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I’ve never had any tics before, but that’s what it seems like. It started after a few months on T. Has this happened to anyone else? I’ve thought about asking a doctor about it, but I’m too embarrassed 😅

possible tw for mention of SA

so this summer, im going to spain on a class trip which im very excited for and have been waiting a long time for. the problem is i will have to share a hotel room with probably 3 other boys.

for some background information, im 16 years old (17 at the time of the trip), junior in highschool, 19 months on t, had top surgery 10 months ago, and i am passing 99.99% of the time.

my main concern is them finding out, i guess. both for my safety and because i dont want to be excluded because of it.

my worst fear is them making weird sexual jokes or even SAing me if they find out. probably unrealistic but just an irrational fear of mine.

i honestly dont know how they would react. i have had a surprisingly easy time socially transitioning at my highschool. no one has given me any trouble about it whatsoever; i havent even been misgendered at school since coming out. i live in a blue state in what i think is a blue area. still, i have heard of some people at my school being transphobic, and ive overheard students talking about how they support trump.

i dont know exactly how they would find out. i had to get double incision top surgery so theres the big pink scars on my chest, but i dont think they would have to see me shirtless, and even if they did, i dont know if theyd know what the scars mean. obviously i havent had bottom surgery. i havent worried about people looking at my crotch up until this point because i wear baggy clothes but i might need to change in front of them. should i get a packer? i also worry about my voice because even though it passes for the most part, it can be a bit high pitched in the morning.

it doesnt help that i dont have any friends at school, or any male friends at all. i really dont know how to interact with people my age, especially guys.

the teacher whos taking us on the trip offered to give me my own room but i decided i didnt want to be singled out or given special treatment. should i have taken the offer?

thankfully, i only have to be with these guys at night and in the morning. during the day, we’ll be exploring spain as one big group and ill get to hang out with my partner (who is genderfluid but mostly fem presenting so theyll be sleeping with the girls).

anyway sorry about my rambling i am very nervous as well as excited about this trip. if anyone can offer reassurance or advice or anecdotes about similar situations that would be great. thanks

as a man who’s not on testosterone (yet), is there anything i could do to increase body hair growth? i’ve heard minoxidil is good but can you apply it to areas other than your scalp? in addition, i have a lot of hair on my head, i’d just like more on my legs, arms and pits. any recommendations (until i get on T)?

For context I'm 25, about 7 years into medical transition, post top surgery, still pretty curvy but I pass pretty much all the time and don't tell anyone nowadays about my history.

I'm bi, prefer men sexually but women romantically, but I can only seem to ever attract (gay/bi) men.

I recently got tinder after a break up, and out of 80 likes only 3 were women. It's the same in person, and it's becoming something I'm getting to be really dysphoric about.

Is it because women are wanting someone taller or more masculine? It's hard not to feel emasculated or inferior (just in myself, not a reflection on other people's sexuality at all) failing to be with any women.

If anyone's had similar is there a way to get past it mentally? I'm getting more accepting of myself but feel stuck here.

I have tried taping my chest a couple of times now. Every time, it gets too itchy or the feeling of the tape on my skin gets too much, and I have to take it off. I'm Autistic and very sensitive to overstimulation. I can feel the tape on my skin almost all the time. I'm wondering if anyone else is like me, and if the feeling lessened over time, or if it kept being equally overstimulating?

It just sucks that I feel like I have to choose between dysphoria and overstimulation. I've come to the conclusion that traditional binders don't work for me, because they start to hurt my muscles pretty quickly. So I really want tape to work for me, but I don't know if the overstimulation is worth it.

(I'm not having an allergic reaction to the tape, my skin is fine (though pretty sensitive))

Had a small personal victory last weekend and wanted to share it with someone 😄 For some context I’m an assistent referee ⚽️ and we always are in a pair of three persons. When it’s just 2 other men and me I’ve been using the same changingroom and since a couple of weeks also showering there. They just assume I’m cis male. Only when there is a female assistent referee I would be awkwardly going with her and change/shower there. But this weekend I was like no I’m going into the changing room with the male referee (who didn’t know me and just assumed I’m cis, I fully pass) and walked with him. The female assistent referee (who knew me and has changed/showerd with me a couple months ago) gave me a strange look but didn’t say anything and I was like yes this feels so good. Especially when the referee and I were done showering and we where just waiting for the female one to finish so we could finally leave 😅

For context, had surgery about 9 months ago and I’m on testosterone since the start of this year

When I was younger and new to all the trans terms i used to think top and bottom surgery was just about changing whether you wanted to be a top or bottom in bed 💀 I thought it was cool people could suddenly be top or bottom just by surgery LMAO

I literally cant lay on my stomach cause my chest starts to hurt, not just my ribs or anything like the actual boobs. But i also cant sleep on my back or sides very well so im just kinda screwed over here ToT. Please say its not just me xD

I've been on T for a little over 4 months and I've had plenty of bottom growth which I've really liked. I've been wondering when the t dick stops growing, like does it just stop after a few months or can it keep growing for years?

I've already read a bunch of posts about vaginal atrophy here, but I'm still having trouble understanding it.

Do I even need to worry about it if I'm not having sex? I know it affects the vaginal walls and makes the tissue thinner, but I'm absolutely not interested in vaginal/penetrative sex at all, nor do I put things there or use tampons. So In the event I go on t and potentially experience atrophy down the road, does it matter at all if I'm not using those parts anyway? Can it affect you in ways even if don't have penetrative sex?

I've been out for several years now and have gone through a long list of names because after a while they don't feel like they fit me anymore. I don't know what I'm supposed to feel (if anything) when I find a name that fits.

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I'm in a living situation where I need to bind 24/7 for safety/ stealth reason. I've gained some weight as well so ot gotten even tighter. I'm sharing a room with three older cis guys so I am afraid to risk taking it off to sleep in only to wake up and being unable to discreetly sneak off into the restroom on the other side of the facility where I would have to walk past 10 other cis dudes.

Have any of y'all had to deal with this before ? This situation is something I'll be dealing with for the next 18 months and I'm already having trouble sleeping due to the ache in my back and chest and it's the first night.

What are some things I can do to try and minimize the risks?

im a little over 2 months on T and started getting some stomach hair, which im super euphoric about. i wasnt expecting to be this happy about stomach hair tbh. i was just hanging out and kinda touching it because its now long enough for me to distinguish from my skin and it occurred to me that its so weird for me to be so excited about just... growing hair. and then i wondered if cis boys get this excited about puberty changes. what do yall think?

so, summer's coming up and i really want to go out shirtless. my chest is pretty small tbh, and im completely flat when i wear trans tape if i do it right. but does anyone know of any brand that makes trans tape (or any tape for skin) that's invisible?

Feeling kinda conflicted. Well, she’s a close family member for sure, don’t think she meant any harm, but still, she knows I’m trans when I came out few years ago.

There’s wasn’t much acceptance then, but we still talk to each other, just nothing related to me being trans…

I mean, she could have been more cautious with her words at the very least I guess? Lmao.

Does that mean her perception didn’t change throughout the years 💀? Should I start keeping my distance or just ignore it?

Ive been on T for a little over a year now and my facial hair is just starting to grow (with the help of minoxidil tablets as well) some parts grow thicker than other places. For example my ‘stache hair is thinner than under my chin. My chin hair is very thick and grows quick but not so much for my stache. Does shaving actually help your facial hair get thicker? Im wondering if i should shave it to see if it’ll help or leave it alone.

I don't think it's productive at all for people to constantly come in queer spaces just to say how much they don't need/like queer spaces, which is completly contradictory. Especially just to berate "those people" or "people who make it their whole personality". We all know what that's code for and how this is a conservative talking point. This is an inclusive sub but should still remain safe from this demeaning rhetoric. I am not talking about specific people, but rather to the mods directly for the betterment of this sub, so I hope this won't be needlessly taken down.

My friend is asking me to post on his behalf because of his parents, but he's looking into getting a binder, any advice?

i’m so confused. i’m tired and i just i’m a lesbian who goes by she/they and i’ve been always questioning if im trans and apparently it’s normal to want to be a guy?? as a cis women by my friends it’s so confusing and tiring i just wanna escape to a world where i am. help lol

hey evry1,

I'm about to start my transition but my gender therapist has told me recently a large amount of her patients have been having prolapses and that there are more health issues on T than I am aware of.

I'm really worried because I don't think I could handle a colostomy bag or severe internal damage.

I'm probably overreacting but had this been an issue for many people further into their transition?

hi! i recently started t gel (today is only my 4th day on it) and i am getting tingling and a slight numbness in my left arm and hand after application, i do the left arm first and i do one pump on each arm but have no tingling or numbness in my right arm or hand. on first day of using it this wasn’t happening at least not to the severity of todays which is why i wanted to come on here to ask if anyone else has had this issue? i’m thinking it may be related to other health issues i have (i have a doctors appointment tomorrow where i need to discuss getting tested for pots and pcos and i have an ed that may be affecting this as well???) (this doctor is not the one i got my T prescription, got it from planned parenthood in a more liberal city lol). my arms/hands don’t hurt whatsoever though (which on all the posts i saw on here talking about this they were in pain/sore over it and ik thats not normal) but i do commonly have issues with my limbs getting the tingling and numbness when i’m sitting or laying in certain positions and happens at least once a day even b4 T so it may be a blood circulation issue (if it’s important my hemoglobin was in normal range at pp but on the lower end of the healthy range). if anyone has any advice or if they had a similar situation pls comment and lmk! i have bad anxiety around illness and i do have a doctors appointment tomorrow but my next pp appointment isn’t until july so hoping everything will be ok! i also am very sensitive to smells and the alcohol in the gel is a lot but im terrified of doing injections. any advice is helpful!! tysm!

tldr: day 4 on t gel and i have numbness and tingling in my left arm and hand for about an hour after application but no pain. is this normal? ty!!

I JUST TOOK MY FIRST TESTOSTERONE SHOT AND IM SO HAPPY AND PROUD OF MYSELF

I'm 15, going on 16 in September of this year. And I'm trans, been knowing it since I was 13. I'm not going to start transitioning until I'm 18, just to make sure. Besides, I don't want to tell my parents, at least not yet. Although, I am a trans male, I'm stil attracted to other males. Though, I'm slowly starting to believe I'm pan, since I'm getting attracted to everyone. Anyways, I just wanted to come here and put this out.

im a trans gay guy (mlm) and im just worried cause im afab, gay dudes wont like me. ive only dated bi/pan people before, so i just am genuinely worried.

Not really that nsfw, just wondering as some people say it’s fine and others say not too

I'm not sure if this is a period or what. I haven't had a period in 2 years from depo Provera and I'm about 1 years on testosterone. What I've noticed is I get bad cramps after sex/masturbation. So I thought this was the normal cramps where I just have to take some tylenol and go to sleep. But I just peed and I wiped like one does and IM BLEEDING. It's not bad, I'm just worried because blood paired with bad pain isn't very good. Did a cyst pop in me?? Of course, I know reddit isn't a doctor, it's just the ER wait times right now is 24 hours, depending on how bad it is, and I don't think they'll take me too seriously. They'll probably say I'm just having a period and shoo me out the door. So, has anyone gone through this and is this actually serious?? I don't think it's a period because when I did get periods, they were never ever this painful. The pain is also coming in waves which makes me think I'm in labor but I took a test and it's negative, plus I haven't had enough time to grow a baby because I wasn't sexually active 9 or so months ago. Idk, I'm just kinda terrified, am I gonna die? Edit: ok so I just looked and I'm not bleeding anymore. Which gives me more questions than answers. It's definitely not a period because a period would last more than 20 minutes or so. So I'm not sure what it is at all. The quicker I get this damned uterus out, the better.

Hi, as the title says, my parents are sad. They’re also my biggest supporters, so I want to be there for them. They say they’re happy for me, but I feel bad it comes at the cost of their happiness. They’re amazing people and I want them to know I’m here for them. I’ve tried looking up so support groups for parents, not sure if they have looked into them yet. Any advice on how I could help them would be greatly appreciated!