It seems ridiculous I know, and life is not about how you look but Im finding that everyday its getting me down. I lost some weight, thinking that would help and now I feel gross that my boobs have disappeared. Has anyone gone to therapy? Did you resolve these feelings? Gone to thailand for a boobjob? Did that help?

cleaning up my spotify, browsing around but like some conversation on the side. wzup, where else on reddit are you at

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Looking for people to chat with on the regular and hopefully make some long term friends! I am an outgoing adventurous guy I rope/steer wrestle in our county fairs and local events I also race oval dirt track cars stock car class on weekends I am free! I work on our family farm and currently in the process of taking it over being the 3rd generation there is a lot of pressure to keep it going! Hopefully you find this intriguing and would care to chat

My (32f) husband (33m) is a stay at home dad and former elementary school teacher. Back at the beginning of his career and right before he and I met he was an IA at an elementary school in another state, and he’s always had very fond memories of the kids he worked with there.

There’s one girl in particular, who was in third grade at the time, that he adored but always worried about. He spent multiple days a week working with her one on one, she was very smart but struggled socially, couldn’t focus, and had a horrible home life. Over the years he’s brought her up every now and then and says he wonders how she’s doing and if she’s okay, he always got a bit sad. He has a bulletin board filled with mementos of and from former students, he changed a lot of them out for newer ones over the years, only thing he kept up from his time as an IA was a picture of him and her, so it was clear she made a huge impact on him. I know working with her was a huge influence on his decision to become a teacher.

A few days ago, he got an email from her. She’s now a senior in high school, in leadership, runs track, and is planning on attending college in the fall. He wept when he read it, I had to wind up reading it to him because he was crying so hard. She wanted to thank him for having been so kind to her, and said that she still has the note that he wrote her on his last day on how he’d always be rooting for her, to remember how smart she is, etc.

It was incredibly lovely, and he and her have since had a very sweet email exchange. It’s made me very happy, it’s like a decade of worry has been lifted from his shoulders, he’s been exhausted lately and it’s like the universe knew what he needed.

That’s all, it made me happy, and I wanted to share!

I'm the type of person to take things literally, so whenever my friends say these phrases, or a variation of them, whenever I say that I'm not into a particular content creator or that I didn't enjoy a certain kind of movie, I find myself responding with, "No, it's not that I hate them. Just not my cup of idea." - a.k.a. "It's a preference thing.".

Nobody's really corrected me on this, so I'm more under the inclination that people mean it literally, but, you know, this is slang, so maybe it's a lot more nuanced than that and that it's actually hyperbole for something along the lines of, "Man, they're so good, though. Don't see why you wouldn't like them.".

I've always been bad with slang and colloquialism, so I'm wondering what it actually means whenever someone calls another person a "hater" or say that they're "hating" on something. Just curious.

So today I was hanging out with friends then saw a man, not exactly super good looking but charming in a way that I nodded to myself approving his attractiveness 😮‍💨

my friend and I have different views on how to deal or continue the relationship with our crushes. We have different crushes in our work. Well we are in different workplaces now that our temporary project came to end. I know I don’t have any future with my crush since I am not his type and I bet he saw me as his colleague or his little sister at best. Of course, he is sweet and gentleman and knows how to read the room, knows when I feel uncomfortable when males do dirty jokes when we have dinner party and he stops them or at least tries to cover my ears until they are done. Those are some of his good traits i fall for. But we have no future, no he is not married, not even has girlfriend. But he doesn’t have feelings for me the way i have for him. So i tried to minimise my feelings and attachment to him by trying to be strictly professional. Of course, I don’t act cold, i am foreigner so my language ability already created a barrier so all i do is not talking more than i supposed to be. Ever since we parted way, because we are transferred to different departments, i never once sent messages to him from me, of course I replied if he sent me message. But my friend is strongly against my way of dealing . She is like you should become his best friend if you don’t want to confess to him. I’ll be like I will but not now. If I don’t give myself a chance to let go of him before he found someone and got married and i don’t think I can congratulate him happily and earnestly. So i am preparing myself so that i can congratulate him on his wedding day sincerely and earnestly which he deserves. Is my thinking really weird ?

I’ve run into some hard times recently and I really just don’t want to continue struggling. I was hoping other redditors might want to share about their week/day, so I could hear about positives in other people’s lives :).

I typically sing whatever the task is to help me finish it. Meaning, when I have to do laundry, instead of going "Ughh... I have to do laundry", I sing "Oh, I'm going to do laundry now" in a cheerful tune! :) I find this makes me more interested in doing the task. Or at least less disinterested.

How do you motivate yourself to do mundane things?

Just wanted to see what other people had for comfort food, something that always make you happy, no matter your mood. For me personally I like a fajita with cheese, so anytime i have one of those, my mood lights up.

This might be a silly question, but it's something that's been in my head for a bit and I just want to get it out there. This question comes from the fact that I haven't been in the dating scene for a long time and I'm 31 now and I worry that, if I meet someone, the relationship won't have the same spark, energy, or fun that you'd find in younger couples. I realize that that I'm most likely overthinking this and assuming too much, but it's a worry that won't go away.

It’s sad but true. What set it off was putting on a sock, but I’m guessing I did something to it while working out. I’m looking for a casual chat while I’m board in my state of inactivity. We can talk about anything. About me: I work for a land management agency, I’m studying Art history, and I’m listening to Taylor Swift and Meet Me @ the Alter (love all kinds of music though). Cheers!

So this morning I was going about my day. I planned to walk to work for once. Little did I know that as soon as i stepped foot outside of my property. A lady I had never seen a day in my life started yelling at me to stop following her while holding her phone at me. She then proceeded to yell at me and insult me for 3 minutes straight. I was utterly baffled at what was happening. My first thought was she must of had a lot going on. So i decided to stand there and listen maybe she'll feel better after a bit. After she went quiet I asked if she was done, getting no answers back I just wished her a good day and walked away.

Basically i was wondering what i could of done different, should i have called the police ?

19M, going to turn 20 tomorrow. My teenage years have officially come to an end. I know I'm still young, but it's still surreal to think about how fast 20 years have gone by. I hope the next 20 years slows down a little bit lol, don't wanna break into my 40s too fast. 😂

Say you live a few houses down from someone. You know them only in passing. Like you don't realistically know them, but wave and chit chat now and then.

Option 1: Tell them you got a vision pro and have an amazing immersive video on it that was taken in the place they grew up in. You ask if they want to view it from across the wall? Ie you give them it over the wall. Then after it gets you more familiar with each other you can ask for a date.

Option 2: There is a sports game on the weekend (afternoon Saturday). You ask if she wants to go with you? This is in my option good because it allows for a little less awkward face to face as would in a restaurant.

Option 3: Wanna see the moon on my telescope in my backyard.

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Recently I had the flu. It was about a month ago now. I realize that since I have had it, there are a lot of things I used to love that I don’t like anymore.

I can’t stomach sandwiches. I am no longer interested in many of the dips I used to have almost daily. I ate mini tacos, and they just don’t taste the same anymore.

The biggest change was coffee. I used to drink 4-6 cups a day. Now I can’t even look at it.

Hi guys, I booked a hotel room to attend an event about three hours away this weekend and I am unable to attend due to train strikes. I got the money back for the train tickets thankfully. So I called up the hotel and asked if they could do a refund, they said as I have chosen the prepaid option where you can't cancel, that it won't be possible (it's about ten pounds more to book the option where you can cancel last minute).

I'll acknowledge that I was silly for picking that option, so that's fine. I kind of knew I wouldn't get my money back, so all good. But something happened on the telephone which made me think it is actually possible for them to do, and they're bullshitting me. Lovely lady on the phone said she'll go and check with her manager, and came back and told me no. So because she went to check, I've been thinking about it since the call ended, that it IS actually possible for the manager to do, he/she just refused to, even after the receptionist explained the train situation. So he/she could have done it for me as a gesture of goodwill, especially if they want me to stay there in future. I mean, a hundred quid is a lot of money and I want to try and call again, but does anyone have experience in this, and what could I say to persuade the manager? Am I wrong in thinking they can actually do it for me? I want to ask to speak directly to the manager, and no, not as a Karen. I just wanna try and get that money back? Give me a draft of what you would say, or if you would bother at all. I'm not very good at stuff like this, and I'm hoping there'll be people who read this who would find it a breeze and just get that 100 quid back easily. Thanks if you read this x

I've been dating someone for a few months now and it's been great. We both open up to each other about different personal things. He has a bit of a belly which he told me he didn't like and felt insecure about. He'd rather have washboard abs. I love this little belly and I tell him often. Chubby bellies are good for cuddling and hugs and damn if he doesn't have the best body shape because of it. I like to touch his belly and kiss it and hug it. I like to trace his little stretch marks (evidence of all the progress he's making towards his weight loss goals!). I've also made him repeat after me with the sentence "my belly is beautiful." The first time, he couldn't even say it and he teared up a little. But on another occasion I asked him to try again and he did it. He would say it when I prompted him, even though he also said he didn't believe it. That's okay, I told him. Just say it anyway.

About a week and a half ago, he told me, completely unprompted, that he likes his belly. It was so unexpected and every time I think about this, I can't help but smile. He still wants to get rid of it and that's okay. I support his efforts to be healthy. I just want him to love himself as he is now, too.

I feel very happy that I could change his perception of himself. Everyone deals with body insecurity to some extent and I think men tend to be more shy about opening up about this sort of thing. I'm glad he opened up to me and that he kept an open mind about himself, too. I'm glad I made a difference for him.

I hope you all tell someone you love that they are beautiful today. You never know what sort of difference it could make :)

(And if you do tell someone you love what you appreciate about them, please share it here!)

I've been exposed to those ads and sponsors so much I've genuinely had them appear in dreams a couple of times, that's fucking bullshit. YouTubers have no integrity, they're all soulless sellouts.

I will let the government track me and have all my data over using Nord VPN ever.

Idea taken from another post but I’m definitely feeling a change similar to when I was entering my early 20s at the end of education. I’m 30m now and it’s clear life is getting more complicated, mistakes compound, and things that used to be fun don’t seem to be anymore. I’m already dealing with the failing health of a parent, marital troubles, visa issues, knee problems, high expectations at work, and diminishing friendships. The flip side is I’m wealthier than I’ve ever been, I have got love in my life and real friends, my own place (rented), and my health is good.

What did you older folks do in your 30s? What do you wish you did or didn’t do?

I have a weird class chedule that I inflicted on myself where I have a class at 9-10:50 am, a class at 11:15 am-2:15 pm, and then a class at 5:30 pm. I only have class on Mondays and Wednesdays, and I only signed up for three classes. Yes, I know I got myself here.

My main problem is how I have four hours that I don't have anything to do with. I don't know anyone on the campus that well and I've already tried signing up for some clubs, but the four hours just sort of weigh on me. I know I should probably try doing something with them, but I never know what I want to do. It just feels lonely and unnecessary having so much time. I've tried bringing a book, but I always get distracted instead of read it.

For a bit of background: me and my family decided to plan out this week long vacation down to Savanna Georgia and are currently staying at an Airbnb together. Although she also made the decision to have us fly rather than drive down to Savanna as it would be faster and cost less overall, although I myself was a bit anxious about flying as I watched way too many scene from movies involving planes being destroyed or blown up (I.E. Final Destination) or watched too many Aircraft investigation shows in my free time, so I was super anxious when we went to take out flight in the early morning.

Honestly though after flying, I’ve actually come to enjoy plane rides. It was incredibly relaxing and scenic even once we took off and eventually descended down to the runway. My only real complaint was some bad terbulance as were flying through a blizzard as I live in a rather cold state, other than that though I liked it a lot.

Hi, I'm making my way home after meeting a guy for a first date and I guess I just wouldn't mind chatting with people and blurting it all out, getting some advice and just generally would love the company.

So I, female, met him, male, for some light food and drinks this evening and we spent a good bit of time together just talking and stuff, I think it went well but I also found him a little hard to read, maybe he was just trying to play it cool but I'm never good with these things.

Anyway, hope to chat with some people to keep my mind from racing about what I probably did wrong.

It’s a tough one because if I’m honest my own ego is part of the problem. If I see something that doesn’t align with my moral compass, I react whether it be internally or externally.

Everything exploded in my family nearly a year ago between my Mother, sister, myself and my fiancée. For context my Mother and sister still live together with my nephew and I live with my fiancée and 2 daughters about 45mins away. There was a disagreement about our parenting which was raised at the table, personally I believe parenting is a sensitive subject and advice should be tactful. My Mothers and Sisters advice was anything but, and because they come from teaching backgrounds there is an air of authority in what they were saying. The moment passed, and the next morning my Mum called me and raised it again - I said to her to pull back a bit because there’s no concerns at all, not even in the slightest. The next month I had booked to take my Mother away on a cruise ship with my family which was supposed to be a time for bonding - boy was I wrong. Parent styles were raised again because my Mother was much more harsh raising us but now denies everything. In the heat of the argument my Mother made completely false criminal accusations against my fiancé, they were so wild that I challenged her instantly and then she admitted shortly after that they were not true. That moment rocked my world if I’m honest, here’s my own mother lying to me in a completely shocking way. After the cruise ship I noticed these incidences were affecting my 5 year old daughter, so I decided to take some time out. My sister then reached out to me and said what I was doing was unacceptable. I explained to her what had happened to which she said “Mum didn’t say that” … my sister even backs my Mums false narrative of my upbringing telling me that I was lying about how harsh my parenting was. For clarification, I have never complained about it - it was the 80/90s and actually much of it was justified, normal for that era and certainly not over the top.

As I mentioned before, my ego can be part of the problem - I try to go back to my Mum to try and resolve things and I want her to understand my point of view but she never does and double downs every time, saying more hurtful lies. This makes the distrust even worse, to the point I don’t feel I could leave my kids with her alone. My fiancé has become the target for both my Mum and Sister, with them telling me not to trust her. We live together in a 2 bedroom apartment, and they never speak to her, so it’s hard to take the opinion in any other way than just being spiteful.

For the past 6 months, my pattern is the leave it a few weeks/months then reconnect hoping the time will heal and we can create a foundation to build on. Its never works, it’s goes back to square one.

Last night, I had enough, I recorded the call with my Mum as evidence because she always lies about saying things. Again, she made wild criminal accusations about my fiancée which are completely untrue. I don’t know what to do with the recording, it’s more for myself because the gaslighting has gotten too much. There is also a small part of me that is worried where they will go next with this, my Mum is unhinged and my sister completely supports her narrative without question.

Back to the title … struggling to let go. I keep going back and it’s like a brick wall. I feel guilty because I want my kids to have a relationship with their grandmother. My mother says “she doesn’t care about myself or fiancé, only cares about the grandkids”, and tells me to drop them off and pick them up. I just can’t see how I can with what’s going on… I would be concerned at what my kids are being told.

As I mentioned, my ego is playing a part in the resolution here which I know I have to tame. The constant gaslighting and refusal to understand makes me stubborn. I offer my mother opportunities to rebuild our relationship but she says it has to be on her terms and so far I’ve objected to that. I explain to her that I’m seeing therapy about it and she says that I should sort my head out and come back to me when I am fine.

My plan is to give it a lot of time but come back on her terms to some extent, short trips with my kids to visit her under my supervision. It seems over the top for a lady that raised me well. I’m residing to the fact that things will never change, especially as she gets older. She’s 70, I’m 40 and that is also part of the reason I continue to go back, because life is short.

Anyway, it’s been cathartic writing this so sorry if it sounds like a bunch of moaning. Sure everyone has there problems, and in the grand scheme of things a lot bigger than this. Maybe someone else can relate or have been in a similar situation and can recommend a solution.

Thanks for reading

i just turned 30!

my 20s f’kn sucked and i have hopes for my 30s!

any advice moving forward?

i’d say i got a pretty good nest egg in my savings and ROTH IRA. obviously i wish there were more, but you gotta start somewhere! so any advice -not- about money is greatly appreciated!

thank you for your advice!!

What Supplements or Nootropics instead of traditional medicine , are essentials for brain functions and live a healthy life for someone age around 38 years and to be taken daily?

Thank you all in advance 🌹❤️

I (23m) fathered 2 children (twins 4m & 4f) from a one night stand with a random woman (23f). Even though we don’t love each other romantically we still agree to be in a platonic marriage, officially starting from this summer. Years of co-parenting makes me realize she’s a good person so I won’t let that slip away. For me, a good ending I guess

I don’t ever remember having any strong love for my parents and sister and I sure as hell don’t have it now. At best, I tolerate my family. At worst, I really don’t like them being in my life. Dad’s okay because we moan about my mother and sister. My sister isn’t bad, she just doesn’t give me a reason to like her company. I would not be affected if she disappeared. My mother is the worst offender because she can’t have a different opinion to mine without arguing that she’s right and I’m wrong. And it’s for things like me saying ‘Please give me more notice before inviting me to things, or it’ll be a ‘no’’

But I realise that I am an adult who still lives with them and many people simply have a conflict with their parents in their youth and end up repairing bridges later. It may be a case of absence makes the heart grow fonder. I know of many people who butted heads with their parents as teenagers or young adults and ended up getting along with them later.

I don’t hate them. They just don’t give me any intrinsic motivation to keep them in my life, it’s purely because I cannot afford to move out without being broke and living off porridge. But part of me thinks that because I just see them as ‘some other humans’ it might be a different story to the good old ‘I don’t like my parents’.

Fellow employed adults - how would you describe your relationship with your siblings and parents?

I'm a 29f, and I have to admit, my diet is pretty awful. Despite maintaining a normal BMI of 19 sometimes 20 and staying active with daily gym sessions, spinning classes, and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, my eating habits leave much to be desired. Cooking has never been my thing, so I end up eating a mishmash of processed snacks like chocolate, chips, Caesar salad, pizza, and occasionally chickpeas. I'd say about 90% of the time, I'm just snacking and not really having proper meals. This has been my routine for as long as I can remember, even since childhood. I'm fully aware it's not good for me, but there's this undeniable pull towards sugary snacks because they're convenient, and I don't have to deal with cooking, cleaning up, and all that time-consuming stuff in the kitchen. After a long day at work followed by a gym session, the last thing I want to do is slave away in the kitchen. I just want to unwind. So, as much as I want to eat healthier, it's a real struggle. I'm at a loss on where to even begin. Maybe cutting out sweets altogether could be a start? Has anyone else managed to turn around a really bad diet? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!