/r/lesbianr4r

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A lesbian dating sub for lesbians by lesbians. All WLW are welcome. TERFS and unicorn hunters are not.

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These aren't required by any means, but can help your fellow raptors find each other a bit more easily ;)

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<age> [F4F] <location> - <title>

Ex: 22 [F4F] Canada - Maple Syrup and Cuddles

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27[F4F] online/anywhere

Hi everyone I’m phy 27 yo Arabian girl im looking for an online dating and I’ll tell you few things about me

1-im married to a man and i have his kids im lesbian and i don’t love him and I don’t want this relationship but it is what it is (we can talk about this point later)

2-as an Arabic girl there’s a lot of things a don’t know about them or i don’t understand them so if you so if you want to talk to me please go easy

3-because im Arabic a lot of things are forbidden for me as this account so I can’t meet up or send any pics

4-i want a lot of passion emotions and sexual activities in the relationship

5-i don’t have a lot of red flags or limits so I think you’ll find me easy to handle

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2024/05/02
01:25 UTC

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26F [F4F] Online/Anywhere in the world

Hi, I'm a 5"2 Singaporean (Indian-Chinese) butch lesbian looking to get to know more people to see if we might be compatible enough to date! If we aren't compatible for dating but get along well, I'm happy to make new online friends :-) Am open to anyone from any country, and I don't have a type - love femmes, butches, anyone in between/beyond. If we do get into an LDR, taking practical steps to make an LDR work, including closing the distance, would be important to me. I'm also happy to send a picture of myself over DMs.

About me:

  • I'm studying my Master's in Speech Pathology right now to become a speech therapist! I've always loved linguistics, psychology, biology and sociology, so this career path seemed a good combo of those disciplines. I'm someone who has to be doing work meaningful to me, whether as part of wage work or in my own time. I used to be an English teacher and loved it, but chose to leave due to public education as a system being too homophobic and ableist for me to exist in it.
  • I adore cats but am tragically deathly allergic to them. Took a biology class in uni to learn if I could develop a tolerance through exposure. Unfortunately for my kind of allergy, it's anaphylactic and not medically feasible to develop a tolerance to cats. I'm more than happy for the person I date to be a cat person, but you'd have to be open to workarounds (eg: not cohabiting, cat-free bedroom, meeting at my residence)
  • I'm a huge reader despite having visual processing disorders. I love poetry, creative nonfiction, and most kinds of fiction! I also love pottery, strength training, hiking (casually), and cooking. Am really keen to try out more movement-based things like MMA, dance, barre, adventure sports in the next few years.
  • I'm autistic, the subclinical highly masked sort. My special interests are in psychology (psychotherapy, psychoanalysis, personality typology, learning disabilities) and topics related to eugenics for some reason (conversion therapies for queerness, disability, etc)
  • I have two best friends and a handful of close friends in my support system. I also have several close online friends mainly from the US. My friends are basically my anchors and chosen family. I prioritise them deeply and hope to know how you view friendship too
  • I'm physically affectionate in general. Hugs are the best!
  • I'm a feminist and a leftist although I'm still formulating my thoughts on where I lie in terms of anarchist & communist thought.
  • Random but I love creating lists for lots of things and planning travel itineraries

What I'm looking for:

  • Ideally, a long-term relationship founded upon a strong friendship. I'm open to both non-monogamy and monogamy.
  • Emotional and intellectual compatibility ('being on similar wavelengths' or compatible wavelengths)
  • Someone stable, mature, curious, passionate, purposeful, who is always seeking growth and ways to create a more satisfying life
  • Someone who can be supportive and 'in it' with me through conflicts and difficult circumstances
  • Someone independent and emotionally literate
  • Someone who values their mental and physical health, isn't a workaholic, and actively recovering from addictions if you have any.
  • I am probably very well-suited for people in highly demanding helping professions due to my experience and sensitivity to issues that therapists, doctors, healthcare professionals etc face. My best friend is a therapist and I dated a doctor-to-be in the past so I know how hard it can be for people in the mental health/medical professions to date. If you work in these professions, you'll probably find it easier to talk to me and feel understood than with most people.
  • I don't want kids, so you should be on the same page for this. I also do not smoke and prefer my partner not to smoke as I work with a clinical population that tends to suffer from many diseases caused by smoking, and I'm allergic to smoke. I very rarely drink, and don't do drugs.

Looking forward to the conversations we'll have :-)

EDIT: There are a bunch of weird Asian fetishists messaging me so I'm taking a while to filter those out before replying!!

5 Comments
2024/05/01
16:25 UTC

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22 OH looking for someone to hang out with this summer

Me:

115lbs, fair skin, dark hair, avg height

Interests: history, engineering, anthropology, horror movies, working out, cuddling a cute girl, traveling, whimsically ranting about stuff that probably doesn't matter until 3 o'clock in the morning, mma, and alternative music.

I'm pretty extroverted (ENTP), but love hanging around subby quiet introverts. Racial justice is pretty important to me, so get ready for some rants lol

I'm a pretty intimate person and physical touch is my favorite

You are:

Preferably, around the same body type, but Im also into smaller or musclar frames. Smart as fuck, witty, funny, or all of the above. A heavy meme enjoyer. Open to long distance (I can travel anywhere within the same continent lol). Hopefully have some goals in life.

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2024/05/01
12:46 UTC

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22F [F4F] Finally reaching out to you.

Hello everyone, I have been stuck in my room studying for my finals last week and now it's finally over. With this, I have 3 months of summer break to enjoy (maybe potentially with a special someone I find here)

So about me, I am the straight looking Asian girl with black hair and eyes, who sits at the front of the class and get A's. Yep that's about it.(I am also short, 5') When I'm not being a nerd and studying, I like to read, write poems, walk, hike and play sports. I have a soft spot for masc lesbians but I'm open to others. I also love gardening, traveling, cooking and occasionally some gaming. I can be shy at first but I'm pretty good at conversations(I think 🤔).

I am not particularly looking for a type. As long as you are a good human being and have a healthy heart and mind. And if you happen to be on the other side of the world.. .. don't worry I will gladly wreck my sleep schedule for you 😉 (I'm an engineering student, my sleep schedule is a already a mess so ..)

I am looking for a girlfriend but I'll gladly be your friend too. NO NSFW CHAT PLEASE. Thank you for reading through, I'll be waiting for your chat. Here's an icebreaker, 'What's your love language?'

4 Comments
2024/05/01
07:25 UTC

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28F/Seattle - Fashionable and artsy stealth trans girl looking for something serious and worthwhile.

I've heard a few girls found meaningful relationships here on Reddit and I've had a success years ago too. Was thinking of trying again cause I'm tired of all the girls playing games with me.

My big green flags are someone with a sense of humor, cackling and belly laughing is one of the quickest ways to my heart. I'd also love someone I can coordinate outfits with when we go out, but also is leaning more towards a homebody cause lots of times I really just wanna snuggle in bed watching dumb stuff/anime/movies together.

With that being said I love doing art, digital especially. I like to make music videos in my spare time, logos, making cute and cool characters. I'm not a huge video game player anymore but I still play retro games and any single player experience if it piques my interest. I love to drive, I have a fun modified little Toyota coupe and would adore a passenger princess to drive around. I also love to binge YouTube or shows and would like someone to do that with.

The elephant in the room is I am trans, I don't have bottom surgery but I pass well and live stealth. I hate being perceived as trans and I personally hate being trans so I don't really need someone constantly talking about trans related stuff to me cause I honestly would like to just not be reminded all the time I am not considered a real woman to most people. With that being said I am NOT into T4T, unless you're also passing and stealth.

Some other basic stuff:

• I have a tiny little Chihuahua mix.

• I'm really a in-person kinda girl, long distance is not my thing and I'd love to see my partner at least once a week if possible.

• I can drive and I'd prefer if my partner does too, unless you live kinda close.

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2024/05/01
06:29 UTC

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21F [F4F] Mississippi - Looking for someone to vibe with

Hey, ya'll! I am a 21 year old cis woman who is looking for a relationship and friendships! I am located in Mississippi but long distance is okay as well. I might not be the most communicative because I work a lot; but I will do my best to stay on top of things. I have only been out for a month so I'm very new to wlw dating and I'm still figuring out my style and who I am. I wouldn't necessarily say that I am butch; but I do lean more towards being masc presenting while working towards being even more masc. Which should be interesting because I'm short asf. lmao 5'1 to be exact.

I enjoy playing video games and I love to draw. Character design and story writing is my passion. I have always dreamed of making a little comic and learning animation for fun. It will probably never happen; but it's nice to dream. lol I am looking forward to learning more about you guys, though! Thank you for your time. :)

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2024/05/01
03:05 UTC

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20F [F4F] online - long distances

Hi! I'm Val, short for Valentine. I'm looking for someone who is kind, patient, and caring.

I’m 20 living in Kentucky, I am fem presenting nonbinary - AFAB.

I really like music, Rainbow Kitten Surprise and AJR are my weakness’s right now. I’m looking for someone to send photos of my cats, new music I like, show you recipes I made. Someone who can share life with me online.

Ultimately the hope would be to meet up after a while, but there is no rush for that. I’m currently working on myself and I’m always trying to be a better person.

I like crocheting and baking bread, swimming and reading are also two of my top favorite things.

I am plus size, please be aware of that and don’t message me if you’re going to be rude to me based on the shape of my body.

*edit to add, the post had 23 for my age, I’m 20, I don’t know how It ended up with 23 🤦🏻‍♀️)

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2024/04/30
23:02 UTC

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34 [f4f] pittsburgh lesbian looking for her princess

34 single fem lesbian looking for love.
I like to shop drink wine watch movies cuddle listen to music have fun try new things get my nails done. Into fashion. Love sports. Love to golf.
I love the beach.
I want to find my princess and live happily ever after. Disney nerd also.
Advertising is my job. I love it. I like to cook sometimes. Candle lit dinner with wine are absolutely my favorite. Love getting flowers. I haven't been out that long but im loving the freedom it has gave me. I just want to find a woman that could be everything I dream of. So send me a chat we will sewhere the journey leads us

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2024/04/30
17:46 UTC

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21F - April is a great time to go outdoors in a cute outfit and make friends! Well, if you don’t mind the rain soaking you through, that is.

Hmm, perhaps it’s better for me to make friends here, in the dry?

Let’s go with the basics first! I’m 21 years old (although I keep forgetting that!). I don’t mind how old you are, so long as it’s not wildly far off. My time zone is currently GMT+1, which makes for some nice bright evenings, perfect for dragging you on long walks with me.

I may be cute, but have plenty of other interesting traits too, honest! For instance, I enjoy writing. I mostly stick to sci-fi and fantasy, but I have nothing against other genres if the mood takes me.

I don’t read nearly enough, but I’ve just recently started Annihilation. It’s a great book, but I’m mildly-greatly on edge every moment it’s open. Every now and then, I switch to House of Many Ways to calm down.

I study computer science at university, to indulge my love-hate relationship with any and all technology. Love when I make it do what I want it to, hate when I spend two hours debugging and it turns out I missed a comma in an array.

I’ve seen all 304 episodes of Doctor Who, so please let me know if you have a favourite! Just to warn you though, I will judge a little if you’re like the one Meglos fan out there.

I play a few videogames, but I’ll be honest, it’s mostly Pokémon. I’ve also been slowly working my way through Tears of the Kingdom, which is definitely the kind of game I’m fated to hit 200+ hours in someday if I want to see the end of it.

As for games I’ve actually finished, I tried out Strange Horticulture lately and had a pretty great time - though I wish it was longer! I’ve technically beaten Celeste, but a good few of those golden strawberries still elude me.

But now, I’m very much at risk of rambling and leaving nothing for us to talk about once you message me! So I’ll leave the fun facts at that.

Hope to hear from you soon! And congratulations if you read all this way into my borderline essay, I’m honestly kinda impressed 💕

3 Comments
2024/04/30
08:17 UTC

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18F [F4F] California, Long Distance, or Online

Hi! I'm looking for friends and potentially someone to love! I mostly present as femme but I do look a little masc because I go to the gym and often wear gym clothes as part of my everyday attire (it's just what looks the best imo).

I go by she/her, I'm a lesbian, 18. I'd love to get to know someone and maybe have it become something more <3 I'm totally up to chatting with people of any age really (just have to be over 18) since there's so many cool people out there that are older than me!

I live in Northern California (not the bad southern part haha), and I'm really open to meeting people from anywhere in the world. I like to adventure in my van so I'm totally up to driving long-distances if I find the right girl! My family originally raised me to be heavily religious which being a lesbian definitely gave me trauma in a lot more ways than one. I recently decided to no longer be religious though so a lot of the stuff I've been doing recently has been pretty new to me!

I have a lot of hobbies actually, including stuff like Drone Photography, Hiking, Scenic Drives, Working out, and a few others. I'd like it if you have a hobby as well but not a requirement!

Considering I'm a girl still in her teens and all that I'm definitely super up to NSFW chats but would still like to have normal conversations here and there!

That's all I can think of for now.. feel free to send me a DM!!

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2024/04/30
01:47 UTC

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25 [F4F] Simcoe County Ontario. Looking for my spicy woman to become my life’s adventure buddy.

Hi!

Putting myself out there to meet more people and potentially find a partner. I’m a quiet, geeky gal, who dabbles in a variety of things like hiking, wildlife photography, Netflix marathons and cuddles. I enjoy physical touch as my love language, I’m like a feral kitten… adorable and snuggly but in my own terms 😅. I’m kinky, leaning towards being a sub, despite presenting as usually androgynous/soft masc.

Looking for someone who’s also wanting to find their life adventure buddy. I’m 5’5 and medium build, which makes me the perfect size to be little spoon but big enough to be scary dog privileges

If any of this intrigued you, please message me, even if it’s just to become friends :)

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2024/04/29
22:49 UTC

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24 [F4F] (Northern New Jersey/ NYC area) - Searching for in person fun😏

Im a 24 year old, Dominican, bisexual, bbw, service sub looking for dates, fwbs, or pretty much anything else as long as its in person. The most important thing to me is that anyone involved is comfortable and having a good time. Not looking for anything long distance or online. I live in northern New Jersey about 30 minutes from NYC but can travel a reasonable distance. I can be shy at first but I promise Im a good time once Im comfortable :)

Please send verification if you decide to message me. I will do so as well

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2024/04/29
01:45 UTC

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31 [F4F] #NYC Sapphic City Girl looking for adventure and fun

Anxious but adorable curly-haired interested in forming other connections. I'm looking for casual dates, play partners, or cuddle buddies. I'd like something causal yet comforting and caring.

I'm a tall nerdy goof who's into pop culture, trivia, video games, and all that kind of thing. I really love comic books, collecting toys, making collage art, wander around the city. I'm witchy, gothy, and kinky. I read tarot on occasion and like to dress gothy/witchy. I sometimes attend rituals/services for the solstice and equinox.

I really like cheesy b movies and riffing on them. I know way too much about them and other random things.

I'm shy and gentle but I like to be roughed up on occasion. Other kinks include but are not limited to body worship, foot worship, mutual masturbation, and exhibitionism.

I am interested in someone who is local or travels frequently to NYC not interested in online only things

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2024/04/28
21:44 UTC

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23 [F4F] Oregon/long distance or Online

Fem bi girl here looking for friends and maybe somebody to love?

Hi! I'm A (she/her)! I'm 23, and I would love to get to know a girl and maybe let it blossom into something more 😊

I live on the west coast (originally from Cali) but I am open to meeting people from everywhere. I am a teacher but that is not the career I dream of having. I love it very much though!

My family raised me in religion but I am not very religious anymore, but I do believe in a higher power and I am very philosophical. I love to research and I am a huge history nerd.

Music is something I am very passionate about and my idea girl would be someone who I can cuddle with while we listen to albums (I'm the friend who makes playlists for everything lol)

I'm an open book and I can be the very passionate when I like someone. I'll send you good morning texts and once I get home I would love to just talk about our day and other thoughts we may have.

I am very open to NSFW chats, just not sending personal pictures of myself until I know I can absolutely trust you.

Appearance wise, I am fairy height (😂) and average weight. Dark hair and eyes with caramel skin.

I would've gone into deeper detail, but I feel like those would be good icebreakers 😊

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2024/04/28
17:30 UTC

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20 [TF4A] — Looking for a monogamous, online relationship with another fem person !! (Or some friends, that might be cool, as well!)

Hiii hi! I’m Sierra, a 20-year-old trans girl from the US northeast, seeking an online, monogamous relationship with another fem person (also looking for friends, you can apply for that as wellll). Either way—I should probably talk a bit about myself.

Some things that may be of note about me are—I have ADHD, so I have trouble starting/finishing tasks, paying attention, and remembering some things. Be patient with me (however I also don't mind being spammed if I haven't replied,. I won’t get angry). I live at home with my parents, and they don’t know that I’m trans. They’d be unsupportive if they ever found out. I have a hard time shaving my body, so I don't often wear the few feminine clothes I do have… I work part time, and don’t make too much money… Uhm, anyway! Time to stop being a downer—onto some of my interests and stuff :3

Outside of working, I stay in my house mooost of the time, either on my pc or phone. You can find me hanging out on Discord, playing a video game, watching anime maybe, or just rotting in my bed :3 I like anime quite a bit, I’d say it’s one of my main interests, but I don’t watch anywhere near the amount I'd like to. I’ve been trying to watch more, buttt it can be hard to pay attention/find the motivation >.< I would list some of my favorite shows, but I think it’d be more fun to talk about them together, instead. I do have an Anilist I can share, though :3 I do like manga as well, but I haven’t read very much at all… I do, however, love some works by Shuzo Oshimi. I play a good variety of videogames—Fortnite (mainly zero-build), sometimes Apex, sometimes Guilty Gear… I have an entire Steam library of stuff, game pass as well, I'm sure we can find some stuff to do! >w< Also like watching movies sometimes, but usually not by myself, I've gotta have somebody with me. As for other interests… I dunno, I've had a shit ton of hobbies, but I've never been able to hold one down lol.

I like to think I'm a pretty fun person. I'll send you random memes, dumb shit I have in my phone/pc, silly screenshots, cute anime girls, sometimes, and other stuff. I like to joke around :3 I don't always have the most energy all of the time, especially on days I work, but I like spending lots of time calling/texting on Discord.

For a relationship, I'm looking for something serious and monogamous—I don't have any interest in polyamory. We will likely be long distance for the time being, I'm tied down where I am and don't make a ton of money… ;-; I can be pretty clingy with people I like a lot. I may want to call lots and lots, if we get super close. The ideal would be to live together one day, but I'm not in any rush, I've hardly got myself together lol. Please be like… 19-25 years old? I don’t want the age gap to be toooo large lol.

For sexual stuff, I would say I'm mainly a dom, but I've been experimenting with my submissive side more. I guess I'm a switch? Maybe? I have a lotta kinks. I used to be waaaayy hornier than I am now, but estrogen has done a number on me lol. I like sexting and being horny with those I’m into. As for you, I’d prefer if you had a dick. I used to very much dislike mine, but I’ve grown to like it quite a bit. I also… love… dick… in general. So, um, that would be cool. Anyway, I think we can leave the rest to be explored on our own.

Hmmmm I’m not sure what else to write. If I came off as interesting to you, send me a message! Actually introduce yourself, with at least a paragraph or two, tell me some key info about yourself and stuff. Let me know what you liked about me/my post. I mayyy take a bit to answer, or may just not answer at all, due to various reasons. Don't take it personally >w<

Anyway uhmmmm see you soon!!!

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2024/04/28
02:26 UTC

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21 F4F NYC- looking for someone to love and love me

Been lonely for a while, looking for a partner. I just wanna be alone with someone who also wants to be alone with me.

I’m a 21 year old femme in Brooklyn, I’m into baking, making edibles, and playing the sims. I’m actually working on starting a business selling edibles as well. I’m looking for a partner with a sweet tooth (let me bake my way into your heart🩷🩷) and who’s super sweet and affectionate. I want to make someone feel beautiful and loved every day and I want someone who makes me feel the same way. Message me if you’re interested (pls be 21+).

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2024/04/27
23:35 UTC

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35 [f4f] North America / online

Hi hello :)

I'm a golden retriever type/ masc-presenting cis woman. Dark brown hair that's always up, blue/green eyes, dimples, decent smile. Gauges in the lobes.

I think I'm kind and I can be pretty sweet as well. Usually I am a bit of a firecracker, but I'm not feeling so firey at the moment lol.

I love to have fun and laugh. Bit of a soft dominant type. Partake in the weed.

I have 5 cats and a dog. I may or may not be swamp trash. I like to hold hands.

Ages 25-40 would be ideal. Send me a chat if you'd like :)

(This is a lesbian sub but I'm going to just throw in a "no men please")

((If you're going to be super sweet to me and then ghost me, please don't bother, lol thanks))

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2024/04/27
22:37 UTC

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23 [TF4F] Ontario/Anywhere - Trans woman looking for her other half.

Well hello there! How are you?

My name is Julia and I am a 23 year old Trans Woman from Ontario Canada. I have Autism, Tourrettes, and I love Pokémon, drawing, making comics, writing, attempting to make games, and gaming.

a bit about me

As I already said, I am a struggling artist. I have all these neat ideas, but I have trouble getting them out. Everything seems to burn me out if I work on it for too long...

I LOVE TTRPGs and I'd love to play with you sometime!

I am trying to make a platformer, to say I did it, but I think my loyalties lie in VNs. I love playing them, I love coding and making art, so it just seems natural that I make em myself :)

I have ASD, and I also have Tourrettes, as I already said. They aren't as bad as you're probably thinking, but they are still annoying.

I am monogamous. I can't do Polyamory, sorry. :(

I love collecting things, from stuffies to movies to games to Pokémon Cards. I like to collect a lot of fun stuff!!

I love gaming, as you know, and I especially love playing Indie Games and Nintendo Games. I'd love to play a multiplayer game with you!!!

I am also mostly asexual. Sorry about that.

What I'm looking for

I'm looking for someone, anyone, who is between the ages of 20 - 25. That is my hard limit. I don't mind where you're from, I just would like someone who is in my age range :)

I'm looking for another femme leaning person :)

I don't mind the distance if you're far away. I once dated someone 12 hours away!!! I may not be able to travel due to health issues, but I'd still love to get to know you!

I'd love to have Voice Calls and Video Calls, and lotsa other calls! I love calls! It'd be really convenient if you had Discord too, so we can have these calls!

I'm looking for someone who is kind and who can understand someone who struggles with mental health. I happen to struggle a lot with it...

Well, without further ado, I hope to hear from you!

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2024/04/27
15:31 UTC

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20 [TF4F] - looking for a reason to smile at my phone :3

hello! i'm a 20 year old trans girl (they/she) in the US. my 20s are starting to scare me. i haven't really been in a real relationship. i feel like i'm falling behind all my friends, and im not really that socially adept anyway. i guess i'd like to try to be in one before it's "too late", i dunno

to describe myself, i'm a loner, and an introverted nerd who'll probably open up to you really really quickly and will give you all the time in the world because i dont have anything else to do. clingy isn't really the best word to describe me, but i can get attached easily.

as for my interests, i like a bunch of stuff!! i like playing videogames, like jrpgs, and old ps1/ps2/ds/psp games and visual novels </3 i game on pc, 3ds, switch, and various emulators. i like rambling about the stuff i play so fellow ramblers r welcome, encouraged even.

music wise, i think i'll listen to anything that sounds good. i feel dumb dividing stuff into different genres. but i pretty much mostly listen to kpop, vocaloid, videogame music or jpop. idk i don't like talking about my music taste it's all over the place and i feel like a poser when doing so.

i'm trying to get into cosplay, i've only ever done it once. it was really fun though, and i'm so excited to try it again when i go to anime expo this year.

i also like long form analysis, and writing about the games or media i play/watch, though admittedly i haven't done it in a while. i also love voice calling and i'll usually be free for it since i don't have much of a social life @-@

here are some things about me that i wanna get out of the way real quick-

  • i'm still in the process of transitioning, i started taking hormones almost 4 months ago. i'm not socially out yet, and it's something i'm working on.
  • i don't do drugs or smoke, and i'd really like it that my partner doesn't either.
  • i used to identify as asexual, but with the onset of hormones, i find my sexual desires slowly changing. i have little to no experience with this sort of stuff, but im willing to try stuff for my partner, and so i would prefer someone with a lower libido. i can go into more details about my identity and stuff in dms
  • my age range is 19-22.
  • i only use discord to talk to people.
  • my primary goal is finding a partner, but i'm totally alright with starting out as friends, or being friends if we don't click for a relationship.

as for my physical appearance, i'm south asian, skinny and 5'10. i have shoulder length black hair and dark brown eyes. i like to wear jewelry like rings, necklaces and chains. i'm not good at describing myself. i don't really think i'm the best looking, and so i don't take a lot of pictures of myself. please don't expect anything amazing from me.

now with that out of the way, here's more about me and what i'm looking out of a relationship! :D

my type is someone who's sweet, nerdy and introverted. most importantly, i'd like my partner to be my best friend. i'm okay with taking things slow or fast, let's see how compatible we are :3

i'm looking for something serious, where we can possibly meet up in the future or something, if that's not an eventual goal for you, then we more than likely won't work out. i'm totally okay with long distance (though i would prefer it if you're in the US). i value communication a lot and i'd like to talk to a potential partner pretty regularly and hopefully call often to play games (carry me!) or watch something too :D

i just kinda want to do it all, sleep calls, match icons, basically everything that's possible for a couple to do online.

i can't think of what else to put on here. please ask me anything else you'd like to know ^^

thank you for reading if you got this far, hopefully i seem interesting enough to talk to (⁄ ⁄>⁄ ▽ ⁄<⁄ ⁄)

sorry for the long post!

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2024/04/26
22:18 UTC

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30 [TF4F] Cozy and nerdy gal who's always looking for friends, or maybe, something more

Hey there! Forgot to add it to the title but #Online/#PNW/#US for locations.

I'm Aisling, or Ash for short. I tend to write walls of text, but gonna try (I failed) to force myself to keep things brief.

  • I'm about 5'10".
  • Been on HRT for 1.5 years. Currently androgynous/chapstick, confident in my masc side, while still exploring my more fem side.
  • Very Plus-sized. On a weight loss journey (Dr Assisted)
  • Left-wing Politically. Pro-BLM, Pro-LGBTQ+, Pro-Palestine, etc.
  • Child-free, and very comfortable with that. I'm 100% prepared to be the cool engineer aunt.
  • I don't personally smoke or drink due to meds, but I'm cool if you do
  • Full-time student finishing up my undergrad Computer Science degree this year.

Compatibility stuff:

  • Open to romance, but it must be based on a foundation of friendship.
  • Ideally I want to meet people who are around my age, so please be between 24-35.
  • In an intimate dynamic, I'd likely come off as a more of a service top/gentle Dom. But I occasionally have my sub moments, more so with a more dominate partner.
  • I want to know your needs and wants. Openly communicate what you need from me and I'll give it if I can.
  • I'm big on open communication and setting boundaries. Also big on respecting them once set.
  • I can sometimes seek out reassurance from my partner. These moments are fleeting, but can crop up if my anxiety gets to me.

Now, onto the fun stuff:

  • Gamer. Play almost anything. Own a PC, PS5, and Switch. Current go-to's - Pokemon, Helldivers, League (ARAMs/TFT), Stardew Valley, Path Of Exile, Victoria 3, Minecraft (Java, Modded) etc.
  • Maker of things. Wood. Metal. Resin. I enjoy making things and working with different materials. Throw in some LED's and random electronic stuff and I am like a kid in a candy store.
  • Music is the language of my soul! From metal to K-pop, I love to share and exchange music interests with others.
  • I'm a visual media obsessed nerd. Be it YouTube, movies, or shows. Currently slightly obsessed with Frieren, Vinland Saga, Critical Role (Revisting C2) and more.
  • Getting back into reading and audiobooks. Currently on Dune, with the Murder Bot series in the chamber. If you've got a favorite I'd love to add it to my list.

I am far more wordy in actual conversation. That said, I am an open book, feel free to ask questions if you have any. Shoot me a message if any of this resonates with you!
(P.S. I wont reply to any messages that are low effort or are just like "Hey, I'm ____." Come on peeps. Tell me a bit about yourself!)

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2024/04/26
20:50 UTC

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33F - We’ve only met in dreams… and maybe a past life or two🌹

Selfies (and some goofy clips 🤓) available in my profile!

Hello to you who’s reading this. I hope you’re doing well. I’m looking for my wife. Have you seen her?

  • I’m 33, I prefer you to be at least 27
  • I present mostly masc, I’m seeking femmes
  • I’m of mixed black, white and native descent
  • I have hazel green eyes and curly brunette hair which occasionally resembles something of a mohawk
  • I’m 5’6” and ~130 lbs, muscular build
  • I am monogamous, and would describe myself as a very service-oriented top

I write a lot of poetry about how I hope falling in love will be. Some of it is available to read in my profile. 💕

I’m into all forms of entertainment, from music and movies, comics, manga and anime, to video games and occasional books. I like to sing and write, I sometimes draw and paint.

I play games a lot. It’s my main hobby, and it would be great if you had at least an interest in games. I play on PS5 and Switch.

I’m a musician, and I would love to have someone to sing to… or sing to me. 🥰 Even more bonus points if you have great rhythm and know how to dance.

I’m currently learning Korean, 안녕! I’m teaching myself, so progress has been slow and difficult, but it’s been really fun. Hoping to learn many more languages over the years.

I’ve been collecting gemstones since I was a kid. I also like to collect shoes and figurines.

When I was younger, I rode horses a lot and I really miss it. I think there’s nothing quite like flying through forest or across a beach on horseback.

I absolutely love amusement parks and especially roller coasters, something I would love to travel for.

My favorite idea of a night at home is having a lovely dinner together, and then relaxing quietly until we decide to go to sleep. With room to improvise, naturally. I am admittedly very easy to please in this department. A simple cuddle is worth the world to me.

My idea of a great night out might also include dinner. But with a nice museum visit or scenic walk thrown in somewhere. Maybe a concert.

I am a sucker for arcade dates and evening picnics. I will go to great lengths to make you laugh or cheer you up.

I’ve been told I can be very romantic, so I’m trying to be unrelenting in my search.

Hopefully, we have some things in common, and maybe even potential chemistry. Drop me a chat if you’re interested. 😘 Thanks for reading.

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2024/04/25
22:11 UTC

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26F | Norway/Anywhere | Looking for someone to send love letters to that smells like my perfume~

I am a 5'5 / 165cm, blue eyed, dark haired, plus size, femme representing woman (cis for those curious). If you want to see what I look like, I have photos of myself on my profile ♥

Personality wise, I’m emotionally intelligent. I wear my emotions on my sleeve. I’m open & honest, and I strive to be communicative to both friends & more. Often described as the "mom" in the friend group. I have a lot of love to give, hence why I tend to show it in every way possible ♥

Mentally, I do struggle with depression & anxiety, both diagnosed. I am however medicated & working on myself on the daily. Always finding new ways to self soothe & take care of myself - mentally and physically. However, I am an overthinker, so patience & reassurance is something that I value highly from those that I surround myself with.

Now, let me present you with a little bullet list so you don't have to read a whole novel!

♥ I love to read. It's the hobby that I'm currently getting a lot of joy out of.

♥ My favorite genres to read are fantasy, thriller, romance, mystery, crime, paranormal, young adult, etc. As long as it's Sapphic - I'll read it!

♥ With reading comes writing, which is something that I'm trying to get back into.

♥ While what I write is fictional, I love writing non-verbal letters - especially romantic ones.

♥ I love video games, especially co-ops & multiplayers! I got a PS5, Nintendo Switch & a PC.

♥ I am an avid tv-show & movie watcher. Currently obsessed with Law & Order: SVU, Fallout & Star Trek: Discovery.

♥ Sci-Fi & Astronomy is my kryptonite.

♥ While I'm a homebody, I absolutely love the idea of having an excuse to dress up or go for a walk!

♥ I have an adorable 6 year-old kitty named Lumi ♥

♥ Shy at first, but tend to open up very quickly around people I'm comfortable with. Definitely an introvert.

♥ Kinky. Leaning more towards bratty Sub, but will Dom for the right one. I just can't do vanilla.

♥ A heavy texter, but I am also a sucker for FaceTime. I love being able to hang out with someone while in comfortable silence.

♥ I am an overthinker with the need of reassurance from time to time.

♥ My sun is Cancer, Moon is Gemini, Rising is Leo.

♥ I collect crystals.

♥ I do not want kids. I'd rather have a bunch of fur babies and just live happily ever after that way.

♥ Mascs are my weakness, but not a preference. All women have my heart (and soul if interested).

I've mentioned a lot of romantic settings, but please be aware that I will not jump into anything right away. I want to take my time, get to know you as a person. I want to learn as much as I can about you - both positives and negatives.

What do I look for in a friend and/or partner? All I ask is that you share some of the same interests, you love long meaningful talks. Whether it be over the phone or through texts. Being down for movie nights or games is also always a plus! I just want to connect with people all over the world.

One thing I find extremely attractive in a potential partner, is someone who takes care of themselves physically & mentally. And no, this is not me saying you have to be fit AF and not struggling mentally. I honestly couldn't give a shit about that lol. I'm just looking for someone that nurtures their soul, body & mind ♥

If I haven't scared you away yet with the block of text, send me a DM! I am open to both platonic & romantic messages. All I ask is that you open up with a little bit about yourself.
I will not respond to messages that just says hello.

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2024/04/25
16:13 UTC

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31F4F - Europe

Hi there! I never know what to write in these things... I am a 31 year old from Europe, introverted, I am into science, reading, cinema and travelling. I've recently started crocheting but that is not going very well, so any help/ suggestions would be appreciated. I also game sometimes on PS5 however, if you are into that, I would be willing to buy games to play together :) I'm 5'7, hazel eyes, dark hair and wear glasses.

What am I looking for? Some online friends (ideally from Europe because of the time difference) would be cool, maybe it can lead to something more even though I've kind of given up on love or having a genuine romantic relationship. I am usually attracted to cis-F (have nothing against TF, but it's just a preference).

If you are in Europe, between 21-39 and would like to get to know me, feel free to message! :)

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2024/04/23
11:09 UTC

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28 [F4F] Philippines/Anywhere/Online

I'm pretty open to talk and see where it goes. I'm pretty chill, so no pressure or anything. I know what I want. I don't need to be in relationship, nor am I searching (despite what the flair says lol) for it. I believe that I just have to put myself out there and the rest will just follow.

About me:

  • Femme lesbian
  • 5'3.5
  • I have fair skin and dark brown hair
  • Traveller
  • Conversationalist (never a dull moment with me)
  • Confident with my physical looks
  • I can speak in English confidently
  • I'm into wellness and Spirituality
  • Self-care is life for me
  • Monogamous
  • Date to marry kind of gal
  • Empathetic

About you:

  • Femme or stemme lesbian or queer
  • Strong masc energy
  • Sexually a top 👀
  • Older than me
  • Taller than me
  • Monogamous
  • Brunette
  • Half-caucasian and half-asian
  • A big plus if you're a traveller too
  • Who loves herself so much
  • You're accountable
  • Confident and vocal
  • Knows her boundaries

The rest we just have to find out. Hmu and willing to swap pics to see if we vibe on tg only ✨️

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2024/04/23
07:11 UTC

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26 F4F come Join the dark side and win a cookie

Are you a fan of horror movies, thrillers, star wars, The lord of the rings, beetle juice, do you oddly root for the bad guys at times and crave chocolate cookies ? Then you are on the right side.

Have you ever decided to pull your shit together and in the spur of the moment deleted all your social media to “become more productive” ? I have, but guess what I couldn’t part with reddit so I ended up following a bunch of mindfulness and self improvement subs to compensate for that xD I found and started reading a book called the courage to be disliked, and I must admit that although it made me angry at first, I have warmed up to it and have started to rethink certain mental patterns and seek authenticity and simplicity be it in material form or in my relationships with others. I am a sagittarius sun and a cancer moon having recently done some research around astrology, it’s a fun topic to explore specifically when trying to understand or get to know oneself. I don’t consider myself a spiritual person but would love to get into meditation and mindfulness and test how it could improve my wellbeing.

I consider myself moderate in political opinions, and very subtle in expressing my sexuality except from being a tomboy. I am also only attracted to butches (mascs)

I like anything aesthetically pleasant, I don’t have a specific taste and it’s not always conventional, I mostly rely on an “I like it when I see it” concept.. it’s mostly old Japanese/asian art, crowded drawn buildings, casual sports clothes (specifically sneakers) and well kept minimal spaces, I found that the older I get the more I am interested in home decor and clean kitchens xD

Of the movies and shows that I watched in 2023 these are the ones I liked the most : Oppenheimer, Spider-man across the spider verse, the boy and the heron ( it’s the last miyazaki movie) saltburn, fear and loathing in last vegas (it’s become one of my favourite movies now), Leo. I watched the flash and the only thing that strikes my fancy in it is Sasha Calle I watched the dragon ball series after a long hiatus from anime and I found it surprisingly refreshing, I also finally finished Dr house and I think it has one of the best endings out there.

Now to the music side of 2023, I am truthfully looking forward to what ye has produced in vultures, I have enjoyed jack harlow’d gang gang and see the appeal in some of doja cat’s songs, kill bill 👌, drake search and rescue. I generally don’t have a specific favourite genre in music although it doesn’t seem like it from the songs mentioned xD I typically like songs instead of following specific artists; tame impala the less I know the better-A man without love humperdinck-Stromae mon amour-Dark necessities RHCP-midland drinking problem-Born to be wild steppenwolf-Today Q….. and I’d like to get even more diverse recommendations.

I think I rambled for quite sometime xD I’d love to hear all about you, please drop a random weird fact when you DM ✌️

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2024/04/22
17:27 UTC

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30 [TF4F] Online/Northeastern US - looking for long term monogamous relationship

Disclaimer: I have an androgynous/masculine appearance/style/voice. I’ve been on estrogen for close to a decade. I’ve had an orchiectomy and have no plans for further surgery. I wish I was a cis woman. Ask whatever you want, I’m not easily offended.

Hi. :) I’m 30 years old and have been attracted to women for my entire life. I am in no hurry to find someone to date. I won’t be ready for anything IRL at the start, so I’m looking for something online and primarily text based while we get to know each other.

My basic physical attributes: light skin, medium-long dark hair, a few inches above average female height, BMI of 21, broad shoulders, narrow hips - maybe not conventionally beautiful but I think I look okay :)

I’ve never had a romantic relationship, but I have experienced intimacy. I often have dreams about being in love, and I know that someday I’ll find it. I’m pretty reclusive and generally live under a rock. I’ve never been someone to post on social media or anything like that. I am not politically minded or informed about popular culture. I've never drank alcohol or smoked a cigarette.

My primary passion is gaming - I’ve been playing since 1996 and I love it as much now as I did then. It would be great to play together, even if you’re inexperienced. I also love being outside, enjoying nature (I don't enjoy the bugs though). I’m pretty clueless about most things, but I’d love to learn about whatever you’re into.

I haven’t yet found my own way in the world, and currently live at home. I couldn’t care less about your level of income or anything like that. I’m interested in you as a person, not your social status or material possessions. I’ve always felt like true love is more important than anything else - given the choice of being poor with the love of my life, or being rich with a shallow relationship, I’d take the former.

Ideally you are:
26 to 35 years old, living in or around the Northeastern US, intelligent, trustworthy, communicative, conscientious, open minded, compassionate, frugal, and humble.

We are NOT compatible if you are:
not attracted to trans women, a parent, overweight, a regular drinker, a smoker, or non-monogamous.

Please message me directly instead of leaving a comment. I'm looking forward to hearing from you!

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2024/04/22
14:49 UTC

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34 pittsburgh looking for my princess

34 single fem lesbian looking for love. I like to shop drink wine watch movies cuddle listen to music have fun try new things get my nails done. Into fashion. Love sports. Love to golf. I love the beach. I want to find my princess and live happily ever after. Disney nerd also.

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2024/04/22
03:10 UTC

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30NB looking for friends and more slowly! East Coast US

Hi there !

I’m based outside of NYC and I’m looking for queer friends and connections, I’m monogamous but I really just want to take things slow for right now. I’m in school still but we’re making it work how we can.

I don’t really feel like I belong where I’m at, I used to live in Baltimore and I miss it there so much. That being said, in terms of relationships/dating I’m looking for something long term and I intend to move out of the area I live in once again. Hopefully if we journey there you might also come to like it !

Some basics about me:

✨ I’m 30, AFAB, and I tend to dress just… comfortable. To me was comfortable usually isn’t skirts or dresses, but I make exceptions for J-Fashion. I dress in gothic lolita sometimes and I think it’s a lot of fun. I can’t help liking it really.

✨ I play bass guitar in a J-rock and anisong cover band, but I’m a poser and I don’t watch a lot of anime. My heat lies with video games.

✨ Final Fantasy 14 is my life blood, I’m not done with Endwalker yet please don’t @ me. I have over 1000 hours logged I just spend far too much time crafting.

✨ I cosplay but I’m a little lazy about it. I usually only build 1 cosplay every couple of years, usually I do big builds because I like characters with a lot of clothing apparently. I cosplay primarily from video games also. My last cosplay was from a mobage(mobile gacha game) called SINoALICE

✨ I like staffing anime cons, it’s where I’ve made most of my longtime friends now.

✨ I think I’m a typical INFP? Idk I get really in my feelings.

✨ I work in graphic design and I do my band’s graphics sometimes. Other times I just do digital art and I try to do art when I can. My favorite media is watercolor and ink, also it’s comfortable to use pencil.

✨ I’m a Scorpio and I understand most people do not like us and it makes me sad 😞 That being said I don’t take that stuff seriously.

✨ I like watching Vanderpump Rules a little TOO much. It’s the only trashy reality TV I watch but I’ve sunk far too much time into it. I’m not sorry.

Please don’t hesitate to shoot me a DM!

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2024/04/22
02:02 UTC

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Send your cats pics

Yes, send your cats pics. I lost my only cat two weeks ago and grief makes me feel funny. Heard lesbians have a lot of cats and I know it’s a stereotype but I’m one of them too (though I only have one so far). Just wanna talk to someone who understands losing a pet is like losing some parts of yourself and you know tomorrow is still the same even though sunshine is bright.

7 Comments
2024/04/21
14:33 UTC

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32 [F4F] Seeking connections in Los Angeles—but open to elsewhere also.

Hello,

I am a 32 year old seeking connections close by or online. Whatever the universe brings along.

About me: I work two jobs and I’m studying psychology. I may be changing majors once I finish my associates which is soon. I have a cat, and enjoy reading, writing, cooking, making art and getting into whatever hypefixation that’s next in line. I am diagnosed with ADHD, so my hobbies do change here and there when I have time.

I am in my Victorian/velvet goth era but I am masc appearing with some cutesy undertones. I consider myself androgynous but I am born female. I love black and has always been my hyperfixations. Everything in my apartment is black (except the walls cause I’m not spending that kind of money only to undo it for whenever I leave).

I reside in LA. I like to go out when I can and plan for in advance. I enjoy going out and meeting people and getting coffee which I absolutely love. Sometimes I’ll hit the bars for some drinks. I am poly/ENM but I am single.

I am heavily into kink for hedonistic adventures, and I just can’t do vanilla. But that stuff takes time for me to get into with someone. Trust and the vetting process is important to me as a top. I also want to explore cuddling and kissing more with friends or whatever and just be free. I am breaking away from societal and religious constraints that have made me live a life of guilt and feeling terrible about myself, my body and my desires. I just have so much love and care to give.

I’m 5’5”, a bit on the thicc daddy side but I’ve been losing weight due to health reasons, I have dark brown hair past my shoulders a bit (used to have butt length hair but had to cut it). I’ve dyed it black a few times but it never lasts long. I have semi fair skin and freckles, and I can share selfies if needed. Maybe exchange IG handles? Aside from that, I do want to explore new places with new people especially restaurants. I’m a foodie (but with some dietary restrictions). Let me know if you’re interested in meeting? We can go grab some coffee or lunch. And if you live far we can totally be friends and share memes and silly IG reels.

appearance. Hair is longer though.

2 Comments
2024/04/21
01:26 UTC

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