I’m so devastated right now, I dont know who to talk to but the girl im dating just ended things with me over a phone call after ignoring me for 2 days, I asker her if she don’t like me anymore she said its not the case, she notice that I am always the one adjusting for her, i love her and i am falling in love with her how can she just say these things to me, have I have so little space in her heart? is there anyways I could win her back again?

Looking for decent wlw media that isn’t too tragic…

My personal faves are But I’m a Cheerleader and Between Two Women (yes I’m aware it’s quite boring)

29/F. Trauma had me deeply closeted to even to myself until 2 years ago. I’m now out and proud, but still on the journey of exploring my own personal balance of femininity and masculinity. Working on clothing, haircut etc

I’m learning im pretty masc but not quite butch, and having a hard time coming to terms with my body. i’m having a hard time squaring it with what ive been raised to expect. it fits neither the feminine ideal nor the masculine ideal (broad shoulders with petite frame and round belly)

It’s hard for me to look at this body and think ‘i like that’ let-alone think someone else will also ‘like that’. maybe because of the 27 years of masking into trying to be feminine.

Advice/resources/expanders please :)

Hi everyone. I'm curious if there are any Africans here. If so which country are you from and how is it there for you? I'm in Zimbabwe and looking to relocate to a country with better LGBT. In my country it's illegal to be gay. You get fined and/or a prison sentence if caught. There are no hate crimes (being beaten or killed for being gay by society) but rest assured you will be disowned. It's not ideal though we lesbians have it better than gay men (women are naturally affectionate so a lot is excused as friendship like hugging or holding hands)

Hope everyone is getting excited for the eclipse! And if you are not in the US, Hope you get to see some cool pictures and can live vicariously through us!

She is my first girl I ever slept with... and she sees me as a total bottom. I was previously (a slightly more sub dominant but) a switch. I've topped guys before and I had fun-- I've been wanting to top my gf for a long time (practically a touch me not) but she'd put it off saying we can do it on our 100th day ( missed that lol )or bday and now it's finally my bday... I get to top her.. but I'm now sorta getting worried - how do I top? It doesn't help me that she sees me as a power bottom. I've never sucked or fingered a pussy before and honestly me being hyper sensitive over touch means my personal experiences doesn't help. Plus I've tried sucking on her nipples but she barely flinches. I've got zero cues... and now I'm worried.

She's decided she has to go find herself overseas. She's not sure for how long (6 months? A year?) and I know she might not come back. She doesn't want to do long distance.

There were so many fucking options for an OE that could've included me, but she has to do the one I can't join her for. I couldn't be happy going there, doing that.

The only thing left is to decide if we keep seeing each other for the next 4 months until she leaves. We've been together 7 months so far.

Usually I think people do keep seeing each other until someone goes. But why would I be doing that? To prolonge the inevitable? In the hopes that keeping the attachment will make her more likely to come back to me? But then while she's gone I will be going through heartbreak and waiting for her instead of healing and putting myself out there. Is it better to just cut the cord now? Then again, she might go and decide she hates it and come right back, and then I'll be the idiot who gave up too soon.

I don't know. It's 4am and my eyes are puffy and I have to be up for work in a couple hours. I don't know what to think.

I'm going to be traveling to Berlin at the end of Aug/beginning of September. I know it's still some time away but wondering if there might be any lesbian bars or queer things/events I can add to my itinerary? It'll be my first time in Germany!

I have a lesbian pin, a rainbow bracelet, and other things that out me as gay, yet anytime I go anywhere, I only get the attention from cis men and havent had a single lesbian encounter in person my entire transition other than my partner (were open) , ughhhhhh.

There are no sapphic specific places or events in my city, as all the queer only public spaces have now been taken over by everyone else due to straight women escaping the men at other places, causing straight men to appear at gay bars as well, who are the only people who approach or talk to me. Its so frustrating and the apps suck. What would yall reccomend for finding other lesbians?

I often see posts asking music recommandations and I need to tell every sapphic to go check out Xana's music. Litteraly the best lesbian music I was ever blessed to hear. It is edgy, horny, catchy pop-rock. + her last music video is really hot as hell. So yeah if you want an album about chaotic sapphic love this is for you

I (27 f) and my girlfriend (38 f) have been exclusive together for a couple of weeks now and dating for over a month. Before I met her I was trying to be more butch or at least more masculine. Boxers, jeans, men’s t-shirts with flannels, basketball shorts, etc. I honestly thought that that’s what I wanted, but then I met her. She’s extremely butch and it makes me weak in the knees cause of how attractive she is.

Now, it’s almost like the song heart attack by Demi. I find myself wanting to wear feminine clothes like dresses, frilly panties, skirts, crop tops, doing makeup and hair, and wearing perfume instead of cologne. I love it but it also confuses me.

Is it because I feel safe enough to be vulnerable and feminine with her? Is it just because she makes me feel beautiful without having to even tell me? I don’t know what it is but I don’t want it to go away. Ever. I love her so much and she makes me feel safe for the first time in my life.

Baby, if you see this (I know she uses reddit) thank you so much for loving me and supporting me. You’re the best girlfriend that I could ever ask for.

Mostly sharing this story to see if anyone else can relate, but also because I think the irony is funny.

When I was 13-14, I had my first wlw relationship, and of course like all first gfs it was incredibly dramatic. We never had sex, honestly because I was too young at the time and it was never something that was on my mind. I knew I was attracted to women and enjoyed romance, but I didn’t start feeling sexual attraction until I was older like 16-17, bit of a late bloomer I guess. Anyways, after we broke up I remember she was super pissed that we had never had sex and called me a “fake lesbian and a fake feminist” because if I was a real lesbian we would have had sex and a real feminist would never have hurt another woman by breaking their heart. Then went on a rant about how I was probably going to marry a man and have babies. She also would post comments on my social media for months after this using different accounts saying that I was a fake lesbian and all kinds of insults. Sounds ridiculous I know but keep in mind this is a 14 year old girl here. Just so funny that for 4 years I questioned my own sexuality over this and wondered if she was right.

Anyways fast forward to now, I’m 26, have lived with my current girlfriend for over 5 years now and can confirm I am very much in love and a lesbian. All this to say that you are the only one who can say what your sexuality is, nobody else can. Sometimes I wonder what my first ex would think if she met me now to realize I did not marry a man like she was so convinced I would.

I live in a pretty isolated area of Alabama. There is a very small community of LGBTQ+ people here but I don’t fit in with them. I’m really straight looking and i always feel like I’m intruding on there space despite being gay myself. I only really have one friend but she doesn’t know I’m gay. I’m so scared that when she finds out she won’t be my friend anymore. She’s not really homophobic but I know our friendship will change. I know my family won’t be supportive. I just feel so cut off from the rest of the queer community. I see yall out having fun and being yourselfs and I’m so unbelievably jealous. I don’t even care about having a girlfriend right now I just don’t want to feel like the “other” I just want to be around people who understand me.

Just celebrated 5 years last month and now it’s over. I’m crushed. Besides clichés. How does one move on

So I've been playing sorcerer in Baldur's Gate 3 right, so I reach level 5 and can learn a new spell. I choose enlarge/minimize, and next fight I test it by enlarging Karlach

Let me tell you that watching a giant Karlach burning hot, slashing at enemies made me feel... things

Also I used her bonus action to shove an enemy and she just spartan kicked him into next week which was extra special

Welcome to the Pet Photo Monday mega thread! Dogs and cats, birds and turtles. Post all of your pets here.

​

How to post a picture:

​

1. Go to https://imgur.com/upload

2. Upload your photo using that form.

3. Copy the URL of the page it creates and paste it into a comment here.

​

This thread will be posted automatically at 9am EST on Monday, and will be taken down at 9am EST on Tuesday.

I think my ex to friend is trying to get rid of me. It's the same person I've talked about in general. I have the feeling she wants me to forget about her. I will never forget her. She's the most important thing in my life. But it hurts me. Why is life like this? Why is my life full of bad luck? I hate living. She was everything to me. I hate my life, the way I am and how I became like this. I'm so tired...

Asking the cottagecore/gardening lesbian community first and foremost because I know you're sitting there, waiting for this exact moment. I now seek your wisdom in cultivating free food from dirt.

We cant use the actual garden for , well, gardening, because its more of a shared green situation, so I'm making Grow Bags to make my own garden and grow food. I also want it to be portable if I end up moving and I don't have the budget for nice terracotta pots.

Would anybody here have any advice to give? The plan is to finish planting by April , and I'm mostly concerned with getting 🥔 and carrots 🥕 going.

I've a literal box full of reuseable bags 🎒 so the idea is there , I'm just worried about making blighty potatoes without the proper precautions.

It's not specifically this sub but mostly my general experience with lesbian culture (ignoring blatant transphobia). I love gay music, art, stories, communities, but in all of it I just feel this sense that I'm being subtly excluded. I'm a trans woman and I see posts like "if only women could have kids together" or music and posts that are very prescriptive about what genitals or experiences a lesbian should have. This doesn't make any of it "bad", it just makes me feel bad, which could just be a me thing. I want to live in a world where I don't feel like an outsider in my community. I want it to be so natural for people to see me as a woman who likes other women, for those two facts to flow seamlessly in people's minds. I want to be recognized as I am and I want a world where what I am is as normal as a cis lesbian, where language is naturally trans inclusive always.

Is it normal that when one of your friends finds a partner and then goes silent most of the time? Like, not engaging in conversations and leaving only one sentence answers, not starting any conversations at all and not interested in talking with you? I'm in this situation and it hurts me a lot, like our friendship is in danger and it will collapse into forgetting me at all. I know that my mind can make stuff up and overthinks to an absurd degree but I can't get it out of my head. She's very important to me and I don't want this to happen? 🥺

can anyone just flirt with me? i feel like my mind's about to explode lol

I recreated this meme that I reposted here since me and many of my fellow lesbians think it could've been done/worded better. So, here it is!

So my best friends are my exes. My last two partners have been cool with it, but I am worried that they are exceptions and that most people wouldn't like to be with someone who is.

I just don't tend to end relationships on bad terms. They usually end for very legitimate reasons, and often it's more of a "I wish I didn't have to break up but we do" kind of thing.

I hang out with two of my exes, and I recently went through a breakup (they broke it off for mental health reasons) but we're planning on being good friends and hanging out every now and then still. I'm a part of their support system and we want to still be in each other's lives, just to a much lesser degree than before.

Am I an outlier or is anyone else good friends with their exes?