So this is kinda embarrassing but I (19f) am so terrified of anything with a guy, even kissing a guy unless I’m drunk. When I’m sober I feel so awkward and embarrassed doing everything and I also can’t initiate anything because I feel like I’m doing everything wrong and i’m being judged. How do I get over this?

So I've been using Carefree brand liners for quite some time, because I'm a college student and I change my liner multiple times a day and they're cheap. But after the recent lawsuit and a couple cancer (unrelated but still) diagnoses in the family, I'm getting worried. I'm worried about the pads I use as well— I typically buy Always brand. I bleed VERY heavily, and usually on the first couple days I use overnight underwear (basically postpartum underwear) every hour. I go through a lot of pads, which can be a big expense.

I don't really know what to do. Should I risk it to save money? A lot of people recommend reusable cotton pads but I would soak through one in ten minutes, plus I clot really bad. And when I'm not on my period, I have an insane amount of discharge which is why I use liners. Again, I'm a college student and pretty much my entire paycheck from my part time job goes to groceries. I'm having a hard time getting myself to spend the extra few dollars.

as the title states, i suffer from hip and back pain. i was an athlete for most of my childhood all the way up until i graduated and always had pretty bad lower back pain. after graduating high school (i am now 21) i saw a orthopedic for my pain and she found a that i had an extra vertebrae just over my tailbone as well as the sockets of my hips being extremely shallow, causing my hips to rub against the socket. this has in turn caused me extreme discomfort and pain.

i have been going to PT for a while now but haven’t seen super great results, and my pain feels deeper down inside. i’ve been looking into this and came across pelvic floor PT.

has anyone had any success with pelvic floor PT for back pain or hip pain? i am young and want to do things without being restricted by my pain, so ill try anything. thanks in advance!!

does anyone know where to get underwear to sleep in? for some background, i’m looking for something that’s 100% cotton bc i’m a little sensitive down there, and without a seam running down the middle because i find those to be uncomfortable! but still cute? does anything like that exist out there? pls help :’)

I really hate how revealing modern women's swimsuits are, does anyone know of any good websites to buy more modest ones? I would love to wear swim trunks, but I don't like sticking out...In my opinion, it should be normalized that woman can wear swim trunks if they want to.

I’m sorry ive been posting so much on here lately but I just want to talk. I think I’m dealing with a type of OCD thats common but misunderstood. I’ve been crying a lot lately because I think theres something wrong with me and I can’t tell my parents. Every time I look upset my mom asks me whats wrong. If I say nothing she makes me tell her whats wrong. But I can’t tell her whats wrong. What do I do?

I am 5”2 125 lb with 2 years of weightlifting. Did not care about my diet and now I’m “fluffier” than where I started. I want to lose that excess body fat. Mostly carry fat on my back, arms, and lower back belly. Could I just go on a calorie deficit without an emphasis on protein? I’m honestly tired of a high protein intake and my body just craves whole fruits more. I plan to implement 3 moderate lifting days with 10k steps daily. Will I be able to achieve this?

idk if this is the correct sub reddit but I couldn’t find a woman’s fashion related one but ……

can someone please recommend me a thin, mid length, winter coat that DOES NOT HAVE A HOOD

and no crazy pattern. just a regular degular coat

please, holy beans, all I ask is no hood but those seem to not exist anymore

it's like I open the camera app and I love the way I look so I take a picture, then when I go and look at the picture I look like a completely different person? I have multiple devices and they all do the same thing, I'm thinking that maybe it's an android issue since all my devices are android but I'm not sure

I’ve been trying thongs on and off for years, I like how I look in them and I mostly like the feel. But I’ve been struggling for years to get used to the feeling.

My main problem is, I get this terrible chafe/rubbed raw by the string right above my asshole and under my tailbone.

I’ve been suggested to size up, so I did, but I had the same problem despite the fact that the thong was clearly too big and fabric was hanging about an inch from my body. I tried sizing down too but that obviously did not work.

I’ve also been suggested to try different brands and materials. I’ve probably tried 2 dozen brands and another dozen materials but it all ends up the same. Tried different cuts too like Brazilian and tanga so it wasn’t just the style.

I don’t want to accept that my body just doesn’t like thongs, I crave that “feels like wearing nothing” feeling I see everyone talk about.

I just want to make sure I’m wearing them correctly at this point? Are they supposed to rest on top of (not in) your crack? Are they supposed to go between your cheeks but not touching your skin around your asshole? Or are they supposed to be touching your skin around your vulva/asshole from top to bottom?

Do I just need to keep wearing them until my body gives in and stops the chafe/raw feeling? Is this a willpower thing? I am plus sized if that’s relevant.

Any advice would be grateful, I don’t want to give up!

Sorry for the awkward picture but does this happen to anyone else and do any of you know why? Every time I go to sit down, my jeans slip down like this and expose my lower back. Every brand too. I even sized up 2 WHOLE SIZES since my last jeans purchase a couple years ago since I’ve gained a little weight, and still they’re doing this. Please help a girl out because I’m at my wits end here :’)

So I'm not into any relationship nor I'm activity looking for one. I am doing okayish in my career. I am looking forward to be in a relationship but after i think a year.

I do have preferences about my dream man.

But why on the earth i judge myself based on society standards about good girl?

Like i am all for feminism and i value my career and my autonomy and my freedom.

But why do i see myself from his pov? Why do i see myself from his eyes? Why am i changing myself according to him? Why do i think like will he like this dress or it's too reveling acc to him before buying the dress i like ?

Here him is typical man or i should say society.

I don't want to define myself according to anyone. I want my own identity, my own aura, my own attitude towards my own life.

I don't understand why on the earth i think like this when i myself am modern, not conservative woman.

I don't need to think anything before buying the dress i like, wearing the makeup the way i want to, wear my fav heels, watching certain movies or series, speaking certain way etc etc.

Why is he inside my mind and controls my day to day life and how i behave?

How can i become my whole self, just me, free of those beliefs?

Hey y’all, 19F

I’m dealing with stress hives for the first time in my life, and I’m struggling to manage them! I’m a first-year nursing student, and exam results have been coming out this week, which has been so incredibly stressful. Between waiting for grades and dealing with everything else, I guess my body decided to revolt.

The hives are itchy and uncomfortable, and I have no idea how to calm them down or stop them from flaring up. I’ve tried a cool compress, but it’s only helping a little.

If anyone’s been through this, I’d love to hear how y’all deal with stress hives, whether it’s products, routines, or just general advice to manage stress better. Thanks so much for any help!

I did pass my exams, almost barely passed one but I'm still feeling a bit stressed.

This new year I want to feel more confident about my body. I like how I feel when I am wear "sexier" pieces of bras & underwear, but they aren't something I can wear with my everyday clothes without people noticing. Can someone recommend me some styles/brands are comfortable and discrete that I can wear everyday? I'm not referring to the fun print ones, more like lace and frills.

Bonus: Recommend me some more "fun" ones that I can wear at home.

I feel like my workdays are now just work, eat, sleep and repeat.

I don't have many hobbies so I just scroll on my phone for free time. It gets dark at 5 now so I don't really feel like commuting anywhere especially since i finish work at 6.

When people talk about the freedom that being single provides and the time to do whatever they want. What does that mean? I want to know what it's like because right now I don't really do anything.

I’ve been trying to lift myself back up lately. Guess it’s that time of year when everything feels extra reflective. The year’s ending, and I’m looking back on all that’s happened. Being far from family and loved ones especially during the holidays when everyone’s surrounded by their loved ones, it’s hard not to feel a little lonely.

I’ve been going back to my comfort habits like singing along to my fav playlist, grabbing a coffee, or going for a hot girl walk to clear my head. But honestly, sometimes even those don’t hit the same. It’s like that feeling when you’re so low, even the smallest thing like if someones touching to your shoulder can make your cry.

So, I’m curious what do you do to recharge your girly energy when you’re feeling down? I’d love to hear your little go-to pick-me-ups or even the big mood-changers that help you feel like yourself again 🫶🏻🥹

I’m at my wits end with this. After a single use, my towels smell like sweat so strongly that the whole bathroom smells of it. I shower every single day, use shower gel (obviously) and the strangest thing is that I don’t particularly have a strong BO under my arms (my wife can attest to this - she also has no explanation why this is happening to my towels and not to hers).

I feel it does come from my armpits - no matter how much I scrub, shave, use shower gels - after drying it smells. (And again, I dont have strong BO usually).

It’s so gross and is extremely frustrating. Does anyone deal with this as well? Do I have to use paper towels to dry my armpits for the rest of my life? Please help 😭

I've been dating a guy since two weeks ago and we've been on a few dates. There's not much to do in our town that doesn't cost much money. He pays for everything and doesn't let me pay for stuff lol. I still feel guilty about making him spend money since we're both 18. We've visited the science museum, claw machine places, and movie theatre. I know I value quality time with everyone, and that it doesn't matter where we go as long as we have fun. He planned our first date and I know I should be helping plan but I'm indecisive as hell.

This is my first experience dating too and I've told him that upfront. I went to his house and we watched movies and played roblox and that was super fun. I just don't know what we should do on our date on Sunday. Any ideas?

(...said the former nail-biter.)

Hey everyone! I’m 19 and I’m getting all four of my wisdom teeth out in a few months with general anesthesia. It’s a while away, but I am totally freaked out lol. I’m absolutely TERRIFIED of needles, and this is probably the only thing I’m stressing over. Can they give you the laughing gas first to calm you down? I feel like that’s the only way I could be relaxed enough 😅 sorry if this is overdramatic. If anyone could make me feel better I would greatly appreciate it! :)

i was wondering if there are any good free period apps out there. i was looking around and all ask for subscriptions and idk if willing to commit to them like that immediately without being able to test them for free

My roomate has it all. Perfect body, hair, and a handsome boyfriend that picks her up every night. She pursuing a PhD too right after her undergrad and I just can’t help but compare myself to her.

It’s so hard since she’s in the same house as me all the time and not like I can ignore her. My boyfriend lives 12 hrs away from me by car and it makes the whole thing affect me even more lol. How do you actually stop comparing yourself to the “perfect” people around you? At this point it’s affecting me more than it should and I feel really low.

Edit: I didn’t know it’d get so much attention. Thank you everyone for the lovely responses!

Most of you advised about doing my own work and improving myself . The thing is, I already do but I’m not perfect; I worked hard to get into research, have a strict skincare routine, red light therapy and all, workout 5-6 days a week and I’m happy with my body.

I meant to say, some days you see something in someone and you just want to be them, not you and better, but you want exactly that they have if it makes sense.

Im not gonna keep this up for long im just wondering if anyone can give advice. Im with my first sexual partner but im having trouble with genital stimulation, it feels good but idk i just overwhelmed suddenly and make him stop. I cant explain it it just becomes too intense? I also tend to bleed during any insertion i dont know what thats about.

Alcohol has never had a good effect on my mental health, and with the new medication I’m on I really just don’t want to drink at all. I had two drinks today to celebrate graduation with my classmates and it left me with a head ache and so tired. Also, I just don’t feel like I really get anything out of it anymore.

The difficult part is making new friends without drinking. I’m 22 and SO much bonding is and getting to know people is centered around going out and getting drunk. I still like to go out, but if I’m the only one not drinking I just feel like it’s not the same.

I just want friends who like to go out and do cute little things or go out to dinner. I hate that alcohol has to be involved in everything.

I always made friends through drinking in my past, so now I’m at a lost. Even with work friends, I feel like they wanna go out and drink and that’s how you get actually close with them.

Any advice is appreciated

hi! i like soft pastel colors, flower prints, pink, white, dresses, skirts, pants (certain type), sweaters, cardigan, really feminine clothing. i was looking at outfit inspo on pinterest, but there's not a lot of good stuff. if you like this style to, are there any outfits you usually wear?

I’m starting to travel more for work - 2-3 day trips & trying to improve my system so I pack quickly and light (backpack or carry-on tote) so I don’t have to wait for luggage carousel.

So for those of you that travel frequently (or just those that are really good at packing) - What are the essentials that you bring when you travel? Or what tips have you learned for packing light and efficiently?

Some of my tips/items so far:

• keeping things like my tweezers, nail scissors, makeup, hairbrush all in a toiletry bag and just using them out of there at home. Then when I need to travel I don’t have to pack them up, they are already together.
• having a dedicated phone and laptop charger in my travel bag so I don’t forget to bring it
• ALWAYS pack ladies sanitary items. Sometimes aunt flow surprises you at the worst of times
• the last trip I didn’t bring trainers, woke up super early and just wanted to go for a nice long walk but only had work shoes. So will definitely add workout clothes & shoes to the kit.

What’s on your list?

hi all - i recently bought a vibrator and i need help with how to use it properly- is it better to move it around or hold it still for most clit stimulation?

is a magic wand xd

Hello all! I am in my first year of university and i will be travelling home this weekend to visit my family for christmas. the ride is about 3 hours long and i will be travelling in first class. i also will have one train change which i have about 15 minutes to do.

any advice concerning how much i should bring, luggage, clothing, safety as a young girl, precautions etc would be great! i am in UK so we are limited in certain safety measures for women (like we can’t carry pepper spray)

I have all these tanks with non adjustable straps that constantly fall down and drive me nuts and I used to use carrabeaners even tho it looked like trash but I just figured out to use keyrings