my boss is a 50 smthing guy with a wife and kids. he’s a nice normal kinda guy but the things he does gives me creep vibes. he’ll playfully pretend to punch me, push me over and threaten to slap me if i don’t do smthing. he’s started grabbing my face and laughing about messing up my makeup. he’ll often make comments about how “naive” i am. and how male customers “only want one thing from a girl like” me. i find it weird knowing that he thinks im attractive. he’ll go “you can’t just stand there and look pretty, you are pretty, but you can’t just stand there”. i’ve caught him looking at my body. and he thinks im stupid. it makes work easier if i make a mistake because he’ll just put it down to me not being very bright.

i don’t feel very comfortable around him and i hate that he demeans me. there’s nothing to report tho, and i wouldn’t anyway. so idk

My last breakup has left me so afraid to never find someone. My first relationship was at 13, it lasted for 4 years. My second lasted 3 years. My most recent lasted 6 months. What this most recent breakup has taught me is even the most promising people can break your heart. And moving forward I am so terrified of heartbreak. I know this is stupid and cliche. But I’m so afraid. I do everything I can to love myself and focus on myself, but there’s still a yearning to just have that one person. Even if it’s a friendship, but I’ve still never felt that. It’s such a depressing feeling.

Today, I (17) dumped the trash. Normally my brother does that but it's now my job since he works now. Before they never were keen on me dumping the trash since "a girl doesn't do that" or something like that idk. We have a ring doorbell and one above the house so they can see everyone who leaves and enters. They weren't home today and there were bags so I went outside in the front and put them in the trashcan. I walked back inside. Nothing wrong. I'm wearing a blue shirt and some pink shorts, no bra because I'm not going anywhere and it's just a quick little thing.

They got home about an hour ago and the first thing my mom tells me is "did you dump the trash without a bra on?" I didn't say anything but she then tells me to put one on quickly, probably because of my dad saw on the doorbell. He's the one that always makes a huge thing about me walking out in the front yard with no bra on. I guess because neighbors could see or something. I really don't know besides "I shouldn't do it", probably a sexual reason.

I don't have big boobs (32 D) but they do bounce when I walk. My issue is that, it's not like I'm walking outside in a skimpy shirt. It's a blue t shirt. Not skin tight or anything. Just your average tee. I have breasts, they're going to bounce. It's not like it's super sexual or anything since I'm dumping trash. The neighbors aren't scoping through their windows to see me dump trash and they can't see my chest bounce from that far away anyway like what? I go out with a bra every time when I leave the house but I don't want to when I'm going to my front yard for one minute. I think they're like this since I'm the only girl (3 older boys) so they didn't have years of experience with how to deal with them. Just old views and old knowledge since theyre in their 50s (no offense to my older ladies). I just find it insanely weird how it's my dad that cares more about that than my mom (she'll scold me but won't be super harsh like my father)

Am I being irrational and just not understanding their point? Or are they doing too much? Thank you in advance.

Need some advice here! I have been dating my bf for 2 years and am struggling to find a gift for his parents that is nice but not too expensive, thoughtful but functional/gender neutral, and will travel well for a 18+ hour travel day (I am flying to visit them)! Last year I got them a nice candle, i think it was around $100 or so and that is the price I want to spend this year as well. They are not American, appreciate nice things, and don’t have a need for more gadgets/kick knacks/photos. They also make their own wine and olive oil so anything related to those is not really an option. Any tips? THANK U <3

The title says it all. I have nose hairs that love to poke out of my nose a lot. If you dealt with the same thing, what’s your method? Is it worth the trouble to laser it over time? Do you just wax occasionally? Or do you just pluck them as you see them?

Hello all! I just had a VERY painful cyst removed on my right ovary, and I have been prescribed Oxycodone for the pain. I know it’s normal to be on something like this after surgery but I have never taken anything this heavy before so it makes me a little nervous haha. I guess I’m asking if any of you have been on this before for pain, and especially after this specific type of surgery, and what your experience was so I can ease my mind/know what to expect. I’m only on day one after surgery and I’ve heard day two is a lot worse pain wise!😩😩Thank you in advance!!

This may sound like I am complaining or I am bragging, I don’t know. But I have hated my appearance my entire life. I remember looking in the mirror at 6 or 7 and wishing I didn’t look like me. It is still like that today and I am nearing 30.

I was sheltered for a large part of my life for undisclosed reasons and COVID. Within the last few years, I am socializing, going out in public, finding my style, etc. I have a group a friends now which is amazing, I have a job, etc etc. My life is a lot better in so many ways. But I am not understanding the attention I am getting. I am not understanding people staring at me, complimenting me, and assuming I have high self esteem because of the way I look. It is the opposite. I don’t see what they see. In my opinion, I don’t look like someone who should be getting this much attention or praise. I can’t tell if the comments are genuine, I can’t tell if it’s because the people in my life are just being nice, but then it happens with strangers and people I just met, and I get confused and weirdly defensive. Because I am thinking, what do they see? Don’t they see how ugly I am? Is this just a joke to make fun of me?

I look at pictures where people call me beautiful and all I can focus on are my flaws. I don’t see it. I get angry, I feel shameful and so embarrassed because I don’t understand what they see.

What do I do here? Do I just accept people think this way about me even though it feels wrong, like a joke? I just don’t understand.

I have been talking so much this week and woke up with a hoarse voice. I have a party tonight that is a going away party for ME which means I will be talking to literally every person. All the advice I see online is to rest my voice... That would be ideal but I just don't have that kind of time. I'm trying to talk as little as possible at work, but that's about all I can do. If it were any other party I would just not go but it's literally a party for me 😭

Any ideas? Already drinking tea...

My chin is getting irritated from kissing my new boo. Is there anything i can do to help with the irritation /prevent it from happening? Its just a short beard and i love it so i really dont wanna have to ask him to trim it or anything. Just want to help treat the irritation bumps and help prevent it in the future.

Women who were insecure about their darker vulvas and discoloration down there, and were scared to get intimate because of it. How did you get over that insecurity?

Im currently in that fase, and I do sometimes read that men don’t really care and stuff. But I view men on Reddit a little different than women lol. The women on here I feel like actually have a life, but the men here, I would believe they would have sex with anything so I shouldn’t follow their advice.

I'm 25, recently paused my PhD out of burnout and poor academic performance, and I have been living at home for the past few months. I'm thinking about mastering out but planning out the rest of my life is absolutely terrifying.

I was incredibly in love with this field, and without it I feel totally directionless. Right now I literally have 24/7 free time and I don't know what to do with it other than spending a few hours each day in a mental health support group. I have tried to self study during this time, literally anything within my major/field to see if there's something I can stick with, but I keep burning out and not finishing.

I would love to volunteer somewhere, but I don't know what I'd want to be doing and I don't want to spend this precious time getting experience in an area I don't see myself in long-term. I've applied to internships and jobs that my degrees make me qualified for, but these are long-game positions that require additional studying to even pass the interviews, that I'm competing against highly motivated undergrads for. I would apply to random retail or customer service roles just to fill my time and resume, but my parents don't want me working "those types of jobs" and would rather I continue studying at home, not earning money.

In the meantime, living with my parents is eating away at my soul. I argue and yell at them almost every day and then spend my evenings petrified of their death and feeling guilty about how completely ungrateful I'm acting. I resent them for telling me what to do with my life and career because I'm not learning to make decisions without my parents, but I also can see that since I turned 18 I haven't made many good decisions by myself. I'm about to turn 26 and lose health insurance, which means losing access to my support group and my medication unless my parents, who are close to retirement, bankroll these purchases while I'm unemployed. And I'm not doing anything. I feel so destabilized. No deadlines, no exams, no one expects me anywhere, nothing driving me, the only thing that gets me out of bed by 9am is the fact that I have to walk my dog.

People in my support group are people who struggle with real issues like being too depressed to fall asleep or wake up, failing out of college, internet addictions, other addictions, and I'm just there because I had to leave a career I was passionate about. What do I do? And why can't I do?

hi girlies, so I'm 15 years old and today while I was getting ready for a party I noticed how sloppy I look. My stomach is fat (not that much, but fat enough to see the tummy bulging) and how my thighs are so wide. I ended up feeling so insecure. I am currently 60-62 kgs and I'm like 5"8 or 5"7. can anybody please give me a full set of weight loss techniques to be ripped fast? Thank you so much!

I’m 25 but i have had absolutely 0 friends for about 5/6 years now i never used to be that bothered about it but now im really lonely and would love to be able to go out places with a friend or two, where the best place i could make friends? I’m a little socially awkward

Tell me I'm not the only one. What was your situation?

Also is there any reason I should be worried about it?

The balcony, windows in every room are all opened, great air, breeze, and ventilation here, yet whenever I cook something simple, whether it's rice or something with butter, boiling spices basically, it stinks up everything, and I just have an obsession for having the entire place smelling like fresh laundry, I wonder how I can do that?

im a 14yo girl and lately my hair has been thinning. i used to have very thick hair that my hair ties would break but now my hair has became normal sized and not thick anymore. if it stays at this ate ill be bald. it started thinning in august this year i am doing hair care and it wont stop. the shampoo i use is treseme keratin smooth if that helps. it might be nutrient deficiency? maybe? im starting to drink more water and eat more chicken but im just a kid i don't know what to do?? anyway if anyone can help please do!! oh and i also have some heat damage from straightening my hair but i stopped doing that but it still wont heal. and yes i did get it trimmed. its been months!!

To jump right into it: I have so much freaking stuff and I keep buying more freaking stuff. I'm a 26 year old grad student and I'm not rich. I've accepted the fact that I don't need and simply can't have this many things and I certainly can't justify buying anything new until I significantly downsize.

I saw something on tiktok about not buying any beauty/skin care products until you're done with all of your old ones. I decided I'm going to slightly revamp it and throw out anything that's too old or really bad quality. This could easily take me a year for a lot of my stuff-- I don't think I'm gonna run out of eyeshadow until I'm 40.

Clothes are where it's harder. I counted and I have 15 pairs of jeans, 10 cardigans, more than 20 crewneck sweatshirts, and so many tops and sweaters I can't even count. The most unbelievable to me was that I have 6 full blown winter coats.

It's so hard to just throw things away because of that "what if you're gonna wanna wear this on a random thursday in 2 months?" thought. Also, the stuff that's like "sentimental" but you never wear it (like your senior class hoodie, or your only remaining sorority sweatshirt)-- I can't bring myself to throw it away but I simply do not have enough space and I'm surrounded by clutter. I got rid of about 30 things today just by tearing through my drawers and closet and throwing out the stuff that's extremely old, stained, or I just hate it for one reason or another (or listing it on Poshmark).

I still need to get rid of so much more and need advice about how to sort through all of it. One of my plans is if I wanna buy something new, I need to get rid of 2 of that thing I already have. Like if I want jeans, I need to get rid of 2 pairs of jeans or just keep wearing what I have. I want to get to point where I'm content with my stuff (and I like it )and not overwhelmed by it.

Not too expensive!!

Hi everyone! I’m 20F and a junior in college. Although I’ve had my ups and downs with body image throughout my teen years, I’ve noticed it more during my college experience, especially after developing a chronic illness.

I have always been midsize (both body shape and height), but since getting sick, I’ve lost about 25 pounds due to symptoms, but still am midsize and curvier than most girls my age. I’ve noticed since losing weight and having a chronic illness, I’ve found it harder to be confident in my body; it doesn’t work the way that it used to, and even if it has changed in physical appearance, it doesn’t necessarily look the way I had hoped. I definitely love my body now more than ever for the things I am able to do, but I still really struggle loving the way it looks.

This is definitely holding me back from dating. While I’m a very extroverted, involved person and have no problem talking to guys, I get really scared to pursue ones that I’m interested in (or even ones who’ve shown interest in me), because I’m worried about my body and whether or not that’d be a turn off. I tend to be attractive towards small, skinny, athletic men, and that also makes me more nervous about them accepting or appreciating my body. During my two years in college, I’ve done lots of self reflection and self exploration, but this is one area while I’m still struggling. Thanks in advance for any tips or advice 🫶

I (18F) just bought a vibrator for the first time, and i’ve never had sex beforehand so I’m unsure if this is a me problem or like a universal issue. It’s a rabbit vibrator and it just came in the mail today so i was super excited to use it, but when I went to put it in (after cleaning it and lubing it up obvi) it wouldn’t? I tried to ease it in but it was kinda painful and it just wouldn’t get in. Like at most there was a few centimeters in. I’m kinda bummed that it isn’t working but I wanted to get some advice to see if there’s something i should do to help it before i just throw it away.

I have recently realized a problem that I have every time I like someone, and it is that usually when someone falls in love they feel symptoms like tachycardia or nerves and like everyone else I also have those symptoms when I fall in love, the problem is that even though I am not averse to love, every time I feel symptoms of falling in love I can't help but feel diacomfort, you know that kind of discomfort where you just want that feeling to disappear but accompanied with nice thoughts of my crush, And as I said, my discomfort is not with falling in love itself, but with the symptoms that falling in love entails

Experience? Daughter had a bad experience and freaking out due to the chemicals used and every time she showers her hair smells bad

for referance, im 5'2 and 126 lb

im gonna start being sexually active for the first time with a man so ill be wearing them alot more

now, im not fat per say but im not like size xxs VS angel either

i have some fat on my arms, thighs, and belly which you otherwise wouldnt have been able to tell even if i wear tight clothing.

i also have some acne scars over my body, as well as stretch marks on my butt,

well i went lingerie shopping today because im moving in with my man and im finally ready to be active, and i literally was so so so insecure. hes someone who is very very well built and i just feel sooo insecure even thinking about wearing all this in front of him becuase ill look fat and he will be turned off by me.

i also have never even worn a bikini before because i feel like i dont look perfect

i obviously know not all girls are VS model built and thats okay!! but how do you all feel comfirtable in these kinda clothes esp wearing bikinis to the beach or even lingerie for a man.

Just wondering what people are getting their friends for xmas? gift giving isn't big in my group (usually we do secret santa but it didn't work out this year) but i'd like to get/make them something small. i'm pretty crafty so handmade is on the table but i'd like to avoid spending a lot on additional supplies. what's something you would want to receive?

So for context I am an esports player, I have been working incredibly hard over the past 2 years in college trying to figure out myself and finally heal myself from a bunch of trauma. Genuinely going great, I no longer compare myself to other women in looks or how far they are in life or anything of the sort. I managed to pretty much stop one of my insecurities from PTSD all on my own after about a week. This was a huge thing and finally escaped it with one of the best states in my life, and led to my current boyfriend now. However, I am really struggling with one thing. I am the esports team captain of the lower team at my school. Only woman on the team with one nonbinary person. My boyfriend and close friend were on my team before but then moved up. I wasn’t allowed to move up for multiple reasons but one being I was the only one qualified to be team captain for the lower team. I know because of many events I ended up getting burnt out while being on two different medication changes (one starting bc and the other dropping one of my anti anxiety and depression medications which has had massive withdrawal affects). However, I am really struggling to try and keep myself motivated and not comparing myself to my boyfriend, friend, and others who are better who have been able to work on the game for longer. I have been trying so much but I can’t really do it. I am turning off chat at my coaches request and going to attempt to ignore my rank, but I still find myself comparing myself to them 24/7. I feel a need to try and get better, but this pressure I am putting on myself(which I am having hard time stopping) is killing me. I struggle to not be jealous of the varsity team’s successes and with the horrendous stress of trying to maintain a starter and constant position on my team. I was a sub last year and got like no playtime, and I really don’t want to be subbed out for games anymore. My coach has just gotten fed up with my emotions which led to me being forcibly put on break, and I go to therapy but to be honest my therapist isn’t helping with that aspect since she can’t relate. I can’t really talk to anyone as my team is just guys who aren’t really comparing themselves to others. Doesn’t help that I tend to self depreciate and people keep reminding me when I self depreciate when normally ignoring it will help more(or at least suppress it). It’s something I still can’t shake from when I was really depressed. Is there any advice from anyone in sports or anything. I find it hard to ask guys for advice because all they say is just to stop, but my brain won’t let me just stop. They can try and relate, but it just isn’t a problem for them. Many are unfortunately making it worse but I don’t have anyone else to go to.

i know every social media ultimately ends up flooded with influencers bc it makes money and shareholders are the ultimate customer. but does anyone know of anything new-ish that hasn’t hit this point yet? like instagram before it was bought by meta and ruined. every social media now has an algorithm to shove stuff in my face (usually ragebait) and i basically never see any posts from people i actually know irl anymore. ofc there’s like real friends that i can text and hang out with but like i like seeing what random old friends from high school are up to!

i like reddit bc i can still scroll through a feed sorted by new or rising, it’s not perfect but it’s better than the influencer oversaturation on every other site. i love snapchat bc i can flip through friends’ stories organically (don’t even get me started on how much i hate insta stories) but like no one uses it anymore. never used twitter or tiktok but i think they have algorithms too. been hearing stuff about blue sky but it seems to be mostly for following celebs/politicans/influencers like twitter?

maybe i’m just getting old 🤷🏻‍♀️

Especially on social media.

I feel like I’ll never be one of the cool girls in my city. I know Instagram isn’t real life and there are good things about me too. But, it’s hard for me to stop looking at myself and feeling like other people do everything I do but better.

ive had sex a lot in my life but i dont find masturbating enjoyable. it doesnt feel the same. i have a 7 inch dildo but it cant compare to the feeling/warmth of a real one. i have a vibrator but its a hastle leaving it there and once the pressure is too much i stop. this causes me to not be able to release.

does anyone have any advice for this? or any recommendations for a sex toy that would meet my needs? ive actually never finished before, even with sex, but i believe a lot of my sex related issues are the result of me being asexual (demisexual)

I'm back on Hinge and struggling to revamp my profile. I do get a good amount of likes and roses, but very rarely do they prompt conversations. What are your tried and true prompts that spark a convo right off the bat?

Note my profile does have other personal things that give them an idea of who I am and what I like. Just looking for a good opener