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I’ve had weird tension with my coworker for a while. We’d always been awkward and kinda quiet around eachother but it got way worse last week. She was talking about breaking up with her boyfriend and saying she wants to stick to dating girls (she’s bi). Then I said something stupid about not wanting to date anyone for a while after a bad breakup in the summer and now she’s not even looking at me. I’m not fully sure why I did that. I think maybe I was grumpy cause I was getting sick (ended up in ER two days later) and maybe a little fed up listening to her complain about her boyfriend.
She’s moving to a different location and having a small goodbye party. The party is in a few weeks. I don’t know if I should go. She seems really uncomfortable around me so I’m thinking it might be better to leave her alone? I’d feel bad if she wanted me to go and I didn’t though. She asked if I was going to the last party but maybe she was just making conversation. This was before my outburst.
Should I talk to her and ask what is going on or would that be inappropriate? I also would like to have this conversation before the party because I do not want to deal with this when she’s drunk. I was thinking of asking her if she wants me to go to the party and that I don’t mind staying home if it’d make her uncomfortable? Is this weird? I’ve got autism so social rules are not my strong area. I have no clue what is the right thing to do but I hate leaving things so weirdly (plus I’m very curious about what the hell is happening or if I did something wrong)
SHES SO CUTTTTEEEEE. I love her goofy little grin and laugh when she’s high. It’s sooooo perfect and soft and makes her eyes look like a deer heheheehe
if so do you have recommendations? i’ve been so single for so long and i need a better connection to real queer sex. i saw a sample video today from wild west girls (something like that) and am considering buying a monthly sub
I moved back to the Philly area after living in Texas for 18 years. I’m so excited for the Super Bowl!!! I don’t have any friends to talk to about the eagles so I figured I’d shoot my shot here. Go birds! 🦅
There are dark times ahead, and I don't know if I'm going to weather them. I'm not really a tough-as-nails partisan who lives on spite and eats fascists for breakfast. I'm not a survivor who can endure in even the harshest environments. I'm just a depressed lesbian who's tired.
I wish people who told me to live on spite or who have these big revolutionary ideas knew that I don't have the courage for that, nor do I have the ability. I feel like a coward because I'm not able to be some kind of soldier against oppression, and it just hurts. I just want to be mediocre and live in peace. I'm exhausted and I'm running out of options.
im making this post because i feel like me and my girlfriend are about to break up and it's freaking me out. we've been having rough discussions back and forth and we both feel unfulfilled in certain aspects and i'm just preparing for the worst, and if the worst does happen, how can i go through the breakup the best way possible? any recommendations how to handle the grief and the loneliness afterwards?
First of all, I am 14, turning 15 in a few days. I began identifying as queer when I was 12, after I had formed a crush on my AFAB best friend who had not come out as nonbinary yet.
I don't really know why I'm making this post, I guess I just wanted to see if anyone else is going through something like this. I was outed around 12 and it's something that still haunts me to this day. Before I was outed, I told my two close friends, (who I'll be calling A and B) via a group chat. B is also the friend from above, who I had a crush on but didn't tell them. I told them that I thought I may be bisexual, because I liked girls. (I now identify fully as lesbian)
Anyway, A's mother (AM) saw these messages and told my parents. I don't remember much from the argument that followed, except for the fact that I was extremely caught off guard, felt violated and worried for my safety, and defensive as a result. I have since talked to my parents about this argument, though it was quite recently so it was years after it actually happened.
Essentially, they told me that they thought I was too young to have these feelings. My parents said that they were supportive of me, and are pretty accepting now, but my father still believes that I'm too young. I think that this is kind of stupid, as I had started puberty at the time and 12 (let alone 14) is a perfectly normal age for budding romantic feelings, but I digress. In these talks I've realized that I project some of the blame for my outing onto my parents, and not AM, who outed me to them, which I did apologize for and am working on. I don't hang out with A anymore (no particular reason, we just aren't super close anymore and I have other friends), so I haven't seen AM in a long time. I had a good relationship with AM beforehand, but now I kind of hate her.
Since being outed, I've noticed that any time I feel my privacy has been threatened by my parents, I have an intense reaction. I am reminded of the time that I am outed and have had multiple panic attacks because of this. One of these panic attacks happened during a privacy-related argument with my father, and was so severe that I hyperventilated so hard I nearly fainted.
Is this trauma, and how can i move past it? Do other people who have been outed feel similarly? Am I wrong for hating AM?
Thanks for reading.
Hi, so I'm an aroace woman who's dating a woman, so I'm technically not a lesbian but I feel like I'm living a life that's very similar to one. I have individual women characters in media that I like (ie: Gideon, Scorpia, Vi) (I may have a thing for mascs 👉👈), but haven't really found any ships that I can get into. I shipped catradora for a little bit in season 1, before things started taking a turn and I mainly just shipped Catra with therapy lol
I'd like to have a sapphic ship that I can get into though. Makes me feel weird that I'm a sapphic person who can't enjoy any of the sapphic relationships I'm seeing in media
There aren't hard and fast rules to the sorts of ships I like, but here are some things that help:
- Minimal emphasis on attraction
Me being aroace, I don't find attraction relatable, and also I feel like it can often be kinda lazy writing. (Like, oh, we don't need to think of reasons for why these characters work well together, we can just write a page describing what romantic attraction feels like. That's basically the same thing.) I actually tend to really like the rapport that non-canon ships have with each other. Before I realized I was aro, John and Sherlock from BBC Sherlock were my dream relationship. I also like the very ace vibe that Crowley and Aziraphale had in Good Omens
- A decent amount of angst
I feel like this is one of the big tripping points for sapphic media for me, since most of what's out there is just really wholesome
I really like the trope where bad things happen to one character, and the other character goes into Protecc Mode. Or when one character suffers a lot and the other character has to help or support them. Or one character wants to make a big sacrifice and the other character fights them on it
I think that it's easy to say that you love someone when everything is okay, but then that really gets put to the test when things are dark. I really like stories where people love each other in angsty moments, as I feel that brings out a love that's stronger and more palpable than anything else. I also just like when characters are in danger because that's simply more exciting lol. Song of Achilles by Madeleine Miller and The Wicked King by Holly Black did this very well, in my opinion
- Not rushed
A lot of media has characters that act super in love with each other when they've only known each other for, like, a couple weeks. I roll my eyes every time I see it
- Just overall well-rounded and likeable characters
I tend to really like charismatic, funny, and/or intelligent characters. Like Gideon from Gideon the Ninth, Carswell Thorne from the Lunar Chronicles, Edward Elric from Fullmetal Alchemist, Viktor from Arcane. (I realize that most of these examples are men. I find that real life is full of cocky, brilliant, complex women, but media kinda lacks it a lot of them time, or smothers it under male-gazey stuff that I find off-putting)
Anyways, does anyone know of sapphic books that might be up my alley?
for context we're both trans women
I recently got back into contact with my best friend after we haven't spoken in over 2 years. We've know each other since we went to the same all boys high school together, we hung out every day at lunchtime with her friend group and I considered her a close friend throughout my time at school. We even went to the same science camps lol.
Admittedly after we both left school the friendship became very one sided because I had to always make first contact to hang out, I didn't have a problem with this at first, but both of us happened to end up studying in the same city despite going to different universities. I got into contact with her and we kept hanging out together. I ended up coming out as trans to her shortly after I started hrt and we remained friends until I moved back to my parents in my home town. Just before I went back I started to have a problem with how one sided the friendship was and i decided to wait for her to contact me. She never ended up doing so, and I moved on with my life.
2 years later I started feeling very lonely in my small town since I had no friends there and I only had one long distance friend to talk to. I reached out to her and we both started catching up with each other, she ended up coming out to me as a trans woman and she told me her new name which she hasn't shared with many people.
I sometimes fantasize about kissing, hugging and being close to her and i don't know what to do with these feelings because she still lives in the city i left and we can't afford to see each other in the foreseeable future. I'm afraid that If i admit these feelings to her that it could wreck the friendship since she's unsure of her sexuality. (I'm kinda unsure either but I suspect i'm bi)
(she sent me her profile pic and she looked sooo cute lol)
Hey ladies,
I'm looking to get back into the dating scene and was wondering if there is a woman only version of apps like Grindr? I would prefer something casual rather than looking fo a LTR currently.
I would say that I am visibly queer through clothing choices and style, or at least I try to present that way. My question is how can I keep dressing this way (more masculine/off-beat as compared to mainstream feminine fashion) and dress professionally at the same time? “Professionally” meaning appropriate for everyday office wear or business casual.
To queer folks who are visibly queer and working in professional settings like an office: Have you ever experienced any negatives because of the way you dress? Or have you ever been deemed as “unprofessional” looking? How can you combat negative stereotypes about dress?
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/50Yxl5PPrB6LOAQHWmd24g?si=9068783146f1486e
I've done my best to ensure every song is by a lesbian/bi artist and is a wlw song. I've been mildly unhappy with some of the Sapphic/wlw playlists I've seen and wanted to create something that caught a full spectrum of upbeat and poppy/lovey/etc.
Anyways let me know what you think and hope you enjoy!
Hey everyone! I’m curious—are there lesbians or other queer folks here who are specifically attracted to tall and plus size women? I don’t see this preference discussed much, so I’d love to hear your thoughts.
For context, I’m 194 cm tall (about 6’4"), and I’m also a trans woman. I often feel really insecure about my height and body type, and I wonder how others feel about attraction to tall, plus size women—especially in queer spaces.
Do you have a type? What draws you in? Would love to hear from anyone who relates or has insight!
I’m 36, my wife is 38. We’ve been together for just over 7 years. Married for 5 years. We have a 4-year old child.
I don’t really know where to start.
Things have been deteriorating for a long while. Probably since having our child. Certainly not blaming our child, however, we let the stress of parenting take over and rarely, if ever, prioritize ourselves or our marriage.
We have zero intimacy. I cannot recall the last time we’ve been intimate. It’s probably been a year. At first, this was the only thing that bothered me. I’d go through phases of being indifferent/used to it, to having emotional moments because of it. Feeling unloved, undesired, unwanted. The whole bit. Sometimes she’d make an effort to change this, most of the time she wouldn’t & I’d get the “this is just how I am” response. To be fair, the intimacy issues are what ended her previous relationships, so that’s partly on me as I knew this. We all think we’re going to be different, right?
We’ve reached the stage of being irritated/annoyed with one another often. I get upset because I do 95% of the household duties and feel unappreciated, she gets upset because I can’t “fake being happy” and become a downer because I’m just heartbroken at the state of our marriage. She is very much a “I’m going to sleep and waking up tomorrow as if everything is perfect” when it’s not, type of person. I am a “this needs to be fixed before I implode” type of person. As you can imagine, our communication is horrid. I want to talk about things, she does not. As you can imagine, this has led to A LOT of problems piling up as they’re never resolved.
The lack of effort on her part because of the above makes things even worse for me. Why can’t I become the priority? is where my mind usually goes.
There have been many moments where I let my emotions get the best of me and became mean. I’m no angel in all of this and know it takes two to tango. I, too sat back and allowed all of this to happen just as much as she has.
On the outside we’ve built ourselves a beautiful little life. We purchased our dream home, we have great careers, we travel, our families adore us. On paper, we certainly have it all, sure.
Inside though, I feel like it’s so far gone now. When she puts her hand on me, or even reaches to hold it now (rare) it feels foreign to me. I very much so feel like she dislikes me, as does she.
Where do we go from here? How can we repair?
tl;dr married same sex-couple with a young child lack intimacy. Stuck in a “roommate” relationship and unsure of how to bounce back.
How's the Denver lesbian scene? Thinking of moving there because of the incredible music scene but how is the lesbian scene there?
we’ve been talking for 2-3 months?? now and i really want to take things slow this time around but here i am at work distracted and already imagining running away with her, married and living in thailand and how the first thing in the mornings i get to do is kiss the freckles that frolic across her face
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My fiancée and I have been engaged since August. We were dating for over a year before she asked me and I said yes! I thought it was the most beautiful day and after we got our pictures back from our photographer we posted them on Facebook and instagram to share with our family’s. We thought it went okay. Lost some followers and what not but we expected that. The love was beautiful to see and seeing people support us was amazing another great feeling. But when it came to my fiancées parents it was radio fucking silent. Not a single word. I was upset ofc I didn’t think they were THIS homophobic... My fiancee kept me in the dark about a few conversations they had previously with their parents but I didn’t think it was still an issue(naively). Ofc the elections came around and that was an entire thing and then the holidays and get togethers and showing my ring off and still absolutely nothing. No congrats ever. Christmas time rolls around and my finance wanted to get all of her siblings over for a sleepover which she’s done for years since she’s moved out( she has over 8 siblings) her mom responded to this text by saying no sleepovers was her boundary with the kids. This came as a shock to me. I’d never in my entire life been unable to be around children. My fiancee was upset ofc but she moved on in a way I didn’t understand. No fight or anything. Fast forward to the other day they came over to talk about if they will be in our wedding or not. Her dad talked the entire time and for some reason the conversation started by him saying he believes or more so “we believe” marriage is between a man and a woman. He sat in my home. And told me his beliefs? I’ve never been so angry and upset. I grew up religious and never In my entire life would I go over to someone’s home let alone my child’s and say my opinion if I knew that that was their livelihood? That’s how they are actively living their life. He goes on to making analogy’s regarding abortion. Thinking all gay people think the same fucking way. And also saying how they shouldn’t have even gone to weddings that weren’t in their own church before God? This ended by them saying they need time- her mom said they won’t be there but her dad needs time to decide. Me on the other hand I ended the conversation by saying we can give you time to decide but I just don’t know how (my fiancee) would feel if she walked down that isle alone. Hoping they’d get it. Hoping they’d see how strange and obscene their stance is. But now that I’ve promised to be nice and cordial the entirety of the situation and conversation alone keep replaying in my head. I don’t want them in my home again and I sure as hell don’t want to be around them. They disrespected us in a way I will never fully understand. Idk am I wrong? Is my partner wrong for not saying no and should I even want to make progress with people who can’t even see that they hurt me? I’m stressed and if you made it this far thank you for reading.
hello fellow lesbians, i know this is a cliche scenario in the sapphic community but my bisexual best friend (21) and i (20) had sex one drunken night and on the spot she asked me to be her girlfriend and i said yes. we both had bad breakups in the same year so we both were trying to heal from those things together. took me a month to realize this but i was prioritizing the relationship over myself and i was neglecting my responsibilities, which is exactly what happened in my last relationship except the guy i was with encouraged it because it filled his ego (he’s a whole other story) but this scenario is different, she hasn’t done anything and i love her and have for a very long time, but i just can’t be in a relationship right now. i need to learn how to do things for myself and i need to have more stability in my life and get my shit together before getting in any relationship period. we agreed that we still wanted to be friends but she said she cant see me for an indefinite amount of time, which i completely understand. im so destroyed by this, but since our separation i cant help but think about the ways it didnt work with her specifically and that makes me feel even more guilt than i already feel. when we were exclusively friends we were both in relationships so i didnt even think about us being together, i only would when we would joke about being gay for all our friends including each other. i had a list in the back of my head of reasons why i could never date her. some of the problems are things that aren’t even her fault but i didnt think id have to face them head on in an actual relationship with her. i would get possessive of her in my head but i didnt think about liking her like that explicitly before we had sex, while apparently she had been talking to our friends about her crush, which i had no clue about. i had an inkling that she might like me but i didn’t think of it seriously, i just wish i knew so my stupid ass didn’t have sex with her because she means so fucking much to me. she initiated it by humping me but i humped back and i took it further. im sure my brain is super repressed from the way my parents raised me and you could unconsciously see my love for her through things like how i would show her qualities in my art, but i had no time to really sit with it and ponder things before actually jumping into it, which is not her fault thats just how it happened. i know i lover her deeply but i don’t think we are compatible in a relationship now that i’ve had some time to think about things, or if we are ‘compatible’ i don’t think its the type of relationship im gonna want, which pains me deeply to admit because i know now that we had sex and were in a relationship for a month things will be different and we wont be as close anymore, she’ll be my best friend but one that i cant do certain things with, like sleepovers or drink, because it will hurt too much. she opened up to me about maybe having bpd and how she doesnt know how shes going to look at me and not want me anymore and that just breaks my heart into so many fucking pieces. i truly wish i handled her with more care when i was drunk, i wasn’t thinking and was acting on impulse and for the love i do feel for her. but realistically a relationship is not what i want and i didn’t know that until we went through all the motions. i fucking hate myself for all of this and for not reciprocating fully when she deserves that and so much more. i told her if its too hard to be my friend then to not torture herself but the thought of us not being friends again after it already happening because of my past toxic relationship where he isolated me and told me to not talk to her anymore, fucking kills me. if any of you have advice on how i can go about this situation please let me know. im pretty lost in life in general as im young and work a shitty job and all i know is that im gay and want to make a living creating art, which at this point in time might be hard with ai and shit. but any advice whether that be on how to get out of the mindset of putting everything, especially things that you love, over your own wellbeing or advice on how i can be friends with her or just anecdotes from a similar experience would help me so very much. thank you for taking the time to read all of this if you have, im too afraid to admit what i’ve said here to any of my irl friends so strangers on the internet it is!
Me and my ex girlfriend (both 17), dated for almost ayear and a half. We are catholics. We were so in love but one day a month our 1st anniversary she "realised" that, we can't be together because we won't be able get married in the church. It was hard. We broke up but decided to stay single but LOYAL to each other and wait hoping that the pope announces acceptance on same sex marriages. During that time she started having feelings for a guy. They were mild crushes. Its her dream to have kids and get married but it would only be possible with a man.
We knew we won't work, so we officially broke up. But she wanted me to be her best friend and stay beside her and even be her maid of honour when she gets married one day. But, it something that would be hard for me. I had decided not to get married or date. I decided to still be in love with her and love her from afar even if it's painful. We still were extremely close friends and deven behaved like a couple at time and finally got back together.
But then after few weeks, we again decided to break up cause the fact about not being able to get married was bothering us. We still remained friends, bestfriends infact. It hurt so bad. We decided to be platonic but her actions started otherwise. It was confusing but it loved when she showed LOVE so I didn't ask, but gave it all back.
We have severe attachment issues. I am extremely insecure and deals w lot of self hate and self abuse. The break up made me go crazy. Me and her used to call eachother and she sometimes used to flirt w me and stuff but then I got so over sensitive and made and issue and we had a big fight. It was my fault. I always end up victimising myself, and crying, making her feel unheard.
We were talking thru text and she was begging and pleading me to change. While I relapsed and started slfhrming. She didn't kw I relapsed. We decided to go no contact for 3 days but she ended up texting me the next day. But this time, I stayed a bit distant. I used to give her back all the love when she told me she loved me and stuff but I knew that we were strickly platonic. I thought she was trying to move on. I didn't know that she changed her mind. I was confused her signals or wht we are. I didn't want to ask her because we were keeping distance and then I MESSED UP.
After relapsing, I lost myself. I was desperate to move on. I tried to be distant from her. I hated myself and I wanted to harm myself and be used by people and I ended up SEXTING a guy (who was older)...this went on for 3 days...and then we stopped. It was very explicit. Finally, I told her about it..i told her about my relapse aswell...she went thru my chats and felt so betrayed. She felt like she was being cheating on even tho we broke up...
I felt extremely guilty while doing it and I didn't even mean any single thing I said to that guy. I felt nothing except self hate. I was trying to destroy myself and make myself impure. But, I didn't think of her... I told myself that it's not betrayal or cheating because we had already broken up. I thought we were platonic...but to her, we weren't.
It broke her..it hurt her..I hurt her again. I was sleeping over at her house when I told her about this...nd it was hell... seeing her get so weak and cry her heart out...broke me. It was the worst night of my life...I fell on her feet hugging them tight, pleading for hours. She was roo tired to speak. I stayed up at night praying and asking lord for forgiveness...it all felt like hell. She forgave me. She still showers me with love. But she's fighting herself. Her mind nd heart are fighting. Her heart wants to love me, but is scared. Her mind hates me. I know everything was my fault. Everything was...I didn't know wht I was getting myself into.. I thought we were platonic and it wouldn't be cheating coz we broke up...
I still love her, coz it wasn't easy to take her off from my heart. She still loves me and fogeives me but she is not strong enough too deal with her mind. She is scared of being hurt by me again. She wants to give me a chance, but she's scared. I don't deserve her love or any chances...she took care of my scars even though I offered my body thats she adored ro someone else...l wish I can do something to make her feel less hurt...She told me that she really needed something to fight her mind. Some statement or reasoning or proof that, will calm her mind and prove her that, I didn't mean any of the explicit things I told that guy...and I didn't feel anything...what do I do? How can I gain her trust back? How can make sure that she heals? I wish if was a better person...
Edit: mispelled the title. Sorry, was typing up a storm. I'm confused and also a little frustrated, so I'm just going to post here.
I'm not exactly new to the whole lesbian thing. Im fairly young but I've slept with women and enjoyed it. I know I'm romantically and physically attracted to women. But I have a lot of issues accepting that fact. I love the label lesbian, it feels just right. But recently I've been conflicted.
I don't know any other lesbians in real life, only a few bisexual women, who I've either been involved with or are deeply closeted and have only come out to me (usually both). These women are also dealing with internalised homophobia, so they can't exactly help me and a lot of them end up dating guys either because it's convenient or as a way to deal with their issues.
Most of my friends are straight and seem to constantly prod me about my sexuality? Like, they'll send me pictures of shirtless guys and ask if i find that attractive. When we're out they sometimes encourage me to talk to guys too, even though they know about my sexuality.
Adding to all this, I'm in a relatively conservative country and finding queer women is very difficult as I've stated above. All my friends are cycling through dates and relationships and here I am with a casual hookup once in a blue moon. I get male attention. I've been asked out by men. Before I never gave it much thought. I always thought of dating or sleeping with men as a "maybe one day I'll try it out," a bucket list sort of thing, but never seriously. Now, I'm thinking, if this is the future of my love life, I might as well go for a guy. Am I romantically attracted to them? No, definitely not. But I'm not physically repulsed by them I guess like i hear some other queer women say. I'm not really physically attracted to them either. Just sorta neutral.
I don't know if that's enough to make a relationship work, because most men annoy the fuck out of me, but it would just be so much easier. It would be so much easier, socially, to just give up being a lesbian even if thats what's I want or who I am. All my "relationships" with women (if you can call them that) never lead to anything beyond the physical aspects, and if I care about them or have feelings for them that's painful as fuck.
Hi, I'm currently doing some research for an art project in which i want to talk about different gender identities in the lesbian community, specifically masculine presenting ones. I'm currently reading Female Masculinity by Jack Halbesrtam but i want to ask if you knew some other authors or essays i could read, maybe even talk about your own experiences it would help me a lot
And in which setting/place do you typically encounter them?
Legit saw a post on the hell hole that is X some time ago about this and it had an absurd amount of likes. Not surprised that the cesspit quora was also talking about how lesbians envy men in this pseudo-psychological breakdown reminiscent of Freud.
God men are so upset that a small subset of women have no interest in them at all that they have to make up any bullshit reason to try and insert themselves in our community.
Worst part is that some lesbians even agree with this notion that butch lesbians are pseudo-men or trans men in denial. Nothing wrong with being trans (I’m trans masc) but I’m not a binary man. It’s somewhat regressive to me to assume every masculine presenting person is or is trying to be a binary man.
At this point I just have to find amusement in all the hatred masculine presenting lesbians get, cause if I don’t I feel like I’ll lose my mind.
idk if this is the right place to ask this or not but im looking for zelena clips with english sub (they are contestants of grand fratello and so adorable. They are so angsty and the story cant be made up by fanfic writers as well. pls help a sis out if u know where to find the clips.
I recently confessed my feelings to a friend. I did a poor job but made it clear I was romantically interested in her. She was very gentle and told me she see us as friend and values that friendship. I thought we had a handful of moments and thought that she felt the same but didn’t peruse me as I never made my orientation clear. She is openly gay. I’ve only dated men.
So if your friend confessed their feelings would you lie to save the friendship?
We are in a space where we can’t be together right now. I chose to tell her because our interactions started to feel fake as I was constantly trying to hide my feelings.
There were so many moments that I thought we had shared. Accidental touches, long glances, her friends leaving the room when I came in (leaving us alone). Once she was taking a pic with her friend and the friend outed her saying she needed to turn the camera around because she was taking pics of me. I was standing in front of them. Did I miss read all of this? I have no experience here. Plz help!
back when i(f22 now) was a freshman in high school, i was secretly dating this junior girl(f25 now) who was on the same bball team.
at this point we had been dating secretly for over a year.
she was asked publicly to prom at a bball game by some guy “friend” in her grade and she said yes in front of everyone. i guess she knew about it prior. this was a guy that kept trying to get with her too.
they ended up going together.
no apologies nothing and i was just fine with it… like it was normal or supposed to be like that with the first wlw?
basically reminiscing realizing this might be a little fucked up lmao??
Maybe this isn’t the right group to ask this, but I wasn’t sure where else to post. I’m looking for something a little more comfortable than a binder, but in the realm of a sports bra. Flexible. Comfy straps if possible. Still does the job of compressing a little more than the average sports bra. Any links or suggestions would be appreciated :)
Hi, I've been searching around for a while for media with lesbian main characters. I'm hoping especially to find some anime. I haven't been able to find much queer media, and I've found basically no anime that wasn't just subtextual. I just watched Otherside Picnic, and while it was fun and I liked the characters, I was hoping for something that was a little bit less subtle. I'm not really looking for something where the characters come out as gay on the final episode or just flirting the entire time with no actual relationships forming. Anyone know of anything like what I'm describing?