresponding in/out-breath.

I have also stopped feeling good right after meditation sessions like i used to before. Nowadays, my anxiety is actually increased post meditation—i feel a bit weird/sad/depressed/negative (just a slight increase though). these negative feelings subside after a while post meditation, after which i feel better. earlier i used to feel really calm, at peace, joyful, happy, and carefree.

my mind keeps going on while i meditate, but i keep my focus on the breaths. it’s like, my focus is on the breaths but i am aware that my mind/anxiety/thoughts/fears/darkness/etc. is existing—all in the same dimension at the same time. this too has started happening now.

any suggestions would help!

Remember! You don’t have to have allll the leftovers today. Maybe, a plate is fine. Take care of your body and mind.

Honestly, I feel like achieving the state where you can relate and start to control that feeling of 'energy' or whatever you call it comes from belief. We must believe in the states we are trying to reach and fully trust in the word we both may say, you or I. This is a step, if not in my journey to finding mindfulness, but this may be the part you have been looking for. Understanding that behind us, how we perceive this now, and beginning to move and control our body is a better waytto o focus on how each feeling exists. You have felt everything before yourealized it. We have grown and transferred memories just from our blood; you have the power inside your brain to have the outcome you want. I cannot control it, and yourfriends and family cannot, unless you believe in your ouccess of mindfulness and others begin to understand and trust you. If you want to sprout lies and not trust yourself or your words your outcomes will suffer, this is not a mere religious zealot post or anything like that. But in terms of focusing and harness that feeling when you are trying to focus, believe in it. At least today, try as hard as you can, what is the worst thing that happens? You feel better and have a refreshed state of mind.

-Z

This friend of mine of 1 year lost his job and now has no money at all. This person earns very well and I assumed must have some savings (given I know how much his total expenses is) He recently found out that I have some savings and am at a good place financially rn. And during our last conversation he described himself as a selfish person and that the most important thing in his life is money.

When he told me about this bankruptcy thing, Why did I suddenly get a doubt? Why did I assume he is lying? Why did I get so suspicious of this person? Is there a reason or does it stem from my own fears of someone taking advantage of me?

I’ve noticed that sometimes I get very suspicious of people and assume they want to take advantage of me, 70% of the time I’m right. I don’t know how to deal with this suspicion

Being in nature is a gift. The streams are like giant mirrors that force me to indulge fully in the land of the inners. No phones, no entertainment, just a river that can flow freely in its purest form with all its unwanted dirty logs. Yet, are people scared to allow themselves to taste the fruits of boredom? For that's a risk to face beasts that wears your mask. The way they intrude could be like unwanted house guest, But even if you observe this guest, you can see that the way he dresses is quite interesting. So why not offer them tea? To indulge in nature is a gift indeed.

Hi everyone, I play a video game competitively and I have some wrist and forearm pain caused by gripping the controller too tightly while I play. My goal is to hold the controller more lightly. The problem is that once the game gets close or more intense I totally forget to lighten my grip and I end up death gripping the controller while I focus as hard as I can on the game.

Does anyone have suggestions for exercises I can do so that I remain relaxed even in tense situations?

Every time there is some downtime in the game I’ll bring my focus back to my body, take a few deeper breaths, drop my shoulders and release the tension in my hands. This is good but once the stress comes back I tense up again. Is it just a matter of reminding myself more frequently? What else can I try?

Should it cause things like aversion or lack of joy?

In a world dominated by logic, schedules, and ceaseless mental chatter, the concept of intuition—your inner knowing—can feel elusive. Yet intuition is a natural, innate capacity available to everyone, offering insights that transcend the limitations of thinking. Learning to access your intuition requires cultivating a quieter mind, a deeper awareness of your body, and trust in your inner voice.

The Limits of Thinking

Our minds are extraordinary problem-solving tools, but they’re not all-knowing. Thinking relies on logic, past experiences, and learned patterns, which often create blind spots. While analysis can be invaluable, it’s not designed to handle every situation. Over-reliance on thinking can cloud our ability to see clearly, especially when emotions, doubt, or overanalysis take over.

This is where intuition steps in: a feeling, a gut sense, or a quiet voice that doesn’t always make logical sense but rings true at a deeper level.

Practices to Quiet the Mind

To access intuition, creating space for it to emerge is essential. When the mind is too noisy, intuition is easily drowned out. Try these methods: 1. Mindfulness and Meditation Regularly practicing mindfulness or meditation helps you cultivate stillness. In moments of quiet, you create room for subtle signals to arise. Start small—a few minutes a day of focusing on your breath or observing your thoughts without judgment. 2. Journaling Writing freely allows your thoughts to spill onto the page, releasing mental clutter. Over time, patterns and insights often emerge, revealing what your inner self is trying to communicate. 3. Body Awareness Intuition frequently communicates through the body—a sense of tension, lightness, or ease. Practices like yoga, tai chi, or simply scanning your body for sensations can help you reconnect with this somatic wisdom.

Trusting the Subtle Signals

Intuition often speaks softly. It might be a quiet nudge or a fleeting image. To strengthen trust in your intuition: • Notice Without Judging Pay attention to intuitive signals without dismissing them as “irrational.” Even if they don’t immediately make sense, they may hold value. • Experiment Test small intuitive hunches. If you feel drawn to reach out to someone or make a decision without overthinking, try it and observe the outcome. • Reflect on Past Experiences Recall times when you followed your gut feeling. How did it guide you? This reflection helps you recognize the voice of intuition more clearly in the future.

Beyond the Rational Mind

The key to accessing inner wisdom is balancing the mind and the heart. Intuition is not the opposite of logic; it’s its complement. By learning to trust your deeper knowing, you move through life with greater alignment, confidence, and ease.

In moments of doubt, remember: intuition isn’t always loud or dramatic. It often feels like a gentle current beneath the waves of thought—a presence waiting to guide you home to yourself. All it asks is that you listen.