How do you guys deal with comparison? I’m objectively the least attractive among all of my friends. I’m 31 and I’ve had acne/skin texture issues basically since I was 12-13 and I’m doing my best to work on it with professionals. Make up always looks bad on me because of very bad texture. My face is highly asymmetrical and because I have a huge nose and a deviated septum the said asymmetry is even more visible. I have very toned arms because of being on the swimming team for years when I was younger which often leads to backhanded compliments or just negative comments in general. I have a low voice which people tend to remind me of and I’ve been asked more than once if I’m trans. In a group I always feel invisible and I was never approached like my friends. Recently, when a whole group of girls was getting ready at my friend’s house, her mom complimented all of them besides me which only confirms for me that all of this is not just the work of my imagination. To clarify, when in a group, I’m not sad and always in the corner crying about being ugly. I’m talkative, bubbly, and love to joke around so it’s not like I’m standoffish and I send negative vibes at all times. I guess where I’m going with this is…how do I accept that I’m objectively unattractive and will never be at a level my friends are no matter what I do?

I am 38 years old and went out with a 27 M. Since I divorced in the beginning of 2024, I thought it was time to test the waters. I was blessed and met a ridiculously handsome sporty guy on an app. I made it clear to him that I was interested in having fun and nothing more. The date was very nice we talked a lot. After, we had sex at my place.

For me, it was great and he is super hot. He is SUPER vigorous. He lasted long and put me in different positions (which I liked) and he came when we were spooning while he kissed me and looking in my eyes. All very intimate. We cuddled in bed, talked for quite some time more. When he left, he kissed me good by on the lips while holding my face. He was very nice the whole time.

Now it comes the trick part. I would like to see him again, but he went radio silence(so did I). I’m not blocked or anything, but didn’t hear from him yet (6 days now). Although I know it was a hook up, I am having all types of paranoia now, but the one worrying me the most is: He took too long to orgasm because he was not enjoying it because I am not as tight down there as I was when young (which I don’t even know if it’s true, but in my head it is). Once we finished, he asked me something to check if I liked it and I said yes and asked him the same question. He said that he definitely enjoyed himself. This guy is so handsome that he must have a line of women on his door, not kidding. I even think he is out of my league hahaha.

I don’t know why I got so insecure about this… It is not that I created expectations and got too much into him, I think I just wanted some type of validation… If not from him, I hope to get from this sub 😂

In October I got a keratin treatment and the lady gave me a layered haircut with a face frame. I absolutely hate it. It’s giving 90s Karen. How can I grow it out faster?

Hi! I'm 13F and I really need some glow up tips. My celebrity twin is adut akech but I can't find like any makeup styles. All the guys at school make fun of me for like being to ugly and I feel like I'm the ugly duckling in my whole friend group. Could I have some help please?

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I have a good fulfilling life, financially stable, nice family and friends. The only struggle I’ve had is finding a partner since 2 yrs after my LTR ended. I’ve taken therapy, worked on myself, paid off my student debt, went on vacations and can finally afford an apartment by myself. Got into situationships and ended up wasting my time on guys who would have never commit. I’m the only single one left in my group, and slowly everyone has less time to spend with me. I’m okay with that.

However, I’ve learnt about myself a lot! I like my journey of life and I’m not trying to force a relationship anymore. However, I tend to be less excited about myself and my life when I’m completely single. I tend to be more excited and playful when I’m talking to a guy or going on dates. I indulge in my hobbies more, travel more since I have a lot to talk about when I’m meeting someone new. Otherwise I feel bleh. I do enjoy my company but I feel ‘lost hope’ or ‘apathy’ feeling when I’m not dating. Does anyone relate?

I recently moved in with my boyfriend into a new apartment and while I DO have a walk in closet, I am coming to terms that I have to share and we both like shopping. He has managed to get all his clothes to fit on his half and in the dresser but I realized half the closet is simply not enough for me.

We both agreed a clothes rack would work perfect. We have 9 foot ceilings and are happy to make use of them with a 6 foot tall rack. Now that space is no longer an issue, I’m at a standstill with what should go on the rack vs hidden in the closet. My old closet was just a randomly assortment of items with no care of what went where as it was all hidden.

To others have use a clothes rack IN ADDITION to closet space, do you use it for everyday clothes, or make it more of a statement with coordinating items?

Any recommendations for other antiperspirants that work as well as perspirex extra strength, but that won't damage the skin barrier so much in my armpits?

I (F) am turning 27 next week and I have no romantic experience at all, haven’t even had my first kiss. I’m starting to believe something is seriously wrong with me that something that seems so easy to everyone else has been so hard for me. I’m really embarrassed about it and now that it's been so long I’ve developed a fear of dating. I'm worried that my lack of experience at my age will be a deal breaker for men and that I've basically doomed myself. All my friends are engaged or married already and they always just hit me with all the unhelpful advice people give single people. At this point I feel like it might be too late for me and the likelihood of me dying alone is getting extremely high and I really don't know what to do about it.

Any advice is appreciated

I (25F) never really enjoyed being by myself and being alone. It has come to a point now that I cannot handle my own company and there’s barely anything that I enjoy doing by myself. Until few years back, I loved to read or watch shows, and I could be content even if I was alone while doing these things, but now I JUST CANNOT. For background, I moved to London last year and I am in a happy long distance relationship, and ever since I moved, I meet my boyfriend every 6 months. I do have some good friends here but I won’t say I have a very active social life here. The problem is that I am too dependent on my boyfriend for my dose of serotonin. He is working full-time and has a passion for creating music hence he has a very hectic schedule. I, on the other hand, tend to ignore my responsibilities and just focus on talking to him, and it’s the only thing that I feel makes me calm and happy, which is really crappy as I feel I am no longer a person of my own. I’ve been to therapy previously and I already know most of my issues are rooted in my fear of abandonment and me being unable to love myself. In order to fix this and to start being genuinely content, I know I need to love myself and be happy even if it’s just me. I’d love for any suggestions you guys may have or if anyone has gone through a similar issue and overcome it. I’m desperate now as I feel sometimes I suffocate my boyfriend!

Hi girls, I’m F/23, and I’m living alone for the first time. I move in tomorrow to my one bed/one bath.

I have lived with people my whole life - whether it be family growing up, or friends/roommates during college and after. I don’t have a partner or anything and spent 2024 intentionally single after a bad breakup with my ex boyfriend.

I am a bit nervous I’ll get lonely or isolate. I have a cat and he’s a great companion so that definitely eases my worries a bit.

Would love any tips on how to make my new place cozy for me, safe, tips you have based on experience, things I should know, etc.

Thanks!

hey y'all, this may come off as a vent post but i really am in need of support. i've been working at a restaurant for the past two and a half years while i finish my degree. i was struggling to get a job and my mum's friend offered a job at her restaurant.

august last year i got a new job (as a slide operator at a water park) as i would be finishing up my degree and wanted a job with more hours. i've stayed at the restaurant until now because it's a pretty small business and a few of my co-workers were away. so yeah, i was working two jobs and in my last semester of uni. it was a lot. anyway, working at the restaurant for the past few months has been really tiring, and making me just so so miserable. i do a seven hour shift outdoors in the Australian summer heat then work a 3 hour shift in the kitchen with about an hour break in between. it's been a struggle.

anyway, last week i promised myself that i would put my two weeks notice in tomorrow night but! my co-worker & close friend just told me yesterday that my manager had been talking shit about me. she says that i'm not 'ready for the real world' because I asked her to only roster me on for two shifts a week, basically saying i'm lazy. i don't even need the extra money, i'm working there because I know she would struggle to replace me. i literally have one day off a week. one. being a slide operator is a lot of work. i'm exhausted all the time. i'm just hurt she would go behind my back and complain about me when I've really put myself out by still working there. I even gave up a job opportunity last year (for something I've been studying for) because she needed me to work.

so, i can't sleep because I'm fuelled with anger, hurt and anxiety. I have GED and social anxiety disorder which means quitting is already super hard for me but now all my emotions and nervousness is elevated. does anybody have some tips to motivate me to quit? to make me feel a bit braver?

Are there any other tv shows like desperate housewives? I’m coming to the end and I absolutely love it. In my thirties so not looking for anything that’s more aimed at teenagers.

So i don't have a diagnosed Ed or nothing but for as long as I can remember I've not been eating so great. Sometime my diet can be high sugar n fat too but I don't put on weight n I'm very quick to lose it too (16f 5'3 46kg). Whn I eat I don't rly enjoy it either...sometimes I feel sick after I'm more js eating bcz I have to but I have a rly small appetite except for sometimes (maybe it's hormonal dk) I'll get soooo hungry n overdo it. Even whn I was a kid I wouldn't eat much I'd often throw my lunch away at school (dk y bcz I hate wasting food) or give it to my friends. But evrybody around me makes comments bout how I don't eat n stuff. I also have a thing we're I can only eat if I feel comfortable in that environment which is y I don't tend to eat much at school but if I'm at home I'll eat somewhat normally. I have started to have lunch whn I'm at school now (my diet on a school day tends to look like either I skip breakfast or have an egg which I hate but my parents said that I need the nutrition so, chicken wrap for lunch n whatever my mum makes for dinner) it's mostly home cooked food that I eat. But now that I think about it I do have some food related trauma could that subconsciously be the reason that I have such a strange relationship with food? Thx

Made a post but deleted, but let’s try again lol. I (23f) have went from 256 to 176 lbs and I’ve been in the gym about a year. I haven’t been more confident ever, but my confidence is starting to waiver. My dream scenario is to be approached in the gym and I thought this was just a rare thing, but apparently it’s still an active thing. Even outside of the gym, I’ve not been approached in the last year and I’m starting to question if I’m seeing what other people see. Like I don’t know where I fall I guess. But I also have a problem really looking at people at the gym, like I can’t make eye contact for ever a split second because of nerves. The gym is like the only place I go, so I don’t have many opportunities for meeting people. Really just getting it off my chest and hoping to get whatever advice is offered. Also I know this may sounds a bit superficial or dumb, but I’ve only been with one man so I have basically no experience in any of the dating/men world.

Recently I’ve noticed that my fridge looks pretty bare I get the usual stuff for my lunches at work and my dinner is usually something frozen like a pizza 😅but I need inspo on what to fill my fridge up with my boyfriend comes round on the weekends and always says my fridge has literally no food so my question is what are your fridge essentials? And also what else do you get for ur cupboards? Please inspire me I feel like this is a silly question but when I do a food shop I get overwhelmed and lose all thought and direction😭😂

women are jealous and mean and bitter and hate seeing u happy or successful so the whole "girls girl" thing annoys me so bad because ive had mostly crappy friendships and interactions with them. also why am i called a "pick me" for stupid stuff like saying im small or being nice to men? theyre way nicer to me than women. jealousy is the worst because it will make them want to see u unhappy and theyll do anything make sure it happens.

why are women like this. no im not the problem because i can have tons of male friends but my girl friends always have to gossip behind my back or use me for stuff or make backhanded compliments or exclude me and make me feel like an alien

i sound bitter right now because i am, im tired of jealousy and meanness and fake friends. i will never care about supporting women im not extremely close with anymore because i gain nothing. my kindness is taken for granted

edit if ur going to insult me ill only see u as the exact same people im talking about i also have autism and i get it makes people without autism feel like im a weirdo but i seriously get mistreated i was bullied in hs by my friend group for no reason. so these r the types of people ur defending

Ok to put it very simply I Don't want kids, I will never ever want kids, I never want to be pregnant for a number of personal and valid reasons. But I still feel fearfull I'll regret my choice to get my tubes tied when I'm still young because everyone around me tells me I'll want kids someday even when it is my worst nightmare. Even when I've been decided on it for years now (yes I do understand I am "far too young" to be considering these things but when I make up my mind I tend not to change it.) For reference I am currently 18 for reference and I plan to give myself more time as well as my frontal lobe to develop fully, I don't know if it is the best decision ever because I am far too young. I've generally been decided on it for quite sometime and would appreciate input from other women on this choice:)!

Hi! I am new here in France and I don't know what brand of pads I should get. The one I am using from my home country isn't here. Can you suggest a best menstrual pads? I am using Vania right now but it makes me uncomfortable. Thank you!

Edited: I was using Modess before 😬

Around two months ago, I had a persistent uti that kept coming back until a third round of antibiotics. Around this time, I also started experiencing pain during sex. Most likely, this was caused by vaginal atrophy since I’m currently taking testosterone (transmasc, hoping it’s ok to post here?). I talked to my doctor about it, and she prescribed me a vaginal estrogen cream which has been great at fixing everything up and making it all healthy again. I haven’t had any medical issues and everything works how it should, including self-lubrication. The problem is that I can’t for the life of me loosen up before sex? Small objects are totally fine and doesn’t hurt at all. We do plenty of foreplay, I’m plenty turned on, and we do everything we’re supposed to do but I just don’t loosen up. What we end up doing is slowly inserting (I’m talking like minutes) until we start very slow, then after that I feel totally fine and can continue with sex like normal.

I’m going to talk to my doctor about this cause I have another appointment with her in two months, I just wanted to know if anyone had any advice to do in the meantime.

Edit cause I forgot to add lol: this wasn’t a problem at all until recently. My sex life was completely fine before that

I'm looking for recipe/meal ideas that will be good for my body when on my period. There's lots of info online about foods that are good to have on your period like broccoli, pumpkin seeds, etc. which help get any nutrients you may be lacking, but I've been struggling with ideas on how to combine these ingredients into a variety of dishes that can still be reasonably exciting. I also want to do so while avoiding foods that exacerbate period pain like spicy foods, oily foods, dairy, etc.

If anyone has any go-to dishes they make or recipes they have heard of I would love to hear them! Ty :)

I’m a 20 year old female (cis and straight) and now that I’m in my second year of college I want to start dating. I have only been on 1 date before and haven’t done anything sexual with anyone, nor been in a committed relationship. What’s weird to me is that I find it really hard to have crushes on men or find men attractive most of the time. I can’t even remember the last time I had a crush on someone. I don’t seen women in a romantic or sexual way either. I long for a committed relationship with a man and have my own standards but it just seems like I’m constantly “turned off” and like there is this weird barrier. I’m not sure about going about dating when I feel this way.

Hopefully this makes at least SOME sense and I’m open to answering questions 😅

I'm 18F and was diagnosed with PCOS at 13 or 14 and I've been taking Diane35 since then. I got my period at 9 years old and it was normal until I was 12, and then I didn't have a period for 2 years and since I was a kid I didn't really tell my mom until I was 13-14 and the doctor did an ultrasound and blood tests on me. My testosterone was only a bit higher than normal but everything else was fine and my ovaries didn't have cysts. I also didn't have any abnormal facial hair growth/deep voice/out of the ordinary acne

Anyways, Diane35 took away my acne and also gave me my periods again but for some reason I feel like I'm cheating and I'm beating myself up for not being able to carry out its normal functions, but most of all, the fear of being unable to be a mother and the challenges I'll face to be one is kinda dawning on me. I've never been in a relationship and I've never been sexually active and also that kinda thing fucks me up cause I'm turning 19 this year and at this rate I'll never experience teenaged love but that's a different topic lol. I just feel cursed in a way like I'm not a real woman and that's why I'm never given attention because a lot of things are wrong with me or something. I also read about egg freezing but I'm kinda scared to bring that up to my doctor because to talk to her I have to talk to my mom and I honestly don't even know how all of this works. I just hate how I have to take all these extra steps because my body decided to just stop working

18F

I don't think I'm ready for a relationship but I had a random urge to make a profile. Is it okay to just peep around on the app? I've been feeling stuck in the house and I was home schooled. I'd be lying if I said talking to boys my age wouldn't be exciting and that's kinda why I want to as well but I know I have avoidant issues so I don't want to lead them on but I do in a way because I haven't had interactions with the opposite sex since I was 13!! Anyway advice on what to do here? I don't want to hurt anyone or be a bad person. I'm insanely socially deprived.

Does anyone know of any products to use for mixed curly hair? My hair gets really tangled and dry and I’m currently looking for products that can help with tangles.

Whats is your hair care routine that you stick to it and it worked perfectly for you? I have fair hair and it gets oily so fast that I have to wash it basically every other day. What do you use to increase volume and shine? I would be very happy if you can share the product names you use🫶🏻

I love my mom, but she's crazy over-protective to the point where I can't even leave the house to check the mail without her standing on the front porch watching me. I know she means well, and it's reasonable since we live in America and I look a lot younger than I am. But I have horrible anxiety at the thought of being alone in public after growing up hearing things like "You're so small and light, you can easily be picked up and carried away by a stranger!" my entire life by my mom.

I also feel like I'm way too dependent on her, she doesn't let me get a job because of school and I have to run so many things by her, so I'm worried that I'm going to be helpless when I go to college next year. But living by myself sounds so much better than continuing to live with my mom.

Are there any things that'll help me gain a better sense of independence? Anything that'll help make the transition easier/smoother? My mom and I both decided we want me to take self-defense classes before I leave, so I have at least that going for me. And I'm going to buy a safety whistle + other self defense objects.

Hi everyone and happy new year! I was wondering if anyone knows of any groups/pages that keep you motivated to be your best self/live aesthetically. I realised that I am really happy when everything is very pretty around me and this year I want to keep everything nice and live healthier (e.g. go to the gym, have a proper skincare routine, cook, keep my room tidy etc). Is there any place where other girls do the same and share motivation? Or any pages? If not, would people here be interested in a ✨girly ✨motivation community? 🌸