hi! looking for some good quality nipple pasties that won’t show through my shirt :) i absolutely hate the look of the weird rubber kind that i can clearly see through shirts sometimes. anything that will make it look like nothing? i also don’t wear bras so i’m looking for something that will stay under fitted crop tops / tube tops

like the title says. What are some ways to make friends in ur early 20s. Feels impossible bc I'm always at work or home + i don't go out much to places like clubs or bars and I'm done w school

I hate it

I used to use Kotex brand pads (not the ultrathin one coz it feels like there’s nothing and I can feel the blood leak out yucks).

However seems like they did some cost cutting. There’s less cotton now and they make that stupid crinkly sound when you walk. Like other pads I’ve tried in the past. Hate the sound. Think it’s to do with the amount of cotton or fluff in the pads coz when I wear the maternity version it doesn’t do that. But I don’t want to be wearing the maternity version all the time. Help. What brands are good?

31f, never been in a relationship or close to one. I get lonely a lot and I do want a relationship. But my luck has been terrible. I like who I am, I'm social and interesting and kind and loving. I have a cool apartment and a cool job. But it seems like the only attention I attract is unwanted attention like catcallers or 60 y/o men hitting on me. I've tried dating apps and had pretty crap experiences that make my friends ask why I'm giving a chance to such low effort guys, but it's because I don't have any other options.

I really do want a relationship but I'm struggling to stay motivated to date and keep going through these experiences that make me feel crappy and worthless. I'm getting stuck in this zone of feeling too burnt-out to date but also feeling really lonely. I've taken breaks for months but lately the breaks aren't really helping either. How can I keep myself motivated to keep trying?

Hi! I cried at work again last night/this morning and I'm struggling with not be embarrassed of everything I do.

I've cried at work before, I've told supervisors multiple times that I'm not crying because I'm sad or upset but just because I'm frustrated and to please ignore it. I know this is a common enough issue. Living and working in a southern factory enviornment has led to the emotional woman gloves attitude that I've grown to resent. I know, for some it's not normal to cry at work and it might make that some uncomfortable, I've actually been working on it and grown much better at not crying when I'm frustrated and/or angry with the handling of a situation!

However I have a new supervisor, he's a funny guy that I've heard bad things about from friends that were under him before he transferred. I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt as he is learning, but I've had a frustrating week. The changes he wants to implement were pressed a bit over-excitedly by my new/not new leads who made some mistakes in trying to understand what it is I do. That's fine, I cried a little in expressing how I did my job correctly and they failed to understand what my job was. We cleared up the situation and all was good. Then I cried again last night.

For context and to wrap this portion up so I can get to my pressing question, my old supervisor was awful. Nice guy when he's not under any sort of percieved managerial pressure and a silent nightmare when he was. This led to me not really handling criticism or involved managers in a certain process of my work well. I got over it and started completing the process quicker, but it goes to say I got frustrated a lot, and combined with an abusive ex who would roll his eyes when I tried to speak about anything work-related (so no one to talk to really), it's needless to say I cried a lot back then. I've gotten a lot better at stone-facing people who don't really know what I do, but last night I came into a shitshow that if I had been on the previous shift, wouldn't have happened at all because I would have been monitored and checked to make sure I had finished my job. Meaning I played clean up crew for 7 hours straight, no break, failed a check over small missed areas, and cried when my supervisor joined in on the checking and made, what he cleared up later as, joking remarks with the other supervisor about writing me up for being bad. (I don't like these kind of remarks but they are common at my workplace and generally received well by others.)

My supervisor and me later cleared things up after brief horror from them about my lack of a government mandated break and female tears, he also asked why I would cry and made a slight comment about a work enviornment which I chose to cut off as the situation was more unique to the entire thing stressing me out. I think we're good, if not I'll handle it later.

Now, to my actual question, please I'm so sorry for rambling I just enjoy thorough context and yapping and I'm new here.

How do I stop being embarrassed of myself? I'll be honest a big reason that I cried last night is because I was embarrassed that it was taking me so long to clean up someone else's mess and I was embarrassed that I was overwhelmed and denied help over it. I felt hey, I've gotten better at this why am I not- being better at this. This isn't even just a work issue, like, unfortunately. I get embarrassed when people make snide remarks towards me and shrink down. I get embarrassed when talking about regular things like relationships and family. I get embarrassed when hanging out with my friends and constantly send the morning after text of, "hey y'all don't hate me right" or "was I too annoying last night :))))????". (My friends are saints and deal with me accordingly. ._.) I get embarrassed when I'm 'too' loud for a second and everyone looks. When I walk through a room and people look at me. I get embarrassed when people look at me in general. I even get embarrassed to write or exist in public spaces. I've been wanting to sit in a coffee shop and write for 3 years. I refuse. (I'm working on it)

I know what a lot of this stems from. I've been through a lot. Especially in the past six months. Or, my entire existence as a person. I can't really recall a time where I wasn't embarrassed because I already had a lot going on and really didn't want the extra vibes in general, good or bad. Or I just didn't want to deal with any percieved judgment. I have an intense and deeply rooted issue with anxiety basically playing super intense music you would hear in a movie when something bad's about to happen at random times just to, what feels like, get a rise out of me.

I'm working on my anxiety, I'm actually a lot happier with life and being at the moment, but how do I feel more confident consistently? It feels like it comes and goes and ebbs and flows. I want to be my own consistent backup. I want to be there for myself. I want to stop being embarrassed of myself for existing too much. How do/did you guys, if you do/did, stop being embarrassed of yourself?

I have never had a boyfriend. A guy would approach me for my looks talk to me and instantly become my friend. My best friend told me that I need to be a soft and feminine person. Can you guys give me some tips to glow up personally.

How do you make it so that a person who’s really flirty with you become completely uninterested in you without breaking their hearts

I want it so that, that person thinks for themselves and says that they’re not interested anymore but to keep them as friends cause if I reject them they always end up stopping the friendship all together

Edit: this is not about nothing my other posts talked about

Have you ever had an orgasm that was too intense? I (27F) am concerned my orgasms are too intense to be pleasurable.

27F. I cannot orgasm through PIV and I don’t like oral. I recently bought a Rose vibrator for clitoral stimulation because I never had an orgasm before. I read it was good for beginners. After trying it a few times I am concerned what I feel is too intense. Today I felt like I had muscle spasms for like an hour afterwards. My clitoris also felt very sensitive for awhile. It’s embarrassing to admit but I felt myself thrashing / convulsing and I don’t like it. I’ve read that that is a good thing, but it makes me very uncomfortable because I’m kind of a control freak and I don’t like not having control over my body. I would like to feel nice and relaxed, but instead I feel (after initially feeling very hot and tired with heavy breathing) twitchy. I’m worried that it’s so intense that I don’t actually finish, since I pretty much have to take it off to “get back down.” Is it really possible to not like orgasms?

I would appreciate any advice from someone who has had any sort of orgasm issue before. If it provides any more insight into my situation, I do have vaginismus and endometriosis. I have never been sexually assaulted and had never masturbated. I was hoping to use this right before PIV, but now I’m feeling really insecure.

Im 27 now. I dont do my makeup, always wear hats and sweatpants. I dont put any effort in myself like i use to. I want to so bad but haven’t found the desire. When i was 22 23 , i would get dressed up everyday, i was really into beauty and it all then i guess life happened. I just wanna be able to feel like my old self again. Idk where to start

Well if i consistently workout and sleep on time ,eat well..i look comparatively ok then when i am junk stressed on periods.And its universal i know. However..i have mostly always had dark vircles and need tp use a conceler..i also have smilelines and my skin gets dull and dehydrated..any serumyou advise?

My ends are worse i dont use heat on my hair and it looks so bad on the top, even here i used hairspray to get it a bit down but its horrific. Does this mean my hair is unhealthy? Im from Texas so it could be the humidity but how do i cope with this):?

For some context, I gained a bunch of weight in high school and was the token fat friend. I had no style, no confidence, and I struggled majorly with depression, anxiety, and adhd. I received zero male attention and was often the back end of jokes regarding my looks. I hated myself and I grew to think that I was unworthy of love— it’s a feeling that’s still hardwired into my brain.

Now, I’m 20 and around 75 pounds lighter than what I was. Compared to my younger self, I dress well, my skin and makeup are in a good state, and my hair is healthy. I look like a completely different woman. The problem is, I’m stuck in the mindset of my old self, but with a new body. I feel happy and confident on my own, but in his presence, I think like the old, obese and bullied me.

I can’t look him in the eyes— I crumble after a few seconds and my confidence is just nonexistent. I can’t fathom how he thinks I’m pretty. I can’t imagine how a guy as attractive as him actually wants me— he has to be trying to use me or play me. I can’t comprehend how he isn’t repulsed by my very existence.

It all comes back to how I was treated in school. If a boy was hitting on me, he was doing it as a joke, so now I register any romantic advances as cruel jabs and lies that will backfire and hurt me. I want to just look into his eyes, smile, and hold his gaze without thinking I’m a subhuman deserving of nothing. I legitimately cannot comprehend a man being attracted to me.

I don’t know what to do. I feel so lost and therapy isn’t an option at the moment. I thought that losing weight would make me confident, but thousands of negative thoughts and insecurities still run rampant in my mind. I really need some advice on how to fix myself and not screw this all up.

So I'm 27f and I'm going to be the maid of honor in my sister's wedding in 2 weeks. I have a hair appointment tomorrow at a salon, just for a trim, and I went ahead and had them put me in for a brow wax while I'll be there... But now I'm debating about cancelling the brow wax. I've never done anything with my brows before. I'm not a makeup person and really just ignore how I look... But I'd kinda like to start caring? And my eyebrows feel like one way I can glow-up a little bit without having to think about it every single day.

My questions:

• Is 2 weeks enough time for any wild reaction to go away? Or is this too close to the wedding?
• I have pretty bold, bushy eyebrows so far. I don't want to change that, just tone them down a notch so they're not quite so bold on my sister's day. How do I communicate that to the waxer? Is there a terminology for this? 😅

Thanks y'all!!

hi! this is a rly random and specific question, but i’m going to edc next week and got a some cute lingerie outfits for it

only problem is the cooch area on the thongs is so narrow; i don’t want my goods to be showing 😅. they’re stringy thongs too so if i wear another set of underwear underneath, it’ll pop out too much and look awkward.

i went to a rave the other day in april and thought i’d be okay, but it was not. i’m so glad i had a fanny pack to cover the area, so now i’m trying to find another solution. any tips or suggestions?

The week before my period I’m always so emotional and stupid and like I always think my bf hates me but then the second I get my period it stops how can I not be like this bc I hate him rn but idek if he did anything wrong

Idk if I'm the only one but during hot summers I sweat a LOT down there, to the point where my panties are soaked in sweat. I do shave (not against the hair growth though) since hair does contribute to the scent. Also during intense exercise I would sweat down there. There is a sweat smell and I'm worried it might be noticed, I don't like smelling bad. Does anyone have any tips/tricks? I know that putting special perfumes down there is a no-no. But what can I do 😭

Hey everyone so my periods are very heavy and all the pads I've tried are barely doing the job. I gotta put 2 on at a time that are the size 5 overnight; changing them every 2 hours. I looked up the period underwear but I'm afraid they won't work either. Someone suggested to try adult diapers but I'm not sure on that...😂

Is this normal? should I be wearing bra/sports bra to hide nipples from showing or will wearing tight tops like that stop my breast growth, I’m pretty much fully flat except for right at nipples area. Might this be the only boob development I get?

I'm so ashamed to ask this. But I need advice from fellow hairy girlies.

So, I had a nose job like.. 7 months ago? Everything went smoothly and I'm happy about how it looks. Except from one thing. The nose hairs.

I didn't realize that when their fixed my droopy tip the nose hairs would start sticking out and they are so.. obvious. I'm really ashamed.

My doctor adviced against waxing them, because it could lead to a cellulitis on the tip or a nasal vestibulitis. my brother suggested instead trimming them with a machine he has and I'm wondering, will that make them more obvious when they grow back? More dark? More long and sharp, like when you shave your legs?

Hiya all! So I have a really deep voice that sounds exactly like a man’s voice. I’ve been called so many names because of it. Is there anything I can do to fix this problem?

21 with autism.

I’m super embarrassed to say as a 25 y/o that I’m not too sure the best way to shave my downstairs, whenever I’ve done it I’ve cut myself or not got to all the areas I get so embarrassed around summer when my hairs come out around my bikini, so any tips/suggestions would be greatly appreciated 🥺

My (F25) friend (F26) is expecting her first child, a baby boy, and invited me to her baby shower in England. Unfortunately I won't be able to attend because I live in Asia but I definitely want to buy a gift for her online and send it to her address. I was thinking of sending her a handwritten letter, too. What is a good baby shower gift :) ?

im 19f, and when i was little my parents didn’t brought me to the dentist, not even one time. on top of that, they never really pressured me onto brushing my teeth at least twice a day, flossing etc. so i obviously developed neglecting habits when it comes to my dental hygiene (eating sugary and acidic foods and not brushing after, specially at night) , i gotta say my teeth are not THAT yellow, they’re totally straight naturally, never needed any braces. but i can clearly see i have a lot of cavities, especially on my molars, i have one teeth in the back that is breaking out, kinda dark, and hurts me sometimes. i also have tartar on the back of my lower front teeth, and in between (it can’t be seen just like that, at least if ur not a dentist).i’m really scared to go the dentist, even thought i’m living in France and here healthcare is really good, dental health is still pricey when it comes to cavities etc. i know i should go as soon as possible bc i’m still young and the damages can be reversible but i don’t really have that much of money rn and i don’t really know what to do. i’m really really scared.

I'm about to graduate college and I haven't even been on a single date. I've never kissed or held hands with a guy either. I'm introverted, socially awkward, and have few friends. I put a lot of effort in my appearance and I really like fashion and am in good physical shape. I also have quite a lot of hobbies and like trying new things. I didn't really make an effort to talk to guys in college, but no guys just approached me either.

I feel lonely and scared because I couldn't even get a date in 4 years while surrounded by thousands of guys my age, so how can I find anyone now? Should I try dating apps? I mean people say inexperienced people should not use dating apps, but I can usually tell which guys are better quality.

I feel lonely but I never have the energy to keep up with conversations.

I have lost touch with most of my friends because of this and when I do try to reach out to new ones, I just feel like I never have anything to say so I just stop replying.

I'm 28 and I only talk to family now and focus on our dogs (that mean everything to me by the way). Most days I'm happy and fine with that but I don't know. I feel like I won't ever be able to have that deep connection with anyone ever again. I don't know how I'm going to have that kind of connection when I don't have the energy to make friends, to keep them, especially to go out.

If anyone has experienced this, what did you do?

It's okay if you don't have advice for me. I just really wanted to get this off my chest because I feel like no one I know understands me. And shrinks are hella expensive where I'm at. LOL.

My hair is not completely straight, but it’s not curly so I’ve never tried anything like curl cream or hair care tips meant for curly hair.

I do feel like I’m brushing it to death, and that no matter what conditioner or hair mask I use, it’s not working. I have tried quite a few different combos but nothing seems to work, thoughts?

didn't really know a better way to word the title lol. but basically im just wondering if anyone else has been in the same position before, and maybe what they did to start feeling better or even just overcome these kinds of feelings. to preface this, i don't think things will really get 'better' for me. i don't think there is a way to fit in for me. ive always been an outcast and think that i really always will be, and though i have tried to come to terms with this, i still long to be around people because you know. im a human being. but if anyone else found a way to come to terms with being this kind of person, and how they still lived a happy life despite it, i would really appreciate it.

the thing is, ive really never fit in. i had a lot of shit go on when i was younger and up into my teens, even early twenties, and so i kind of didnt get any of the experiences anyone else did and am still trying to recover from a lot of the impact that abuse and shit has had on me. i never really got asked out, didnt have dates, didnt really make a lot of friends other than online, and have been pretty poor because of shitty family members so didnt get to go out and do anything crazy. im definitely not pretty, and though i want to do traditionally feminine things or dress a certain way i never really had female figures to like... walk me through any of this shit my whole life, so i feel like that isolates me even more from other women. ive definitely had female friends before, but ive always had this feeling that when im around other women they very much want nothing to do with me. like when they talk to me it feels forced but when they turn to talk to the other women theyre like, actual friends, you know? not saying that men really want anything to do with me either, but ive found that men can (keyword: can..not always!!) strike up a convo with you and treat you somewhat like a person instead of just icing you out before giving you a chance. (again, not always the case, but i think over the years just statistically speaking random guys are more likely to entertain a small convo with you or just be friendly as a stranger in comparison to when i do the same with women--though both groups still have been this way. and im specifically talking about people my age (20s), because older women and men are totally fine and will talk to you regardless, but its my own age group where it gets weird asf for some reason?). it sucks because even tho i can maybe talk to guys, i feel that the friendships dont always really evolve into anything, and this is doubly so with women. id also really like to have more female friends just because it would be nice to like... do girl shit, idk. lmfao. and it sucks because whenever ive been in mixed groups its like the guys can just bond bc theyre dudes, but then the women form a cluster that im almost always left out of and it feels humiliating. am i that much of a weirdo???

i just want to fit in, but it feels like no matter what i try im always the 'freak'. I always get the side eyes and the stares, the evaluating look they give you up and down when staring from a distance (doing this repeatedly??? why?) and theres definitely that air when they talk to you that feels like theyre just doing it out of necessity or because they want to play a joke on you. i know i can be shy and quiet, but even when i try to be a little more outgoing (not in an overly fake way, but just generally striking up regular conversation) it doesn't work. i've really just accepted that i may have to wait for others to come to me if they want to talk, because when i try to take the initiative it literally always fails and makes me feel horrible. and i know im not saying something weird every time because often i say something, am met with silence, and 10 seconds later someone will repeat the same thought i just had and the whole room erupts into conversation and laughter. so what the hell is wrong with me? has anyone else lived their life this way? how do you get over feeling like such an outcast, and be happy with yourself despite being so hated? it feels so unbearable, and im tired of being alone. the thing that hurts most is that people seem to think i hate everyone but i literally /try/ to include myself, speak up, get involved, but am met with every sign and signal that tells me nobody wants me there and then they get surprised when i stop showing up. what the hell am i meant to do?

i try to include others when i see that they feel left out because i know how it feels, and it fucking sucks. but nobody ever does the same for me, and it hurts. i never do that with the expectation itll be returned to me, but i just wish one person would try to understand, you know? it just kinda blows, is all. like ill never be worth the time or effort. i just wanna be like 62 or something when maybe all this dumb shit will stop. does it ever stop?

sorry for the lengthy shit, but thanks if you read this far. i hope u have a good day wherever u are!!

I’m 29F and have managed to avoid wearing makeup my whole life, besides a little lipstick every now and then. I have a few events coming up and I’d like to wear makeup for them. I’m not looking for anything bold, just something natural which makes me look a bit more alive! My issue is I have no idea where to start. I don’t know which products are good quality or match my skin tone, and I have no clue how to apply them. I don’t want to end up with loads of products I’ll rarely use. Any advice please?

My whole childhood i didn't care much about looks, but I also didn't care much about boys. Until I hit 18 and started getting crushes (I was a late bloomer i know) and then I really started caring. I realized I wasn't really pretty- not ugly but kinda just meh. I have a big nose, but not huge. I have bad eye bags that are worse on some days more than others. Right now I just want to feel pretty- but at the same time i feel so much better when I don't care at all. But I've realized being nicely put together and especially good looking really does change peoples perception of you, which really sucks. Now that I've realized that I cant really go back to how I was before (zero insecurities, I loved everything about myself) but I want to find a balance. Right now im just feeling awful because i want to be pretty so bad but I really don't think i am- i wish I could go back to how it was before. Why do people even care what I look like anyways? Ugh. Sometimes i wish I could just be a guy and get buff because usually that works for them. Anyways. Advice would be nice