Well, I would like to receive advice from other women, advice and tips are welcome ✨💕💕💕

I'm 31 years, female, and usually before I have sex my vagina is soak with wetness. Lately it hasn't been that way. I've been having to use a Lil lube to help with the friction at the beginning.

I've notice before I started drinking last night my vagina was getting wet just from looking at my significant other. After I drunk some alcohol, it wasn't as wet. Usually when I drink alcohol I get extra horny and my vagina be wet asf. It hasn't been like that lately.

Can alcohol dry your vagina out? Is it doing this because I'm getting older in age? Should I cut off alcohol completely?

I'm trying to get comfortable with the fact that it's normal to use lube. I've just been super wet my whole life and I'm just not used to this.

And if anybody would like to recommend any supplements or tea thats good for ovaries and vagina health please do.

i hate the way i look in them and cringe when i see myself in photos, my smile is so awkwardd. also i feel like it'd look better if i had my eyebrows done (they're a weird shape ugh) but im not allowed to :(

I'm moving out of my parents house for the first time, and I'm doing it alone. I'm a woman in my 20s, pretty anxious and paranoid. The house I viewed yesterday was really cute in a great location, but I discovered that there is no alarm, which I'm used to having at home. I see a lot of tips online about getting dogs, installing cameras and ring doorbells and motion lights etc, but it would be a rental so I wouldn't be allowed do any of that. I also live in a country where guns and pepper spray are illegal, I'm not physically strong, and there is no bedroom door for a last line of defense. I love the place but I can't stop having graphic visions of what a home invasion might look like in that house.

Would it be smarter to write it off and only look at higher-floor apartments instead? I don't want to miss a good opportunity because I'm living in fear, but I also don't want to be constantly paranoid while I'm alone at home.

My therapist and I are trying to work through my severe depressive episode at the moment. Each day she wants me to complete 2 small goals/ activities for the day. We plan it out together each week but I’m running out of ideas. Some we use are read/crochet for 10min, skincare, making tea, lighting a candle, watch a funny show, work on my vision board for 10 min, and such. She wants to come up with new ones but I can’t seem to think of any. Does anyone have any ideas?

I keep seeing girls with this pick vibrator in going crazy., some even 2.( it looks fun) Its long with a blue at the end. I think it beeps and is self controlled. ( keep hearing a beep and vibrator looks like it does what it wants)

Please help.

Hey to all wondering like me it's the Lovense Lush 2. Thank you Cultural-Afternoon72! It's 100$ which is steep for me but I think it would be worth it. Now I've also been recommended the  air vibe. Should I get both or just the Lovense Lush 2? Are they too similar? I never scene the air vibe in action before so I really don't know if its for me, I just been recommend a lot. This is my 1st sex toy by the way if that makes any difference.

I’ll go first

“Just love yourself” - ok thanks Sarah, but HOW?!

What about you guys? Please share 🫠🙃

Hi girls,

Lazy girl in crisis here, I’m about to get laid off from my job in a few months. Was a remotely ok paid job as a translator, but it used a bit too much of brain juice for my liking if I have to be honest. So, I’m looking to find another career path atm. Pitch me some jobs who would fit what I’m looking for. I don’t mind going back to school or whatever by the way, I just find no ideas for the criteria i’m looking for:

-job which requires to talk to the least people possible. The more I’m in my corner and can just go home after my shift the better.

-not badly paid, well paid even

-desk job (basically, I just want to be sitting)

-doesn’t use too much of my brain. For example, not a software engineer. Uses too much of my brain juice. I can use some brain juice, but not for 8 hours. If you get me

-Something easy

-low stress/low pressure job

Waiting to hear your suggestions or experiences

My boobs look way too big for my body, I’m 5’3. Id try exercise but I’m currently underweight so that’s probably not a good idea. Are there any options I have other than surgery??

Hi,

Basically the title, i am wondering if you have ever tried the injection. And what was the recovery time, was it painful, do they numb the area properly before? How long did it take to see the results and do u have to go every week or something?

(Wasn’t sure what flair to use - lol)

Thank you

Every time I try to blow dry my hair it always takes so long and when I'm finally done it's always suuuuper frizzy. Like hermione

I used to wash my hair about 2-3 times a week, and then every other day, but now I find that I HAVE to wash my hair ever night because otherwise it gets all stringy and clumpy and greasy in the front. Most people and when I ask google it says to wash your hair less frequently, but I can't really do that. I have a patch of dandruff on the side of my face that gets really bad if i don't wash it regularly, and if i let my hair get too greasy a bunch of little itchy scabs cover my scalp. And inevitably, I itch one and then it bleeds 😩. So how do I fix my greasy ahh hair without having to wash it every day? Also btw dry shampoo doesn't really work for me.

My gyno recommended I start using a period tracker to track my cycle now that I'm off BC, but I'm a little concerned about using an app that may not keep my data private. I'm in the US FWIW, in a solidly blue state, but still concerned about the direction reproductive rights are headed....

I know I could track my cycle on paper, but I want an accurate way to know when I'm ovulating so I can avoid sex around that time. An app would be so convenient, I'm just worried about data privacy and want to know how rational those fears are.

Any advice?? xx

I have never had this issue with any of my exes in the past and so sex was enjoyable for me… but my fiancée of a year is literally huge down there (like 8.5 inches) and it hurts like hell every time we have sex :( is there anyway to help with this? Tbh I’ve been very stingy with sex w him bc it hurts so bad and I’ve made up sm excuses and I feel bad 😞 it’s not fair to him and I want to make this work so please any advice is welcome!!!

I exclusively wear thongs and while i find the seamless ones to be comfortable and look best under clothes i feel like they retain moisture too much? Like if I use a flushable wipe down there or if I wear them to the gym or something they feel lowkey wet and gross after and stay that way? my issue with cotton is a lot of them feel too bulky and the seams look bad and they get rough in the wash. dont even get me started on lace lmao. Anyone experienced a similar issue or have some fabric or brand recs?

Hey yall, I'm so sick and tired of the stains I have on all my black bras and shirts. Does anyone have a good clear deodorant recommendation? (None of that gross jelly crap and please no crystal deodorant. I don't wanna smell like BO)

I left a post a while ago abt getting my first PAP sooo update! I'm 22, a virgin, don't even use tampons, and... oh my god it hurt. It wasn't as painful as I was anticipating to be honest but still very rough. I took pain meds before I went but it honestly didn't do much to help me. (I should have taken something stronger...) My nurse and the doctor were both very nice and understood when I said I was anxious about it but I was tense the whole time. My doctor talked me through the whole thing and the nurse was there to chaperone and reassure me but it was so stressful that I felt like crying. They had to go through 3 different speculums to get a small enough one for me. The nurse and the doctor kept talking and reassuring me and tbh I wanted to tell them to shut up at first because I was so overwhelmed but after the speculum was in, I needed the distraction. I had just (kind of) relaxed, but as soon as it opened the stretch hurt so bad. I told her it hurt and I almost asked her to stop but I didn't want to go through it again so I just told her to keep going. The scraping/brushing honestly wasn't as painful as I thought it would be, I barely felt it (but that might have been because I was so focused on trying to breathe). It felt like it lasted forever but it was barely a minute. They left me alone to get dressed but I took a minute to just sit by myself because I was tense and shaky after. They gave me some wipes to clean myself off and there wasn't much blood (just a couple spots) and I'm still sore and cramping. I treated myself to ice cream and cried about it after. I feel lowkey violated but I'm glad they were nice about it at least. I've just been depressed about it all day but I'm trying to cope :(

hi! teenage girl (17) here! fortunately, i haven't been dismissed because I'm a girl. UNFORTUNATELY, I've been dismissed and walked over because i:

-don't stand up for myself

-speak like a sad victorian child

-am too scared to "be mean"

-am likely neurodivergent (family dismisses my mental health concerns so i can't get diagnosed)

-used to be religious and people still see me as "the christian girl" in their minds.

-give off sheltered homeschooled kid vibes

i love my family, but it's hard to assert myself with them sometimes; i think thats the root of my behavior. sometimes my feelings and negative symptoms are dismissed. i can't show "attitude", and my mom and sister insists their way is right (for trivial things like clothing or what degree to get in college).

(for example, I'm still mad at them because a few weeks ago, they both blew up at me because i didn't wear a coat while going shopping with my friend. we were inside 90% of the time and it was only 40-ish degrees outside. no matter HOW MANY DAMN TIMES i told them i was not cold and I didn't want to bring it, they forced me to. even my friend said they were being a bit extra)

i can't blame my family forever, though. i know better, so i gotta do better, but its so hard to change. my passivity has bled into interactions with my peers. I'm known as being "too nice" or "too soft". i feel like I'm taken as a joke. some peers talk to me like I'm a little kid. its so annoying, man :(

Im 21yr old F & I kinda have a strange question, but I'm kind of left without any real answers from doctors so maybe you guys can help.

from the age of 16 to 21 l've had at least 25 sexual partners that were men majority of them being when I was 16 to 17 due to me having a manic episode and crashing out, but thats besides the point.

i've noticed now that I'm older that the sex that I thought I was enjoying back then and more so recently I haven't really been enjoying. I will say I do have issues with hormonal imbalances and there is a possibility for endometriosis as well as PCOS and I also have a very tight pelvic floor which unfortunately men can enjoy, but I can't and I've just noticed that when I have sex it kind of almost feels like nothing it doesn't hurt, but it doesn't feel good either. It just feels like it's happening in the moment.

and l've had all different types of penis sizes, including big in length big in girth small in length small in girth , curved and not curved and l've never really found true pleasure. I think majority of my pleasure came from the fact that I was having sex with a man that I wanted to have sex with, but I never really felt that defined satisfaction. some people say penetration should feel like satisfying and itch or that comfort you get when you scratch and itch, but I don't feel that level of satisfaction or any satisfaction for that matter and I do masturbate with clitoris stimulation, which does kind of get me off, but not a lot and I never use penetration in my masturbation sessions. I've tried once or twice, but it doesn't get me off because I think majority of my sexual arousal comes from the fact that it's from a person.

but no matter who I have sex with whether it's a casual hook up or somebody I was in a relationship with it doesn't seem to make me satisfied after it's done and I will say I've had better sex with people that l've liked, but it still wasn't a lot. Also, I don't really get a lot of pleasure from head. I think l've only had pleasure from head twice and it took 30 minutes for me to even get there and I'm just not sure if I really enjoy sex penetration wise and I'm not even sure if I know what it feels like. I also do enjoy sex with women in a sense because giving oral sex to women does turn me on and pleasing woman does turn me on but when they try to please me back it just doesn't get me there. I don't understand why but it doesn't and I'm just trying to figure out like am l asexual or am I demisexual or do l have more underlying health conditions that can affect the way I enjoy sex and maybe my expectations are too high but I don't even know what l'm expecting anymore because I don't know what penetration is supposed to feel like when it's good but I know that the way other women react to sex isn't the way I react and 9/10 when I'm crying and moaning during sex it's not because it feels really good, but it's just really overwhelming and every time l "finish" it's because I'm just really overwhelmed.

so if anyone can relate or has a similar experience or may have any knowledge, please give me some insight because I'm driving myself crazy over this and I really wanna have enjoyable sex and I wanna have something to look forward to, but I don't even know what I'm looking forward to anymore.

Hii I’m 25 and I finally trying to figure out what to do with my life. I know I don’t want to go to college for years and I’m currently working jobs that don’t pay enough to live off of. I was wondering if anyone knew any jobs that pay well with little schooling or a certificate? I just want a simple life. A job I can wfh while paying my bills and having money left over. I was looking into medical coding or cyber security. I don’t know where to start any advice would help! 🩷

Just wanted to share that I’m going to the gym alone for the first time ever, and at 6pm so a busy time! So nervy but proud of myself and don’t have anyone else to tell. I’ve only been about 10 times with a friend. I’ll probably have to awkwardly wait for machines but oh well. Treating myself to the tanning bed after (don’t judge pls)!

I’m new to dating. I just downloaded Bumble and made a profile this week. I think it’s going pretty well so far but I wanna hear what you guys use as your openers. Mine’s the question about what TV would you be the main character in. But I’m thinking about changing it.

My Gran got me a gift certificate for a fancy spa for Christmas, and it includes a massage! Part of me is SO hyped because who doesn't want a massage? But the other part of me is kinna freaking out. I've never had one before! I've tried Googling, and I get the basics - shower, drink water, you can wear underwear or not?

But I'm still clueless. What's a massage actually like? Is it awkward? How can I enjoy it? What are the dos and donts? And since it's a gift certificate, is the tip already included? I don't want to be rude or anything. Help a girl out! 💅💆‍♀️

I just had to go to the pharmacy to get a pill and cream thrush treatment because I think I have thrush. The pharmacist asked a few questions like if I had changed soap brands recently (no), have I brought new underwear recently (yes). I I went and checked the underwear I brought, usually I get cotton because it's breathable but I had brought a set of nylon with a cotton crotch bit sown on and a set polyester with the same cotton crotch bit. Should I just bin them and replace them with full cotton underwear? I haven't had thrush since I was a little kid so I am guessing it's the underwear

I sometimes feel so afraid of turning 30 when I am trying to set my carrier(freshly out of med school) don't have stable relationship, parents pressuring me to marry when I have nothing sort out, have no investments. While I see other people who choose a different carrier are investing, travelling, partying I feel like I wasted so much of my life and still lagging behind.

I wanted to make this post for anyone suffering from chronic UTIs specifically after intercourse. With that said, this isn't medical advice, just something that has worked for me , and I realize not everyone is the same.

I was getting a UTI every 2 months for 2 years after intercourse with my husband. I thought I was doing everything right (showering before, peeing after, etc) but they continued every 2-3 months. Doctors were helpful in the treatment of the infection, but were absolutely no help in prevention. I finally discovered what worked for me and have not had a UTI in 2 years.

First of all, treat your infections. Do not wait or try and pee it out. Take medicine.

Next, do not have sex for 2 months after infection. Let your body and mind heal.

Now for the fun part. TMI, but I discovered that after switching from using toilet paper to wet wipes was a huge game changer. I was using toilet paper after #2 and I wiped until clean, as is how my culture (usa) operates. I never had marks on my underwear or any indication that I was not clean. The problem is that toilet paper doesn't pick up everything and it can't be seen what gets left. Now, I will use toilet paper for the first two wipes and finish up with a wet wipe now until nothing is on the wipe. And trust me when I say, it picks up debris that toilet paper leaves behind every time. I truly cannot believe we are taught that toilet paper is hygienic. Now that's not all, when you wipe, this is gross but it must be said, push the wet wipe in your anus slightly until clean. There may be more mess, especially if you have hemmeroids or inflammation in that region.

OK, now we've gone over proper wiping. The next important thing is drinking water. I used to think as long as I peed after sex, I was good to go. Wrong. You must drink a lot of water for the next two days. For this reason, during my first year recovering from UTIs, I did not have sex after 6pm because it did not allow me to pee enough before bed. If I can pee 4 times before bed, I feel comfortable. You want to pee immediately after sex, and at least 4-5 times after before sleeping. Do not allow any bacteria to become a resident. Day 2, you are still drinking lots of water and peeing during the day. Do not water poison yourself, but just make sure you are well hydrated and peeing every 2-3 hours. By the time you are on day 3, you are pretty safe and can drink normally. I also want to mention I never had issues drinking other beverages such as soda, coffee, or juice as long as I had the same amount of water.

I also want to mention that while recovering, I only had sex once every 3-4 days so I could know if I got a UTI, what i did wrong. If I had sex every night, or every other night, it would be difficult to determine when I got it and why.

A few more tips, my husband and I shower and wipe before sex every time. We have our fun, I wipe again, pee, and shower (in that order). And then commence the 2 days of good hydration. I have taken D- mannose as well after sex but I'm not sure if it's more of a mental safety blanket or if it really helps, but it's cheap and can't hurt.

I have not stopped taking baths, eating sugar, or have taken a prebiotic regularly (other than after antibiotics). My problem in the end was improper wiping, leading to improper hygiene, and improper water intake after.

It's not fun to have to be so regimented, but after 2 years I have been able to enjoy sex again and I'm not scared.

I hope this helps someone!

I'm so tired of letting myself go like this every time. Whenever I have school, then uni or whatever. I get so obsessed with finishing assignments or work that it becomes the only thing I'm doing for weeks. And suddenly something happens and I'm back at the same timeline as people who didn't put as much effort (either we get extended time for everyone, work doesn't need the stuff i did by the deadline they said ect)

I hate it so much. I just do over the top. How do I let go and actually keep time to take care of myself? I want to always look and feel good. I literally can't sleep or eat or do anything well until work or an assignment is done. And it's bad cause those assignments or work related stuff is always coming.

I need to do something about it.

I went to the gynecologist for the first time, she didn't do much since I'm still a virgin and it was just a control. I came back home and I don't know why, but I felt incredibly disgusted and uncomfortable. The thing is, she didn't do anything wrong: she was professional, kind and did what she had to do, not even getting in but just examining the outside. I couldn't stop feeling bad, and I ended up crying for minutes, and I still feel so stressed... I never had negative experiences or traumas, I've just been very embarrassed to show my private areas my whole life, I couldn't even to my mother. Is it normal to feel this bad?