Long story short I'm transfem and I also have ALWAYS (even before I knew I was trans) wanted to have white skin and people keep telling me how it's somehow wrong. I guess part of why is because I don't want to be a part of the culture I look like on the outside. (I should have made a better post but I'm at 8% so...)

So for context im transmasc and latino. My mom has always told me how beautiful it will be when i have my own day, a whole damn party for myself, and how she didnt want one either when she was my age but that she is so gratefull her father forced her to have one.

She even used to constantly tell me the story about how once my grandpa was very weak and there was a posibility of him dying. And that the only thing he ever wanted is to make it to my quince (my mom was pregnant of me at that time)

Ive never wanted a quince, even before i realized i was trans. My mom was so dishearted every time i told her that, but deep inside i felt guilt that i could never give her that experience she wanted so bad. I mean i knew she only wanted to make me have the party of her dreams but i still felt bad.

I thought a lot about it , what if i just give her what she wants? Its not like its that hard. But then i just imagined myself with a dress, make up and everything and just couldn't stand it. Now do i think that make up and dresses are only for girls? No. But i still asociate them with who i was forced to act like.

I eventually settled and told her no. I would never have a quince. She was apathic at first, but she would still constantly ask me if i wanted to change my mind.

Then my damn salvation comes in the form of my annoying step sister, who is my same age, who actually did want to have a quince.

You maybe can tell where this is going now.

When i came out to my mom she didnt accept it, she told me that i was always gonna be her little girl, i wanted to or not. But ever since she started planning my step sister's quince she has been a lot less... Mean about it? She still misgenders me constantly but at least in front of my friends and brothers she just avoids pronouns regarding me all together.

The day of her quince i felt a wave Of relief. This was it. I am no longer my mom's daughter but her son. She wanted it or not, and if she didnt want it, she had another daughter.

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My Dollhouse

• Remi Starr

I yearn to invite you to play,

But your touch is too rough, I sway...

As gentle as the breeze in the trees,

Your words crash through me with ease.

Leave me be in my sanctuary,

This dollhouse, my haven, my wary.

Within these hollow walls, I find solace,

A refuge from trauma, a silent palace.

Unbound by pain, I roam free,

Like a bee exploring reverie.

Creating worlds with imagination's grace,

Yet loneliness lingers, an unwelcome embrace.

Your hands are too rough, your words too weighty,

Claiming honesty, but I see only pity.

For within me resides the negative decree,

This visitor, unwanted, is me.

"Please, leave my dollhouse," I implore,

But you linger still, ignoring the door.

As time passes, the walls close in,

And the girl within begins to dim.

Twenty-four years hence, she's all but lost,

Her dollhouse forgotten, the cost

Of silence, of neglect, of a voice gone mute,

In the shadows of a world grown astute.

But even now, amidst the decay,

A flicker of resilience finds its way.

For within this forgotten abode,

The girl becomes the woman, unbowled.

Haii, so I am a born male (age 19) and for the last 2 years i have been kinda feeling wrong in my body. I wanna be a women, just in my feelings i feel like a women but i dont know how all of this works how do I become one? Anyone got some Information for me and is it already too late for me cause im 19 years old, do I have to live the rest of my life as a man

Greetings my fellow LGBTQ+ members and allies,

I apologize in advance for the vague wording, I am not trying to advertise the actual event and I will be crossposting this to other subreddits so I can get as much feedback as possible!

Basically, I am helping a streamer on Twitch organize a charity stream in support of trans/nonbinary youths and families in one of the many countries that are actively legislating against us. We are working directly with a specific organization, so we will be representing them for this stream and because we are trying to spread the word as much as possible, even though this streamer normally has a small, tightknit audience of cool people, it is possible that some edgelords join the stream and make some "edgy" jokes. But, it is also possible that some lgbtq+ people, or specifically trans people join and also make jokes about their experience being lgbt or trans specifically.

We want this stream to reflect well on the charity and we want it to be a safe place for everyone, but we also don't want to be hyper "PC police" and stifle any attempt at a joke at all. There are a lot of funny things to say about being lgbt or being trans. We will obviously be banning anyone who makes an "I identify as X" "joke" on the spot, but I am the only trans mod on the mod team, possibly the only LGBT mod and my sense of humor and experiences don't reflect the whole LGBTQ+ spectrum. So, what I might think is acceptable might not be to others, and vice versa.

All this to say, we will be having a mod meeting before the stream itself where we hope to give good examples of what are and are not acceptable "jokes" or things to talk about in the chat during the stream, and I was hoping that y'all wonderful people could tell me, in your experience, what are safe for work jokes that you would make in a twitch chat in support of a trans charity? And, if this is allowed by the sub's moderators, what are examples of something that you think should be an instant ban if someone says it in the chat?

Thank you in advance to all you wonderful people who might offer your advice and experiences! We really want to have a fun stream where everyone feels safe and welcome and we would hate for a well-meaning mod to ban someone because the mod isn't LGBTQ+ or super well-versed to know what is and isn't acceptable.

Hi I am creating a community based zine about transfeminine pleasure inspired by Mira bellwether’s fucking trans women. You can find more information on Instagram @fuckingtransfemmes or my website https://t4tfuturepress.wixsite.com/fuckingtransfems

The zine accepts all kinds of submissions from stories to poetry and artwork.

So I'm a 28 year old transgender woman. I currently live in upstate NY. I relocated to NY form Arizona 2 years ago as a medical refugee. I don't want to live somewhere cold anymore. I don't even want to live in USA anymore. I've been looking into places that might be what I'm looking for. I'm also looking at my options considering my qualifications. I have worked in food, hospitality, and caregiving for over a decade now. Only have a highschool education. I actually like working with food. I want to learn a new language (currently teaching myself Spanish, french and Portuguese). Where in the world is a viable option for me and my skill set and trans friendly? I've been looking at France, Spain, Portugal, Thailand, and Chile. Would I be able to immigrate to another country with my skill set and experience? Someplace warm-ish 🤞I hate cold weather, I especially hate snow.

Hi y’all! I run a small business, a queer-focused used bookstore that mostly operates in person but has a little online store as well. In honor of Trans Day of Visibility, 50% of proceeds this are going towards Camp Lilac, an amazing nonprofit summer camp in Ohio for trans kids.

It’s a great way to pick up your next good read or some stickers & support affirming experiences for trans youth at the same time! The website is https://lavlitbooks.square.site if you’re interested!

Hey all, I wanted to come on here where hopefully more civil discussion than can be found on Bluesky can happen, and pose questions or feelings about a certain topic. My relation to the trans community remains even if I’m currently unable to continue my transition. So for all intents and purposes I exist as a trans woman, even if it’s unfortunately me just being in the closet … for an undetermined amount of time. I have a jaded past, filled with being dealt all sorts of abuse, violence, discrimination, you name it.

But flash forward to now, and I see this on Bluesky mostly and almost nowhere else, but am I wrong in feeling that putting the t-slur in front of people, especially trans people, without warning, and using “I reclaimed this for myself” as a way to excuse yourself from the consequences of triggering people, is horrendously bad? I don’t know if this is a new generation of trans people who lack the ability to relate to the rest of the community, or if this is just the thing now.

Please help me out here

https://www.voicebykylie.com/post/vocal-alchemy-shaping-mtf-ftm-resonance-with-advanced-techniques

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🏰 𝕸𝖞 𝕸𝖎𝖘𝖙𝖗𝖊𝖘𝖘𝖊𝖘 𝕮𝖆𝖘𝖙𝖑𝖊 🏰

Welcome to our beloved community, gifting you a place you can really be yourself and explore your BDSM individuality. Respectfully, this community does not contain those that identify solely as male.

If you identify under the non-binary umbrella, as female, agender, genderfluid or gray areas, you are welcome here! This is not to disrespect men, this community is just void of them.

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♚ ᴡᴇ ᴀʀᴇ ᴀ ɢᴇɴᴜɪɴᴇʟʏ ꜰʀɪᴇɴᴅʟʏ, ʟᴏᴠɪɴɢ ᴀɴᴅ ᴋɪɴᴅ-ʜᴇᴀʀᴛᴇᴅ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴜɴɪᴛʏ

♚ ᴡᴇ ᴘʀɪᴏʀɪᴛɪꜱᴇ ʙᴅꜱᴍ ꜱᴀꜰᴇᴛʏ ᴀɴᴅ ᴀʀᴇ ᴄᴏɴꜱᴇɴᴛ ᴅʀɪᴠᴇɴ

♚ ᴡᴇ ᴀʀᴇ ɴᴇᴜʀᴏᴅɪᴠᴇʀɢᴇɴᴛ ᴏᴡɴᴇᴅ ᴀɴᴅ ᴇᴍʙʀᴀᴄᴇᴅ

♚ ᴡᴇ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴀᴄᴛɪᴠᴇ ᴠᴄ'ꜱ ꜰʀᴏᴍ ꜱꜰᴡ ᴛᴏ ɴꜱꜰᴡ

♚ ᴡᴇ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴀ ᴘᴇᴀᴄᴇꜰᴜʟ ᴠᴄ ꜰᴏʀ ʙᴇɪɴɢ ᴏᴠᴇʀꜱᴛɪᴍᴜʟᴀᴛᴇᴅ

♚ ᴡᴇ ᴅᴏ ꜰᴀɪʀ, ɪɴᴄʟᴜꜱɪᴠᴇ ɢɪᴠᴇᴀᴡᴀʏꜱ ᴀɴᴅ ᴇᴠᴇɴᴛꜱ

♚ ᴡᴇ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴀ ɴᴏɴ-ʙɪᴀꜱ ꜱᴛᴀꜰꜰ ᴛᴇᴀᴍ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴜɴɪᴛʏ ᴀᴛ ʜᴇᴀʀᴛ

♚ ᴡᴇ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴀ ᴛʀᴀɴꜱ ᴛʜʀᴏɴᴇʀᴏᴏᴍ, ᴀꜱ ᴅᴇꜱᴇʀᴠᴇᴅ

♚ ᴡᴇ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴀ ᴘʀɪᴠᴀᴛᴇ ᴘᴏᴄ ᴘᴀʟᴀᴄᴇ, ᴀꜱ ᴅᴇꜱᴇʀᴠᴇᴅ

♚ ᴡᴇ ɪɴᴄʟᴜᴅᴇ ᴍᴀɴʏ ᴋɪɴᴋ ᴀɴᴅ ʙᴏᴜɴᴅᴀʀʏ ʀᴏʟᴇꜱ ꜰᴏʀ ᴏᴘᴛɪᴍᴀʟ ɪᴅᴇɴᴛɪᴛʏ ᴇxᴘʀᴇꜱꜱɪᴏɴ

♚ ᴡᴇ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴀ ᴡɪᴛᴄʜʏ, ᴇꜱᴏᴛᴇʀɪᴄ ꜱᴘᴀᴄᴇ ꜰᴏʀ ᴏᴜʀ ᴍᴀɢɪᴄᴀʟ ʀᴏʏᴀʟᴛʏ :sparkles:

♚ ᴡᴇ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴀ ᴄᴜꜱᴛᴏᴍ ꜱᴇʟꜰ-ᴍᴀᴅᴇ ʙᴏᴛ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛᴀʀᴏᴛ, ᴏʀᴀᴄʟᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʀᴜᴛʜ ᴏʀ ᴅᴀʀᴇ

♚ ᴡᴇ ɪɴᴠɪᴛᴇ ʟɪᴛᴛʟᴇꜱ, ꜰᴜʀʀɪᴇꜱ, ꜱʟᴀᴠᴇꜱ, ᴘᴇᴛꜱ ᴀɴᴅ ᴍɪꜱᴛʀᴇꜱꜱᴇꜱ ᴀɴᴅ ᴀʟʟ ʀᴏʏᴀʟ ᴄʀᴇᴀᴛᴜʀᴇꜱ! ᴡᴇ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴅɪꜱᴄʀɪᴍɪɴᴀᴛᴇ.

♚ ᴡᴇ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴀ 25+ ʟᴏᴄᴋᴇᴅ ᴀʀᴇᴀ ꜰᴏʀ ᴏʟᴅᴇʀ ᴍᴇᴍʙᴇʀꜱ

⚠ ᴡᴇ ᴅᴏ ɴᴏᴛ ᴛᴏʟᴇʀᴀᴛᴇ ​ᴛᴏxɪᴄɪᴛʏ ᴏʀ ꜱʜᴀᴍɪɴɢ

⚠ ᴡᴇ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ꜱᴛʀɪᴄᴛ 18+ ᴠᴇʀɪꜰɪᴄᴀᴛɪᴏɴ ᴀɴᴅ ᴀʀᴇ ʜᴇᴀᴠɪʟʏ ᴘʀᴏᴛᴇᴄᴛᴇᴅ ᴡɪᴛʜ ɪɴᴛɪᴍᴀᴛᴇ ᴄʜᴀɴɴᴇʟꜱ ʟᴇᴠᴇʟ ʟᴏᴄᴋᴇᴅ

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ᴄᴏᴍᴇ ᴇɴᴛᴇʀ ᴏᴜʀ ᴘʀɪꜱᴛɪɴᴇ ᴡᴀʟʟꜱ ᴀɴᴅ ꜰɪɴᴅ ʜᴏᴍᴇ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴜꜱ. ᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴜɴɪᴛʏ ɪꜱ 4 ʏᴇᴀʀꜱ ꜱᴛʀᴏɴɢ ᴀɴᴅ ɪꜱɴ'ᴛ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴀɴʏᴡʜᴇʀᴇ.

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💌 Royal invitation -> https://discord.gg/eCFtdchMjZ

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We’re in it now. One of the managers and another co-worker questioned me about my chest & hair & facial changes over & over and I caved and told them I was transitioning.

Said they noticed I was growing “little boobies” and were concerned.

Said I need to get a bra soon and they like my hair and my face looks different and brighter and asked my chosen name and when I planned on coming out. Seemed okay. Concerning other co-workers: some people I’m not sure about, especially the ones that kept saying God is the solution to my depression.

I've started wearing more feminine clothes, cause I realized that was what I wanted to be doing! Same with wearing makeup occasionally. Now wearing my older, more masculine clothing feels less reflective of who I am, and also like it reminds me that I'm still a guy. :/ But wearing newer, more feminine clothes and/or makeup feels uncomfortable because I'm not used to it. And because when I look at myself wearing it, I still feel like a guy, just in girls clothing. Plus, it feels very uncomfortable visible to wear around... kinda like just outing myself. So now all the clothes feel bad!! 😧 Wait, THIS WASN'T THE PLAN!! Now what?!

Hello everyone, I'm an MTF living in a very transphobic environment in Pakistan, seeking advice on experiencing gender euphoria while keeping my identity hidden from my extremely anti-trans family. I'm looking for discreet ways to affirm my gender and cope within my challenging circumstances. Any suggestions for subtle expressions of my true self or strategies for dealing with this safely would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your support and understanding.